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#198: Why Fat Loss is Harder When You're over 30 · The Hotmomz Lifestyle Podcast

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SPEAKER_00: Casey here.
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SPEAKER_00: We're gonna talk about why it's harder after 30, but I don't wanna say it's harder.
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SPEAKER_00: There's just a reason why your body's not responding the same as when you were 20 or even 30.
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SPEAKER_00: I would say around 30.
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SPEAKER_00: Science proves that when you hit 30, muscle starts to decrease.
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SPEAKER_00: And a lot of you become mothers at 30.
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SPEAKER_00: Worse, you come mothers.
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SPEAKER_00: You become mothers before 30.
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SPEAKER_00: Why do I say it's worse?
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SPEAKER_00: Because here's why.
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SPEAKER_00: When you have kids young, your identity wobbles even more.
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SPEAKER_00: So it's before you were, before you really know who you are, you're already a mom.
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SPEAKER_00: You're already somebody's wife.
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SPEAKER_00: So then becomes when you're older, 40, 50, 60, whatever, you've had you go through identity crisis and you're sold, I don't know, you're sold this other thing.
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SPEAKER_00: It's everybody says, oh, it's hormones and it's all this.
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SPEAKER_00: Well, really, yes, it's sure it's hormones, but real what really happens is you go into an identity crisis.
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SPEAKER_00: But why I'm here today is I have personally, I'm a former fitness model, and I have overcome, healed, adrenal fatigue, hypothyroid, almost Hashimoto's.
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SPEAKER_00: I had chronic Epstein Bora flare-ups, inflammation, all the all this stuff.
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SPEAKER_00: And it turns out, not until I addressed trauma that was in my body.
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SPEAKER_00: Because I thought I had a good childhood.
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SPEAKER_00: I thought I'm good.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, like I don't have trauma.
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SPEAKER_00: What are you talking about?
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SPEAKER_00: I was ignorant.
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SPEAKER_00: I was very ignorant.
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SPEAKER_00: So not until and I even did hormone therapy.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: I even dummed hemone replacement therapy because I was perimenopausal in my 20s.
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SPEAKER_00: And after kids, quickly I had a tolesterctomy electively, because I was done with kids and I never wanted to bleed again.
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SPEAKER_00: And I was just done with all that.
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SPEAKER_00: So I was like, cool.
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SPEAKER_00: I went into full-blown menopause when I was like 33 by choice because I knew how to manage my hemis.
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SPEAKER_00: And so I was on hemorrhaged replacement therapy before kids, after kids, because coming from fitness modeling, we know a lot, right?
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SPEAKER_00: We know how to dial in the body.
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SPEAKER_00: We know the science of it.
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SPEAKER_00: And I knew that after, God, three, four years of chronic dieting, low calorie diets, two-a-day cardios, and even I got to the point where I was eating like 1800 calories, doing just weight training, no a little bit of cardio, all that just wrecked my metabolism.
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SPEAKER_00: Wrecked it.
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SPEAKER_00: And so I had to reverse diet out of all that.
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SPEAKER_00: I had to repair my metabolic system.
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SPEAKER_00: And doctors, I was going to doctors, I remember them testing my blood, and it was crazy because my thyroid was so low.
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SPEAKER_00: My adrenals were so shot, and doctors would tell me I was normal.
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SPEAKER_00: So I ended up finding the right type of white coats.
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SPEAKER_00: And I also tried functional medicine, which was a joke because all they want to do is do saliva tests and put you on a bunch of fucking supplements and progesterone and estrogen, which is like horrible for if you want to be super fit and feel super young.
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SPEAKER_00: Anyway, which, if you want to get the shit right, you work with us.
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SPEAKER_00: And I got on hormone replacement therapy and I felt a little better.
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SPEAKER_00: But the problem with that and getting on testosterone and all that shit, the problem with getting on hormone replacement therapy was I had a little bit more energy, but still, there was still something off.
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SPEAKER_00: My body still wasn't responding the way that I knew it should.
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SPEAKER_00: And it was requiring, I was still obsessed with calorie counting, and I was just really obsessed.
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SPEAKER_00: I felt how do I word this?
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SPEAKER_00: I don't even, it took up a lot of mental space.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: Then 2020, I found out about a what trauma informed meant.
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SPEAKER_00: Like I told you, when I heard trauma informed before, I was like, I had a good childhood, I don't need therapy, I'm not crazy, I don't have trauma, right?
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SPEAKER_00: But all the signs were pointing to trauma.
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SPEAKER_00: For example, if you struggle with weight for your whole life or even two years, sleep disruptions, you could you need stimulants to get through the day.
