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How to Partner With Your Feelings Without Drowning | EP 306 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  What
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  if
• 0:06
  I
• 0:06
  told
• 0:06
  you,
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  you
• 0:07
  are
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  not
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  at
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  the
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  mercy
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  of
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  your
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  feelings?
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  That
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  sadness,
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  the
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  empty
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  heaviness
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  of
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  it
• 0:13
  all.
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  You
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  get
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  to
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  decide
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  how
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  long
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  you
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  feel
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  her,
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  how
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  deep
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  you
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  feel
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  her,
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  even
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  when
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  you
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  turn
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  the
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  page
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  on
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  her.
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  I
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  know
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  that
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  sounds
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  a
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  little
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  wild,
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  but
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  I
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  learned
• 0:24
  it
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  in
• 0:25
  one
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  of
• 0:25
  the
• 0:25
  hardest
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  seasons
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  of
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  my
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  life,
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  and
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  it
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  changed
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  everything
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  about
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  how
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  I
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  move
• 0:30
  through
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  hard
• 0:30
  feelings.
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  So
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  today,
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  I'm
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  sharing
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  the
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  moment
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  that
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  taught
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  me
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  and
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  the
• 0:35
  practice
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  that
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  came
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  out
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  of
• 0:37
  it.
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  So
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it.
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  Hey
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  friend,
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  welcome
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  back
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  to
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  the
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  podcast.
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  I'm
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  so
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  glad
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  you're
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  here.
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  And
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  if
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  you're
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  new,
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  hey,
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  welcome.
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  I'm
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  your
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  coach,
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  Letitia.
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  Go
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  ahead
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  and
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  hit
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  the
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  subscribe
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  button
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  so
• 0:54
  you
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  don't
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  miss
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  out
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  on
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  what
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  we
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  have
• 0:56
  coming
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  up.
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  And
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  if
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  you
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  are
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  a
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  regular
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  friend,
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  you
• 1:00
  know
• 1:00
  we
• 1:00
  about
• 1:01
  to
• 1:01
  go
• 1:01
  in.
• 1:02
  This
• 1:02
  episode
• 1:03
  is
• 1:03
  actually
• 1:04
  a
• 1:04
  companion
• 1:05
  to
• 1:05
  the
• 1:05
  YouTube
• 1:05
  video,
• 1:06
  Feeling
• 1:06
  Empty
• 1:07
  Is
• 1:07
  Trying
• 1:08
  To
• 1:08
  Tell
• 1:08
  You
• 1:08
  Something.
• 1:09
  In
• 1:09
  that
• 1:09
  video,
• 1:10
  I
• 1:10
  walked
• 1:11
  you
• 1:11
  through
• 1:12
  three
• 1:12
  messages
• 1:13
  that
• 1:13
  empty
• 1:13
  feeling
• 1:14
  is
• 1:14
  probably
• 1:14
  sending
• 1:15
  you.
• 1:15
  And
• 1:15
  today
• 1:16
  we're
• 1:16
  going
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  even
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  deeper
• 1:17
  on
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  an
• 1:18
  area
• 1:18
  that
• 1:18
  I
• 1:18
  touched
• 1:19
  on
• 1:19
  in
• 1:19
  that
• 1:20
  video.
• 1:20
  The
• 1:20
  part
• 1:21
  that
• 1:21
  says
• 1:22
  you
• 1:22
  actually
• 1:22
  get
• 1:23
  to
• 1:23
  decide
• 1:24
  your
• 1:24
  relationship
• 1:25
  with
• 1:26
  your
• 1:26
  feelings.
• 1:27
  You
• 1:27
  get
• 1:27
  to
• 1:27
  decide
• 1:28
  when
• 1:28
  you
• 1:28
  sit
• 1:29
  with
• 1:29
  her,
• 1:30
  how
• 1:30
  long
• 1:30
  you
• 1:30
  sit
• 1:31
  with
• 1:31
  her,
• 1:32
  how
• 1:32
  much
• 1:32
  of
• 1:32
  your
• 1:32
  day
• 1:33
  you
• 1:33
  give
• 1:33
  to
• 1:34
  her,
• 1:34
  and
• 1:35
  I
• 1:35
  learned
• 1:36
  that
• 1:36
  the
• 1:36
  hard
• 1:37
  way,
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  okay?
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  So
• 1:39
  today
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  I
• 1:39
  wanna
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  take
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  you
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  with
• 1:40
  me
• 1:40
  into
• 1:41
  the
• 1:41
  season
• 1:42
  that
• 1:42
  taught
• 1:42
  me.
• 1:43
  And
• 1:43
  then
• 1:43
  I
• 1:43
  wanna
• 1:44
  give
• 1:44
  you
• 1:44
  a
• 1:44
  practice
• 1:45
  you
• 1:45
  can
• 1:45
  use
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  this
• 1:46
  week,
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  so
• 1:46
  you
• 1:46
  can
• 1:47
  actually
• 1:47
  pour
• 1:47
  something
• 1:48
  into
• 1:48
  yourself.
• 1:49
  So
• 1:49
  get
• 1:50
  comfortable
• 1:50
  and
• 1:51
  let
• 1:51
  the
• 1:51
  pouring
• 1:51
  begin.
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  Okay,
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  friend,
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  I'm
• 1:54
  taking
• 1:55
  you
• 1:55
  back
• 1:55
  to
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  the
• 1:55
  first
• 1:56
  birthday
• 1:57
  I
• 1:57
  had
• 1:58
  without
• 1:58
  my
• 1:59
  mom.
• 1:59
  For
• 2:00
  those
• 2:00
  of
• 2:00
  you
• 2:01
  who
• 2:01
  don't
• 2:01
  know,
• 2:02
  my
• 2:02
  mom
• 2:02
  and
• 2:02
  I
• 2:02
  share
• 2:03
  the
• 2:03
  same
• 2:04
  birthday.
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  Yes,
• 2:05
  the
• 2:06
  exact
• 2:06
  same
• 2:06
  day.
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  I
• 2:07
  used
• 2:07
  to
• 2:07
  always
• 2:08
  tell
• 2:08
  her,
• 2:08
  "I'm
• 2:09
  the
• 2:09
  gift
• 2:09
  that
• 2:09
  keeps
• 2:10
  on
• 2:10
  giving,"
• 2:10
  okay?
• 2:13
  This
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  made
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  every
• 2:14
  birthday
• 2:15
  feel
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  like
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  a
• 2:16
  double
• 2:16
  celebration,
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  a
• 2:18
  built-in
• 2:18
  best
• 2:19
  friend
• 2:19
  on
• 2:19
  the
• 2:19
  day
• 2:20
  I
• 2:20
  came
• 2:20
  into
• 2:20
  the
• 2:20
  world.
• 2:21
  We
• 2:21
  were
• 2:21
  literally
• 2:22
  the
• 2:22
  same
• 2:23
  person
• 2:23
  in
• 2:24
  so
• 2:24
  many
• 2:24
  ways.
• 2:25
  And
• 2:25
  then
• 2:26
  she
• 2:26
  made
• 2:27
  her
• 2:27
  transition
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  to
• 2:28
  heaven.
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  How
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  dare
• 2:29
  she?
• 2:31
  And
• 2:32
  you
• 2:32
  know
• 2:32
  what
• 2:32
  time
• 2:32
  did?
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  It
• 2:33
  kept
• 2:34
  the
• 2:34
  calendar
• 2:34
  turning,
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  and
• 2:35
  eventually
• 2:37
  the
• 2:37
  day
• 2:37
  came,
• 2:38
  our
• 2:38
  birthday,
• 2:39
  the
• 2:39
  first
• 2:39
  one
• 2:40
  I
• 2:40
  ever
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  had
• 2:41
  without
• 2:42
  her.
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  And
• 2:43
  I
• 2:43
  want
• 2:43
  you
• 2:43
  to
• 2:44
  understand
• 2:44
  what
• 2:45
  I
• 2:45
  was
• 2:45
  actually
• 2:46
  carrying
• 2:46
  that
• 2:46
  morning.
