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248. Why every woman needs this…..sensual, sexual and healing- our experience 💃🏻 🔥 🎶 · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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Speaker 1: Let's get into it. Welcome to the She Rises Podcast.
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Speaker 1: I'm Ashy and I'm Tiana.
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Speaker 3: be your biggest, boldest, and most authentic version of yourself.
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Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level.
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Speaker 4: Get ready for your next level of self.
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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, Welcome back to she Rises, your hopefully your
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Speaker 2: favorite podcast ever. We have a very exciting episode today
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Speaker 2: because it's kind of what is giving clues and talking
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Speaker 2: about something that we have coming, but also something that
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Speaker 2: we are so passionate about. There's been really life changing
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Speaker 2: for us and something we actually did as little girls
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Speaker 2: we brought back into our adult life.
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Speaker 1: We're going to talk about it today. It's about dancing.
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Speaker 3: But first, what is your share of the week dance classes?
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Speaker 4: Both of us honestly heels by Misha.
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Speaker 1: Yes.
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Speaker 3: The studio is honestly next level. It is like, honestly awaken,
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Speaker 3: like this fire in me to come back to dance
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Speaker 3: and to reconnect with my body again after feeling scared,
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Speaker 3: feeling terrified, feeling like, oh my gosh, it's been so
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Speaker 3: long since I've done this, and to just drop into
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Speaker 3: my body after being so work focused all the time,
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Speaker 3: It's been such.
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Speaker 4: A gift and I love it. The vibe is so good.
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Speaker 3: All the girls there are so open, Everyone looks so
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Speaker 3: sexy in their little outfits and you just get to
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Speaker 3: just unleash and it's the best feeling ever.
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Speaker 1: It's so beautiful.
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Speaker 2: What I love about dance is no matter what you've
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Speaker 2: got gone on your life, you have to be so
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Speaker 2: present because you're learning the moves, you're listening to the music,
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Speaker 2: you're moving your body, so it's like nothing else matters
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Speaker 2: but that moment and you're just so connected to yourself,
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Speaker 2: to the music.
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Speaker 1: And to the environment.
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Speaker 2: You get to be so present and it really does
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Speaker 2: help you get back into that flow of your beautiful
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Speaker 2: feminine essence.
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Speaker 3: You know, it's so beautiful as well. Like everything that
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Speaker 3: is built there is based off Misha. Yeah, and if
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Speaker 3: you guys don't know Misha, she's so incredible. We did
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Speaker 3: a podcast episode with her a little while back, and
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Speaker 3: she's the owner and she is just an incredible human,
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Speaker 3: incredible friend of ours and also previous client of mine.
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Speaker 3: Everything that she has built is representation of like her beautiful, fierce,
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Speaker 3: feminine energy.
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Speaker 2: It's been so cool. She's definitely been a huge inspiration
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Speaker 2: for me for many years. I remember going to her
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Speaker 2: dance classes back when she didn't even have her own studio.
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Speaker 2: It was like tiny, this tiny studios, so cool, A
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Speaker 2: couple of girls who got like private listeners from her,
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Speaker 2: and it was just so much fun. I remember when
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Speaker 2: I first saw a girl I know go to her
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Speaker 2: classes and.
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Speaker 1: I was like, what is this.
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Speaker 2: I've never seen this type of dancing. And from the
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Speaker 2: moment I had my first class with Misha, I was like,
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Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I can see myself doing this for a.
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Speaker 1: Very long time.
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Speaker 2: We definitely dipped in and out, would go like half
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Speaker 2: for six months and then we'll have three months off.
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Speaker 1: Oh for got, she miss dancing so much.
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Speaker 4: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: The hardest thing is where Grandma's so sometimes if there
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Speaker 2: isn't the six thirty class, because we like to go
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Speaker 2: to the beginner's classes. As much as we love to
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Speaker 2: be challenged, we also want to be able to get
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Speaker 2: the routine in a way that we feel really confident
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Speaker 2: and really good. So we go to beginners classes, which
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Speaker 2: nowadays are more on the seven thirty times slot, which
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Speaker 2: means you don't get home till nine nine thirty. And
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Speaker 2: we're so wide because we're so hot.
