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Note 54: Stop Punishing Yourself for What You Didn’t Know Then · Notes to Her

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  Hey,
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  welcome
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  back
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  to
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  nos
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  to
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  her
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  the
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  daily
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  pep
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  talk.
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  I'm
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  Yaya,
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  your
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  confidence
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  and
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  mindset
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  coach,
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  here
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  come
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  back
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  to
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  yourself,
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  protect
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  your
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  peace,
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  and
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  love
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  yourself
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  in
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  ways
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  you
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  were
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  never
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  taught.
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  Now,
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  all
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  month
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  we've
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  been
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  talking
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  about
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  self
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  love,
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  self
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  trust,
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  boundaries,
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  and
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  being
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  kind
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  to
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  yourself.
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  So
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  today,
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  close
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  out
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  this
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  chapter
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  in
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  a
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  powerful
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  way.
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  do
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  that
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  by
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  talking
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  about
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  the
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  version
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  of
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  you
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  that
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  you
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  secretly
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  judge,
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  the
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  one
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  that
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  you
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  replay
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  in
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  your
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  head.
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  The
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  one
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  who
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  stayed
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  too
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  long,
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  who
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  ignored
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  the
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  red
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  flags,
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  who
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  begged,
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  who
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  settled,
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  who
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  didn't
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  speak
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  up,
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  who
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  tolerated
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  things
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  you
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  would
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  never
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  tolerate.
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  Now.
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  Yeah,
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  her.
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  Because
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  I
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  have
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  a
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  feeling
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  that
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  you've
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  been
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  punishing
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  her.
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  You
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  look
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  back
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  and
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  you
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  think,
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  I
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  should
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  have
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  known
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  better.
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  I
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  can't
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  believe
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  I
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  allowed
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  that.
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  That
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  was
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  embarrassing.
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  That
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  wasn't
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  me.
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  But
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  it
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  was
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  you.
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  And
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  today
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  stop
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  punishing
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  her
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  for
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  what
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  she
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  didn't
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  know.
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  I've
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  learned
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  from
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  my
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  years
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  of
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  coaching
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  that
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  most
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  women
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  don't
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  even
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  realize
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  that
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  they're
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  punishing
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  themselves.
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  So
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  let's
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  talk
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  about
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  what
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  that
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  looks
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  like.
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  When
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  you
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  think
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  back
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  to
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  old
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  memories,
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  do
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  you
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  cringe?
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  Do
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  you
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  replay
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  conversations
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  and
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  wince,
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  thinking
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  what
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  you
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  should
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  have
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  said?
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  Or
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  maybe
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  you
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  talk
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  about
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  your
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  past
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  like
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  she
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  was
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  weak.
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  You
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  say
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  things
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  like,
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  I
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  was
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  so
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  stupid.
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  I
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  was
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  desperate.
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  I
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  can't
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  believe
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  I
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  let
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  that
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  happen.
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  But
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  you've
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  grown.
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  You've
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  learned.
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  You've
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  evolved.
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  And
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  instead
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  of
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  feeling
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  proud,
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  you
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  feel
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  ashamed.
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  Ashamed
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  you
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  didn't
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  leave
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  sooner,
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  ashamed
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  you
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  tolerated
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  it,
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  ashamed
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  you
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  didn't
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  trust
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  your
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  intuition,
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  ashamed
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  you
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  abandoned
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  yourself.
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  And
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  so
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  you
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  keep
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  replaying
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  those
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  past
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  moments
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  as
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  if
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  replaying
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  it
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  is
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  some
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  kind
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  of
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  punishment.
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  But
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  shame
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  is
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  not
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  growth
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  and
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  self.
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  Punishment
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  is
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  not
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  accountability.
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  It's
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  really
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  resentment
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  turned
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  inward.
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  Now,
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  approach
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  this
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  gently
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  and
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  help
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  you
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  confront
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  something.
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  You
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  are
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  judging
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  a
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  past
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  version
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  of
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  yourself
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  with
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  present
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  awareness.
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  You're
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  holding
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  her
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  to
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  standards
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  she
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  didn't
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  have
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  access
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  to
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  yet.
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  She
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  didn't
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  know
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  how
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  to
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  set
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  boundaries.
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  She
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  didn't
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  know
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  what
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  self
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  abandonment
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  looked
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  like.
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  She
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  didn't
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  know
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  that
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  her
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  intuition
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  was
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  right.
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  She
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  didn't
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  know
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  how
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  to
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  regulate
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  her
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  nervous
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  system.
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  She
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  didn't
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  know
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  that
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  she
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  deserved
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  more.
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  But
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  you
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  know
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  that
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  now.
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  She
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  didn't.
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  And
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  it's
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  unfair
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  to
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  expect
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  her
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  to
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  operate
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  with
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  tools
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  she
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  hadn't
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  learned
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  yet.
