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The Covert Narcissism Podcast
Covert narcissistic abuse crushes one’s soul. This podcast is devoted to understanding covert narcissistic abuse, its effect on the victims, and how to heal.
Episodes
The Covert Narcissism Podcast4 Boundaries for YOU When you are with a Covert Narcissist
How in the world do we set boundaries with a covert narcissist? How do we protect ourselves from all the damage they are doing? The boundaries that we need to…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastMy View on Codependency
In today’s world, the word narcissism is extremely common. It is getting thrown around in many relationships, homes, places of business, schools. All over…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastJUST Enough Good from a Covert Narcissist
Relationships with covert narcissists often last years and decades. Why? Why did I stay for over 2 decades with this verbally, emotionally, psychologically…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastLove Bombing Part Two
Welcome back to the covert narcissism podcast. I’m Renee Swanson, your host. Last week we started talking about Love bombing. What is it? How is it different…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastLove Bombing
Love bombing is when one person is overly attentive to the other, absorbed by them, and uses this to gain control and to manipulate the other. They consume you…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastInterview with Ross Rosenberg
This special extra-long episode is an incredibly helpful interview with Ross Rosenberg. We talk about his book, The Human Magnet Syndrome, the draw that…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastYour Rights When With a Covert Narcissist
“You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law. You have the right to an attorney. If you cannot…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastRadical Personal Responsibility
I often get asked: Why did this happen to me? How did I get here? How do I prevent it from ever happening again? How do I heal from this? These are excellent…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastInterview with Debbie Mirza
What a privilege it is to introduce to you Debbie Mirza! She is best-selling author of the book "The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist," one of the first…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastThe True Intentions of the Covert Narcissist
Have you ever tried to figure out someone’s true intentions? Have you been suspicious of the intentions behind one’s behaviors? Have you ever asked yourself…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastThe Effects of Projections and Expectations
Since you are here listening to this, you have probably done some amount of research into narcissism. By now, you have probably run into the word projection as…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastMy Muck Sweeping Broom
I was SO good at sweeping things under the rug! I could take any huge bad things that happened and just make it disappear. Do you know what I mean? Have you…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastI Want Out, Now What??
I can’t keep living like this. I’ve tried everything I know to try. Things might get better for a little while, but it never lasts. I continuously find myself…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastCan You get PTSD from a Relationship with a Covert Narcissist
Can you get PTSD or CPTSD from a relationship with a covert narcissist 100% yes!! Let’s talk about PTSD and CPTSD in relation to narcissist abuse. Post…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastThe Excruciating Pain of Emotional Abandonment
I would never have said that abandonment was a concern for me in my marriage. He was never going to leave me. He would never run off with another woman. I knew…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastTrauma Bonding Part Two
Let’s remember what trauma bonding is - In a simple definition, it is when the one who has hurt you is the one you turn to help you feel better. Trauma bonding…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastTrauma Bonding Part One of Two
Why can’t I actually leave this relationship? I want to! I’m tired of being treated this way. I’m tired of the ups and downs. I want stability. I want peace. I…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastLiving in the Narcissistic FOG
There is a reason that this word FOG always appears in capital letters now. It is an acronym for Fear, Obligation and Guilt. These words explain the…
The Covert Narcissism Podcast3 Landmarks that Boosted Me Forward
Last night, I was caught off guard with a question I had not really thought about. I was not prepared to answer this question about my journey with a covert…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastEverything you say and do can and will get used against you
I mean everything!! You never feel safe interacting with this person. This is why this particular type of abuse is so exhausting. While the abuse may not be…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastCompare the life of a covert narcissist with the life of their victim
Are you trying to decide if all you are going through is "normal," or if it is fair and reasonable? In the last two episodes, I have talked about the…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastThe Eternal Victim Role of a Covert Narcissist
I hear so many people who have lived with a covert narcissist describe this person as a victim of everything. They can make everything be an attack on them or…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastHow My Codependent Tendencies Led Me Straight to a Covert Narcissist
I now know the role that my own codependent tendencies played in creating this match. This match that I was convinced was made in heaven. This match that I…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastMidweek Check In #2
Grasping covert narcissism is like grasping the wind. It is here one minute and gone the next. We think we have a solid grasp on it only to watch that slip…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastEntitlement - Feeding that False Self of Covert Narcissism
The entitlement of a narcissistic person screams, "I am special simply because! I am better than everyone. I am more important than everyone. Everyone knows I…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastCovert Narcissism Podcast Trailer
Hi, I’m Renee Swanson. Host of the covert narcissism podcast! Narcissism is a very common word in today’s world. Narcissists are the arrogant, self-centered…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastA Deeper Look at Passive Aggressive Behavior
Covert narcissists are experts at passive aggressiveness. They have this down so well. As a victim of the abuse, we are so conditioned that we don’t see it!…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastMidweek Check In
Grasping covert narcissism is like grasping the wind. It is here one minute and gone the next. We think we have a solid grasp on it only to watch that slip…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastThe Mixed-Up Emotions as the Relationship Ends
I was so excited for the day that my husband was to move out of our home. I just knew how happy I would be. You could not erase the smile off my face as he was…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastFirst Steps of Healing from Covert Narcissistic Abuse
I get asked frequently, how do I heal from this? How do you ever get over it? How do you move forward? Will I ever trust again? Can I have a healthy…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastThis Was Never About You
THIS WAS NEVER ABOUT YOU!! The way they talk to you The way they treat you The reactions they have The looks The silent treatment The circular conversations…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastWhat is Cognitive Dissonance and What Do I Do About It?
