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How To Stop People Pleasing And Choose Yourself Instead | EP 301 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  I
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  used
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  to
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  be
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  the
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  easygoing
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  girl,
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  the
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  one
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  who
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  was
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  okay
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  with
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  seeing
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  where
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  things
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  go,
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  the
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  one
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  who
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  kept
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  it
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  light
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  in
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  that
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  easy
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  breezy
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  cover
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  girl
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  kind
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  of
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  way.
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  The
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  one
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  who
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  made
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  it
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  easy
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  because
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  easy
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  felt
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  safe,
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  and
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  I
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  genuinely
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  thought
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  that
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  if
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  I
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  could
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  just
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  make
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  it
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  easy
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  enough,
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  and
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  if
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  he
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  knew
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  just
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  how
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  fabulous
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  I
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  was,
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  he'd
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  have
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  no
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  choice
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  but
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  to
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  fall
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  in
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  love
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  with
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  me
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  and
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  wife
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  me
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  up,
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  friend.
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  I
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  could
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  not
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  have
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  had
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  it
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  more
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  backwards.
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  This
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  was
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  the
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  infamous
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  people
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  pleasing.
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  And
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  I
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  know
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  it
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  seems
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  self-explanatory,
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  but
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  people
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  pleasing
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  was
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  never
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  about
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  being
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  nice.
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  It
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  was
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  about
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  being
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  afraid.
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  And
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  we're
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  gonna
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  explore
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  where
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  that
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  fear
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  comes
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  from,
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  what
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  it's
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  been
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  costing
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  you
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  and
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  who
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  you
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  become
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  when
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  you
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  finally
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  put
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  it
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  down.
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  So
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it
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  real
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  quick.
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  If
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  you
• 1:01
  are
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  not
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  subscribed
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  to
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  Confident
• 1:03
  and
• 1:03
  Empowered
• 1:03
  Women,
• 1:04
  today
• 1:04
  is
• 1:04
  the
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  day
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  we
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  are
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  here
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  every
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  Tuesday
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  and
• 1:07
  Thursday.
• 1:07
  And
• 1:07
  this
• 1:08
  is
• 1:08
  not
• 1:08
  just
• 1:08
  a
• 1:08
  podcast.
• 1:09
  This
• 1:10
  is
• 1:10
  a
• 1:10
  community
• 1:10
  of
• 1:11
  women
• 1:11
  who
• 1:11
  are
• 1:11
  done
• 1:12
  shrinking,
• 1:13
  settling
• 1:13
  people,
• 1:14
  pleasing
• 1:14
  and
• 1:14
  putting
• 1:15
  themselves
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  last.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  we
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  come
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  to
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  remember
• 1:18
  who
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  we
• 1:18
  are
• 1:19
  and
• 1:19
  build
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  the
• 1:20
  life
• 1:21
  that
• 1:21
  reflects
• 1:21
  her.
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  Go
• 1:22
  ahead
• 1:23
  and
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  hit
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  subscribe
• 1:24
  because
• 1:25
  we
• 1:25
  are
• 1:25
  doing
• 1:25
  this
• 1:26
  together.
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  Hey,
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  hey,
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  hey,
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  friend.
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  Okay,
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  so
• 1:31
  let
• 1:31
  me
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  tell
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  you
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  how
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  this
• 1:33
  showed
• 1:33
  up
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  for
• 1:34
  me,
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  because
• 1:35
  I
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  think
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  when
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  I
• 1:36
  share
• 1:36
  this,
• 1:37
  you're
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  gonna
• 1:37
  recognize,
• 1:38
  you
• 1:38
  might
• 1:39
  see
• 1:39
  a
• 1:39
  little
• 1:39
  bit
• 1:39
  of
• 1:39
  yourself
• 1:40
  up
• 1:40
  and
• 1:40
  through
• 1:41
  here.
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  you've
• 1:43
  been
• 1:43
  here
• 1:43
  for
• 1:43
  a
• 1:43
  while,
• 1:44
  you've
• 1:44
  heard
• 1:44
  me
• 1:45
  talk
• 1:45
  about
• 1:46
  my
• 1:46
  dating
• 1:46
  journey
• 1:47
  and
• 1:48
  That
• 1:48
  was
• 1:48
  a
• 1:48
  time
• 1:49
  when
• 1:49
  I
• 1:49
  wanted
• 1:49
  to
• 1:50
  be
• 1:50
  in
• 1:50
  a
• 1:50
  relationship
• 1:51
  so
• 1:51
  bad.
• 1:52
  That
• 1:52
  led
• 1:53
  to
• 1:53
  marriage
• 1:53
  more
• 1:54
  than
• 1:54
  anything
• 1:55
  else
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  in
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  my
• 1:55
  life.
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  And
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  somewhere
• 1:57
  along
• 1:58
  the
• 1:58
  way,
• 1:58
  I
• 1:59
  convinced
• 1:59
  myself
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  that
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  the
• 2:00
  way
• 2:01
  to
• 2:01
  get
• 2:01
  there
• 2:02
  was
• 2:02
  to
• 2:02
  be
• 2:03
  the
• 2:03
  easygoing
• 2:04
  girl,
• 2:05
  the
• 2:05
  one
• 2:05
  who
• 2:05
  didn't
• 2:06
  ask
• 2:06
  for
• 2:06
  too
• 2:06
  much,
• 2:07
  the
• 2:07
  one
• 2:08
  who
• 2:08
  was
• 2:08
  okay
• 2:08
  with
• 2:09
  seeing
• 2:09
  where
• 2:09
  things
• 2:09
  go,
• 2:10
  the
• 2:10
  one
• 2:10
  who
• 2:11
  made
• 2:11
  it
• 2:11
  easy,
• 2:12
  because
• 2:12
  I
• 2:12
  thought
• 2:13
  that
• 2:13
  if
• 2:13
  I
• 2:13
  made
• 2:13
  it
• 2:14
  easy
• 2:14
  enough
• 2:15
  and
• 2:15
  if
• 2:16
  I
• 2:16
  just
• 2:16
  showed
• 2:16
  him
• 2:16
  just
• 2:17
  how
• 2:17
  amazing
• 2:18
  I
• 2:18
  am.