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SPEAKER_00: You're really tired, you can't explain why, and you feel like your motivation's gone, you feel like you're depressed, or not depressed, but like you just feel like your fire is kind of gone.
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SPEAKER_00: You feel like you have bloating, you have inflammation, you're kind of snappy at the kids.
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SPEAKER_00: There's some resentment in the household, you feel like everything's on you.
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SPEAKER_00: That's symptoms of trauma.
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SPEAKER_00: Nobody talks about this.
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SPEAKER_00: So when I found out all my symptoms, I was like, oh my God, I check off on every fucking one of these.
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SPEAKER_00: And so I started doing trauma-informed approach to fitness.
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SPEAKER_00: It doesn't look like humming, it doesn't look like shit they're selling to you online.
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SPEAKER_00: It just I started approaching everything with a trauma-informed approach, and my fucking whole body changed.
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SPEAKER_00: My life changed because prior to all of that, being a fitness model for years before that, I've been doing this for 17 years, 3,000 positive case studies, and I like I knew what I was fucking doing.
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SPEAKER_00: But when I started addressing my body with a trauma-informed approach and my hormones and my everything from a trauma-informed approach, everything fucking shifted.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, here's what shifted my money.
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SPEAKER_00: Holy shit.
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SPEAKER_00: I went from struggling making six figures a year to millions of dollars pretty quickly.
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SPEAKER_00: All right.
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SPEAKER_00: That's what changed because trauma keeps money at bay.
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SPEAKER_00: You have money blocks, you lots of scarcity and lack, and you're terrified to spend money.
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SPEAKER_00: You're terrified, you feel like no matter how much money you make, you just can't get ahead.
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SPEAKER_00: What's everybody else?
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SPEAKER_00: Maybe I'm just not like everybody else.
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SPEAKER_00: Like all these are just trauma shit with money.
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SPEAKER_00: So I had tons of that in my body, which was affecting my nervous system.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: And then all I knew was like, go hard, force it.
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SPEAKER_00: Even if you don't feel like it, do this, do that.
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SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter.
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SPEAKER_00: Take whatever supplements you got to, fucking get it done.
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SPEAKER_00: Trauma.
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SPEAKER_00: That's fucking trauma.
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SPEAKER_00: And then I also had compensatory behaviors, which meant if I believed that if I ate tacos or pizza or enjoyed myself, I needed to go make up for it the next day.
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SPEAKER_00: And so that means that that was an unhealthy, I had an unhealthy relationship with my body, my food, my everything.
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SPEAKER_00: So once I started to address that, it was just like this weight was lifted.
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SPEAKER_00: My body started responding to less.
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SPEAKER_00: I was able to completely cut out all the needed steps in cardio.
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SPEAKER_00: I was complete, I was able to go to go from God, hour sessions six days a week to maybe 30 minutes, sometimes 20 or 15, four days a week.
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SPEAKER_00: Crazy shit, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Crazy shit.
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SPEAKER_00: And as I got older, this is what's crazy that I will show my, I'll show you, I'll show you my blood work results.
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SPEAKER_00: If you watch my training, by the way, case ship.com forward slash register.
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SPEAKER_00: And if you want that, just comment training, DM training.
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SPEAKER_00: I'll get there for you.
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SPEAKER_00: I'll show you my blood work.
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SPEAKER_00: Now I'm 40, okay, and I specialize working with women from 30 to late 30s.
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SPEAKER_00: There's a whole reason why we aren't even gonna get into anything over that, but my blood work, my body, everything fucking got better.
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SPEAKER_00: Everything got better as I got older.
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SPEAKER_00: I looked better, my muscle bellies were better, my metabolic rate was better, my health was better.
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SPEAKER_00: I was sick all the time too, before I got sick all the time.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm rarely sick anymore.
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SPEAKER_00: Rarely fucking sick.
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SPEAKER_00: I just need a little Botox right now.
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SPEAKER_00: That's it.
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SPEAKER_00: But I'm rarely sick anymore.
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SPEAKER_00: It's crazy.
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SPEAKER_00: And but it's not crazy because when you're when you fix things at the root, okay, which is not hormones, fixing the root problem is not hormones, it's not gut, it's not fucking.
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SPEAKER_00: It is, you have to approach it with a trauma-informed approach, period.
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SPEAKER_00: The foundational levels within the deep within the nervous system, deep within how you operate.
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SPEAKER_00: Because right now, the body that you have is a conglomerate of the thoughts you've been thinking, the beliefs you have, and your lived experiences and why it gets so hard after you turn 30.
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SPEAKER_00: Yes, your metabolism your metabolism starts to slow down.
