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The Seven Releases 2/7: Release the Lie: Don't Let the Lie Become Your Truth. #TakingActionTuesday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: Greetings and welcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to the sweet spot, beautiful souls.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Take Action Tuesday on the Sweet Spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host of Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you know, I'm a board certified psychiatrist.
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  SPEAKER_00: I specialize in peak performance.
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  SPEAKER_00: But more than that, I'm right here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am right here walking this path with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Mm-hmm.
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  SPEAKER_00: Walking the path with you, asking the same honest questions and discovering the deeper truth as we go on this journey, this mystery we call life together.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we're in the middle of a seven-day release discussion.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're calling it the seven releases.
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  SPEAKER_00: And man, we had a good time yesterday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, this journey really matters, and on this journey, there are a lot of things that can wrap itself around you and tighten up.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so releasing is important.
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  SPEAKER_00: Finding the release is important.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um let's remember why this journey matters, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We're here because people carry so much quietly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Exhaustion, emotional labor, old identities, fears about the future, regrets, problems, issues, you know, challenges, the urge to have to be the one to always hold everything together.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what this is about.
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  SPEAKER_00: Taking a moment at this time of the year to just know what's going on.
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  SPEAKER_00: And these seven days are about putting down those things your spirit wasn't meant to carry into the next chapter of your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a great time to do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yesterday we took the first step, didn't we?
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  SPEAKER_00: By releasing the rush.
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  SPEAKER_00: The inner storm of thoughts, emotions, expectations, responsibilities, everything moves faster than our actual life is moving and causing our minds to have no rest, no peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: We slowed down the inner narrator yesterday, the default mode network, the DMN, and the brain, remember?
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  SPEAKER_00: We slowed down that inner narrator so that today we can finally hear the truth beneath the noise.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what we're doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today's release is a big one.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, the release, the lie, is one of is huge.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's talk about the stories we tell ourselves that were never true.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the most painful burdens we carry aren't physical or even financial or even emotional.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're narratives.
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  SPEAKER_00: In my line of work, we look for the story.
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  SPEAKER_00: We want to know the story.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's the story?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's your story?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's my story?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is the story we're telling ourselves?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we live inside these stories, trust me.
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  SPEAKER_00: The narratives, the quiet narratives, the half-true narratives, the inherited narratives, the narratives someone spoke over us years ago that we never challenged.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the unsettling part of this, your brain believes whatever story is repeated the most.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why really good liars they keep lying.
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  SPEAKER_00: They tell you the lie over and over again.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because eventually they believe it, and then everybody else starts believing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I won't even elaborate on that.
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  SPEAKER_00: In neuroscience, this happens because of two things: neural wiring, this repetition thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: What fires together in the brain wires together in the brain.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you repeat a fear or a lie long enough, it becomes familiar, and the brain confuses familiar with true.
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  SPEAKER_00: The brain can confuse familiar with true if you keep doing and telling it the same thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the brain, all of our brains, I think trying to keep us alive and well, the brain has a bit of a negativity bias, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: The mind will overweight or put more emphasis on anything that looks like a threat, a criticism, and potentially shame.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even when the evidence for that, those things aren't even there.
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  SPEAKER_00: The mind will take it, hold on to it, magnify it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, that's a threat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, he said or she said this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh man, that makes me feel so bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes the evidence isn't really there.
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  SPEAKER_00: So a lie, how does this play out, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: A lie whispered at age 12 can still be shaping your decisions at age 42.
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  SPEAKER_00: A parent tells you, you're too sensitive.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that lie becomes my feelings don't matter anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: A teacher tells you, you're not applying yourself, and then the lie becomes, I'm never doing enough, I'm not that good.
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  SPEAKER_00: A partner tells you, you're kind of hard to love.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the lie becomes, maybe I am just not that worthy of being loved.
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  SPEAKER_00: A boss tells you, you're replaceable, you know.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the lie becomes, well, maybe I shouldn't expect more of myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's amazing how lies can sink deep, how words can sink deep.
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  SPEAKER_00: Especially the ones that can make you feel bad or shameful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that's where we have to guard words, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a whole other discussion.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so, yeah, it it it's tough out there because words are shaping our meaning and our feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's some here's where it gets powerful.
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  SPEAKER_00: The brain can't hold a lie and a truth at full strength at the same time.