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Speaker 4: It's so hard to go to bed.
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Speaker 3: Go to bed at eleven o'clock on those nights because
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Speaker 3: I'm just so excited.
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Speaker 2: Me, you and Meg will be messaging each other and
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Speaker 2: being like we need to go to bed. Girls, we're like, oh,
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Speaker 2: how fung was that routine?
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Speaker 1: I love the song?
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Speaker 3: Or like all in our beds watching it twenty seven
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Speaker 3: times over which dance.
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Speaker 2: It's just so much fun and I think it's really
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Speaker 2: changed a lot for us, and it's been really cool
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Speaker 2: to take my audience along the journey of my dance journey,
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Speaker 2: because I tell you what, when I did a lap
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Speaker 2: dance class, which was so much fun. You got to
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Speaker 2: bring your part in and learn a lap dance and
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Speaker 2: perform for them. I've never ever my whole entire life
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Speaker 2: had so much interaction with my DMS. I could not
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Speaker 2: keep up four weeks on it. There's still messages in
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Speaker 2: there that I just I couldn't keep up, and mostly positive.
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Speaker 2: So much feedback on where do you go to do this?
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Speaker 2: How are you so confident?
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Speaker 1: I want to do this? My partner, my husband would
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Speaker 1: love this. Where to get you out?
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Speaker 2: It's from like just so many questions and in just
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Speaker 2: just like wow, there's so many women that are really
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Speaker 2: craving to feel sexy again, and a lot of mums.
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Speaker 2: I have a big mum audience, and I think after
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Speaker 2: you have children, somewhere along the lines, we think that
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Speaker 2: we just lost that sexy part of ourselves. And it's like,
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Speaker 2: why you don't have to just because your mum doesn't
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Speaker 2: mean you have to wear a moomoo and have your
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Speaker 2: hair in a messy bun every day. You can still
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Speaker 2: feel sexy. And I love being that walking role model
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Speaker 2: for that. Even the pushback I do get, I push
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Speaker 2: through it because I'm like, I want to show other mums.
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Speaker 2: I'm thirty seven, I have two children. If I can
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Speaker 2: do this, so can you. It doesn't matter about the
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Speaker 2: size or shape. When you get to a class, you
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Speaker 2: will see there as women from all walks of life,
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Speaker 2: all different ages, all different sizes, all different experiences, and
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Speaker 2: every single girl there is celebrated, is being cheered upon,
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Speaker 2: is having the best time, and walks out at they're
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Speaker 2: just feeling like a million bucks, like we need more
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Speaker 2: of this, yeah, every single day, Like get yourself to
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Speaker 2: a dance class.
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Speaker 4: That's so true.
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Speaker 3: I feel like a lot of women are disconnected from
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Speaker 3: their selves, their sensuality, sexuality, all of it. And when
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Speaker 3: we're not connected to our bodies, it's like really shows
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Speaker 3: in everyday life, like we can't have fun anymore. And
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Speaker 3: everything's so serious and everything's so rigid and all about
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Speaker 3: work and forward focus and there's no time for play.
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Speaker 3: And for me at least, like coming back into dancing
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Speaker 3: has been just about being able to let go again
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Speaker 3: and it is. It's scary, it's hard, Like every single
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Speaker 3: woman who walks into the dance studio has their own
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Speaker 3: set of fears, their own set of self judgments. I
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Speaker 3: know when I went in there, I was like, but
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Speaker 3: it's been so long, and what if I don't get it,
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Speaker 3: And what if I can't dance in heels and it's hard?
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Speaker 3: Or what if I can't get the moves right? Or
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Speaker 3: what if I look stupid doing it? Like what if
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Speaker 3: I don't feel sexy when I'm doing it? All of
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Speaker 3: these fears came up, and sure, like you face those fears,
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Speaker 3: but if you just keep going, you'll see how much
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Speaker 3: they actually quiet down when you start to enjoy yourself.
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Speaker 4: And that's I guess the art of.
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Speaker 3: Going to dance is getting out of your head and
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Speaker 3: your thoughts and getting into your body and feeling the
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Speaker 3: moves instead of going ABE or one two three four.
