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Behind Every Great Man
Behind Every Great Man is about marriage, intimacy, desire, identity, faith, motherhood, and the conversations we don’t have enough.
Jessica Zubchevich is an author, meditation teacher, wife, mom, stepmom, and life coach in a former life. I love a good reframe and believe the most powerful place to start is with ourselves.
No husband bashing here. I’m more interested in getting curious about our own patterns, taking responsibility for our part, and looking at our relationships through a…
Episodes
- Behind Every Great Man
EP 58: Why Were You More Sexually Free Before Marriage?
Why is it that we sometimes feel more free, adventurous, and sexually confident when we're dating, yet become more reserved once we're married? We build a life…
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EP 57: From Good Girl To Wife: The Sexual Journey of a Woman
We all have a sexual story. One that's been shaped by how we were raised, what we were taught, what we experienced, and what we came to believe about ourselves…
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EP 56: You Can Reject His Pursuit. You Can't Erase The Desire (w/ Keith)
In this episode, Keith joins me to talk about what rejection can feel like from the other side. We talk about what happens when one partner keeps reaching and…
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EP 55: The Truth About Resting: Why Sitting on the Sofa Isn't Enough
Are you actually resting, or are you just sitting down while your mind is running 47 open tabs? There’s a big difference between stopping and actually feeling…
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EP 54: The Everyday Things That Build Real Confidence
I used to think confidence was something you either had or you didn’t. Now I realize it has a lot more to do with how you live, what you tolerate, and whether…
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EP 53: When Everything Feels Like Too Much
What do you do when life starts to feel like too much? I share how I name what I’m feeling, separate what I can control from what I need to let go of, bring…
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EP 52: The Subtle Line Between Support And Control
In this episode, we talk about the subtle difference between being supportive and being in control. As capable women, it’s easy to think we’re helping when…
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EP51: There’s No Communication Without Emotional Safety (w/ my husband)
What if better communication in your marriage has less to do with saying the right thing and more to do with whether it feels safe to say it at all? In this…
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EP 50: Why You're Rejecting Your Husband Even When You Love Him
In this episode, I’m digging into what might really be underneath your no. Why are you rejecting your husband when you love him and want your marriage? We’re…
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EP 49: What Happened To The Woman Who Felt Alive?
I explore what it really means to be turned on. Not just sexually, but turned on to yourself, your marriage, your desires, and the things that make you feel…
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EP 48: What Even Is A Matriarch?
What does it actually mean to be the matriarch of a family? Not the outdated version of the word. Not simply the woman who cooks the meals, keeps the house…
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EP 47: Beneath The Manosphere: Understanding Men's Needs
Why are millions of men turning to the Manosphere? It's easy to dismiss it, but doing so might mean missing a much deeper conversation. In this episode, I…
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EP 46: Who Told You That's What A Wife Is Supposed To Look Like?
When I got married, I realized I had this picture in my head of what a wife was supposed to be. She cooked beautiful meals. She kept a spotless house. She…
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EP 45: The Mental Load Is Killing Your Sex Life
When your husband reaches for you and you look at him like he has five heads, it may have far less to do with your marriage than you think. In this episode, we…
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EP 44: Marriage Isn't Hard. Unhealed People Make Marriage Hard
What if the greatest work you could do on your marriage is the work God is calling you to do within yourself? In this episode, we're talking about how marriage…
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Staying Connected To Ourselves
In this episode, we unpack the "five heads moment" every woman knows, when your husband reaches for you and you feel so mentally overloaded that desire feels…
Behind Every Great ManWhat If You Don't Recognize Yourself Anymore?
This episode is for the woman who has been so deep in the roles of wife and mother that somewhere along the way she lost touch with herself. And now she is…
Behind Every Great ManAre You Still The Woman He Married?
