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Hypnosis for ARFID - Overcoming Fear of Judgement and Trying New Foods · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this hypnosis session you
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  can be listening to a hypnosis that is entirely based on
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  changing the relationship with certain foods.
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  And I was working with a young client that had ARFID, which
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  effectively is a sensitivity or a reluctance to try new foods.
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  Certain foods just felt daunting, uncomfortable,
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  particularly in certain social situations where they felt
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  judged. And this uses an element of
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  parts negotiation therapy to work with that part that has a
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  really good intention of trying to protect them.
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  But in doing so, it made it feel like a very high stakes judge
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  mental type of situation. But that was just a meaning they
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  were giving to the actual process of evaluating new foods.
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  And what this hypnosis session does is 2 key things.
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  One is parts negotiation therapy to work with the part
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  responsible for the protective part, but then also the second
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  part, which is very judgmental and to create a low stakes
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  environment where whatever happens, they win.
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  So if they try foods and they don't like it, well then they
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  know they don't like it. If they try foods and they're
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  not quite sure yet, but then it's just an attempt and they're
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  building up the reps for that. And if they try the food and
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  they do like it, they've got more evidence that they're OK
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  without food. So it uses the frame of
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  discernment rather than this idea of failing and not being
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  able to do something or being judged either by other people or
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  by themself. So there's a bit going on here.
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  If you or someone you know has a reluctance to try certain foods
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  and that's making them feel anxious or self-conscious or
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  just uneasy in certain situations, then they may
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  benefit from this session. But just be aware that the
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  specific suggestions are. Incredibly.
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  Connected to the client that I was working with and not all of
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  them are going to map across to someone new listening to that.
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  So if you or someone that you know does like the idea of
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  changing how they feel about foods, there will be a link in
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  the show notes where you can actually schedule a free
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  consultation. Call to have a chat with me and
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  then we can exlore the idea of working together.
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  For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place, the kind of
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  lace where you're not going to be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in and as you
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  breathe out just release any feelings of worry, stress or
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  tension. Dance in, breathing in
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  relaxation, and as you exhale, just allow your eyelids to close
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  and as they close to become aware of how much easier it
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  becomes to focus on the sound of my voice.
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  Breathing in relaxation and exhaling tension.
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  That's it. As you breathe in, I want you to
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  feel a sense of freedom, a sense of relaxation, a sense of
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  empowerment that you're able to do the things you want to do.
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  Breathing in that relaxation, exhaling that tension.
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  Each breath takes you deeper and deeper, relaxed.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
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  And the more relaxed you become, the deeper you breathe.
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  And as you breathe in and breathe out, just notice the
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  simple things around you, the way your body rests, perhaps the
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  rhythm of your breathing, and how without any effort, you can
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  allow yourself to drift. And I want you to imagine the
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  spotlight shining on you and just imagine you've got the
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  control and dial down that spotlight, leaving you free to
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  just relax. And as that spotlight of
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  awareness softens, you may notice your thoughts beginning
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  to slow down and a sense that for now, there's nothing to
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  prove, no pressure, no judgement, leaving you free to
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  just relax and feel that relaxation.
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  Notice your breathing slowing down.
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  And as your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  And I want you to imagine a garden where you feel
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  comfortable and in that garden see a door and believe that that
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  door leads to your own private cinema.
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  And as I count, from 5:00 to 1:00, you will imagine opening
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  the door, walking through the door into your very own private
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  cinema, 5 putting your hand on the handle, 4 turning the
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  handle, three pulling the door open, two walking through the
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  door, and one closing the door behind you.
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  And now stepping into that quiet private cinema, finding the most
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  comfortable chair and seeing a big blank screen in front.
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  And here in this place, I want you to notice that any feelings
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  are being judged. That feeling of all eyes on you,
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  that you're in the spotlight, is simply not here in this dark,
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  quiet cinema where the lights are down low and you're the
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  director, not the actor. And that means that you get to
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  decide what plays on the screen, what story you tell yourself,
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  and what role each part of you gets to play.
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  And I want you to think about all the different thoughts
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  you've had over the years. And I think somewhere inside
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  there's a part of you that has been protecting you from
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  embarrassment, shame, or being judged.
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  And maybe that part thought that by keeping things small,
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  predictable, limited, or controlled would keep you safe.
