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CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Whitney Goodman is a licensed marriage and family therapist and author on a mission to help adult family members have better relationships. Each week, Whitney has conversations with influential guests and real people to help listeners find new ways of looking at old family problems.Calling Home is available every Tuesday and Thursday wherever you get your podcasts.
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Episodes
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Who Gets To Spend The Holidays With You?
Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of physical and emotional abuse by a parent. This week Whitney answers three questions on spending time…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Holiday Survival Plan For Dysfunctional Families
You have about four weeks until Thanksgiving. Many people spend them dreading it and then repeat last year's holiday all over again. Whitney responds to…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Turns Out My Dad Wasn't The Bad Guy My Mom Made Him Out to Be
Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of childhood emotional neglect, verbal and physical abuse, and parental abduction. How is it that your…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Is "Concept Creep" What’s Driving Estrangement?
Whitney is fed up with how the "concept creep" of estrangement gets used to shut down conversations about real family harm. She traces the term back to…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Believing Your Child to Break the Cycle
Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of child abuse, sexual abuse of a child, infidelity, and family estrangement. A listener writes in with a…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Dealing with Your Mother’s Drama with Ashley Oerman
Journalist Ashley Oerman joins Whitney to talk about her new book, Motherf*cked: How to Stop Your Mother's Toxic Drama from Ruining Your Life, and the low…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Can Emotionally Immature Parents Change?
A listener spent years hoping her two divorced, emotionally immature parents would finally take accountability, only to watch the same excuses repeat with new…
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Why Does Every Dysfunctional Family Need A Scapegoat?
Every dysfunctional family needs somewhere to put the blame, and one person usually ends up holding it for everyone else. Whitney traces the history of the…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
When You're Forced to Fix What You Didn't Break
Whitney answers two listener questions this week: one from a woman who's been cut off by her parents because of her marriage and another from a woman who found…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Raising Conscious Sons and Daughters with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of domestic violence, violence against women, and past abuse. Whitney talks with Dr. Shefali Tsabary…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Does Estrangement End?
Whitney answers questions from listeners. The first from a woman who despite living blocks from her aging father can’t seem to connect with him. The second…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Low Effort Families with Dr. Sherrie Campbell
Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of childhood physical and emotional abuse, neglect, and the death of a parent. Psychologist Dr. Sherrie…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
When No Contact Doesn't Stop the Contact
Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of emotional abuse, ongoing harassment, and a mention of suicidal ideation. In this Q&A episode, Whitney…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Abuse and Estrangement in Christian Fundamentalism with Stephanie Warren
Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of child abuse and corporal punishment. Stephanie Warren was taught that her parents beating her was proof…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
I Asked For Space and They Sued Me
Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of child abuse and domestic violence. In this Q&A episode, answers a question from a woman whose parents…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Why Can't I Be Me When I'm With You?
People don't walk into a therapist's office and say they're having a differentiation problem. They say they feel like a different person around their family…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
My Estrangement is Giving Me Migraines and Stomachaches
In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers two questions from listening asking what their responsibility is to people who aren’t going to change. In question one: a…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
The Lindsay Clancy Trial
Content warning: This episode discusses suicide, postpartum psychosis, and the deaths of children, and includes detailed discussion of the Lindsay Clancy case…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
When a Parent Pulls Away
In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers questions about parents who pull back instead of facing accountability. In question one: a father goes silent for a year…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
What it’s Like On Both Sides of Estrangment With Kreed Revere
Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of child abuse and references to sexual abuse. Kreed, host of the Estranged Heart Podcast, shares her…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
My Parents Welcomed Their Estrangment
Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of domestic violence, child abuse, and suicidal ideation. In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers questions…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Are We in an Estrangement Epidemic?
Rin Reczek spent two decades studying families before she turned her research toward estrangement. What she found in the data took her by complete surprise. In…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
What to Do if You Inherit an Estrangement
Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of self-harm, physical and emotional abuse, and a parent expressing suicidal ideation. We spend a lot of…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
"Your Parents Were Children Too" Has Been Weaponized
We have the cure for estrangement: just see your parents as children too. Easy. Case closed. [Read: sarcasm] In this episode, Whitney traces where this…
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The Court Gave My Estranged Mother-in-Law Access to My Kids
Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of suicidal ideation, child abuse and neglect, childhood sexual abuse, and abortion. Whitney answers two…
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We Tried to Set One Boundary and Lost 40 Family Members with Jon and Ashley Lefrandt
If you've spent time in the estrangement conversation online, you've noticed how fast it flattens into two camps: the people who cut off and the people who got…
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Why I'm Stepping Back From Instagram
Content warning: This episode contains a description of a traumatic birth, postpartum complications, and abuse. Before the Q&A, Whitney opens with an…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Myth of the Bad Seed: The Dangerous Belief That Some Children Are Just Broken
“He's been hard since the day he was born.” “Something in her is just off, and always has been.” “Is there something broken with my child?” Whitney traces…
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Radical Acceptance in Families That Won't Meet You Halfway
How do you keep giving to a relationship that isn't giving much back? How do you know when you've finally done enough? In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers two…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
When Your Family Runs On Blame
Something goes wrong at home. A glass tips over. Someone forgot to change the laundry, unload the dishwasher. The dog escapes. Within seconds there's a full…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
My Sister Didn't Survive Our Family
Content warning: This episode discusses childhood abuse, domestic violence, racial slurs, and the death of a sibling. In this Q&A episode, Whitney reads a…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
How to Raise An Emotionally Mature Child with Dr. Lindsay Gibson
Dr. Lindsay Gibson's first book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, gave millions of people language for what happened to them growing up. Her new…
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My Mom Chose Her Marriage with My Cheating Dad Over Me
In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers two questions from people trying to figure out where acceptance ends and cutting off begins. First, a woman who thought…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Can You Be Brainwashed Into Estrangement?