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  Without
• 2:19
  putting
• 2:19
  any
• 2:20
  pressure
• 2:20
  on
• 2:20
  it,
• 2:21
  he'd
• 2:21
  have
• 2:21
  no
• 2:22
  choice
• 2:23
  but
• 2:23
  to
• 2:23
  fall
• 2:23
  in
• 2:24
  love
• 2:24
  with
• 2:24
  me
• 2:26
  and
• 2:27
  friend.
• 2:27
  It's
• 2:27
  a
• 2:27
  laughable
• 2:28
  now
• 2:29
  because
• 2:29
  all
• 2:29
  he
• 2:29
  ever
• 2:30
  wanted
• 2:30
  was
• 2:30
  the
• 2:31
  benefits
• 2:32
  of
• 2:32
  a
• 2:32
  committed
• 2:32
  relationship
• 2:33
  without
• 2:34
  actually
• 2:34
  being
• 2:34
  in
• 2:35
  one.
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  And
• 2:36
  my
• 2:36
  easygoing
• 2:37
  energy,
• 2:38
  it
• 2:38
  just
• 2:38
  made
• 2:39
  it
• 2:39
  incredibly
• 2:40
  convenient
• 2:41
  for
• 2:41
  him.
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  I
• 2:42
  wasn't
• 2:43
  being
• 2:43
  nice.
• 2:44
  I
• 2:44
  was
• 2:44
  being
• 2:45
  afraid.
• 2:46
  Afraid
• 2:46
  that
• 2:46
  if
• 2:46
  I
• 2:47
  asked
• 2:47
  for
• 2:47
  what
• 2:47
  I
• 2:48
  actually
• 2:48
  wanted,
• 2:49
  he'd
• 2:49
  leave
• 2:50
  and
• 2:51
  leaving,
• 2:52
  felt
• 2:52
  unbearable.
• 2:54
  So
• 2:54
  I
• 2:54
  made
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  myself
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  small,
• 2:56
  agreeable,
• 2:57
  easy,
• 2:58
  and
• 2:58
  in
• 2:58
  doing
• 2:59
  that,
• 2:59
  I
• 2:59
  gave
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  away
• 3:00
  the
• 3:00
  very
• 3:00
  thing
• 3:01
  that
• 3:01
  would've
• 3:02
  attracted
• 3:02
  what
• 3:02
  I
• 3:02
  actually
• 3:03
  wanted,
• 3:04
  my
• 3:04
  standards.
• 3:05
  Okay,
• 3:06
  friend.
• 3:06
  And
• 3:06
  listen,
• 3:07
  I
• 3:07
  didn't
• 3:07
  just
• 3:08
  wake
• 3:08
  up
• 3:08
  one
• 3:08
  day
• 3:09
  and
• 3:09
  decide
• 3:10
  to
• 3:10
  be
• 3:10
  a
• 3:10
  people
• 3:10
  pleaser,
• 3:11
  okay?
• 3:13
  It
• 3:13
  came
• 3:14
  from
• 3:14
  wanting
• 3:15
  something
• 3:15
  so
• 3:16
  badly
• 3:17
  that
• 3:17
  I
• 3:18
  was
• 3:18
  willing
• 3:18
  to
• 3:18
  shrink,
• 3:19
  That
• 3:19
  I
• 3:20
  was
• 3:20
  willing
• 3:20
  to
• 3:21
  shrink
• 3:21
  myself
• 3:22
  to
• 3:22
  get
• 3:22
  it,
• 3:23
  and
• 3:23
  that
• 3:24
  is
• 3:24
  not
• 3:24
  a
• 3:24
  character
• 3:24
  flaw.
• 3:25
  That
• 3:25
  is
• 3:26
  just
• 3:26
  what
• 3:26
  happens
• 3:27
  when
• 3:27
  a
• 3:27
  woman
• 3:28
  doesn't
• 3:28
  know
• 3:28
  her
• 3:28
  full
• 3:29
  worth.
• 3:30
  So
• 3:30
  let's
• 3:31
  get
• 3:31
  underneath
• 3:32
  the
• 3:32
  fear
• 3:33
  of
• 3:33
  all
• 3:33
  of
• 3:33
  that,
• 3:33
  because
• 3:34
  for
• 3:34
  me,
• 3:35
  and
• 3:35
  I
• 3:35
  think
• 3:35
  for
• 3:36
  a
• 3:36
  lot
• 3:36
  of
• 3:36
  us,
• 3:37
  the
• 3:37
  deepest
• 3:37
  fear
• 3:38
  driving
• 3:38
  the
• 3:39
  people
• 3:39
  pleaser
• 3:40
  was
• 3:40
  the
• 3:40
  fear
• 3:41
  of
• 3:41
  rejection.
• 3:42
  When
• 3:43
  it
• 3:43
  comes
• 3:43
  to
• 3:43
  rejection
• 3:45
  and
• 3:45
  you
• 3:45
  don't
• 3:45
  know
• 3:45
  your
• 3:46
  worth,
• 3:47
  rejection
• 3:47
  feels
• 3:48
  very
• 3:49
  personal
• 3:49
  like
• 3:50
  it
• 3:50
  is
• 3:50
  all
• 3:50
  about
• 3:51
  you.
• 3:52
  Like
• 3:52
  it
• 3:52
  means
• 3:53
  there's
• 3:54
  something
• 3:54
  fundamentally
• 3:55
  wrong
• 3:56
  with
• 3:56
  you.
• 3:56
  Like
• 3:57
  maybe
• 3:57
  you're
• 3:57
  too
• 3:57
  much
• 3:58
  or
• 3:58
  not
• 3:58
  enough,
• 3:59
  or
• 3:59
  just
• 4:00
  somehow
• 4:01
  not
• 4:02
  it.
• 4:03
  And
• 4:03
  when
• 4:03
  rejection
• 4:04
  feels
• 4:04
  that
• 4:05
  personal,
• 4:06
  you'll
• 4:06
  do
• 4:06
  almost
• 4:06
  anything
• 4:07
  to
• 4:07
  avoid
• 4:08
  it.
• 4:08
  You'll
• 4:08
  pretend
• 4:09
  to
• 4:09
  be
• 4:09
  okay
• 4:09
  with
• 4:10
  things.
• 4:10
  You
• 4:10
  are
• 4:10
  absolutely
• 4:11
  not.
