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Raising Boys & Girls
Welcome to the Raising Boys and Girls Podcast with Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan. In each episode of this podcast, we’ll share some of what we’re learning in the work we do with kids and families on a daily basis at Daystar Counseling Ministries. Our goal is to help you care for the kids in your life with a little more understanding, a little more practical help, and a whole lot of hope. So pull up a chair and join us on this journey of raising boys and girls. Connect with us…
Episodes
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 423: Where Fear and Bravery Meet in Parenting with Jess Connolly
After years of coaching thousands of women, Jess noticed that everyone she knows is scared, so she set out to understand fear biblically, physiologically, and…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 422: Managing Emotions in Capable Kids with David and Sissy
The episode moves the Capable series from strengths to skills, which are things kids have to be taught and practice, like tying their shoes. Managing emotions…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 421: Writing Your Child's Story While Writing Your Own with Craig Melvin
Sissy and David sit down in New York with Craig Melvin to talk about his book Pops, a love letter to his father, who is now in recovery after 15 years of…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 420: Growing Gratitude in Capable Kids with David and Sissy
Gratitude can sound like the soft strength in the capability series. Sissy and David argue it’s an essential one, because it teaches kids to hold two realities…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 419: Building Resilience, Perspective, and Hope Amidst Hard News with Vicky Nguyen
As part of the Strengths, Skills, and Strategies podcast season, NBC's Vicky Nguyen shares her family's escape from Vietnam by boat and how growing up as the…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 418: Growing Perseverance in Capable Kids with David and Sissy
In this episode, Sissy and David explore how kids build perseverance by sticking with hard things, and how parents can stay close without stepping in to rescue…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 417: Helping Families with Disabilities Experience Their Capability with Amy Juila Becker
Amy Julia Becker explains why measuring kids against developmental milestones makes children with disabilities look incapable, and why asking "what's the next…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 416: Growing Flexibility in Capable Kids with David and Sissy
Sissy and David open with a "How Flexible Are You Really?" quiz and explain that flexibility is what happens after disappointment. They say they've never seen…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 415: Raising Conscious Sons and Daughters with Dr. Shefali
Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of Raising Conscious Daughters and Raising Conscious Sons, explains how technology targets boys through their drive for achievement…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 414: Growing Competence In Capable Kids with David and Sissy
Kicking off a new stretch of their Capable series, Sissy Goff and David Thomas explore the strength of competence, distinguishing it from confidence…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 413: A Practical Way of Creating Your Family Legacy with Blake Brewer
Blake Brewer joins Sissy and David to tell the story of watching his father drown in Hawaii when he was 19, and how a letter his dad had written him…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 412: Remembering and Hoping Together with David and Sissy
Closing out their series on grief, Sissy Goff and David Thomas focus on remembering, living, and hoping. They encourage parents to follow a child's lead on…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 411: Prayer as a Family with Tyler Staton
Pastor and author Tyler Staton joins David Thomas for an honest conversation about prayer, parenting, and his journey through advanced-stage cancer. Tyler…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 410: What Kids Need From Us with David and Sissy
Sissy Goff and David Thomas share four things grieving children need most: conversation, community, consistency, and coping. They explain how honest…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 409: Creating Community for Kids in Time of Grief with Toni Collier
Sissy and David are joined by author and speaker Toni Collier for an honest and hope-filled conversation about the power of community in helping kids and…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 408: What Grief Looks Like at Different Ages with David and Sissy
Grief looks different at every age, and understanding a child’s developmental stage can help parents recognize what they need most. Sissy Goff and David Thomas…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 407: Joyful Anyway with Kate Bowler
In this episode of Raising Boys and Girls, it features Sissy Goff and David Thomas in an in-person conversation with author and Duke professor Kate Bowler…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 406: What Grief Looks Like in Kids with David and Sissy
Grief can look very different in children than it does in adults. In this episode, Sissy Goff and David Thomas share five important ways kids process loss: in…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 405: Where Getting Outside and Homeschooling Meet Capability with Ginny Yurich
Ginny Yurich, founder of 1000 Hours Outside, joins Sissy and David to explore how outdoor play, movement, and hands-on experiences prepare children to learn…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 404: Our 5 Favorite Tips for Parent Teacher Conferences
