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- Tyona Vallejo: Hello and welcome to Enough In Evolving Podcast. I'm your host, Tyona Vallejo, master certified life coach and mindfulness expert, you reclaim confidence, break through unhelpful patterns and manifest the relationships and life you desire. Now let's get started. Hello, welcome back to the podcast. is episode 15, how your beliefs are creating your reality. I am so excited about this topic y'all. If you follow me on Instagram, you know I love to post a lot about ⁓ our our beliefs, and how it is for us to really focus intentionally on what we If you're listening to this and you're recognizing yourself in these patterns, this is exactly the work I do inside my coaching. This isn't something you have to figure out alone. If you're ready to feel more confident, grounded, and self-trusting, I'd love to support you. Check out the show notes to book a consultation coaching call today. So one of the main things that I hope you take away from today's podcast is that we become so identified with our own excuses or fears that we stop questioning them. And realizing it, we get stuck in limiting beliefs. And so I hope that this reminds you If you love what you heard today, please head on over, leave us a review on Enough and Evolving podcast. We would absolutely love your five star review and any comments that you have about the show. really take a look at what you are believing ⁓ what ⁓ you are to where you can start to maybe expand the possibility for yourself. want to believe and align that with what we want to manifest. So today we're going to dive into all things belief. We're going to talk about to expand your belief system and to really become aware ⁓ of it is that you're believing that may be in the of what you want to manifest, what you're wanting to ⁓ call in So lastly, to summarize, are three ways to ⁓ through limiting beliefs, and those are number one, being aware of your own beliefs. Number two, ⁓ those beliefs and finding ⁓ to those ⁓ that are you ⁓ and look the evidence that ⁓ is And then I'm going to share a three-step breakthrough process that I like to do to help you expand what's possible to help you to step into beliefs that move you in the direction of positive momentum of where you want to go in your life. So if you're ready, let's buckle up. moving you in the direction of your desires. thirdly, being delulu, ⁓ in your imagination, having fun, expanding the beliefs of what is possible for you. Hey, and by the way, if you're joining for the first time, welcome. This is the Enough Inevolving Podcast. I'm so happy you're here today. I just got back from an amazing retreat that was in the Azores in Portugal. It was so beautiful. And what's so amazing about that experience to me is that that once was a small little idea, a belief that I seeded, that I put into my brain, probably I wanna say, gosh, already like 12, 14 years ago, I had just started working as a yoga instructor and one of the yoga instructors that was a mentor. Thank you so much for spending time with me today. I hope that you got some really great inspiration from this that you remember that your nervous system plays a big role in your And so it's important that you also learn to regulate your nervous system so that you can start to expand what's possible for you. for me, I saw how she was leading retreats internationally and I thought, my gosh, that sounds ⁓ amazing. I love to travel with other yogis, like-minded friends that want to explore the world, want to see just amazing, ⁓ epic ⁓ and and really have just such a fun experience together. ⁓ Now, you listen to my last podcast, As always, I wanna remind you that you are enough today and always, and you are always evolving. So have a wonderful week, and we'll talk more next week. episode, I talked all about retreats. So you can go back and listen dive into ⁓ talking more about that. But ⁓ was, again, just this belief that ⁓ of popped into my mind back then of, my goodness, this idea of that would be so much fun. And then there were, you know, of course, limiting beliefs on Who would really want to go with me? How would I even do that? I've never done it before. All those limiting beliefs popped in that I had to, of course, kind of start to move through in order for me to really start to expand what was possible and for me to really step into the embodiment of the belief that this is possible for me to lead retreats and go. travel abroad with these amazing groups. So I love to just start there as this question to you. What is it that you've been wanting in your life, but have been believing maybe, ⁓ I don't think that that's possible for me or is something that you've been believing about yourself that is holding you apart from who it is that you truly desire to be in your life. Because ⁓ I guarantee our are what is creating our reality. Our beliefs are simply these ideas, these mantras that we have our mind, that we think over and over and over again. So they're repetitive thoughts. we get to believe whatever we choose, that is the free will that we have been given. But most of us believe whatever it that we have been spoon fed, where we believe the thoughts that we've been conditioned by. And these beliefs become programmed into our subconscious mind. But the reality is these beliefs aren't necessarily true. And if we aren't fact checking them in the present day, we're just living unconsciously. And so if you want to create a new reality. If you want to step into being someone different than you're being today, then it is 100 % your option, your choice. It's 100 % available to you to align your beliefs with who that person is. And when you're choosing unconsciously, then we often feel like we don't have agency in our own lives, right? So if you want to step into more agency, if you wanna have more authority over what you're manifesting and who you're being, then start to become aware of your own beliefs about yourself. and what's possible for you. Start to on these beliefs that ⁓ you in the direction of you wanna go. An example of beliefs that we ⁓ become by would be something maybe you heard from your ⁓ parents. Maybe picked up along the way. money doesn't grow on trees or rich people are bad. And then when you adopt those beliefs, you cap yourself at a particular limiting money mindset. And it becomes hard for you then to earn money. Subconsciously, you have these beliefs. You don't even realize they're running in the background. 