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#199: The Hidden Trauma Behind "I Don't Have Time" · The Hotmomz Lifestyle Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Why don't you have time to get healthy and get the body and get super fucking fit and all that stuff?
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  SPEAKER_00: I've been helping ladies in the cycle of things not working out when it comes to their health and body for 17 years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Former fitness model, mom of two, total hysterectomy at 33, was pre-menopausal in my 20s.
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  SPEAKER_00: I should not be successful, but I am.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I when I cracked the code, when I cracked the code, I shared it with everybody.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it took my little company to multi-seven figures because it was working.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when something works, it goes viral.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's the deal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's why you don't have time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's why you don't have time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I typically work with women who are like 30 to 40 years old, busy professionals, busy career moms, busy single women.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've got a lot of gals that aren't moms.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're just career women, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: But what the number one thing that I hear is they're just busy.
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  SPEAKER_00: She don't have a lot of time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's crazy because even when we look at your application and we book the call and stuff like that, it's just that in itself makes women get anxiety.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not necessarily about money because we have things that are very affordable.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have things for everybody.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we're never going to stick people in something that they really can't do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we they know it's not about the money, but time is a thing that I keep hearing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is like, I still have time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Time, time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me tell you what that is.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the secret that I found out through the way that I ended up getting healthy, even though doctors were telling me I was wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything that I was doing and did in the past kind of stopped working for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was doing two a day cardio, getting in 10,000 steps a day.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was eating 1,400 calories, cutting out certain food groups, focusing on clean eating and low carbs, and none of that shit was getting me the result I thought it should get me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Turns out I was running with the similar belief under undercurrent that women who tell me they don't have a lot of time are running with.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's the same energy, it's the same belief systems and everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when I figured that out, and I put all this in a training, by the way, if you want that training where you'll know exactly why the body's stuck, why it feels like it's harder than it needs to be, why there's you there's always a feeling like there's just not enough time or whatever, go watch the training.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just comment, click the link, get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's caseyship.com forward slash register.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is a training I put together.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I figured out what it was, it'll give you the answer.
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  SPEAKER_00: So just go watch that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then if you want to, you can apply to work with this and we'll look at what's going on and tell you exactly the patterns.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I specialize in seeing the patterns that you can't see, that no other program can even see.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then once you see the patterns, you can't unsee it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I'll tell you how to unwind it, unwind it and get everything you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: And never go back.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the key is get the result, but never have to address it again.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the key, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: But the thing about not having time is this trauma.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just, it literally is a trauma response.
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  SPEAKER_00: When there's, and I go through this too, being a trauma-informed fitness coach, I'm not perfect.
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  SPEAKER_00: The reason I know this stuff is because I've lived it, I embody it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So lack in scarcity.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of us grew up being rushed.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of us grew up because you are nothing more than your mother's nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if she was rushing around, if she was like had everything to do back to back, though there was urgency and everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hurry up, we got to get this, hurry up, we got to do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's just not enough time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's a trauma energy, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a lack, it's a scarcity.
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  SPEAKER_00: So usually if you don't have enough time, there's not enough money, and then the body's not there.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's three for three, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And the old school saying of personal growth is, oh, you don't have enough time because you don't invest time in yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you don't have money because you don't invest money in yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've all heard that shit, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's yeah, where's the mechanism to actually change my fucking life?
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's what it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can give you a lot of hacks and give you a lot of things, but not until you understand the core foundation.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you truly feel like you don't have enough time, okay, if you truly feel that way, let me ask you a question.
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  SPEAKER_00: What if you did?
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  SPEAKER_00: What if you did have enough time today?
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  SPEAKER_00: Then what?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you would probably start going through your head and your mind about those of you who go, that'd be nice.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not a fit for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those of you who actually went and started getting into exercise with me, if you did have enough time, everything was gonna everything was good, but you did have enough time today, you could take your time today, then what would you do?
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  SPEAKER_00: How would you work out?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, how would you do I?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you did have enough time, what would you do?
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  SPEAKER_00: Would you go on a beautiful bike ride down the trail?
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  SPEAKER_00: Would you go work out?
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  SPEAKER_00: Would you eat differently?
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  SPEAKER_00: Would you sit down to eat?
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  SPEAKER_00: Would you you know what I'm saying?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you could take your time, you would approach things differently.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now quantum teaches, and I do teach quantum, okay, but quantum says your now moments create the future.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you start to right now today, behave and think like the woman who has time, she can take her time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you start doing that, you're gonna change your wiring.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna change your nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna rewire your nervous system in real time.
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  SPEAKER_00: You will get tested.
