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Erasing Memories of Alcohol Being Linked to Fun and Coping · The Hypnotist

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Hi, it's. Adam here.
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And in today's episode of The Hypnotist, you'll be listening
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to a hypnosis session designed to change how you feel about
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alcohol. And a lot of people at this time
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of year were doing things like Dry January or they've set
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resolutions to reduce the amount of alcohol that they consume.
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All of which I think is very, very useful and empowering if
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you want to have better health and not be dependent or feel a
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compulsion towards alcohol. This particular client that I
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was working with could remember in their past a great
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relationship with alcohol and they had certain things they
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would always drink in moderation.
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They had this rule that they would never drink more than
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three in anyone you know. Kind of sitting.
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They would also have this element of not drinking alone.
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It was always a social or celebratory kind of thing.
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So they had some really good healthy boundaries so that when
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they did drink, it didn't become a problem.
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But throughout COVID, that relationship changed.
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They had more drinking at home because they couldn't drink out
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of the house. And they went through some tough
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moments in their life, such as bereavements and things like
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that, which led alcohol to be a crutch.
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It was a coping mechanism. So they wanted to do 2 key
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things. One have no real craving or
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desire for alcohol, but if they were to drink it with this take
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it or leave it approach that they would, you know, have this
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element of drinking in moderation or, you know,
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limiting it to three. But fundamentally what they
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wanted to do is all the memories that were good memories that
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involved alcohol. They wanted to not consider them
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good because of the alcohol, but good despite the alcohol.
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And there was a couple of movie references that kind of popped
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into my head. One came from the client, which
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was they made a reference to the children's movie Frozen, where
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the sister has a memory of her sister having magic just erased
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from her memory. And there's also a very good
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movie called Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.
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It's one of the few non comedic memories featuring Jim Carrey
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and I think Kate Winslet in that as well.
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And the premise is that you know all of your memories of an ex
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disappear. And I think.
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In terms of metaphors, that's a great metaphor.
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So you're actually going to hear this, that actually the memories
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of alcohol suddenly change, that the alcohol references become
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less significant, or it's what's called a reframe that the
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enjoyment is considered despite the alcohol.
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And a lot of people will have references either with
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themselves or people they know that actually alcohol can spoil
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amazing moments. So that reframe has a lot of
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credibility at its. At its.
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Core, if you would like to change your relationship with
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alcohol, you might find this session helpful.
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I've also done lots of other ones on alcohol as well.
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Probably worth sharing this as well.
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The six years ago when I turned 40, that was the year that I
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decided I didn't want to have alcohol in my life going
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forward. So I'm about six, 6 1/2 years
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alcohol free because I made the evaluation that alcohol at that
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point in my life was giving more, was taking more than it
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was giving. And I think I made the
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evaluation in my 20s that it was giving more than it was taking,
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but that changed as it as it tends to do.
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So if you feel that working with me may be helpful for you to
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change your relationship with alcohol, there will be a link in
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the show notes where you can schedule that free consultation
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call on Zoom. For now, though, this session
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might be all that you need. So find a quiet, comfortable
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place where you won't be. Disturbed, relax and enjoy the
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session. Take a deep breath in.
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As you breathe in, breathing in slow, calm, relaxing breath, and
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as you exhale, just allow your eyelids to close, and as they
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close, feel a release, perhaps of tension, maybe stress, and
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maybe worries. Feel it leave your body in your
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outward breath, and then breathe in an even deeper feeling of
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resourceful relaxation. With each breath, feel yourself
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sinking deeper into calmness. Maybe you imagine a warm wave of
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relaxation starting at the top of your head, going down your
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face, releasing any tension in your eyelids, jaw, neck and
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shoulders. Feel your body getting deeper
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and deeper, relaxed. Imagine how good it would feel
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to feel like you're floating in a hot spring full of healthy
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minerals, soothing and healing your body, rejuvenating your
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body, but feel it supporting your body.
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Your arms and legs can feel limp and loose, yet still supported,
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enabling you to feel even deeper, relaxed.
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There's been places, public places, you felt so tired or
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relaxed you just drifted off into a Daydream, maybe even a
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nap, and activate that level of relaxation.
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Now feel that wave of relaxation going down your body, into your
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chest, even your internal organs down into your gut.
