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Relationship Advice
Relationship Advice helps listeners uncover the stuck spots in their relationships by taking expert advice from three licensed professional counselors and boiling it down into digestible tips and tools. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren help people to see that the first step to connecting with somebody else is by connecting with you. They focus their show on understanding and navigating the cycles that couples face, how to practice individuation, and staying in an emotionally regulated state. Just them…
Episodes
Relationship AdviceThe Art of Negotiation with Kwame Christian
Negotiation isn’t a “business skill” — it’s an everyday relationship skill. Today we sit down TED Talk speaker, best-selling author, and podcast host of…
Relationship AdviceStop Your Next Fight Dead In It’s Tracks: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. Get…
Relationship AdviceWhy Your Partner's Body Image Matters More Than You Think - Interview with Samantha Jerome
Body image isn’t just “how you look”—it’s how you feel in your body, and that inner experience can quietly shape conflict, closeness, sex, and day-to-day…
Relationship AdviceState Of The World: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD…
Relationship AdviceThe Fourth Pillar Of A Secure Relationship (Reach & Respond)
Reaching and responding is the core interaction that helps couples move out of stuck, negative cycles and back toward connection. A reach is an imperfect…
Relationship AdviceTwo Date Rule and Testing The Waters In Dating: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD ME…
Relationship AdviceThe Third Pillar Of A Secure Relationship (Knowing Your Cycle)
In this episode, we explore what a negative relationship cycle is and why couples get stuck repeating the same patterns during conflict. We explain how…
Relationship AdviceSafety In Sameness: Quick Advice
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD ME…
Relationship AdviceThe Second Pillar Of A Secure Relationship (Individuation)
In this episode, Colter, Lauren, and Cayla unpack the second pillar of a secure relationship: individuation—the idea that what it’s like to be me is different…
Relationship AdviceMarriage 2026: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD ME…
Relationship AdviceThe First Pillar of A Secure Relationship (Window of Tolerance)
Window of Tolerance helps explain why one partner often wants to keep talking while the other shuts down, speeds up, or feels totally overwhelmed. In this…
Relationship AdviceHow To Fix Disconnection in 2026: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD ME…
Relationship AdviceStarting Fresh: New Year Intentions for a Stronger Relationship
In this episode, Colter, Lauren, and Cayla explore why we latch onto birthdays and the New Year as chances to “start fresh,” and why traditional resolutions so…
Relationship AdviceBridging the Gap: Healing Pursuer/Withdrawer Misunderstandings
In this episode, we break down the pursuer–withdrawer dynamic and why partners so often misunderstand each other during conflict. We explore how our nervous…
Relationship AdviceAre You Enabling Or Helping? And What's The Difference?
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Relationship AdviceWhy Good People Have Affairs
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Relationship AdviceHow Two Therapists Got Into A Fight and How They Repaired
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Relationship AdviceWhen the Holidays Aren't So Merry
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Relationship AdviceManaging Your Boundaries with Family Over the Holidays
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Relationship AdvicePeople Pleasing and When You Get Invited To Chilli's
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Relationship AdviceHas Psychobabble Infiltrated Our Culture? A conversation with Joe Nucci
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Relationship AdviceHow To Navigate Family Drama Part 2 - In Laws
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Relationship AdviceHow To Navigate Family Drama
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Relationship AdviceCreating A Positive Cycle
In this episode, Colter, Cayla, and Lauren break down how to shift your relationship from reactivity to rhythm by learning to create a positive cycle. You’ll…
Relationship AdviceHow To Find Safe Attachment with Jessica Baum
Jessica Baum shares her personal journey through anxiety and depression that led her into studying attachment theory and writing her books. She explains how…
Relationship AdviceWhy Can't They Just Get Over It
This episode looks at why your partner might struggle to “just get over” something that feels small to you. Often, their reaction isn’t really about the…
Relationship AdviceHow To Love Withdrawers Well
Most people have experienced moments of withdrawal or disconnection in relationships, especially during conflict. For some, these patterns can create…
Relationship AdviceHow To Love Pursuers Well
This episode from Relationship Advice, hosts Colter, Lauren, and Cayla lean into the dynamics of pursuer-withdrawer relationships, focusing on how to…
Relationship AdviceWhat No One Told You Would Change Your Relationship After Having a Baby with Rachel Shepard Ohta
This episode explores how having a baby reshapes a couple’s relationship in ways few anticipate, from sleep deprivation and shifting roles to unexpected…
Relationship AdviceFear of Rejection
Fear of rejection is one of the biggest hurdles in dating, often holding people back from putting themselves out there or forming deeper connections. In this…
Relationship AdviceFear of Intimacy
This episode unpacks the fear of intimacy—why closeness can feel good yet terrifying at the same time. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren explore how fear of intimacy…
Relationship AdviceNavigating Friendship Conflict
This episode dives into the often-overlooked complexities of friendship conflict and breakups, highlighting that friendships can be just as emotionally…
Relationship AdviceSensory Profiles & Sexual Intimacy w/ Dr. Sarah Anderson
In this episode, Dr. Sarah Anderson returns to explore how sensory processing patterns impact physical and sexual intimacy. The hosts use a creative "readiness…
Relationship AdviceSensory Profiles & How They Impact Our Relationships w/ Dr. Sarah Anderson
In this episode, Dr. Sarah Anderson, a mental health occupational therapist, joins the hosts to explore how individual sensory profiles affect relationships…
Relationship AdviceHow To Support A Loved One
How do you support loved ones during challenging times, such as mental health struggles, medical issues, grief, or addiction? Listen as our hosts explore…
Relationship AdviceWhen To Bring Up Hard Things
Bringing up hard things in relationships is less about avoiding conflict and more about when and how you do it. In this episode, the hosts explore why timing…
Relationship AdviceSex Therapy Part 2: Sexual Differences Between Men & Women
In this episode of Relationship Advice, guest sex therapist Bryttney Huseas joins the hosts to explore the nuanced and often misunderstood sexual differences…
Relationship AdviceSex Therapy Part 1: Where Do Couples Get Stuck?