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SPEAKER_00: That's easy to fix.
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SPEAKER_00: But what happens is you get allostatic load buildup.
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SPEAKER_00: What is allostatic load?
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SPEAKER_00: I want you to think about you come into this world as a kid, okay?
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SPEAKER_00: You come into this world as a kid.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm almost done and I don't leave you out of the shade.
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SPEAKER_00: You come into this world as a little kid, little baby, and you're free as shit, you're happy, you're bouncing off the walls, right?
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SPEAKER_00: And every little thing you live through, everything you go through, and everybody's different.
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SPEAKER_00: Some people go through different traumas and different some people, their parents get divorced, some people are latchkey kids.
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SPEAKER_00: Some people are, they grow up watching their parents struggle with weight, with anxiety.
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SPEAKER_00: They watch their parents with domestic violence.
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SPEAKER_00: Some people grow up with a happy family, but everything's hidden.
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SPEAKER_00: Some people grow up being pressured, getting good grades, going to a good school, trying to make mommy and daddy happy.
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SPEAKER_00: All those things are a level of trauma.
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SPEAKER_00: They are.
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SPEAKER_00: They're different types of emotional neglect.
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SPEAKER_00: And as you get older, then you go through puberty, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Your first puberty, because your second puberty as a woman is 40 to 50.
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SPEAKER_00: Your first puberty, you go through that whole ball of white's fucking trauma right there.
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SPEAKER_00: Shame, sexual shame, body shame.
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SPEAKER_00: All the things that come with puberty.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: So these things, this mosaic starts to build over your life.
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SPEAKER_00: Then you go through fucking high school.
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SPEAKER_00: Then you go through getting bullied, or your boyfriend saying you look fucking fat, or your cheerleading team, guessing you are, you get the fucking drift.
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SPEAKER_00: Then you go through your fucking 20s to your early 20s.
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SPEAKER_00: Y'all know how stressful that shit is.
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SPEAKER_00: Finding out who you are, becoming someone else, all this.
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SPEAKER_00: Then you're 30s, and then now you're hit 30.
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SPEAKER_00: So it's and then this is why when you get older, it's damn near impossible to change.
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SPEAKER_00: That point, you're doing surface level shit.
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SPEAKER_00: This is why you start to deteriorate most people start to deteriorate, but you're not most people.
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SPEAKER_00: You're the fucking two percenters, like me.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, 98% of everybody else is going to deteriorate.
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SPEAKER_00: And they're gonna call it wisdom and aging and getting smarter when really it's a flow decline because they don't know anything else.
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SPEAKER_00: They gotta make themselves feel good about it, right?
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SPEAKER_00: So what happens is over time, the lived experiences that you have, the pressures of living, you start having kids, you start having a job, you your parents, things start to change and they start to weigh on you.
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SPEAKER_00: So now you've got this load that's building, it's been building since you were a baby, because when you're a baby and you're born, you actually adopt your mother's nervous system.
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SPEAKER_00: So whatever you're living now is nothing more than your mother's nervous system and her mother's nervous system.
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SPEAKER_00: You've got trauma built into your DNA right when you come into this world.
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SPEAKER_00: And it stays there and it builds and builds.
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SPEAKER_00: And based on that trauma and those beliefs and those nervous system patterns from your mother's mother, that's why you have the body that you have.
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SPEAKER_00: That's why you have the money and the job and the husband.
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SPEAKER_00: And literally, that's why when you wake up in the morning and your life is the way it is, it's why the way it is.
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SPEAKER_00: But you can change it.
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SPEAKER_00: But you have this thing called allostatic load.
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SPEAKER_00: It's a stress and a pressure thing that just adds on to your back, just adds on.
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SPEAKER_00: It adds on until it's so fucking heavy, you've got an autoimmune disease, you've got adrenal fatigue, you've got thyroid issues early, you've got gut issues, your body's not responding anymore.
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SPEAKER_00: It's allostatic load.
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SPEAKER_00: And until you learn how to remove that load, because you're like, Casey, what am I gonna do?
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SPEAKER_00: I just can't stop being a mom.
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SPEAKER_00: Right.
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SPEAKER_00: So my work is for this.
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SPEAKER_00: It removes the allostatic load from your nervous system with a trauma-informed approach.
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SPEAKER_00: But how?
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SPEAKER_00: Does a doctor need to know how to perform surgery when he gets into med school, when he goes to into college to become a doctor?
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SPEAKER_00: No.
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SPEAKER_00: So you don't need to know either.
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SPEAKER_00: And the problem is the thing that you make thinks you I need to know is the allostatic load.