Survivors of covert narcissistic abuse feel like they are going crazy. They often tell me that they are losing their mind. They don’t know which end is up…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastRemoving Trauma from the Body
Midweek special episode!! Dr. Melissa Kalt, M.D. specializes in removing the trauma of narcissistic abuse from the body. She brings so much insight to the…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastGrasping Covert Narcissism
Covert narcissism is messed up! It is so twisted you feel like you are going insane just trying to get a grasp on what’s going on. It is so hard to pinpoint…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastVictims Often Join the Abuse Themselves
Not only do victims of covert narcissistic abuse not see the abuse, they often join the abuser in abusing themselves. It’s the perfect storm built by this…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastBlame Shifting - A Powerful Tool for the Covert Narcissist
If you don't tell me to do it, then it is your fault that it didn't get done. If you tell me to do it, then it is your fault if it doesn't go right. Have you…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastThe Narcissism Spectrum
Narcissism is not a clear cut issue. It isn’t a yes or no answer. It is an extremely complicated issue. One minute you can feel like you have a grasp on it…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastBreaking the Internal Chains of Abuse
Memories can absolutely haunt victims of covert narcissistic abuse for years!! They trigger us, causing massive internal reactions. Anxiety, tension, pain in…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastThe Narcissist’s Prayer Part 2
This 2-part series on the Narcissist’s prayer serves a guide through the circular conversations and manipulative tactics of a covert narcissist. Each step…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastThe Narcissist’s Prayer Part 1
That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastEpisode 5 - How do We Turn the Survival Skills Off
So how do we build healthy relationships after being with a covert narcissist? How are these trauma responses affecting us still? How do we turn them off? Our…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastEpisode 4 - The Survival Skills of a Covert Narcissist and Their Victim
Have you ever wondered if you are the narcissist in this relationship? Maybe you have even been accused of it by your abusive partner? Have you seen glimpses…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastEpisode 3 - Tactical Responses to the Trauma of Abuse
Have you ever found yourself to be extremely defensive, feeling the need to protect yourself before anyone even attacks? How about having the burning need to…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastEpisode 2 - Internal Trauma Responses to Covert Abuse
Has your partner ever accused you of pulling away from the relationship? Of shutting down? Of being emotionally unavailable? Maybe you even feel that you are…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastEpisode 1 - Reactive Abuse: The Physical and Outward Reactions of Victims
Episode 1 of a mini-series on reactive abuse and trauma responses. Have you wondered about your own sanity in all of this? Have you reached the end of your…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastHow to Save Our Kids During a Traumatic Divorce with a Narcissist
Psychologist Dr. Erica Ellis joins us in this episode. She brings wonderful expertise regarding high conflict divorce and how to protect the children. Dr…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastSigns of Abuse Inside the Victim of a Covert Narcissist
Covert narcissism is so well hidden that most victims have no idea that it is abuse until they are many years, even decades, into a relationship. Some never…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastIt’s About What the Victim Doesn’t See
So you find yourself trying to answer some questions. Is my partner a covert narcissist? Am I a victim of abuse? What exactly is a covert narcissist? Many…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastTwo Tools for Healing from Covert Narcissistic Abuse
I hear so many people say, "My therapist doesn't have a clue about narcissism. And especially covert narcissism." They go to therapy for years and seem to make…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastPassive Aggressiveness and Gaslighting
I am losing my mind! Apparently everything I do hurts his feelings. I can’t get anything right. I go out of my way to make him feel happy and everything hurts…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastI Lost Myself to a Covert Narcissist
A Covert narcissist takes over your life. I have heard so many victims so I don’t even recognize myself anymore. I just want to be me again. I feel like I lost…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastHow Does This Get Better?
How do I fix this? I used to ask that for years. Every day of my life I can fix anything. If I can just help him to see… If I can just find the right words……
The Covert Narcissism PodcastCovert Narcissists See Their World Through a Filter of Anger
Covert narcissists seem to have absolutely no emotional intelligence, inside themselves or with the world around them. The general consensus is that they have…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastTwo Things You Should Never Say to a Victim of Covert Narcissism
There are some things that people should just never say to a victim of narcissistic abuse, and specifically covert narcissistic abuse. As a victim myself, I…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastGuilt Manipulation: How a Covert Narcissist Uses Your Own Guilt Against You
Guilt is such a unique thing. It can be wonderful and horrible all at the same time. Many of us are raised to feel guilty when we do something that we should…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastWhat Really is a Covert Narcissist
Many people are struggling to understand what a covert narcissist actually is. I recently heard a podcast that was trying to figure out what a covert…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastBrinkmanship: The Crazy-Making Skills of a Covert Narcissist
My covert narcissistic husband loved the word "brinkmanship." He bragged about how no one knows what that word means and how great he is at it. This should…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastA Grenade Inside a Tank
Someone who has experienced covert narcissistic abuse is like a grenade inside a tank. On the inside, you are wound up so incredibly tight, over-thinking…
The Covert Narcissism Podcast4 Hooks that Covert Narcissists Use to Rope You Back In Once Again
Covert narcissists are experts at hooking a victim back in over and over and over. They know how to play on your sympathy. They know how to make you feel…
The Covert Narcissism PodcastThe Bone Dry Exhaustion of Life with a Covert Narcissist
A narcissistic person cannot even do step A to help a relationship. You can wear the entire alphabet out multiple times, and they still haven't even found step…