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⚡ The Action Advantage 6/7: Self-Care is We-Care #SelfCareSaturday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: What's up, family?
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: Welcome back.
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: Welcome back to Self-Care.
• 0:10
  Speaker 1: Saturday, and you're listening to the Sweet Spot and I am Dr Sweet.
• 0:14
  Speaker 1: We have, for the last three Saturdays, been diving into this book called Real Self-Care by Dr Pooja Lashman.
• 0:24
  Speaker 1: But before we get into that, let's do a quick recap of what we have learned so far.
• 0:33
  Speaker 1: In previous episodes we've covered three powerful principles that redefine self-care in a meaningful way.
• 0:41
  Speaker 1: This book did a marvelous job of taking us outside of the aroma candles and the massages and all of the cool stuff that we enjoy about self-care, to dig deeper to find a broader meaning for self-care.
• 0:58
  Speaker 1: I'll review the principles very quickly for you that we've been reviewing over the past three Saturdays.
• 1:04
  Speaker 1: Principle one was setting boundaries.
• 1:06
  Speaker 1: Right, it was about saying no.
• 1:08
  Speaker 1: No is a complete sentence, by the way, you don't have to add anything after it.
• 1:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's about saying no when you need to, and you understand that you have to be first protecting your time, protecting your energy by saying no means that you're doing a radical act of self-respect and self-care.
• 1:31
  Speaker 1: Remember, if you're saying yes to everything, you're more than likely not setting a boundary and you're saying no to yourself.
• 1:40
  Speaker 1: So setting a boundary was principle one.
• 1:42
  Speaker 1: Principle two was practicing self-compassion.
• 1:45
  Speaker 1: How many times have you had that critical voice in your head telling you that you're not good enough, that you did that wrong?
• 1:52
  Speaker 1: Maybe you should have done this differently, always criticizing or pulling yourself down.
• 1:58
  Speaker 1: Well, practicing self-compassion as principle two taught us that true self-care is not about being perfect.
• 2:06
  Speaker 1: It's about being kind, being kind to ourselves, especially when we fall short, especially when we miss the mark.
• 2:17
  Speaker 1: It's about giving yourself the grace that you would offer a friend.
• 2:22
  Speaker 1: Remember we talked about the way you would speak to a friend if they had messed up.
• 2:27
  Speaker 1: That's how you should speak to yourself.
• 2:30
  Speaker 1: More than likely, you're going to tell your friend good things and you're going to be encouraging.
• 2:35
  Speaker 1: So practicing self-compassion as principle two helps us turn that inward and onto ourselves.
• 2:44
  Speaker 1: Principle three was about aligning our choices with our values.
• 2:48
  Speaker 1: Last week we talked about the importance of making decisions that reflect who we truly are, not what others expect from you, but really what you expect from yourself.
• 3:02
  Speaker 1: It's about living authentically.
• 3:05
  Speaker 1: It's about living with integrity and choosing an action that resonates with your truest self and going by that value as opposed to what others expect of you.
• 3:18
  Speaker 1: Very hard to do because there's so much pressure on us to conform to what others want, but when you're caring for yourself, you're going to make a choice that aligns with your values and not what somebody else expects.
• 3:31
  Speaker 1: And that, my friends, brings us to principle four, which is called cultivating community care.
• 3:41
  Speaker 1: This principle flips the script from me to we.
• 3:45
  Speaker 1: It's about us.
• 3:49
  Speaker 1: In this principle, the author tells us that real self-care is not just about what I can do for me, what you can do for yourself.
• 3:57
  Speaker 1: It's about creating connections.
• 3:59
  Speaker 1: It's about seeking support and building a community where we can give and receive care.
• 4:08
  Speaker 1: Think about it.
• 4:09
  Speaker 1: How many times have you tried to go it alone, thinking, hey, I've got this, only to end up feeling a bit burned out, isolated and wondering how did I get here?
• 4:18
  Speaker 1: We've all been there, but self-care doesn't mean doing it all by yourself, even though the word self is in there, right.
• 4:28
  Speaker 1: Self-care does not mean doing it all by yourself.
• 4:31
  Speaker 1: It means recognizing that we are stronger together and it's about leaning on our friends.
• 4:39
  Speaker 1: It's about leaning on our family.
• 4:41
  Speaker 1: It's about connecting with our team and letting them lean on us, too, about.
• 4:47
  Speaker 1: It's about interdependence and about connecting those dots.
• 4:51
  Speaker 1: Don't isolate, okay.
• 4:53
  Speaker 1: That's a real problem when we get isolated and we become lonely.
• 4:58
  Speaker 1: All right, so I'll drop a.
• 5:00
  Speaker 1: We've been using a lot of scriptural quotes this week.
• 5:03
  Speaker 1: I don't know why we've been dropping dropping quotes from the Quran, we've dropped quotes from the Torah, we've dropped quotes from the Bible.
• 5:10
  Speaker 1: Let me leave you with one here.
• 5:11
  Speaker 1: Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor.
• 5:16
  Speaker 1: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.
• 5:22
  Speaker 1: Okay so, and a threefold cord that's not easily broken, and then, in a multitude of counselors, you can find wisdom.
• 5:34
  Speaker 1: That's what the scriptures tell us.
• 5:37
  Speaker 1: There's strength in numbers, and this author, dr Lashkin, says that true self-care is about finding people and letting them in.
• 5:47
  Speaker 1: All right, so that's our challenge for today.
• 5:50
  Speaker 1: It is Self-Care Saturday, and your challenge is to reach out to someone today, whether it's a friend, a colleague, a loved one, someone, anyone.
• 5:59
  Speaker 1: It can be just a text, you don't always have to call, but a call would be great and try to see if you can connect with that person, walk with that person, do something with that person.
• 6:09
  Speaker 1: All right, this is Dr Sweet.
• 6:11
  Speaker 1: Thank you, and we look forward to seeing you tomorrow, because it's Slow Down Sunday.
• 6:17
  Speaker 1: Take care.