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  And I want you to thank that part for doing its job all these
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  years. It's been working hard trying to
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  protect you like a guard who never gets to rest, always
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  vigilant, always looking for things that could not end well.
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  And it may have been doing too much, and that part's exhausted.
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  But I want you to consider that what if that part in the way
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  that it was trying to protect you was actually contributing to
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  the very fear of judgement, embarrassment or shame that you
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  were so keen to avoid? But there's another part of you.
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  There's a part of you that desperately wants to feel free,
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  to feel like you can live without this, the burden that
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  you've been carrying, to just feel comfortable eating whenever
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  you're hungry, no matter who else is around.
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  And I want you to invite that part, that part that desires
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  that future. The future of living with
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  curiosity instead of that fear of judgement.
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  Allow that part to step forward. Perhaps you could imagine what
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  these parts would be like. Maybe the part that's trying to
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  protect you from shame would be anxious, restless, on guard.
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  And then there's that part that's more adventurous.
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  Curious. But let's offer that protective
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  part a new role. And I want you to imagine seeing
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  yourself on a screen, perhaps the last time that you felt
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  limited, restricted, worried about being judged.
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  And just imagine that you can see that part nearby to you.
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  And maybe it's telling you to be careful, to think too much.
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  But I want you to offer that part a new role because how it
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  can really help you from that freedom of feeling judged is to
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  help you be more discerning. And you could be discerning
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  about the food you eat, where you eat it, who you eat it with.
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  And there is no obligation for you to eat any food.
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  But I want this discerning part to look for opportunities.
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  Opportunities for low steak shots to nothing, to experiment
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  in a freeway without that judgement.
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  I want you to imagine if you couldn't fail, if there were no
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  judgement, what foods would you try then?
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  How would you feel differently eating those foods that you feel
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  comfortable at home in different environments?
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  I want that part to accept a suggestion that when it comes to
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  food, it's just a taste. No big deal, a shot to nothing.
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  I want that part to believe then whatever happens, it's a win.
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  If you don't like it, really don't like it, then it goes in
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  your red zone and now you know you never need to try that thing
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  again. And if you try it, but you're
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  not sure yet whether it moves into your Green Zone, consider
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  this doing an extra Rep. And the more experience you
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  have, the more likely it will move into that Green Zone.
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  And you can think of a food that you didn't like to begin with,
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  but now you do and it feels comfortable.
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  So whenever you try something, consider that a win because
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  you're training your taste buds and if you do like it and you
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  feel comfortable, it just moves into that Green Zone quicker.
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  Now this isn't about win or lose, success or failure, doing
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  it right or doing it wrong. It's about you being discerning
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  and noticing how you feel about the food and not the judgement.
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  I want you to consider that discernment.
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  Making choices becomes your new protection.
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  Not hiding, not avoiding, but choosing, exploring and
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  wondering what it would be like if every outcome felt safe.
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  Because if whatever happens, you win, or you learn, and when you
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  learn you win, everything feels easier.
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  And you might also notice that that spotlight you imagined
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  before was never really shining on you as brightly as you
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  thought. People are far too busy with
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  their own lives, their own thoughts, their own worries.
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  And I want you to feel that what you used to feel like judgement
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  from other people was just echoes of your own self
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  criticism. But now we're framing things
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  that it's all those stakes, a shot to nothing.
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  Whatever happens moves you forwards.
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  There is no need for that self criticism.
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  And don't be surprised if that voice of self criticism becomes
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  more encouraging with this new role of discernment.
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  You're not getting it right or wrong every time you do
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  something. You're either training your
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  taste buds, figuring out what you don't like, or feeling more
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  and more comfortable based on the law of familiarity, to feel
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  that volume of self criticism being turned all the way down.
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  And I want you to discover something liberating, the
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  ability to own your discernment, to laugh things off, that you
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  treat everything as a shot to nothing.
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  You can embrace trying when the pressure's off.
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  And if you don't like it, you don't like it, and that's still
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  a win. And I want you to see yourself
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  on that large cinema screen. Pitch yourself in a comfortable
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  environment, maybe your own home, at the dinner table,
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  trying foods you've never tried before.
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  But see the expression on your face that this is all a shot to
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  nothing, That whatever happens, you're winning.
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  See yourself smiling, relaxed and comfortable.
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  See that the restlessness and discomfort is gone because it
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  has a new meaning now. There is no success or failure.
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  You can't lose. It's just you being discerning
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  and figuring out what you like and what you don't.
