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How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
Everyday life presents everyday challenges. That’s why I’m here to ask you… How Can I Help? My name is Dr. Gail Saltz, I’m a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at the New York Presbyterian Hospital, a psychoanalyst, best-selling author, and I’m here to help. Join me every Tuesday and Thursday on this podcast where we look at your most pressing questions and give helpful guidance on topics ranging from coping with anxiety and mood, relationships, to family and parenting issues, to…
Episodes
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzSex, Lies and the Pandemic [Archives]
Dr. Saltz answers more questions about listeners’ sex lives with the help of special guest Ian Kerner, psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzGetting Your Sex Life in Synch with Your Partner [Archives]
Even the closest couples can have differing ideas about sex. To answer questions on this intimate topic, Dr. Saltz welcomes guest Ian Kerner, psychotherapist…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzHow to Leave an Abusive Relationship [Archives]
No one should stay in a marriage or relationship that is physically or emotionally hurtful. Dr. Saltz tells how to recognize the hallmarks of a bad situation…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzWhen You Need to Say 'No' in a Friendship [Archives]
Friendships are important, but sometimes our friends can have too much influence on our actions. Dr. Saltz answers listener questions about friendships and…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzGood Lies, Bad Lies and Relationships [Archives]
Is there such a thing as an acceptable lie? Is it okay to lie to spare someone's feelings? And what’s the emotional cost of our lies? Dr. Saltz digs into the…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
When Medication is the Answer [Archives]
From the archives: Sometimes a needed and effective treatment for an issue like anxiety or depression is medication. Yet many of us stigmatize and avoid it…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
How to Lower Your Pandemic Anxieties [Archives]
From the archives: Today Dr. Saltz answers questions with actionable advice about managing anxiety and uncertainty during the pandemic. Learn more about your…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
How to Have the Talks That Can Save a Relationship [Archives]
From the archives: For some couples, open, honest communication is a struggle. Dr. Saltz answers listener questions about how to improve the discussions—and…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
When Relationships Break Down [Archives]
From the archives: How can you tell when a relationship is over or frankly should be over? Whether you're dealing with a romance or a friendship, it can be…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
Social Anxiety in the Time of Covid [Archives]
From the archives: The rules of social interaction have been turned upside down by Covid. Dr. Saltz answers listener questions about how to behave around…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
Navigating Family Disagreements on Vaccines [Archives]
From the archives: Dr. Saltz helps a listener manage a family relationship in the face of opposing views on getting a vaccine. Learn more about your ad…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
There's Help for Even the Most Difficult Emotional Situations [Archives]
From the archives: Managing severe mental illness in a loved one is hard. Today, Dr Saltz advises a listener on how to deal with a mother with a psychotic…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
Eating Disorders and the Pandemic [Archives]
From the archives: These stressful times are also causing more concerns about eating and body image. I answer listeners' questions, and discuss when it's…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
Pandemic Trauma and Stress Experience (PTSE): The Struggle is Real [Archive]
From the archives: You're not alone if you're feeling down or anxious, nervous or restless because of the pandemic. Taken together, these symptoms and others…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
Social Distancing and Feeling Lonely [Archives]
From the archives: Pandemic-enforced social distancing has increased feelings of loneliness. On today’s episode, I discuss how you can feel less lonely. Learn…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
Is it Sadness? Or is it Depression? [Archives]
From the archives: How to tell if you're struggling with sadness or depression—and what to do in both cases. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
How to Improve a Negative Body Image [Archives]
From the archives: Unhappy with your body? Feeling anxious and insecure? Here's how to be kinder to yourself and get a better outlook. Learn more about your ad…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
How to Make Your Friendships Better [Archives]
From the archives: For women, few things in life are more important than friends. But they can also present challenges. Psychiatrist Dr. Gail Saltz answers…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
Why We All Need Boundaries [Archives]
From the archives: Life can be a struggle if you never set boundaries for your work, in your relationships or regarding your time. I'll tell you how to be…
- How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail Saltz
How to Treat Your Sleep Problems [Archives]
From the archives: There was a name for the inability to sleep well during the pandemic. It's called "Covid-Somnia." Dr. Saltz gives great, practical advice in…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzFriends With Money: How Not to Resent Them
When a wealth gap opens between you and a friend, it's hard not to be envious or try frantically to keep up. Dr. Saltz tells how to tame those feelings, and…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzHow Can I Persuade My Daughter Not to Be a Teen-Age Bride?
