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- 0:17Hello
- 0:18and
- 0:18welcome
- 0:18back
- 0:18to
- 0:18Notes
- 0:19to
- 0:19Her
- 0:19the
- 0:19daily
- 0:19Pep
- 0:20talk.
- 0:20I'm
- 0:20Yaya,
- 0:21your
- 0:21confidence
- 0:21and
- 0:22mindset
- 0:22coach,
- 0:22here
- 0:23to
- 0:23help
- 0:23you
- 0:23breathe
- 0:24a
- 0:24little
- 0:24deeper,
- 0:24stop
- 0:25shrinking
- 0:25under
- 0:25pressure
- 0:26and
- 0:26and
- 0:26walk
- 0:27into
- 0:27your
- 0:27week
- 0:27with
- 0:27some
- 0:28clarity
- 0:28instead
- 0:28of
- 0:29chaos.
- 0:30And
- 0:30since
- 0:30it's
- 0:30a
- 0:30new
- 0:31year,
- 0:31we
- 0:31are
- 0:31starting
- 0:32something
- 0:32new.
- 0:33This
- 0:33is
- 0:33the
- 0:33very
- 0:34first
- 0:35Sunday
- 0:35Scaries
- 0:36reset.
- 0:37If
- 0:37it's
- 0:37Sunday
- 0:37evening
- 0:38and
- 0:38your
- 0:38chest
- 0:39feels
- 0:39tight,
- 0:40if
- 0:40your
- 0:40mind
- 0:40is
- 0:41already
- 0:41racing
- 0:41through
- 0:42tomorrow's
- 0:42to
- 0:42do
- 0:42list,
- 0:43if
- 0:43part
- 0:44of
- 0:44you
- 0:44is
- 0:44thinking
- 0:45I
- 0:45should
- 0:45feel
- 0:46more
- 0:46ready
- 0:46than
- 0:46this,
- 0:47you're
- 0:48exactly
- 0:48where
- 0:48you're
- 0:48supposed
- 0:49to
- 0:49be.
- 0:50Before
- 0:50we
- 0:51go
- 0:51any
- 0:51further,
- 0:51make
- 0:52sure
- 0:52you're
- 0:52following
- 0:52or
- 0:53subscribed
- 0:53so
- 0:53you
- 0:53don't
- 0:54miss
- 0:54these
- 0:54resets.
- 0:55Especially,
- 0:55especially
- 0:55in
- 0:56January.
- 0:56And
- 0:57I'll
- 0:57explain
- 0:57more
- 0:57on
- 0:57that
- 0:58in
- 0:58a
- 0:58minute.
- 0:58Now
- 0:59let's
- 0:59talk
- 0:59about
- 0:59why
- 1:00Sunday
- 1:00can
- 1:00feel
- 1:00so
- 1:01heavy
- 1:01even
- 1:02when
- 1:02nothing
- 1:03is
- 1:03technically
- 1:03wrong.
- 1:14So
- 1:14the
- 1:14Sunday
- 1:14scaries,
- 1:15also
- 1:15called
- 1:15Sunday
- 1:16Dread
- 1:16or
- 1:17Sunday
- 1:17Blues,
- 1:18are
- 1:18that
- 1:18anticipatory
- 1:19anxiety
- 1:20that
- 1:20creeps
- 1:21in
- 1:21as
- 1:21the
- 1:22weekend
- 1:22ends.
- 1:23It's
- 1:23not
- 1:23just
- 1:24about
- 1:24work.
- 1:24It's
- 1:25about
- 1:25pressure,
- 1:26expectations,
- 1:27responsibility,
- 1:28performance.
- 1:30Your
- 1:30nervous
- 1:30system
- 1:31is
- 1:31already
- 1:31bracing
- 1:32for
- 1:32what's
- 1:32coming
- 1:32next.
- 1:33Your
- 1:33brain
- 1:34starts
- 1:34preparing
- 1:34for
- 1:35the
- 1:35emails,
- 1:35the
- 1:36meetings,
- 1:36the
- 1:36deadlines,
- 1:37the
- 1:37decisions,
- 1:38even
- 1:38before
- 1:39you've
- 1:39had
- 1:39a
- 1:39chance
- 1:40to
- 1:40rest.