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  SPEAKER_00: By the time you say you're gonna do that, you're gonna get something that literally tests you and see, and it was gonna see if you revert back to your old ways of panic, urgency, and lack.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, that's an easy hack to do, but it's like, that's cool, but how do I change the actual core operating system?
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  SPEAKER_00: That, my friend, is gonna be in the nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to address the trauma that cause the nervous system to really truly think there's not enough time because there is enough time.
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  SPEAKER_00: You create the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: You create the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Problem is there's a lot of things in the way that you think are more important than the action required to do the thing that's gonna get you the outcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because really, there's a part of you that's scared to get the outcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're so afraid that you're going to fail again.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're so afraid that it's not gonna work, you're so afraid that you'll be seen as that girl.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll be, you're so afraid that you're gonna have to do something you don't want to do to get the body, or that it you'll feel guilty, or that who's gonna take care of the kids, then it's all on me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then it's gonna, it's gonna burden someone if I am this person, where I'm going here, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: All that is trauma.
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  SPEAKER_00: And not until you address trauma patterns that live inside your body, because I can promise you right now, I can promise you, most women, because I can't make claims like in softy ass Facebook and Instagram, most women they struggle with their bodies, struggling with weight, energy, sleep, hormonal things, any of that, gut issues, bloating, all the things, it always points back to some kind of trauma pattern that's not serving you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And once you see it, you're 80% there.
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  SPEAKER_00: My work teaches you to see it, and then it teaches you in an instant in real time how to change it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We give you the right resources and tools.
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  SPEAKER_00: We give you the food test so you're not guessing.
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  SPEAKER_00: We give you the proper hormones so that you're not running around doing functional medicine, taking fucking progesterone and estrogen and testosterone and calling it a day.
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  SPEAKER_00: We actually address the survival patterns underneath the hormones, so the actual hormone therapy that you get on works.
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  SPEAKER_00: We give the specific style of training that actually matches your nervous system.
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  SPEAKER_00: For women who don't have a lot of time, for busy moms, because you've got little kids, yeah, you need a different way to work out.
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  SPEAKER_00: For women who have autoimmune diseases, the nice girl disease, I used to have it too.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need a very unique way to work out.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need a very unique way to get healthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, not until you address your health and your body with a trauma-informed approach, just like mine with the hot mom's lifestyle, it's just it's gonna look like wait for the perfect time, which is the trauma response.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna look like waiting till money's better, waiting till the kids do this, waiting, waiting, waiting, wait.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't need more knowledge either.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't need more information because more information and knowledge without action is pointless.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need more action.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need more action.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you really truly don't have time, then you need to work with me more than anyone else.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you're gonna reach a you're gonna reach a moment in your life when you're looking at some things, deathbed situations, a bad diagnosis situation, and you're gonna look back and you're gonna have to sit with a lot of grief.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of grief that could easily be cleared or not even have to be sat with.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you gotta take action and you gotta realize that you create time, you bend time, you make time work for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you understand that you truly are the creator of time and how things get to go in your life, and you're not a victim of circumstance, and that you're just running on an old paradigm of your mother's urgency and lack and running around like everything's gotta move.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like when you're willing to shift your belief system and your wiring, your life's gonna change.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you're ready for it to be easier, you'll work with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's why you don't have enough time.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's because you truly believe there's not enough time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's a part of you, lastly, an identity piece, only moves when there's not enough time.
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  SPEAKER_00: One example of that is women who get out of shape, and then there's something coming up.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a class reunion, there's a wedding, there's a vacation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then now she's got a pressure point.
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  SPEAKER_00: I need to get ready for this thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now she's gonna get in shape, get the result, then she's gonna fall off, gain the weight back, or get off track, and then just blame herself, blame the say she wasn't disciplined enough when really she runs on an identity that requires lack of time.
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  SPEAKER_00: She runs on an identity that is needing urgency to get the result.
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  SPEAKER_00: So until you address the identity that's once again, broke a record, trauma patterns that created the identity of the woman who needs rushing and urgency to take action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nothing's gonna shift.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you have to address the trauma patterns underneath.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not and then and only then will the workouts and the hormones and the diets actually stick.
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  SPEAKER_00: It gets to be really easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pretty much anything that's in the way right now, whether it's time, money, self-belief, confidence, self-esteem, just fear.
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  SPEAKER_00: My work clears that out.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just an emotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just an emotion that you're afraid of.
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  SPEAKER_00: No big deal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to being human.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's clear that out so you can actually get what you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go watch the training, DM comment training, and I'll send it over.
• 11:00
  SPEAKER_00: You really need to watch it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You really need to apply to work with us.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm doing calls this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Would love to talk to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll help you out.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll get you set up.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you won't be having this problem anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: So take action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Action takers get results.