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  I
• 2:48
  had
• 2:48
  been
• 2:48
  trying
• 2:49
  to
• 2:49
  prepare
• 2:49
  myself
• 2:50
  for
• 2:50
  this
• 2:50
  grief
• 2:51
  for
• 2:51
  weeks
• 2:52
  because
• 2:52
  I
• 2:52
  knew
• 2:53
  that
• 2:53
  the
• 2:53
  day
• 2:53
  was
• 2:53
  coming,
• 2:54
  and
• 2:55
  I
• 2:55
  didn't
• 2:56
  know
• 2:56
  if
• 2:56
  I
• 2:56
  was
• 2:57
  gonna
• 2:57
  be
• 2:57
  okay.
• 2:58
  I
• 2:58
  told
• 2:58
  myself
• 2:59
  that
• 2:59
  I
• 2:59
  would
• 3:00
  honor
• 3:00
  her,
• 3:01
  I
• 3:01
  would
• 3:02
  let
• 3:02
  myself
• 3:03
  feel
• 3:04
  whatever
• 3:04
  came
• 3:04
  up,
• 3:05
  and
• 3:05
  I
• 3:05
  would
• 3:05
  still
• 3:06
  do
• 3:06
  my
• 3:06
  best
• 3:06
  to
• 3:06
  try
• 3:07
  to
• 3:07
  celebrate.
• 3:08
  And
• 3:09
  the
• 3:09
  night
• 3:09
  before
• 3:10
  I
• 3:10
  went
• 3:10
  to
• 3:10
  bed,
• 3:11
  I
• 3:11
  felt
• 3:11
  pretty
• 3:11
  steady.
• 3:12
  I
• 3:13
  knew
• 3:13
  I
• 3:13
  had
• 3:13
  a
• 3:13
  plan,
• 3:14
  and
• 3:14
  one
• 3:14
  of
• 3:14
  my
• 3:15
  best
• 3:15
  friends,
• 3:15
  who's
• 3:16
  also
• 3:17
  shared
• 3:17
  the
• 3:17
  same
• 3:17
  birthday
• 3:18
  as
• 3:18
  us,
• 3:18
  we
• 3:19
  were
• 3:19
  doing
• 3:19
  a
• 3:20
  combined
• 3:21
  birthday
• 3:21
  dinner
• 3:21
  that
• 3:22
  night.
• 3:22
  Thank
• 3:23
  goodness
• 3:23
  she
• 3:23
  included
• 3:24
  me
• 3:24
  in
• 3:24
  on
• 3:24
  that
• 3:25
  because
• 3:25
  then
• 3:25
  it
• 3:25
  gave
• 3:25
  me
• 3:26
  something
• 3:26
  to
• 3:26
  look
• 3:27
  forward
• 3:27
  to.
• 3:28
  I
• 3:28
  knew
• 3:29
  that
• 3:29
  at
• 3:29
  the
• 3:30
  end
• 3:30
  of
• 3:30
  the
• 3:30
  day,
• 3:30
  I
• 3:31
  was
• 3:31
  gonna
• 3:31
  be
• 3:31
  surrounded
• 3:32
  by
• 3:32
  people
• 3:32
  who
• 3:33
  love
• 3:33
  me.
• 3:34
  But
• 3:34
  friend,
• 3:35
  when
• 3:35
  I
• 3:35
  woke
• 3:36
  up
• 3:36
  that
• 3:36
  morning,
• 3:37
  the
• 3:37
  grief
• 3:38
  was
• 3:38
  for
• 3:38
  sure
• 3:39
  waiting
• 3:39
  on
• 3:40
  me.
• 3:42
  I
• 3:42
  don't
• 3:42
  even
• 3:43
  know
• 3:43
  if
• 3:43
  I
• 3:43
  can
• 3:43
  explain
• 3:44
  what
• 3:44
  it
• 3:44
  feels
• 3:45
  like
• 3:45
  to
• 3:45
  wake
• 3:46
  up
• 3:46
  on
• 3:46
  a
• 3:46
  day
• 3:46
  you
• 3:47
  used
• 3:47
  to
• 3:47
  share
• 3:47
  with
• 3:48
  someone
• 3:48
  you
• 3:48
  loved
• 3:49
  and
• 3:50
  realize
• 3:50
  that
• 3:51
  they
• 3:51
  are
• 3:51
  not
• 3:51
  in
• 3:52
  this
• 3:52
  dimension
• 3:53
  anymore.
• 3:54
  The
• 3:54
  whole
• 3:54
  texture
• 3:55
  of
• 3:55
  the
• 3:55
  day,
• 3:56
  it
• 3:56
  just
• 3:57
  felt
• 3:58
  off.
• 3:58
  It
• 3:59
  felt
• 3:59
  wrong
• 4:00
  to
• 4:00
  be
• 4:00
  in
• 4:00
  bed.
• 4:01
  Even
• 4:02
  the
• 4:02
  sunlight
• 4:03
  on
• 4:03
  my
• 4:03
  skin
• 4:04
  felt
• 4:04
  like
• 4:04
  it
• 4:05
  was
• 4:05
  out
• 4:05
  of
• 4:05
  pocket.
• 4:06
  The
• 4:06
  first
• 4:07
  cup
• 4:07
  of
• 4:07
  coffee
• 4:08
  didn't
• 4:08
  hit
• 4:09
  right
• 4:10
  because
• 4:10
  my
• 4:10
  mom
• 4:11
  was
• 4:11
  not
• 4:11
  on
• 4:11
  the
• 4:11
  other
• 4:12
  end
• 4:12
  of
• 4:12
  the
• 4:12
  phone
• 4:12
  the
• 4:13
  way
• 4:13
  that
• 4:13
  she
• 4:13
  had
• 4:13
  always
• 4:14
  been
• 4:15
  every
• 4:15
  single
• 4:16
  year
• 4:16
  of
• 4:16
  my
• 4:16
  life,
• 4:17
  and
• 4:18
  I
• 4:18
  had
• 4:18
  a
• 4:18
  choice
• 4:19
  in
• 4:19
  front
• 4:19
  of
• 4:19
  me.
• 4:20
  The
• 4:20
  day
• 4:20
  was
• 4:21
  going
• 4:21
  to
• 4:21
  happen
• 4:22
  regardless.
• 4:23
  The
• 4:23
  dinner
• 4:24
  was
• 4:24
  gonna
• 4:24
  happen.
• 4:25
  The
• 4:26
  combined
• 4:26
  celebration
• 4:27
  with
• 4:27
  my
• 4:27
  best
• 4:28
  friend,
• 4:28
  it
• 4:29
  was
• 4:29
  gonna
• 4:29
  happen,
• 4:30
  and
• 4:30
  I
• 4:31
  was
• 4:31
  sitting
• 4:31
  with
• 4:32
  that
• 4:32
  grief
• 4:32
  that
• 4:32
  felt
• 4:33
  like
• 4:33
  it
• 4:33
  could
• 4:33
  consume
• 4:34
  me
• 4:35
  for
• 4:36
  the
• 4:36
  rest
• 4:36
  of
• 4:36
  my
• 4:36
  days
• 4:37
  if
• 4:38
  I
• 4:38
  let
• 4:38
  it.
• 4:39
  So
• 4:39
  I
• 4:39
  made
• 4:39
  a
• 4:39
  decision,
• 4:41
  and
• 4:41
  this
• 4:42
  is
• 4:42
  the
• 4:42
  key
• 4:43
  decision
• 4:44
  that
• 4:44
  changed
• 4:44
  my
• 4:45
  whole
• 4:45
  relationship
• 4:47
  with
• 4:47
  hard
• 4:47
  feelings.
