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311. Why Mantras & Journaling Aren’t Working (And What To Do Instead) · How To Love Yourself No Matter What

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  Hey,
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  friend.
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  If
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  you're
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  journaling,
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  repeating
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  mantras,
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  and
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  still
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  feeling
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  anxious
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  and
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  stuck,
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  it's
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  not
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  because
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  you're
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  doing
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  it
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  wrong.
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  It's
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  honestly
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  because
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  these
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  tools
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  don't
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  actually
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  work
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  the
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  way
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  you've
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  been
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  told
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  they
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  do.
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  And
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  today
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  I'm
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  going
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  to
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  show
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  you
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  why
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  and
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  what
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  actually
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  does.
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  Hey,
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  I'm
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  Amanda
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  Hess.
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  I'm
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  a
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  certified
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  life
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  coach.
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  But
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  what
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  you
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  need
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  to
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  know
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  is
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  I'm
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  a
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  sensitive
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  woman
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  just
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  like
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  you,
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  and
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  I'm
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  going
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  understand
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  yourself
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  better
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  so
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  that
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  you
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  can
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  approach
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  your
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  life
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  differently
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  and
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  feel
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  really
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  good
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  about
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  it.
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  Let's
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  go.
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  Hey.
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  So
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  for
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  those
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  of
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  you
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  that
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  are
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  new
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  here,
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  I'm
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  Amanda.
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  I'm
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  a
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  certified
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  life
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  coach
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  and
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  self
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  love
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  expert.
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  And
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  I
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  work
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  with
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  women
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  who
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  are
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  doing
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  everything
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  right
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  and
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  still
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  not
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  getting
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  the
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  results
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  they
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  want.
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  And
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  if
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  that's
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  you,
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  you
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  definitely
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  need
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  to
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  listen
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  to
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  today's
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  episode.
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  So
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  talk
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  about
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  mantras
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  and
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  talk
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  about
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  journaling
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  today.
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  And
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  go
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  through
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  them
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  one
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  by
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  one
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  and
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  talk
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  about
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  what
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  they
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  are,
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  why
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  they
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  are
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  probably
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  not
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  working
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  for
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  you,
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  and
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  what
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  we
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  can
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  do
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  differently
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  to
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  create
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  better
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  results.
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  So
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  start
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  with
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  mantras.
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  Now,
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  mantras
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  are
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  built
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  on
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  the
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  idea
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  that
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  if
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  you
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  repeat
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  something
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  enough,
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  you'll
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  believe
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  it.
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  But
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  your
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  brain
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  isn't
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  that
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  easy
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  to
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  override.
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  If
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  you're
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  saying
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  I'm
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  confident
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  while
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  feeling
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  deeply
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  insecure,
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  your
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  brain
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  doesn't
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  buy
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  it,
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  it
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  resists
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  it.
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  So
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  instead
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  of
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  creating
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  change,
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  you
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  create
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  internal
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  conflict,
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  which
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  feels
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  a
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  lot
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  like
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  anxiety.
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  And
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  the
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  truth
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  is
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  there's
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  just
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  no
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  emotional
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  buy
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  in.
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  And
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  so
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  if
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  you're
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  a
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  sensitive
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  woman,
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  your
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  brain
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  reads
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  it
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  as
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  a
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  lie.
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  It
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  reads
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  the
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  mantra
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  as
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  a
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  lie.
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  What
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  I
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  will
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  say
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  to
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  you
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  is,
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  I
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  used
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  to
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  try.
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  I
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  used
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  to
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  try
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  and
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  use
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  mantra.
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  I
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  watched
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  the
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  Secret
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  and
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  I
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  fully
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  believed
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  that
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  the
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  universe
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  was
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  listening.
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  But
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  no
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  matter
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  how
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  many
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  times
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  I
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  told
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  the
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  universe
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  I
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  was
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  confidently
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  creating
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  the
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  life
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  of
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  my
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  dreams,
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  it
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  didn't
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  change
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  how
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  I
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  felt
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  and
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  it
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  didn't
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  change
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  the
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  experience
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  of
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  my
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  life.
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  I
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  have
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  worked
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  with
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  so
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  many
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  clients
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  who
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  religiously
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  employ
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  positive
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  thinking
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  and
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  mantras,
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  and
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  they
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  cannot
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  understand
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  how
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  to
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  change
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  the
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  way
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  they
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  think
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  because
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  emotionally
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  when
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  they
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  do
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  it,
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  it
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  just
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  feels
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  empty.
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  It
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  feels
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  like
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  an
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  empty
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  promise.
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  And
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  that's
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  because
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  mantras
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  skip
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  the
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  most
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  important
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  part,
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  and
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  that's
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  learning
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  how
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  to
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  be
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  with
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  yourself
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  when
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  you
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  feel
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  uncomfortable,
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  learning
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  how
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  to
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  stop
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  rushing
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  yourself,
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  learning
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  how
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  to
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  be
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  there
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  with
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  yourself
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  in
• 2:50
  the
• 2:50
  moment.
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  Now,
• 2:51
  let's
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  Talk
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  about
• 2:52
  journaling.
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  What
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  you
• 2:54
  might
• 2:54
  not
• 2:55
  realize
• 2:55
  is
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  that
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  most
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  journaling
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  isn't
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  transformation.
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  What
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  it
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  is
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  is
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  it's
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  rumination
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  on
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  paper.
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  You
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  sit
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  down,
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  you
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  dump
• 3:04
  your
• 3:04
  fears,
• 3:04
  you
• 3:05
  dump
• 3:05
  your
• 3:05
  worries,
• 3:05
  you
• 3:06
  dump
• 3:06
  your
• 3:06
  frustrations,
• 3:08
  and
• 3:08
  then
• 3:08
  you
• 3:08
  walk
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  away
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  having
• 3:10
  practiced
• 3:11
  those
• 3:12
  exact
• 3:13
  thought
• 3:13
  patterns.
