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Ep304 – Putting Confidence into Action Roundtable
Live from the 2025 Echoes of Recovery retreat along Bear Creek in the Rocky Mountains our roundtable discusses the challenges of putting their confidence that…
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Sober and Unashamed: Do You See What I See?
New from Sober and Unashamed: “Do You See What I See?” We have published hundreds of essays on alcoholism, recovery, sex and intimacy, underlying issues…
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Ep303 – Questions for Sheri
Unfiltered and unprepped, Sheri answers a wide range of emotional and tactical questions about how she navigated Matt’s alcoholism and sobriety, and what…
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Sober and Unashamed: Insignificance
New from Sober and Unashamed: “Insignificance” Maybe you are unaware of our hundreds of essays on alcoholism, recovery, sex and intimacy, underlying issues…
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Ep302 – Breathing Room Roundtable
We talked about the decision to stay or to go on Ep69. Ep214 and 217 were both roundtable episodes with people who had separated and divorced. On the flip…
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Ep301 – Foreplay in Alcoholism Recovery
Foreplay is often thought of as erotic touch intended for sexual stimulation. Sheri and Matt have conducted research with thirteen couples recovering their…
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Sober and Unashamed: An Open Letter to My Children
New from Sober and Unashamed: “An Open Letter to My Children” Maybe you are unaware of our hundreds of essays on alcoholism, recovery, sex and intimacy…
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Ep300 – Hummingbird Ninjas Reunion Roundtable
The Hummingbird Ninjas are the OGs of the Echoes of Recovery program – our support group for the loved ones of alcoholics. This reunion roundtable…
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Sober and Unashamed: Dance Like Everybody’s Watching
New from Sober and Unashamed: “Dance Like Everybody’s Watching” Maybe you are unaware of our hundreds of essays on alcoholism, recovery, sex and…
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Ep299 – A “Living Amends” is Total Crap
Doing the hard work of recovery, for the former drinker and the partner, is how we reduce anxiety, regulate our nervous systems, start to rebuild trust, and…
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Sober and Unashamed: Cabbage Overdose
New from Sober and Unashamed: “Cabbage Overdose” Maybe you are unaware of our hundreds of essays on alcoholism, recovery, sex and intimacy, underlying issues…
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Ep298 – Defining You with Kathy and Nikki
Kathy and Nikki have lived through the trauma and chaos of alcoholism. With both of their husbands now years into sobriety, Kathy and Nikki are evolving their…
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Sober and Unashamed: An Evolving Tradition
New from Sober and Unashamed: “An Evolving Tradition” Maybe you are unaware of our hundreds of essays on alcoholism, recovery, sex and intimacy, underlying…
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Ep297 – Time Makes Recovery Three Dimensional
For a long time – through early sobriety and years into growth and recovery – Matt shared the blame for his addiction with his father, with Big…
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Sober and Unashamed: Who the f&@% is this guy?
New from Sober and Unashamed: “Who the f&@% is this guy?” Maybe you are unaware of our hundreds of essays on alcoholism, recovery, sex and intimacy, underlying…
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Ep296 – Sexual Desire Discrepancy is a Cause and Result of Alcoholism
Sheri and Matt share findings about sexual desire discrepancy in relationships impacted by alcoholism from a year-long study of 13 couples now in recovery…
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Sober and Unashamed: Accumulation
New from Sober and Unashamed: “Accumulation” Maybe you are unaware of our hundreds of essays on alcoholism, recovery, sex and intimacy, underlying issues…
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Ep295 – The Empty Path with Billy Wynne
Billy Wynne has been a student of Buddhism and mindfulness for 30 years, and he teaches and is on the board at the Zen Center of Denver. Billy joins Sheri and…
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Sober and Unashamed: Momentum
New from Sober and Unashamed: “Momentum” Maybe you are unaware of our hundreds of essays on alcoholism, recovery, sex and intimacy, underlying issues, growth…
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Ep294 – The Two Requirements for Successful Recovery
Lasting sobriety and recovery from alcoholism requires both commitment and a plan, and the role of the partner in the recovery of the drinker is quite limited…
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Sober and Unashamed: Numbers
New from the “Underlying Issues” series on Sober and Unashamed: “Numbers” Maybe you are unaware of our hundreds of essays on…
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Ep293 – How Work Plus Time Equals Progress with Lori
Lori is a five-time guest on the podcast for very good reason – she brings a fresh an intelligent perspective to every conversation. On this episode…
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Ep292 – The Fog of Chronic Addiction
Acute addiction gets all the headlines – when the drinker drinks too much and creates chaos and trauma. But the fog chronic alcoholism rolls into the…
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Ep291 – Nervous System Leads the Way with Rose
Rose stayed in her alcoholic marriage until she could stay no longer. The impact on her nervous system made her methodical and planned decision to separate her…
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Ep290 – Alcoholic Gaslighter’s Top Ten List
Sheri and Matt run through the top ten things alcoholics say to their partners. Do you recognize your relationship in their conversation? If you love or loved…
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Ep289 – Tied to No Particular Outcome with John Olander
Trigger warning: Domestic violence is discussed John Olander has a network of relationships all over Denver, and he is as tenacious as he is inspiring. But…
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Ep288 – Blame
Blame serves a purpose when trying to heal from alcoholism as the drinker or the partner. But there are areas where blame does not belong. In this episode…
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Ep287 – Focus for More Impact with Ayla Fleming
Ayla Fleming is a licensed clinical social worker and telehealth therapist practicing in Pennsylvania, New Jersey, and New York. Since specializing in helping…
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Ep286 – Identity as a Cause of Addiction
Drinkers often becomes aware of the loss of identity associated with sobriety, but on this episode, Sheri and Matt discuss the role of varying categories of…
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Ep285 – Sober Sex in Relationships Roundtable
The recovery community is full of resources about sex after alcohol for singles, but sober sex in relationships is a topic that has been ignored…until…