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Notice how your breathing just is longer and deeper, but almost
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happening by itself. There's nothing you need to do,
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you can just observe as you breathe in and breathe out
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deeper, taking you more and more relaxed.
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And just imagine this hot spring of relaxation maybe is out in
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nature, maybe under the sunshine, blue skies, and just
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feel a sense of complete calm and peace.
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That's it. I want you to imagine this pool
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of relaxation is a place conducive to reawakening and
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rekindling the very best version of you.
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And as you imagine they're bathing in that hot spring, just
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imagine a giant floating screen, almost like a projector screen
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hovering in front of you, just like it's your own private
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showing. But this isn't showing you a
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movie. This hovering screen starts to
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display moments from your life. Moments of fun, celebration,
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connection, important key moments.
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And maybe some of these moments had alcohol involved in some
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way. It was consumed, it was there,
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it was present. And I wonder if you can see
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these memories coming up, maybe for a few seconds than going
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away. But when they appear, think of
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them as clear, vibrant images. But notice something as you
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observe these moments of joy, happiness, connection, Feel a
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deep realization that the true joy of these moments didn't come
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from alcohol. It came from the people, the
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laughter, the connection, the situations.
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In fact, these moments were special not because of the
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alcohol, but despite the alcohol.
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Alcohol could have ruined these moments and yet it didn't.
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And that's because of you and the connections and your
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character, your values and your personality.
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You are the common denominator. In order to have moments of
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connection, it requires you. In order to have moments of fun
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and laughter, it requires you. You are the missing ingredient.
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It was never alcohol. I want you to get a sense.
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Then sometimes we make false associations.
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Maybe you can recall a time when you picked up a dog lead just to
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move it somewhere new. The dog interpreted the sound of
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the dog leash as a sign to go for a walk.
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And what you call these false positives, false associations.
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And as you start to see those memories of the past realized,
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then just because alcohol was present doesn't mean that was
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the influential variable. In fact, allow the content on
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that screen in your mind's eye to shift.
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Start to notice is that whatever alcohol was in those memories,
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wine, beer, shots, they start to fade, becoming transparent as
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though they were never there. But the smells, the laughter,
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the connection, the vibrancy, the wonderful moments all remain
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vivid. And maybe if alcohol was being
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consumed, it's now water or soft drinks.
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Or maybe it's just the alcohol connected to you.
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Other people are fine to drink, but yours disappears and feel.
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You're not changing the past feel, you're seeing the past as
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it really was, powerful, joyful and complete without any need
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for alcohol. If your mind starts to feel that
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that is just the truth of all those moments, let me know by
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nodding your head. And maybe you could imagine a
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gentle golden light, perhaps even sunshine, descending onto
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the screen and the light begins to absorb any emotional ties,
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any beliefs or any habits that connected you to alcohol.
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The golden light, the sunshine, is melting away those thoughts
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and ideas that were never true. It dissolves the thought that
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alcohol was ever needed for fun, for connection, or for coping.
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Think of the times of the past, maybe, where you saw someone
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clearly depressed drinking by themselves in a bar.
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If alcohol was a solution to the problem, they wouldn't remain
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depressed, They wouldn't keep returning.
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Alcohol was never the solution. It was a crutch.
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A crutch that didn't lead to healing.
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A crutch that led to dependency. I want you to get a sense that
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all of those experienced, perhaps serving alcohol to other
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people, gives you a unique perspective.
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You were completely sober in the moment.
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They weren't. Recall memories of arguments,
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aggression, pettiness, sadness that were caused by the alcohol
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or at least amplified by it. Get a sense then.
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Alcohol quite often is like A2 faced friend smiling in front of
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you and then being maliciously gossipy behind your back.
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Promises you good things, but causes pain and sadness, and
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maybe some of those memories start to transform.
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Some of those moments that involved alcohol feel that
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they're being enhanced when alcohol wasn't there, and feel
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neutral when alcohol is. Or perhaps worse, feel that
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alcohol is becoming irrelevant, insignificant, like a blurry
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object in the background of a photo.
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And now allow this screen to show you in the future.
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Tomorrow is the future. A month from now is the future.