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  SPEAKER_00: One will weaken the other, and truth can also rewire the system as much as a lie can.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why in the message Bible, in the ancient wisdom, in John 8, verse 32, it says this: then you will experience the truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: The truth will free you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Freedom is not loud, my friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: Freedom starts with a sentence you dared to say out loud about you, about your truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: And let's go deep into the psychology, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, a lie hides, it hides behind certain, I'm gonna call them categories.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are the lies about your identity that tell you I'm not enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a lie.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are lies about your self-worth that say I don't deserve anything better than this.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a lie.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are lies about capability.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, it's I I can't change.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a lie.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are lies about belonging.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm on my own, man.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm on my own.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, that's a lie.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not on your own.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've got help.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are lies about the future.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh man, it's too late for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm too old, uh, too.
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  SPEAKER_00: This no, that's a lie.
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  SPEAKER_00: When these lies are cast into the sea, when these lies um are not allowed to sit in the mind and fester in the mind, you get freedom.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when these lies sit in the mind long enough and the brain isn't challenged, the when you know what the brain does, it starts scanning for proof of the lie you're telling yourself, or the lie you've allowed yourself to believe.
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  SPEAKER_00: The brain will scan for proof of it and reinforce that narrative, and then the lie becomes quote unquote the truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's the beauty of it, my friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's the wonderful thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: The moment you name a lie, you weaken its authority.
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  SPEAKER_00: The moment you challenge a lie, your brain begins to form a new pathway.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the moment you speak truth, your nervous system begins stabilizing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Truth is not just spiritual, it's neurological.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just said your brain will form new pathways in neuroplasticity.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just said your nervous system stabilizes when you start speaking truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is neurological, this is not biblical, this is not ancient wisdom, this is neurological.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, the ancient wisdom knew this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm just bringing it into modern-day science to let you know that there's a benefit from walking in your truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today I want to give you two real tools for releasing the lie on Take Action Tuesday, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's about taking action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tool one, I call it the reverse scan.
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  SPEAKER_00: This simple but very profound tool will help you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to do this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself when you're in doubt or you feel like you're living a lie or you're up against something that you're not sure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself, whose voice is this actually?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it yours?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it mine?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it your family's voice?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is this some past relationship?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it your fear talking?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it your trauma talking?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is this some cultural script that I'm kind of trapped in?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um is this some old version of me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask, whose voice is really being privileged right now?
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you trace a lie back to its source, it loses power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because most lies didn't start inside of you, they were installed in you when you believed something that you were told or said to you and you took it as true because you felt a little vulnerable.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can change that today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tool number two.
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  SPEAKER_00: The truth sentence.
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  SPEAKER_00: I like this one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just get a blank piece of paper or on your phone, just write out the truth is, and then give it a second.
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  SPEAKER_00: The truth is, you write it down, it's really good to write it down, and then you say, whatever the truth is, I'm growing.
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  SPEAKER_00: The truth is, I've survived things I sh that should have broken me, but I didn't break.
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  SPEAKER_00: The truth is, I deserve to live the life I love.
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  SPEAKER_00: The truth is, I'm allowed to change my mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: The truth is I'm okay making a mistake, I can get better, I can fix it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The truth is, I'm not who I used to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, whatever you say, that's on you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just doing an exercise like this, the truth is sentence.
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  SPEAKER_00: And doing the other one I mentioned to you, the reverse scan.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, try to figure out where did this come from?
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  SPEAKER_00: Whose voice is this?
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  SPEAKER_00: These two tools are plenty, this is plenty for you to begin releasing the lie today on Take Action Tuesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, yo, okay, I'm gonna leave you with a micro challenge.
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  SPEAKER_00: Identify one lie you've been living under, also, and replace it with one truth, not 10.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not asking for 20 things.
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  SPEAKER_00: If there's one lie you think you've been living under, what is it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you been living under a lie?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is something not true?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're kind of living and acting as it is true.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to replace it with one truth today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because one truth spoken consistently over your life will break a 10-year pattern quickly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright now, tomorrow, tomorrow here on the sweet spot, we're going in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tomorrow is Wednesday, not just any Wednesday, it's Windlow Wednesday, and tomorrow we're releasing the weight that isn't yours.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, the emotional labor, the expectations, the unspoken responsibilities that you've picked up along the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why are you carrying these things?
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  SPEAKER_00: They're so heavy, but that's all for tomorrow, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: So if today stirred something in you, share it with someone who's been living under a story, a lie, that never belonged to them.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know you know somebody that's living in a story.
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  SPEAKER_00: Release them, help them find release.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'll see you tomorrow, beautiful soul.
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  SPEAKER_00: One breath at a time, one release at a time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love you.