• 4:12
  Okay
• 4:12
  with,
• 4:13
  you'll
• 4:13
  even
• 4:14
  say
• 4:14
  yes
• 4:14
  when
• 4:15
  everything
• 4:15
  inside
• 4:16
  of
• 4:16
  you
• 4:16
  is
• 4:16
  screaming.
• 4:17
  No,
• 4:18
  you'll
• 4:19
  stay
• 4:19
  longer
• 4:20
  than
• 4:20
  you
• 4:20
  should.
• 4:21
  Give
• 4:21
  more
• 4:21
  than
• 4:22
  you're
• 4:22
  receiving
• 4:23
  and
• 4:23
  shrink
• 4:24
  parts
• 4:24
  of
• 4:24
  you
• 4:25
  that
• 4:25
  make
• 4:25
  you
• 4:26
  who
• 4:26
  you
• 4:26
  are.
• 4:27
  All
• 4:27
  of
• 4:27
  that,
• 4:28
  to
• 4:28
  avoid
• 4:28
  the
• 4:29
  pain
• 4:29
  of
• 4:29
  being
• 4:30
  told.
• 4:30
  It's
• 4:31
  not
• 4:31
  you.
• 4:32
  And
• 4:32
  here's
• 4:33
  the
• 4:33
  painful
• 4:34
  irony
• 4:35
  of
• 4:35
  it
• 4:35
  all,
• 4:36
  all
• 4:36
  that
• 4:37
  avoiding
• 4:38
  all
• 4:38
  of
• 4:38
  the
• 4:38
  people
• 4:39
  pleasing
• 4:39
  to
• 4:39
  avoid
• 4:40
  rejection.
• 4:41
  It
• 4:41
  doesn't
• 4:41
  actually
• 4:42
  protect
• 4:42
  you
• 4:43
  from
• 4:43
  rejection.
• 4:44
  It
• 4:44
  means
• 4:45
  that
• 4:45
  when
• 4:45
  rejection
• 4:46
  comes,
• 4:47
  you've
• 4:47
  already
• 4:48
  lost
• 4:48
  yourself
• 4:48
  in
• 4:49
  the
• 4:49
  process.
• 4:50
  Now,
• 4:50
  listen,
• 4:51
  when
• 4:51
  Eminem
• 4:52
  said,
• 4:52
  lose
• 4:52
  yourself,
• 4:53
  this
• 4:54
  is
• 4:54
  not
• 4:54
  what
• 4:54
  he
• 4:54
  had
• 4:55
  in
• 4:55
  mind.
• 4:59
  Because
• 4:59
  the
• 4:59
  version
• 5:00
  of
• 5:00
  you
• 5:00
  that
• 5:00
  was
• 5:01
  people
• 5:01
  pleasing
• 5:02
  wasn't
• 5:02
  even
• 5:03
  the
• 5:03
  real
• 5:03
  you.
• 5:04
  So
• 5:04
  you
• 5:04
  were
• 5:05
  never
• 5:05
  really
• 5:05
  being
• 5:06
  rejected.
• 5:07
  You
• 5:07
  were
• 5:07
  being
• 5:07
  redirected.
• 5:09
  Rejection
• 5:10
  was
• 5:10
  never
• 5:10
  about
• 5:11
  your
• 5:11
  worth.
• 5:12
  Even
• 5:13
  when
• 5:13
  it
• 5:13
  felt
• 5:13
  like
• 5:14
  it,
• 5:14
  it
• 5:14
  was
• 5:15
  always
• 5:15
  just
• 5:16
  redirecting
• 5:17
  you
• 5:17
  towards
• 5:18
  what
• 5:19
  was
• 5:19
  actually
• 5:20
  for
• 5:20
  you.
• 5:21
  But.
• 5:22
  As
• 5:22
  long
• 5:22
  as
• 5:22
  you
• 5:22
  believed
• 5:23
  it
• 5:23
  was
• 5:23
  personal,
• 5:24
  you
• 5:24
  kept
• 5:25
  people
• 5:25
  pleasing
• 5:26
  to
• 5:26
  avoid
• 5:27
  it,
• 5:27
  and
• 5:28
  then
• 5:28
  the
• 5:28
  cycle
• 5:28
  continued
• 5:29
  and
• 5:30
  this
• 5:30
  is
• 5:30
  the
• 5:30
  layer
• 5:31
  I
• 5:31
  really
• 5:31
  want
• 5:32
  you
• 5:32
  to
• 5:32
  sit
• 5:32
  with
• 5:32
  because
• 5:33
  this
• 5:33
  is
• 5:33
  where
• 5:34
  the
• 5:34
  real
• 5:34
  work
• 5:35
  lives
• 5:36
  underneath
• 5:37
  that
• 5:37
  behavior
• 5:38
  of
• 5:39
  saying
• 5:39
  yes,
• 5:40
  when
• 5:40
  you
• 5:40
  mean
• 5:40
  no
• 5:41
  shrinking
• 5:41
  in
• 5:42
  the
• 5:42
  easygoing
• 5:42
  girl
• 5:43
  performance,
• 5:44
  that
• 5:44
  was
• 5:44
  a
• 5:45
  belief
• 5:45
  system
• 5:46
  running
• 5:47
  everything.
• 5:47
  And
• 5:48
  it
• 5:48
  sounds
• 5:48
  like
• 5:49
  I'm
• 5:50
  worthy
• 5:50
  of
• 5:50
  love
• 5:51
  if.
• 5:52
  I'm
• 5:52
  easy
• 5:53
  enough.
• 5:54
  I
• 5:54
  deserve
• 5:54
  commitment.
• 5:55
  If
• 5:56
  I
• 5:56
  don't
• 5:57
  ask
• 5:57
  too
• 5:57
  much,
• 5:58
  I
• 5:58
  am
• 5:58
  enough
• 5:59
  if
• 6:00
  he
• 6:00
  chooses
• 6:01
  me.
• 6:02
  all
• 6:02
  of
• 6:02
  those
• 6:02
  ifs
• 6:03
  are
• 6:03
  a
• 6:03
  belief
• 6:04
  system.
