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148. You Matter Most · Your Enriched Self

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  Hey, Francis, is the routine check in to make sure that you are
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  making time to look for moments to be grateful. Now, this week,
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  I want to do things a little bit different, And this week I want
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  you to take five minutes and journal in that time. And here's a journal
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  prompt for you. What can I do to take better care of myself?
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  I'll repeat it, What can I do to take better care of myself?
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  I think that's a great reflection question, and it's a great opportunity to spend
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  time not just understanding what you're doing today, but what you can do better.
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  I think we're in a space in our lives where it's important to be
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  open to doing things differently, but definitely doing things better enriching our lives.
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  So I want you to take some time today after this episode or even now,
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  just pause the episode and just spend five minutes. Set your alarm for
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  five minutes, and spend that five minutes just journaling what you can do to
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  take better care of yourself. Because if you're not asking that question of yourself,
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  and if you're not defining that, then who is who are you leaving
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  that question? That definition, that answer? Who are you leaving that up
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  to personally, I don't want to take that chance. I don't want to
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  leave the definition of what my care plan needs to be in the hands of
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  someone else, and I certainly don't want that for you. Hello, my
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  friends from all across the globe, and welcome to the Your Race of podcast.
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  I am your host, my Lee Noir. I am a mindset coach
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  and your mind said advocate. And what that means is I've created this space
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  each and every week for us to talk about mindset fusion topics because I know
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  that you're busy. I know that life is happening. I know there's expectations,
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  I know there are things you're responsible for. And when do you have
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  a moment? When do you take a moment? When are you making time
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  for you to pause? Because I know that everything you do starts with a
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  thought, a seed that was planted, and that thought then inspired the words
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  that you use, and those words become the action and the activity that you
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  do when you show up in the world. And if you are listening to
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  this podcast, I believe that you want to be the best version of yourself,
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  and the only way that's going to happen is to start with managing your
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  thoughts, and that's what this is all about. That's why I curate the
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  space, and I want you to be here each week to show up for
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  yourself. And so if you're a new list I want to welcome you to
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  the podcast. Welcome to your Enriched Self family. I know that you were
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  brought here on purpose, for a purpose, and I want to thank you
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  for being here. And if you are a repeating listener, listen. We
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  We are celebrating episode one hundred and forty eight. We've been doing this for
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  one hundred and forty eight weeks, and you you have been a big part
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  and sharing this podcast with your friends and family. And we're going to have
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  a great time with our one hundred and fiftieth episode celebration. So stay tuned
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  to this podcast and to my Instagram for more details on what's coming next.
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  We're doing a live celebration and I want each and every one of you there,
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  so stay tuned for that now before we get into this week's podcast,
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  if you know you know, each and every week, I make a deposit
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  into the bank of you, and I do that by way of affirmations.
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  Affirmations are a great way to start your day and to command your mourning.
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  And this week's affirmation is I choose myself. I choose myself. I choose
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  myself. Now let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self
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  podcast. So this week's affirmation is quite simple. I choose myself. And
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  if it sounds odd, it's because you are probably likely not used to letting
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  those words flow from your lips or allowing those thoughts to enter your mind.
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  I've been hearing so much lately and it has me triggered. I will say
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  I had a conversation with a coworker recently and I had a completely different episode
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  to talk a lot. But this episode is really sitting on my heart heavy
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  and we've got to make some changes. I need you to tune in,
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  tap in, and turn on this episode in your heart and in your mind
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  because the changes have got to be made. So in conversation with a coworker,
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  she let me know that one of her friends told her that her boss
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  just recently died right after the holiday. We just got through a holiday weekend.
