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109. Underrated · Your Enriched Self

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  Complex issue, at least I saw it as complex, and let me paint
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  the picture for you. I am new to Indianapolis. I have never driven
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  in snow, at least the level of snow that Indianapolis gets. It is
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  an early dark Monday morning. I am headed to work and I suddenly hit
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  a snow embankment, basically snow that was pushed off off the side of the
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  road. I accidentally hit that snow embankment. My car crosses over the median
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  into oncoming traffic. Luckily for me, my quick wits, I was able
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  to turn my car around and get to the other side of the road.
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  I parked the car. I'm grateful to be alive and not hurt, so
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  I'll date this a bit for us. When I get out of my car,
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  I am now a parked at the post office, and inside the post
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  office was a pay phone. I pick up the payphone. I call my
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  sister. I tell her what happened. I asked her what to do,
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  and she says, this, this was the This is the advice. She
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  said. If you go home now, when you get up tomorrow morning,
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  there's still going to be snow on the ground. In so many words,
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  she said you're going to face the music today or you're gonna wake up tomorrow
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  morning and face it tomorrow. At that moment, I realized I didn't have
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  a problem. I had a choice. Depending on what I did or didn't
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  do would change how I see myself and situations or challenges I face. I
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  chose to go to work that day. I chose to confront this challengeing opportunity.
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  It was by far one of the most significant personal growth moments for me
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  because it helped me to rethink what is possible for me and essentially face the
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  music. Facing the music can be daunting, it can be challenging, but
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  it is absolutely necessary to move forward and learn from our experiences. Hello,
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  my friends from all across the globe, and welcome to the Urine rid Self
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  Podcast. I am your host, Miley Noir. I am a mindset coach
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  and your mindset advocate, and all that means is I want you to be
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  intentional about what you're thinking, about what you're doing, how you're showing up.
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  And that's why I created this space so that each and every week I
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  can do to things and help you become more of your in rid self.
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  And so that's what this platform is about we talk about all sorts of mindset
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  fusion topics, self care, soul care, intentional thinking, all of the
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  things that are necessary for you to show up as the best version of yourself.
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  So each week I set up this platform so we have a safe space
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  to talk through and walk through these topics. Now, if you are new
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  here, I want to welcome you. I want to thank you for joining
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  day nine, we are on episode one hundred and nine, and I
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  you've gotten some benefits. I'm pretty sure you've been blessed and that you've gotten
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  not just information but transformation from the many episodes you've had an opportunity to participate
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  in. Before we get started into this week's episode, if you know,
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  you know what we do here each week is I make a deposit in the
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  bank of you, because I don't want you out there in the streets bankrupt.
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  So how I make deposits is I do so by way of affirmations.
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  Affirm nations are a great way to start your day and to command your morning.
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  And this week's affirmation is I have a greatness within me. I have
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  greatness within me. I have greatness within me. Now let's get ready for
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  this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. So earlier I shared a
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  little bit about some of my personal growth story, which is also in part
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  self improvement and when we think about self improvement. For the last few years
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  and even here on this podcast, I've talked about self care and self care
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  is just part of the strategy for you to become more of your in rich
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  self. The thing about self care is that it comes in so many shapes
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  and size, that it comes in so many different forms. But this week
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  I want to talk about some of the self care activities that are underrated,
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  some of the things for me personally. This is my list that I'm sharing
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  with you of the activities that have helped me to boost my mental health to
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  improve my self care. Right we're talking about personal growth. We're talking about
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  self growth, self improvement, and this falls right in alignment with that.
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  Those are the things that have become beneficial for me, and I hope that
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  you find value and that these things on my list can also be activities that
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  are helpful for you as well. So again, this is my list of
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  activities that tend to be under rated when it comes to self care. So
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  before we get into these activities, you know me, I want to get
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  us under the hood so we know what we're talking about underrated. Let's define
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  it. Underrated is undervalued, underestimate or underestimated. You're selling something short,
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  or you're downplaying it or playing it down. So those are some of the
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  many definitions about underrated. So when we think about this list of things,
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  these are some of the things that we undervalue or downplay when it comes to
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  our self care. So again, this is my list, So I'm sharing
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  my first one. My first one is taking time off before you burn out.
