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🔄 Rejection = Redirection 💫 · Peace in a Pod

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  Hey, hey, Soul tribe. Welcome to Peace and the Pod.
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  I'm Loretta. Thank you all for tuning in
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  today. You know, I was thinking about
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  in spring, mostly April, how April's like the rainy month,
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  you know, April, what is that? April showers, May flowers.
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  And here it's been windy and one day I was sitting in the living
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  room looking out the window and I noticed some birds struggling
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  in the wind and 1 bird was flying One Direction and wind
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  was hitting him so hard he just turned around and just went
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  where the wind was taking him. He just like changed his
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  direction completely. Hopefully it did eventually get
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  to where it was trying to go, but it made me think about how
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  life sometimes, you know, we get rejected or refused in certain
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  situations, but it's not necessarily a bad thing.
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  Sometimes that that rejection, that refusal is the redirection
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  that we need to in order for us to get on the track that we need
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  to be on and not everything. It doesn't mean that everything
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  that we consider is bad and falling apart.
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  It's not necessarily a bad thing when you think about like a bad
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  relationship and how things may not be the happiest, the best in
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  that relationship. OK, so I'll share a story of
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  years ago. And I'm talking like when I was
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  in my early, like just turning 20, early 20s, I was in this
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  relationship that to me, it felt like love.
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  I didn't really know what love was but to me it felt like that
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  like love. I'm I I loved him but I found
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  out that what I understand is love is not what he understood
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  was love and it was a long term relationship.
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  It actually was like a total of like 7 years that I was in the
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  relationship. But the crazy thing is I was so
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  like young and and not in the same headspace that I have now
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  that I didn't really understand what was all happening.
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  And this guy, he cheated on me pretty much the entire
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  relationship. Maybe you could say a total of
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  like a year of the seven years. He probably did not cheat, but
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  he was just a serial cheater. And I didn't, I didn't, I never
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  left the relationship. I mean, he did like some shitty
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  things. And I'm, I'm laughing about it
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  now because it helped me grow as a person.
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  It helped me understand who I am.
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  It helped me find my voice. It helped me understand how I
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  should and should not be treated in a relationship.
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  It helped me learn a lot about myself and about love.
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  And I wouldn't know what a good relationship is if I wouldn't
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  have experienced a terrible relationship.
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  So it's like I, I feel like I, I experienced what I did because
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  I, in order for me to understand what true Love Actually feels
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  like, I had to, like, I don't want to say I had to, but I
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  experienced like the worst of the worst.
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  And I mean, there were things that I knew of, but I didn't
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  actually like see in the relationship.
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  But it got to a point where I actually saw something that was
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  like right in my face type of this person is cheating on you.
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  And when that happened, that's when I kind of started speaking
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  up more for myself. I should have just completely
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  like left the relationship, never returned.
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  The relationship ended, but he eventually came back and start,
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  you know, wooing me over. And I did go back to the
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  relationship like a freaking fool, but I did.
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  And then we continued like a few more years before it just got to
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  the point where it was just it it the guy tried to basically
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  take my life is the only way to explain it.
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  And that's how the relationship ended.
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  But I did have a huge revelation the day that that relationship
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  ended. And I remember the situation
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  very vividly, like it was yesterday.
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  But I do remember as it was happening, me praying to God to
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  please save me. And when I did, the situation
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  just basically within like seconds ended and then I was
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  still here. So that for me was a moment
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  where I knew that God was real for one.
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  And when you believe and have that faith that you can be
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  saved, you will be saved. But after that relationship, I
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  took some time out for myself. I wanted to just be alone.
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  I sat in my apartment with myself, with my thoughts,
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  learning and exploring who Loretta is.
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  And when I did all of that, after a while, you know, some
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  people can't be by themselves for too long.
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  They feel lonely and bored and, you know, isolated.
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  I started just kind of tapping into myself, like really trying
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  to discover who Loretta is, what does she like to do?
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  What are things that bring joy into my life.
