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Say YES to Yourself this Holiday Season · The Rockyn YES Podcast - with Dr. Raquel Yarroch

• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Rockin' Yes Podcast.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Raquel Yero.
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_00: And this is it's November.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_00: And we're about to enter into the holiday season.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for some people, it's magical.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for some people, it's stressful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for some people, it's really stressful.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I kind of want to come in and just like this month we're going to be talking a lot on the podcast in different ways on how holiday stress, how to handle things, how to be cooking things, or to prepare yourself and to make sure that you always have that you're taking care of yourself.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: So some things that can happen in November is we start planning and prepping.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, we got to start buying presents, we got to start doing this, and we start having all this stuff going on, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're thinking about all the things that need to get done.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what I find is when everybody in the holiday season starts thinking about everything but themselves.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: So they're saying yes to all the parties, they're saying yes, that I'll do this, yes, I'll do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's the thing: we do this all year round.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just during the holidays, this is a little bit more intense.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes we have holiday parties going on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of us don't, and we feel very left out or alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want to talk to the both ends of that spectrum because when we're saying yes to everything, we've we realize we're saying no to ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you might have to choose what you're willing to do and not do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might have to say, I am not able to do this right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the other thing that I find is when we're we're dealing with stress and we're saying yes to everything, we start not taking care of ourselves.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: And then you get the holiday 15 pounds that show up, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, when you're getting to the holidays and you don't want those 15 extra pounds to show up and you don't want to deal with the stress, you need to put boundaries up around yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not saying you need to do anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can choose to do anything, you can choose to accept this or not accept this.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can choose say clear cancel the lead.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't want to know any of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's nothing wrong with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what I want to do is say that you have the power, and I give you permission to say no.
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  SPEAKER_00: To say no to things that don't align with what you need to do, that might be robbing you of your energy or your sanity, let's say, or your finances, or your health.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have the ability to say no to those and say yes to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because every time you say yes to someone else or this event or that, you're saying usually no to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, sometimes you're saying yes to both because it's a win-win.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if it's not a win-win, then I want you to think about, well, how can I do this differently?
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_00: So things that I'll notice, like in the chiropractic end of my business, is people fall off of their care during that time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So maybe you think about it, do you fall off of your chiropractic care?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you take, do you stop going to the gym?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you not do the things you're gonna do because you're stressed, because you're running around with your head cut off, trying to do everything, and attend all the events and go do all the shopping and do all the cooking and do all this other stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: If that's you, I want you just to pause, breathe, take a deep breath in, and let it all out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because here's the thing: you have the ability to say no, or just give me a moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me check my calendar, let me check in with myself and decide: is this a win-win?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or is this me giving everything to everybody else and now my cup is empty?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when your cup is empty, you can't give more to anybody else.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've got to be able to fill your cup up.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, irregardless, if you're if you're gonna say no to some things so that you can fill yourself up, I want you to feel good about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you don't feel good about it, it's not the right decision.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I also want you to say, if you're gonna say yes to things, I want you to make sure that you're also filling your cup at the same time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if it's not, then it might not be a right yes, right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Might be meant for somebody else to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, that might be somebody else's yes that is a win-win for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's okay to say no because it's meant for someone else.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's nothing wrong with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to do everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to be in charge of everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's okay to let go.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's okay to just be in the moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want you to do things that fill you up over this holiday season.
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  SPEAKER_00: So maybe make a list of things that you've always wanted to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because right now I'm seeing popping out on Facebook, there's like all these amazing things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because Hallmark has done a great job, the Hallmark movies of like making you want to be able to walk down the quaint little streets and see all the beautiful Christmas decorations and be a part of all that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what I'm seeing popping up everywhere is all these beautiful, cute little towns decorating themselves up for you to come and see.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think that's amazing.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, if anything, if that's something you want to do, maybe pick one to go to.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't mean you have to hit them all.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's okay, just go and soak in the energy of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That will that could fill your cup if that is something that makes you happy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, think about the people who are lonely that may have lost loved ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: This may be a hard time of year for those of you who have lost loved ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I would like for you to consider maybe finding a way to fill your cup.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe getting out and going to one of those towns, going and doing something might make you feel better.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or it's okay if you're feeling lonely, it's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: I give you permission to reach out to a friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because sometimes we get so lonely, we just think, well, nobody else, they're so busy, they don't want to be a part of my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to let you know that's not true.
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  SPEAKER_00: People want to hear from you, they want to know that they can help you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So reach out to a friend, talk to people, give people a call, go to a card game, go find something that brings you joy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're struggling to figure that out, well, honestly, online is one of the best places to look.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look on Facebook, look on Instagram, connect with a friend, connect with a loved one, um, connect with like if you go to a chiropractor or your health professional or anybody like that and let them know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because they may know somewhere for you to connect.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't want you to be alone this time of year.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, I mean, even reach out to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feel free, reach out to me if you need to.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would love to hold space for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want you to remember, and this is like a short little episode, but I just want you to take the time to make sure that you're taking care of yourself during the holiday season.
• 7:03
  SPEAKER_00: Make sure you're getting in, and if you're going to the chiropractor, make sure you continue your adjustments with wherever you're going because that's you taking care of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you belong to the gym, make sure you're getting into the gym and taking care of your health.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make sure that when you're eating, eat healthy choices.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next week I'm going to talk a little bit about more about food and different things we can do.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to work at putting together like some good healthy recipes and some other guides for you over the course of November and December.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you'll have a lot of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can pick and choose some nice healthy meals and even ways to de-stress.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then, you know, just like there's so many fun things.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's different like little painting things that show up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go find something, go have fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: Life is meant to be fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you're doing fun things, it fills your cup up.
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_00: But it also, like, if you're like wondering, like you might be a business person or anybody else, you know, why isn't this happening in my life?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why can't I find love?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why can't I find business?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why can't I do this?
• 7:56
  SPEAKER_00: Why can't I do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: The one thing I've learned, this is a lot from Gabby Bernstein, and she's like, and also Abraham Hicks, and you know, pretty much a lot of main people who are really good at manifesting life, and it all comes down to you need to have fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need to bring joy in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're so stressed with everything, you're not bringing joy in.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to pause and just take a moment, go sing, go dance, go do some painting, go do some drawing, go connect with friends, go laugh, go to a movie, go do something, or maybe you're so busy doing everything, then just stay home.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just rest, take a bubble bath.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to do something that fills your cup this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Find one thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then in the comments, let me know what that one thing was because that might spark an idea for someone else.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I just want you to know that I'll have different things here to support you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm here for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can always reach out to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll have the links in the show notes.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I just want you to know that it's okay to take time for yourself.
• 9:01
  SPEAKER_00: It's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have permission.
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  SPEAKER_00: I give you permission this holiday season to fill your own cup up.
• 9:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Raquel, and this is the Rockin' Yes Podcast, Your Empowered Self.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am so happy that you're here.
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  SPEAKER_00: And thank you so much for joining me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I will talk to you next week.