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Listen, Learn & Love Hosted by Richard Ostler
Welcome to our podcast! My name is Richard H. Ostler and I am a native of Salt Lake City, small business owner, married father of six with several grandchildren. I believe in and am deeply committed to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and want it to work for a wider group. I am the author of three books: “Listen Learn and Love: Embracing LGBTQ Latter-day Saints” published in 2020 available at Amazon (amazon.com/dp/1462135773) “Listen Learn and Love: Improving Latter-day Saint…
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- Listen, Learn & Love Hosted by Richard Ostler
Episode 746: Cameron Staley, Ph.D. – New Book “Confessions of an LDS Sex Researcher.”
This episode is guest-hosted by my friend, Tonya Miller. Tonya was on episode 501 and wrote the third chapter in my most recent book, called “Ministering To…
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Episode 745: Jacob Guy, Gay Latter-day Saint, New Book: “The Scorpion Unit”
**Warning: This podcast talks about suicide. If you are suicidal, please call/text/chat 988** My friend Jacob Guy (RM, age 23, Senior at Weber State, shared…
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Episode 744: Stacie Proctor, Survivor of Mental Health-Related Trauma.
This episode is guest-hosted by my friend, Tonya Miller. Tonya was on episode 501 and wrote the third chapter in my most recent book, called “Ministering To…
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Episode 743: Dale Schafer, Convert, RM, Same-Sex Marriage, Deep Testimony of the Church/God
My friend Dale Schafer (California Convert, Adelaide Australia ’79-81 RM, Twice Excommunicated, Lives with his husband in Hudson Valley, NY) joins us to share…
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Episode 742: Scott Grover, Gay British Latter-day Saint, Left Church for 18 Years, Returned
My friend Scott Gover (late 40’s, lives north of London, left church in his 20’s, returned 18 years later, active for last 11 years) joins us to share his…
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Episode 741: John Gustav-Wrathall, Same-Sex Marriage, Believes In and Attends Church
This episode is guest-hosted by my friend Steven Kapp Perry from the “In Good Faith” podcast. He interviews John Gustav-Wrathall (a dear friend and mentor) who…
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Episode 740: Jacob Troxel, Recently Retuned Gay Missionary
My friend Jacob Troxel (who recorded this podcast three weeks after his successful mission in Canada Edmonton) joins us to bravely share his experiences as a…
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Episode 739: Lindsey Sais, Same-Sex Marriage, Believe in Savior/Church, Overcoming Addition
My friend Lindsey Sais joins us to share her powerful story. Lindsey (early 40s, married for 5 years to her wife Connie, lives in Raleigh NC) joins us to…
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Episode 738: Josh and Jen Rollins, LDS Parents of 3 LGBTQ children
My friends Josh and Jen Rollins (married for 26 years, parents of 5, live in Riverton Utah, active LDS) share their story of their middle child Aiden coming…
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Episode 737: Lily Prisbrey, Powerful Missionary Homecoming Talk
My friend Lily Prisbrey—who recently returned from both a proselyting mission (Philippines) and a service mission (Utah). She joins us to give her farewell…
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Episode 736: Zak Hazlett, The Outdoor Therapist
My friend Zak Hazlett (Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from BYU) joins us from his home in Moab, Utah to talk about his life mission to bring…
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Episode 735: Ben Schilaty
Our friend Ben Schilaty (who recently turned 40 and is co-host with Charlie Bird on the Questions from the Closet podcast) joins us to talk about his decision…
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Episode 734: Sam & Jen Norton, London FSY Directors, New Book “Come as You Are,"
My British friends Sam and Jen Norton (married parents of four, living near London England) join us to talk about their work to help younger Latter-day Saints…
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Episode 733: Kurt Francom, New Book “Is God Disappointed In Me?”
