Is It Too Much to Ask? Judging the Validity of Relationship Needs

Doing Marriage Well · Jul 16, 2026 · 2m · transcript

In this episode Paul explains how to decide whether a spouse’s expressed needs are valid. He recommends generosity when a request isn’t enabling and can be met fairly easily, but stresses considering frequency, degree, and the impact on others.

Paul warns that constant demands for validation or requests that require dishonesty are signs of deeper problems that may need professional help. Meeting needs may be hard, but it should stretch you without being destructive; consult a marriage expert if you’re unsure.