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The Harmony of We
Formerly At the Root, this podcast continues the journey—now not just into emotional awareness, but into the energetic heart of human connection. In The Harmony of We, holistic psychotherapist and spiritual life coach Greg Kiper invites listeners into a new understanding of relationships—not as problems to fix, but as fields of energy to attune. Through soul-level conversations, reflections, and story-based guidance, this series expands on the teachings in Greg's book Elationship: The Harmony…
Episodes
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The Love We Think We're Giving
When Maya becomes worried about her aging father, Ethan responds the way he knows best: by trying to help. But his plans and practical solutions aren't what…
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The Same Moment, Two Different Stories
Ethan remembers a wonderful dinner with friends. Maya remembers a moment that left her feeling embarrassed. Neither is being dishonest. They simply experienced…
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When We Want Different Things
Ethan wants adventure. Maya wants quiet. Neither is wrong. In this episode of The Harmony of We, an ordinary Saturday reveals how easily different preferences…
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A Moment Worth Revisiting: Attunement
This week, we're revisiting an earlier episode of The Harmony of We and one of the ideas that has become foundational to so many of our conversations…
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Making Room for Who We're Becoming
The people we love are always becoming, and sometimes their growth asks us to change too. Through Ethan's new interest in music and Lena's decision to open a…
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I Didn't Know That About You
When Ethan discovers that Maya has always wanted to paint, one small surprise opens the door to a much larger question: what else don't they know about each…
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When There's Nothing to Fix
When Ethan receives uncertain news about his job, Maya's instinct is to help. But sometimes the person we love doesn't need an answer yet—they need company…
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The Courage to Say What Matters
Why can the simplest truths be the hardest things to say? Greg explores the difference between accusation and self-revelation, why vulnerability can feel so…
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The Things We Don't Say
When Ethan receives unsettling news at work, he decides not to tell Maya until he knows more. But as the silence grows, they discover the subtle difference…
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Remembering How to Play
When did being together become so serious? In this episode, Ethan and Maya trade plans and responsibilities for an intentionally useless Saturday filled with…
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Wehn the Old Dance Begins
After exploring the patterns we bring into our relationships in Episode 26, we return to Ethan and Maya and watch one of those patterns unfold in real time. A…
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The Pattterns We Bring With Us
Why do certain moments in relationships trigger reactions that seem bigger than the moment itself? In this episode of The Harmony of We, Greg explores the…
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When Life Gets Loud
As the pace of everyday life begins to crowd out meaningful conversation, Ethan and Maya realize they've been sharing a home while slowly missing each other…
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What We Choose to Remember
When Ethan discovers a forgotten shoebox filled with memories, he and Maya spend a Saturday morning rediscovering the story of their life together. Through…
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The Gift of Being Seen
When Maya's sister, Lena, joins Ethan and Maya for Sunday dinner, an ordinary conversation becomes an invitation into something deeper. Through this unfolding…
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The Quiet Architecture of Safety
Emotional safety is the foundation upon which every healthy relationship is built. In this episode, Greg explores what creates that sense of safety between two…
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Learning to Receive Love
As Ethan and Maya continue their journey toward deeper connection, they discover that receiving love can be just as vulnerable as offering it. Through a quiet…
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The Five Turning Points of Connection
In this first Field Notes from the We episode, Greg reflects on the five relational shifts that quietly shape healthy, connected relationships: noticing…
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The Courage to Ask
After exploring the stories we create about one another, this episode turns toward a simple but transformative relational practice: curiosity. Through another…
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The Stories We Tell Ourselves
Relationships are shaped not only by what happens between us, but by the stories we create about what those moments mean. In this episode, Ethan and Maya…
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Staying When It Would Be Easier to Leave
Following their difficult conversation, Ethan and Maya find themselves in a space that many couples know well: things aren't fully resolved, but neither person…
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When the Return Doesn't Land
This episode explores the fragile space that can emerge after an attempt at repair. Through a narrative vignette with Ethan and Maya, we look at what happens…
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Why Repair Feels So Hard
Following the exploration of repair in the previous episode, this conversation turns toward what makes returning so difficult. Through reflection and lived…
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Coming Back After We Miss Each Other
This episode explores what happens after a moment of disconnection. Through a narrative vignette, we follow how two people revisit a moment that didn't quite…
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The Moment We Reach - and Miss
In this episode, we explore how connection is often shaped in small, easily overlooked moments. Through a narrative vignette, we follow a simple interaction…
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Presence: The Practice of Returning