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  Some of us are coming back, going back to work after three five
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  days off, and this person lost her supervisor. And it was so interesting
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  to me. In that conversation, my coworker would go on to tell me
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  that this person's supervisor was busy trying to get work done, to trying to
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  keep up because they were dealing with a health crisis, and it broke my
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  heart. It broke something inside of me. I'm so emotional about this moment
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  because you hear about these random things, these moments where people are no longer
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  here. We have gotten into a culture where we stopped choosing ourselves. And
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  I'm not talking about selfish culture. I'm not talking about a culture where me
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  first and everybody else last. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking
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  about an intentional culture, an intentional internal thermometer, if you will, that
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  will allow you to assess oneself, assess yourself. And my question is,
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  why aren't you prioritizing you? Why is it that the first person to ring
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  you up and ask for help. You're ready to do whatever whenever. But
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  when it comes to prioritizing you, you're not even on your list some of
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  you, and for some of you, you're at the bottom of your list.
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  This woman, this person didn't have any more time, and the time
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  they did have available was spent trying to keep up with work. Do you
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  hear what that sounds like? To keep up with work? But we've got
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  to make a change. I need you to tune in. I need you
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  to share this with someone who is struggling to prioritize themselves. You've got to
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  get your own care plan. If you don't start asking yourselves, what am
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  I doing to take better care of myself? Who is asking that of you?
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  For you? Who is your advocate? You are your best advocate,
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  and it's time for you to take that responsibility. You know how to fill
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  every other role, You know how to show up for everybody else. What
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  about yourself? If you fill up every cup there is outside of you,
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  what's left in your cup? Some of you are and have broken cups.
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  So whatever is being poured into you in the essence of not taking care of
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  yourself, you haven't even fixed your cup. But the little that's poured in
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  that's not leaving because of this leak, You're willing to give it away.
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  And that sounds admirable, Listen, sounds admirable. But what's left for you?
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  How do you become the best version of yourself? How do you become
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  the version of yourself that can serve community, your community, your family,
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  the people that rely on you, the people that need you. This supervisor,
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  this individual, I'm sure had a family, I'm sure had loved ones,
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  but for whatever reason, work took precedence. We've got to stop this.
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  Our culture is falling away. And today I want to share with you
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  why I believe you aren't prioritizing you. The first thing, as I was
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  studying this as a reason why you may not be prioritizing you, is because
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  you are a slave to guilt. You have allowed and you are living under
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  this pretense that this guilt that you have is now kind of an invisible weight,
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  and it's hindering you. It's hindering your journey, it's hindering your path,
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  it's becoming a destructor of your destiny. You got to make room for
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  joy, You've got to make room for growth. You got to make room
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  to make deeper connections with other people. And you're not going to do that
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  if you're caught up in work, if you're caught up in things that aren't
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  helping you enrich yourself. So my question to you is who or what are
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  you enslaved to? Because whatever it is will it will put you living outside
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  of you. Living outside of you means you are struggling just to maintain and
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  to establish your footing on the path you're supposed to be on. Imagine you
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  aren't even able to walk on solid ground because you're enslaved to guilt. There's
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  some guilt of your past, some guilt of a belief system that makes you
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  think, probably made this individual think that I've got to get this work done.
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  What if you could change what you're chained to and start to find ways
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  to cultivate joy, find ways to remove the burdens from your life and not
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  allow this guilt to consume you, because that's exactly what it's doing. Another
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  reason why you may not be prioritizing you is because you are operating, and
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  we typically operate in our unconscious minds. There's an unconscious place about us that
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  we operate from And what I mean by that is think about how you naturally
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  respond to stressors in life, like if you go into work, or if
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  you're driving to work and there's traffic, you're going to work and there's like
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  an email and it's like in immediate you got to have this done by X
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  time and that wasn't on your calendar or your playbook for the day. And
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  what is your reaction? How do you react to that? And many of
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  us run on autopilot. Many of us run on autopilot or what we call
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  an automatic program. And the reason why it's automatic is because that's our go
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  to. What happens when you go to the go to is that it's intended
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  to preserve energy because you don't have to think about what else can I do?