In this episode of Relationship Advice, Cayla and Lauren are joined by sex therapist Bryttney Huseas to explore where couples commonly get stuck when it comes…
Relationship AdviceThe Secret Language of Empathy & How To Use It
Empathy isn’t just a feeling—it’s a skillset, and in this episode, we break down its secret language. From how to stop jumping to advice-giving to what true…
Relationship AdviceHow To Dismantle Shame
Have you ever felt like something about you was just…wrong? In this episode, we dive deep into the roots of shame—where it comes from, why we all experience…
Relationship AdviceWhy We Rush To Solutions & What We Should Do Instead
We often rush to offer solutions when a loved one expresses emotional distress, not because we don't care, but because it's uncomfortable to witness pain—both…
Relationship AdviceKnowing How To Name Emotions Will Deepen Your Connection To Yourself And Others
Being able to name and understand your emotions deepens your connection to yourself and improves your ability to connect with others. Language gives shape to…
Relationship AdviceMaking Non-Evil, Generous Assumptions About Our Partner’s Responses
In this episode, examine how our assumptions about our partner's behavior shape the emotional climate of our relationship. Often, we default to interpretations…
Relationship AdviceWhen Are Needs Implied In A Relationship Vs When Should They Be Made Explicit
Dive into how often people use indirect or protective strategies—like assuming or demanding—when trying to get their relational needs met, and why making needs…
Relationship AdviceFor When You Feel Disillusioned In Your Relationship
This episode dives into the feeling of disillusionment in long-term relationships—when the connection, ease, or intimacy from the early days starts to fade and…
Relationship AdviceHow Much Of Our Intimate Partner Relationships We Should Be Sharing
This episode explores the nuanced question of how much we should share about our intimate relationships with others, highlighting the spectrum between healthy…
Relationship AdviceHow To Know When To Call It Quits In A Relationship
In this episode, the hosts unpack the complicated process of knowing when it's time to leave a relationship, highlighting the emotional risks, attachment…
Relationship AdviceHow to Know When To Take A Break in Conflict
In this episode, the hosts illustrate how noticing when you need a break during conflict is essential for maintaining emotional regulation and protecting…
Relationship AdviceHow To Handle Different Paces In Emotional Growth
When emotional growth happens at different paces in a relationship, it can create disconnection and frustration. This episode explores how partners can…
Relationship AdviceWhy Do My Partner And I Have Different Sex Drives
Explore the common relational challenge of mismatched sex drives in partnerships, emphasizing that differences in sexual desire are normal and often rooted in…
Relationship AdviceWhat To Do When Your Partner is Still Defensive
In this episode, the hosts explore the emotional complexity of being vulnerable in relationships and not receiving the supportive response we hope for. When…
Relationship AdviceHow To Let People Feel Their Feelings
The concept of "letting people feel their feelings" may be confusing to some, however in this episode, Colter, Cayla and Lauren emphasize the importance of…
Relationship AdviceHow To Decide What Are Non-Negotiables In A Relationship
This episode of the Relationship Advice podcast explores the value of creating a Non-Negotiables List to establish clear boundaries and expectations in…
Relationship AdviceCuriosity Over Questioning
What’s the difference between curiosity and questioning in relationships? Learn about the importance of approaching emotional challenges with openness rather…
Relationship AdviceHow To Heal Insecure Attachment With Julie Menanno
Joined by special guest, Julie Menanno, our hosts sit down to discuss how to heal insecure attachment by focusing on self-awareness, emotional regulation, and…
Relationship AdviceBoundaries & What's Right
Explore the tension between personal experience and factual correctness in relationships, particularly in boundary-setting and decision-making. The hosts…
Relationship AdviceRituals
This episode explores the importance of rituals in relationships, emphasizing how they create trust, connection, and predictability between partners. Whether…
Relationship AdviceWhat Is A Negative Couples Cycle?
A negative couples cycle is a recurring pattern of interaction in which partners react to each other’s protective moves, escalating conflict rather than…
Relationship AdviceSex: When To Say Yes & When To Say No
Today Colter, Cayla, and Lauren dive into the “taboo” topic of sex, offering advice on when to say yes and when to say no. This episode explores how partners…
Relationship AdviceBoundaries
Today Colter, Lauren and Cayla dive into boundaries, emphasizing their importance in maintaining personal energy, trust, and healthy relationships. The hosts…