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Speaker 3: You know, it's like it's a different experience, and when
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Speaker 3: you do it with people like I feel like it
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Speaker 3: makes it even more of a fun experience, Like going
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Speaker 3: with you and Meg and the girls and Amy has
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Speaker 3: been so much fun.
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Speaker 2: So fun, and you need to do people there like
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Speaker 2: I met Mega dancing. That's so cool, Like we were
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Speaker 2: both six weeks pregnant and that's where I met her.
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Speaker 4: That's a while.
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Speaker 2: It's been friends ever since. We were going to be
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Speaker 2: going dance class few years together.
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Speaker 4: How cooly you guys are both six weeks pregnant and going.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, we continued to go for ages while we were pregnant.
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Speaker 2: Like I literally remember having a big balley and going
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Speaker 2: to dance class.
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Speaker 4: So cool.
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Speaker 2: And yes, I couldn't roll around on the floor like
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Speaker 2: the other girls. But I find too, I think a
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Speaker 2: lot of women have a fear that when they come
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Speaker 2: to these dance classes they're going to get in the
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Speaker 2: comparison mindset. And for sure that I won't lie. There's
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Speaker 2: been moments where I've compared myself and I wish I
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Speaker 2: could move like her. I'm quick to catch it and
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Speaker 2: turn that mindset into inspiration of Like when I compare
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Speaker 2: myself to a dance each for example, I'm like, she's
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Speaker 2: been dancing four years. Yeah, she does this every single night.
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Speaker 2: If I put that amount of dedication into it, of
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Speaker 2: course I'm going to get better. Yeah you know, yeah,
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Speaker 2: And it's just cool. And also with dancing, what stops
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Speaker 2: the comparison noise in my head is like when you
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Speaker 2: sit down and you watch and everyone films and you
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Speaker 2: take turns. You look every single girl, they're all doing
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Speaker 2: the same move, but it all looks so different. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: one girl's like flicked a hair and put her fingers
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Speaker 2: in her mouth, and the others like putting her hands
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Speaker 2: down her body, and the others got different facials, or
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Speaker 2: they might kick their legs slightly different because they put
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Speaker 2: their own style into it. It's like you can't compare
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Speaker 2: how your body naturally wants to move compared to someone else's,
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Speaker 2: or if someone's really flexible, your move might look different
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Speaker 2: to theirs. Me and you we struggle with their hair flicks.
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Speaker 2: Sometimes we don't even do the hair flick instead will
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Speaker 2: do an extra body role. You'll just make it work
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Speaker 2: to what feels good for us for sure. And you'll
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Speaker 2: hear me Sha and the other teachers be like, oh
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Speaker 2: my gosh, I love that move.
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Speaker 1: It's not oh you did that wrong. It's like, fuck, yeah,
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Speaker 1: we like show you more of your own style.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, everything is encouraged, and you hear in the background
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Speaker 2: that everyone.
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Speaker 1: We're like, wow, you've got this.
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Speaker 2: Yes, it's so genuine. You'd literally want to scream out
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Speaker 2: at the girls that are dancing in front of you because.
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Speaker 1: They just look so good.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I love that you mentioned that as well. Everyone
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Speaker 3: puts their own flavor on the routine.
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Speaker 4: It's so interesting.
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Speaker 3: I was behind one of the dance teachers, Saya, Oh my.
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Speaker 4: God, wow, all right she is she just welve out of.
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Speaker 1: Ten me and you I draw.
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Speaker 2: I'm like, yeap guy, just for compe women, honestly, just
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Speaker 2: for context guys.
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Speaker 4: Her back flexibility.