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  You
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  reinforce
• 3:16
  everything
• 3:16
  that
• 3:16
  you're
• 3:17
  thinking.
• 3:17
  You
• 3:18
  didn't
• 3:18
  process
• 3:19
  anything.
• 3:19
  You
• 3:19
  just
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  reinforced
• 3:20
  it.
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  So
• 3:22
  what
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  I
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  see
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  is
• 3:24
  women
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  writing
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  about
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  all
• 3:26
  the
• 3:27
  things
• 3:27
  that
• 3:27
  are
• 3:27
  wrong
• 3:27
  with
• 3:28
  themselves
• 3:28
  and
• 3:29
  their
• 3:29
  lives,
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  and
• 3:30
  then
• 3:31
  their
• 3:31
  brain
• 3:31
  starts
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  down
• 3:32
  the
• 3:32
  path
• 3:33
  of
• 3:33
  showing
• 3:34
  them
• 3:34
  how
• 3:34
  it's
• 3:35
  true.
• 3:35
  And
• 3:36
  it's
• 3:36
  like
• 3:37
  when
• 3:37
  you
• 3:37
  fight
• 3:37
  with
• 3:37
  someone,
• 3:38
  right?
• 3:39
  And
• 3:39
  then
• 3:40
  while
• 3:40
  you're
• 3:41
  fighting,
• 3:42
  you
• 3:42
  start
• 3:42
  realizing,
• 3:43
  oh,
• 3:43
  and
• 3:43
  you
• 3:43
  do
• 3:43
  this,
• 3:44
  oh,
• 3:44
  and
• 3:44
  you
• 3:44
  do
• 3:44
  that,
• 3:45
  and
• 3:45
  you
• 3:45
  did
• 3:45
  this
• 3:45
  last
• 3:45
  night,
• 3:46
  and
• 3:46
  you
• 3:46
  did
• 3:46
  this
• 3:46
  last
• 3:47
  week,
• 3:47
  and
• 3:47
  you
• 3:48
  also
• 3:48
  do
• 3:48
  this.
• 3:49
  And
• 3:49
  what
• 3:50
  it's
• 3:50
  doing
• 3:50
  is
• 3:51
  it's
• 3:51
  just
• 3:51
  lighting
• 3:52
  up
• 3:52
  a
• 3:52
  part
• 3:52
  of
• 3:52
  your
• 3:52
  brain
• 3:53
  that
• 3:54
  does
• 3:54
  more
• 3:54
  damage
• 3:55
  rather
• 3:56
  than
• 3:56
  actually
• 3:56
  creating
• 3:57
  any
• 3:57
  kind
• 3:57
  of
• 3:57
  healing.
• 3:58
  And
• 3:58
  it
• 3:59
  feels
• 4:00
  real.
• 4:00
  And
• 4:01
  that's
• 4:01
  the
• 4:01
  problem,
• 4:02
  because
• 4:03
  the
• 4:03
  reality
• 4:04
  is,
• 4:04
  is
• 4:04
  your
• 4:04
  brain
• 4:04
  is
• 4:04
  just
• 4:05
  designed
• 4:05
  this
• 4:05
  way.
• 4:06
  It's
• 4:06
  designed
• 4:07
  to
• 4:07
  look
• 4:07
  for
• 4:07
  what's
• 4:08
  wrong,
• 4:08
  and
• 4:09
  it
• 4:09
  will
• 4:09
  always
• 4:09
  find
• 4:10
  it,
• 4:10
  and
• 4:10
  it
• 4:11
  will
• 4:11
  always
• 4:11
  find
• 4:12
  more
• 4:12
  of
• 4:12
  it,
• 4:13
  but
• 4:13
  that
• 4:13
  doesn't
• 4:14
  make
• 4:14
  it
• 4:14
  real.
• 4:15
  So
• 4:15
  we
• 4:15
  have
• 4:16
  to
• 4:16
  understand
• 4:16
  that
• 4:17
  the
• 4:17
  survival
• 4:17
  part
• 4:17
  of
• 4:18
  our
• 4:18
  brain
• 4:18
  is
• 4:19
  just
• 4:19
  working
• 4:19
  on
• 4:20
  that.
• 4:20
  It's
• 4:21
  working
• 4:21
  on
• 4:21
  that
• 4:21
  in
• 4:22
  the
• 4:22
  background.
• 4:22
  It's
• 4:23
  how
• 4:23
  it's
• 4:23
  designed.
• 4:24
  It
• 4:24
  is
• 4:25
  your
• 4:25
  survival
• 4:25
  brain.
• 4:26
  It
• 4:26
  is
• 4:26
  trying
• 4:26
  to
• 4:27
  you
• 4:27
  safe.
• 4:28
  And
• 4:28
  so
• 4:28
  if
• 4:28
  it
• 4:28
  identifies
• 4:29
  danger,
• 4:30
  even
• 4:30
  though
• 4:31
  technically
• 4:31
  you
• 4:32
  are
• 4:32
  quite
• 4:32
  safe,
• 4:33
  but
• 4:33
  if
• 4:33
  it
• 4:33
  sees
• 4:34
  danger,
• 4:34
  like
• 4:34
  there's
• 4:35
  something
• 4:35
  going
• 4:35
  wrong
• 4:35
  in
• 4:36
  your
• 4:36
  work
• 4:36
  or
• 4:36
  your
• 4:36
  relationship
• 4:37
  or
• 4:37
  with
• 4:37
  yourself,
• 4:38
  it
• 4:39
  is
• 4:39
  going
• 4:39
  to
• 4:39
  continue
• 4:40
  to
• 4:40
  collect
• 4:41
  that
• 4:41
  in
• 4:41
  the
• 4:41
  background.