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A year from now is the future. See yourself being without any
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desire for alcohol. See that you're smiling just as
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much, laughing just as much, without needing or wanting
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alcohol, and you're reminded, perhaps of a version of you
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from. The past.
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A version of you that naturally had control over alcohol.
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See that future version of you either not wanting it or if you
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are consuming it, doing so with moderation?
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Feel like a truth that you believed in the past is becoming
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true again. You don't need to drink, but if
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drinking is to be, then no more than three feeling that that
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inoculates you from overdoing it, as you have a deep
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realization that nothing good happens when you overdo alcohol.
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See yourself having fun, times without drinking, social
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moments, moments of deep connection, moments of
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celebration, but even see yourself coping with difficult
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times and just alcohol is not wanted or needed.
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See yourself on that screen with a deep sense that you have calm
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immunity to any peer pressure. Some people may be triggered to
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start thinking about their relationship with alcohol as
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they see you change yours. They have a vested interest in
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keeping you where they are, but see yourself immune to any
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pressure, any tactics. They may buy you a drink like
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they've forgotten that you're not drinking.
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See yourself that no matter what approach is used, verbal,
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behavioural, it doesn't work with you.
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In fact, it provokes the opposite reaction.
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The harder people try to get you to drink, the less you want it.
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See yourself in social situations, radiating
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confidence, not being neutral, but being more confident than
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when you had a drink in your hand.
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Alcohol becomes irrelevant because you can do all the
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things that you used to think alcohol was giving you without
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needing it. You can feel relaxed, you can
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feel calm, you can feel playful and confident without needing or
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wanting alcohol. Feel that your mind is just
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taking the outdated belief that alcohol is needed for fun and
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put it in the recycle bin of your mind.
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It's not needed anymore. It's not true.
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It never was. The desire for alcohol is fading
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like a distant memory, leaving you free and light, as if the
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weight of that desire never existed.
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And step into your truth that you can live your life based on
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your rules, your standards, your values, with no need to justify
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or explain your choices. You simply stand firm, strong
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and unshakeable. And if you do drink, you will do
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it on your terms, nobody else's. And if you do choose to drink,
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you will have a sense that it feels completely natural to stop
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at 3:00 or even before, as if your body and mind just knows
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when to pause with a sense of certainty.
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Certain things don't need willpower.
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I want you to get a sense that sometimes your body just knows
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you've had that moment where you slipped or about to fall and
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your body knew exactly where to put your foot to stop you
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falling. Your body knows how to keep you
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safe and feel that it will now do that.
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When it comes to alcohol, you simply feel better and more
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empowered without it. And when you to get a sense that
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sometimes changing something for a month just gives you a clue
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that I quite like this. I don't have to stop at the end
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of the month. I can continue treat a period of
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not drinking at all, not as a challenge, but as a test drive.
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You're testing out a lifestyle to see just how well it suits
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you. So let's freeze that belief that
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alcohol is needed for fun. See it as an image, perhaps on a
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pane of ice, like a pane of glass, and then shatter it into
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a million pieces, freeing you completely.
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Alcohol isn't needed for fun, confidence, or coping.
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Shatter those beliefs and perhaps you could imagine a
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future occasion where alcohol definitely will be there.
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But rather than seeing yourself, step into that moment as you
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feel an unwavering confidence in your choices, feeling no need or
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desire to drink, but knowing that you can if you want to.
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But don't be surprised if you don't even want to.
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And allow yourself to feel proud and energized by your ability to
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decide what is right for you. Because maybe alcohol was an
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impediment, a barrier to living your best life.
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What if it was holding you back? I want you to get a sense that
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you are free from at least one or two shackles that perhaps
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have been there for the last five years or so.
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Those shackles were weighing you down, encouraging you to do
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things that didn't even make sense.
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And you are free of those shackles now.
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See the floating screen disappear?
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Feel that as you leave that hot, relaxing spring, you can return
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to the present, feeling that memories of the past have
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changed. You've rekindled the optimal
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relationship with alcohol, but only on those occasions when you
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really want it. And that may be fewer in your
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future than it's been in your past.
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So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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wiggle your toes. Connect fully into the here and
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now as I count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you, and you
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will awaken feeling liberated, a new lease of life making this
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year your best year ever. Starting to count. 123 Waking up
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