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Episode 93...BD BOK Deep Dive: Chapter 14 Negotiation Strategy and Tactics · What is Business Development?

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to the deep dive. If you're a business developer,
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  Speaker 1: you know the feeling a successful negotiation can feel like, well,
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  Speaker 1: like the ultimate high wire act.
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  Speaker 2: It does.
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  Speaker 1: It feels like an art form exactly finesse, intuition, perfect timing.
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  Speaker 1: But the sources we've piled up for today's deep dive
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  Speaker 1: suggests that instinct can only take you so far.
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  Speaker 2: That's right.
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  Speaker 1: It turns out successful negotiation isn't some mystical, dark art.
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  Speaker 1: It's actually a precise, measurable science, and it's built on
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  Speaker 1: just three core ingredients.
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  Speaker 2: And that's our mission today. We want to move past
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  Speaker 2: that gut feeling and get into evidence based strategy. We're
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  Speaker 2: pulling from foundational texts like the Business Development Body of Knowledge,
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  Speaker 2: and we're going to dissect negotiation theory, game theory, and
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  Speaker 2: practical taxis in practical tactics because the goal of all this,
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  Speaker 2: I mean, the real endgame of negotiating isn't just about
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  Speaker 2: winning in the short term. The sources say, it's about
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  Speaker 2: building a shared environment leading to long term trusts.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, long term trust. That sounds great, but how do
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  Speaker 1: you actually engineer that. You know, when you're facing tight
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  Speaker 1: deadlines and really aggressive buyers.
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  Speaker 2: You engineer it by following the science. Neuroscience research has
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  Speaker 2: actually managed to quantify what makes trust possible, and we
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  Speaker 2: can use it as our framework, a formula, a formula.
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  Speaker 2: It's surprisingly simple. Trust equals purpose plus empathy plus.
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  Speaker 1: Truth, purpose, empathy, truth.
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  Speaker 2: That's it. It's the formula for a genuine, defensible win
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  Speaker 2: win scenario. And if any one of those pillars is weak,
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  Speaker 2: the whole thing is at risk of collapse.
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  Speaker 1: Right, let's unpack that. Then, let's start with the one
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  Speaker 1: that feels the softest. But you're saying is maybe the
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  Speaker 1: most strategic empathy.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 1: Most people hear empathy and they think you're just being
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  Speaker 1: overly agreeable. But the research points somewhere else. Entirely, it's
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  Speaker 1: a competitive advantage. I was actually stunned by a twenty
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  Speaker 1: twenty one study in the Journal of Marketing.
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  Speaker 2: What did it find?
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  Speaker 1: It found that corporate profits are measurably higher when the
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  Speaker 1: business developer actively advocates for the prospect's interest during the negotiation.
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  Speaker 2: It sounds completely backward, I know, but it is profoundly effective.
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  Speaker 2: It's not about being a pushover. It's about alignment signaling
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  Speaker 2: you understand what they really need.
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  Speaker 1: But there's a catch, right, it has to be the
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  Speaker 1: right kind of empathy.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly, and doctor Adam Glinski's work at Columbia Business School
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  Speaker 2: back in two thousand and eight really clarified this. He
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  Speaker 2: studied one hundred and forty six professional negotiators.
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  Speaker 1: And what was the key. What Glinski find the key.
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  Speaker 2: Was cognitive empathy. That's what they called it's it's basically
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  Speaker 2: perspective taking.
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  Speaker 1: So understanding their side intellectual sky.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, the ability to understand the prospect's needs, their interests,
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  Speaker 2: their limitations, all without actually absorbing their emotional state. Golinski
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  Speaker 2: found it and I'm quoting here, increased individual's ability to
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  Speaker 2: discover hidden agreements. You become a better problem solver for them.
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  Speaker 1: So it's about understanding why they need a certain term
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  Speaker 1: or why they're pushing back on price, but without you
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  Speaker 1: feeling the stress their feeling.
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  Speaker 2: Precisely, the study actually noted that emotional EmPATH, you know,
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  Speaker 2: feeling their stress or compassion. It did not prove nearly
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  Speaker 2: as advantageous and at times was detrimental.
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  Speaker 1: Detrimental.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, As a BB professional, you need to use your
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  Speaker 2: mind to understand their position, not your gut to share
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  Speaker 2: their anxiety that's a huge distinction.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so that's empathy. Let's move to the second pillar truth.
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  Speaker 1: In these high stakes deals, emotions run high. You get
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  Speaker 1: that fight or flight response. How does truth act as
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  Speaker 1: an antidote to that?
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  Speaker 2: Well, truth reduces emotion because it relies on objective external criteria.