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Speaker 3: And she's a gymnast as well, so she's a gymnast,
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Speaker 3: she's a dancer. She teaches the advanced classes, so she
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Speaker 3: is very, very good. And she was in front of me,
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Speaker 3: but it was It's so interesting because remember watching her
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Speaker 3: being like, holy shit, I cannot move like that. But
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Speaker 3: I also looked at her and I was like, oh
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Speaker 3: my god, how grateful that I get to be behind
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Speaker 3: to teach her, to learn her little cues and like
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Speaker 3: see what she does and like little things that I
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Speaker 3: might miss, like little head nods or a little scoop
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Speaker 3: with the bumb like things that I would miss because
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Speaker 3: I'm nervous. I get to watch her and go, wow,
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Speaker 3: I can just let go in this moment. And it's
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Speaker 3: again that perspective shift of like actually I remember as well,
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Speaker 3: on that same night, I ended up hurting my shoulder
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Speaker 3: and because I'd landed on like a move on the
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Speaker 3: floor wrong, and then I like got the shits and
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Speaker 3: I was really hard on myself when I watched my
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Speaker 3: video back and I was like, oh, I did it
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Speaker 3: so wrong and I made all these mistakes. But also
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Speaker 3: in the same breath, it's like I'm not there to
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Speaker 3: compare to everybody else who's in the room, like you're
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Speaker 3: there for you and whilso hurt myself.
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Speaker 4: That wasn't a vibe. We don't love that, but it
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Speaker 4: was just I'm glad that I went.
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Speaker 3: And even though I felt like I had hurt myself,
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Speaker 3: I still kept going and kept going and kept going
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Speaker 3: all the way to when we filmed each other and
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Speaker 3: to film ourselves, and I was like, I still tried
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Speaker 3: to go all out even though I felt like a
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Speaker 3: little bit injured. Yeah, And I was like no, no, no,
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Speaker 3: Like I don't have to give up mentally now because
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Speaker 3: I feel like, oh I can't get it right. Yeah,
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Speaker 3: you know, It's like my mind in that moment was like, oh,
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Speaker 3: make an excuse, or you feel a little bit sore,
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Speaker 3: or you're a little bit tired, and a little bit
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Speaker 3: gassed out.
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Speaker 4: It's like, yeah, sure, all of those things get to
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Speaker 4: be true.
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Speaker 3: It's hard and challenging, it's something that you don't normally do,
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Speaker 3: but like have fun with it.
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Speaker 1: Yes, it's so cool. I'm really loving it.
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Speaker 2: I hate the weeks that we don't get to go
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Speaker 2: yea even for our buyer and bar retreat. Yeah, it's
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Speaker 2: like so many the girls like, oh we thought there'd
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Speaker 2: be a dance class at this timetable. Why are you
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Speaker 2: girls not teaching one? We're like, oh wow, you wanted
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Speaker 2: to do this. Yeah, and there's so many women across
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Speaker 2: Australia that don't have dance classes where they are.
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Speaker 1: We're very very lucky.
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Speaker 2: She's got studios in Brisbane, Gold Coast and Sydney. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: so like, very very lucky if you've got a studio
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Speaker 2: near you that does these Hills dance classes.
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Speaker 1: Like, cannot recommend it enough.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's so incredible.
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Speaker 3: And even when we launched our Spicy Deck, which is
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Speaker 3: our physical product, yes, all of the women also mentioned
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Speaker 3: something about dancing men dance classes because of our clues,
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Speaker 3: which is really cool. But it was also showed like
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Speaker 3: a showcase like demand and how much women are one
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Speaker 3: wanting to get offline and in person and to just
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Speaker 3: be in and amongst that really beautiful feminine energy.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Like, I've had so many conversations with my clients being
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Speaker 3: like when I started posting, which was so scary by
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Speaker 3: the way, guys, I was like, well, you know what,
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Speaker 3: I'm going to commit to this journey and post on
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Speaker 3: social media my dancing videos. And a couple of my
10:50
Speaker 3: clients messaged me and we had a conversation about it,
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Speaker 3: and they were like, oh, what I would do to
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Speaker 3: be able to access that feminine energy. And I'm like,
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Speaker 3: every woman is on their own journey, is in their
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Speaker 3: own timeline of how connected they are, how disconnected they are,
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Speaker 3: how they feel in themselves, but even more of a
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Speaker 3: reason why, like it's okay to overcome those fears and
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Speaker 3: to just put yourself in the room.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's sad a lot of women think they
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Speaker 2: can't dance. Dancing is not like singing, you know how.
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Speaker 2: Some people just born with a good voice. Dancing is
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Speaker 2: a skill that you build up. You learn the routine,
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Speaker 2: you learn how to move your body, you learn how
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Speaker 2: to flick your head, you learn as you go. It's
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Speaker 2: something like, of course, if you dance as a little girl,
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Speaker 2: you're probably going to pick it up a lot quicker.