• 4:48
  I
• 4:48
  told
• 4:49
  myself,
• 4:50
  "I'm
• 4:50
  gonna
• 4:50
  feel
• 4:50
  sad
• 4:51
  until
• 4:52
  10:00
• 4:52
  in
• 4:52
  the
• 4:52
  morning,
• 4:53
  and
• 4:53
  then
• 4:54
  I'm
• 4:54
  gonna
• 4:54
  start
• 4:55
  getting
• 4:55
  ready
• 4:55
  for
• 4:56
  the
• 4:56
  day."
• 4:57
  10
• 4:57
  o'clock
• 4:57
  came,
• 4:58
  and
• 4:58
  I
• 4:58
  was
• 4:58
  still
• 4:59
  feeling
• 4:59
  sad,
• 4:59
  so
• 5:00
  I
• 5:00
  extended
• 5:00
  it.
• 5:00
  I
• 5:01
  said,
• 5:01
  "Okay,
• 5:02
  let
• 5:02
  me
• 5:02
  keep
• 5:03
  going
• 5:03
  and
• 5:04
  just
• 5:05
  feeling
• 5:05
  all
• 5:05
  of
• 5:05
  the
• 5:06
  feels
• 5:06
  until
• 5:07
  11:00,
• 5:08
  and
• 5:08
  then
• 5:08
  I'm
• 5:08
  gonna
• 5:09
  start
• 5:09
  getting
• 5:09
  ready."
• 5:10
  Well,
• 5:10
  listen,
• 5:10
  11:00
• 5:11
  came,
• 5:12
  and
• 5:12
  there
• 5:12
  was
• 5:12
  still
• 5:13
  some
• 5:13
  sadness
• 5:13
  left
• 5:14
  to
• 5:14
  be
• 5:14
  felt.
• 5:15
  So
• 5:15
  I
• 5:15
  said,
• 5:15
  "Okay,
• 5:16
  I'm
• 5:16
  going
• 5:17
  to
• 5:17
  feel
• 5:17
  sad
• 5:18
  until
• 5:18
  noon."
• 5:19
  And
• 5:19
  then
• 5:20
  noon
• 5:20
  came,
• 5:22
  And
• 5:22
  I
• 5:22
  turned
• 5:22
  the
• 5:22
  page.
• 5:23
  I
• 5:24
  started
• 5:25
  celebrating
• 5:26
  me
• 5:27
  and
• 5:27
  honoring
• 5:27
  my
• 5:28
  mom's
• 5:28
  life.
• 5:29
  I
• 5:29
  decided
• 5:30
  to
• 5:31
  spend
• 5:31
  the
• 5:31
  rest
• 5:32
  of
• 5:32
  the
• 5:32
  day
• 5:33
  enjoying
• 5:34
  our
• 5:34
  birthday,
• 5:35
  and
• 5:35
  that's
• 5:35
  exactly
• 5:36
  what
• 5:36
  I
• 5:36
  did.
• 5:37
  Now,
• 5:37
  was
• 5:38
  I
• 5:38
  out
• 5:38
  here
• 5:39
  doing
• 5:39
  cartwheels
• 5:40
  and
• 5:40
  throwing
• 5:40
  confetti?
• 5:41
  No.
• 5:43
  Let's
• 5:44
  not
• 5:44
  get
• 5:44
  ahead
• 5:44
  of
• 5:45
  ourselves.
• 5:47
  But
• 5:47
  I
• 5:47
  really
• 5:48
  want
• 5:48
  you
• 5:48
  to
• 5:48
  hear
• 5:48
  what
• 5:49
  happened
• 5:49
  inside
• 5:49
  of
• 5:49
  that
• 5:50
  practice
• 5:51
  because
• 5:51
  what
• 5:51
  I
• 5:51
  thought
• 5:52
  I
• 5:52
  was
• 5:52
  doing
• 5:53
  was
• 5:53
  negotiating
• 5:54
  with
• 5:54
  my
• 5:54
  grief,
• 5:55
  but
• 5:55
  what
• 5:55
  I
• 5:55
  was
• 5:56
  actually
• 5:57
  doing
• 5:57
  was
• 5:57
  learning
• 5:58
  that
• 5:59
  I
• 5:59
  am
• 5:59
  in
• 5:59
  charge
• 6:00
  of
• 6:00
  how
• 6:01
  I
• 6:01
  relate
• 6:02
  to
• 6:02
  my
• 6:03
  feelings,
• 6:03
  not
• 6:04
  the
• 6:04
  other
• 6:04
  way
• 6:05
  around.
• 6:06
  I
• 6:06
  was
• 6:06
  in
• 6:06
  a
• 6:07
  season
• 6:07
  of
• 6:08
  going
• 6:09
  down,
• 6:09
  just
• 6:10
  like
• 6:10
  Mary
• 6:10
  J.
• 6:10
  Blige
• 6:11
  sang
• 6:11
  about.
• 6:13
  And
• 6:13
  yet,
• 6:14
  I
• 6:15
  got
• 6:15
  to
• 6:15
  decide
• 6:16
  when
• 6:17
  I
• 6:17
  felt
• 6:17
  it,
• 6:18
  for
• 6:18
  how
• 6:18
  long
• 6:19
  I
• 6:19
  felt
• 6:19
  it.
• 6:20
  I
• 6:20
  got
• 6:21
  to
• 6:21
  decide
• 6:21
  how
• 6:22
  much
• 6:22
  I
• 6:23
  actually
• 6:23
  gave
• 6:24
  to
• 6:24
  it,
• 6:25
  and
• 6:25
  I
• 6:25
  got
• 6:25
  to
• 6:26
  decide
• 6:26
  when
• 6:26
  it
• 6:27
  was
• 6:27
  time
• 6:27
  to
• 6:27
  turn
• 6:28
  the
• 6:28
  page.
• 6:29
  And
• 6:30
  surprisingly,
• 6:31
  the
• 6:31
  grief
• 6:32
  cooperated.
• 6:34
  And
• 6:34
  I
• 6:34
  believe
• 6:34
  it's
• 6:35
  because
• 6:36
  she
• 6:36
  had
• 6:36
  been
• 6:37
  heard,
• 6:37
  she
• 6:37
  had
• 6:37
  been
• 6:38
  felt,
• 6:39
  and
• 6:39
  given
• 6:39
  a
• 6:39
  seat
• 6:40
  at
• 6:40
  the
• 6:40
  table
• 6:41
  for
• 6:41
  the
• 6:41
  morning.
• 6:42
  And
• 6:42
  then
• 6:43
  she
• 6:43
  let
• 6:43
  me
• 6:43
  have
• 6:44
  the
• 6:44
  afternoon
• 6:44
  and
• 6:45
  beyond.
• 6:46
  So
• 6:46
  here's
• 6:47
  what
• 6:47
  I
• 6:47
  really
• 6:47
  want
• 6:48
  to
• 6:48
  unpack
• 6:48
  today,
• 6:49
  because
• 6:50
  I
• 6:50
  think
• 6:50
  so
• 6:51
  many
• 6:51
  of
• 6:51
  us
• 6:52
  are
• 6:52
  walking
• 6:52
  around
• 6:53
  believing
• 6:54
  something
• 6:54
  about
• 6:55
  our
• 6:55
  feelings
• 6:55
  that
• 6:56
  isn't
• 6:56
  completely
• 6:57
  true.
• 6:58
  We
• 6:58
  believe
• 6:58
  feelings
• 6:59
  happen
• 7:00
  to
• 7:00
  us,
• 7:01
  that
• 7:01
  they're
• 7:01
  passive,
• 7:02
  that
• 7:02
  the
• 7:02
  feelings
• 7:03
  show
• 7:03
  up,
• 7:04
  and
• 7:04
  we
• 7:04
  are
• 7:04
  just
• 7:05
  at
• 7:05
  their
• 7:05
  mercy.