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  And I'm gonna tell you that that requires you to be so intentional because
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  you're gonna have to pay attention to your needs. I call it prioritizing you.
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  If somebody reaches out to you a family member, somebody love, it
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  doesn't matter, and they ask you for your time, whether it's a day
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  off or a weekend or whatever it is, to go do something for them.
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  You are probably the first person to say yes, and there's nothing wrong
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  with that. But what I want you to do, and what I've had
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  to do, is to prioritize me. In other words, prioritize you.
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  And that's going to require you, just like you're attentive to the needs of
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  others, to pay attention to what your body is saying, to pay attention
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  to when you need to turn down or unplug from your day to day,
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  whether it's working a nine to five or working in your business or whatever it
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  is that you do pay attention to when you are getting those internal signs and
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  you know your signs, you know yourself, and that's when you act and
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  you take the time off. And for some of us, it may be
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  putting some time off on a calendar at work and taking that time away from
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  the job, away from the day to day activities as part of that job,
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  or it can be taking an hour away. Sometimes you gotta sneak the
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  little bits and carve that bit of time that you need as you can take
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  it, because I'm a believer in you know, start where you are with
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  what you have, and some of us don't have eight hours. Maybe you
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  are a stay at home mom and you don't have eight hours to take the
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  day off. You might need to take a twenty minute break or whatever.
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  But the whole point is to pay attention to the signs, the internal signs,
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  the alarms that are going off inside of you, that are telling you
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  it's time to do something before something happens. And I've been there before many
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  times, too many times to count. I don't see myself there here in
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  that position right now because I have been very intentional about paying attention to myself,
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  paying attention to those internal signs, and taking the time off. It
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  might be sleeping in. Sometimes it's something as simple as sleeping in. It's
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  an underrated thing. It requires you to be to be attentive to you,
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  and I know you know how to do it because you're the first person to
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  jump in and save the day for somebody else. I'm asking you to do
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  it for yourself. That's the first one. This one is a heartfelt one
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  for me, praying for someone else. It is the best feeling in the
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  world, because you know, oftentimes when I pray, obviously I'm praying for
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  myself, my kids, my husband, my family, all of the things.
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  And I feel like God knows, he knows what, he knows the
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  desires of my heart, he knows what I want for me, He understands
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  that. I think it's something very special to put aside your desires, your
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  asks, the things that you have your eye on and pray for someone else
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  to experience a joy of walking into a destiny, walking into an opportunity.
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  And for me, that gives me such satisfaction. And I think it's underrated
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  because we always go after self first, and I get it, but this
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  is such a considerate and just a wonderful, joyous feeling to focus on somebody
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  else being blessed and a blessing that's ahead for them. That's an underrated one
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  praying for someone. So try it. It is a great feeling. You
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  two will be blessed by it. Volunteering for me has been a great heartwork.
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  It is heartwork for me, an opportunity to serve. I've always admired
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  servant leaders because they're not just saying a thing, They're out there doing the
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  thing. And I aspire to step into those types of shoes. As a
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  director in one of the employee resource groups that I serve on, I will
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  be the race coordinator for an upcoming race in September, and I'm really excited
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  about that because I know that people want to take advantage and want to participate
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  in wellness activities. But I volunteer to be in that position because I understand
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  and I enjoy wellness activities and I know there are people that do too,
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  but it's often difficult to coordinate and get all the things together. And I
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  was willing to put myself out there. And it's not the first time I've
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  done it. It's again, it's more heartwork. It's definitely a feel good
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  moment to be able to serve people and help people get to their wellness journey,
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  get on their wellness journey, and support them on that journey. And
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  I'm definitely one of those people. The next one I have on my list,
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  so I think that's number four is surrounding yourself with high level thinkers.
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  Surrounding yourself with high level thinkers, and sometimes it happens sort of serendipitously,
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  and I had an opportunity and I still am working on a unique project right
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  now, and I'm in this project space reporting to a different person, and
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  I've just learned so much from this individual. I've learned how she thinks,
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  and it's given me an opportunity to understand a little bit more about myself and
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  allowing myself to see things through her eyes. I mean, she thinks differently,
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  and I appreciate that level of thought, and it's very thoughtful, and
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  she's very thoughtful about what she says and how she says and how she goes
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  about it. And it has really inspired me to be a thinker even more
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  than I am now, and that's just an important thing. She's very strategic
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  and insightful, and those high level thoughts that are not necessarily how I may
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  think through something, but watching someone else kind of go through that dynamic of
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  thinking has helped me improve my level of thought. Telling yourself, you love
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  yourself, telling yourself, I love you. I challenge you to do that
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  by going and looking yourself face to face in a mirror. Go in front
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  of a mirror. The next opportunity you have, whether you're getting ready in
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  the morning, you're brushing your teeth before you go to bed at night and
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  just take a moment. Maybe do that every time you go brush your teeth.