My friend Kurt Francom (founder and executive director of Leading Saints) joins us to talk about his new book called “Is God Disappointed In Me? Removing Shame…
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Episode 732: Camille McConnell, Son Died in a Choking Accident, New Book to Bring Hope
My friend Camille McConnell (married LDS mother of 5 who was on episode 292) joins us to talk about her new book called “Let the Angels Carry You: Coping &…
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Episode 731: Richard Ostler Solo, Allegory of the Olive Tree, Personal Update, 2024 Podcast Focus
*** Trigger Warning: This episode talks about suicide. If you are suicidal, please call/text/chat *988 *** In this solo episode, I talk about the focus of the…
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Episode 730: Jana Spangler, Stages of Faith
My friend Jana Spangler (Certified Integral Profession Coach at Symmetry Solutions, alumnus of The Living School, Latter-day Saint) joins us to talk about…
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Episode 729: Adam, Conversion/Electroshock Therapy Survivor, Same-Sex Marriage, Active Non-member
**Trigger Warning: This episode talks about electroshock therapy and suicide. If you are suicidal, please call/text/chat 988** My friend Adam joins us to share…
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Episode 728: Ben and Rebecca Lesue, Parents of a Queer Child, Faith Journey to Stay in the Church
My friend Ben and Rebecca Lesue (parents of nine, recently moved from SW Missouri to Monument Valley Utah, non-binary/queer child) join us to share their…
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Episode 727: Clare Dalton, Curriculum Curator for Gatherings
My friend Clare Dalton (who shared her story as a gay Latter-day Saint on episode 583) joins us to announce the exciting news of a companion curriculum from…
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Episode 726: Liz and Ryan Giles, Two Gay Women, Same-Sex Marriage, Attending Church
My friends Liz Giles (from Yakima Washington, RM, BYU Grad) and Ryan Giles (from South Jordan Utah, RM, BYU Grad) join us to share their story. Liz and Ryan…
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Episode 725: Andrew Davis, SSA Latter-day Saint, Host of Podcast “Sons of God”
My friend Andrew Davis (age 31, self-employed, active LDS, same-sex attraction, podcast host) joins us to bravely share his story. Andrew (who is a son of my…
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Episode 724: Jessy Markowitz, LDS Convert, Sexual Assault Survivor, Finding Healing
** Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses suicide. If you are suicidal, please call/text/chat 988 ** My brave friend Jessy Markowitz joins us from Las Vegas…
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Episode 723: Dallin Patton, Gay Latter-Day Saint, Mid-20s, Utah State University
My friend Dallin Patton (from Tucson, Kansas Wichita Mission RM, Senior in Social Work at Utah State University) joins us to bravely share his story. Dallin…
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Episode 722: Margaret Olsen Hemming & Fatimah Salleh: Book of Mormon for the Least of These, Vol. 3
My friends Margaret Olsen Hemming and Rev. Dr. Fatimah Salleh (who was on Episode 710) join us to talk about their latest (and final) volume of “The Book of…
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Episode 721: Sofia Jones, Convert, Lesbian, Asexual
My friend Sofia Jones (from Bakersfield California, joined Church in March 2021, mid-20s) join us to share her story. Sofia (who grew up Christian) talks about…
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Episode 720: Dr. Heidi Hastings, Understanding and Navigating Betrayal Trauma
My friend Dr. Heidi Hastings joins us to talk about her research around betrayal trauma for women in marriages (largely around a husband’s pornography use) She…
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Episode 719: Meagan Skidmore, Parent of Trans Child, Life Transitions Coach
My friend Meagan Skidmore (lives in Texas, LDS parent of a transgender son, life coach, podcaster) joins us to talk about her 4+ year journey of parenting a…
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Episode 718: Katherine and Jeff Wise, LDS Parents of a Gay Son, Founders of The Hearth
My friends Katherine and Jeff Wise (parents of six sons and one daughter, living in the Bay Area ) invite us into the sacred space of their tender story of…
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Episode 717: Sean Stansberry, Convert, Age 21, SSA, Preparing for Mission
My friend Sean Stansberry (living in New Bern, North Carolina; college student, joined the Church in April 2021) joins us to share his story. Sean starts with…
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Episode 716: Seth Larson, Age 25, Gay Latter-day Saint
My friend Seth Larson (BYU grad, Bolivia RM, active Latter-day Saint) joins us to bravely share his story. Seth talks about trying to date women in hopes of…
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Episode 715: Meka Reed, Black LDS Convert, Suicide Survivor, New Book
My friend Meka Reed (baptized with her husband in October 2020, Lives in Ohio) joins us to talk about her conversation story and her new book called “My Dot…
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Episode 714: Drew Young, LDS Author “Wonderful Counselor”
My friend Drew Young (married father of two, author, certified life coach) joins us to talk about his powerful new book called “Wonderful Counselor: A God Who…
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Episode 713: Kevin Ahlstrom, Two Gay Brothers, Ally
My friend Kevin Ahlstrom (married father, mid-30’s, active LDS, attorney living in Southern California) joins us to talk about his journey to understand and…
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Episode 712: Marcus Bowers, Single Latter-day Saint, mid 40s, Bishopric Member
My friend Marcus Bowers (BYU grad, two master’s degrees, never married/straight, early release missionary, once suicidal, Iraq veteran) joins us to bravely…
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Episode 711: Madison Frederick, New Book
My friend Madison Frederick (in her early 70s) joins us to talk about her new and important book about narcissism. Madison talks about her story to identity…
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Episode 710: Rev. Dr. Fatimah Salleh
