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Living in Alignment 1/7: Direction Before Motion — Why Most Effort Is Wasted Energy, and How to Move With Purpose #MakingMovesMonday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  SPEAKER_00: Greetings and welcome.
• 0:08
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome, beautiful souls.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Making Moves Monday.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, you've made it to another Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hallelujah! Sometimes you just gotta let it out and be happy that you're in Monday, that you have the strength to listen to this, that you are involved in another Monday, that this is going to be the best week of your life.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: So, this week, beautiful souls, before we get going on Making Moves Monday, I'd like to let you know who I am.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet, I'm your host.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: I've been the host for the Sweet Spot for the past few years.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: We speak every single day here on the Sweet Spot, and every week we have a theme.
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  SPEAKER_00: This week, our theme is living in alignment.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: That's correct.
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  SPEAKER_00: Living in alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the theme.
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  SPEAKER_00: So get ready, buckle up, we're gonna go in on alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's so important because alignment is nothing more than your values, your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions pointing in the same direction instead of fighting each other.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_00: Let's say that again.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you are aligned, your values and your thoughts, your feelings and your actions are all in a dance.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're happy with each other, they're aligned, they're not fighting each other.
• 1:36
  SPEAKER_00: And so alignment is nothing more than a committed action that's moving in a direction where all these well these four areas that I mentioned, values and thoughts, feelings and actions are aligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when your behavior lines up with your values, you know what happens.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: Your brain, the brain, and I'll talk more about this in a few minutes, the brain rewards, the brain rewards you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It loves it, it sends more dopamine into your system, and you feel more motivated, you feel more satisfied, and your actions feel really powerful.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's the thing about alignment, and you know where you can find alignment a lot of times it's in your habits, whether you're aligned or not.
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes our microhabits, our small habits, they're the ones that reflect whether our values are compounding over time into an identity or if we're all over the place.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, each tiny action we take is a vote for the person we're gonna be.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we live out of alignment, we are in friction, we find ourselves fatigued, doubt can creep in.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we are in alignment, when we are really living in alignment, the opposite is usually true.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have a quiet confidence, a level of integrity.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Making Moves Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's the thing alignment is when your actions and your movements stop arguing with your values and they start agreeing with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have agreement when your values, your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions align up.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't just move, you move with purpose, you move with character, you move with focus.
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  SPEAKER_00: And a lot of it is because you're aligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's my introduction.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's my introduction on alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope you got something out of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right now, you should be asking yourself about your values, you should be asking yourself whether or not you're aligned up there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about a car.
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  SPEAKER_00: Another way to sort of think about this is think about a car that's out of alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: It still moves, but the steering pulls, the ride feels rough, the tires can be uneven, they can wear unevenly.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you're when a car is misaligned, it burns more gas just trying to go straight.
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  SPEAKER_00: You get where you're going, no doubt.
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  SPEAKER_00: But man, do you pay for it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Life works the same way.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we're misaligned, when our values are pointing one way, but our habits are pointing in another way, we still move, we still get it done, but it's a lot shakier, it's a lot heavier, it's a lot more distracted than it needs to be, noisier than it should be, more exhausting than it should be because of the misalignment.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_00: We're not really stuck, we're split, we're misaligned, and here's the part that most people don't realize this isn't just an emotional feeling, this misalignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: On the sweet spot, we know more than that because we're into science, soul, and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: We know that this is neurological as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: We know that there are brain structures that are involved when we are misaligned, it's not just a feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's a part of the brain called the ACC.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've discussed it here before, but because you may have forgotten it, I'm going to repeat what it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the anterior cingulate cortex, better known as the ACC here on the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: And do you remember what the ACC is responsible for?
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course you do.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about conflict.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the one, the part of the brain that scans for conflict.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's always checking.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's always looking for the error.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's always looking for what doesn't line up.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's always asking the question: does this make sense?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do these signals agree here?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do these actions match the values?
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  SPEAKER_00: Does the behavior here match the identity?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's checking.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what the ACC does.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's looking for misalignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's an error detection service that's inside our minds, inside our brains.
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  SPEAKER_00: And your nervous system reads conflicts as threats.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when the ACC lights up because you're misaligned, you're in threat mode already, and your body has already shifted to threat mode.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's more tension, more tightness, more fatigue, a little more mental noise, less patience, less clarity, a little fogginess, a little sort of a grinding kind of low energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not you're not weak, you're not broken or anything, but you know that something isn't right.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like when your car is misaligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you're driving a car that's misaligned, no matter how you slice it, your system's on high alert.