Estranged parents often say: “We had a perfect relationship, and then something to them. Social media. A therapist. A partner. Their other parents. They were…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
When is it Time to Accept That Your Parents Were Not Who You Needed Them to Be?
One of the harder truths of estrangement is coming to terms with the fact that your parent was not who you needed them to be and in many cases is not going to…
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When Your Family Doesn’t Know How to Listen (And Maybe You Don’t Either)
Did you ever feel like you’re in a conversation where the other person is just waiting for you to stop talking while they load up something to say? You can…
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The Parent Who Never Changes and the Parent Who Just Might
In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers two follow-up questions from her viral episode on parental curiosity. First, from a listener who wants to stay connected…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Is Estrangement a Luxury for People with Money?
Is estrangement a privilege for the middle class and the rich? Whitney pushes back on the argument that cutting off family is something only wealthy people do…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
When You Love Your Family But Can't Keep Doing This
In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers two questions from people who love their families but are struggling with dynamics that aren't working. First, someone who…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
I Said I Was Sorry. What More Do You Want From Me?
You’ve heard that line before. And it didn’t make things better, did it? Many apologies are not good, and often they make things worse. Whitney breaks down why…
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Should I Explain Myself to Family I Cut Off?
Whitney answers two questions from people who have stepped back from a harmful family relationship, but are stuck in what comes next. First, a wife whose…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Are Adult Children Really Cutting Off Parents for Normal Mistakes?
When therapists say adult children are cutting off their parents for “normal parenting mistakes,” they're almost never specific about what that means. Whitney…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Q&A: Why Your Boundaries Keep Getting Ignored
Q&A episodes are back after Whitney’s maternity leave. In the first question, a woman gets into an argument with her mom and sister the day before her…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
He Was There But He Wasn't: The Emotionally Absent Father
Describe your dad in three words. For a lot of adults, the father wound isn't about a dad who left it's about one who was physically present but emotionally…
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Estrangement vs. Distance | Why You're Pulling Away From Someone You Love
Not all distance in a family relationship is estrangement. Not everyone pulling away is escaping an abusive situation. In this episode, Whitney explores the…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
When Parents Don't Show Curiosity About Your Life
Do your parents express curiosity about your life? This was the subject of one of Whitney’s most viral TikTok videos. 2,000 comments later, it’s clear how…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Neglectful, Rejecting, and Cruel Mothers
Whitney breaks down one of the most requested topics from her audience: the neglecting, rejecting and cruel mothers. She defines the different types, walks…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Are Therapist Influencers Doing More Harm Than Good?
It’s time for an honest look at therapists on the internet. Whitney answers the question of whether or not therapists as influencers and content creators are a…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
The Distant Parent
Some of the hardest parent relationships to name are the ones that look fine from the outside. Whitney breaks down the distant parent-child relationship - what…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
The Perpetually Estranged Parent
In this episode, Whitney draws together hundreds of emails, letters, and social media interactions to create a profile of a specific type of parent she calls…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Life After Estrangement: Grief, Doubt, and Building What's Next
So you made the decision to leave a harmful family relationship. And you're wondering why it still feels so complicated. In this episode, Whitney walks through…
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Therapists React to Shameless and What the Show Gets Right About Parentification
Whitney is joined by therapist Emma Mahony to break down one of the most unflinching portrayals of a parentified child on television: Fiona Gallagher from…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Choosing Not to Reconcile with a Family Member
Not every relationship can be repaired, and not every relationship should be. In this episode, Whitney validates the decision to walk away from a family…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Therapists React to Succession and What the Show Gets Right About Narcissistic Parents
Whitney is joined by therapist Stephanie Lindeman to break down the Roy family from the HBO Max show Succession. Succession is one of the most psychologically…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
When Your Parent Denies Your Memories
When you bring up a painful memory and your parents say it never happened, it can feel like you're losing your mind. Whitney explains the science behind why…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
"I'm Glad My Mom Died" By Jeanette McCurdy, Emotionally Immature Moms, Boundary-Ignoring Gifts
Whitney breaks down Jeanette McCurdy's interview on Alex Cooper’s Call Her Daddy. She discusses enmeshment, parentification and the painful process of…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Toxic Mothers with Patrick Teahan | Therapists React to Animal Kingdom
Whitney is joined by therapist Patrick Teahan to break down one of the most diabolically toxic mother figures on television: Smurf from Animal Kingdom. Follow…
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Are Therapists Biased Against Estranged Parents?
Why aren’t therapists centering estranged parents at least as equally as their children? Whitney breaks down what bias actually means in a clinical context…
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How Not to Apologize
Most apologies aren’t great and sometimes even make things worse. If you've ever given or received an "I'm sorry" that left you feeling dissatisfied, Whitney…
- CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Estranged Parents Keep Threatening to Report Me
Whitney addresses something that's been getting to her: the constant threats from estranged parents that they're reporting her to the licensing board. Then she…