My friend Rev. Dr. Fatimah Salleh (PhD in Mass Communication, Master’s degree in Public Communication, Master of Divinity from Duke, Married Mother of Four…
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Episode 709: Jacob Yates, Gay Latter-day Saint
My friend Jake Yates joins us to bravely share his story. Jake (mid 30’s, RM, father of two, recently divorced, in same-sex relationship, respectful of and…
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Episode 708: Brooke Booth, Mixed-Faith Marriages, Life Coach
My friend Brooke Booth (no longer participating LDS, husband is active LDS, married mother of four, RM, BYU Grad, Lawyer) joins us to talk about her work to…
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Episode 707: Tami Carson and Marshall Shearer, Utah Foster Care
My friends Tami Carson (married mother of 7, active LDS, employee at Utah Foster Care) and Marshall Shearer (married transgender man, foster parent, adopted 5…
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Episode 706: Jaci Wightman, New Book “Ignited”
My friend Jaci Wightman (married mother of 7, LDS author, faith-based wellness coach) joins us to talk about her new book called “Ignited”. The book is a call…
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Episode 705: Tyler Schwab, President and Founder Libertas International
** Trigger Warning: This episode talks about the realities of sex trafficking ** My friend Tyler Schwab (early 30’s, Wyoming Native, RM from Dominican…
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Episode 704: Mason Jones, Limerence
My friend Mason Jones (Age 19, Preparing for an LDS Mission) joins us to share his journey with Limerence—a mental health issue. Mason describes his own…
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Episode 703: David, Gay Latter-day Saint, Solving Porn, Sexual Assault Survivor, Once Suicidal
My friend David (not his real name) joins us to share his story. David starts with section 1 of his story (age 7-17) realizing he was gay at age 7 and (after…
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Episode 702: Dr. Debra Theobald McClendon, New Comprehensive Book on Scrupulosity
My friend, Dr. Debra Theobald McClendon, joins us to talk about her new book: “Freedom from Scrupulosity: Reclaiming Your Religious Experience from Anxiety and…
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Episode 701: Aubrey and Tim Chaves, Restore: A Faith Matters Gathering, Oct 12-14, 2023.
My friends Aubrey and Tim Chaves (Executive Board Members, Faith Matters) join us to talk about Restore—a two-day gathering from that brings together the best…
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Episode 700: Christina Judd, Latter-day Saint Author
My friend Christina Judd (married mother of three, active LDS) joins us to talk about her new book “All We Can Do: A Fresh View of God, Ourselves, and the…
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Episode 699: Kristine Coons (transgender) and her wife Laura (cisgender), Active LDS
My friends Dr. Kristine Coons (Internal Medicine Physician, RM) and her wife Laura (mother of four, BYU grad) join us from Hawaii where they are celebrating…
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Episode 698: Jessi Duncan, Black Latter-day Saint, Leaning into Discomfort to Create Zion
My friend Jessi Duncan (married mother of four, wife of Bradon Duncan Episode 687, lives in Arkansas, court appointed advocate for foster children, RM) joins…
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Episode 697: Tyler Shaw, Age 34, Single Latter-Day Saint
My dear friend (and former YSA) Tyler Shaw (RM, active Latter-day Saint, works for the Church) joins us to share his unexpected life reality of being single…
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Episode 696: Chris Rich, Active LDS, Find Peace and Hope After Family Left the Church
My friend Chris Rich (married mother of three, husband and all three children stepped away from the Church, grew up in SLC, lives in Western Massachusetts…
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Episode 695: Matt and Heather Robertson, Navigating Marriage Through Changes in Faith
My dear friends Matt and Heather Robertson (married 30 years, three children) join us to share their story of family unity, love, and respect for all family…
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Episode 694: Richard Ostler New Book: “Listen, Learn and Love: Building the Good Ship Zion”
This episode is the launch of my new book called “Listen, Learn and Love: Building the Good Ship Zion”. The “Good Ship Zion” represents The Church of Jesus…
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Episode 693: Adam Maughan, Gay, Age 31, PhD Student
My friend Adam Maughan (from Avon Utah, Indy RM, not active in the Church, conversion therapy survivor) joins us to bravely share his story. Adam starts with…
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Episode 692: Brian Pedersen, Gay Former Latter-day Saint, Atheist Turned Christian
My friend Brian Pedersen (age 34, University of Utah English Graduate, Lives in Utah) shares his unique journey. Brian starts with growing up in Sandy, Utah…
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Episode 691: Zach Tucker, Gay Latter-day Saint, Dear Family Friend
Our family friend Zach Tucker (age 26, Russia RM, University of Utah Finance Grad, Current MBA Student at University of Minnesota) joins us to share his story…
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Episode 689: Christi Davis, LDS Author, Mixed-Faith Families
My friend Christi Davis (married mother of seven, certified life coach, author, podcaster, lives in Gilbert Arizona) join us to talk about her new book called…
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Episode 688: Dan Neumann, Gay, in a Mixed-Orientation Marriage, Father of 2 Beautiful Girls
My friend Dan Neumann (Pediatrician, age 36, married father of 2, RM, lives in Roy Utah, no longer active in the church) joins us to share his powerful story…
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Episode 687: Braden Duncan, Gay Latter-day Saint
My friend Braden Duncan (married father of 4, Active LDS, Therapist, Lives in Arkansas, age 40) joins us the share his remarkable story. Braden talks about…
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Episode 686: Richard Ostler Advice for LGBTQ Allies
In this episode, I do a solo podcast for Latter-day Saints who want to better support LGBTQ Latter-day Saints in their area of influence. Links: Stockton…