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  Speaker 2: It just lowers the stress of everything being subjective. If
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  Speaker 2: the process is built on facts, it becomes.
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  Speaker 1: Verifiable and therefore trustworthy.
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  Speaker 2: That's it. Yeah, this is where we get that old
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  Speaker 2: saying trust but verify, which President Reagan made famous.
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  Speaker 1: But how do you actually verify a claim in a
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  Speaker 1: complex negotiation? I mean, isn't the definition of evidence part
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  Speaker 1: of the negotiation itself?
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  Speaker 2: It is, and that's the key challenge. You have to
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  Speaker 2: combat their subjective claims with objective third party criteria. Don't
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  Speaker 2: just accept that a price is market rate. You push back,
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  Speaker 2: You demand to see the metrics. Are they using industry
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  Speaker 2: cost indexes? Can they provide a cost breakdown? Can you
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  Speaker 2: benchmark it against verified standards? You're essentially changing the conversation.
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  Speaker 1: From I feel this is fair to.
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  Speaker 2: The data shows this is feasible.
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  Speaker 1: Right. It moves from a confrontation to joint problem solving.
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  Speaker 1: Which brings us, I think, perfectly to the third pillar purpose.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, game theory.
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  Speaker 1: This is where we get into doctor John Nash and
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  Speaker 1: his famous Natch equilibrium.
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  Speaker 2: Ray, which was illustrated so well in A Beautiful Mind.
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  Speaker 2: The theory is that the best decision for the whole group,
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  Speaker 2: and so the best outcome for everyone, happens when each
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  Speaker 2: party is pursuing a common purpose.
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  Speaker 1: So, for a business developed er, what does that mean?
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  Speaker 2: Your core job is to make sure that common purpose
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  Speaker 2: is crystal clear and structurally sound, and you do that
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  Speaker 2: by achieving what's called value triangle equilibrium, the.
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  Speaker 1: Value triangle, Okay, let's define that. It's also called the
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  Speaker 1: triple constraint theory, and it's it's fundamental. What are the
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  Speaker 1: three sides?
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  Speaker 2: The three constraints are resources, scope, and schedule. Okay, Resources
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  Speaker 2: is you're funding your labor, material costs. Scope is that's
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  Speaker 2: the what quality, quantity, all the product characteristics and schedules.
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  Speaker 2: Of course, the timeline, the deadline.
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  Speaker 1: And the value is what's inside that.
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  Speaker 2: Triangle exactly, and its delivery is totally restricted by the
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  Speaker 2: integrity of those three sides. They're interdependent.
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  Speaker 1: What does that mean? Interdependent? It sounds a little academic,
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  Speaker 1: but I imagine the consequences are very real.
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  Speaker 2: Oh they can be financially catastrophic. The rule is simple.
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  Speaker 2: If you move one side, you must adjust at least
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  Speaker 2: one of the others to maintain that equilibrium.
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  Speaker 1: Give me an example.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, say the prospect insists on adding a ton of
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  Speaker 2: new functionality. They expand the scope. Right, if you, the seller,
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  Speaker 2: agree to that, but you don't negotiate for more time,
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  Speaker 2: a longer schedule, or more money, more resources, you haven't
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  Speaker 2: just absorbed a change, You've broken the structural integrity of
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  Speaker 2: the entire contract.
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  Speaker 1: So if you break that equilibrium, you're basically just inject
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  Speaker 1: risk precisely.
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  Speaker 2: And this all ties back to how we calculate price.
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  Speaker 2: The sources define price as costs plus profit. The costs
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  Speaker 2: that's the extrinsic value of those three sides, resources, scope,
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  Speaker 2: and schedule. But the profit, the profit covers the intrinsic value,
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  Speaker 2: and that is the trust inside the triangle.
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  Speaker 1: This is where it gets really interesting. Then if a
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  Speaker 1: buyer demands, say more scope, but refuses to give on
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  Speaker 1: schedule or resources, they're just pushing all the risk onto
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  Speaker 1: the seller.
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  Speaker 2: And that risk is never free. So as the BD
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  Speaker 2: you have a decision to make. Either the buyer agrees
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  Speaker 2: to pay a higher price to compensate you for taking
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  Speaker 2: on that risk, or you knowingly accept the massively increased
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  Speaker 2: likelihood of a breach of contract. If you don't negotiate
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  Speaker 2: that equilibrium, you are actively planning to fail. You're risking
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  Speaker 2: financial penalties, damage to your brand's trust.
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  Speaker 1: Even disbarment from future work, all of it.
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  Speaker 2: So negotiation is really the process of mutually removing that risk.
