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#217: Stop Chasing Hormones: How to Address Trauma in Your Body · The Hotmomz Lifestyle Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Casey here with Hot Moms, founder of the Hot Moms with a Z.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, we're gonna drop excuses and we're gonna drop weight today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, I was just doing a TikTok live and we got this far, and now I'm gonna put on some makeup and stuff for you, and we're gonna talk about maybe some hormonal changes, things that you're getting sold online about perimenopause.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's talk about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: First, what are we gonna do with this here?
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_00: Um, we're gonna pull it back.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna pull it back.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, with perimenopause, you know, I was just talking about perimenopause, is uh if you're really sitting there thinking that your problem is like perimenopause, that tells me that you're you're you there's a lack of education.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a lack of education.
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  SPEAKER_00: You you don't address hormones first.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hormone therapy should have been in your should have been in the cabinet in your 20s, but it probably wasn't.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: Um, because your 20s were spent on either having babies, building careers, staying up too late, not sleeping, running on caffeine and Adderall, trying to figure out who you are in this world, right?
• 1:04
  SPEAKER_00: In your 30s, you know, you still had the creativity, you were hardcore creating mode, and then the 40s came along, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're like, what the fuck?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's going on?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I depressed?
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  unknown: No.
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  SPEAKER_00: You do have there is a disease going on.
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  SPEAKER_00: The disease is called unfulfillment.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not perimenopause, it's unfulfillment.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna say it again.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not perimenopause, it is unfulfillment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are your hormones messy?
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  SPEAKER_00: Probably sure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cortisol over the place, probably sure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thyroid, adrenals, oh yeah.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, functional medicine doctors, they don't look at adrenals, they just look at thyroid, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they destroy you on progesterone and maybe estrogen.
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  SPEAKER_00: But dude, if your estrogen is too high, there's gonna be softness and cellulite and all this stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it even in progesterone, it's like, you know, if you're I mean, do you do you want your uterus still?
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I have a I had an elective hysterectomy in my 30s because I knew what was coming.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: I knew what was coming down the pipes, but you still can't um run from it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I still went through the depressive, depressive mode, the identity shift, who am I?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where did that fire go?
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  SPEAKER_00: Turns out I just needed a fireplace.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had the fire, but it burned me in the past because you know, I would burn out and I would sabotage and um all these things, but uh, we most of you still have the fire.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just need a fireplace, that's what it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you need to watch the queen years, really.
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  SPEAKER_00: But but really, um, you know, stop stop focusing on just hormones.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna say it again.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've done this 17 years professional fitness model and health coach, and you have to address the woman living in the body, you've got to address the identity of the woman living in the body.
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  SPEAKER_00: The identity is who you think you are, how does life work for you, how has weight worked for you, how has your body responded to you in the past years?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so, whatever your story is, well, that's the identity.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the identity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when your identity becomes the type of woman who just is hot, who just who just like of course, of course, she's fit and healthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, then things will start shifting, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So we'll show you how to do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you work on the identity first, and then and then you work on, has this been on 10 minutes?
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  SPEAKER_00: I need this off, and then after you work on the identity, you are going to focus on the trauma that's in the nervous system because your hormones respond to our emotional state in our nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because if your body thinks it's in threat mode, which it does, I'm telling you right now, if if there's weight, if there's stubborn weight or low energy, uh something like that, then I promise, I can promise, promise you, can we?
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  SPEAKER_00: I can promise you that hold on.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to save these because I just put it on, and I there we go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can promise you that if you have stubborn weight or you feel like depressed or whatever, you're just not fulfilled.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're being called to rise up into your highest potential.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know that sounds very Tony Robbins-y and like woo-woo we and all that, but it's true.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's true.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, very true.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, first you work on what do you want in this world?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you want?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you want in this life?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who are you?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you here for?
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's the vision?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe the vision for you is just looking hot.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why do you want to look hot?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, you know, women are big on we'll do it for somebody else, but not for ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what's what's you being hot and healthy and happy, how's that going to help other people?
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  SPEAKER_00: Answer that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So once you have the vision down, now you address the trauma that lives in your body because I can promise you there is there's trauma there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if and if you're sitting there like, oh, I d I don't have trauma, I had a good childhood, that means you're very ignorant, and that means that there's you're still a child yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um so, and I'm not like calling names, I'm just saying like you're informed now.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you have to address the trauma that lives within your body and the identity of the woman.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you don't do those two things, then addressing the food and addressing the hormones and all of that is um pissing in the wind.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're trying to you're trying to focus on structure when there's no foundation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when the foundation's there and you're your nervous system and there's no trauma and expansion, and there's no trauma and um around the body and the stories there, it's like, okay, well, cool, you can you can start doing good, and then when the kids get sick and the schedule changes and the holidays roll around and your mental health slips, you can you're still you're not chasing the excitement.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not changing, you're not changing your plan based on how you feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're looking at data, and you just don't even give, you don't even give your those negative thoughts, you don't even give those thoughts that you think in the moment, that we think in the moment, are very good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Man, this this seems like the direction I need to go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I need to optimize this.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's usually sabotage.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's this that's the voice of sabotage.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the voice of sabotage right there.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you'll know these things once you increase your emotional intelligence, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I said, we're not calling anyone done.