There is a woman your husband fell in love with. She was spontaneous and free and fully herself. And somewhere between the wedding and the kids and the…
Behind Every Great ManI Don't Know What I Like Anymore
This episode is for the woman who has spent so long pouring into everyone else that she has lost touch with what she actually likes. Maybe your babies are…
Behind Every Great ManThe Faster The World Moves, The Slower I Want To Live
In a world that is moving faster than ever, I want to talk about slowing things down and what it actually takes to build a haven inside your home on purpose…
Behind Every Great ManA Guided Reset For The Weight You Were Never Meant To Carry Alone
This one is different. No advice. A guided reset. Just a moment for you. The mental load is something hard to describe unless you carry it. And if you are…
Behind Every Great ManThe Mental Load Doesn’t Take a Summer Vacation
Summer is supposed to feel relaxing, but for many mothers, it quietly becomes one of the heaviest mental load seasons of the year. In this episode, I talk…
Behind Every Great ManThe Marriage Mental Load: What Women Carry For Their Husbands
Today I am talking about the mental and emotional load women carry specifically for their husbands inside their marriages. Not the household load or the mother…
Behind Every Great ManStaying Traditional In A World That Won't Stop Moving
Maybe you don't call yourself a traditional wife. Maybe you don't like labels at all. But if the way your home feels matters deeply to you, if the traditions…
Behind Every Great ManWomen Pause Before They Trust - AI Is No Different
There’s a reason women pause before they trust something new, especially when it enters their homes, their minds, and their families. In this episode, I talk…
Behind Every Great ManAn Honest Love Letter To Every Mom This Mother's Day
This Mother's Day episode is my honest love letter to every mother, the one who is exhausted and grateful and lonely and full of love all at the same time, the…
Behind Every Great ManThe Practice That Changed How I Get Through The Hard Days
Behind every great man is a great woman who trained her eyes to find the light...and changed everything by doing it. This episode is not a generic gratitude…
Behind Every Great ManWhen Your Faith Never Looked The Way They Said It Should
In this deeply personal episode, I open up about my relationship with faith, one that never looked the way I was told it should, but has always been real and…
Behind Every Great ManThe Quiet Resentment of Being the Default Parent
In this episode, we discuss resentment most women don’t really admit, not the kind that comes from a bad life, but the quiet kind that builds inside a good…
Behind Every Great ManShe Didn't Lose Her Dreams. She Pressed Pause.
This episode is for the woman who has quietly put parts of herself on the shelf in order to build a life she truly loves. I talk about the dreams, the freedom…
Behind Every Great ManLoving Your Life and Still Longing for More
This episode is for the woman who chose this life, who loves her family deeply, and still feels the quiet ache of the parts of herself that was put on pause. I…
Behind Every Great ManWhy Some Marriages Stay Passionate And Some Don't
In this episode, I’m talking about why some marriages stay passionate and others don’t, and what I’ve seen play out in my own marriage. I don’t believe passion…
Behind Every Great ManThe List That Never Ends
Behind every great man is a great woman carrying a mental load nobody sees. In this episode, I’m talking about the invisible thinking mothers do all day long…
Behind Every Great ManFull Life, Missing The Village
In this episode, I talk about the quiet loneliness many women feel inside a full life. Even surrounded by family, a beautiful home, and people who love us, the…
Behind Every Great ManIt Was Never About The Trash (With My Husband, Keith)
In this episode, we’re talking about the thing we say is about the trash… but never actually is. When you find yourself repeating a request over and over, it’s…
Behind Every Great ManThe Softest Form Of Strength
In this episode, we’re talking about the quiet way strong women accidentally block the very love and support they crave. We learned how to be capable…
Behind Every Great ManLoyalty Beyond The Lifestyle
In this episode, we’re talking about something foundational in marriage: support and loyalty. The kind that holds through pressure, risk, uncertainty, and big…
Behind Every Great ManTo The Woman Who Feels Everything
In this episode of Behind Every Great Man, we’re honoring the woman who feels everything, the one who experiences life in full color. The woman who’s been told…
Behind Every Great ManStaying Connected To Your Desire In The Middle Of A Full Life
Today we are talking about intimacy in real life. The kind that exists inside exhaustion, motherhood, and full days. I share why intimacy is not just about…
Behind Every Great ManThis Chapter Isn't The Whole Story
Behind every great man is a great woman who’s lived many chapters shaping the woman she is today - and she doesn’t need to hide a single one of them. The…
Behind Every Great ManLosing Yourself Isn't The Problem. Staying Lost Is.