• 6:05
  That
• 6:05
  conditional
• 6:06
  worth
• 6:07
  it
• 6:07
  is
• 6:07
  what
• 6:08
  kept
• 6:08
  me
• 6:08
  settling
• 6:09
  for
• 6:09
  less
• 6:10
  just
• 6:10
  to
• 6:10
  have
• 6:10
  somebody
• 6:11
  around
• 6:12
  Even
• 6:12
  when
• 6:12
  it
• 6:12
  wasn't
• 6:13
  what
• 6:13
  I
• 6:13
  really
• 6:13
  wanted,
• 6:14
  even
• 6:15
  when
• 6:15
  something
• 6:15
  felt
• 6:16
  deeply
• 6:16
  off,
• 6:17
  even
• 6:18
  when
• 6:18
  I
• 6:18
  knew
• 6:19
  this
• 6:19
  wasn't
• 6:20
  it,
• 6:21
  but
• 6:21
  something
• 6:21
  felt
• 6:22
  better
• 6:23
  than
• 6:23
  nothing,
• 6:23
  and
• 6:24
  nothing
• 6:24
  felt
• 6:25
  like
• 6:25
  confirmation
• 6:26
  of
• 6:26
  everything.
• 6:26
  The
• 6:27
  inner
• 6:27
  critic
• 6:27
  had
• 6:28
  been
• 6:28
  whispering
• 6:29
  the
• 6:29
  whole
• 6:29
  time.
• 6:30
  When
• 6:30
  really
• 6:31
  I
• 6:31
  didn't
• 6:32
  see
• 6:32
  my
• 6:32
  worth,
• 6:33
  and
• 6:33
  when
• 6:33
  you
• 6:33
  don't
• 6:34
  see
• 6:34
  your
• 6:34
  value,
• 6:35
  you
• 6:35
  accept
• 6:36
  less
• 6:36
  than
• 6:36
  you
• 6:37
  deserve.
• 6:37
  Just
• 6:38
  to
• 6:38
  feel
• 6:38
  like
• 6:39
  you
• 6:39
  have
• 6:39
  something.
• 6:41
  Listen,
• 6:41
  friend
• 6:42
  Brandy
• 6:42
  already
• 6:43
  told
• 6:43
  us,
• 6:43
  almost
• 6:44
  doesn't
• 6:44
  count.
• 6:48
  Now
• 6:48
  listen,
• 6:49
  the
• 6:49
  people
• 6:49
  pleasing
• 6:50
  wasn't
• 6:50
  even
• 6:51
  the
• 6:51
  problem.
• 6:52
  It
• 6:52
  was
• 6:52
  the
• 6:52
  symptom.
• 6:53
  The
• 6:54
  real
• 6:54
  issue
• 6:55
  was
• 6:55
  underneath
• 6:56
  it
• 6:56
  in
• 6:57
  the
• 6:57
  belief
• 6:58
  that
• 6:58
  my
• 6:58
  worth
• 6:59
  was
• 6:59
  conditional,
• 7:01
  that
• 7:01
  I
• 7:01
  had
• 7:02
  to
• 7:02
  earn
• 7:03
  love
• 7:03
  by
• 7:03
  making
• 7:04
  myself
• 7:05
  convenient.
• 7:06
  Friend,
• 7:07
  you
• 7:07
  were
• 7:08
  never
• 7:08
  meant
• 7:08
  to
• 7:09
  earn
• 7:09
  love.
• 7:10
  You
• 7:10
  were
• 7:11
  meant
• 7:11
  to
• 7:11
  receive
• 7:12
  it
• 7:12
  as
• 7:12
  your
• 7:12
  full
• 7:13
  self,
• 7:14
  with
• 7:14
  your
• 7:14
  full
• 7:14
  set
• 7:15
  of
• 7:15
  standards,
• 7:16
  and
• 7:16
  your
• 7:16
  full
• 7:16
  voice.
• 7:17
  And
• 7:17
  how
• 7:18
  did
• 7:18
  it
• 7:18
  change
• 7:18
  me,
• 7:19
  friend?
• 7:20
  I
• 7:20
  really
• 7:20
  wish
• 7:20
  I
• 7:21
  could
• 7:21
  sit
• 7:21
  here
• 7:21
  and
• 7:22
  tell
• 7:22
  you
• 7:23
  it
• 7:23
  was
• 7:23
  just
• 7:23
  one
• 7:23
  strategy,
• 7:25
  a
• 7:25
  boundary
• 7:25
  setting
• 7:26
  exercise,
• 7:27
  a
• 7:27
  book
• 7:27
  I
• 7:28
  read
• 7:28
  or
• 7:28
  a
• 7:28
  podcast
• 7:29
  I
• 7:29
  listened
• 7:29
  to.
• 7:30
  But
• 7:30
  it
• 7:30
  wasn't
• 7:31
  any
• 7:31
  of
• 7:31
  those
• 7:31
  things.
• 7:32
  It
• 7:32
  was
• 7:33
  loss.
• 7:34
  Grief.
• 7:36
  It
• 7:36
  was
• 7:36
  me
• 7:36
  being
• 7:36
  cracked
• 7:37
  wide
• 7:38
  open
• 7:38
  in
• 7:38
  a
• 7:38
  way
• 7:39
  I
• 7:39
  never
• 7:40
  could
• 7:40
  have
• 7:40
  planned
• 7:41
  or
• 7:41
  prepared
• 7:41
  for.
• 7:42
  When
• 7:42
  my
• 7:43
  mom
• 7:43
  made
• 7:43
  her
• 7:43
  transition
• 7:44
  to
• 7:44
  heaven,
• 7:45
  I
• 7:45
  stopped
• 7:45
  searching
• 7:46
  for
• 7:46
  love
• 7:47
  and
• 7:47
  started
• 7:47
  searching
• 7:48
  for
• 7:48
  myself,
• 7:49
  but
• 7:50
  I
• 7:50
  felt
• 7:50
  so
• 7:50
  lost
• 7:51
  without
• 7:51
  her
• 7:51
  physically
• 7:52
  being
• 7:52
  here.
• 7:53
  That
• 7:53
  finding
• 7:54
  a
• 7:54
  relationship
• 7:55
  was
• 7:55
  the
• 7:55
  last
• 7:55
  thing
• 7:56
  on
• 7:56
  my
• 7:56
  mind.