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  Speaker 1: That completely reframes the mission. It's not about squeezing out
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  Speaker 1: a few extra dollars, It's about being an engineer of stability.
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  Speaker 2: That's a great way to put it.
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  Speaker 1: But what happens when the other party is actively trying
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  Speaker 1: to destabilize things using behavioral pressure, Well, that.
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  Speaker 2: Brings us to tactics. If you've done your job engineering
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  Speaker 2: the structure with the value triangle, buyers will often turn
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  Speaker 2: to behavioral tactics to create chaos and undermine your resolve.
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  Speaker 1: And for this we're looking at the twenty fifteen American
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  Speaker 1: Management Association Study. The AMA study. It catalog the most
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  Speaker 1: common buyer tactics we did, and I want to stress
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  Speaker 1: an ethical line here for everyone listening. You need to
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  Speaker 1: understand these maneuvers for defense, not offense. Using untruthful tactics
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  Speaker 1: just destroys that core foundation of trust we talked about.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely. Defense starts with knowing the cognitive bias that each
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  Speaker 2: tactic is designed to exploit. Let's start with the classic,
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  Speaker 2: the high.
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  Speaker 1: Battle ball offer, the offer that's deliberately ridiculous. It's meant
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  Speaker 1: to shock you, and.
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  Speaker 2: It exploits the anchoring bias. Research shows that even if
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  Speaker 2: you know an offer is outrageous, that number still subtly
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  Speaker 2: drags the entire conversation closer to it.
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  Speaker 1: So how do you defend against that?
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  Speaker 2: Preparation and re anchoring? Before you even walk in the room,
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  Speaker 2: you need to know two numbers cold your reservation price,
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  Speaker 2: your absolute walk away point, and your target price, which
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  Speaker 2: is your reasonable evidence based goal.
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  Speaker 1: So the low ball comes in, what do you do?
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  Speaker 1: How do you re anchor?
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  Speaker 2: You expose it. You don't counter with your walk away price,
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  Speaker 2: that's a mistake. Instead, you demand they justify their offer
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  Speaker 2: using those objective, verifiable metrics we talked about earlier.
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  Speaker 1: Make them show their work exactly.
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  Speaker 2: If they can't justify it, you dismiss the anchor and
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  Speaker 2: immediately reanchor, the conversation on your target price, backed up
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  Speaker 2: by your data.
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  Speaker 1: What about the ones that use more emotional leverage, like
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  Speaker 1: the bogie tactic.
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  Speaker 2: The bogie or the throwaway It exploits our deep seated
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  Speaker 2: need to repay a favor. The reciprocity bias. The buyer
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  Speaker 2: pretends some minor unimportant term is critical to them, They
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  Speaker 2: make a huge show of conceding on it, and then
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  Speaker 2: they look at you, expecting you to feel obligated to
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  Speaker 2: give them a major concession in return.
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  Speaker 1: So you have to know what your own terms are
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  Speaker 1: really worth. You can't get tricked.
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  Speaker 2: That's the defense. Recognize the manufactured importance and refuse to
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  Speaker 2: trade something of high value for something of low value.
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  Speaker 2: Don't trade a fifty thousand dollars resource increase for a
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  Speaker 2: vague promise of future partnership.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, let's talk about the tactics that exploit exhaustion, things
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  Speaker 1: like the nibble or lack of authority.
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  Speaker 2: Both of those lean heavily on the sunk costs bias.
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  Speaker 2: The nibble happens right at the end the contract is
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  Speaker 2: basically done. Then they ask for one small last.
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  Speaker 1: Minute thing, an extra year of warranty, a small discount.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, and they know you've invested so much time and
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  Speaker 2: energy you just want it to be over. The sunk
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  Speaker 2: cost of your effort makes you give in.
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  Speaker 1: And lack of authority is similar, just drawn out right.
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  Speaker 2: It's exhaustion. Over time, the buyer keeps saying they have
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  Speaker 2: to take it back to management for final approval, and
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  Speaker 2: they always come back with some new minor objection. It
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  Speaker 2: just drains your resolve until you feel like you can't
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  Speaker 2: afford to walk away.
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  Speaker 1: What about the really aggressive stuff, like the good cop
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  Speaker 1: bad cop routine? Yeah, how do you maintain that cognitive
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  Speaker 1: empathy when someone is actively trying to stress you out?
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  Speaker 2: That routine is purely designed to trigger stress. The bad
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  Speaker 2: cop creates hostility, which puts you in that fight or
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  Speaker 2: flight mode, and that makes you inappropriately trust the good
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  Speaker 2: cop who suddenly seems like your only friend in the room.