• 4:42
  And
• 4:42
  so
• 4:42
  when
• 4:42
  we're
• 4:43
  journaling,
• 4:43
  when
• 4:43
  we're
• 4:44
  reinforcing
• 4:44
  this
• 4:45
  line
• 4:45
  of
• 4:45
  thinking,
• 4:46
  we
• 4:47
  involuntarily
• 4:49
  give
• 4:50
  it
• 4:50
  the
• 4:50
  job
• 4:51
  to
• 4:51
  find
• 4:52
  more
• 4:52
  of
• 4:52
  it,
• 4:53
  and
• 4:53
  it's
• 4:53
  just
• 4:54
  not
• 4:54
  effective.
• 4:56
  What
• 4:56
  I
• 4:56
  know
• 4:57
  for
• 4:57
  certain
• 4:58
  is
• 4:58
  that
• 4:58
  if
• 4:58
  you're
• 4:58
  looking
• 4:58
  at
• 4:59
  mantras
• 4:59
  or
• 4:59
  you're
• 5:00
  looking
• 5:00
  at
• 5:00
  journaling,
• 5:01
  neither
• 5:01
  of
• 5:02
  these
• 5:02
  tools
• 5:02
  actually
• 5:03
  changes
• 5:04
  your
• 5:04
  beliefs.
• 5:06
  And
• 5:06
  if
• 5:06
  your
• 5:06
  beliefs
• 5:07
  don't
• 5:07
  change,
• 5:08
  then
• 5:08
  your
• 5:08
  patterns
• 5:09
  don't
• 5:09
  change,
• 5:10
  which
• 5:10
  means
• 5:11
  your
• 5:11
  life
• 5:11
  doesn't
• 5:12
  change.
• 5:13
  And
• 5:13
  in
• 5:13
  fact,
• 5:13
  your
• 5:14
  patterns,
• 5:15
  the
• 5:15
  really
• 5:16
  painful
• 5:17
  ones
• 5:17
  especially,
• 5:18
  they
• 5:18
  get
• 5:19
  reinforced.
• 5:19
  And
• 5:20
  over
• 5:20
  time,
• 5:20
  it
• 5:20
  starts
• 5:21
  to
• 5:21
  feel
• 5:21
  like
• 5:22
  the
• 5:22
  this
• 5:22
  is
• 5:23
  just
• 5:23
  who
• 5:23
  I
• 5:24
  am.
• 5:24
  I'm
• 5:25
  scattered.
• 5:26
  I
• 5:26
  don't
• 5:26
  know
• 5:26
  what
• 5:27
  I'm
• 5:27
  doing.
• 5:27
  I'm
• 5:28
  anxious,
• 5:28
  I'm
• 5:29
  depressed.
• 5:30
  People
• 5:30
  don't
• 5:30
  like
• 5:31
  me.
• 5:31
  I
• 5:31
  don't
• 5:31
  have
• 5:32
  what
• 5:32
  it
• 5:32
  takes.
• 5:33
  I'm
• 5:33
  not
• 5:33
  the
• 5:34
  kind
• 5:34
  of
• 5:34
  person
• 5:34
  who
• 5:35
  fill
• 5:36
  in
• 5:36
  the
• 5:36
  blanks,
• 5:37
  goes
• 5:37
  for
• 5:37
  what
• 5:37
  she
• 5:38
  Wants
• 5:38
  cares
• 5:39
  about
• 5:39
  her
• 5:39
  career,
• 5:40
  is
• 5:40
  looking
• 5:40
  for
• 5:41
  a
• 5:41
  real
• 5:41
  satisfying
• 5:42
  relationship,
• 5:43
  has
• 5:43
  the
• 5:43
  ability
• 5:44
  to
• 5:44
  have
• 5:44
  a
• 5:44
  sexually
• 5:45
  satisfying
• 5:45
  marriage.
• 5:46
  We
• 5:47
  just
• 5:47
  say
• 5:48
  these
• 5:48
  things
• 5:48
  and
• 5:48
  they
• 5:49
  feel
• 5:49
  like
• 5:49
  the
• 5:50
  truth.
• 5:51
  So
• 5:51
  what
• 5:51
  I
• 5:52
  want
• 5:52
  to
• 5:52
  do
• 5:53
  is
• 5:53
  put
• 5:54
  you
• 5:54
  in
• 5:54
  a
• 5:54
  place
• 5:54
  where
• 5:55
  you
• 5:55
  are
• 5:55
  not
• 5:56
  reinforcing
• 5:56
  these
• 5:57
  patterns.
• 5:58
  Instead,
• 5:58
  what
• 5:59
  I'm
• 5:59
  going
• 5:59
  to
• 5:59
  offer
• 5:59
  you
• 5:59
  is
• 6:00
  something
• 6:00
  very
• 6:00
  different
• 6:01
  and
• 6:02
  it
• 6:03
  is
• 6:03
  a
• 6:03
  little
• 6:03
  confronting
• 6:04
  and
• 6:04
  it
• 6:05
  might
• 6:05
  feel
• 6:05
  more
• 6:06
  uncomfortable.
• 6:07
  But
• 6:07
  what
• 6:07
  I
• 6:08
  want
• 6:08
  you
• 6:08
  to
• 6:08
  know
• 6:08
  is
• 6:08
  you're
• 6:09
  already
• 6:09
  uncomfortable.