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  And once I was able to just sit with myself and my thoughts and
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  my feelings, I started enjoying the me time and it was just nice
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  being able to like rediscover myself and I truly enjoy my time
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  just with me. I, I love just hanging out with
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  myself. I like to sit with my thoughts
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  and just, I don't know, I get a lot of my great, I won't say
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  great ideas, but a lot of my creativity juices start flowing
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  when I'm sitting by myself. I can, I can hear things that I
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  can't necessarily hear when I'm surrounded by people and I enjoy
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  hanging out with my friends and all, but I truly enjoy spending
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  time with myself and just me and my thoughts and my, you know,
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  emotions and I love it. But anyways, after that, that
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  relationship ended it, it started like helping me
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  understand a little bit more of myself and it helped me
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  definitely understand more about love.
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  But I understood that sometimes those collapse that happen in
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  our lives, they're not there to just like tear everything down.
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  Sometimes it's the rescue. It's a rescue for us, but we
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  just don't necessarily see it because when that that
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  relationship ended the way that it did, I remember a few weeks
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  prior to that happening, me praying to God, asking him to
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  help me get out of that relationship because I didn't
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  know how to get out of it. And I didn't honestly, I felt
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  trapped. I knew I couldn't stay in the
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  relationship any longer because there was there were things that
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  I found out around that time and I just didn't know how to, how
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  to leave the relationship. So it was, I don't know, it was
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  just, it was, it was a tough situation.
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  I didn't really know how to, to exit the relationship.
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  So I asked God to help me and he did.
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  He definitely did because I needed a way for myself to get
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  out of the relationship, but to also never go back because I
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  knew that there was like this cycle that I needed to break.
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  And like he would, you know, we'd break up and he'd come
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  trying to woo me back and, and it would work 'cause he was a
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  very charming individual. But I knew that I didn't deserve
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  that kind of treatment. I knew that there were people
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  out there who would genuinely love me and care for me and not
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  want to hurt me, but yet I loved that individual.
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  So I kept going back, kept going back.
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  And I knew it was not good for me, but I just didn't know how
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  to get out of it. So I asked God and God worked it
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  out to where I would literally never go back to that
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  relationship. So I know prayer works.
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  I know believing and having faith works.
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  I know that miracles are, are a thing because I've experienced
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  quite a few myself. But that relationship was one of
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  the things where I just didn't understand, like the rejection
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  that I kept getting from that individual and not understanding
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  that that was the redirection. There were things that I, I had
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  already taken from that relationship that I've already,
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  you know, whatever life lessons I needed, I, I've gathered, but
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  I didn't know how to like leave in the few moments where things
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  would happen and it was my exit. I kept coming back and I was
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  holding myself back. So sometimes we face some very
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  hurtful and difficult people or situations and it's not until we
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  see things right, you know, before our eyes that we really
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  understand that we need to let that person go that place or
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  that thing go. I mean, it could be hard when
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  you feel so attached, you know, or, or you love something so
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  deeply that it's time to let it go because you've invested so
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  much into the person or to the, to the place or whatever it is.
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  And you, you're just not ready to release that because you
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  don't feel like you've gotten anything out of it as far as
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  what you've invested into it. So sometimes I think, I do think
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  that we misinterpret the rejection and not fully
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  understand that it's the redirection trying to happen to
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  get us to where we're supposed to go.
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  And we we cling on to things that that we're trying to be
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  redirected from through the rejection.
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  And we kind of hold ourselves in this place.
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  And some situations there will be friction and conflict, but
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  that is to help us get redirected to where we're trying
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  to go. That conflict, that friction is
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  there to force us to make a move.
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  So you have to end the relationship, leave the job,
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  move out of the place you're in to somewhere else.
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  It's all part of the redirection process.
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  Without the conflict or the friction, you would just stay in
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  the same spot. You would settle and that's what
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  I was doing in that, that bad relationship.
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  I didn't know how to get out of it.
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  And I just kind of like, well, I'm in the, I'm already in too
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  deep, so I might as well just ride this thing out.
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  And I didn't, I didn't know how to get out.
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  So I, I asked for help. I asked for divine, I asked for
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  the big help and I got exactly what I asked for.
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  But that rejection that you feel from those situations or from
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  those people or things, it is pushing you into something new.
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  And we have to not fight the force that is trying to redirect
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  us. And sometimes we have to
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  experience things like see it with our own eyes to like,
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  finally understand that is not what you need in your life.
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  That is not what you need. And I'm trying to help you.