A mother whose daughter wants to marry young knows that love doesn’t conquer all. Dr. Saltz tells her how to get the message across while still being…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzWhen the Pain is Real, But the Disease Isn’t
Make no mistake: hypochondriacs are definitely suffering—especially from the constant worry about the conditions they think they might have. Negative test…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzJust Because We’re Ex-Spouses, Does That Mean We Can’t Be Friends?
Co-parenting is one thing, but what are the consequences when you develop a deep friendship with your ex? Dr. Saltz helps a listener navigate this tricky and…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzThe Case for Having More Sex
Too many couples are having too little sex, says Dr. Saltz. She tells how to restart your sex life--because it’s good for your physical health, your mental…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzThe Single-Parent’s Guide to Guilt-Free Dating
Yes, it’s hard to juggle time-restricted schedules, and you may worry that you’re shortchanging your child, but you, and your kids, will benefit when you enjoy…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzSingle on Valentine’s Day? What Not to Do
Don’t believe the Valentine's hype, says Dr. Saltz. Don’t fall back into old, bad relationship habits. And do remember that love doesn’t come only in…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzA New Year’s Resolution That Will Never, Ever Work
A listener’s boyfriend wanted her to make a joint resolution with him: They would each vow to lose 10 pounds in 2024. Dr. Saltz reveals why that type of…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzDealing With Family Gaslighting Around the Holidays
When a woman suffers from a family member's regular gaslighting at the holidays Dr. Saltz advises how to halt that behavior in its tracks and get the holiday…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzWhen Friends Betray Friends
Few things are as hurtful as learning that someone you thought was your friend has betrayed your trust—whether it’s bad-mouthing you, sharing your private info…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzHow to Get Control of Your Emotions
Overwhelmed? Consumed by Negativity? Saying Hurtful Things When You Don’t Mean To? Dr. Saltz Reveals How to Stop Those Runaway Feelings and Return to Being…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzWhen All the News Seems to Be Bad News
Social media and 24/7 coverage of current world events is stressing people out—making them anxious, angry and sleepless. Dr. Saltz tells how some simple habit…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzA Holiday Guide to Mothers-In-Law
How to cope—and keep your sanity—when your spouse’s mom tries to take over Thanksgiving, Christmas or any other festivity. See omnystudio.com/listener for…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzCaregiver Burnout? Why You Must Put Yourself First
Caregiver burnout is a real thing and can result in depression as well as physical health issues. Dr. Saltz tells how to get past the guilt, resentment and…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzCrying in the Office? How to Stop It Before It Starts
Expressing emotion is not a sign of weakness, says Dr. Saltz. But if crying is hurting you professionally, there are some easy, effective techniques you can…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzHow to Love Your Body Again
Everyone has a body part they’re dissatisfied with, but worrying about thigh jiggle and tummy flab is more than just annoying—it can get in the way of a…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzPick Up Your Knitting Needles or Crochet Hooks: Crafting Is Great for Mental Health
And it’s not just the yarn arts. Science shows that crafting hobbies in general can boost mood, reduce stress, increase self-esteem, and improve motor skills…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzBanishing Back-To-School Stress
Mean girls and boys, active shooter drills, social media—the thought of these and more can create anxiety as students head back to the classroom. Dr. Saltz…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzThere Is a Cure for the Summertime Blues
For some people, the warm weather brings nervousness, jitters and a feeling of being at loose ends. Dr. Saltz tells how to cope with the anxiety that can…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzHow to Do What You Don’t Want to Do
Self-discipline is hard for some people: Meeting deadlines, doing unpleasant chores or eating heathy food is a challenge for them. Dr. Saltz tells how to “flip…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzWhen Ordinary Sounds Set You Off