• 6:10
  So
• 6:10
  what
• 6:11
  I'm
• 6:11
  going
• 6:11
  to
• 6:11
  ask
• 6:11
  you
• 6:11
  is
• 6:12
  what
• 6:12
  if
• 6:12
  you
• 6:12
  tried
• 6:13
  on
• 6:13
  a
• 6:13
  different
• 6:14
  kind
• 6:14
  of
• 6:14
  discomfort?
• 6:16
  Now,
• 6:17
  it's
• 6:17
  very
• 6:18
  normal
• 6:19
  to
• 6:19
  not
• 6:19
  want
• 6:20
  to
• 6:20
  move
• 6:20
  in
• 6:20
  this
• 6:20
  direction.
• 6:22
  And
• 6:22
  it
• 6:22
  won't
• 6:22
  like.
• 6:24
  Won't
• 6:24
  like
• 6:24
  a
• 6:25
  different
• 6:25
  approach.
• 6:26
  So
• 6:26
  it
• 6:27
  will
• 6:27
  often
• 6:27
  offer
• 6:27
  you,
• 6:28
  this
• 6:28
  won't
• 6:28
  work
• 6:28
  for
• 6:29
  me,
• 6:29
  or
• 6:29
  I've
• 6:30
  already
• 6:30
  tried
• 6:30
  this,
• 6:31
  but
• 6:31
  I
• 6:32
  want
• 6:32
  you
• 6:32
  to
• 6:32
  know
• 6:32
  that
• 6:32
  you
• 6:33
  haven't.
• 6:34
  And
• 6:34
  also
• 6:34
  it's
• 6:34
  normal
• 6:35
  for
• 6:35
  your
• 6:35
  brain
• 6:35
  to
• 6:36
  want
• 6:36
  to
• 6:36
  stay
• 6:36
  with
• 6:36
  what's
• 6:37
  familiar.
• 6:38
  It
• 6:38
  wants
• 6:38
  you
• 6:38
  to
• 6:39
  stay
• 6:39
  in
• 6:39
  that
• 6:40
  survival
• 6:40
  cave.
• 6:41
  It
• 6:41
  wants
• 6:41
  you
• 6:41
  to
• 6:42
  be
• 6:42
  in
• 6:42
  the
• 6:42
  cave.
• 6:43
  But
• 6:45
  if
• 6:45
  you
• 6:45
  stay
• 6:45
  in
• 6:45
  the
• 6:46
  cave,
• 6:46
  if
• 6:46
  you're
• 6:47
  staying
• 6:47
  with
• 6:48
  familiar,
• 6:49
  it's
• 6:49
  always
• 6:50
  just
• 6:50
  going
• 6:50
  to
• 6:50
  bring
• 6:50
  you
• 6:51
  more
• 6:51
  of
• 6:51
  the
• 6:51
  same.
• 6:52
  And
• 6:53
  what
• 6:53
  I
• 6:53
  really
• 6:54
  need
• 6:54
  you
• 6:54
  to
• 6:54
  know
• 6:55
  is
• 6:55
  that
• 6:56
  you
• 6:56
  are
• 6:57
  powerful.
• 6:58
  You
• 6:59
  can
• 6:59
  change
• 6:59
  your
• 6:59
  life,
• 7:00
  you
• 7:01
  can
• 7:01
  change
• 7:01
  the
• 7:02
  way
• 7:02
  you
• 7:02
  think
• 7:03
  if
• 7:04
  you
• 7:04
  start
• 7:04
  asking
• 7:05
  yourself
• 7:05
  better
• 7:06
  questions.
• 7:08
  So
• 7:08
  instead
• 7:08
  of
• 7:09
  telling
• 7:09
  yourself
• 7:10
  what
• 7:10
  to
• 7:10
  think
• 7:11
  with
• 7:11
  the
• 7:11
  mantra
• 7:12
  or
• 7:12
  writing
• 7:13
  down
• 7:13
  all
• 7:13
  the
• 7:13
  things
• 7:14
  you're
• 7:14
  worried
• 7:14
  about
• 7:15
  or
• 7:15
  thinking
• 7:15
  already,
• 7:17
  what
• 7:17
  I'd
• 7:17
  like
• 7:17
  you
• 7:17
  to
• 7:18
  do
• 7:18
  is
• 7:18
  to
• 7:18
  start
• 7:19
  asking
• 7:19
  better
• 7:20
  questions.
• 7:21
  What
• 7:21
  if
• 7:22
  what
• 7:23
  I
• 7:23
  believe
• 7:23
  right
• 7:23
  now
• 7:24
  isn't
• 7:25
  actually
• 7:26
  the
• 7:26
  truth?
• 7:27
  What
• 7:27
  would
• 7:27
  I
• 7:28
  think
• 7:28
  if
• 7:29
  I
• 7:29
  didn't
• 7:29
  believe
• 7:30
  that
• 7:30
  this
• 7:30
  was
• 7:31
  true?
• 7:32
  What
• 7:32
  would
• 7:32
  be
• 7:32
  possible
• 7:34
  if
• 7:34
  I
• 7:34
  believed
• 7:35
  I
• 7:35
  was
• 7:36
  good
• 7:36
  enough?
• 7:37
  What
• 7:37
  would
• 7:37
  be
• 7:38
  possible
• 7:38
  if
• 7:38
  I
• 7:38
  believed
• 7:39
  I
• 7:39
  was
• 7:40
  smart
• 7:40
  enough?
• 7:41
  What
• 7:42
  would
• 7:42
  be
• 7:42
  possible
• 7:42
  if
• 7:43
  I
• 7:43
  believed
• 7:44
  I
• 7:44
  was
• 7:44
  pretty
• 7:45
  enough?
