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Love in a F*cked Up World
Why do so many of us act our worst in relationships? How can we hold on to our liberatory values even when strong feelings are involved? For 25 years, Dean Spade has been working in movements for queer and trans liberation and to end police, prisons, immigration enforcement, and war. In his new podcast, Love in a F*cked Up World, Dean and his guests offer concrete tools for building and sustaining strong relationships, because our connections to each other are the building blocks of our…
Episodes
- Love in a F*cked Up World
Love and Relationships Across Prison Walls (Part 2)
Send us a message Prisons are designed to isolate, break social ties, and destroy communities. Yet, people fight hard to keep relationships going across prison…
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Ericka Hart
Send us a message Sex educator and Nasty Work author Ericka Hart joins Dean for a conversation about youth liberation, bodily autonomy, and finding pleasure…
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Accountability
Send us a message What is accountability? In a society where so much harm is minimized and ignored, many of us long to hold others accountable. At the same…
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AMA with Jessica Lanyadoo on Confidentiality, Self Care, and Maintaining Friendships
Send us a message To kick off Season 2, Jessica Lanyadoo is back to answer more listener questions with Dean. In this episode, they respond to questions about…
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Love and Relationships Across Prison Walls (Part 1)
Send us a message Prisons are designed to isolate, break social ties, and destroy communities. Yet, people fight hard to keep relationships going across prison…
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Gossip
Send us a message Morgan Bassichis is back talking gossip with Dean. Why is it so hard to tell people things directly? Why is it so hard to keep things…
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Resentment
Send us a message Tea kettle studies non-expert Morgan Bassichis is back with Dean to talk about resentment—how it can poison our enjoyment of the things we…
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Vicky Osterweil
Send us a message Vicky Osterweil, author of In Defense of Looting, joins Dean for a Trans Day of Visibility event organized by CLAGS (The Center for LGBTQ…
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Eli Clare
Send us a message Dean chats with his friend, the brilliant writer and activist Eli Clare, about his newest book, Unfurl, which Eli describes as a queer…
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Benji Hart
Send us a message Dean sits down with friend and collaborator Benji Hart, a facilitator, educator, writer, and artist with years of experience in multiracial…
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Am I Working Too Hard to Fix Myself?
Send us a message Morgan Bassichis is back with Dean to talk through a listener question about when self-improvement work is too rigorous and/or driven by…
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Andrea Ritchie
Send us a message Dean is joined by longtime collaborator and dear friend Andrea Ritchie, author of Practicing New Worlds, Invisible No More, No More Police…
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Chani Nicholas
Send us a message Chani Nicholas, queer feminist astrologer and author of You Were Born for This, joins Dean to talk about how she got politicized, how we hold…
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Green Dreamer
Send us a message Dean is excited to share an episode of the podcast Green Dreamer, hosted by kaméa chayne. Green Dreamer features thoughtful, engaging…
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Peter Gelderloos
Send us a message Dean speaks (in person!) with Peter Gelderloos, whose work has profoundly shaped Dean’s political development since he first encountered How…
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Holly Whitaker
Send us a message Dean sits down with Holly Whitaker, author of Quit Like a Woman and host of the Co-Regulation podcast to talk about Holly’s critical feminist…
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Giving and Receiving Feedback
Send us a message In societies where we throw people away regularly, where carcerality is woven into the emotional fabric of all of our psyches and…
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Shira Hassan
Send us a message Shira Hassan brings her brilliance and decades of experience in harm reduction, transformative justice, and self-help to this deep-dive…
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7 Steps for De-escalating a Crush
Send us a message Crushes can be fun and enlivening, but sometimes they are ill-timed or ill-suited, and it can be hard to shake them off. Morgan Bassichis is…
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AMA with Jessica Lanyadoo (Part 2)
Send us a message Jessica Lanyadoo is back with Dean for part two of this AMA, where they tackle more listener questions. They dive into everything from…
- Love in a F*cked Up World
AMA with Jessica Lanyadoo (Part 1)
Send us a message Jessica Lanyadoo joins Dean for the first AMA episode of Love in a F*cked Up World. Jessica and Dean answer listener questions about how to…
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Kelly Hayes
Send us a message Kelly Hayes joins Dean Spade to talk about the relational work of movement building. In a critical moment in Chicago, Kelly and Dean talk…
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Weyam Ghadbian
Send us a message Weyam Ghadbian joins Dean Spade to talk about Dean's tool 7 Steps for Deescalating a Crush, how Weyam encouraged Dean to discuss the…
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How to Survive the End of the World: Be My Senpai
Send us a message Dean is excited to share an episode of one of his favorite podcasts, How to Survive the End of the World, hosted by Autumn Brown and adrienne…
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Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Send us a message How can you tell when it's time to leave a relationship with a person, project, job, or group? How can you tell if you have a tendency to…
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Prentis Hemphill
Send us a message Prentis Hemphill joins Dean Spade in this episode to talk about love, organizing, and healing. They talk about projection, practice, and…
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Long Distance and Electronic Communication
Send us a message Is sexting sex? And is sexting cheating if someone is monogamous? How can we be clear in our communication and boundaries? Can we feel ok…
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Mariame Kaba
Send us a message Mariame Kaba joins Dean Spade for this episode of Love in a F*cked Up World. Mariame and Dean talk about the dangers of putting leaders on…
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What Else is True?
Send us a message When we're fixated on something, it may be helpful to ask ourselves What Else is True? Morgan Bassichis joins Dean Spade to walk us through…
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Tourmaline and Morgan Bassichis
Send us a message Tourmaline and Morgan Bassichis join Dean Spade on this episode of Love in a F*cked Up World. Tourmaline, Morgan, and Dean talk about how…
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Hard Feelings
Send us a message Morgan Bassichis joins Dean Spade to talk about how to deal with hard feelings–like jealousy, possessiveness, and control–when they…
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adrienne maree brown
Send us a message adrienne maree brown joins Dean Spade for the first episode of Love in a F*cked Up World. adrienne and Dean talk about collectivity, working…
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Introducing: Love in a F*cked Up World with Dean Spade
Send us a message For over 25 years, Dean Spade has been working in movements for queer and trans liberation and to end police, prisons, immigration…