Marriage Trap: Are You Gender Profiling Your Spouse?

Doing Marriage Well · Jun 16, 2026 · 2m · transcript

This episode explores how past experiences and social stories cause us to 'gender profile' our spouse, letting fear and prejudice colour our view of their actions. Paul explains the difference between our reactive heart (Mr. Hyde) and our rational mind (Dr. Jekyll), and urges listeners to challenge their feelings, look for alternative explanations, and give their partner a large benefit of the doubt. Practical advice and a simple challenge—ask for one good thing about a partner next time someone complains—show how to shift perspective and strengthen marriage.