Escaping the Trap of Perfectionism in Your Marriage

Doing Marriage Well · Sep 15, 2026 · 2m · transcript

This episode examines how perfectionism—often rooted in childhood expectations—damages marriages and family life, from hidden family shame to constant criticism and withholding affection.

Paul offers practical guidance: identify which standards matter, negotiate give-and-take with your spouse, learn when standards are unreasonable, and consider outside help when you can’t agree. A memorable slipcover story illustrates how letting go can heal relationships.