• 7:06
  She
• 7:06
  decides
• 7:07
  when
• 7:07
  she
• 7:07
  comes,
• 7:08
  how
• 7:08
  long
• 7:08
  she
• 7:08
  stays,
• 7:09
  how
• 7:09
  much
• 7:09
  real
• 7:10
  estate
• 7:10
  she
• 7:10
  gonna
• 7:10
  take
• 7:11
  up
• 7:11
  in
• 7:11
  our
• 7:11
  nervous
• 7:12
  system,
• 7:13
  and
• 7:13
  our
• 7:13
  job
• 7:14
  is
• 7:14
  just
• 7:14
  to
• 7:15
  weather
• 7:15
  her
• 7:15
  storms.
• 7:16
  But
• 7:17
  friend,
• 7:18
  that
• 7:18
  is
• 7:18
  only
• 7:18
  half
• 7:19
  of
• 7:19
  the
• 7:19
  truth.
• 7:20
  The
• 7:20
  other
• 7:20
  half
• 7:21
  of
• 7:21
  the
• 7:21
  truth
• 7:21
  is
• 7:22
  that
• 7:22
  you
• 7:22
  and
• 7:23
  your
• 7:23
  feelings
• 7:24
  are
• 7:24
  in
• 7:24
  a
• 7:24
  relationship.
• 7:26
  Everything
• 7:27
  is
• 7:27
  about
• 7:28
  relationships,
• 7:29
  and
• 7:29
  in
• 7:29
  any
• 7:30
  relationship,
• 7:31
  both
• 7:32
  parties
• 7:33
  get
• 7:33
  to
• 7:33
  negotiate.
• 7:34
  Your
• 7:34
  feelings
• 7:35
  will
• 7:35
  not
• 7:36
  be
• 7:36
  denied.
• 7:37
  That
• 7:37
  part
• 7:37
  is
• 7:37
  very
• 7:38
  true,
• 7:39
  okay?
• 7:39
  You
• 7:40
  can
• 7:40
  try
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  push
• 7:41
  them
• 7:41
  down
• 7:41
  forever
• 7:42
  and
• 7:42
  expect
• 7:43
  them
• 7:43
  to
• 7:43
  stay
• 7:44
  down.
• 7:45
  They
• 7:45
  will
• 7:46
  come
• 7:46
  for
• 7:46
  you,
• 7:47
  okay?
• 7:49
  And
• 7:49
  usually
• 7:50
  at
• 7:50
  the
• 7:50
  worst
• 7:51
  of
• 7:51
  possible
• 7:52
  times.
• 7:52
  So
• 7:53
  if
• 7:53
  you
• 7:53
  have
• 7:53
  been
• 7:54
  trying
• 7:54
  to
• 7:54
  outrun
• 7:55
  your
• 7:55
  feelings,
• 7:56
  that
• 7:56
  strategy
• 7:57
  is
• 7:57
  guaranteed
• 7:58
  to
• 7:58
  fail
• 7:59
  because
• 7:59
  eventually
• 8:00
  it
• 8:00
  always
• 8:01
  does.
• 8:02
  But
• 8:02
  the
• 8:02
  opposite
• 8:03
  is
• 8:03
  not
• 8:04
  the
• 8:04
  answer.
• 8:05
  The
• 8:05
  idea
• 8:06
  that
• 8:06
  you
• 8:06
  have
• 8:06
  to
• 8:06
  fully
• 8:07
  surrender
• 8:07
  to
• 8:08
  a
• 8:08
  feeling
• 8:09
  and
• 8:09
  let
• 8:09
  it
• 8:09
  take
• 8:10
  over
• 8:10
  your
• 8:10
  entire
• 8:11
  day
• 8:12
  or
• 8:13
  drown
• 8:14
  in
• 8:14
  those
• 8:15
  feelings
• 8:15
  until
• 8:16
  she
• 8:16
  decides
• 8:16
  to
• 8:17
  leave,
• 8:17
  that's
• 8:18
  also
• 8:18
  not
• 8:18
  true.
• 8:19
  That
• 8:19
  is
• 8:19
  just
• 8:20
  trading
• 8:21
  one
• 8:21
  extreme
• 8:22
  for
• 8:22
  the
• 8:23
  other.
• 8:23
  The
• 8:23
  real
• 8:24
  practice
• 8:25
  is
• 8:25
  partnership.
• 8:26
  You
• 8:27
  meet
• 8:27
  the
• 8:27
  feeling,
• 8:28
  you
• 8:28
  honor
• 8:28
  her,
• 8:29
  you
• 8:29
  let
• 8:30
  her
• 8:30
  be
• 8:30
  felt,
• 8:31
  and
• 8:32
  you
• 8:32
  set
• 8:32
  the
• 8:32
  terms
• 8:33
  of
• 8:34
  the
• 8:34
  engagement.
• 8:35
  You
• 8:35
  decide
• 8:36
  when
• 8:36
  you
• 8:36
  sit
• 8:37
  with
• 8:37
  her,
• 8:38
  for
• 8:38
  how
• 8:38
  long,
• 8:39
  and
• 8:40
  what
• 8:40
  you're
• 8:40
  doing
• 8:41
  after.
• 8:42
  You
• 8:42
  get
• 8:42
  to
• 8:42
  decide
• 8:43
  to
• 8:43
  come
• 8:44
  back
• 8:44
  to
• 8:44
  her
• 8:44
  tomorrow
• 8:46
  if
• 8:46
  she
• 8:46
  needs
• 8:46
  more
• 8:47
  time.
• 8:47
  And
• 8:47
  hear
• 8:48
  me
• 8:48
  fully
• 8:49
  when
• 8:49
  I
• 8:49
  say
• 8:49
  this.
• 8:50
  This
• 8:50
  is
• 8:50
  not
• 8:51
  your
• 8:51
  cue
• 8:52
  to
• 8:52
  start
• 8:52
  suppressing
• 8:53
  the
• 8:53
  feeling.
• 8:55
  And
• 8:56
  this
• 8:56
  is
• 8:56
  not
• 8:56
  about
• 8:56
  gritting
• 8:57
  your
• 8:57
  teeth
• 8:58
  and
• 8:58
  just
• 8:59
  getting
• 8:59
  through
• 8:59
  it.
• 9:00
  The
• 9:00
  reason
• 9:00
  I
• 9:01
  could
• 9:01
  turn
• 9:01
  the
• 9:01
  page
• 9:02
  at
• 9:02
  noon
• 9:02
  that
• 9:02
  day
• 9:03
  is
• 9:03
  because
• 9:04
  I
• 9:04
  genuinely
• 9:05
  sat
• 9:06
  with
• 9:06
  the
• 9:06
  grief
• 9:07
  from
• 9:07
  the
• 9:07
  moment
• 9:08
  I
• 9:08
  woke
• 9:08
  up
• 9:09
  until
• 9:10
  noon.
• 9:11
  I
• 9:11
  didn't
• 9:11
  skip
• 9:11
  the
• 9:12
  feeling.
• 9:12
  I
• 9:12
  did
• 9:13
  not
• 9:13
  bury
• 9:14
  it.
• 9:14
  I
• 9:15
  gave
• 9:15
  her
• 9:15
  real
• 9:16
  time,
• 9:17
  space,
• 9:18
  and
• 9:18
  attention.
• 9:19
  And
• 9:19
  because
• 9:20
  I
• 9:20
  gave
• 9:20
  her
• 9:21
  what
• 9:21
  she
• 9:21
  needed,
• 9:22
  she
• 9:22
  didn't
• 9:23
  need
• 9:23
  to
• 9:23
  follow
• 9:23
  me
• 9:23
  into
• 9:24
  the
• 9:24
  rest
• 9:24
  of
• 9:24
  my
• 9:24
  day.
• 9:25
  I
• 9:25
  didn't
• 9:26
  need
• 9:26
  to
• 9:26
  carry
• 9:27
  her
• 9:27
  into
• 9:27
  the
• 9:27
  celebration.
• 9:29
  She
• 9:29
  had
• 9:29
  been
• 9:29
  honored,
• 9:30
  and
• 9:31
  now
• 9:31
  she
• 9:32
  could
• 9:32
  rest.
