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Dating-over-40 advice by the Dating Goddess™
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The Sex Talk
When we were younger, we might have been more nonchalant about sex. We progressed — often rapidly — from passionate kissing to petting to sex…
Making his universe
I’ve become friendly with my local street fruit vendor because he is friendly and has an easy smile. Despite our limited facility with each other’s…
The benefits of dating a younger man
I loathe the term “cougar” and would never initiate a relationship with a much-younger man. When I’ve dated men 1-10 years younger they all…
Learning to trust again
Some people enter the dating pool after having ended a relationship because of cheating. Some have been cheated on multiple times, by the same person or with…
“Do you think you’re attractive?”
This was the first question asked by the radio host in a recent interview. I paused to consider my answer.“Some days yes; some days no” I responded…
Finding Mr. Right in the wrong package
After dating for a while, you refine what you want and don’t want in your next relationship. Your criteria get clearer and you get more certain about…
A decade of freedom
Ten years ago today my husband of 20 years announced he didn’t want to be married anymore. I took it hard. I now call that day “The Great…
ISO millionaires
It seems that everyone dreams of winning the lottery, imagining all the things they’d do, buy, or donate to if they became a millionaire. In fact, some…
Is he a giver or a taker?
You can tell a lot about a person by how generous he is not only with money, but with effort and spirit. Sometimes a person can be generous with words of…
The non-breakup break up
They’d been dating regularly for 4 months, even taking a 4-day vacation together. My gal pal kept telling me what a nice guy he was — very…
Latest interview
Listen to the interview of DG with Dawn Wright-de Brantes on the Dash Radio. The post Latest interview appeared first on Adventures in Delicious Dating After…
Is he up to something?
That phrase can have two interpretations — one bad and one good. “He’s up to something” can mean something bad, like “He’s…
Another interview
Listen to DG being interviewed by Dave Gordon on the Eargasm radio show. The post Another interview appeared first on Adventures in Delicious Dating After…
DG named to 10 Best Midlife Dating Experts list
Along with Dr. Ruth! The post DG named to 10 Best Midlife Dating Experts list appeared first on Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40™.
Two new interviews
Recently, I’ve been interviewed by two media sources. * Listen to a recent interview of me by RelationshipAdviceCafe.com (right-click to download to your…
ISO someone equally decrepit
When I read some midlife men’s dating profiles I get tired. Not from reading, but from their exhaustive list of extreme activities — rock climbing…
Does he have the capacity for you?
I mean “capacity” in several ways. Does he have time in his life for you — the capacity to bring you into his life and the availability to be…
Thank goodness for friends
I heard a sharp rap through the phone. “What was that?” I asked my friend. He’d just inquired about my love life and I told him of the…
Join me tonight on KGO
I’ll be spending the hour with KGO’s Maureen Langan at 11:00 p.m. PST. Come join in the conversation! The post Join me tonight on KGO appeared…
What does “needing space” really mean?
A pal is head-over-heals smitten with a woman he’s been seeing for 3 months. He thinks she’s The One. However, there’s a problem. Right…
The Lennay affect
By now, anyone with a news feed knows of the the Manti Te’o/Lennay Kekua hoax, or what is known in the vernacular as catfishing. It is when one is duped…
How many deal breakers are you willing to allow?
As we date, we begin to define our deal breakers. Some are solid — no way would you date a cheater, domestic abuser, drug user or felon. But some, you…
Can dating be like “The Voice”?
Part of the allure of the TV singing competition “The Voice” is that the contestants are judged initially on only the quality of their singing. I…
We are never, ever getting back together
Thank you Taylor Swift, for a lyric that perfectly reflects my sentiment. Especially now. Why?A month ago, my boyfriend from 3 years past indicated he…
Did Santa forget your gift?
As a kid, were you ever disappointed when Santa didn’t deliver a coveted gift? I was. I would pout and sometimes even cry from disappointment, not being…
“I’ll be the best you ever had”
As much as I love John Legend, his “Tonight” lyric is indicative of men who over promise and under deliver. If a man brags about his prowess in…
Wing woman
My married BFF has patiently listened to my dating ups and downs for many years. At her suggestion, we decided to attend a well-known church’s fundraiser…
Fool me twice, shame on me
I’m channeling Britney, with an “oops, I did it again” experience this week. I’d hit a dating dry spell of late with the men I’ve…
Do you respect his thinking?
There are many reasons we are attracted to someone or not. Often, it takes a while to experience their behaviors before we decide if we like who they are or…
Are you open to an open relationship?