- 1:41And
- 1:41sometimes
- 1:42that
- 1:42anxiety
- 1:42can
- 1:42show
- 1:43up
- 1:43as
- 1:43a
- 1:43racing
- 1:44heart,
- 1:44tight
- 1:44shoulders,
- 1:45irritability,
- 1:47trouble
- 1:47sleeping,
- 1:48or
- 1:48that
- 1:48feeling
- 1:49that
- 1:49you
- 1:49can't
- 1:49fully
- 1:50enjoy
- 1:50the
- 1:50last
- 1:50few
- 1:51hours
- 1:51of
- 1:51your
- 1:51weekend.
- 1:53You're
- 1:53not
- 1:53lazy,
- 1:54you're
- 1:54not
- 1:54ungrateful,
- 1:55you're
- 1:55definitely
- 1:56not
- 1:56broken.
- 1:57You're
- 1:57just
- 1:57human
- 1:59now,
- 1:59for
- 1:59most
- 2:00of
- 2:00my
- 2:00corporate
- 2:00career,
- 2:01I
- 2:01didn't
- 2:01experience
- 2:02Sunday
- 2:02Scaries.
- 2:03And
- 2:03that's
- 2:03because
- 2:03I
- 2:04genuinely
- 2:04loved
- 2:05what
- 2:05I
- 2:05did.
- 2:05I
- 2:06spent
- 2:06years
- 2:06in
- 2:07corporate
- 2:07event
- 2:07planning.
- 2:08High
- 2:08pressure,
- 2:09fast
- 2:09paced,
- 2:09demanding.
- 2:10But
- 2:10that
- 2:11work
- 2:11really
- 2:11energized
- 2:12me.
- 2:12I
- 2:13always
- 2:13believe
- 2:13that
- 2:13if
- 2:13you're
- 2:14going
- 2:14to
- 2:14spend
- 2:14your
- 2:15time
- 2:15working,
- 2:16as
- 2:16most
- 2:16of
- 2:16us
- 2:17do
- 2:17most
- 2:17of
- 2:17our
- 2:17lives,
- 2:18we
- 2:18should
- 2:18enjoy
- 2:19what
- 2:19we
- 2:19do
- 2:19or
- 2:19at
- 2:20least
- 2:20feel
- 2:20aligned
- 2:20with
- 2:21it.
- 2:21But
- 2:21in
- 2:21that
- 2:22last
- 2:22year
- 2:22of
- 2:22my
- 2:23corporate
- 2:23life,
- 2:24that
- 2:24changed.
- 2:25Even
- 2:25though
- 2:25I
- 2:26still
- 2:26love
- 2:26the
- 2:26work,
- 2:26the
- 2:27stress
- 2:27was
- 2:27heavier,
- 2:28the
- 2:28anxiety
- 2:29was
- 2:29louder
- 2:29and
- 2:30the
- 2:30burnout
- 2:30was
- 2:31so
- 2:31real.
- 2:32And
- 2:33on
- 2:33Sundays,
- 2:33I
- 2:33started
- 2:34to
- 2:34feel
- 2:34it.
- 2:35That
- 2:35tightness
- 2:36in
- 2:36my
- 2:36chest.
- 2:37That
- 2:37ugh.
- 2:38Feeling
- 2:38knowing
- 2:38that
- 2:39I
- 2:39had
- 2:39to
- 2:39log
- 2:39in
- 2:39at
- 2:409am
- 2:40the
- 2:40next
- 2:40morning.
- 2:41That
- 2:42quiet
- 2:42dread
- 2:42that
- 2:43I
- 2:43couldn't
- 2:43shake
- 2:43and
- 2:43those
- 2:44restless
- 2:45night.
- 2:46Eventually,
- 2:47life
- 2:47forced
- 2:47me
- 2:47to
- 2:47slow
- 2:48down
- 2:48after
- 2:48my
- 2:48car
- 2:48accident.
- 2:49And
- 2:49when
- 2:50I
- 2:50stepped
- 2:50away
- 2:50from
- 2:50the
- 2:50job,
- 2:51guess
- 2:51what
- 2:52happened?