• 7:46
  How
• 7:46
  would
• 7:46
  I
• 7:46
  show
• 7:47
  up
• 7:47
  if
• 7:47
  I
• 7:47
  believed
• 7:47
  people
• 7:48
  loved
• 7:48
  and
• 7:48
  accepted
• 7:49
  me
• 7:49
  all
• 7:50
  the
• 7:50
  time?
• 7:51
  What
• 7:51
  would
• 7:51
  I
• 7:52
  say?
• 7:53
  How
• 7:53
  would
• 7:53
  I
• 7:53
  react?
• 7:55
  What
• 7:55
  would
• 7:55
  I
• 7:55
  say
• 7:56
  no
• 7:56
  to?
• 7:57
  What
• 7:57
  would
• 7:57
  I
• 7:58
  say
• 7:58
  yes
• 7:58
  to?
• 7:59
  Let's
• 8:00
  really
• 8:00
  talk
• 8:00
  about
• 8:00
  that
• 8:01
  for
• 8:01
  a
• 8:01
  minute.
• 8:02
  If
• 8:02
  you
• 8:03
  went
• 8:03
  for
• 8:03
  a
• 8:03
  job
• 8:03
  interview
• 8:04
  and
• 8:04
  you
• 8:04
  were
• 8:05
  feeling
• 8:05
  scared
• 8:05
  and
• 8:06
  intimidated
• 8:06
  and
• 8:07
  you
• 8:07
  were
• 8:07
  worried
• 8:07
  you
• 8:08
  were
• 8:08
  not
• 8:08
  going
• 8:08
  to
• 8:08
  be
• 8:08
  picked
• 8:09
  for
• 8:09
  the
• 8:09
  role,
• 8:10
  what
• 8:10
  would
• 8:11
  you
• 8:11
  need
• 8:11
  to
• 8:11
  think
• 8:11
  about
• 8:12
  yourself
• 8:13
  to
• 8:13
  see
• 8:13
  yourself
• 8:14
  as
• 8:14
  qualified?
• 8:16
  Even
• 8:16
  if
• 8:16
  you
• 8:17
  don't
• 8:17
  meet
• 8:18
  all
• 8:18
  the
• 8:18
  job
• 8:18
  requirements,
• 8:20
  what
• 8:20
  makes
• 8:20
  you
• 8:21
  uniquely
• 8:21
  qualified
• 8:22
  for
• 8:22
  this
• 8:22
  role?
• 8:23
  Especially
• 8:25
  because
• 8:25
  you
• 8:25
  don't
• 8:25
  have
• 8:26
  all
• 8:26
  the
• 8:26
  requirements,
• 8:27
  what
• 8:28
  part
• 8:28
  of
• 8:28
  your
• 8:28
  personality
• 8:30
  makes
• 8:30
  you
• 8:31
  the
• 8:31
  perfect
• 8:31
  fit
• 8:32
  for
• 8:32
  this
• 8:32
  role
• 8:33
  that
• 8:33
  they
• 8:33
  might
• 8:33
  not
• 8:34
  even
• 8:34
  know
• 8:34
  yet?
• 8:35
  Why
• 8:36
  are
• 8:36
  you
• 8:36
  the
• 8:36
  better
• 8:37
  candidate
• 8:38
  no
• 8:38
  matter
• 8:38
  who
• 8:39
  applies?
• 8:40
  How
• 8:40
  is
• 8:40
  it
• 8:41
  true
• 8:41
  that
• 8:41
  you
• 8:41
  were
• 8:42
  the
• 8:42
  perfect
• 8:42
  person
• 8:42
  for
• 8:43
  this
• 8:43
  role,
• 8:44
  but
• 8:44
  if
• 8:44
  you
• 8:44
  don't
• 8:45
  get
• 8:45
  it,
• 8:45
  your
• 8:46
  life
• 8:46
  will
• 8:46
  actually
• 8:47
  be
• 8:47
  better
• 8:47
  for
• 8:48
  it.
• 8:48
  If
• 8:49
  you
• 8:49
  were
• 8:49
  to
• 8:50
  write
• 8:50
  the
• 8:50
  answer
• 8:51
  to
• 8:51
  all
• 8:51
  of
• 8:51
  these
• 8:51
  questions,
• 8:53
  you
• 8:53
  would
• 8:53
  open
• 8:53
  up
• 8:54
  a
• 8:54
  whole
• 8:54
  new
• 8:54
  emotional
• 8:55
  world.
• 8:56
  And
• 8:56
  then
• 8:56
  after,
• 8:58
  you
• 8:58
  can
• 8:58
  ask
• 8:59
  yourself,
• 9:00
  if
• 9:00
  I
• 9:00
  believed
• 9:01
  all
• 9:01
  of
• 9:01
  this,
• 9:02
  how
• 9:02
  would
• 9:02
  I
• 9:02
  show
• 9:02
  up
• 9:03
  differently
• 9:03
  to
• 9:03
  this
• 9:03
  interview?
• 9:04
  What
• 9:05
  kind
• 9:05
  of
• 9:05
  confidence
• 9:06
  would
• 9:06
  I
• 9:06
  bring
• 9:06
  with
• 9:07
  me?
• 9:07
  And
• 9:07
  how
• 9:07
  would
• 9:07
  that
• 9:08
  positively
• 9:08
  affect
• 9:09
  the
• 9:09
  outcome?
• 9:10
  How
• 9:11
  would
• 9:11
  this
• 9:11
  positively
• 9:12
  reframe
• 9:13
  the
• 9:13
  rest
• 9:13
  of
• 9:14
  my
• 9:14
  job
• 9:14
  hunt?
• 9:15
  It's
• 9:15
  a
• 9:16
  win
• 9:16
  win
• 9:16
  situation.