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  To see yourself picking up something new, trying it,
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  smelling it. And whatever happens, you win.
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  You can see that version of you with calm confidence of someone
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  who is no longer under the spotlight.
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  And I want you to see a family member looking at you and you
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  smile at them while you try. That new foods doesn't bother
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  you anymore. Because what if this is less
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  about the food and more about what's happening in your head?
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  And when we change the meaning, you change the feeling.
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  And when the feeling changes, what was difficult before
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  becomes easier. And then I want you to imagine
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  something more challenging. See yourself in someone else's
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  home. Or a restaurant, there's other
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  people around that see yourself with that same calm, relaxed
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  demeanour, and maybe see that you're choosing foods that are
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  half from the Green Zone and half foods either that aren't
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  quite comfortable, but you're going to eat them anyway.
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  But I want you to see that version of you looking relaxed,
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  comfortable, see that version of you immune from judgement.
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  Because what is there to judge? You either like the food or you
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  don't. And from this point onwards,
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  you'll start to notice more and more often other people when
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  they don't like food and it's no big deal.
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  They don't frame it that they've lost.
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  There's no judgement, there's no shame or embarrassment.
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  And you might learn that other people have things that seem
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  unusual to others. Certain people won't like
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  certain flavours or sauces. Many people will remove certain
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  things from a meal. Just put it to the side of their
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  plate and it's no big deal. You may even remember seeing if
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  plates arrive at a restaurant. Some people will take some food
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  off their plate and put it on someone else's because they know
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  what they like and they know what they don't like and what
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  they may not like. Someone else Mel may love.
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  And I want you to get a feeling that it's all those steaks.
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  And when you can see that future version of you on the screen,
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  looking relaxed and comfortable, trying new foods and whatever
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  happens, you win. Just let me know about nodding
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  your head and imagine stepping into that version of you in the
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  screen and feeling what it would feel like to be in that busy
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  restaurant, certain foods you're not quite sure on, and feel what
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  it would feel like to be no big deal.
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  That voice that was once judgmental or critical is now
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  encouraging. Hey, try it, you've got nothing
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  to lose. Try a bit and if you don't like
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  it, don't have any more. And if you do like it, continue
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  eating. And I want you to feel that when
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  it feels like that, the spotlight isn't on you, it isn't
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  on anyone. It's just people enjoying some
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  food. And if you can feel what it
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  feels like to be relaxed and comfortable in a situation that
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  in the past would have created discomfort and restlessness, but
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  you can feel relaxed and calm and imagine eating foods, even
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  foods from that amber zone. Let me know about nodding your
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  head. That's it.
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  And I want you to get a feeling that you're just one or two
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  occasions away from this becoming real.
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  Because when you release that fear of judgement, when
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  everything is a shot to nothing, when you can't get it wrong, the
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  pressure is released. And don't be surprised if foods
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  that were once challenging now become easy.
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  Environments that felt daunting are no longer daunting.
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  And what if, when you release that fear of judgement, that
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  adventurous side of you wants to try different foods?
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  Because the more foods you try, the more quickly you figure out
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  the foods you like and the foods you don't.
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  And everyone has foods they don't like.
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  And as you breathe in that feeling of relaxation and calm,
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  leave the screen and then leave the cinema, walk through the
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  door, be back there in that garden and then feel like you
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  can float all the way back to your present, to the here and
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  the now. Feeling that that part was
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  trying to protect you is now protecting you in a new way by
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  helping you be calm, relaxed, Consider things as low stakes
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  where everything is a shot to nothing.
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  Very soon I will count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you and you
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  will awaken with that part having a new role to help rather
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  than hinder. Because it didn't know it was
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  hindering before, it thought it was helping, but now it can help
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  in ways that genuinely help. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you. 123 waking up. 456 more
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  alert 7-8 open your eyes open your eyes. 910 wide awake, wide
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  awake, wide awake. Thank you so much for.
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  Joining me on today's episode of The Hypnotist and if you've
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  enjoyed this. Show or got some benefit from
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  it. You may know of one other friend
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  or family member that may also benefit from this hypnosis
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  session, In which case I'd like to ask a favor of you.
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  And that is if you could spend 10 seconds to share this episode
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  with someone that you know, that may also benefit.
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  That would really help me to access new people that don't
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  already know about this show. You very much for listening and
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  I will see you again on the next episode.