• 9:33
  This
• 9:33
  is
• 9:34
  the
• 9:34
  partnership
• 9:35
  I
• 9:35
  want
• 9:35
  you
• 9:35
  to
• 9:36
  learn
• 9:36
  with
• 9:36
  your
• 9:37
  feelings,
• 9:38
  especially
• 9:39
  the
• 9:39
  hard
• 9:40
  ones.
• 9:41
  whether
• 9:41
  it's
• 9:41
  the
• 9:42
  empty
• 9:42
  feeling,
• 9:43
  sadness,
• 9:44
  and
• 9:44
  even
• 9:45
  grief.
• 9:46
  You
• 9:46
  are
• 9:46
  not
• 9:47
  at
• 9:47
  the
• 9:47
  mercy
• 9:48
  of
• 9:48
  your
• 9:48
  inner
• 9:49
  life.
• 9:50
  You
• 9:50
  are
• 9:51
  her
• 9:51
  partner,
• 9:52
  and
• 9:52
  in
• 9:52
  any
• 9:53
  healthy
• 9:53
  partnership,
• 9:54
  you
• 9:55
  negotiate
• 9:55
  the
• 9:55
  terms.
• 9:56
  Now,
• 9:57
  you
• 9:57
  might
• 9:57
  be
• 9:57
  listening
• 9:58
  and
• 9:58
  you
• 9:58
  might
• 9:58
  be
• 9:59
  like,
• 9:59
  "Girl,
• 9:59
  okay,
• 10:00
  listen,
• 10:00
  Letty,
• 10:01
  how
• 10:02
  do
• 10:02
  you
• 10:02
  actually
• 10:03
  know
• 10:03
  when
• 10:03
  it's
• 10:04
  okay
• 10:04
  to
• 10:04
  turn
• 10:05
  the
• 10:05
  page?
• 10:06
  How
• 10:06
  do
• 10:06
  you
• 10:06
  know
• 10:07
  if
• 10:07
  you're
• 10:07
  honoring
• 10:08
  the
• 10:08
  feeling
• 10:09
  or
• 10:09
  running
• 10:09
  from
• 10:10
  her?"
• 10:10
  And
• 10:11
  the
• 10:11
  answer
• 10:12
  is
• 10:12
  in
• 10:12
  your
• 10:13
  body,
• 10:14
  friend.
• 10:14
  Your
• 10:14
  body
• 10:15
  is
• 10:15
  gonna
• 10:15
  tell
• 10:15
  you.
• 10:16
  If
• 10:16
  you're
• 10:16
  running,
• 10:17
  your
• 10:17
  body
• 10:18
  knows.
• 10:18
  There
• 10:19
  is
• 10:19
  a
• 10:19
  tightness,
• 10:21
  a
• 10:21
  holding,
• 10:22
  a
• 10:22
  bracing,
• 10:23
  if
• 10:23
  you
• 10:23
  will.
• 10:24
  You
• 10:24
  can
• 10:24
  move
• 10:25
  into
• 10:25
  your
• 10:26
  day,
• 10:26
  but
• 10:26
  still
• 10:27
  feel
• 10:27
  it
• 10:27
  in
• 10:28
  your
• 10:28
  throat,
• 10:28
  in
• 10:28
  your
• 10:29
  chest.
• 10:30
  Your
• 10:30
  shoulders
• 10:31
  are
• 10:31
  tight,
• 10:31
  just
• 10:32
  waiting
• 10:32
  for
• 10:33
  the
• 10:33
  moment.
• 10:33
  You
• 10:34
  let
• 10:34
  her
• 10:34
  speak.
• 10:35
  If
• 10:35
  you
• 10:35
  turn
• 10:36
  the
• 10:36
  page
• 10:36
  on
• 10:37
  a
• 10:37
  feeling
• 10:37
  that
• 10:37
  hasn't
• 10:38
  been
• 10:38
  heard,
• 10:39
  she's
• 10:39
  gonna
• 10:39
  follow
• 10:40
  you,
• 10:41
  and
• 10:41
  you
• 10:41
  will
• 10:41
  feel
• 10:42
  her
• 10:42
  lingering
• 10:43
  around
• 10:44
  all
• 10:44
  day
• 10:45
  long.
• 10:45
  You'll
• 10:46
  feel
• 10:46
  her
• 10:46
  at
• 10:46
  3:00
• 10:47
  in
• 10:47
  the
• 10:47
  morning
• 10:48
  when
• 10:48
  you
• 10:48
  can't
• 10:48
  sleep,
• 10:49
  and
• 10:49
  no,
• 10:49
  it's
• 10:49
  not
• 10:50
  the
• 10:50
  perimenopause
• 10:50
  symptoms
• 10:55
  You'll
• 10:55
  feel
• 10:56
  her
• 10:56
  in
• 10:57
  the
• 10:57
  snap
• 10:57
  at
• 10:58
  dinner
• 10:58
  that
• 10:58
  didn't
• 10:59
  match
• 10:59
  the
• 10:59
  situation
• 11:02
  'cause
• 11:02
  she
• 11:02
  is
• 11:03
  showing
• 11:03
  up
• 11:03
  and
• 11:04
  somebody
• 11:04
  is
• 11:05
  catching
• 11:05
  strays
• 11:09
  She
• 11:09
  is
• 11:09
  gonna
• 11:09
  get
• 11:09
  her
• 11:10
  airtime
• 11:10
  one
• 11:11
  way
• 11:11
  or
• 11:12
  another,
• 11:12
  so
• 11:13
  you
• 11:13
  might
• 11:13
  as
• 11:13
  well
• 11:14
  sit
• 11:14
  with
• 11:14
  her
• 11:15
  on
• 11:15
  purpose.
• 11:16
  But
• 11:17
  if
• 11:17
  you
• 11:17
  actually
• 11:18
  sat
• 11:18
  with
• 11:18
  her,
• 11:19
  if
• 11:19
  you
• 11:20
  let
• 11:20
  her
• 11:20
  have
• 11:21
  her
• 11:21
  seat,
• 11:22
  If
• 11:22
  you've
• 11:22
  actually
• 11:23
  given
• 11:23
  her
• 11:24
  time
• 11:24
  to
• 11:25
  breathe,
• 11:26
  to
• 11:26
  have
• 11:26
  presence,
• 11:27
  when
• 11:27
  you
• 11:28
  turn
• 11:28
  the
• 11:28
  page,
• 11:29
  your
• 11:29
  body
• 11:29
  feels
• 11:30
  different.
• 11:31
  There's
• 11:32
  an
• 11:32
  ease,
• 11:33
  a
• 11:33
  softness.
• 11:34
  There's
• 11:34
  space.
• 11:35
  There's
• 11:36
  room
• 11:36
  to
• 11:36
  just
• 11:36
  be
• 11:37
  in
• 11:37
  the
• 11:37
  next
• 11:38
  thing
• 11:38
  without
• 11:39
  dragging
• 11:39
  the
• 11:39
  previous
• 11:40
  thing
• 11:41
  with
• 11:41
  you.
• 11:42
  That's
• 11:42
  the
• 11:42
  difference
• 11:43
  between
• 11:43
  negotiation
• 11:45
  and
• 11:45
  suppression.
• 11:46
  Negotiation
• 11:47
  honors,
• 11:48
  suppression
• 11:49
  skips.
• 11:50
  Your
• 11:51
  body
• 11:51
  will
• 11:51
  tell
• 11:52
  you
• 11:52
  which
• 11:52
  one.
• 11:53
  And
• 11:53
  let
• 11:54
  me
• 11:54
  say
• 11:54
  this
• 11:54
  too,
• 11:54
  because
• 11:55
  sometimes
• 11:56
  the
• 11:56
  feelings
• 11:57
  need
• 11:58
  more
• 11:58
  time
• 11:59
  than
• 11:59
  you
• 11:59
  can
• 12:00
  give
• 12:00
  her
• 12:00
  in
• 12:00
  the
• 12:00
  moment,
• 12:01
  and
• 12:01
  that
• 12:02
  is
• 12:02
  okay.