• 9:17
  This
• 9:18
  process
• 9:18
  creates
• 9:19
  hope
• 9:19
  and
• 9:20
  possibility
• 9:20
  in
• 9:21
  a
• 9:21
  way
• 9:21
  that
• 9:21
  you
• 9:22
  can
• 9:22
  truly
• 9:23
  feel
• 9:23
  it,
• 9:23
  which
• 9:24
  is
• 9:24
  essential.
• 9:25
  You
• 9:25
  could
• 9:25
  take
• 9:25
  all
• 9:26
  of
• 9:26
  these
• 9:26
  questions
• 9:26
  and
• 9:27
  apply
• 9:27
  them
• 9:27
  towards
• 9:28
  dating,
• 9:29
  towards
• 9:30
  your
• 9:30
  marriage,
• 9:31
  towards
• 9:32
  your
• 9:32
  friendships,
• 9:33
  and
• 9:34
  it
• 9:34
  is
• 9:34
  going
• 9:34
  to
• 9:35
  change
• 9:35
  the
• 9:35
  way
• 9:35
  that
• 9:36
  you
• 9:36
  show
• 9:36
  up.
• 9:37
  And
• 9:37
  when
• 9:37
  we
• 9:38
  change
• 9:38
  the
• 9:38
  way
• 9:38
  that
• 9:38
  we
• 9:39
  show
• 9:39
  up,
• 9:39
  we
• 9:40
  change
• 9:40
  our
• 9:40
  life.
• 9:41
  This
• 9:41
  is
• 9:42
  more
• 9:42
  than
• 9:43
  just
• 9:43
  the
• 9:44
  universe
• 9:44
  hearing
• 9:45
  you.
• 9:45
  This
• 9:45
  is
• 9:46
  you
• 9:46
  hearing
• 9:47
  you.
• 9:47
  This
• 9:48
  is
• 9:48
  more
• 9:49
  than
• 9:49
  positive
• 9:50
  thinking.
• 9:50
  It's
• 9:51
  asking
• 9:51
  yourself
• 9:52
  the
• 9:52
  right
• 9:52
  questions
• 9:53
  when
• 9:53
  your
• 9:54
  brain
• 9:54
  wants
• 9:54
  to
• 9:54
  shut
• 9:55
  you
• 9:55
  down
• 9:55
  with
• 9:55
  fear.
• 9:57
  Yes,
• 9:57
  when
• 9:57
  we
• 9:57
  do
• 9:57
  this,
• 9:57
  we
• 9:57
  are
• 9:58
  working
• 9:58
  against
• 9:58
  our
• 9:58
  biology.
• 9:59
  So
• 10:00
  yes,
• 10:00
  it
• 10:00
  takes
• 10:01
  effort,
• 10:02
  but
• 10:02
  it
• 10:02
  does
• 10:03
  get
• 10:03
  easier
• 10:03
  with
• 10:03
  time
• 10:04
  and
• 10:04
  practice
• 10:05
  and
• 10:05
  everyone
• 10:06
  can
• 10:06
  do
• 10:06
  it.
• 10:07
  I
• 10:08
  will
• 10:08
  always
• 10:08
  argue
• 10:09
  that
• 10:09
  you
• 10:10
  already
• 10:10
  use
• 10:11
  a
• 10:11
  lot
• 10:11
  of
• 10:11
  effort
• 10:12
  to
• 10:13
  try
• 10:14
  and
• 10:14
  stop
• 10:14
  feeling
• 10:15
  bad.
• 10:16
  What
• 10:16
  if
• 10:16
  we
• 10:16
  took
• 10:17
  that
• 10:17
  effort
• 10:17
  and
• 10:17
  took
• 10:18
  that
• 10:18
  energy
• 10:18
  and
• 10:18
  placed
• 10:19
  it
• 10:19
  elsewhere?
• 10:20
  Imagine
• 10:21
  what
• 10:21
  you
• 10:21
  could
• 10:21
  create.
• 10:23
  The
• 10:23
  truth
• 10:23
  is
• 10:23
  you
• 10:24
  don't
• 10:24
  need
• 10:24
  someone
• 10:24
  telling
• 10:25
  you
• 10:25
  what
• 10:25
  to
• 10:25
  say.
• 10:26
  You
• 10:26
  need
• 10:27
  someone
• 10:27
  showing
• 10:27
  you
• 10:28
  how
• 10:28
  to
• 10:28
  ask
• 10:28
  your
• 10:28
  brain
• 10:29
  great
• 10:30
  questions.
• 10:31
  You
• 10:31
  must
• 10:32
  learn
• 10:33
  how
• 10:33
  to
• 10:33
  question
• 10:34
  your
• 10:34
  thoughts.
• 10:35
  This
• 10:35
  is
• 10:35
  a
• 10:36
  skill.
• 10:36
  It's
• 10:37
  not
• 10:37
  that
• 10:37
  you
• 10:37
  don't
• 10:38
  already
• 10:38
  know
• 10:38
  how
• 10:38
  to
• 10:39
  think
• 10:39
  positively,
• 10:40
  you
• 10:40
  absolutely
• 10:41
  do.
• 10:42
  It's
• 10:42
  that
• 10:42
  nothing
• 10:43
  is
• 10:43
  actually
• 10:43
  shifting
• 10:44
  underneath
• 10:44
  because
• 10:45
  you're
• 10:45
  not
• 10:45
  asking
• 10:46
  yourself
• 10:46
  the
• 10:47
  right
• 10:47
  questions.
• 10:48
  I
• 10:48
  want
• 10:49
  to
• 10:49
  give
• 10:49
  you
• 10:49
  a
• 10:49
  couple
• 10:49
  examples.