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  Speaker 1: So what's the defense?
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  Speaker 2: You have to recognize the game and slow everything down,
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  Speaker 2: call a recess, take a break, renchor yourself on your
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  Speaker 2: facts and insists that all further discussion focuses only on
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  Speaker 2: objective criteria, not on emotional threats or appeals.
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  Speaker 1: And finally, the pressure cookers deadlines and the brink, the
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  Speaker 1: take it or leave it moment.
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  Speaker 2: These are all about fomo fear of missing out. They
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  Speaker 2: create artificial urgency to rush you into a bad decision.
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  Speaker 2: When a buyer says this offer expires in one hour,
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  Speaker 2: your defense is your preset reservation price. If the deal
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  Speaker 2: doesn't work, you have to be ready to walk away.
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  Speaker 1: Because accepting it just guarantees a breach of contract later
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  Speaker 1: guarantees it. Understanding these defenses is huge. But what if
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  Speaker 1: the whole process feels fundamentally unfair or even illegal? When
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  Speaker 1: do you escalate to a formal protest?
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  Speaker 2: A formal protest is it's the nuclear option. It's mostly
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  Speaker 2: used in things like government procurement, where there's a very
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  Speaker 2: clear legal process. What would you protest, Well, there are
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  Speaker 2: two main types. A pre award protest might challenge requirements
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  Speaker 2: that are just way too restrictive, or an attempt at
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  Speaker 2: an inappropriate soul source award. Then there are post award protests,
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  Speaker 2: which usually claim the evaluation was unfair or bidders were
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  Speaker 2: treated unequally.
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  Speaker 1: That sounds like a really serious step. There must be consequences,
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  Speaker 1: Oh there are.
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  Speaker 2: You have to weigh the repercussions carefully. A protest can
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  Speaker 2: seriously damage long term trust and future relationships, especially if
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  Speaker 2: it seems unwarranted. It's really an option for when all
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  Speaker 2: other negotiation has failed and the integrity of the process
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  Speaker 2: itself is broken.
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  Speaker 1: That is a crucial consideration, knowing when to fight and
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  Speaker 1: when to just stick to the facts. That's mastery. It
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  Speaker 1: is okay. We've laid out the scientific framework, talked about
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  Speaker 1: engineering stability, and how to defend against manipulation. Let's try
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  Speaker 1: to consolidate this. What are the three essential takeaways for
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  Speaker 1: our listeners.
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  Speaker 2: First and most important, prioritize the trust formula. Remember it
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  Speaker 2: trust equals purpose plus empathy plus truth and specifically master
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  Speaker 2: cognitive empathy to find those hidden agreements and use objective
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  Speaker 2: criteria for truth to keep emotion out of the room.
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  Speaker 1: Number two would be about the structure.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely insure value, triangle, equilibrium, Resources, scope, and schedule are
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  Speaker 2: all connected. Your job in the negotiation is to actively
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  Speaker 2: remove risk. If they want more scope, you must get
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  Speaker 2: more schedule or more resources. Stability is non negotiable.
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  Speaker 1: And finally, defense.
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  Speaker 2: Defend against cognitive bias. Know the manipulative tactics highball, bogie, nibble, deadlines,
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  Speaker 2: not to use them, but to spot the bias their explode,
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  Speaker 2: anchoring reciprocities, sunk cost fomo. When you see it, just
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  Speaker 2: ignore the pressure and re anchor the conversation back to
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  Speaker 2: your objective metrics.
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  Speaker 1: So this is where it all comes together. We talked
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  Speaker 1: about the Nash equilibrium, the common purpose, and we tied
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  Speaker 1: that purpose directly to the value triangle to achieving that equilibrium.
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  Speaker 1: So I want to leave you the listener with this
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  Speaker 1: one final thought, tam all over, Yeah, considering all the
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  Speaker 1: contracts you've ever signed, how often was failure actually baked
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  Speaker 1: in from the very beginning, just because that critical common purpose,
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  Speaker 1: that structural equilibrium was sacrificed for some short term, unbalanced
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  Speaker 1: gain and in the process destroying any real chance of
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  Speaker 1: long term trust.
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  Speaker 2: If the foundation is built on an unbalanced set of constraints,
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  Speaker 2: the building is designed to fall.
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  Speaker 1: It certainly is Thank you for joining us for this
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  Speaker 1: deep dive into the science of high stakes negotiation. We
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  Speaker 1: hope this gives you the evidence based confidence to walk
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  Speaker 1: into your next negotiation not as an artist, but as
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  Speaker 1: a master scientist.