Why Can't I Be Me When I'm With You?

CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT · Sep 8, 2026 · 41m

People don't walk into a therapist's office and say they're having a differentiation problem. They say they feel like a different person around their family, or that they have a whole life their parents know nothing about. Whitney walks through what differentiation actually is, and the four very different situations people are in when they can't be themselves around family.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- What differentiation means in Bowen family systems, and the three ways it commonly goes wrong

- The difference between a family that disagrees with you and one that targets who you are

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