• 7:57
  I
• 7:57
  just
• 7:58
  needed
• 7:58
  to
• 7:58
  find
• 7:59
  me,
• 8:00
  and
• 8:00
  in
• 8:00
  that
• 8:01
  season
• 8:02
  and
• 8:02
  getting
• 8:02
  to
• 8:02
  know
• 8:02
  myself
• 8:03
  without
• 8:04
  all
• 8:04
  of
• 8:04
  the
• 8:04
  labels
• 8:05
  other
• 8:06
  people
• 8:06
  placed
• 8:07
  on
• 8:07
  me,
• 8:07
  and
• 8:07
  I
• 8:07
  gladly
• 8:08
  agreed
• 8:08
  to.
• 8:09
  Without
• 8:10
  the
• 8:10
  expectations
• 8:11
  and
• 8:11
  the
• 8:11
  performances,
• 8:13
  I
• 8:13
  started
• 8:13
  to
• 8:13
  really
• 8:14
  see
• 8:14
  myself
• 8:15
  for
• 8:15
  the
• 8:16
  first
• 8:16
  time
• 8:17
  and
• 8:17
  what
• 8:18
  I
• 8:18
  saw
• 8:18
  stopped
• 8:19
  me
• 8:19
  dead
• 8:20
  in
• 8:20
  my
• 8:20
  tracks
• 8:21
  because
• 8:22
  I
• 8:22
  liked
• 8:23
  her.
• 8:23
  She's
• 8:24
  smart.
• 8:25
  Funny,
• 8:25
  she
• 8:26
  had
• 8:26
  been
• 8:26
  through
• 8:27
  some
• 8:27
  things
• 8:28
  that
• 8:28
  should
• 8:29
  have
• 8:29
  taken
• 8:29
  her
• 8:29
  out
• 8:29
  the
• 8:30
  game.
• 8:32
  And
• 8:32
  she
• 8:32
  was
• 8:33
  still
• 8:33
  standing,
• 8:34
  still
• 8:34
  showing
• 8:35
  up,
• 8:35
  still
• 8:36
  becoming
• 8:36
  the
• 8:37
  best
• 8:37
  of
• 8:37
  who
• 8:38
  she
• 8:38
  is.
• 8:39
  And
• 8:39
  in
• 8:39
  seeing
• 8:40
  that,
• 8:41
  like
• 8:41
  really
• 8:42
  this
• 8:42
  time,
• 8:43
  I
• 8:43
  fell
• 8:44
  in
• 8:44
  love
• 8:44
  with
• 8:44
  myself.
• 8:45
  And
• 8:45
  that
• 8:46
  shifted
• 8:46
  everything.
• 8:48
  I
• 8:48
  stopped
• 8:49
  auditioning,
• 8:50
  I
• 8:50
  started
• 8:50
  choosing.
• 8:51
  I
• 8:51
  stopped
• 8:52
  asking,
• 8:53
  will
• 8:53
  he
• 8:53
  choose
• 8:54
  me?
• 8:54
  And
• 8:55
  I
• 8:55
  started
• 8:55
  asking,
• 8:56
  do
• 8:56
  I
• 8:56
  choose
• 8:57
  him?
• 8:58
  Does
• 8:58
  he
• 8:59
  meet
• 8:59
  the
• 8:59
  standard
• 9:00
  of
• 9:00
  the
• 9:00
  woman
• 9:00
  I
• 9:01
  now
• 9:01
  know
• 9:01
  myself
• 9:02
  to
• 9:02
  be?
• 9:03
  And
• 9:03
  what
• 9:03
  I
• 9:04
  attracted
• 9:04
  from
• 9:05
  that
• 9:05
  place.
• 9:06
  Was
• 9:06
  completely
• 9:07
  different
• 9:08
  because
• 9:08
  when
• 9:08
  you
• 9:08
  know
• 9:09
  your
• 9:09
  worth,
• 9:10
  you
• 9:10
  don't,
• 9:10
  people
• 9:11
  please,
• 9:11
  you
• 9:12
  discern,
• 9:13
  you
• 9:13
  don't
• 9:13
  shrink.
• 9:14
  You
• 9:14
  show
• 9:14
  up
• 9:15
  fully
• 9:15
  and
• 9:16
  you
• 9:16
  trust
• 9:16
  that
• 9:17
  what's
• 9:17
  for
• 9:18
  you
• 9:18
  will
• 9:19
  recognize
• 9:19
  you
• 9:20
  there.
• 9:20
  I
• 9:21
  don't
• 9:21
  have
• 9:21
  to
• 9:21
  make
• 9:22
  myself
• 9:22
  easy
• 9:23
  to
• 9:23
  deserve
• 9:24
  love.
• 9:25
  I
• 9:25
  just
• 9:25
  had
• 9:25
  to
• 9:26
  know
• 9:26
  my
• 9:26
  worth
• 9:27
  and
• 9:28
  let
• 9:28
  what's
• 9:29
  for
• 9:29
  me?
• 9:30
  Find
• 9:30
  me
• 9:30
  there.
• 9:33
  friend.
• 9:34
  If
• 9:34
  this
• 9:34
  episode
• 9:35
  landed
• 9:35
  for
• 9:35
  you
• 9:36
  and
• 9:36
  you're
• 9:36
  ready
• 9:37
  to
• 9:37
  stop
• 9:37
  waiting
• 9:37
  for
• 9:38
  somebody
• 9:38
  else
• 9:39
  to
• 9:39
  believe
• 9:39
  in
• 9:40
  you
• 9:40
  first.
• 9:41
  I
• 9:41
  wanna
• 9:41
  be
• 9:41
  that
• 9:41
  person,
• 9:42
  a
• 9:42
  free
• 9:43
  session
• 9:44
  with
• 9:44
  me,
• 9:44
  just
• 9:45
  you
• 9:45
  and
• 9:45
  me.
• 9:45
  No
• 9:46
  pitch,
• 9:46
  no
• 9:46
  pressure,
• 9:47
  just
• 9:47
  a
• 9:48
  real
• 9:48
  conversation
• 9:49
  about
• 9:49
  where
• 9:49
  you
• 9:49
  are
• 9:50
  and
• 9:50
  where
• 9:50
  you
• 9:50
  wanna
• 9:51
  go.
• 9:51
  The
• 9:52
  link
• 9:52
  is
• 9:52
  in
• 9:52
  the
• 9:52
  show
• 9:52
  notes,
• 9:53
  Holler
• 9:54
  at
• 9:54
  you
• 9:54
  girl.