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  You're just going to that go to space. But although it's saving energy,
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  is sabotaging self. And let me give you an example of one of
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  the famous go to phrases. Yes, I don't know if many of you
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  recall this, you probably do, or you've seen a meme or a jiff
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  of this. Some we're out in culture where Oprah gave away a car,
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  right, I can't remember what year she did this but the studio audience,
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  I think it was a holiday special Oprah's Favorite Things. I can't remember what
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  it was, but I do recall the season where Oprah gave a car and
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  she was saying, you get a car, and you get a car,
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  and you get a car. And although that's a funny meme and we make
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  light of it here and there, a lot of you are using that as
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  your automatic program, your automatic response. When somebody approaches you with something that
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  they would like for you to do, and you automatically said, you get
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  a yes. And then the next person comes and you get a yes,
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  And before you know it, you said yes to so many people, but
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  you never said yes to yourself. Your personal time is gone, your time
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  for thinking is gone, your quiet time is gone, your prayer time is
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  gone. You've sacrificed all those yeses for somebody else, and you have no
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  yes for yourself. So I don't know if you guys know this little fun
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  fact. So years later, after the Oprah Give car giveaway, it was
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  learned that these audience members who won the car also were responsible to pay the
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  taxes on the car, and it was in the thousands and thousands of dollars
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  a lot of these people weren't even in a financial position to pay that kind
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  of money. So yes, Sometimes the yes looks fancy, but on the
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  other side, it's taxing. And I just wonder how many places in your
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  life are you being taxed when you give your yes away. You may not
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  be financially taxed the way these people were, but you may be emotionally taxed.
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  You may be spiritually taxed. And all that does is it leaves you
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  drained and bankrupt and you can't do anything for yourself, and once again you
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  get the short end of the stick that can no longer happen. The third
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  reason why I believe that you aren't prioritizing yourself is because you have scattered thoughts.
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  And when you have scattered thoughts, it's hard to create strategy. It's
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  hard to know what your daily approach needs to be, what your weekly approach
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  needs to be, It's hard to come up with a plan for your life
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  for your day. Think about it like this, It's like trying to write
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  a map but not knowing the destination. You're already lost. You can't find
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  your way because you don't know the way, so you can't create the path
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  for the way. In other words, it's hard to go at this alone.
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  You're gonna need guidance. You're gonna need a community. Importantly, you're
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  gonna need a coach. You are gonna need to be under the tutelage of
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  someone because that someone can help you write the map. That someone can help
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  you peel back the layers to better understand the destination you need to get to.
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  Because now if you know the destination, you can come up with a
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  strategy on how to get there. That person's gonna help you navigate in such
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  a way that there's gonna be some turns on the road that you're gonna avoid.
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  You know why, because you're gonna have somebody right there to say,
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  don't make that turn. I already know what that road's gonna lead. Go
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  this way. Make sure when you see that decoy, when you see that
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  distraction, go past. Don't don't hit the stop sign, go past right.
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  So that's what needs to happen. It's hard to create strategy when you
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  don't know your destination, and so you may need to get a coach,
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  a life coach, a financial coach, whatever area in your life that you
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  are taxed out, you are maxed out. You're gonna have to find a
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  cult. You're gonna have to find someone who can help you have those conversations,
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  get to a place where you can navigate and get your mind clear so
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  you can have strategy on where you need to go. I hope this episode
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  was not just insights and information, but I hope it helped to transform something
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  about your thinking, something about how you are going to better take care of
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  yourself. I want to do a continuation to this particular episode, so next
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  week when we come back, we're gonna talk about how do you begin to
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  reprioritize yourself again? But for now, I want you to go back to
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  your journal prompt what can I do to better take care of myself? And
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  spend some time with that, not just writing it down, but making sure
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  you really understand what you need in this season, because again it changes from
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  season to season. It changes when life events change, which it changes because
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  you're changing, and that's okay. What's not okay is to not prioritize you.
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  I hope you enjoyed this week's episode of the Urine Ritsub Podcast. And
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  And finally, take what you can from this episode and do what you must
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  in the next one hundred and sixty eight hours so that you can become more
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  of your enriched self until we meet again.