The Same Damn Argument (Part 4 of 10) 10 Things That Can Make or Break Your Marriage

Long Haul Marriage Roadcast · Oct 6, 2026 · 48m · transcript

Have you ever had an argument with your spouse and halfway through thought, "Wait, we've had this exact argument 100 times!"?

In part 4 of our 10 part series, we discuss recurring arguments, and what's really going on beneath the surface which leads to escalation, stonewalling, defensiveness, criticism, contempt, scorekeeping, and unresolved wounds.

The argument is usually NOT about the argument...The dirty dishes mean: "I don't feel appreciated." The money argument may mean: "I don't feel secure." The sex argument may mean: "I don't feel desired."

We end the episode with our weekly…