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  You know, when you're done and you do that final smile, tell
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  yourself, I love you. I promise you. When you do it,
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  it's going to light something up inside of you. Remember when we talked about
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  the burnout and those whistles that go off. Internally, it's almost like stop
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  signs and caution signs, and you know, pay attention signs. When you
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  tell yourself you love you, internally, you get warm signs. It's like
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  sunshine on the inside. You start to feel different about yourself and eventually,
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  over time, maybe not in that moment, you start to see yourself differently.
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  You start to see yourself from a space of love. So that's an
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  important thing to do. Here's something that's underrated, but I find great value
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  in it, and it's happened to me a lot, especially in a city
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  like Atlanta, where there's always some type of construction and one minute you're on
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  this route and the next minute you're rerouted. I want you to take advantage
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  of those rerouting opportunities and look at it as what is the point of view
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  that I didn't have before I was rerouted because I promise you, when you're
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  rerouted, you start to see things from a different angle, like physically but
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  also mentally. Right like you might be rerouted in life about where you're you
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  know, where you're working, or where you visited or whatever. Those detours
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  or those changes are not necessarily bad things. And I think, oftentimes because
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  it's not of the norm and it's not our comfort zone, it feels so
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  wrong. But I challenge you to look at those opportunities when you're rerouted as
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  a place where you can get a new point of view about something. The
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  next one I want to talk about is having faith, and whether you're religious
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  or spiritual, it's important for you to believe what do you believe, And
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  that's a big part of self care. It's a big part of our thought
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  process because what you believe in will oftentimes inspire what you begin to live.
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  And what I mean by that is if you align your life and your experiences
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  by simply what you see, you're living in a world where seeing is believing,
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  meaning you base what you see to your beliefs. Believing, on the
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  other hand, is not having the direct vision in front of you, but
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  having a vision outside of you. That no one can see, not even
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  yourself. But you have enough faith to believe what's possible. And I think
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  that's something that is underrated. We don't practice it enough, to be honest
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  with you. It is why there's such a disconnect between us and God,
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  us and our creator, because we can't see the vision that God has for
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  us. Right, we don't see the vision. So because we can't see
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  the vision, we tend not to believe in the vision. But faith,
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  by definition is to believe something that you can't see. At some point,
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  you have to believe not what you see, but what you know to be
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  the truth. And that truth is constantly unfolding. It's constantly unfolding in front
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  of you. The next one is a big one for me and I talk
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  about it probably almost every episode as much as I can. I've had dedicated
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  episode to this one, and that is expressing feeling, sharing, gratitude,
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  and the reason why this one is so important, so significant. I remember
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  several years ago hearing this quote by Michael Beckwith and he said, nothing new
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  can come into your life until you are grateful for what you have. Now,
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  I look at that as we can count our blessings. There are so
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  many things that we've been blessed to experience, blessed to have, blessed to
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  know, and we oftentimes miss the opportunity to embrace those things because we're onto
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  the next thing. What else can I get? What else can I receive?
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  And what gratitude says is there's so much right in front of you to
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  be grateful for. I know you want the next thing, but look at
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  what you have. Appreciate what you have. And not only is that a
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  put you in the present. When you're grateful, you're in the present right
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  You're not thinking about the future. You're in the present. You can be
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  grateful for things now, you can be grateful for things in the past two
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  but there are things that are happening right now in your life that you can
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  be grateful for the fact that I am alive, and you are alive,
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  You have loved ones around you, You probably still have a job or a
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  new opportunities ahead. There are so many things to be grateful for the fact
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  that it's raining this week and it's been so hot. I'm grateful for that,
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  because I've also been thinking about the people who have to work outside,
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  so I am grateful that they don't have to deal with the dehydration and all
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  the dangers of these heat indexes that we've been experiencing for the last several weeks.
