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Embrace the Threat (6/7): If You Can't Stop the Waves Learn to Surf. #FinishStrongFriday. · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  Speaker 1: Welcome back, sweet spotters, welcome back to Finish Strong Friday here on the sweet spot, and I'm your host.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dr Derek Sweet.
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  Speaker 1: As you know, I'm a board certified psychiatrist.
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  Speaker 1: I specialize in high performance.
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  Speaker 1: I work with athletes, I work with high performers.
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  Speaker 1: But more than that, I'm here to work with you.
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  Speaker 1: I want to work with you today.
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  Speaker 1: I want you and me to spend some time talking about embracing threats.
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  Speaker 1: That's what we've been doing all week and we've been having a great time doing it.
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  Speaker 1: We've learned so much about the internal power that we have, all the ways that we have inside of us to be able to handle threats as they come at us.
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  Speaker 1: We can't always stop the threat, but we can manage it.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I was talking with my mom the other day and she said this to me.
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  Speaker 1: She said sometimes you can't stop the waves, but you can certainly learn to surf, and I think that's just powerful Learning how to surf, to surf the waves.
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  Speaker 1: That's what managing threats is all about and, in some ways, that's how you finish strong.
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  Speaker 1: So today, today, I want to have a real talk about what it means to finish strong, especially when life throws you a tidal wave or the finish line just feels so out of reach.
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  Speaker 1: You know, finishing strong isn't always about crossing some big, shiny finish line.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes it's about just putting one foot in front of the other when you don't feel like it.
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  Speaker 1: Let's unpack that together today.
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  Speaker 1: So you know, I always like to talk about neuroscience.
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  Speaker 1: So here's something cool about the brain.
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  Speaker 1: Remember that basal ganglia I talked about.
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  Speaker 1: Think of it as your brain's habit maker.
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  Speaker 1: Every time you push through a threat, every time you embrace a threat, every time you decide to surf the wave instead of just running away from it, even when it's hard, especially when things are tough, especially when the waves are high and you're surfing, your brain starts wiring those brave, persistent actions and changing them into habits.
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  Speaker 1: That's what the basal ganglia does in the brain.
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  Speaker 1: And remember the anterior cingulate cortex, the dorsal anterior cingulate cortex.
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  Speaker 1: I mentioned that, the acc.
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  Speaker 1: That's the kind of like that's the part of your brain that's kind of like an effort tracker.
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  Speaker 1: It helps you stay focused and motivated, especially when the going gets tough.
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  Speaker 1: So every small step you take, you have this center in your brain, this ACC, this anterior cingulate cortex, that allows your brain to notice when you're taking action, when you're embracing threat, when you're surfing the waves.
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  Speaker 1: When you've turned to face it, your brain notices this and it rewards you with a hit of dopamine, the pleasure neurotransmitter, the feel-good chemical, the one that tells you, hey, you're doing great.
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  Speaker 1: So when you are facing threats, my friends, the basal ganglia and the anterior cingulate cortex in your brain they begin to hum and they begin to help you secrete dopamine and you feel good.
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  Speaker 1: And that's powerful.
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  Speaker 1: You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
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  Speaker 1: You're powerful.
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  Speaker 1: And guess what?
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  Speaker 1: The ancient wisdom backs this up, the neuroplasticity I just talked about, the brain rewarding itself and rewiring itself.
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  Speaker 1: It's mentioned Even in Buddhism if you want to go there, a candle lights another candle.
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  Speaker 1: The quote goes and flames of determination spread eternally.
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  Speaker 1: That's from ancient Buddhism and ancient Buddhist wisdom the candle lighting the other candle, the flame of determination spreading eternally.
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  Speaker 1: What I love about that is that it's not just about one big win.
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  Speaker 1: It's about the steady flame of determination that you've got burning inside of you that once you determine that you're going to face this threat, once you decide that this is what you're going to do and you just put your face like flint and you say this is gonna happen, here's what happens your brain combined with the ancient wisdom inside of you the understanding that the race is not for the swift, but for the one who endures to the end.
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  Speaker 1: The recognition, the greater is that which is in me than that anything that's in the world.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, remember the ancient wisdom knows it, always knows the idea of falling down seven, but always rising, as it says in Proverbs, the notion that endurance is one of the most difficult disciplines.
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  Speaker 1: But to the one who endures, final victory comes.
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  Speaker 1: So perseverance is also at play.
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  Speaker 1: Not just determination, perseverance, sticking with it Even when you don't see the finish line yet.