- 2:52The
- 2:53Sunday
- 2:53Scaries
- 2:54disappeared.
- 2:55That's
- 2:55when
- 2:56I
- 2:56realized
- 2:56something
- 2:56important.
- 2:57Sometimes
- 2:58Sunday
- 2:58dread
- 2:59isn't
- 2:59about
- 2:59weakness.
- 3:00It's
- 3:00about
- 3:01pressure
- 3:01without
- 3:01pause.
- 3:02And
- 3:03I
- 3:03know
- 3:03a
- 3:03lot
- 3:03of
- 3:03women
- 3:03are
- 3:04feeling
- 3:04that
- 3:04right
- 3:04now,
- 3:05especially
- 3:05heading
- 3:06into
- 3:06the
- 3:06new
- 3:06year.
- 3:07And
- 3:08here's
- 3:08the
- 3:08part
- 3:08nobody
- 3:09really
- 3:09talks
- 3:09about.
- 3:10Sunday
- 3:10scaries
- 3:11doesn't
- 3:11just
- 3:11make
- 3:12you
- 3:12anxious.
- 3:13They
- 3:13slowly
- 3:14mess
- 3:14with
- 3:14your
- 3:14confidence.
- 3:15Because
- 3:16when
- 3:16your
- 3:16anxiety
- 3:17shows
- 3:17up
- 3:17every
- 3:18Sunday
- 3:18night,
- 3:18your
- 3:19brain
- 3:19starts
- 3:19doing
- 3:19something
- 3:20sneaky.
- 3:21It
- 3:21starts
- 3:21telling
- 3:21you
- 3:22stories.
- 3:23Stories
- 3:23like,
- 3:24I'm
- 3:24already
- 3:24behind.
- 3:25I
- 3:26should
- 3:26be
- 3:26more
- 3:26prepared
- 3:27than
- 3:27this.
- 3:28Everyone
- 3:28else
- 3:29has
- 3:29it
- 3:29all
- 3:29together
- 3:29except
- 3:30me.
- 3:31If
- 3:31I
- 3:31don't
- 3:32start
- 3:32Monday
- 3:32strong,
- 3:33the
- 3:33whole
- 3:33week
- 3:34is
- 3:34a
- 3:34failure.
- 3:35And
- 3:36before
- 3:36you
- 3:36know
- 3:36it,
- 3:37Monday
- 3:37hasn't
- 3:37even
- 3:38arrived
- 3:38yet.
- 3:38But.
- 3:39But
- 3:39you're
- 3:39already
- 3:39doubting
- 3:39yourself.
- 3:41That's
- 3:41how
- 3:41Sunday
- 3:41scaries
- 3:42shrink
- 3:42you.
- 3:43They
- 3:43pull
- 3:44confidence
- 3:44out
- 3:44of
- 3:45the
- 3:45present
- 3:45moment
- 3:46and
- 3:46replace
- 3:46it
- 3:46with
- 3:46pressure
- 3:47about
- 3:47the
- 3:47future.
- 3:48Instead
- 3:49of
- 3:49resting,
- 3:49you're
- 3:50rehearsing.
- 3:50Instead
- 3:51of
- 3:51grounding,
- 3:51you're
- 3:52spiraling.
- 3:53Instead
- 3:53of
- 3:53trusting
- 3:54yourself,
- 3:54you're
- 3:54questioning
- 3:55everything.
- 3:56And
- 3:57that
- 3:57mental
- 3:57space,
- 3:58that's
- 3:58where
- 3:59burnout
- 3:59lives.
- 4:00Because
- 4:00confidence
- 4:01needs
- 4:01rest
- 4:01to
- 4:02grow.
- 4:02It
- 4:02needs
- 4:03safety.
- 4:03It
- 4:04needs
- 4:04permission
- 4:05not
- 4:05to
- 4:05be
- 4:05perfect.
- 4:06But
- 4:06Sunday
- 4:07scaries
- 4:07convince
- 4:08you
- 4:08that
- 4:08rest
- 4:08is
- 4:09lazy,
- 4:10calm
- 4:10is
- 4:10unproductive,
- 4:11and
- 4:12ease
- 4:12means
- 4:12you're
- 4:12not
- 4:13trying
- 4:13hard
- 4:13enough.