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SPEAKER_00: It is the dysregulation, it is the trauma because you're trying to find certainty and uncertainty.
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SPEAKER_00: That literally is a trauma fucking response.
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SPEAKER_00: Period.
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SPEAKER_00: So we approach trauma informed, we remove the load from the body, and you will see, holy, I feel lighter, I feel like I've got clarity, I feel like the old me again.
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SPEAKER_00: I feel like I've had the energy of when I was 20, but I'm healthier now.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm more aware.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm like, yeah, this veil lifts.
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SPEAKER_00: Your hormones start to balance because now we're we're addressing the correct ones.
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SPEAKER_00: Because if you address the wrong ones, you're gonna get a shitstorm.
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SPEAKER_00: It's gonna cause worse problems.
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SPEAKER_00: And then we pair you with the right type of food and you and workouts.
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SPEAKER_00: Because everything we do is trauma-informed based on your nervous system.
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SPEAKER_00: My everything I have is very intelligent.
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SPEAKER_00: It's not cookie-cutter, it's very custom to you.
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SPEAKER_00: And so when you approach that things in this way, yes, your life gets better.
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SPEAKER_00: Your body changes with ease.
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SPEAKER_00: Your whatever health conditions you have tend to get better.
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SPEAKER_00: But that's why things get harder after you turn 30.
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SPEAKER_00: Yes, your metabolism slows down.
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SPEAKER_00: So what are you gonna do about it?
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SPEAKER_00: That's easy to fix.
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SPEAKER_00: You eat more food and you focus on muscle.
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SPEAKER_00: But what happens is people can't because now they've got these allostatic loads built up.
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SPEAKER_00: They got these lives, this pressure and this time clock they're running against, and urgency and their mom's now and their fucking wife.
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SPEAKER_00: They got this responsibility.
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SPEAKER_00: That's the allostatic load.
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SPEAKER_00: And it's not gonna get any better.
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SPEAKER_00: It's actually gonna get heavier and heavier.
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SPEAKER_00: And how it ends up looking, just go look at any old person.
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SPEAKER_00: Go look at any old person.
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SPEAKER_00: They're hunched over because the weight's literally weighing them down that they've carried through life.
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SPEAKER_00: Their bodies aren't working anymore.
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SPEAKER_00: They're on probably 10 different medications, and they think that, oh, it's just because I'm old, or it's just because I don't know.
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SPEAKER_00: Everybody's got a reason, everybody's got excuses about why their bodies aren't responding and why their life's the way it is.
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SPEAKER_00: Because people need some people to blame.
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SPEAKER_00: Like low emotional intelligence needs someone to blame.
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SPEAKER_00: But it's because I had kids, I've been through a hard time.
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SPEAKER_00: That's a victim mindset.
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SPEAKER_00: Everybody needs somebody to blame.
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SPEAKER_00: But when you increase your emotional intelligence with this trauma-informed approach, your whole life changed.
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SPEAKER_00: It's like some Tony Robbins shit.
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SPEAKER_00: Like Tony Robbins teaches the same thing, just in a very different way of explaining it.
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SPEAKER_00: So that's why it gets harder after you're 30.
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SPEAKER_00: Your hormones shift.
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SPEAKER_00: The things you were doing before has wrecked your body, and your body keeps score.
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SPEAKER_00: The things you were doing in your 20s and your teens has literally now caught up with you, and it's gonna get worse and worse as you age.
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SPEAKER_00: And then you'll be like those women on Instagram trying to get their perimenopause under control, blaming everything on perimenopause, not you, because you're two percenter.
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SPEAKER_00: You're like, yeah, I'm way beyond that.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't need to blame a medical label.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm good.
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SPEAKER_00: I actually and that's the truth.
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SPEAKER_00: You can be hot as shit.
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SPEAKER_00: Women will just look at you like, I guess she's just lucky.
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SPEAKER_00: No, she probably actually did the work.
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SPEAKER_00: She probably actually approached her fitness with a more emotional, intelligent approach.
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SPEAKER_00: You did it with trauma informed, she had the right resources and tools.
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SPEAKER_00: So you that could be you.
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SPEAKER_00: That is you.
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SPEAKER_00: When you are ready for those tools, you want to address it the proper way so you can actually get the result and keep it, and it's easier than anything you've ever done.
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SPEAKER_00: Wow.
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SPEAKER_00: You'll work with me.
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SPEAKER_00: My work is for you.
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SPEAKER_00: So go watch the training, caseyship.com forward slash register or DM comment training.
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SPEAKER_00: I'll send it to you.
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SPEAKER_00: Bye.