• 9:58
  Okay
• 9:58
  friend.
• 9:59
  It
• 9:59
  is
• 9:59
  time
• 9:59
  for
• 9:59
  our
• 10:00
  favorite
• 10:00
  self-love
• 10:01
  Two
• 10:01
  step
• 10:02
  with
• 10:02
  a
• 10:02
  remix.
• 10:03
  Okay.
• 10:05
  Because
• 10:05
  it's
• 10:06
  simple,
• 10:06
  everybody
• 10:07
  can
• 10:07
  do
• 10:07
  it,
• 10:07
  and
• 10:07
  it
• 10:07
  always
• 10:08
  gets
• 10:09
  the
• 10:09
  party
• 10:09
  started
• 10:10
  and
• 10:10
  it
• 10:10
  is
• 10:11
  knee
• 10:12
  friendly
• 10:13
  knees
• 10:13
  of
• 10:14
  every
• 10:14
  capacity
• 10:15
  can
• 10:15
  do
• 10:15
  it.
• 10:18
  Step
• 10:19
  one
• 10:19
  is
• 10:19
  recognize.
• 10:21
  I
• 10:21
  want
• 10:21
  you
• 10:21
  to
• 10:21
  get
• 10:21
  honest
• 10:22
  with
• 10:22
  yourself
• 10:23
  right
• 10:23
  now.
• 10:24
  Where
• 10:24
  is
• 10:24
  people
• 10:25
  pleasing
• 10:26
  showing
• 10:26
  up
• 10:26
  in
• 10:26
  your
• 10:26
  life?
• 10:27
  Is
• 10:27
  it
• 10:28
  at
• 10:28
  work,
• 10:29
  in
• 10:29
  your
• 10:29
  relationships
• 10:30
  with
• 10:30
  your
• 10:30
  family,
• 10:31
  yourself?
• 10:32
  Just
• 10:33
  notice,
• 10:33
  no
• 10:34
  shame,
• 10:34
  no
• 10:34
  shade,
• 10:35
  and
• 10:35
  no
• 10:35
  judgment,
• 10:35
  just
• 10:37
  honesty,
• 10:38
  because
• 10:38
  you
• 10:38
  cannot
• 10:39
  change
• 10:39
  what
• 10:39
  you
• 10:39
  are
• 10:40
  not
• 10:40
  willing
• 10:40
  to
• 10:40
  see.
• 10:41
  So
• 10:41
  name
• 10:42
  it,
• 10:42
  because
• 10:43
  that
• 10:43
  awareness
• 10:44
  is
• 10:44
  the
• 10:44
  beginning
• 10:44
  of
• 10:45
  everything.
• 10:46
  Step
• 10:46
  two,
• 10:47
  choose
• 10:47
  yourself.
• 10:48
  I
• 10:48
  want
• 10:48
  you
• 10:48
  to
• 10:49
  make
• 10:49
  a
• 10:49
  decision
• 10:50
  to
• 10:50
  see
• 10:51
  yourself
• 10:52
  To
• 10:52
  honor
• 10:53
  and
• 10:53
  accept
• 10:54
  yourself
• 10:54
  exactly
• 10:56
  as
• 10:56
  you
• 10:56
  are.
• 10:56
  And
• 10:57
  today,
• 10:58
  really
• 10:58
  choose
• 10:59
  yourself.
• 11:00
  Not
• 11:00
  perfectly.
• 11:01
  You
• 11:01
  don't
• 11:01
  have
• 11:02
  to
• 11:02
  overhaul
• 11:02
  your
• 11:02
  life.
• 11:04
  Be
• 11:05
  intentional
• 11:06
  about
• 11:07
  starting
• 11:07
  right
• 11:07
  now
• 11:08
  because
• 11:08
  the
• 11:08
  relationship
• 11:09
  you
• 11:09
  have
• 11:09
  with
• 11:10
  yourself
• 11:11
  sets
• 11:11
  the
• 11:11
  standard
• 11:12
  for
• 11:12
  every
• 11:12
  other
• 11:13
  relationship
• 11:13
  in
• 11:14
  your
• 11:14
  life.
• 11:15
  Choose
• 11:15
  yourself,
• 11:17
  friend.
• 11:18
  She's
• 11:18
  been
• 11:18
  waiting.
• 11:19
  And
• 11:19
  step
• 11:20
  three
• 11:20
  is
• 11:20
  the
• 11:21
  you
• 11:21
  step.
• 11:22
  You
• 11:22
  get
• 11:22
  still,
• 11:23
  you
• 11:23
  get
• 11:24
  quiet
• 11:24
  and
• 11:24
  you
• 11:24
  ask
• 11:25
  yourself,
• 11:26
  what
• 11:26
  is
• 11:26
  my
• 11:26
  heart
• 11:27
  telling
• 11:27
  me
• 11:28
  to
• 11:28
  do
• 11:28
  next?
• 11:29
  Whatever
• 11:30
  comes
• 11:30
  up,
• 11:30
  that
• 11:31
  is
• 11:31
  your
• 11:32
  next
• 11:32
  right
• 11:32
  aligned
• 11:33
  step.
• 11:34
  Not
• 11:34
  the
• 11:34
  whole
• 11:34
  plan,
• 11:35
  just
• 11:35
  the
• 11:35
  next
• 11:36
  move
• 11:36
  and
• 11:37
  trust
• 11:37
  her
• 11:37
  friend.
• 11:38
  She
• 11:39
  already
• 11:39
  knows.
• 11:40
  Now
• 11:41
  lemme
• 11:41
  pour
• 11:41
  into
• 11:42
  you
• 11:42
  real
• 11:42
  quick.
• 11:43
  Friend.
• 11:44
  You
• 11:44
  are
• 11:44
  worthy
• 11:45
  of
• 11:45
  the
• 11:46
  desires
• 11:46
  of
• 11:47
  your
• 11:47
  heart,
• 11:48
  the
• 11:48
  unconditional
• 11:49
  love.
• 11:49
  You
• 11:49
  want
• 11:50
  the
• 11:50
  greatest
• 11:51
  love
• 11:51
  story
• 11:52
  of
• 11:52
  all
• 11:52
  time.
