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Listen, Learn & Love Hosted by Richard Ostler
Welcome to our podcast! My name is Richard H. Ostler and I am a native of Salt Lake City, small business owner, married father of six with several grandchildren. I believe in and am deeply committed to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and want it to work for a wider group. I am the author of three books: “Listen Learn and Love: Embracing LGBTQ Latter-day Saints” published in 2020 available at Amazon (amazon.com/dp/1462135773) “Listen Learn and Love: Improving Latter-day Saint…
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Episode 869: Gracee Purcell, Lesbian Latter-day Saint, Recent BYU Grad,
My friend Gracee Purcell (BYU Psychology Grad, President of RaYnbow Collective, Activist, Engaged to be Married) joins us to share her story at BYU: Why she…
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Episode 868: Bruce Butcher, Lost Son Taylor to Suicide, God’s Love/Hope For All of Us
** This episode talks about suicide. If you are suicidal, please call/text chat 988 ** My friend Bruce Butcher (late 50s, married father of three, active LDS)…
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Episode 867: Heather Sorensen, Grief of Losing Her Daughter Hannah at Age 15, New Book
My friend Heather Sorensen (married mother of 4; grandmother of 14, early morning seminary teacher), joins us to share her story of losing her daughter Hannah…
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Episode 866: Dr. Mark White, Being an Ally, Book: Indigo’s Baptism
My friend Mark White (professor, LMFT, aspiring ally, mid-60s, active LDS) joins us to talk about his new children’s book—which is focused on an 8-year-old’s…
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Episode 865: Eliza Riggs, RM, Bi-Sexual Latter-day Saint, Non-Traumatic Queer Faith, Powerful Story
My friend Eliza Riggs (age 22, RM/Orem Utah, UVU Student) joins us to share her story including: Great Parents, Queer Friendly Home Came out first to her…
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Episode 864: Richard Ostler Episode on Tate Arnold’s Over___Soul Show
I was invited to be on my friend Tate Arnold’s show (Over___Soul) to share my story. I’ve posted that show as Episode 864 on our platform so you could listen…
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Episode 863: David Archuleta, New Book: Devout
In one of our most important episodes, David joins us to talk about his new book “Devout—Losing My Faith to Find Myself”. In this episode, David talks about…
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Episode 862: Tate Arnold, Mission to Help Others, Powerful New Podcast Called "Over___Soul"
My friend Tate Arnold (married father of two, active LDS) joins us to share the following: * Difficult chapters including his father-in-law Paul dying by…
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Episode 861: BYU Club To Help Solve Porn Use
Club Officers (Douglas Williams, Madi Davis, Bohin Tenney and Brandon Pattillo) from a club at BYU (called The Un-Alone Club) join us to talk about their…
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Episode 860: Pastor Jamie White, Rape Survivor, Became Pregnant and Kept Her Child
My friend Rev. Jamie White (Pastor at First Presbyterian Church of Salt Lake City, theological/pastoral education from Vanguard University and Princeton…
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Episode 859: Dr. Ben Bailey, Psychologist and student of Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
My friend Dr. Ben Bailey (PhD from BYU in Psychology currently working at UVU as a Mental Health Therapist) joins us to talk about things close to his heart…
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Episode 857: Rhonda Monson and Her Gay Son Dakota Moses
My friends Rhonda Monson (married mother of three, recently returned senior missionary, LGBTQIA ally, therapist, life coach, and retreat facilitator) and…
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Episode 856: Gordon Laws, Friend to Martin Family Who Lost Their Transgender Son Levi to Suicide
** This podcast talks about suicide. If you are suicidal, please call/text/chat 988 ** My friend Gordon Laws joins us to talk about supporting Dave and Kimi…
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Episode 855: Stephanie Roach, Parenting Special Needs Children
My friend Stephanie Roach—who is married mother of two special needs children age 24 (daughter) and age 22 (son)—joins us to share how we can better support…
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Episode 854: Alex Cutini, CEO of Encircle, Powerful Story
My friend Alex Cutini joins us to share his story: Alex Cutini grew up Catholic in Brazil, sensing early on that he was different from the other boys. At 18…
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Episode 853: Amy Watkins Jensen, “Women on the Stand”
My friend Amy Watkins Jensen (teacher, writer, active LDS, founder of “Women on the Stand”) join us to share her story including: * Growing up Mormon in…
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Episode 852: Andy Newman—Episode Two—Mixed Faith Marriages
*Note: This episode is about my goal to reduce the tension between those who stay in the Church and those who leave** My friend Andy Newman (married father of…
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Episode 851: Rebecca Mullen: Life Coach, LGBTQ Ally, Author, Podcaster
My friend Rebecca Mullen (lives in Colorado, master certified life coach) joins us to talk about her work of healing including: * Becoming an LGBTQ ally in her…
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Episode 850: Katie Searle: Powerful Story of Navigating Loss, Grief, and the Courage to Rebuild
My friend Katie Searle (certified mediator, philanthropic consultant, grant writer, and mother) joins us to share her story, including: * Being raised in two…