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Speaker 2: But the way the classes are broken down, you go
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Speaker 2: over and over and over and over the move. So
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Speaker 2: I've never been to a class where someone like doesn't
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Speaker 2: get the routine. Yeah, you know, it's just so much fun.
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Speaker 2: We absolutely love it. So something's been in the works, guys.
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Speaker 2: But it's not just a dance class. We're doing something.
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Speaker 2: And if you follow us on social media last night
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Speaker 2: you would have seen we posted our first clue, and
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Speaker 2: then tonight another one goes live, another one tomorrow, and
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Speaker 2: then we're announcing something on Wednesday.
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Speaker 4: It's very exciting.
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Speaker 1: It's so exciting.
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Speaker 4: We're gonna love it.
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Speaker 2: Oh, we've been talking about doing something like this for
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Speaker 2: so long since.
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Speaker 4: We start it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think since we started Cheatriser, this has always
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Speaker 3: been something that's been on the horizon and we just
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Speaker 3: always said, like, we'll do it at the right time,
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Speaker 3: And now feels like the right time and also with
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Speaker 3: the right people too.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, something happened we were like, oh my gosh, we
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Speaker 2: need to do this. So we just like reached out explore,
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Speaker 2: as we do when we come up with an idea,
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Speaker 2: we execute very very So this is only a couple
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Speaker 2: of weeks ago that we were like, okay, we're doing
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Speaker 2: this and looked at all the logistics and.
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Speaker 1: Worked it out, made it happen, made it happen.
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Speaker 2: So it's very very cool and it's something that everyone
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Speaker 2: will be able to access to to a certain degree.
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Speaker 2: There's two parts to it, yeah, which is really cool.
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Speaker 2: Now there's more than two parts to it. Oh my gosh,
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Speaker 2: so exciting. I can't give for anything else. I like,
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Speaker 2: I'm like, be careful, head over to our social media,
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Speaker 2: see the first clue, yes, and just come along the journey.
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Speaker 1: I love clues. It's so fun for everyone to be
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Speaker 1: engaged and have their guesses.
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Speaker 2: And see how well we do with like creating clues
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Speaker 2: that don't give it away too much but build the
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Speaker 2: anticipation of like what could this be?
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Speaker 3: And we would love for you to give us your
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Speaker 3: opinion on what you think it's going to be or yes,
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Speaker 3: what you think that we have planned because we'd love
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Speaker 3: to see what your what your guesses are.
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Speaker 2: Like you obviously you know the topic of it, yeah,
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Speaker 2: from this conversation. But yeah, but there are some other elements,
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Speaker 2: are other parts to it?
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Speaker 3: Yes, which is very cool so far. I'm so excited. Yeah,
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Speaker 3: it's very different to what we've done previously.
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Speaker 1: Very different, but I think you guys are all going
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Speaker 1: to love it.
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Speaker 4: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: I think for a really long time when it came
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Speaker 3: to dancing, I really got caught in my head of
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Speaker 3: like being comfortable, you know, like you want to do
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Speaker 3: something for a really long time and you're just like, oh,
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Speaker 3: I know, all these stories come up. I can't do this,
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Speaker 3: I'm scared, I feel fearful, and then you kind of
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Speaker 3: like prevent yourself from going because those stories build up. Yeah,
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Speaker 3: And I think for a long time there when it
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Speaker 3: came to dance, like I got really comfortable, and it
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Speaker 3: got really comfortable not pushing myself and pushing my boundary
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Speaker 3: of what you know, was outside of my comfort zone. Yeah,
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Speaker 3: and I think it plays into every other area of life,
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Speaker 3: Like I recently started doing piano as well, and you know,
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Speaker 3: we're just like going outside of my comfort and doing
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Speaker 3: things that feel new for the first time. And even
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Speaker 3: though this is something I've come back to dancing, it
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Speaker 3: doesn't mean that the fears don't still come back up,
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Speaker 3: you know. So it's like if there's something that you're
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Speaker 3: wanting to do, especially when it comes to dance and
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Speaker 3: you want to drop into that feminine energy, Like, there's
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Speaker 3: no better time to start than now, because if you
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Speaker 3: don't overcome those fears, like you might be like, oh,
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Speaker 3: just I'll start next month, and then I'll start in
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Speaker 3: three months from now, six months from now, and then
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Speaker 3: before you know it, you're kind of that person who's like, Wow,
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Speaker 3: I've been wanting to do this for five years, and
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Speaker 3: I just I haven't been able to start. It's like
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Speaker 3: that start date only feels further away, only feels harder
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Speaker 3: with time.