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  You're
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  mad
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  at
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  her
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  for
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  not
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  being
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  who
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  you
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  are
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  today,
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  but
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  the
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  only
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  reason
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  you
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  are
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  who
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  you
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  are
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  today
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  is
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  because
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  she
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  lived
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  through
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  it.
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  Growth
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  doesn't
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  happen
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  before
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  the
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  lesson.
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  It
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  happens
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  after
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  it.
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  So
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  let's
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  call
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  it
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  what
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  it
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  was.
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  She
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  wasn't
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  stupid.
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  She
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  was
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  surviving.
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  Maybe
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  she
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  stayed
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  because
• 3:12
  she
• 3:12
  felt
• 3:12
  unsafe.
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  Maybe
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  she
• 3:14
  tolerated
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  because
• 3:15
  confrontation
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  felt
• 3:16
  terrifying.
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  Maybe
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  she
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  overgave
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  because
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  she
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  thought
• 3:19
  love
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  had
• 3:20
  to
• 3:20
  be
• 3:20
  earned.
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  Maybe
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  she
• 3:22
  stayed
• 3:22
  silent
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  because
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  her
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  voice
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  had
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  been
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  dismissed
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  before.
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  That
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  version
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  of
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  you
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  was
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  navigating
• 3:27
  life
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  with
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  awareness
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  that
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  she
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  had
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  and
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  survival.
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  Versions
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  of
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  us,
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  they
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  don't
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  make
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  empowered
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  decisions.
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  They
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  make
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  safe
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  ones.
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  And
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  safe
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  isn't
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  always
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  aligned.
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  But
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  it
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  is
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  understandable.
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  You
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  don't
• 3:40
  get
• 3:40
  to
• 3:40
  become
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  this
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  version
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  of
• 3:42
  you
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  without
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  her.
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  Now,
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  let's
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  talk
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  about
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  what
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  you
• 3:46
  are
• 3:46
  really
• 3:46
  carrying.
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  Resentment.
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  Not
• 3:49
  toward
• 3:50
  other
• 3:50
  people,
• 3:50
  toward
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  yourself.
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  You
• 3:52
  resent
• 3:53
  yourself
• 3:53
  for
• 3:54
  not
• 3:54
  speaking
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  up,
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  not
• 3:55
  leaving
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  sooner,
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  not
• 3:57
  choosing
• 3:57
  better,
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  not
• 3:58
  trusting
• 3:59
  yourself,
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  not
• 4:00
  learning
• 4:00
  more.
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  But
• 4:02
  the
• 4:02
  truth
• 4:02
  is,
• 4:03
  you
• 4:03
  already
• 4:03
  paid
• 4:04
  for
• 4:04
  those
• 4:04
  lessons.
• 4:05
  You
• 4:06
  felt
• 4:06
  the
• 4:06
  heartbreak,
• 4:07
  you
• 4:07
  felt
• 4:08
  the
• 4:08
  embarrassment,
• 4:09
  you
• 4:09
  felt
• 4:09
  the
• 4:10
  disappointment,
• 4:11
  you
• 4:11
  felt
• 4:11
  the
• 4:12
  anxiety.
• 4:12
  You
• 4:13
  learned.
• 4:14
  And
• 4:14
  learning
• 4:14
  is
• 4:15
  the
• 4:15
  tuition.
• 4:16
  Shame
• 4:17
  is
• 4:17
  trying
• 4:17
  to
• 4:17
  charge
• 4:18
  yourself
• 4:18
  twice.
• 4:19
  You
• 4:19
  don't
• 4:20
  have
• 4:20
  to
• 4:20
  keep
• 4:20
  paying.
• 4:21
  Where?
• 4:21
  Lisa,
• 4:22
  Rosette,
• 4:22
  Matt?
• 4:23
  Release
• 4:23
  the
• 4:24
  guilt.
• 4:24
  Release
• 4:25
  the
• 4:25
  constant
• 4:26
  replay.
• 4:27
  You
• 4:27
  don't
• 4:28
  need
• 4:28
  to
• 4:28
  keep
• 4:28
  punishing
• 4:29
  yourself
• 4:29
  to
• 4:29
  prove
• 4:30
  that
• 4:30
  you
• 4:30
  have
• 4:31
  grown.
• 4:33
  Instead
• 4:34
  of
• 4:34
  rejecting
• 4:34
  her,
• 4:35
  thank
• 4:35
  her.
• 4:36
  Thank
• 4:36
  the
• 4:36
  version
• 4:36
  of
• 4:37
  you
• 4:37
  that
• 4:37
  tolerated
• 4:38
  because
• 4:38
  she
• 4:38
  didn't
• 4:38
  know
• 4:39
  how
• 4:39
  not
• 4:39
  to
• 4:40
  yet.
