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Body Language (4/7): What Your Body is Saying Even When You are Silent: Trust Yourself Thursday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: Blessings, beautiful souls, blessings and welcome.
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: Welcome to Trust Yourself Thursday here on the Sweet Spot.
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: We've been doing a whole series here on the power of body language and we are going in today on Trust Yourself Thursday with the theme of reading your own signals.
• 0:25
  Speaker 1: I'm Dr Derek Sweet.
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  Speaker 1: As you know, I'm a board-certified psychiatrist.
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  Speaker 1: I specialize in high-performance and sports psychiatry.
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  Speaker 1: More than that, I love collaborating with anyone who is in the business of being the best version of themselves, and I know that's you.
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  Speaker 1: That is who you are All right now.
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  Speaker 1: On Monday, remember, we owned the room before speaking.
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  Speaker 1: That's how we talked about body language.
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  Speaker 1: On Monday, on Making Moves, monday, we owned the room before we talked.
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  Speaker 1: On Tuesday, we let our body lead our mind.
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  Speaker 1: And on Wednesday, we cleaned up the micro-movements, the jaw, the walk and the rhythm, so that we could already be a winner when we step into any room or any field or any performance-driven activity that we have to do.
• 1:13
  Speaker 1: But here's the truth None of this will matter if you can't read your own signals, and that's why today, trust Yourself Thursday, is about looking inward.
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  Speaker 1: You see, body language isn't just about what others see.
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  Speaker 1: It's also about what you see about you.
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  Speaker 1: It's about what you feel Ever been in a conversation where your jaw tightens, your shoulders rise and your hands start like tightening up or twitching a little?
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  Speaker 1: That's not just stress, that's your nervous system speaking, your heart speeding fast, all that.
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  Speaker 1: So if that's happening, I want you to start by scanning your body whenever that happens.
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  Speaker 1: Are your shoulders tight?
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  Speaker 1: That's protection mode.
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  Speaker 1: Is your jaw clenched?
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  Speaker 1: You may be holding something back.
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  Speaker 1: Are your hands a little restless?
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  Speaker 1: Your mind might be racing.
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  Speaker 1: Now in psychology and psychiatry we talk about reset signals.
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  Speaker 1: You can reset these things.
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  Speaker 1: Stand in an open posture, uncross your arms and keep your chest open and then add a subtle mirror gesture to this, like grounding your feet or mimicking a relaxed stance to calm your nervous system.
• 2:29
  Speaker 1: You see, it's all about your body giving your mind the message.
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  Speaker 1: So when you stand in an open posture, when you uncross your arms and you leave your chest open and you sort of ground your feet and you put your hands in that akimbo or on the waist kind of thing that we talked about, you are sending your mind and your brain a message.
• 2:52
  Speaker 1: There's such a thing called mirror neurons that light up and connect in the brain, and these mirror neurons don't just connect with other people.
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  Speaker 1: They connect with ourselves, and the thing about breathing is that it's a bridge.
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  Speaker 1: When you take a nice breath, it slows everything down and it bridges you to calm.
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  Speaker 1: Breathing deeply tells your brain we're safe here, we're okay, we've got this, and that's the one thing that you can often control, no matter how stressful the situation is.
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  Speaker 1: We teach athletes and performers various breathing techniques that we go into in another podcast, things like 4-4-4 breathing or 5-7-8 breathing or box breathing.
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  Speaker 1: We teach a certain level of stillness so that you can let the body know that you have a degree of control.
• 3:49
  Speaker 1: The ancient wisdom reminds us of this.
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  Speaker 1: We've said this many times here on the Sweet Spot, psalm 4610, by now you know it.
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  Speaker 1: Be still and know.
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  Speaker 1: Know that I am God.
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  Speaker 1: Stillness isn't passive, it's powerful.
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  Speaker 1: It is in stillness that we find our clarity.
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  Speaker 1: It is in stillness that we find our divine selves.
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  Speaker 1: It is in stillness that we get centered.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes trust begins not with a voice, but with a pause.
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  Speaker 1: You don't have to hustle to prove anything.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes all you have to do to send your body and your mind a signal is that you stand firm.
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  Speaker 1: You just stand to affirm and remember from three to four weeks ago.
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  Speaker 1: When you stand, you win.
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  Speaker 1: That's a whole series we did about three to four weeks ago.
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  Speaker 1: Go check it out.
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  Speaker 1: So, on Trust Yourself, thursday today we're talking about body language and we're talking about the idea that you have to be still, you have to take a breath, you have to untighten your shoulders, unclench your jaw, relax your hands, to send mirror neurons, to send your brain a signal that you trust you and that stillness is your friend.
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  Speaker 1: So what's the challenge today?
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  Speaker 1: On Trust Yourself, thursday Take two five-minute body scans.
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  Speaker 1: Today.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to do one in the morning and one before bed.
• 5:29
  Speaker 1: Just breathe, observe, notice which body parts feel tight, and just let go and reset, let your body whisper what your mind needs to hear You're safe, you're're enough and you're ready.
• 5:49
  Speaker 1: So it's all about taking these two minute, these two five minute body scans, and the way you do that is you relax, you let go and you just start with your feet and put your mind on your feet and just pay attention to what you're feeling and then incrementally go up to go up your entire body your calves, your thighs, your pelvis, your stomach, your abdomen region, your back, your shoulders, your neck.
• 6:17
  Speaker 1: Just scan your body as if you're doing your own personal ct scan or mri of yourself and you'll be surprised of how your body will tell you what's feeling tight and what needs attention.
• 6:30
  Speaker 1: And then, if you take a nice deep breath and let go and breathe into it and let out, you can almost feel the relaxation, breathe, observe, reset.
• 6:39
  Speaker 1: Now that's it.
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  Speaker 1: That's it for trust yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Thursday you're getting back to yourself and your center and I'm so proud of you for doing that.
• 6:48
  Speaker 1: And tomorrow?
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  Speaker 1: Well, tomorrow is Finish Strong Friday.
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  Speaker 1: We're wrapping up the week with presence, pause and power.
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  Speaker 1: How you end the moment may be more important than how you start.
• 7:04
  Speaker 1: I'll see you tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: Be blessed.
• 7:08
  Speaker 1: This is Dr Derek Sweet and, if you like what you're hearing, if this series on body language spoke to you and you got something out of it, I'd love for you to subscribe to our YouTube channel and, more than that, share it with a friend.
• 7:25
  Speaker 1: Be blessed.