Parent-teacher conferences can feel stressful for parents, but Sissy Goff and David Thomas encourage families to approach them as opportunities to build a…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 403: The Importance of a Family Devotion with Michael and Melissa Kruger
In this episode, Sissy and David sit down with Michael and Melissa Kruger to talk about helping families build meaningful spiritual rhythms together. The…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 402: Our 5 Favorite Tips for Navigating Emotions in the School Year with David and Sissy
As kids head back to school, Sissy Goff and David Thomas share five practical ways parents can help them navigate the big emotions that often come with…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 401: Making Peace with What We Can’t Control with Lysa TerKeurst
Sissy Goff and David Thomas sit down with Lysa TerKeurst for a meaningful conversation about making peace with what we can’t control—especially as parents…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 400: Our 5 Favorite Tips for Navigating Friendships in the School Year with David and Sissy
As kids head back to school, friendships can bring just as much anxiety as academics. In this episode, Sissy Goff and David Thomas share five practical ways…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 399: The Back to School Break We All Need with Melanie Shankle and Sophie Hudson
Melanie Shankle and Sophie Hudson join David and Sissy for a funny, honest conversation about raising capable kids without giving in to pressure…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 398: Our 5 Tips for Back to School Transition with David and Sissy
As the new school year approaches, Sissy Goff and David Thomas help parents understand why transitions can bring big feelings, physical symptoms, and anxious…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 397: Navigating Complicated Family Relationships with Dr. Dale Atkins
Dr. Dale Atkins joins David and Sissy to explore how speed, chronic stress, digital distraction, and intensive parenting are reshaping family relationships and…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 396: Capable Connections: Friendships with David and Sissy
Friendships are where kids practice being human, but social anxiety, screens, group dynamics, and “rollercoaster” relationships are making connection harder…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 395: The Two Biggest Questions Parents Ask the Most About Siblings with Hunter and Katty Connelly
Katty and Hunter Connelly join Sissy and David to share what they have learned while raising four very different children. They discuss building capability…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 394: Capable Connections: Siblings with David and Sissy
Sibling relationships can be some of the longest and most meaningful relationships in a person’s life, helping kids develop empathy, resilience, social skills…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 393: Capable in the Classroom with Dan Carpenter (High School Teacher) and Wheat Teller (Elementary School Teacher)
David and Sissy talk with two beloved educators, kindergarten teacher Wheat Teller and high school history teacher Dan Carpenter, about what capability looks…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 392: Capable Connections: Teachers and Coaches with David and Sissy
Sissy and David celebrate the powerful role teachers, coaches, mentors, and other trusted adults play in helping kids grow into capable, resilient people. They…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 391: Family Dinners and the One Question Grandparents Need to Ask with Babs Costello
Sissy and David talk with Barbara “Babs” Costello, beloved social media creator, former preschool founder, mom of four, and grandmother of nine, about the…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 390: The Power of Family Through Generations with Carole and John Ferguson, Julie Trapp, Ashley Waltemath, & Amy Pipes
In this conversation, John and Carole Ferguson and their daughters reflect on the rhythms that built a close, capable, faith-filled family across generations…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 389: Capable Connections: Grandparents with David and Sissy
In this conversation, David and Sissy explore the important role grandparents play in helping children grow into capable, resilient adults. They discuss how…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 388: Raising Capable and Mighty Kids in Today's Cultural Landscape with Sharon McMahon
Sissy and David sit down with Sharon McMahon to discuss how parents can help children become informed, resilient, and capable in a complicated world. Sharon…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 387: An Honest Conversation about Fathers and Daughters with Doug Durr, Allye Gray and Analise Glover
Builder and longtime Daystar friend Doug Durr joins his daughters, Allye Gray and Analise Glover, to reflect on the unique bond between fathers and daughters…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 386: Capable Connections: Fathers and Daughters
David and Sissy explore the unique role fathers play in helping daughters develop confidence, resilience, and capability. Through personal stories, research…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 385: Mothers, Sons, and Playing in the NFL with Hunter and Jenny Henry
In this Capable Connections conversation, Hunter Henry and his mom, Jenny Henry, reflect on the values and experiences that shaped Hunter from childhood to…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 384: Capable Connections: Mothers and Sons with David and Sissy