Most women don’t lose themselves out of neglect. They lose themselves out of love for others. In this episode, we explore why losing yourself is often needed…
Behind Every Great ManHow Love and Responsibility Can Quietly Turn Into Control
Behind every great man is a great woman who learned how to carry everything and is now learning to let go. What am I trying to control right now? Who am I…
Behind Every Great ManA Love Letter To The Woman Who Waits
A love letter to the woman who waits. Whether her partner is gone for short periods of time or long stretches, I want to acknowledge this incredible woman who…
Behind Every Great ManA Love Letter To The Stay-At-Home Mom
My prayer for you is this: God protect this woman who gives so much of herself that she sometimes forgets where she ends and everyone else begins. Bless her…
Behind Every Great ManTo the Single Mom: A Love Letter to the Strongest Woman I Know
To the woman who is mom and dad in every moment, the nurturer and the protector. I pray that God watches over you today and always. Over your home, every room…
Behind Every Great ManReconnecting with Your Partner when Life won't Pause (With My Husband, Keith)
Behind every great man is a great woman who turns toward her partner when life pulls them apart. Ask yourself, where can I reach for my partner again? Where…
Behind Every Great ManThe Soft Life: Living Gently in a Hard World
Behind every great man is a great woman who knows living a soft life is the secret. Life as we know it can feel like a hurricane. It swirls around us with…
Behind Every Great ManThe Home Executive: Her Unseen Power That Shapes Everything
Behind every great man is a great woman whose presence may not be seen, but everyone feels. I want to speak directly to the woman who isn't sure just how…
Behind Every Great ManA Season of Calm: Finding Peace In The Holiday Chaos
Behind every great man is a great woman who knows Peace begins within her. Think about the upcoming season, the holidays, the travel, the gathering of loved…
Behind Every Great ManWhen His Mind Doesn’t Leave the Office: When Work Follows Him Home, Her Presence Brings Him Back
Behind every great man is a great woman who remembers her presence is powerful. When you feel that familiar frustration rise up in you when you can feel your…
Behind Every Great ManHer Effort, His Income, Our Partnership (With My Husband, Keith)
Behind every great man is a great woman who knows her contribution is just as valuable in their partnership. I want you to ask yourself this question. "What is…
Behind Every Great ManThe Most Important Work You’ll Never Get Paid For: Because What You Do Can Never Be Measured With Money
Behind every great man is a great woman, standing tall in what she does, and finally calling it enough. Place your hand on your heart. Take a moment to feel…
Behind Every Great ManKeeping It Hot: How Safe Conversations Create Wild Connection
Behind every great man is a great woman who knows her own desires, honors her partner's, and keeps curiosity alive. Bring to mind something that truly excites…
Behind Every Great ManTrad Wife Energy: Queens, Castles & The Comparison Trap
Behind every great man is a great woman who celebrates other queens without questioning her own reign. Picture your kingdom. However big, however small. See…
Behind Every Great ManBefore I Was a Wife: Losing Your Identity and Remembering Who You Are
Behind every great man is a great woman who remembers who she is. I want you to think back for a moment before marriage, before kids, before the full-time role…
Behind Every Great ManThe Great Return Home: When the Boss Babe Era Meets the Primal Pull to Motherhood
Behind every great man is a great woman who feels the pull to be home and listens to her heart. I want you to ask yourself: What does my heart keep trying to…
Behind Every Great ManIt's About the Woman
Behind every great man is a great woman who's doing her internal work. How are you feeling? Truly. Out of the five categories I mentioned, do a quick check in…
Behind Every Great ManBehind the Man: Subservient or the Feminine Seat of Power?
Behind every great man is a great woman who inspires him to rise by staying grounded in her essence. Am I allowing my man to lead? Do I trust him to make good…
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