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  So you have to see some hurtful experience, some hurtful
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  situations and, and people and things because we're refusing to
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  allow the universe to redirect us.
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  So we have to be placed in situations to where we're forced
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  to make a move and in, in, in the only way that it can happen
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  is to, to, to get it to that level to where we are just fed
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  up. Enough is enough.
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  And sometimes that's what it takes because we all have free
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  will and we keep choosing the, the choices that we make.
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  They're all our, our free will of what we think we want and
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  what we think we need. But we were asking for like true
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  love or we're asking for like, you know, soulmate type of love.
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  And yet we're clinging to this bad relationship getting drugged
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  through the mud. But yet we don't we don't want
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  to let it go. So when we experience these
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  types of rejections, we just have to understand that that is
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  the universe trying to redirect us to the things that we're
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  we're saying that we want in our life.
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  If we're experiencing a job where things are just toxic in
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  the, in the work environment or, or chaos, just pure chaos.
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  And you just like I can't work under these conditions.
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  I feel like for me, I was placed in a situation with my job where
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  it was so bad, the toxic environment was just so bad that
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  I I had to make a decision on what it was I was going to do
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  because I couldn't live that way forever in that previous job.
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  And it was just like, I know I can do the work, but I can't do
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  the work in this environment. And I felt like the environment
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  got worse and worse because I was not meant to stay there.
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  That is not God's long term plan for me.
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  It was my long term plan. But that's not what I was placed
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  on this earth to do. And I eventually just understood
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  that, threw my hands up and said, OK, where do where do you
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  want me to go? Which direction do I need to go
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  in? And I do feel that a lot of
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  things that happen, I don't want to say to us, but I feel like
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  they happen for us because we can pray and wish for a certain
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  type of lifestyle, a certain type of environment.
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  And when things start happening in our current environment, we
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  get scared and we try to cling on to the things that the
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  universe is trying to remove or direct redirect us from.
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  And we're asking for stuff, but we're like not allowing things
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  to shift in order for us to get to the things that we're asking
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  for. And we can be our own
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  distraction, our own obstacle for our future.
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  But I do know that when things are are not going our way or not
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  going the way that, you know, we wish that they would, it's it's
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  not necessarily a bad thing. Some things are not meant for
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  you. Some people are not meant for
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  you. Some people we experience for
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  the simple fact that there's certain lessons and and not, I
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  don't even want to say lessons because it's not.
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  Every person we experience is not because of a lesson.
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  Sometimes we need to use better discernment.
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  We need to not trust everybody that we are around, or sometimes
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  we need to not be so judgmental. We need to don't judge a book by
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  its cover. There are certain things in life
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  that happen, but they happen for reasons that we may not see on
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  the surface. There are parts of us that need
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  to be developed, or there are parts of us that have been
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  suppressed that need to be brought to the light.
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  There are things in us that we need to feel or experience or
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  express and certain people and environments are brought into
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  our, our, our bubble because we we need to allow those things
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  to, to come up. We need to, to experience it.
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  We need to feel it. We need to go through it because
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  there is something in that person or situation that we need
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  in order to grow and evolve as ourselves, as a better version
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  of ourselves. I guess that's the that's the
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  best way I can explain it. So I just don't think that when
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  things don't go my way, that is it's not a bad thing.
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  It's just trying to get me to a, to the place that I see myself
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  in the future. And I have to not fight that.
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  Redirection, but allow it to align me to where it is that I,
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  I need to be in order to get to the type of life and environment
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  and people and places and, and things that I'm trying to get
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  to. So just remember, not everything
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  that is falling apart or what seems like is falling apart in
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  your life. Not all of that is a bad thing.
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  Sometimes the collapse is a rescue.
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  Sometimes the loss is the shift, the rejection that you feel from
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  whatever situation that you may be going through.
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  It is simply pushing you into something new.
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  Rejection is simply redirection. So allow the universe to work
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  its magic, do its thing, and help you align to the things
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  that you want in life. Help you align to the dream job
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  that you want. Help you align to the
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  relationship that you want. Help you align to the the dream
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  home that you want. Allow the universe to do its
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  thing. Rejection is simply redirection.
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  Thanks again for tuning in to Peace in a Pod.
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  I'm Loretta and I will catch you next time.
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  Bye. Thank you all so much for tuning
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