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Ep284 – Sexual Violations in Alcoholic Relationships
Trigger warning: sexual assault and violence Unconsented sex occurs in relationships impacted by problematic alcohol consumption at a rate 18 times more…
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Ep283 – Kelly on Thriving when the Marriage Does Not Survive
It was not her choice. Kelly shared with her husband what she needed from the marriage, and he asked for a divorce. Sometimes boundaries and detachment are not…
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Ep282 – Reconnecting after Detachment
Attachment and connection are not the same thing. Detachment in a healthy relationship in recovery from alcoholism is a permanent state. If done with respect…
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Ep281 – Live Roundtable from the Bahamas
You can almost hear the turquoise Caribbean waves lapping in the background of this conversation recorded live from the annual Marriagevolution retreat, this…
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Ep280 – Moving Beyond Eggshells with Marjorie
Marjorie is certified in trauma and addiction support, and she is a leader in our Echoes of Recovery program. On this episode, she helps Sheri and Matt…
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Ep279 – Why Men are Failing
The industrialized world is experiencing an epidemic of men who are unemployed or underemployed, not married or dating, living with their parents, and…
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Ep278 – Sex Talk with Nikki
Nikki speaks boldly and vulnerably about a wide variety of taboos sex subject. From sex-drive discrepancy after childbirth to feelings of sexual brokenness to…
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Ep277 – “Freeze” as a Defense Mechanism
Nervous system activation is often described as one of these four reactions: fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Sheri used all four tools to protect herself in her…
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Ep276 – Despair and Hopelessness of the Week Between
The week between the holidays carries with it a cascade of emotions for people in a relationship experiencing active addiction or recovery. Sheri and Matt talk…
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Ep275 – Self-Control and Detachment from Family at the Holidays
Is self-control detachment? Sheri and Matt might debate the definitions, but they agree on the value of controlling the controllables around family at the…
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Ep274 – Spiritual Curiosity with David Bird
David Bird is a spiritual explorer with stories to tell about the hopelessness and lack of control of addiction, and the peace and freedom of knowing…
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Ep273 – Is Sex All You Think About?
Do you say or hear this question in your relationship? Sheri and Matt break down how sex drive fluctuates in both a short-term and long-term way, and discuss…
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Ep272 – No Longer Normalizing with Tess
Tess has experienced a lot of intolerable alcoholic behavior. But like so many of us, Tess was conditioned to accept the unacceptable, and now she is fighting…
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Ep271 – The Emotional Safety Journal
Physical abuse and sexual abuse are more widely understood with societally agreed upon red lines that are not to be crossed. Emotional abuse, on the other…
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Ep270 – The TWFO Couple Paige and Matt Robinson
Paige and Matt Robinson have survived Matt’s addiction to opiates and alcohol, and now they are doing a ton to help others, especially spouses, find…
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Ep269 – When Behavior Deteriorates Faster than We can Lower Our Standards
Self-esteem building is critical to both the drinker and the loved ones in recovery from addiction. On this episode, Sheri and Matt explore the role…
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Ep268 – Trust and Detachment IRL
We simply cannot live without trust. Trust is foundational to human existence, and Sheri and Matt talk about how naive alcoholics are who expect trust to…
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Ep267 – Both Sides of Addiction with Alan Thompson
If you have experienced religious trauma, work stress, marriage distress, alcohol use disorder or the problematic drinking of a family member, this…
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Ep266 – The Fallacy of Control
We are all familiar with the addictions that are associated with moral failings and a lack of willpower – stigmatized addictions to alcohol and other…
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Ep265 – Parenting in Recovery
Sheri and Matt have talked a lot about the impact of Matt’s drinking on their kids. On this episode, the couple talks about the impact of recovery on how…
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Ep264 – Live Resentment Processing
You have probably heard Sheri and Matt talk about the importance of resentment processing. Now, on this episode, listen to the couple work through real…
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Ep263 – How Does Safety Dissolve?
We talk a lot about a lack of emotional safety in committed partnerships. But how do we get there? What societal, generational and toxic factors dissolve the…
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Ep262 – AnnMarie’s Transition Home
AnnMarie’s divorce was final one year ago, and her physical, mental and emotional transition that has taken place over the past 12 months is remarkable…
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Ep261 – Emotional Intimacy First
Intimacy repair work starts with building emotional intimacy. Even when we crave the connection of physical contact, if the emotional foundation has not been…
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Ep260 – Luke on Staying Sober through Divorce
When we met Luke, he was ready to get serious about sobriety, and he was eager to recover his marriage. Now, months later, he is making serious progress in…
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Ep259 – How Needing to be Needed Leads to Addiction
Cheap Trick had it half right. As Sheri and Matt break down, it is much healthier if, “I want you to want me,” than if, “I need you to need…
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Ep258 – 365 Days without a Relationship Relapse
Some people count their sobriety days. For Sheri and Matt, sobriety is just a prerequisite. The really exciting day count comes as they cross over a full year…
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Ep257 – Victoria from Deep In It
Trigger warning: domestic violence This is a unique and risky episode because Victoria is currently “in it.” This is not a story with an ending, it…
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Ep256 – The Value of Strong Independent Women
From kayak cross to gymnastics, where else would you turn for your Olympics recap than to Sheri and Matt. This episode has it all: compliments for Alcoholics…
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Ep255 – Meeting Your Changing Needs Roundtable
The contrast between their few identifiable needs when they met their partners, and their clear needs after suffering through an alcoholic relationship, is…