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  Speaker 1: And since this is Finish Strong Friday, here's the good news when you use determination and perseverance, you're going to outlast many things.
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  Speaker 1: These are two warriors that don't usually lose a fight Determination and perseverance On a scale of 1 to 10, how determined are you On a scale of 1 to 10, how perseverant are you?
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  Speaker 1: I've been thinking about this a lot.
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  Speaker 1: You know this sort of perseverance versus determination thing, and I think that the perseverance is the day in, day out, grind, right.
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  Speaker 1: It's showing up even when you're tired and discouraged.
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  Speaker 1: I think it was Robin Sharma who wrote the Monk who Sold His Ferrari.
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  Speaker 1: Remember that book.
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  Speaker 1: He says this starting strong is good, but finishing strong.
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  Speaker 1: That's epic and that's the perseverance right.
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  Speaker 1: Determination, though, is the why behind the grind.
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  Speaker 1: It's that fire inside of you that keeps you moving.
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  Speaker 1: Nick Lutichick said this If I fail, I try again and again and again and again, because it matters how you finish.
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  Speaker 1: So perseverance is the steady pace and determination is the fuel.
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  Speaker 1: So that's what you're going to use today.
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  Speaker 1: On Finish Strong Friday, you're going to combine that steady pace, which is your perseverance, with that fuel inside of you, which is your determination.
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  Speaker 1: Both are needed.
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  Speaker 1: You need them both to cross the finish line.
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  Speaker 1: And before I leave, let me just say this.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to really hear this one Sometimes the finish line, the one that you started towards, needs to be redefined.
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  Speaker 1: So many people get sad and frustrated because they don't redefine or reshape the finish line.
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  Speaker 1: Read the TV's, understand the situation.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it's not about completing a project or hitting a goal.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it's about acceptance Accepting where you are, accepting your pace, accepting your limits, and understanding that each day that you put a foot in front of the other, each day that you take one step forward, each day that you put a foot in front of the other, each day that you take one step forward, you're one step closer, and that's progress, acknowledging yourself for the progress you make, even if it's slow.
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  Speaker 1: Finishing strong might mean finding peace with the journey that you're on, even if the destination looks different than you've imagined.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you started out with one goal, but you've decided here's another goal that's more important for me to get done.
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  Speaker 1: So this is your Finish Strong Friday challenge.
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  Speaker 1: Think about a race you're running right now, whether it's a big goal or if it's a daily struggle you're involved in.
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  Speaker 1: And what's one small step you can take today?
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it's sending an email, having a tough talk or just taking a moment to breathe and get control of your breath and regroup.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it's making an appointment to go see the doctor.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it's about making the change in your life that you've been putting off, taking one step, and then ask yourself, what does finishing strong look like in this scenario for me?
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  Speaker 1: Is it completion, is it acceptance, or is it just showing up?
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  Speaker 1: One of those has got to work for you, so I'd love to hear your story.
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  Speaker 1: I'd love to hear what happened for you.
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  Speaker 1: Make sure you hit me up here on YouTube in the comments and, if you like, what you're hearing today about finishing strong, about using determination and perseverance and being able to morph the finish line and to look at having peace with the journey.
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  Speaker 1: Make sure you subscribe and you share it.
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  Speaker 1: And remember my friends the one who perseveres is the one who conquers.
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  Speaker 1: Start strong, stay strong and finish strong by remembering why you started in the first place.
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  Speaker 1: That's from Andy Andrews, best-selling author All right now.
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  Speaker 1: This is Dr Derek Sweet.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much, sweet fathers, for hanging in here with me all week long on embracing threats.
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  Speaker 1: I hope you found this useful.
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  Speaker 1: I know I've enjoyed interacting with you, so let's do this.
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  Speaker 1: I'm with you all the way and I want you to know I really believe in you.
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  Speaker 1: I believe in you and I don't know what threat you're facing, but I want you to know I'm with you.
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  Speaker 1: You're facing, but I want you to know I'm with you, I'm on your side and I know that.
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  Speaker 1: I know that, I know that you can handle this and, more than that, I know that if you and God combine, you will get through it.
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  Speaker 1: Love and blessings.
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  Speaker 1: This is Dr Sweet.
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  Speaker 1: I'm out.
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  Speaker 1: Love and blessings.
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  Speaker 1: This is Dr Sweet, I'm out.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, by the way, don't forget to join me tomorrow for Self-Care Saturday.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes the best way to handle a threat is to take care of ourselves first.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you.