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  SPEAKER_00: Same with life.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you're misaligned, your brain system, your ACC, and not to mention the amygdala, the threat detection center, it's also on alert.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you live in that stressful situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: You live under that stress when you're misaligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the only thing that tends to quiet it is what?
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  SPEAKER_00: Getting aligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look, we don't take the car to the mechanic and tell and there's a there's a misalignment with the wheels, and he he fixes your your wind sheet wiper, or he goes into the engine and does something with the engine.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, he or she, your mechanic will will decide to fix the wheels.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's what you have to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to go and fix what needs to be fixed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Align whatever is misaligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you see, when what you care about matches what you do, your brain stops fighting itself.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just that simple.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've got to align your actions and your behaviors of what you think and what you believe and what you value.
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  SPEAKER_00: Period.
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  SPEAKER_00: We could stop right there, and we're done.
• 8:42
  SPEAKER_00: But if you know me, that's not gonna happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
• 8:49
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, the reason alignment feels so good when we say the stars are aligned or we feel aligned, one of the reasons is that the brain has to expend less energy being so vigilant.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you're in the misaligned car, you've got to be vigilant.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't know when this thing's gonna go off the road.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because misalignment has a cost.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you care about one thing but you live another way, you're misaligned and it's costing you.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we value peace but we live in chaos, we're misaligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're expending energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we want good health, but we live in a bad habit, depleted kind of way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes that can cost us more energy than we need.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we want meaning in our life, but we're chasing distractions involved in empty habits or empty behaviors.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, the meaning is not gonna be full.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want connection, but you're too busy.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a disconnect, that's a misalign.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're moving, but it's not feeling right, it's not getting the answers.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're acting, but it's not delivering the product.
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  SPEAKER_00: We act, but it doesn't feel honest.
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  SPEAKER_00: We stay busy, but it we're not really whole.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why the movement can feel awkward sometimes.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why things don't work.
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  SPEAKER_00: The movement can feel heavy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not effort that's the issue, it's misalignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can be pushing really hard, but because we're misaligned and we didn't even know we're misaligned, we don't know we're misaligned.
• 10:33
  SPEAKER_00: We keep spinning our wheels, we keep driving the car harder and harder.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like you don't know the car has a uh a misalignment problem, you keep stepping on the gas, like trying to figure it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today is is not about doing more.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, it's about doing one thing that feels true, one thing that might get you aligned again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's make it very simple, very real.
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  SPEAKER_00: Most people feel divided in one of four places in their health, in their relationship, in their performance, or their faith.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just one place can be off, and that's enough to make you misaligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: If your relationships are feeling split, well, that's where you have to look for alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: No big talk, no deep dive, just look for where we misaligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: If your performance feels a little split, don't grind more, don't try to prove more.
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  SPEAKER_00: Clean actions that line up with who you are trying to become.
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  SPEAKER_00: Five focused minutes on the task you're avoiding.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe three slow breaths to ground yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whatever you need.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we look, we don't have a whole lot of time to go into everything, but I just want you today to think about where you might be misaligned before you make your move this Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Make Your Move Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want you to take one action that makes your life feel more aligned and less split.
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  SPEAKER_00: One decision where you can bring your values and your behaviors together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you know your values?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you value?
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  SPEAKER_00: And is everything lining up with that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is the person you're talking to even aligned with your values?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is the action that you're taking, the activity that you're in, aligned with the values that you are holding most dear?
• 12:41
  SPEAKER_00: That's important for making moves Monday, not motion today, alignment.
• 12:46
  SPEAKER_00: Where does your life feel divided right now?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what's one small move in your health, in your relationships, in your performance, in your faith that would make you feel more whole today, my friend?
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_00: Today.
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  SPEAKER_00: How can you live in alignment today?
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  SPEAKER_00: You're listening to the sweet spot.
• 13:13
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for your time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for your energy.
• 13:16
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for aligning with me this week.
• 13:18
  SPEAKER_00: As we go deeper, I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
• 13:21
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• 13:24
  SPEAKER_00: It's totally free.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_00: And if you know somebody who could benefit from just tweaking their alignment, not so focused on actions and solutions, let's look at alignment.
• 13:36
  SPEAKER_00: Where are we misaligned?
• 13:38
  SPEAKER_00: Send this to them.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_00: You'll be doing them a favor.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_00: And I look forward to seeing you tomorrow for Take Action Tuesday as we go deeper into the journey on alignment.
• 13:51
  SPEAKER_00: Love and blessings, beautiful souls.
• 13:55
  SPEAKER_00: Take care.