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  So again, there are things that are happening right now that you can
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  be grateful for. And when you start to get into the habit of gratitude
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  now instead of gratitude later, you create this life hack and it takes you
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  out of the funk. I promise you, then next time you get into
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  a funk, get on gratitude rampage. Get on a gratitude rampage, and
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  it's exactly what it sounds like. You start being grateful for every single thing
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  that you can think of right in front of you, right now, the
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  car you're driving, if you're on a bus, the bus that you can
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  take, the fact that you have money to take that bus. Like I'm
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  telling you, when you start to break it down to the granular level,
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  you will realize just how blessed you are. And all the things that are
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  the top of mind, all the things that seemed to be significant and burning
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  and will hurt you. I promise you, they're going to fade away.
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  The final thing, the final thing that I want to encourage you to participate
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  in that will help you significantly as an essential to your self care journey.
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  And it is simply the most underrated thing. Not the most, but it's
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  significant, and it is underrated. Is silence. Silence? You know what
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  I like about silence is that it a shuts down the noise. We get
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  noise everywhere we go. You go into a supermarket, they're playing some type
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  of sound, making some announcement on the intercom. You go to work.
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  If you're working like me, you're in a cubicle less farm. So now
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  you're hearing every conversation at every level that anybody's having at any given time throughout
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  the day, so you can't escape it there. You come home and you're
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  with your family and you're catching up on the day and doing all the things,
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  and your phone's ringing and your emails pinging, and you got notifications coming
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  in, and the TV might be on, the radio might be on,
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  you might have your air pods, and I don't know, but at any
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  given point in your life, there is always a level of noise. And
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  when you decide to get up on a Saturday morning and not turn on your
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  TV, not open your social media apps, and you just sit in silence.
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  You have done yourself a due diligence. It is so underrated, but
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  you finally not only shut down the noise, but you finally spend time with
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  your thoughts. I will say that it is the most beautiful gift if you
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  can go run out and give yourself something. I think you can go out
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  right now and give yourself some silence. And the thing about that gift is
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  you don't have to pay a dime for it. It is free. It
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  is absolutely free to carve out some time for utter and complete silence. And
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  I know oftentimes people will say, I got kids, I have this,
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  I'm working two jobs, I'm doing I don't know if there's so many different
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  ways to look at this, but if you can just give yourself five minutes
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  right again, you are the same person. And somebody's gonna call you up
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  and say I need a ride to the store, or could you accompany me
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  here, and you're gonna take that twenty minute ride to get to them the
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  invitation that you went to and then a twenty minute ride back. That's about
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  a few hours out of your day. You would gift someone with that,
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  but you wouldn't gift yourself with ten minutes of silence. I want you to
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  rethink that because it is underrated, but it will absolutely absolutely serve you,
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  and it should definitely be part of your self career routine, not just a
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  silence, but all of what I listed. I'm gonna share my list in
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  the show notes, and I want to hear from you. I want to
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  know, right because we know these things are important to our mental or physical
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  or spiritual selves. But I want to know what brings you joy, what
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  brings you relaxation, What are the things that can make a difference in your
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  life? So share those with me on social connect with me this week or
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  send me a DM you know, jump into dms and let me know what
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  are your favorite underrated self care activities. I want to hear from you.
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  I hope you enjoyed this week's episode, and so the only way I am
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  going to know this is if you let me know this, and so feedback
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  is a gift. So send me some feedback because I would love to hear
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  from you on the things that resonated with you this week, the things perhaps
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  you enjoyed or were reminded of on this week's episode. Also, I want
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  to hear from you. There may be some topics that you are interested for
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  us to explore and engage in on the podcast, so be sure to send
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  me a DM or let me know what you want to hear about on a
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  future episode of the podcast. I'm asking for a friend, but please share
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  on social media any of your un your desired social media hangouts. I'm pretty
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  much on all of them, but I will tell you that Instagram is my
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  jam, so you can direct message me on Instagram or you can reach me
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  on Instagram at my inrid self. That's M y E n R I c
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  h E D S E LF and I believe that's it. I will see
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  you next week, and so use your time wisely, make it count,
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  and do everything you can in these next one hundred and sixty eight hours to
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  become more of your inrid self until we meet again, all