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Episode 849: Isaac Durfey: Black/Gay Latter-day Saint, Updated Story
My friend Isaac Durfey (who was on episode 833) joins us to update listeners on his journey including: * Parent leaving on a mission * What happened to help…
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Episode 848: Russ Hinckley, New Book: “Beyond Belief”
My friend Russ Hinckely (mid 60s, married father of three, lives in Arizona, career in business) joins us to talk about his new book “Beyond Belief”. Russ’s…
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Episode 847: Dr. Chad Ford, New Book: “Seventy Times Seven: Jesus’s Path to Conflict Transformation”
My friend Dr. Chad Ford (Associate Professor of Religious Studies at Utah State University, prior director of McKay Center at BYU-Hawaii, expert of conflict…
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Episode 846: Andy Newman—Episode One
*Note: This episode is about my goal to reduce the tension between those who stay in the Church and those who leave** My friend Andy Newman (married father of…
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Episode 845: Suzanne Greco, Sex Abuse Survivor, on Her Powerful New Book “The Stone Sphere”
My friend Suzie Greco—a survivor of child sex abuse and domestic abuse, a Latter-day Saint, a Harvard Divinity School graduate (Master's in Theology), a…
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Episode 844: Autumn McAlpin and Vienna Boyes, Powerful New Documentary: “Sanctuary”
My friend Autumn McAlpin (co-director and mother of two queer sons) and Vienna Boyes (co-director, mid 20s, queer) join us to share their stories and also…
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Episode 843: Bryson Lind, Gay Latter-Day Saint, Therapist Perspective to Finding Healing and Hope
My friend Bryson Lind (active gay Latter-day Saint, mid 30’s) joins us to discuss his new therapy practice in Utah (Aletheia Counseling) and important topics…
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Episode 842: Rob Metcalf: New Album “The Road Trip”
My friend Rob Metalf (married father of two, age 33) joins us to share his journey with his mental health (OCD/anxiety) and his physical health (Ankylosing…
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Episode 841: Richard Ostler: YSA Ward Talk
Talk given in our YSA Ward on the character of our Heavenly Parents and Jesus—and how that brings us peace, healing, and hope. Focused on seven concepts: 1)…
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Episode 840: Aaron and Julie Bujnowski: New Book “Navigating to Jesus: A Journey of Faith”
My friends Aaron and Julie Bujnowski (married parents of two; living North of Dallas, Texas, active Latter-day Saints) join us to talk about their new book…
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Episode 839: Jessica Frew, Podcaster, Author, New Book “Shove Your Shoulds”
My friend Jessica Frew (life coach, former husband is gay and still “part of the family”, married mother of three) joins us to share her story of her husband…
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Episode 837: Darren Parry, New Book, “Tending the Sacred: How Indigenous Wisdom will Save the World”
My friend Darren Parry (Shoshone Leader, Adjust Professor at Utah State and University of Utah, Author) joins us to talk about his new book called “Tending the…
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Episode 836: McArthur Krishna and Anne Pimentel, New Book, “Changemakers: Women Who Bolding Built Zion”
My friends McArthur Krishna and Anne Pimentel (authors, BYU grads, advocates for those on the margins) join us to talk about their important new book (at…
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Episode 835: Shirley Washenko and Sage Williams, New Book: “Healing after Sexual Abuse”
My friends Shirley Washenko (sexual abuse survivor/advocate) and Sage Williams (MSc, RN, long-time advocate) joins us to talk about their new, groundbreaking…
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Episode 834: Ashli Carnicelli, Trina Caudle, McArthur Krishna: New Book about Heavenly Mother
My friends Ashli Carnicelli, Trina Caudle, and McArthur Krishna join us to talk about their new book “Mother in Heaven: A Gospel Topics Essay Study Guide.” The…
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Episode 833: Isaac Durfey, Black/Gay Latter-day Saint, Super Brave
*** This episode talks about suicide. If you are suicidal, please call/text/chat *988 *** My friend Isaac Durfey (lives in Utah County, Age 34, Adopted, Active…
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Episode 832: Lilly MacKenzie, Transgender BYU Student
My friend Lilly MacKenzie (who was on Episode 765) joins us to update listeners on her journey—including her spiritual journey (which includes more about her…
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Episode 831: Aiden Kelly (Transgender Man) and Annalee Kelly (His Supportive LDS Mother)
My friend Aiden Kelly (he/him, trans man, age 23, future in theatre) and my friend Annalee Kelly (married mother of 4, RM, active LDS, from Idaho Falls) join…
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Episode 830: Nikki Andreasky, Non-Binary/Trans Latter-day Saint, Super Brave
My friend Nikki Andreasky (BYU-I grad, lives in AZ, they/them) joins us to share their story including: * Long-term gender dysphoria/chest dysphoria—and…
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Episode 829: Jenn Curtis, New North Star President, Powerful Story
*** This episode talks about suicide. If you are suicidal, please call/text/chat *988 *** My friend Jenn Curtis (late 40s, lives in California, experiences…
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Episode 828: Sharlee Mullins Glenn, New Book “Brighter and Brighter Until the Perfect Day”