• 4:40
  Thank
• 4:41
  the
• 4:41
  version
• 4:41
  of
• 4:41
  you
• 4:41
  that
• 4:42
  stayed
• 4:42
  because
• 4:42
  she
• 4:43
  was
• 4:43
  scared.
• 4:44
  Thank
• 4:44
  the
• 4:44
  version
• 4:45
  of
• 4:45
  you
• 4:45
  that
• 4:45
  overgave
• 4:46
  because
• 4:46
  she
• 4:47
  thought
• 4:47
  that's
• 4:47
  how
• 4:47
  love
• 4:48
  works.
• 4:49
  Thank
• 4:49
  her
• 4:49
  for
• 4:50
  surviving.
• 4:51
  Thank
• 4:51
  her
• 4:52
  for
• 4:52
  getting
• 4:52
  you
• 4:52
  here.
• 4:53
  Because
• 4:53
  if
• 4:54
  you
• 4:54
  keep
• 4:54
  rejecting
• 4:55
  past
• 4:55
  versions
• 4:56
  of
• 4:56
  yourself,
• 4:57
  you
• 4:57
  will
• 4:57
  subconsciously
• 4:58
  reject
• 4:58
  future
• 4:59
  growth
• 4:59
  too.
• 5:01
  Self
• 5:01
  love
• 5:02
  isn't
• 5:02
  pretending
• 5:02
  the
• 5:03
  past
• 5:03
  didn't
• 5:03
  happen.
• 5:04
  It's
• 5:04
  integrating
• 5:05
  it.
• 5:05
  It's
• 5:06
  saying
• 5:07
  that
• 5:07
  version
• 5:07
  of
• 5:07
  me
• 5:08
  did
• 5:08
  her
• 5:08
  best
• 5:09
  with
• 5:09
  what
• 5:09
  she
• 5:09
  knew.
• 5:10
  And
• 5:10
  then
• 5:11
  letting
• 5:11
  her
• 5:11
  rest.
• 5:14
  Now.
• 5:14
  Now
• 5:14
  imagine
• 5:15
  something
• 5:15
  with
• 5:15
  me.
• 5:16
  What
• 5:17
  would
• 5:17
  it
• 5:17
  feel
• 5:18
  like
• 5:18
  to
• 5:18
  stop
• 5:18
  replaying
• 5:19
  that
• 5:19
  season
• 5:20
  of
• 5:20
  your
• 5:20
  life?
• 5:22
  To
• 5:22
  stop
• 5:22
  cringing,
• 5:23
  to
• 5:24
  stop
• 5:24
  calling
• 5:24
  yourself
• 5:25
  names?
• 5:26
  To
• 5:26
  stop
• 5:26
  flinching
• 5:27
  at
• 5:27
  the
• 5:27
  memory?
• 5:28
  What
• 5:29
  would
• 5:29
  it
• 5:29
  feel
• 5:29
  like
• 5:30
  to
• 5:30
  say,
• 5:30
  I
• 5:31
  forgive
• 5:31
  you?
• 5:32
  Not
• 5:33
  dramatically,
• 5:34
  not
• 5:34
  ceremonially.
• 5:36
  Just
• 5:36
  quiet
• 5:37
  and
• 5:37
  mean
• 5:37
  it.
• 5:39
  That's
• 5:39
  maturity.
• 5:40
  That's
• 5:41
  healing.
• 5:41
  And
• 5:42
  that
• 5:42
  is
• 5:42
  self
• 5:43
  love
• 5:43
  in
• 5:43
  the
• 5:44
  highest
• 5:44
  form.
• 5:47
  Now,
• 5:47
  if
• 5:47
  you've
• 5:47
  listened
• 5:47
  to
• 5:48
  these
• 5:48
  other
• 5:48
  self
• 5:48
  love
• 5:49
  episodes,
• 5:50
  you
• 5:50
  know,
• 5:50
  we
• 5:50
  talked
• 5:50
  about
• 5:51
  choosing
• 5:51
  yourself,
• 5:52
  remembering
• 5:53
  that
• 5:53
  you
• 5:53
  were
• 5:53
  never
• 5:54
  not
• 5:54
  enough,
• 5:55
  trusting
• 5:56
  yourself
• 5:56
  again,
• 5:57
  being
• 5:57
  kinder
• 5:58
  to
• 5:58
  yourself,
• 5:59
  setting
• 5:59
  boundaries.
• 6:00
  And
• 6:01
  this
• 6:01
  right
• 6:01
  here,
• 6:02
  this
• 6:02
  is
• 6:02
  the
• 6:03
  integration.
• 6:04
  Because
• 6:04
  you
• 6:04
  can't
• 6:05
  move
• 6:05
  forward
• 6:05
  confidently
• 6:06
  or
• 6:07
  while
• 6:07
  dragging
• 6:07
  shame
• 6:08
  behind
• 6:08
  you.