• 12:03
  You
• 12:03
  can
• 12:03
  schedule
• 12:04
  her
• 12:04
  in,
• 12:04
  okay?
• 12:05
  We
• 12:05
  are
• 12:05
  busy
• 12:06
  girlies,
• 12:06
  and
• 12:07
  we
• 12:07
  don't
• 12:07
  always
• 12:07
  have
• 12:07
  time
• 12:08
  for
• 12:08
  an
• 12:08
  impromptu
• 12:09
  breakdown
• 12:13
  So
• 12:13
  it's
• 12:13
  okay
• 12:14
  to
• 12:14
  say,
• 12:14
  "You
• 12:15
  know
• 12:15
  what?
• 12:15
  I
• 12:15
  see
• 12:15
  you.
• 12:16
  I
• 12:16
  hear
• 12:16
  you.
• 12:17
  I
• 12:17
  can't
• 12:18
  fully
• 12:18
  be
• 12:18
  with
• 12:18
  you
• 12:18
  right
• 12:19
  now,
• 12:19
  but
• 12:19
  I
• 12:20
  will
• 12:20
  come
• 12:20
  back
• 12:20
  to
• 12:20
  you
• 12:21
  tonight
• 12:22
  or
• 12:22
  tomorrow
• 12:22
  morning
• 12:23
  or
• 12:23
  Sunday
• 12:24
  afternoon
• 12:24
  on
• 12:24
  a
• 12:25
  walk."
• 12:25
  And
• 12:26
  then
• 12:26
  you
• 12:26
  actually
• 12:27
  keep
• 12:28
  the
• 12:28
  appointment,
• 12:29
  friend.
• 12:29
  Don't
• 12:30
  be
• 12:30
  trying
• 12:30
  to
• 12:30
  ghost
• 12:30
  her,
• 12:31
  okay?
• 12:31
  Because
• 12:31
  she
• 12:32
  will
• 12:32
  jump
• 12:32
  on
• 12:32
  your
• 12:32
  back
• 12:33
  faster
• 12:34
  than
• 12:34
  fast
• 12:37
  Because
• 12:38
  feelings
• 12:39
  are
• 12:39
  just
• 12:39
  like
• 12:40
  any
• 12:40
  other
• 12:40
  relationship
• 12:41
  in
• 12:41
  your
• 12:41
  life.
• 12:42
  They
• 12:42
  need
• 12:43
  follow-through.
• 12:44
  and
• 12:44
  you
• 12:44
  earn
• 12:45
  their
• 12:45
  trust
• 12:46
  by
• 12:46
  showing
• 12:46
  up
• 12:47
  when
• 12:47
  you
• 12:47
  said
• 12:48
  you
• 12:48
  would.
• 12:51
  Ooh,
• 12:52
  friend,
• 12:52
  if
• 12:52
  you
• 12:53
  wanna
• 12:53
  go
• 12:53
  even
• 12:54
  deeper,
• 12:55
  the
• 12:55
  Main
• 12:55
  Character
• 12:56
  Energy
• 12:56
  journal
• 12:57
  prompts
• 12:57
  is
• 12:58
  built
• 12:58
  for
• 12:58
  this
• 12:59
  exact
• 13:00
  kind
• 13:00
  of
• 13:00
  inner
• 13:01
  work,
• 13:01
  prompts
• 13:02
  that
• 13:02
  help
• 13:02
  you
• 13:02
  sit
• 13:03
  with
• 13:03
  what
• 13:03
  is
• 13:03
  true,
• 13:04
  prompts
• 13:05
  I
• 13:05
  have
• 13:05
  used
• 13:05
  in
• 13:06
  my
• 13:06
  own
• 13:06
  practice
• 13:07
  through
• 13:07
  grief,
• 13:08
  through
• 13:08
  transitional
• 13:09
  seasons,
• 13:10
  joy,
• 13:11
  and
• 13:11
  through
• 13:12
  any
• 13:12
  season
• 13:13
  I
• 13:13
  needed
• 13:14
  to
• 13:14
  reconnect
• 13:15
  back
• 13:16
  to
• 13:16
  the
• 13:16
  best
• 13:16
  of
• 13:16
  me.
• 13:17
  The
• 13:17
  link
• 13:17
  is
• 13:17
  in
• 13:18
  the
• 13:18
  show
• 13:18
  notes,
• 13:18
  so
• 13:18
  pull
• 13:19
  her
• 13:19
  up
• 13:19
  next
• 13:20
  time
• 13:20
  you
• 13:20
  have
• 13:20
  an
• 13:20
  appointment
• 13:21
  with
• 13:21
  a
• 13:22
  feeling,
• 13:23
  And
• 13:23
  let
• 13:23
  your
• 13:23
  hand
• 13:24
  be
• 13:25
  the
• 13:25
  translator
• 13:26
  to
• 13:26
  what
• 13:26
  is
• 13:27
  really
• 13:28
  in
• 13:28
  your
• 13:28
  heart
• 13:31
  Okay,
• 13:31
  friend,
• 13:32
  now
• 13:32
  it
• 13:32
  is
• 13:33
  time
• 13:33
  for
• 13:33
  our
• 13:33
  self-love
• 13:35
  two-step
• 13:35
  with
• 13:36
  the
• 13:36
  remix.
• 13:37
  So
• 13:37
  let
• 13:37
  me
• 13:38
  show
• 13:38
  you
• 13:38
  this
• 13:38
  practice
• 13:39
  because
• 13:39
  I
• 13:39
  don't
• 13:39
  want
• 13:40
  you
• 13:40
  walking
• 13:40
  away
• 13:40
  from
• 13:41
  this
• 13:41
  episode
• 13:41
  with
• 13:42
  concept
• 13:42
  and
• 13:43
  no
• 13:43
  application,
• 13:43
  okay?
• 13:44
  So
• 13:44
  let's
• 13:45
  really
• 13:45
  get
• 13:45
  into
• 13:46
  the
• 13:46
  work.
• 13:47
  Step
• 13:47
  one,
• 13:48
  the
• 13:48
  next
• 13:49
  time
• 13:50
  a
• 13:50
  hard
• 13:50
  feeling
• 13:51
  shows
• 13:51
  up,
• 13:52
  instead
• 13:53
  of
• 13:53
  running
• 13:53
  or
• 13:54
  drowning,
• 13:55
  I
• 13:55
  want
• 13:55
  you
• 13:55
  to
• 13:55
  make
• 13:56
  an
• 13:56
  appointment
• 13:56
  with
• 13:57
  her.
• 13:57
  Out
• 13:58
  loud
• 13:58
  or
• 13:58
  in
• 13:59
  your
• 13:59
  head,
• 13:59
  just
• 14:00
  say,
• 14:01
  "I
• 14:01
  see
• 14:01
  you.
• 14:02
  I
• 14:02
  hear
• 14:02
  you.
• 14:03
  We're
• 14:03
  going
• 14:04
  to
• 14:04
  be
• 14:04
  together,"
• 14:05
  and
• 14:05
  here
• 14:05
  is
• 14:06
  when.
• 14:06
  Maybe
• 14:07
  that
• 14:07
  moment
• 14:08
  is
• 14:08
  right
• 14:09
  now,
• 14:09
  and
• 14:09
  you
• 14:09
  take
• 14:10
  90
• 14:10
  seconds
• 14:11
  just
• 14:12
  to
• 14:12
  feel.
• 14:13
  Maybe
• 14:13
  it's
• 14:14
  later
• 14:14
  tonight
• 14:15
  after
• 14:15
  the
• 14:15
  kids
• 14:16
  are
• 14:16
  in
• 14:16
  bed
• 14:16
  because
• 14:17
  you
• 14:17
  just
• 14:17
  need
• 14:18
  this
• 14:18
  sacred
• 14:19
  moment
• 14:20
  to
• 14:20
  yourself,
• 14:21
  or
• 14:21
  maybe
• 14:22
  it's
• 14:22
  Sunday
• 14:22
  morning
• 14:23
  with
• 14:23
  a
• 14:23
  journal.