• 10:50
  So
• 10:50
  I'm
• 10:51
  working
• 10:52
  at
• 10:52
  the
• 10:52
  end
• 10:52
  of
• 10:52
  my
• 10:52
  one
• 10:52
  to
• 10:53
  one
• 10:53
  coaching
• 10:53
  contract
• 10:54
  with
• 10:54
  two
• 10:54
  clients
• 10:55
  that
• 10:55
  started
• 10:55
  with
• 10:55
  me
• 10:56
  in
• 10:56
  January.
• 10:56
  And
• 10:57
  I
• 10:57
  have
• 10:57
  to
• 10:57
  tell
• 10:58
  you
• 10:58
  that
• 10:58
  the
• 10:58
  transformations
• 10:59
  have
• 10:59
  been
• 11:00
  incredible.
• 11:01
  I
• 11:01
  talked
• 11:01
  to
• 11:01
  both
• 11:02
  of
• 11:02
  these
• 11:02
  clients
• 11:02
  today.
• 11:03
  One
• 11:03
  of
• 11:03
  them
• 11:04
  was
• 11:04
  telling
• 11:04
  me
• 11:05
  how
• 11:05
  she's
• 11:05
  been
• 11:06
  going
• 11:06
  through
• 11:06
  a
• 11:06
  particularly
• 11:07
  painful
• 11:08
  few
• 11:09
  weeks
• 11:10
  and
• 11:10
  two
• 11:11
  of
• 11:11
  the
• 11:11
  really
• 11:11
  painful
• 11:12
  things
• 11:12
  that
• 11:12
  are
• 11:12
  happening
• 11:13
  is
• 11:13
  that
• 11:13
  two
• 11:13
  of
• 11:13
  her
• 11:14
  dear
• 11:14
  friends
• 11:15
  are
• 11:15
  terminally
• 11:16
  ill
• 11:17
  and
• 11:17
  she
• 11:17
  was
• 11:17
  having
• 11:18
  a
• 11:18
  hell
• 11:18
  of
• 11:19
  a
• 11:19
  time
• 11:19
  falling
• 11:20
  asleep
• 11:20
  after
• 11:20
  visiting
• 11:21
  them
• 11:21
  both.
• 11:22
  And
• 11:22
  she
• 11:22
  just
• 11:23
  asked
• 11:23
  herself,
• 11:24
  what
• 11:24
  do
• 11:24
  I
• 11:24
  need
• 11:25
  in
• 11:25
  this
• 11:25
  moment?
• 11:26
  And
• 11:26
  her
• 11:26
  brain
• 11:27
  said,
• 11:27
  sleep.
• 11:27
  And
• 11:28
  she
• 11:28
  went
• 11:28
  to
• 11:28
  sleep.
• 11:29
  And
• 11:29
  that
• 11:30
  is
• 11:30
  huge
• 11:31
  because
• 11:31
  it's
• 11:31
  no
• 11:31
  drama,
• 11:32
  no
• 11:32
  sleeping
• 11:33
  pills.
• 11:33
  She
• 11:34
  knows
• 11:34
  the
• 11:34
  questions
• 11:35
  to
• 11:35
  ask
• 11:35
  herself
• 11:36
  to
• 11:36
  get
• 11:36
  her
• 11:37
  through
• 11:37
  Another
• 11:38
  one
• 11:38
  of
• 11:38
  my
• 11:38
  clients
• 11:39
  told
• 11:39
  me
• 11:39
  that
• 11:40
  she
• 11:40
  Just
• 11:40
  doesn't
• 11:41
  feel
• 11:41
  anxious
• 11:41
  anymore.
• 11:42
  She
• 11:42
  feels
• 11:43
  calm
• 11:43
  and
• 11:43
  peaceful.
• 11:44
  And
• 11:44
  her
• 11:44
  family
• 11:44
  has
• 11:45
  even
• 11:45
  commented
• 11:46
  on
• 11:46
  how
• 11:46
  different
• 11:46
  she
• 11:47
  is.
• 11:47
  Her
• 11:48
  life
• 11:48
  is
• 11:48
  forever
• 11:49
  changed
• 11:49
  because
• 11:50
  she
• 11:50
  learned
• 11:50
  this
• 11:51
  skill.
• 11:52
  Now,
• 11:52
  both
• 11:52
  of
• 11:52
  these
• 11:53
  women
• 11:53
  are
• 11:54
  seniors,
• 11:55
  so
• 11:55
  what
• 11:55
  I
• 11:55
  want
• 11:56
  you
• 11:56
  to
• 11:56
  know
• 11:56
  is
• 11:56
  that
• 11:56
  it's
• 11:57
  not
• 11:57
  too
• 11:57
  late.
• 11:58
  These
• 11:58
  women
• 11:58
  are
• 11:59
  brilliant.
• 11:59
  They
• 11:59
  have
• 12:00
  done
• 12:00
  therapy.
• 12:00
  They
• 12:00
  have
• 12:01
  done
• 12:01
  the
• 12:01
  whole
• 12:02
  self
• 12:02
  help
• 12:02
  circuit.
• 12:04
  But
• 12:04
  this
• 12:04
  work
• 12:05
  right
• 12:05
  here,
• 12:05
  this
• 12:06
  is
• 12:06
  what
• 12:06
  has
• 12:06
  made
• 12:07
  all
• 12:07
  the
• 12:07
  difference.
• 12:08
  This
• 12:08
  is
• 12:09
  the
• 12:09
  work
• 12:09
  that
• 12:10
  creates
• 12:11
  real
• 12:11
  change,
• 12:12
  real
• 12:13
  empowerment,
• 12:13
  real
• 12:14
  confidence,
• 12:15
  a
• 12:16
  true,
• 12:17
  buildable
• 12:18
  sense
• 12:18
  of
• 12:19
  peace.