David and Sissy explore the powerful relationship between moms and sons, emphasizing that moms are often a boy’s emotional home base and play a key role in…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 383: An Honest Conversation about Fathers and Sons with Scott and Randy Hearon
Sissy Goff and David Thomas sit down with father and son Randy and Scott Hearon for a deeply honest conversation about the father-son relationship. Through…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 382: Capable Connections: Fathers and Sons
In episode 382, Sissy Goff and David Thomas continue their Capable Connections series by exploring the unique relationship between fathers and sons. They…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 381: Where Commitment Meets Capability with Shawn Johnson and Andrew East
In this episode, Shawn Johnson East and Andrew East discuss the importance of commitment, resilience, and raising capable kids. Drawing from their experiences…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 380: An Honest Conversation about Mothers and Daughters with Haven Weits and Lisa Whelchel
Lisa Whelchel and Haven Weits share a rich and honest conversation about raising capable kids, cultivating independence, and building a strong mother-daughter…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 379: Capable Connections: Mothers and Daughters with David and Sissy
This Episode explores the powerful and often complicated relationship between mothers and daughters, highlighting how deeply girls are shaped by their moms’…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 378: Learning to Fail, Trusting God and Trick Shots with Dude Perfect
This episode features an engaging conversation with Dude Perfect members Cory Cotton and Garrett Hilbert about friendship, faith, perseverance, and raising…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 377: The Power of Family and Staying Connected Through Adulthood with Dr. Kathy Koch
Dr. Kathy Koch joins Sissy Goff and David Thomas to discuss the growing challenges facing today’s young adults and families, especially around resilience…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 376: Helping Teenagers and Young Adults Find Their True Identity and Capabilities with Alena Pitts Franklin
In this episode, Alena Pitts Franklin shares how grief, faith, and family shaped her understanding of capability and identity. She reflects on her early acting…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 375: Capable the Young Adult Years with David and Sissy
In this episode, Sissy Goff and David Thomas discuss the growing challenges many young adults face, including entitlement, emotional fragility, difficulty…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 374: The Cornerstone of Resilience and Capability with Dr. Ken Ginsburg
In this episode of the Raising Boys and Girls podcast, Dr. Ken Ginsburg explains that resilience is built through strong, loving relationships and introduces…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 373: Capable the High School Years with David and Sissy
This conversation highlights a growing “capability gap” in teens, where some, often girls, are overwhelmed by pressure and perfectionism while others, often…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 372: When to Push and When to Pull Back in the Middle School Years with Dr. Lisa Damour
Dr. Lisa Damour explains that resilience comes from learning to handle discomfort, not avoiding it, and reminds parents that mental health isn’t about always…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 371: Capable the Middle School Years with David and Sissy
Middle school is a crucial but often overlooked stage where kids need practice, not perfection, as they navigate social disconnection, increased screen use…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 370: From Trauma to Regulation to Resilience with Neurobiologist Dr. Bruce Perry
Dr. Bruce Perry unpacks the difference between stress, adversity, and trauma, helping parents shift from asking “what’s wrong with you?” to “what happened to…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 369: Capable the Elementary Years with David and Sissy
Elementary school is a critical window where kids begin asking, “Am I capable?” and moments of struggle, not success, are what build that belief. Anxiety…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 368: Building Independence and Resilience in Toddlers with Zee Pendleton and Angela Rice
Zee Pendleton and Angela Rice talk about how kids today are dealing with more anxiety, screen time, and big emotions, and remind us that raising capable…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 367: Capable the Toddler Years with David and Sissy
Toddlers’ “I do it myself” moments aren’t defiance, they’re signs of healthy development and a deep drive for autonomy. When parents pause before stepping in…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 366: Helping Boys Become Capable Men with Sherman Bucher
Sherman Bucher shares that while boys today are more open to getting help, many are also more anxious, less confident, and unsure how to take their next steps…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 365: Boys' Challenges to Capability with David and Sissy
This episode highlights how boys develop true capability by practicing risk, emotional regulation, and perseverance in everyday moments. David and Sissy…
Raising Boys & GirlsEpisode 364: Helping Girls Feel Ready and Capable in Today’s World with Kari Kampakis
Kari Kampakis shares why today’s girls need both grace and grit—the ability to stay kind while also developing strength and resilience. She encourages parents…