Unfamiliar with the term? Think of being in a primary relationship, but with the ability to have sex with others. Openly. With your sweetheart’s…
Beginner’s luck
A pal who ended a decade-long relationship a year ago has fallen for a woman he met a few weeks ago. It’s the first person he’s dated after his…
I want to marry a concierge
Dinner was high atop the Istanbul Intercontinental Hotel in the City Lights Restaurant. We met at 8:15 so the sun had set and the lights on the Anatolian…
Topless in Turkey
I thought that would get your attention! Europeans seem to have much different feelings about body image than Americans do. (I realize I’m generalizing…
“The lad doth text too much”
With apologies to Shakespeare, I was reminded of his line in Hamlet when a potential suitor recently showered me — or more like drowned me — in…
The altered state of “in love”
Brain scans show that the same regions of the brain are activated after taking cocaine as when subjects were shown pictures of someone they said they were in…
Being in fond
A good-looking, successful, kind, generous, attentive, single man is wooing my single friend. He tells her how much he adores her and wants to be with her. He…
Does he have an addiction?
In the last few months I’ve heard two stories of midlife women learning the man they were dating had an addiction. * A 60-something woman had met a…
“It’s not my job”
It seems that when I gather with one or more single gal pals, the subject soon turns to dating. Today’s gathering was no different. This conversation…
Are you too tolerant?
Generally, I believe tolerance is good. You are open to new ideas and perspectives. You’re not rigid and adamant that your way is the only way. (Note: As…
Starving at a feast of men
The men were well dressed, intelligent, good looking, successful, good communicators. They smiled and laughed easily and were outgoing. I moved among them…
Wheels up, ring off
This is the motto for some married travelers. They see solo journeys as an opportunity to cheat. Of course, cheaters don’t need to be away from home to…
Getting your Turkish flirt on
A gal pal mentioned that no one flirts with her. Or if someone does, she doesn’t know it. We are in Turkey and she is learning to get her flirt on. It…
A visceral response
I logged onto a favorite dating site and eagerly opened the daily matches that are based upon mutual criteria. Only rarely is there someone who seems a match…
Somebody to love
When they recorded “Somebody to Love” Jefferson Airplane made famous the sentiment that we all want someone to love: Don’t you want somebody…
Are you drama-free?
One of the most common items I see listed under men’s “What I’m looking for” area in online profiles is “drama free.” It…
Would you fall for your ex if you met today?
I know this question requires you to imagine you had the Men in Black memory eraser applied to you. Then you could forget all his lying, cheating, hurtfulness…
Would you move to find love?
Last week a fellow globetrotting gal pal and I were sitting by the pool in Siem Reap, Cambodia during a 2-week trip to SE Asia. We were comparing notes about…
The great awakening
It began 9 years ago today. I call it “The Great Awakening.” Two days earlier we’d returned from a romantic week in a favorite city. We held…
Why online dating is like a sushi bar
You sit comfortably and watch the dishes go by. You pick what looks appealing. If you’re curious, you look more carefully and read whatever description…
Congruency is the best policy
His profile listed his name as “Micheal” (sic). But his first email was signed “Gerald.” When I asked him about the discrepancy, he…
Looking for male equivalent of unicorn
You’ve heard such a being exists. But you have yet to encounter one. Not that you haven’t tried. Relentlessly. You’ve hunted in the places…
Sexy at any age
I feel a special connection with Susan Sarandon. Not that I look anything like her nor do I share her movie-star lifestyle. I met her when I was doing some…
Remodeling for romance
When one has been single and dating around for a while, it’s easy to make life choices around that single status. When you don’t have a sweetie…
Cold feet
After swimming in the dating pool for a while, you begin to wonder why some people even say they are “swimming” too. They behave in ways that show…
Such a deal!
I sent this picture and to a mattress-salesman friend — who’s also a single hunk. I suggested this offer might help him sell more beds. But aside…
False start
When dating, it’s common to get one’s hopes up at the beginnings of a new connection. If things go right at the start, we’re encouraged that…
Valentine’s Day — celebration or curse?
It’s upon us again. Every year in the gloom of winter we fight the unwelcome bulges resulting from over-indulging in holiday treats. We trudge through…
Love vs. respect
Long-time reader Richard sent me an email posing some interesting issues about how men and women see and need love and respect differently. Here’s part…
Is “I’m sorry” a good thing or a bad one?
I strongly believe if you know you’ve done something to cause another inconvenience or pain, you should acknowledge that with an apology. What if there…
Tips for delicious dating after 40
(Readers: Ghirardelli asked me to write about my take on delicious dating and integrate a few of their products — which I do love. But full disclosure…