• 14:24
  You
• 14:24
  get
• 14:24
  to
• 14:24
  pick
• 14:25
  the
• 14:25
  time,
• 14:25
  the
• 14:25
  place,
• 14:26
  but
• 14:27
  you
• 14:27
  do
• 14:27
  not
• 14:27
  negotiate
• 14:28
  the
• 14:28
  existence
• 14:29
  of
• 14:30
  the
• 14:30
  feeling.
• 14:31
  You
• 14:31
  negotiate
• 14:32
  the
• 14:32
  timing
• 14:33
  of
• 14:33
  it.
• 14:34
  And
• 14:34
  step
• 14:34
  two,
• 14:35
  when
• 14:35
  the
• 14:35
  appointment
• 14:36
  comes,
• 14:37
  keep
• 14:37
  it.
• 14:38
  Place
• 14:38
  your
• 14:38
  hand
• 14:39
  on
• 14:39
  your
• 14:39
  heart,
• 14:40
  breathe.
• 14:41
  No
• 14:41
  phone,
• 14:42
  no
• 14:42
  distractions.
• 14:44
  You
• 14:44
  just
• 14:44
  sit
• 14:44
  with
• 14:45
  her.
• 14:45
  You
• 14:45
  let
• 14:46
  her
• 14:46
  be
• 14:46
  there,
• 14:47
  and
• 14:47
  you
• 14:48
  stay
• 14:48
  until
• 14:49
  your
• 14:49
  body
• 14:49
  tells
• 14:50
  you
• 14:51
  she
• 14:51
  has
• 14:51
  been
• 14:51
  heard,
• 14:52
  not
• 14:53
  until
• 14:53
  she
• 14:53
  is
• 14:53
  gone,
• 14:54
  until
• 14:55
  she
• 14:55
  has
• 14:55
  been
• 14:55
  heard.
• 14:57
  There's
• 14:57
  a
• 14:57
  difference,
• 14:58
  okay?
• 14:59
  And
• 14:59
  then
• 15:00
  step
• 15:00
  three
• 15:01
  is
• 15:01
  the
• 15:01
  you
• 15:01
  step.
• 15:02
  You
• 15:02
  get
• 15:02
  still,
• 15:03
  you
• 15:03
  get
• 15:03
  quiet,
• 15:04
  and
• 15:04
  you
• 15:04
  ask
• 15:05
  yourself,
• 15:06
  "What
• 15:06
  is
• 15:06
  my
• 15:06
  heart
• 15:07
  telling
• 15:08
  me
• 15:08
  to
• 15:08
  do
• 15:09
  next?"
• 15:10
  Because
• 15:10
  after
• 15:10
  a
• 15:11
  feeling
• 15:11
  has
• 15:12
  been
• 15:12
  honored,
• 15:13
  your
• 15:13
  heart
• 15:14
  is
• 15:14
  clear.
• 15:15
  She
• 15:15
  has
• 15:15
  space
• 15:16
  to
• 15:16
  speak,
• 15:17
  so
• 15:17
  listen
• 15:17
  to
• 15:17
  her.
• 15:18
  Trust
• 15:19
  her,
• 15:19
  and
• 15:20
  make
• 15:20
  the
• 15:20
  next
• 15:21
  move.
• 15:21
  Now,
• 15:22
  let
• 15:22
  me
• 15:23
  pour
• 15:23
  into
• 15:23
  you
• 15:23
  real
• 15:24
  quick,
• 15:24
  okay?
• 15:25
  Listen,
• 15:26
  I
• 15:26
  know
• 15:26
  you
• 15:26
  may
• 15:27
  have
• 15:27
  heard
• 15:27
  this
• 15:27
  episode,
• 15:28
  and
• 15:28
  you're
• 15:28
  realizing
• 15:29
  this
• 15:30
  is
• 15:30
  the
• 15:30
  first
• 15:30
  time
• 15:31
  you've
• 15:31
  actually
• 15:32
  been
• 15:32
  at
• 15:32
  the
• 15:32
  mercy
• 15:33
  of
• 15:33
  your
• 15:33
  feelings
• 15:34
  in
• 15:34
  years,
• 15:35
  That
• 15:35
  every
• 15:36
  time
• 15:36
  something
• 15:36
  hard
• 15:37
  showed
• 15:37
  up,
• 15:38
  you
• 15:38
  either
• 15:38
  ran
• 15:39
  from
• 15:39
  it
• 15:39
  or
• 15:39
  you
• 15:39
  drowned
• 15:40
  in
• 15:40
  it.
• 15:41
  There
• 15:41
  was
• 15:41
  no
• 15:41
  middle
• 15:42
  ground
• 15:42
  or
• 15:43
  partnership.
• 15:44
  But
• 15:44
  I
• 15:44
  want
• 15:44
  you
• 15:44
  to
• 15:44
  know
• 15:44
  that
• 15:45
  this
• 15:45
  practice,
• 15:46
  it
• 15:46
  took
• 15:46
  me
• 15:47
  going
• 15:47
  through
• 15:48
  one
• 15:49
  of
• 15:49
  the
• 15:49
  most
• 15:50
  painful
• 15:51
  seasons
• 15:51
  of
• 15:52
  my
• 15:52
  life,
• 15:53
  and
• 15:53
  I
• 15:53
  did
• 15:53
  not
• 15:54
  have
• 15:54
  a
• 15:54
  manual
• 15:55
  when
• 15:55
  I
• 15:55
  was
• 15:56
  going
• 15:56
  through
• 15:56
  my
• 15:56
  first
• 15:57
  birthday
• 15:57
  without
• 15:58
  my
• 15:58
  mom.
• 15:58
  I
• 15:58
  didn't
• 15:59
  have
• 15:59
  someone
• 16:00
  to
• 16:00
  tell
• 16:00
  me
• 16:00
  exactly
• 16:01
  what
• 16:01
  to
• 16:02
  do.
• 16:02
  I
• 16:03
  just
• 16:03
  had
• 16:03
  this
• 16:04
  quiet
• 16:04
  knowing
• 16:05
  inside
• 16:06
  me
• 16:06
  that
• 16:07
  said,
• 16:07
  "You
• 16:08
  can
• 16:08
  decide."
• 16:09
  There
• 16:09
  was
• 16:10
  a
• 16:11
  inner
• 16:12
  knowing
• 16:13
  that
• 16:13
  let
• 16:13
  me
• 16:14
  know
• 16:15
  it
• 16:15
  was
• 16:15
  okay
• 16:16
  to
• 16:16
  feel
• 16:17
  my
• 16:17
  feelings.
• 16:19
  You
• 16:19
  can
• 16:19
  be
• 16:19
  sad
• 16:20
  and
• 16:20
  still
• 16:21
  get
• 16:21
  to
• 16:21
  your
• 16:21
  dinner.
• 16:22
  You
• 16:22
  can
• 16:22
  grieve
• 16:23
  and
• 16:24
  still
• 16:24
  celebrate.
• 16:25
  You
• 16:25
  can
• 16:25
  hold
• 16:26
  the
• 16:26
  hard
• 16:27
  and
• 16:27
  the
• 16:27
  holy
• 16:28
  in
• 16:28
  the
• 16:28
  same
• 16:29
  hand.
• 16:30
  So
• 16:30
  if
• 16:30
  you're
• 16:31
  listening
• 16:31
  and
• 16:32
  you're
• 16:32
  tired
• 16:32
  of
• 16:33
  feeling
• 16:34
  like
• 16:34
  your
• 16:34
  feelings
• 16:35
  are
• 16:35
  completely
• 16:35
  running
• 16:36
  your
• 16:36
  life,
• 16:37
  I
• 16:37
  want
• 16:37
  you
• 16:37
  to
• 16:37
  know
• 16:38
  two
• 16:38
  things.