For some people, the typical human sounds that other people make—eating, chewing or even breathing—can trigger extreme anger, rage and disgust. It’s an actual…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzLet’s Drop the Talk About “Boundaries” and Other Jargon
If you really want to communicate, forget “therapy speak” and avoid terms like “toxic” and “gaslighting.” Use honesty, empathy—and your own words. See…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzWhen Parents Burn Out
The stress of raising a family can lead to exhaustion, anxiety and even emotional distancing from one’s children. Dr. Saltz reveals how parents can get the joy…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzThose Obsessive Thoughts That Keep You Awake at Night
You’re lying there in the dark, trying to fall asleep. Instead, your mind is racing with woulda-coulda-shoulda thoughts you can’t let go of. Anxiety can lead…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzGetting Over Being Ghosted
Ghosting hurts. It can cause feelings of confusion, self-doubt, and a sense of worthlessness. And it can have negative consequences for the person doing the…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzHow to Handle Mean Girls and Other Bullies
Bullying can cause depression and anxiety in children—and in these days of social media everywhere, it’s harder than ever to escape. Dr. Saltz has advice for a…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzThe Nightmares That Keep You Awake at 3 A.M.
They’re frightening and disturbing—and because they disrupt your sleep, they leave you feeling tired during the day. Nightmares are common in adults, but Dr…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzHow to Battle On-The-Job Burnout
No energy at work? Feeling detached and cynical? Have you lost the sense that you’re accomplishing anything meaningful? All are classic symptoms of burnout. If…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzWhat’s Worse Than PMS? PMDD.
Most women have experienced PMS; but if you’re spending half the month feeling moody, super-irritable and bloated, you could be suffering from premenstrual…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzGun Violence, Kids and Schools
School shootings continue to make headlines—and because of that one listener is reluctant to allow her daughter to attend middle school. Is her fear rational?…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzI Married a Man Who’s Just Like My Dad, and That’s a Problem
Many of us end up with a spouse who reminds us of our mother or father. And that can be nice—until we’re catapulted back to old childhood grievances that…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzWhen Your Marriage Clock Is Ticking, Should You Settle For Someone Who’s Not Mr. Right?
A listener knows she wants to get married and have children—but she hasn’t found the right guy yet. She wonders if she should marry a man she considers to be…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzTaking the Fear Out of Flying
It’s an all-too-common phobia, but if fear of flying is keeping you from traveling by air, Dr. Saltz has easy, practical tips that can allow you to relax and…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzYou’ve Endured a Trauma. Is What You’re Feeling Now PTSD?
Shocking, scary or dangerous events can leave you on edge, depressed, sleepless and unfocused. PTSD can happen to anyone, of any age and circumstance. Dr…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzHow to Find a Therapist—One That’s Just Right for You
You could be battling anxiety or depression or psychosis, sleeplessness or overeating—no matter what the problem, there’s a therapist who can help. But who? Do…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzWhy Dry January May Be Just What You Need
If you drank more than you should have over the holidays, or if you have questions about how much you’re imbibing in general, this could be the perfect time to…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzDoes Grief Ever Go Away?
Losing a spouse or other loved one can result in a range of emotions including despair, sorrow and anger. And those feelings can last longer than you might…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzThe Cure for a Blue Christmas
This time of year can leave us particularly vulnerable to feelings of loneliness and social isolation. A listener who just broke up with her boyfriend gets…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzThe Most Wonderful Time of the Year? Not for Some People
Presents to buy. Extra meals to prepare. Out-of-town relatives to deal with. And it’s all happening when there’s less daylight and a greater chance of cold…
How Can I Help? - with Dr. Gail SaltzThe Emotional Cost of Infertility
Being unable to bring a baby into the world can lead to a wide swath of emotions—sorrow, jealousy, anger and depression among them. Dr. Saltz advises a…