- 4:15So
- 4:15you
- 4:15go
- 4:15into
- 4:16Monday
- 4:16already
- 4:16tense,
- 4:17already
- 4:18guarded,
- 4:19already
- 4:19shrinking.
- 4:20And
- 4:20then
- 4:21you
- 4:21wonder
- 4:21why
- 4:21the
- 4:21week
- 4:21feels
- 4:22heavier
- 4:22than
- 4:22it
- 4:23needs
- 4:23to.
- 4:24That's
- 4:24why
- 4:24we're
- 4:25not
- 4:25ignoring
- 4:25Sunday
- 4:25scaries.
- 4:26And
- 4:27that
- 4:27is
- 4:27why
- 4:27we're
- 4:27not
- 4:28powering
- 4:28through
- 4:28them
- 4:28either.
- 4:29We're
- 4:30interrupting
- 4:30them.
- 4:32January
- 4:33brings
- 4:33this
- 4:33unspoken
- 4:34expectation
- 4:35that
- 4:35you're
- 4:35supposed
- 4:35to
- 4:36start
- 4:36perfect.
- 4:37Perfect
- 4:37mindset,
- 4:38perfect
- 4:38routine,
- 4:39perfect
- 4:40productivity.
- 4:41Like
- 4:41Monday
- 4:41is
- 4:42somehow
- 4:42supposed
- 4:42to
- 4:43start
- 4:43with
- 4:43this
- 4:43magic
- 4:43reset,
- 4:44where
- 4:44you
- 4:44wake
- 4:45up
- 4:45confident,
- 4:45clear,
- 4:46and
- 4:46crushing
- 4:47it
- 4:47by
- 4:478:30am
- 4:48Let
- 4:48me
- 4:49be
- 4:49clear.
- 4:49You
- 4:49don't
- 4:49need
- 4:50a
- 4:50perfect
- 4:50Monday
- 4:50to
- 4:51have
- 4:51a
- 4:51powerful
- 4:51week.
- 4:52You
- 4:52don't
- 4:53need
- 4:53to
- 4:53hit
- 4:53the
- 4:53ground
- 4:53running.
- 4:54You
- 4:54don't
- 4:55need
- 4:55to
- 4:55have
- 4:55it
- 4:55all
- 4:55figured
- 4:56out.
- 4:56Sometimes
- 4:57the
- 4:57bravest
- 4:57thing
- 4:57that
- 4:58you
- 4:58can
- 4:58do
- 4:58is
- 4:59start
- 4:59gently.
- 5:01So
- 5:01let's
- 5:01reset
- 5:02your
- 5:02nervous
- 5:02system
- 5:02together
- 5:03right
- 5:03now.
- 5:04Wherever
- 5:04you
- 5:05are,
- 5:05take
- 5:05a
- 5:05deep
- 5:06breath
- 5:06in
- 5:06through
- 5:06your
- 5:06nose.
- 5:08Hold
- 5:08it
- 5:08for
- 5:08a
- 5:08moment
- 5:09and
- 5:10then
- 5:10let
- 5:10it
- 5:10out
- 5:10through
- 5:11your
- 5:11mouth
- 5:12again.
- 5:13Inhale,
- 5:15pause,
- 5:17and
- 5:18then
- 5:18exhale.
- 5:19Now
- 5:19do
- 5:20a
- 5:20quick
- 5:20body
- 5:20scan.
- 5:21Just
- 5:2110
- 5:21seconds.
- 5:22Notice
- 5:23your
- 5:23feet,
- 5:24your
- 5:24shoulders,
- 5:24your
- 5:25jaw.
- 5:25If
- 5:26you're
- 5:26holding
- 5:26tension,
- 5:27let
- 5:27it
- 5:27drop.
- 5:28You're
- 5:29not
- 5:29behind,
- 5:30you're
- 5:30not
- 5:30late.
- 5:31You're
- 5:31right
- 5:32here.