My friend Sharlee Mullins Glenn (noted author, former adjunct faculty at BYU, committed Latter-day Saint, married mother of 5, founder and former Executive…
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Episode 827: Sara Sumsion, Painful Church Experiences, Why She Stays, Mother’s Day Lesson Insights
My friend Sara Sumsion (RM, Age 30, YSA ward leader, getting a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy) joins us to share her unique story. Sara starts…
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Episode 826: Susan Hinckley and Cynthia Winward, New Book: “At Last She Said It”
My dear friends, Susan Hinckley and Cynthia Winward, (co-founders of the “At Last She Said It Project” which includes their groundbreaking podcast—with over…
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Episode 825: Elder Jax Smith, Current Missionary, Gay Latter-day Saint
My friend Elder Jax Smith (multi-racial, from Highland Utah, Age 25) joins us to bravely share his story: Middle school: “My personal hell” Coming out to older…
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Episode 824: Leon Crandell, Married Father of 8, Gay Latter-day Saint
My friend Leon Crandell (lives in Snowflake AZ, cosmetologist, Brazil RM) joins us to bravely share his story: Survivor of sexual abuse Turning to substance…
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Episode 823: Darice Auston, LDS Mother of a Trans Child, Gather Conference June 2025
My friend Darice (married mother of four including a transgender daughter, Gather Conference Director) joins us to share her story including: 1) Proximity to…
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Episode 822: Helen Anderson, Mother of Trans Daughter, New Variety Show on May 10th
My friend Helen Anderson (Lives in Utah County, BYU Grad, Mother of 4, LGBTQ Ally) joins us to share her story: · Exposure to gay people in the 70’s and…
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Episode 821: Lucas Batista, Gay Latter-day Saint, International BYU Student
*** This episode talks about suicide. If you are suicidal, please call/text/chat *988 *** My friend Lucas Batista (grew up in Brazil, lived in Spain, RM/Chile)…
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Episode 820: Lyric Kinard, Creating LGBTQ Support Groups, Allyship, Gather Southeast
My friend Lyric Kinard (lives in Raleigh, married mother of 5 including queer kids, active Latter-day Saint) joins us to share her story around creating…
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Episode 819: McKay Mayes, Gay Latter-day Saint, Giving Hope to Others
My friend McKay Mayes (from Wyoming, London South RM, Age 29, Lives/Works in Utah County) joins us to share his story including: Always believing/hoping he…
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Episode 818: Barbara Higinbotham, LDS Mother of Three LGBTQ Children
My friend Barbara Higinbotham (married mother of 5 living children including a non-binary child, transgender daughter, and gay son; early 60s; recently…
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Episode 817: Cort Watson, Gay BYU-I Student, Focus on Christ/Temple/Being Authentic
My friend my friend Cort Watson (construction management major/BYI-Idaho, from Tremonton, Arcadia CA RM, former FSY counselor) joins us to bravely share his…
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Episode 816: Eric Hales, LCSW, Therapist for Queer Folks
My friend Eric Hales (a highly recommended therapist, gay, mid-30s, former Latter-day Saint, licensed in Utah, Idaho, Nevada, and Virginia) joins us to talk…
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Episode 815: Kelsey Wells, Mid-20’s, Child of God, Gay Latter-day Saint
My friend Kelsey Wells (RM, from Idaho, lives in Utah County, former EFY counselor and seminary teacher, active in her ward) joins us to bravely share her…
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Episode 814: Marley Orton, LDS Mother of Non-Binary Child
My friend Marley Orton (married mother of three, mid-50s, Utah County, real estate broker/hair stylist, RM) joins us to share her story of love and acceptance…
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Episode 812: Matt Higinbotham, Gay Latter-Day Saint, RM, Personal Revelation, Acceptance
My friend Matt Higinbotham (RM from Tempe Arizona, returned Feb 2024, from Utah County, BYU student) joins us to share his story as a gay Latter-day Saint…
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Episode 813: Trevor Schoeny, Gay Latter-day Saint, Recent RM, Must Listen
My friend Trevor Schoeny (RM from Lubbock Texas, returned Dec 2024, from Virgina/DC, BYU student, Age 23) joins us to share his story as a gay Latter-day…
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Episode 811: Jake and Joe Sharp, Lost Brother Sam to Suicide, Solving Porn Use, Remove Shame
*** This episode talks about suicide. If you are suicidal, please call/text/chat *988 *** My friends Jake and Joe Sharp (identical twins, age 24, from Mesa…
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Episode 810: Dr Matthew Harris, New Book Called “Second-Class Saints”
My friend Dr. Matthew L Harris (Historian, Colorado State University) joins us to talk about his powerful new book called “Second-Class Saints: Black Mormons…
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Episode 809: Richard Hanks, New Book About His Father Elder Marion D. Hanks
My friend Richard Hanks (mid 60s, retired business executive, active Latter-day Saint/former Mission President) joins us to talk about his biography of his…
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Episode 808: Hailey Kynaston, Age 22, BYU-I, RM, SSA, Disciple of Christ
My friend Hailey Kynaston (Anaheim California RM, BYU-I marriage and family studies major, grew up in Davis County) bravely joins us to share her story. Hailey…