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Speaker 4: So true, I love.
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Speaker 3: Approaching these things now now that I've gotten more uncomfortable
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Speaker 3: with time. Is like just learning how to roop the
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Speaker 3: BANDI off and like closing eyes and jumping into the
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Speaker 3: cold waters, you know, just like being able to just
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Speaker 3: do the thing and just trusting that you'll be exposed
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Speaker 3: to what you need to be exposed to within yourself
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Speaker 3: to overcome what it is that's actually holding you back
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Speaker 3: from being yourself, being free, being feminine, feeling flowy, feeling
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Speaker 3: sensual again in your body, and reconnecting back to yourself and.
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Speaker 1: Hard doesn't mean that you can't do it. I was
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Speaker 1: just saying.
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Speaker 2: With my contemporary dance classes, also got back into temporary
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Speaker 2: and it's been twenty one years since I've.
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Speaker 1: Done that style, and it is so challenging.
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Speaker 2: I could do weights all day every day. This is
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Speaker 2: like next level fitness, next level coordination. The jumping, the flicking,
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Speaker 2: the timing of the music. They're bringing the emotion to
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Speaker 2: every move. It's so mentally and physically and emotionally like
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Speaker 2: you have to give it all. I found that really
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Speaker 2: difficult to get into, but also enjoyed every minute of it. Yeah,
15:31
Speaker 2: it's so weird that two things can coexist. And I
15:33
Speaker 2: get really frustrated when I can't get a move because
15:35
Speaker 2: I just want to get it so badly, and I'm
15:37
Speaker 2: also having the time of my life. And I use
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Speaker 2: that frustration of like, okay, use that fuel and that
15:41
Speaker 2: anger and that fire to like go hard and try again.
15:44
Speaker 2: Like some days, at the end of my lesson, if
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Speaker 2: I haven't got the whole routine, I'm like again again again,
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Speaker 2: I'm not leaving until I do this whole routine and
15:52
Speaker 2: I don't make a mistake, because if I'm leaving and
15:54
Speaker 2: I feel shit, like I'm so determined and I just
15:57
Speaker 2: like put all of that, not negative, but that frustration
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Speaker 2: into good use. And I think with the Heels class
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Speaker 2: that it feels different because you really have to just
16:06
Speaker 2: go in there and you're going there to have a
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Speaker 2: good time. You're not going there to compete. You're not
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Speaker 2: going into a dance competition. Everyone's focus on their own
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Speaker 2: body and their own moves. Like no one's really looking
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Speaker 2: at you except when they're filming you. And you don't
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Speaker 2: even have to be filmed. That's optional, Like most girls
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Speaker 2: do it because they want to watch back and like
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Speaker 2: you can see where you could improve or yeah, maybe
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Speaker 2: add a heavlick or whatever, but you really are just
16:24
Speaker 2: going there to have a good time and connect with yourself.
16:26
Speaker 2: And even as a mum, it's just so nice each
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Speaker 2: week to have a night that I get to go
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Speaker 2: with my girlfriends and go and to a dance class
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Speaker 2: and we grab dinner and it's just that real girly
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Speaker 2: time and I really come back feeling so filled up
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Speaker 2: and recharge. And you know, when you look after yourself
16:39
Speaker 2: and you do things that really light you up, that
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Speaker 2: just overflows to your family.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so cool.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I love showing my kids my dance routunes too.
16:46
Speaker 2: They know how much dance like makes me happy, and
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Speaker 2: I want to be the role model for them to
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Speaker 2: find hobbies that makes them feel like that too.
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Speaker 1: Can't just tell them to do that, like I've got.