In this episode, we explore presence as a lived, moment-to-moment experience rather than a fixed state. Introducing the idea of a "presence practice," this…
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The We: The Space That Holds Us
What if relationship isn't just about you… or the other person? What if something is happening in between? In this episode of The Harmony of We, we explore the…
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Why We Miss Each Other
Often, we don't miss each other because of conflict—but because we're in different internal states, different moments, different rhythms. This episode invites…
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The Moment the Fight Begins
Most fights don't begin with conflict — they begin with a moment that goes unseen. In this episode, we explore how relational conflict begins long before an…
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Attunement - The Lost Art
In this episode, we explore attunement — the relational experience of being felt, not just understood. Building on emotional awareness and safety, we look at…
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Safety & Vulnerability in the We
In this episode, we explore why vulnerability cannot be forced—and how relational safety creates the conditions for it to emerge naturally. When the nervous…
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Emotional Awareness - The Gateway Back
In this episode, we explore emotional awareness as the key to interrupting relational autopilot. When reactions happen faster than awareness, conversations…
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The Illusion of the Autopilot
Episode 4 — The Illusion of the Autopilot Why do the same patterns show up again and again in our relationships — even when we genuinely want things to be…
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Beyond Fixing - Toward Healing
Why do we feel such a strong impulse to fix when something feels off in our relationships? In this episode of The Harmony of We, we explore the deeper roots of…
The Harmony of WeWhat is Elationship?
In this episode, I introduce a word that may feel unfamiliar at first: Elationship. Not relationship — elationship. Over time, I began to notice that the word…
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Welcome to The Harmony of We
Episode 1 — Hello and Welcome This is not a podcast about fixing relationships. It is a space to return to presence — to the We that already exists. In this…
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Our True Selves are in there Somewhere
Greg looks at ways we can start to overcome the unconscious patterning of our insecurely attached past – allowing us to live in the present moment.
The Harmony of WeDoes your past control your present?
Greg works through how emotional transactions from our childhood can affect our relationships today.
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Attached to What
Greg continues his discussion of Attachment Systems, introducing the Avoidantly Attached/Dismissive profile. We join Sara's husband Tony in his individual…
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Attachment Systems
Mis-attunement in our relationships can be the result of all kinds of factors for one or both partners like genetics, environment, culture, and health, as well…
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Respect and Validation
Validating our partner means more than just listening to them, it means we respect who they are and what they mean to us. In this episode we meet Tony and…
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Still Fixated on the Fixer
Greg reviews how two types of cognitive bias impact our listening abilities in relationships with others and shares that being present doesn't mean literally…
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Fixated on the Fixer
Greg continues to talk about how our frame of reference when listening is through the lens of Cognitive Bias which results in our brains filtering the…
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Fixing The Fixer
Greg continues to talk about the topic of listening and how when we listen it's usually with cognitive bias or as a "Fixer." He spends a lot of time talking…
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Bridging the Gap
Greg picks up where he left off on the topic of listening and how we should listen with context, intent and awareness of our own interpretation; something he…
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Our Bias Means Intent Gets Lost in Translation
Greg and Stacy review what they discussed last week about listening for intent AND content, and they talk a bit more about the power of our two "brains;" the…
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Who's Listening?
Greg is back live from an extended break; he shares what he was doing and what he noticed while away. His biggest takeaway was our innate need for social…
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Thinking with People
Greg and Stacy start with a brief recap from the last show when a call comes in from Maureen in Everett. Maureen shares she has an adult daughter with MS who's…
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Listen Up
Greg decides to zig from his most recent line of discussion partly inspired by some new clients seeking relationship counseling. He shares that we don't just…
The Harmony of WeThe Most Vital Connection Is With Yourself
Today Greg doubled down on the importance of being connected to self in order to be better attuned with others. He and Stacy set the stage for future episodes…
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Emotional Connection Starts with Reflection
Greg responds to a follow up question to last week's episode about what emotional connection means by explaining how our past (infancy) subconsciously informs…
The Harmony of WeFixing The Fixer
Greg continues to talk about the topic of listening and how when we listen it's usually with cognitive bias or as a "Fixer." He spends a lot of time talking…
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The Need For Emotional Connection
Greg and Stacy Heller talk about The Need For Emotional Connection. Getting to the root of the matter is key to solving problems and improving lives. It helps…
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Connection is Integration, NOT Assimilation
Greg talks about missing connections during the pandemic and about how connection to self is the first step to integration with others.