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  SPEAKER_00: No.
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  SPEAKER_00: You once you increase your emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence, and the identity, and you know what your vision is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then we can work on, then now we've got a chance and a shot at the title of being hot moms.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now there's a chance that the weight's gonna come off, the booty's gonna look great, and it's gonna stay.
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  SPEAKER_00: No matter how many schedule changes we go through, how many bad phone calls we get, how fast our business grows, how visible we get online, it doesn't matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: What somebody says to us, it doesn't matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you always know how to come back to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You always know how to, you always know who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you know who you are, you know the vision, you don't, you don't, you're literally in the weight struggle.
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  SPEAKER_00: The weight struggle ends.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're thinking that you're in perimenopause right now, it's not.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're not denying you there's a hormone imbalance, there probably is, but if you're addressing the hormones first, you're it's missing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're if you're following me, you want the root.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're here for the healing of the root cause.
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  SPEAKER_00: And and the only way you're gonna do that is addressing the nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, why can't you eat?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why can't you stay on track?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why are you still heavily dependent on caffeine?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why are you still drinking a lot?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why why are you craving foods?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why can't you go to sleep on time?
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's let's look at those things because that's where the trauma lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, your triggers when you see a girl online and she triggers your comparison, she makes you feel like shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's trauma.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's your that's a trigger right there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's supposed to give you ambition, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're not broken though.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I'm telling you, if you keep going around and you keep thinking that just addressing like the workouts or just addressing the hormones is gonna fix everything, you're not addressing the the trauma that lives in your body and the nervous system, like you you're gonna you're gonna have to pay the piper eventually.
• 8:13
  SPEAKER_00: Because what's gonna happen is you're just gonna keep thinking that um things don't work for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's like, no, it works, you just haven't worked this part, it's uncomfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't have time, I'm busy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've already done that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bitch, if you'd done it, you would already have the result.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'd already be exactly where you want to be, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, no shame in that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hell, I'm I'm I'm not where I want to be right now, but I'm not in denial.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know what it's gonna, I know, I know what's required.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there's that.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to know what's required for you, then I suggest taking action.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now you have two choices.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could say, I'll do it later.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm afraid of what it'll cost.
• 8:55
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, it's gonna cost you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna cost you your old ways, just like waiting, needing to feel certain, needing to know all the details first.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the old fear, that's the old nervous system kicking in because it knows that the you're on the fucking threshold of greatness and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the old you that struggles, she's losing her grip.
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  SPEAKER_00: So of course she wants to wait.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course she does.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course she does.
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  SPEAKER_00: But some of you are brave.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think some of you are really courageous.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think a lot of you are really brave, and you're like, man, I'm ready.
• 9:31
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sick of my own shit, you know?
• 9:33
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta be really sick of your own shit.
• 9:35
  SPEAKER_00: That's what I had to go through.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had to go through so many dark nights and heavy moments when I didn't want to be here anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: Forgetting who I was, forgetting, like, feeling like I lost myself completely.
• 9:46
  SPEAKER_00: Am I gonna be okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: I had to get so sick and tired of my shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you get sick of your shit, sick of showing up, doing the work, and not getting the result.
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  SPEAKER_00: Same old shit, saying that it's just easier for other people because they don't have the same circumstances as you have.
• 10:04
  SPEAKER_00: When you get sick of that shit, because you know you deserve better, because you're better than that, and because you know that throwing in a towel, it's just not in your makeup?
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  SPEAKER_00: Then let's work together.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_00: It's time.
• 10:27
  SPEAKER_00: It's time.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: It gets to be easier than it's ever been before.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_00: Are you willing to let it be easy though?
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: Are you willing to let life get good?
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: Because if you are, then we can do some work and you'll get results.
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_00: So head over to the link in my bio and choose your door.
• 10:47
  SPEAKER_00: There's three doors.
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_00: There's a there's a free master class, there's my app lifestyle program, and then there's working with me.
• 10:57
  SPEAKER_00: Working in the mastermind, in the inner circle, where you get my eyes on everything.
• 11:01
  SPEAKER_00: We kind of do it with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So take action.
• 11:04
  SPEAKER_00: You got this.
• 11:05
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you're already on the other side.
• 11:07
  SPEAKER_00: You're already on this side.
• 11:08
  SPEAKER_00: It's there.
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  SPEAKER_00: You feel safe, you're proud of who you're becoming, and it's time.