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Speaker 4: To do that, yes, you knowurely by example, Yeah.
16:56
Speaker 2: I could say, well, go to a hobby. It's really
16:57
Speaker 2: important you exercise and do all the things. It's like, cool, mom,
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Speaker 2: you're not doing it.
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Speaker 4: What are you doing?
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Speaker 3: Yeah?
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Speaker 2: And I'm like no, I'm always going to show them
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Speaker 2: the way when it comes to that and how important hobbies,
17:06
Speaker 2: especially like physical things that involves are moving their body,
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Speaker 2: so it's so important.
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Speaker 4: I love that.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Something that Misha said actually in a dance class that
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Speaker 3: we went to recently was she goes, I'm not looking
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Speaker 3: for the person who is going all out and like
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Speaker 3: thinking about the moves. She's like, I'm looking at the
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Speaker 3: person's face who's enjoying themselves. And I thought that was
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Speaker 3: really cool because it shifted something in my mind of
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Speaker 3: like am I actually enjoying the moves or am I
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Speaker 3: thinking about trying to get it right?
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Speaker 1: Yes, and trying to look a certain way, trying to look.
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Speaker 3: A certain way, like oh okay, what would happen if
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Speaker 3: I were to just feel into the move and actually
17:37
Speaker 3: be here to enjoying myself and to feel into my
17:39
Speaker 3: body and the way that it naturally moves, instead of
17:42
Speaker 3: trying to force myself to do something and get in
17:44
Speaker 3: my head about not getting it right.
17:45
Speaker 4: It's like, no, it's not what it's for.
17:47
Speaker 3: And I love that about what she said, because she
17:49
Speaker 3: was just like, you're here to enjoy yourself. Maybe you've
17:51
Speaker 3: never done this before in your life, maybe you've come
17:53
Speaker 3: in here for years. Either way, I want to see
17:55
Speaker 3: how much you're going to enjoy yourself in this class.
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Speaker 3: And I just thought that was so cool.
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Speaker 1: That's really cool.
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Speaker 2: A common question comes through for me to I don't
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Speaker 2: know if girls, is it in your inboxes, Like oh
18:02
Speaker 2: my gosh, I can't even walk in heells dancing heels.
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Speaker 2: When I was more heavily pregnised, I didn't wear heels. Yeah,
18:08
Speaker 2: and there was times where I had a heel that broke,
18:09
Speaker 2: so I just went their feet and you don't have
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Speaker 2: to wear heels. Same with the girls that were Laudree,
18:13
Speaker 2: you don't have to wear Laingdree. When they just started
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Speaker 2: wearing more Laundree style outfits like only the last couple
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Speaker 2: of months. Before that, I was an active wear every
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Speaker 2: single class until I realized I was like the only
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Speaker 2: one inactive wear. But I just didn't feel quite comfortable
18:24
Speaker 2: to go in laundre yet. So I just want to
18:26
Speaker 2: active wear. Yeah, so whatever you're comfortable with is perfect.
18:29
Speaker 2: You don't have to do what every other girl's doing.
18:31
Speaker 2: And also the girls that go on their g strings
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Speaker 2: and bras, I'm like, fuck yeah, yeah, I love.
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Speaker 4: Her because they feel safe and confident aspiring.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like you know, no matter like I said before,
18:39
Speaker 2: no matter what they walk alive with their size, or
18:41
Speaker 2: how long they've been dancing for, they're just there to
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Speaker 2: like express in what they wear and how they move, and.
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Speaker 1: We need more of that.
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Speaker 4: I agree.
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Speaker 1: You watch the little kids dance, like when I watched
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Speaker 1: Tyler dance. Yeah, she's just like she's living.
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Speaker 2: It's just like her whole body's moving like there's no
18:55
Speaker 2: thought of it and she's just going with whatever her
18:57
Speaker 2: body does. It's so beautiful to watch because she's not
18:59
Speaker 2: in here. Yeah, she's not in her head, she's fully
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Speaker 2: in her body, just listening to the sound of the music.
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Speaker 4: Now I want to go to a dance class I know,
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Speaker 4: get me the energy.
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Speaker 4: Yes please just say dancing. Don't think about it.
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Speaker 4: Bye.