• 12:19
  It's
• 12:20
  not
• 12:20
  forced,
• 12:21
  it's
• 12:21
  built.
• 12:22
  And
• 12:22
  if
• 12:22
  you're
• 12:23
  listening
• 12:23
  to
• 12:23
  this
• 12:23
  and
• 12:23
  you're
• 12:24
  realizing,
• 12:25
  oh,
• 12:26
  this
• 12:26
  is
• 12:26
  what's
• 12:27
  been
• 12:27
  missing,
• 12:28
  then
• 12:28
  the
• 12:28
  next
• 12:29
  step
• 12:29
  isn't
• 12:29
  more
• 12:30
  journaling.
• 12:30
  It's
• 12:31
  learning
• 12:31
  how
• 12:32
  to
• 12:32
  actually
• 12:33
  do
• 12:33
  this.
• 12:34
  This
• 12:35
  is
• 12:35
  exactly
• 12:35
  what
• 12:36
  I
• 12:36
  do
• 12:36
  with
• 12:36
  my
• 12:36
  clients.
• 12:37
  I
• 12:38
  help
• 12:38
  you
• 12:38
  take
• 12:38
  what's
• 12:39
  in
• 12:39
  your
• 12:39
  head
• 12:40
  and
• 12:40
  actually
• 12:40
  shift
• 12:41
  it
• 12:41
  in
• 12:41
  a
• 12:41
  way
• 12:42
  that
• 12:42
  feels
• 12:42
  real
• 12:43
  and
• 12:43
  sustainable.
• 12:44
  So
• 12:45
  if
• 12:45
  you
• 12:45
  want
• 12:45
  help
• 12:45
  with
• 12:45
  this,
• 12:46
  if
• 12:46
  you
• 12:46
  want
• 12:47
  someone
• 12:47
  to
• 12:47
  actually
• 12:47
  walk
• 12:48
  you
• 12:48
  through
• 12:48
  it,
• 12:49
  you
• 12:49
  can
• 12:49
  book
• 12:49
  a
• 12:50
  call
• 12:50
  with
• 12:50
  me.
• 12:51
  Let's
• 12:51
  ask
• 12:52
  your
• 12:52
  brain
• 12:52
  some
• 12:53
  new
• 12:53
  questions
• 12:54
  and
• 12:54
  explore
• 12:54
  what
• 12:55
  pops
• 12:55
  out.
• 12:56
  You
• 12:56
  could
• 12:56
  be
• 12:57
  really
• 12:57
  delighted.
• 12:58
  Go
• 12:58
  to
• 12:58
  Amanda
• 12:59
  Hess
• 13:02
  Bookacall
• 13:03
  to
• 13:03
  set
• 13:03
  it
• 13:03
  up.
• 13:04
  You
• 13:04
  and
• 13:04
  me
• 13:05
  on
• 13:05
  Zoom.
• 13:05
  Let's
• 13:06
  talk
• 13:06
  about
• 13:06
  it.
• 13:07
  All
• 13:07
  right,
• 13:07
  my
• 13:07
  friends,
• 13:08
  that's
• 13:08
  what
• 13:08
  I've
• 13:08
  got
• 13:08
  for
• 13:09
  today.
• 13:09
  I
• 13:09
  think
• 13:09
  this
• 13:09
  is
• 13:10
  a
• 13:10
  really
• 13:10
  powerful
• 13:11
  episode.
• 13:11
  I
• 13:11
  hope
• 13:12
  you
• 13:12
  loved
• 13:12
  it.
• 13:13
  If
• 13:13
  you
• 13:13
  want
• 13:14
  to
• 13:14
  share
• 13:14
  your
• 13:14
  feedback,
• 13:15
  come
• 13:15
  over
• 13:15
  to
• 13:16
  theamandahess
• 13:17
  on
• 13:17
  Instagram
• 13:18
  or
• 13:18
  TikTok.
• 13:18
  You
• 13:19
  can
• 13:19
  DM
• 13:19
  me.
• 13:20
  I'd
• 13:20
  love
• 13:20
  to
• 13:20
  chat
• 13:21
  with
• 13:21
  you.
• 13:21
  Otherwise,
• 13:21
  I'll
• 13:22
  see
• 13:22
  you
• 13:22
  next
• 13:22
  time.
• 13:22
  Bye
• 13:23
  for
• 13:23
  now.
• 13:25
  Thanks
• 13:26
  so
• 13:26
  much
• 13:26
  for
• 13:26
  listening
• 13:27
  today.
• 13:27
  If
• 13:28
  this
• 13:28
  podcast
• 13:28
  is
• 13:29
  helping
• 13:29
  you,
• 13:29
  please
• 13:29
  follow
• 13:30
  wherever
• 13:30
  you
• 13:30
  listen
• 13:31
  and
• 13:31
  consider.
• 13:32
  Consider
• 13:32
  leaving
• 13:32
  a
• 13:32
  review.
• 13:33
  It
• 13:33
  truly
• 13:33
  helps
• 13:34
  this
• 13:34
  community
• 13:34
  grow
• 13:35
  and
• 13:35
  allows
• 13:35
  me
• 13:36
  to
• 13:36
  support
• 13:36
  more
• 13:37
  women
• 13:37
  like
• 13:38
  you.
• 13:39
  I'm
• 13:39
  excited
• 13:39
  to
• 13:40
  see
• 13:40
  you
• 13:40
  back
• 13:40
  here
• 13:40
  next
• 13:41
  week
• 13:41
  with
• 13:41
  a
• 13:41
  brand
• 13:41
  new
• 13:42
  episode.
• 13:43
  Until
• 13:43
  then,
• 13:44
  take
• 13:44
  care,
• 13:44
  friend.