- 5:34So
- 5:34instead
- 5:34of
- 5:34planning
- 5:35your
- 5:35whole
- 5:35week
- 5:36today,
- 5:36I
- 5:36want
- 5:36you
- 5:37to
- 5:37choose
- 5:37one
- 5:38micro
- 5:38step.
- 5:39Just
- 5:39one.
- 5:40Maybe
- 5:40it's
- 5:40setting
- 5:41your
- 5:41clothes
- 5:41out
- 5:41for
- 5:41tomorrow,
- 5:42writing
- 5:43down
- 5:43your
- 5:43top
- 5:44priority
- 5:44for
- 5:44Monday,
- 5:45closing
- 5:46your
- 5:46laptop
- 5:47early
- 5:47or
- 5:48going
- 5:48to
- 5:48bed.
- 5:4920
- 5:49minutes
- 5:49sooner.
- 5:51Small
- 5:51steps
- 5:51still
- 5:52count
- 5:52and
- 5:53they
- 5:53build
- 5:53confidence
- 5:54faster
- 5:54than
- 5:54pressure
- 5:55ever
- 5:55will.
- 5:57Now,
- 5:57quick
- 5:57heads
- 5:58up
- 5:58for
- 5:58January
- 5:58only.
- 5:59We're
- 5:59doing
- 6:00things
- 6:00a
- 6:00little
- 6:00differently
- 6:01here.
- 6:01You'll
- 6:01hear
- 6:02from
- 6:02me
- 6:02three
- 6:02times
- 6:02a
- 6:02week
- 6:03still,
- 6:04but
- 6:04it'll
- 6:04be
- 6:05Sunday,
- 6:05Tuesday
- 6:05and
- 6:06Thursday
- 6:06because
- 6:06January
- 6:07needs
- 6:07more
- 6:07support,
- 6:08not
- 6:09more
- 6:09overwhelm.
- 6:10These
- 6:10Sunday
- 6:11scary
- 6:11resets
- 6:11are
- 6:12here
- 6:12to
- 6:12help
- 6:12you
- 6:12breathe,
- 6:13recalibrate,
- 6:13and
- 6:14walk
- 6:14into
- 6:14your
- 6:14week
- 6:15without
- 6:15shrinking.
- 6:17So
- 6:17before
- 6:17you
- 6:17go,
- 6:18I
- 6:18want
- 6:18you
- 6:18to
- 6:18hear
- 6:18this.
- 6:19You
- 6:19don't
- 6:20need
- 6:20to
- 6:20start
- 6:20perfect
- 6:21to
- 6:21start
- 6:21strong.
- 6:22You
- 6:22just
- 6:22need
- 6:23to
- 6:23start
- 6:23honest.
- 6:24If
- 6:24this
- 6:25reset
- 6:25helped
- 6:26you
- 6:26even
- 6:26a
- 6:26little
- 6:26bit,
- 6:27DM
- 6:27me
- 6:27the
- 6:28word
- 6:28reset
- 6:28and
- 6:28I'll
- 6:29send
- 6:29you
- 6:29a
- 6:29grounding
- 6:30affirmation
- 6:30that
- 6:31you
- 6:31can
- 6:31say
- 6:31to
- 6:31your
- 6:32phone
- 6:32for
- 6:32Sunday
- 6:32nights
- 6:33like
- 6:33fits.
- 6:34And
- 6:34let
- 6:35me
- 6:35know
- 6:35truly,
- 6:35if
- 6:36you
- 6:36like
- 6:36these
- 6:36Sunday
- 6:36scary
- 6:37episodes.
- 6:38If
- 6:38they
- 6:38help
- 6:39you,
- 6:39I'll
- 6:39keep
- 6:39them
- 6:40going.
- 6:40You're
- 6:41not
- 6:41alone
- 6:41on
- 6:41this
- 6:41and
- 6:42you
- 6:42don't
- 6:42have
- 6:42to
- 6:42carry
- 6:43the
- 6:43weight
- 6:43of
- 6:43the
- 6:43week
- 6:44before
- 6:44it
- 6:44even
- 6:44begins.
- 6:45So
- 6:45I'll
- 6:46talk
- 6:46to
- 6:46you
- 6:46soon.