• 11:53
  The
• 11:53
  partner
• 11:53
  that
• 11:54
  really
• 11:54
  sees
• 11:55
  you
• 11:56
  for
• 11:56
  who
• 11:56
  you
• 11:57
  are
• 11:57
  and
• 11:58
  loves
• 11:58
  you
• 11:58
  fully
• 11:59
  flaws
• 12:00
  and
• 12:00
  all
• 12:01
  you
• 12:01
  are
• 12:01
  meant
• 12:02
  to
• 12:02
  have,
• 12:02
  that
• 12:03
  your
• 12:03
  heart
• 12:04
  has
• 12:04
  been
• 12:04
  calling
• 12:04
  you
• 12:05
  towards
• 12:05
  it
• 12:05
  every
• 12:05
  day,
• 12:06
  and
• 12:06
  that's
• 12:07
  why
• 12:07
  this
• 12:07
  dream
• 12:08
  feels
• 12:08
  so
• 12:09
  real,
• 12:10
  because
• 12:10
  it
• 12:10
  is
• 12:11
  People
• 12:11
  pleasing
• 12:12
  seemed
• 12:12
  like
• 12:12
  the
• 12:12
  right
• 12:13
  thing
• 12:13
  to
• 12:13
  do
• 12:14
  because
• 12:14
  it
• 12:14
  got
• 12:14
  you
• 12:15
  close
• 12:15
  to
• 12:15
  what
• 12:16
  you
• 12:16
  wanted
• 12:16
  and
• 12:17
  it's
• 12:17
  been
• 12:17
  such
• 12:18
  a
• 12:18
  long
• 12:18
  journey.
• 12:19
  Settling
• 12:20
  felt
• 12:20
  easier
• 12:21
  than
• 12:22
  holding
• 12:22
  steady
• 12:23
  for
• 12:23
  what
• 12:23
  you
• 12:23
  truly
• 12:24
  want.
• 12:25
  So
• 12:25
  you
• 12:26
  became
• 12:26
  the
• 12:26
  one
• 12:27
  who
• 12:27
  is
• 12:27
  pretending
• 12:28
  to
• 12:28
  be
• 12:29
  okay
• 12:29
  with.
• 12:29
  seeing
• 12:30
  where
• 12:30
  things
• 12:30
  go
• 12:31
  when
• 12:31
  you're
• 12:31
  absolutely
• 12:32
  not
• 12:32
  okay
• 12:33
  with
• 12:33
  that,
• 12:33
  you
• 12:34
  became
• 12:34
  the
• 12:34
  one
• 12:35
  who
• 12:35
  always
• 12:35
  stays,
• 12:36
  even
• 12:36
  when
• 12:37
  you
• 12:37
  find
• 12:37
  out
• 12:38
  you
• 12:38
  ain't
• 12:38
  the
• 12:38
  only
• 12:38
  one,
• 12:39
  the
• 12:40
  one
• 12:40
  who
• 12:40
  takes
• 12:40
  him
• 12:41
  back,
• 12:41
  because
• 12:41
  it's
• 12:42
  easier
• 12:42
  than
• 12:42
  being
• 12:43
  alone,
• 12:44
  even
• 12:44
  though
• 12:45
  you
• 12:45
  still
• 12:46
  end
• 12:46
  up
• 12:46
  feeling
• 12:47
  alone
• 12:47
  even
• 12:48
  when
• 12:48
  he's
• 12:48
  around
• 12:49
  because
• 12:49
  he's
• 12:49
  not
• 12:50
  really
• 12:50
  present.
• 12:51
  The
• 12:51
  one
• 12:51
  who
• 12:51
  is
• 12:52
  okay
• 12:52
  with
• 12:53
  being
• 12:53
  one
• 12:54
  of
• 12:54
  the
• 12:54
  many
• 12:55
  instead
• 12:55
  of
• 12:56
  the
• 12:56
  one,
• 12:57
  the
• 12:57
  one
• 12:57
  who
• 12:57
  has
• 12:58
  been
• 12:58
  making
• 12:58
  herself
• 12:58
  smaller,
• 13:00
  easier,
• 13:00
  more
• 13:01
  agreeable
• 13:02
  because
• 13:03
  she
• 13:03
  is
• 13:03
  terrified
• 13:05
  that
• 13:05
  if
• 13:05
  she
• 13:05
  shows
• 13:06
  up
• 13:06
  as
• 13:06
  her
• 13:07
  full
• 13:07
  self,
• 13:08
  he'll
• 13:08
  leave.
• 13:09
  They'll
• 13:10
  leave,
• 13:11
  and
• 13:11
  then
• 13:11
  she'll
• 13:12
  be
• 13:12
  alone.
• 13:13
  Friend,
• 13:13
  I
• 13:13
  hear
• 13:14
  you.
• 13:14
  I
• 13:15
  have
• 13:15
  been
• 13:16
  you.
• 13:17
  I
• 13:17
  need
• 13:17
  you
• 13:18
  to
• 13:18
  hear
• 13:18
  me
• 13:18
  with
• 13:18
  your
• 13:18
  whole
• 13:19
  heart
• 13:19
  when
• 13:19
  I
• 13:19
  say
• 13:20
  this.
• 13:20
  The
• 13:21
  love
• 13:21
  that
• 13:21
  requires
• 13:22
  you
• 13:22
  to
• 13:23
  shrink.
• 13:24
  Is
• 13:24
  not
• 13:24
  the
• 13:24
  love
• 13:25
  that's
• 13:25
  for
• 13:25
  you.
• 13:26
  The
• 13:26
  relationship
• 13:27
  that
• 13:27
  only
• 13:28
  works
• 13:28
  when
• 13:28
  you
• 13:28
  make
• 13:29
  yourself
• 13:29
  easy
• 13:30
  is
• 13:30
  not
• 13:31
  the
• 13:31
  relationship
• 13:32
  that's
• 13:32
  going
• 13:32
  to
• 13:32
  fulfill
• 13:33
  you.
• 13:33
  You
• 13:34
  are
• 13:34
  not
• 13:34
  created
• 13:35
  to
• 13:35
  audition
• 13:36
  for
• 13:36
  love.
