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Run the Risk, Reap the Rewards 4/7: If You Risk Nothing, You Risk Everything: Trust Yourself Thursday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:05
  Speaker 1: Greetings and welcome.
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: Greetings and welcome.
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Sweet Spot.
• 0:11
  Speaker 1: You're listening to Dr Derek Sweet here on the Sweet Spot.
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  Speaker 1: It is Trust Yourself Thursday and we're going to talk about the risk of trust today as we continue our series Run the Risk, reap the Reward, beautiful souls.
• 0:27
  Speaker 1: As we've been discussing all week, trust is a muscle.
• 0:33
  Speaker 1: We've got to work on it, we've got to develop it and we have to strengthen it.
• 0:41
  Speaker 1: Trust is one of the riskiest moves also we'll ever make, but it's also one of the most transformational, because when we combine trust and risk, we recognize that there's loss, danger and exposure, especially when we get into relationships, because relationships involve risk.
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  Speaker 1: Relationships also involve trust.
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  Speaker 1: So trust and risk, they are about faith as much as they are about anything else.
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  Speaker 1: They're about growth and you know what Trust and risk are about betting on something bigger than your fear, bigger than the people around you, even bigger than you.
• 1:34
  Speaker 1: Today's message on Trust Yourself Thursday is the risk of trust.
• 1:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, the risk of trust, right.
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  Speaker 1: Trusting someone with your truth, whatever that truth really is.
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  Speaker 1: Trusting yourself to love again, especially when you've been hurt or if you've lost someone you really love.
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  Speaker 1: Trusting your body to heal, even when it's taking so long and there's so many setbacks, trusting God's timing even when it feels like God is absent and nothing makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: Let's be real Trust takes a lot of bravery and it takes more strength to stay open after pain, in my opinion, than it does to shut down and stay safe, like that's the go-to move.
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  Speaker 1: And I've been there myself where it's safer to just shut down and stay safe and just keep everybody out.
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  Speaker 1: But that's not the move, that's not the way, because when you do that, the walls you are literally using to keep someone else out are the same walls that are keeping you in and isolated, and isolation is its own danger.
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  Speaker 1: In neuroscience there's a saying that when you trust and you try to trust even though you're feeling shaky or you don't have a full belief that your nervous system becomes more engaged, it becomes stronger.
• 3:30
  Speaker 1: You engage a part of the brain called the ventral vagal complex and when this system is activated, especially as you're trusting, it creates a calmness, an openness, a sense of emotional safety and connection.
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  Speaker 1: But when the system is broken, your body will shift into a God-intense shutdown state and eventually vagal complex is not as powerful.
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  Speaker 1: Here's the good news With each small act of trust you take.
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  Speaker 1: As you begin to rebuild your trust in yourself, in the things around you, your nervous system begins to relearn how to be safe.
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  Speaker 1: Your ventral vagal complex learns to restore your calm.
• 4:26
  Speaker 1: It learns how to rebuild connections as you rewire your courage.
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  Speaker 1: So when you're being courageous, when you're taking one small step, you are literally training your brain as to what it needs to do.
• 4:43
  Speaker 1: And sometimes the signs can get a little bogged down, like nobody's walking around and I'm aware of this saying well, you know what.
• 4:51
  Speaker 1: My ventral vagal complex is really not feeling great today.
• 4:55
  Speaker 1: I'm going to work on social connection and I'm going to work on emotional safety.
• 4:59
  Speaker 1: I'm going to, you know, really just work on trust so that I can actually strengthen my ventral vagal complex.
• 5:06
  Speaker 1: I get it, that's not working for everybody, but it's good for you to know that your brain is responding to either your lack of trust or you're putting yourself in the direction of trust.
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  Speaker 1: There are consequences for your brain.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I share it.
• 5:20
  Speaker 1: But maybe the ancient scriptures are better Because they're timeless, and in Proverbs it says Trust in God with all your heart Emphasis, trust In God with all your heart, and lean not to your own understanding.
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  Speaker 1: So this is a little bit of a different angle than just looking at the ventral vagal complex.
• 5:41
  Speaker 1: This is now asking your heart to do something and your mind to do something.
• 5:46
  Speaker 1: Sometimes the boldest thing you can do is to let go.
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  Speaker 1: Let go of control, because that's what I read when I read this ancient wisdom Trust in God with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of times it's our own understanding that's the issue.