• 6:09
  You
• 6:09
  can't
• 6:09
  become
• 6:10
  her
• 6:10
  while
• 6:11
  punishing
• 6:11
  who
• 6:11
  you
• 6:12
  used
• 6:12
  to
• 6:12
  be.
• 6:13
  So
• 6:13
  release
• 6:13
  the
• 6:14
  past
• 6:14
  version
• 6:14
  of
• 6:15
  yourself,
• 6:15
  love
• 6:16
  her,
• 6:16
  and
• 6:17
  then
• 6:17
  move
• 6:17
  forward.
• 6:19
  And
• 6:19
  if
• 6:19
  this
• 6:19
  month
• 6:20
  shifted
• 6:21
  something
• 6:21
  in
• 6:21
  you.
• 6:22
  If
• 6:22
  you're
• 6:23
  realizing
• 6:23
  that
• 6:23
  you
• 6:23
  are
• 6:24
  done
• 6:24
  shrinking,
• 6:25
  done
• 6:25
  second
• 6:25
  guessing,
• 6:27
  done
• 6:27
  punishing
• 6:27
  yourself
• 6:28
  for
• 6:28
  surviving
• 6:29
  then
• 6:29
  becoming
• 6:30
  her
• 6:30
  unapologetically
• 6:31
  is
• 6:31
  open
• 6:32
  for
• 6:32
  you.
• 6:33
  This
• 6:33
  is
• 6:34
  a
• 6:34
  four
• 6:34
  week
• 6:34
  private
• 6:35
  coaching
• 6:35
  experience
• 6:35
  designed
• 6:36
  to
• 6:36
  help
• 6:36
  you
• 6:36
  rebuild
• 6:37
  your
• 6:37
  self
• 6:37
  worth,
• 6:38
  strengthen
• 6:39
  your
• 6:39
  boundaries
• 6:40
  and
• 6:40
  embody
• 6:41
  the
• 6:41
  woman
• 6:41
  that
• 6:41
  you
• 6:42
  know
• 6:42
  that
• 6:42
  you're
• 6:42
  becoming.
• 6:43
  It's
• 6:43
  not
• 6:44
  about
• 6:44
  fixing
• 6:44
  you
• 6:45
  it's
• 6:45
  about
• 6:46
  supporting
• 6:46
  you
• 6:47
  as
• 6:47
  you
• 6:47
  evolve
• 6:48
  and
• 6:48
  if
• 6:48
  you're
• 6:49
  ready
• 6:49
  for
• 6:49
  that
• 6:49
  kind
• 6:49
  of
• 6:49
  support
• 6:50
  you
• 6:50
  can
• 6:50
  learn
• 6:51
  more
• 6:51
  in
• 6:51
  the
• 6:51
  show
• 6:51
  notes
• 6:52
  apply
• 6:53
  or
• 6:53
  message
• 6:53
  me
• 6:54
  and
• 6:54
  let's
• 6:55
  move
• 6:55
  forward
• 6:55
  together.
• 6:57
  Remember
• 6:57
  you
• 6:57
  do
• 6:58
  not
• 6:58
  owe
• 6:58
  your
• 6:58
  past
• 6:59
  self
• 6:59
  punishment.
• 7:00
  You
• 7:00
  owe
• 7:00
  her
• 7:01
  compassion.
• 7:02
  She
• 7:03
  did
• 7:03
  what
• 7:03
  she
• 7:03
  could
• 7:04
  and
• 7:04
  because
• 7:04
  of
• 7:05
  her
• 7:05
  you
• 7:06
  now
• 7:06
  know
• 7:07
  more.
• 7:08
  Stop
• 7:09
  replaying
• 7:09
  it,
• 7:10
  stop
• 7:10
  resenting
• 7:11
  her,
• 7:12
  stop
• 7:12
  charging
• 7:12
  yourself
• 7:13
  for
• 7:13
  lessons
• 7:13
  that
• 7:13
  you
• 7:14
  have
• 7:14
  already
• 7:14
  learned.
• 7:15
  You
• 7:15
  are
• 7:16
  allowed
• 7:16
  to
• 7:16
  evolve
• 7:16
  without
• 7:17
  shame
• 7:18
  and
• 7:18
  you
• 7:18
  are
• 7:18
  allowed
• 7:19
  to
• 7:19
  become
• 7:19
  her
• 7:20
  without
• 7:20
  hating
• 7:21
  who
• 7:21
  you
• 7:21
  used
• 7:21
  to
• 7:21
  be.
• 7:22
  You
• 7:22
  have
• 7:23
  done
• 7:23
  enough.
• 7:24
  No
• 7:24
  let
• 7:24
  go
• 7:25
  with
• 7:25
  love
• 7:25
  Yaya.
• 7:31
  Sa.