• 13:37
  You
• 13:37
  were
• 13:37
  created
• 13:38
  to
• 13:38
  receive
• 13:39
  it
• 13:39
  fully,
• 13:40
  completely
• 13:41
  and
• 13:41
  without
• 13:42
  having
• 13:42
  to
• 13:42
  perform
• 13:43
  for
• 13:43
  it.
• 13:44
  Your
• 13:44
  people
• 13:45
  pleasing
• 13:45
  has
• 13:46
  not
• 13:46
  even
• 13:46
  really
• 13:46
  been
• 13:47
  protecting
• 13:47
  you.
• 13:48
  It's
• 13:48
  been
• 13:48
  keeping
• 13:49
  you
• 13:49
  from
• 13:49
  the
• 13:49
  very
• 13:50
  thing
• 13:50
  that
• 13:50
  you
• 13:50
  want
• 13:51
  the
• 13:51
  most,
• 13:52
  and
• 13:52
  it
• 13:53
  starts
• 13:53
  to
• 13:53
  end
• 13:54
  the
• 13:54
  moment
• 13:54
  you
• 13:55
  decide
• 13:56
  for
• 13:56
  real,
• 13:56
  this
• 13:57
  time
• 13:58
  that
• 13:58
  you
• 13:58
  are
• 13:58
  worth
• 13:59
  showing
• 14:00
  up
• 14:00
  for
• 14:00
  as
• 14:01
  your
• 14:01
  full
• 14:01
  self
• 14:02
  with
• 14:02
  your
• 14:03
  full
• 14:03
  standards.
• 14:05
  All
• 14:05
  this
• 14:05
  time
• 14:06
  people
• 14:06
  pleasing.
• 14:07
  Wasn't
• 14:07
  about
• 14:08
  making
• 14:08
  them
• 14:08
  happy
• 14:09
  or
• 14:09
  keeping
• 14:10
  them
• 14:10
  comfortable.
• 14:11
  It
• 14:11
  was
• 14:11
  about
• 14:12
  you
• 14:12
  avoiding
• 14:13
  rejection,
• 14:14
  conflict,
• 14:15
  abandonment,
• 14:17
  not
• 14:17
  being
• 14:17
  enough
• 14:18
  or
• 14:18
  chosen.
• 14:20
  But
• 14:20
  today,
• 14:21
  friend,
• 14:21
  you
• 14:22
  choose
• 14:23
  you,
• 14:24
  and
• 14:25
  that's
• 14:25
  the
• 14:25
  shift.
• 14:26
  You
• 14:27
  are
• 14:27
  not
• 14:27
  too
• 14:27
  much.
• 14:28
  You
• 14:28
  are
• 14:28
  exactly
• 14:29
  enough,
• 14:30
  and
• 14:30
  the
• 14:30
  one
• 14:31
  who
• 14:31
  is
• 14:31
  for
• 14:32
  you
• 14:32
  knows
• 14:33
  this
• 14:33
  and
• 14:34
  it
• 14:34
  reflects
• 14:35
  in
• 14:35
  the
• 14:35
  way
• 14:35
  they
• 14:36
  see
• 14:36
  you
• 14:37
  love,
• 14:37
  honor
• 14:38
  and
• 14:38
  respect
• 14:39
  you.
• 14:40
  You
• 14:40
  deserve
• 14:40
  the
• 14:40
  kind
• 14:41
  of
• 14:41
  love
• 14:41
  that
• 14:41
  you
• 14:41
  dream
• 14:42
  of.
• 14:43
  I
• 14:43
  invite
• 14:44
  you
• 14:44
  to
• 14:44
  love
• 14:44
  yourself
• 14:45
  this
• 14:45
  way
• 14:46
  first,
• 14:47
  and
• 14:47
  watch
• 14:48
  the
• 14:48
  world
• 14:49
  rise
• 14:49
  up
• 14:49
  to
• 14:49
  meet
• 14:50
  you
• 14:50
  there.
• 14:53
  Ooh,
• 14:54
  friend.
• 14:54
  Thank
• 14:55
  you
• 14:55
  so
• 14:55
  much
• 14:56
  for
• 14:56
  being
• 14:57
  here.
• 14:57
  Go
• 14:58
  ahead
• 14:58
  and
• 14:58
  send
• 14:59
  this
• 14:59
  to
• 14:59
  a
• 15:00
  woman
• 15:00
  in
• 15:00
  your
• 15:01
  life
• 15:02
  who
• 15:02
  has
• 15:02
  been
• 15:02
  shrinking
• 15:03
  herself
• 15:04
  for
• 15:04
  someone
• 15:04
  else
• 15:05
  who
• 15:05
  does
• 15:05
  not
• 15:06
  deserve
• 15:06
  her
• 15:06
  best.
• 15:07
  And
• 15:07
  let's
• 15:08
  continue
• 15:08
  this
• 15:08
  conversation
• 15:09
  over
• 15:09
  on
• 15:10
  YouTube.
• 15:10
  I've
• 15:11
  linked
• 15:11
  a
• 15:11
  video
• 15:12
  for
• 15:12
  you
• 15:12
  below
• 15:12
  where
• 15:13
  you
• 15:13
  can
• 15:13
  get
• 15:14
  the
• 15:14
  three
• 15:14
  D's
• 15:15
  framework
• 15:15
  to
• 15:16
  start
• 15:16
  choosing
• 15:16
  yourself
• 15:17
  today.
• 15:18
  So
• 15:18
  head
• 15:18
  over
• 15:19
  there
• 15:19
  and
• 15:19
  make
• 15:19
  sure
• 15:20
  to
• 15:20
  meet
• 15:20
  me
• 15:20
  in
• 15:20
  the
• 15:20
  comments
• 15:21
  because
• 15:22
  I
• 15:22
  can't
• 15:22
  wait
• 15:23
  to
• 15:23
  celebrate
• 15:24
  you
• 15:24
  there,
• 15:24
  friend,
• 15:25
  I
• 15:26
  am
• 15:26
  cheering
• 15:26
  for
• 15:27
  you
• 15:27
  loud
• 15:28
  and
• 15:28
  obnoxiously
• 15:29
  always
• 15:30
  crown
• 15:31
  on
• 15:31
  queen
• 15:32
  because
• 15:32
  together
• 15:32
  we
• 15:33
  can
• 15:33
  Encourage
• 15:34
  Over
• 15:35
  Everything.