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  Speaker 1: It's my sense of logic, my doing all the calculations, my doing all the math, my trying to figure it out, trusting in me and not in anything bigger than me.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't take any risks because I can't see a path forward.
• 6:21
  Speaker 1: I can only figure out what the fault is and I can only see what's wrong.
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  Speaker 1: But that's not what the ancient wisdom wants us to do.
• 6:29
  Speaker 1: It wants us to trust in the divine with all our heart, blind faith in something bigger than us, giving us the courage to take a calculated risk.
• 6:39
  Speaker 1: General Davis had a quote if you risk nothing, you risk everything.
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  Speaker 1: And let me say that again If you risk nothing, you risk everything.
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  Speaker 1: That includes the risk of staying closed, because when you stay closed and you risk nothing, well, everything can be lost that make sense.
• 7:12
  Speaker 1: We've got to take a risk.
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  Speaker 1: So some of us listening today may have been burned Burned in love, burned by a family member, burned by a friendship, burned by a family member, burned by a friendship, burned by a job, burned by someone we trust.
• 7:32
  Speaker 1: And you know what we did.
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  Speaker 1: We built a wall.
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  Speaker 1: We've built walls.
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  Speaker 1: You built a wall just to survive.
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  Speaker 1: But here's the thing Healing doesn't happen behind walls.
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  Speaker 1: It happens when we make connections to others.
• 7:46
  Speaker 1: But here's the thing Healing doesn't happen behind walls.
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  Speaker 1: It happens when we make connections to others and connections to different sources of healing.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't happen in isolation.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, trust is risky, but isolation, that's a slow erosion of your joy.
• 8:12
  Speaker 1: Trust me on that.
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  Speaker 1: Isolation is the setup for depression.
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  Speaker 1: Isolation is the place where your mind can play tricks on itself, chew on itself, has it have its own logic, it can take you out to sea without a compass and there's nothing to ground you and to lead you back to the shore.
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  Speaker 1: So today, my friend, I'm challenging you on Trust Yourself Thursday, to take one, one step.
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  Speaker 1: Do one small act of trust today.
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  Speaker 1: Open up to somebody that you feel safe with, share something real, put down the weight you've been carrying alone, or maybe just forgive yourself for how long you've been surviving quietly.
• 9:02
  Speaker 1: Even the smallest risk you take to trust and reopen the door could totally change your life.
• 9:14
  Speaker 1: But you've got to make that first step.
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  Speaker 1: You've got to take the risk Because around here, on the sweet spot, around here, we don't fear vulnerability.
• 9:31
  Speaker 1: We stand on it.
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  Speaker 1: In these parts, we run the risk so that we can reap the reward.
• 9:43
  Speaker 1: You've got to run that risk.
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  Speaker 1: You've got to take a chance again.
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  Speaker 1: It's the only way.
• 9:51
  Speaker 1: In sports and performance, there will be loss, but you know what?
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  Speaker 1: It's the next game.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes you miss the shot, you take a swing and you miss, but it's the next play that matters.
• 10:08
  Speaker 1: Don't dwell in the past.
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  Speaker 1: Don't dwell about what's not working.
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  Speaker 1: Don't look back and count all the mistakes, all the times it didn't work out.
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  Speaker 1: That's the past.
• 10:19
  Speaker 1: Put the past in the past where it belongs.
• 10:28
  Speaker 1: All right now.
• 10:29
  Speaker 1: This is Dr Derek Smith.
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  Speaker 1: You've been listening to Trust Yourself Thursday.
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  Speaker 1: I hope you're getting this.
• 10:33
  Speaker 1: I know you are, because look, tomorrow we're going to go on further with Friday.
• 10:39
  Speaker 1: We're going to finish strong With a message about touch moves, about big moments and what it really means to show up when it matters most and you've been doing that all your life.
• 10:51
  Speaker 1: Whether you believe it or not, you've been doing it, and where you haven't been doing it, we're gonna get all under it and we're gonna change that around.
• 10:58
  Speaker 1: See you tomorrow.
• 10:59
  Speaker 1: I finished strong Friday and, for those of you, if you like this vibe and you're getting something out of this, please subscribe to this YouTube channel, hit like and then share it.
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  Speaker 1: More importantly, share it with someone who might need this message.
• 11:17
  Speaker 1: Be blessed.