• 16:39
  One,
• 16:39
  the
• 16:40
  partnership
• 16:41
  is
• 16:41
  possible.
• 16:42
  You
• 16:42
  can
• 16:42
  build
• 16:43
  it.
• 16:43
  And
• 16:44
  two,
• 16:44
  you
• 16:45
  don't
• 16:45
  have
• 16:45
  to
• 16:45
  be
• 16:46
  perfect
• 16:46
  at
• 16:46
  it.
• 16:47
  You're
• 16:47
  gonna
• 16:47
  fumble.
• 16:48
  You're
• 16:48
  gonna
• 16:48
  try
• 16:49
  to
• 16:49
  negotiate,
• 16:50
  and
• 16:50
  maybe
• 16:50
  poorly
• 16:51
  on
• 16:51
  some
• 16:51
  days.
• 16:54
  You
• 16:54
  are
• 16:54
  going
• 16:55
  to
• 16:55
  skip
• 16:55
  the
• 16:55
  appointment
• 16:56
  some
• 16:56
  days,
• 16:57
  and
• 16:57
  that
• 16:57
  is
• 16:58
  okay.
• 16:59
  Every
• 16:59
  relationship
• 17:00
  has
• 17:00
  hard
• 17:01
  days.
• 17:02
  You
• 17:02
  just
• 17:02
  keep
• 17:03
  coming
• 17:03
  back
• 17:04
  to
• 17:04
  her.
• 17:04
  You
• 17:04
  keep
• 17:05
  showing
• 17:05
  up.
• 17:06
  You
• 17:06
  keep
• 17:06
  building
• 17:07
  trust.
• 17:08
  And
• 17:09
  one
• 17:09
  more
• 17:09
  thing.
• 17:10
  Your
• 17:10
  feelings
• 17:10
  are
• 17:10
  not
• 17:11
  your
• 17:11
  enemy.
• 17:12
  They
• 17:12
  are
• 17:13
  not
• 17:13
  flaws
• 17:14
  in
• 17:14
  your
• 17:14
  wiring.
• 17:15
  They
• 17:15
  are
• 17:15
  your
• 17:16
  most
• 17:16
  loyal
• 17:17
  messengers.
• 17:18
  They're
• 17:18
  trying
• 17:19
  to
• 17:19
  keep
• 17:19
  you
• 17:19
  connected
• 17:20
  to
• 17:20
  the
• 17:20
  deepest
• 17:21
  part
• 17:21
  of
• 17:21
  you.
• 17:22
  They
• 17:22
  are
• 17:22
  calling
• 17:23
  your
• 17:23
  attention
• 17:24
  to
• 17:24
  something
• 17:24
  within
• 17:25
  you
• 17:26
  that
• 17:26
  needs
• 17:27
  your
• 17:27
  undivided
• 17:28
  attention.
• 17:29
  So
• 17:30
  when
• 17:30
  you
• 17:30
  build
• 17:31
  this
• 17:31
  partnership,
• 17:32
  you
• 17:32
  are
• 17:33
  not
• 17:33
  just
• 17:33
  managing
• 17:34
  your
• 17:34
  emotions,
• 17:35
  you're
• 17:35
  actually
• 17:35
  coming
• 17:36
  home
• 17:37
  to
• 17:37
  yourself,
• 17:38
  And
• 17:38
  there
• 17:38
  is
• 17:39
  no
• 17:39
  holier
• 17:40
  work
• 17:40
  than
• 17:40
  that,
• 17:41
  okay?
• 17:42
  No
• 17:42
  more
• 17:42
  do
• 17:42
  you
• 17:42
  have
• 17:43
  to
• 17:43
  be
• 17:43
  afraid
• 17:44
  of
• 17:44
  feeling
• 17:45
  your
• 17:45
  feelings.
• 17:46
  With
• 17:47
  this
• 17:47
  practice,
• 17:48
  now
• 17:48
  you'll
• 17:48
  have
• 17:49
  the
• 17:49
  ability
• 17:50
  to
• 17:50
  be
• 17:51
  able
• 17:51
  to
• 17:52
  connect
• 17:53
  to
• 17:53
  your
• 17:53
  feelings
• 17:54
  and
• 17:54
  not
• 17:54
  let
• 17:55
  them
• 17:55
  take
• 17:55
  control
• 17:56
  over
• 17:57
  you
• 17:57
  and
• 17:58
  your
• 17:58
  life.
• 17:59
  And
• 17:59
  I'll
• 17:59
  be
• 17:59
  linking
• 18:00
  the
• 18:00
  YouTube
• 18:01
  video
• 18:01
  for
• 18:01
  you
• 18:01
  also
• 18:02
  in
• 18:02
  the
• 18:02
  show
• 18:02
  notes
• 18:03
  as
• 18:03
  some
• 18:03
  additional
• 18:04
  support.
• 18:04
  this
• 18:05
  is
• 18:05
  emotional
• 18:05
  intelligence
• 18:06
  at
• 18:07
  its
• 18:07
  finest
• 18:07
  because
• 18:08
  we
• 18:08
  are
• 18:09
  regulated
• 18:10
  girlies.
• 18:10
  Okay?
• 18:11
  Okay.
• 18:12
  You
• 18:12
  got
• 18:12
  me,
• 18:13
  I
• 18:13
  got
• 18:13
  you,
• 18:13
  and
• 18:14
  we
• 18:14
  got
• 18:14
  each
• 18:14
  other.
• 18:18
  Ooh,
• 18:18
  friend.
• 18:19
  Yes.
• 18:20
  You
• 18:21
  did
• 18:22
  that
• 18:22
  today,
• 18:23
  friend.
• 18:24
  Thank
• 18:24
  you
• 18:24
  so
• 18:24
  much
• 18:25
  for
• 18:25
  your
• 18:25
  time
• 18:26
  and
• 18:26
  for
• 18:26
  being
• 18:26
  here.
• 18:27
  Thank
• 18:27
  you
• 18:28
  for
• 18:28
  letting
• 18:28
  me
• 18:28
  share
• 18:29
  my
• 18:29
  mom
• 18:29
  with
• 18:29
  you
• 18:30
  and
• 18:30
  the
• 18:30
  lessons
• 18:31
  that
• 18:31
  she
• 18:31
  left
• 18:31
  me
• 18:32
  with.
• 18:32
  Thank
• 18:33
  you
• 18:33
  for
• 18:33
  being
• 18:33
  willing
• 18:34
  to
• 18:34
  look
• 18:34
  at
• 18:34
  your
• 18:34
  own
• 18:35
  life
• 18:36
  with
• 18:36
  new
• 18:36
  eyes.
• 18:37
  This
• 18:38
  is
• 18:38
  how
• 18:38
  confidence
• 18:39
  and
• 18:39
  being
• 18:40
  empowered
• 18:41
  is
• 18:41
  built.
• 18:42
  Today,
• 18:43
  we
• 18:43
  took
• 18:43
  a
• 18:43
  step,
• 18:44
  and
• 18:44
  I'm
• 18:45
  super
• 18:45
  proud
• 18:46
  of
• 18:46
  you.
• 18:47
  So
• 18:47
  now
• 18:47
  it's
• 18:48
  your
• 18:48
  turn
• 18:48
  to
• 18:48
  go
• 18:49
  out
• 18:49
  here
• 18:49
  and
• 18:50
  be
• 18:50
  the
• 18:50
  confident
• 18:51
  and
• 18:51
  empowered
• 18:52
  woman
• 18:52
  you
• 18:53
  are.
• 18:54
  I
• 18:54
  love
• 18:54
  you
• 18:54
  so
• 18:54
  much,
• 18:54
  friend,
• 18:55
  and
• 18:55
  I'll
• 18:55
  see
• 18:56
  you
• 18:56
  in
• 18:56
  the
• 18:56
  next
• 18:57
  episode.