90 % of what we think is our subconscious beliefs. And so you want to start to bring more awareness, more consciousness to what it is that you're believing. And when you're having these beliefs around money, then of course, it's to be hard to feel abundant and to then attract more abundance. Because everything that we are attracting is a like vibration for what we are already believing and thinking for the energy that we're putting out there. So you can think about our beliefs almost like energetic outputs. And if you're believing lower limiting beliefs, that's lower output, right? That we're aligning with. And if we want to increase what we want to call in, then we're going to want to increase our beliefs. One way you can think of it ⁓ is as set point. We all have a particular set point ⁓ of about money, about what's possible for us in relationships, ⁓ about possible for us in our career, our lives. We all have a particular set point and ⁓ set point is ⁓ reflection of what your current reality is. So if you want to change your current reality, then you need to increase your set point of what you're believing. Now our nervous system is always working to protect us, And so ⁓ we have a particular set point that the nervous system feels ⁓ the zone the right place to be, then it's always going to be protecting you from things that would threaten you from moving beyond that. So for instance, in regards to money, let's say you again have those beliefs that maybe money doesn't grow on trees or rich people are bad. Then of course your nervous system isn't going to want you to move outside of your comfort zone to do anything that would maybe let's say you're trying to get on Instagram and you're trying to market yourself there and your nervous system is going, whoa, this isn't safe. Let's not be too visible and too salesy out there, or let's not let people think that we want money because then that means we're bad, right? so in essence, your nervous system is trying to keep you at that particular set point because it believes that's where safety is ⁓ for you. And so if you to expand your capacity, then you need to start to create safety for you to expand into different higher beliefs of it is safe to be seen in the public eye. It's safe to ⁓ sell whatever selling. It is safe to ⁓ market myself, whatever that is that you're trying to expand into. Now the same happens with beliefs that you pick up along the way, for instance, in regards to love or marriage or romantic partners, Let's the message that you received your parents ⁓ or romantic partners ⁓ in your past was that in order for you to receive love, you need to act a certain way. Then of course, most of us will adopt the belief that love is conditional and that you have to earn it, which is not how love works, right? Love is just love. Love is an energy that flows. You either give it or not. You either receive it or not. And you are 100 % lovable, regardless of your actions or your behaviors. Whether you choose to receive someone else's love is your decision. Whether they choose to receive your love is their decision. It has nothing to do with you. So now you can see that your beliefs, those thoughts that you have on repetition in your mind are what ultimately is creating your reality. And each of us has that certain set point of beliefs that is either keeping us in the same situations, the same relationship cycles, money limits, or career placements. Now, remember, it's your decision to your beliefs if you want to change your beliefs, to question your beliefs that you might have on unconscious repeat, right? We have to become aware of what it is that we're believing about money, about love, about ourselves, about what's possible so that we can start to step into greater beliefs, that align with who and what we want to call in. So again, we talk about our beliefs create an energy, right? That an energy is what attracts things to us. That energy is what we're manifesting. So when we're acting from that energy and let's say you're wanting a new career, a new job, a new promotion, but you're believing it's too hard, it's too competitive of a market, you're getting too ⁓ There's so many people that have more qualifications. If you're having these limiting beliefs, then of course you're going to hesitate to apply for these new opportunities. You're going to spend time worrying and ruminating in your head about the obstacles between you the business you want. But now let's say instead you decide to Create a new set point. And in order to create a new set point, in order to expand what's possible and upgrade your beliefs, There are three powerful ways that you can begin to do this. ⁓ One is to question the validity ⁓ of your current beliefs. finding evidence that disproves the limiting is all true, That might be as simple as asking the question, is this true? Your brain might go, yep, if it's something it's used to saying over and over again. But then you ask again, ⁓ rich people bad? Is that No, not necessarily, right? That's not 100 % true. What else is possible here? This starts to ⁓ ⁓ up. the window and let you see perspective. What else could be possible? It opens yourself up to new ideas. The second is find possibilities that feel real. That way you can start to practice this new belief. This might look like you're raising your income set point and you've been believing that it's hard to make money. You can start by challenging this belief by looking for all the times that you have attracted money without tons of effort. Right? So this is the second step into taking it a little bit further. So the first step is questioning the The second step is where is there truth in my life so that I can start to buy into a new belief? You never want to from feeling something's not possible to pretending it because you're not feel it. And remember, this is energy. If you're not feeling it, it's not gonna create the energy that you're after. So that's why you want to ⁓ find the evidence supports the new belief that works in the direction that you wanna go. When you begin to notice these new possibilities, you naturally release the old beliefs without trying to erase them. Instead, you create new narrow pathways by focusing on these new beliefs that feel true. So you don't even have to worry about, I need to erase this old belief. You just have to be aware when it's in the driver's seat to question it and to put the new belief in the driver's seat instead. Lastly, you feel regulated in your nervous system, remember I talked about how our nervous system is trying to protect us. So it naturally will be alerted and will signal ⁓ a warning sign you're not ⁓ in ⁓ belief that is aligned with your current set point. So it's important for you to learn to first of all, create that safety, that security for you to expand what's possible. And once you've created that security, then you can start to see positive momentum towards the new beliefs and the goals you can start to work. towards the direction of your goals by starting to really expand what you're believing and then take it to the next and final step in really expanding your beliefs and that is step three, delusional beliefs. Now these are where you really get to play. You get to play in your imagination. because you get to see yourself, visualize yourself these new situations that you may not have felt logically were possible for you now, ⁓ because you're feeling safe, because you're starting to expand what's possible by ⁓ to dip yourself into these new beliefs, now going to be able to play in that imagination and that visualization mind and start to reprogram your subconscious mind for ideas for these beliefs that could possibly take you to a new quantum leap. beliefs are just simply accessing that entire quantum field of possibility. ⁓ quantum field of possibility is a foundational non-material layer of reality. often described as the energetic sea or vacuum, where all possible outcomes exist simultaneously as probabilities before being observed. But don't get caught up in of that information there. Just know that delusional beliefs are that ⁓ third step that you can play in when you are feeling safe, when you are feeling aligned, when you are feeling good in your mind and your body, that is somewhere you can really start to access and exciting possibilities yourself.