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E 289: How to Rewrite Your Story and Heal from Burnout | Dr. Karen Parker · Adult Child of Dysfunction

• 0:47
  Well,
• 0:47
  hello
• 0:47
  everybody.
• 0:48
  Welcome
• 0:48
  back
• 0:48
  to
• 0:49
  another
• 0:49
  episode
• 0:49
  of
• 0:49
  Adult
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  Child
• 0:50
  of
• 0:50
  Dysfunction.
• 0:51
  Today
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  we
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  have
• 0:52
  with
• 0:52
  us
• 0:52
  Dr.
• 0:52
  Karen
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  Parker.
• 0:53
  She's
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  a
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  leading
• 0:54
  voice
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  in
• 0:55
  the
• 0:55
  field
• 0:55
  of
• 0:55
  human
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  design
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  and
• 0:56
  the
• 0:56
  founder
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  of
• 0:57
  Quantum
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  Human
• 0:58
  Design,
• 0:58
  a
• 0:59
  revolutionary
• 0:59
  system
• 1:00
  that
• 1:00
  blends
• 1:01
  science
• 1:01
  and
• 1:01
  spirituality
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  to
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  help
• 1:02
  people
• 1:03
  heal
• 1:03
  from
• 1:03
  burnout
• 1:04
  and
• 1:04
  reclaim
• 1:04
  their
• 1:05
  vitality.
• 1:05
  With
• 1:06
  over
• 1:06
  three
• 1:06
  decades
• 1:07
  of
• 1:07
  experience
• 1:07
  as
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  a
• 1:08
  human
• 1:08
  design
• 1:08
  educator,
• 1:09
  TEDx
• 1:09
  speaker
• 1:10
  and
• 1:10
  best
• 1:10
  selling
• 1:11
  authority,
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  she
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  has
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  guided
• 1:12
  thousands
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  worldwide
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  to
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  realign
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  with
• 1:15
  their
• 1:15
  authentic
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  selves
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  and
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  rediscover
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  their
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  creative
• 1:17
  powers.
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  Her
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  work
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  integrates
• 1:19
  insights
• 1:19
  from
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  quantum
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  physics,
• 1:21
  epigenetics
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  and
• 1:22
  narrative
• 1:23
  coaching
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  to
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  empower
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  lasting
• 1:24
  transformation
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  and
• 1:25
  resilience.
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  Welcome,
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  Dr.
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  Karen.
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  Thank
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  you.
• 1:28
  Thank
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  you
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  for
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  having
• 1:29
  me.
• 1:30
  Oh
• 1:30
  yeah,
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  you're
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  very
• 1:30
  welcome.
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  So
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  I
• 1:31
  wanted
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  to
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  ask
• 1:32
  you,
• 1:32
  I
• 1:32
  was
• 1:32
  actually
• 1:32
  looking
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  over
• 1:33
  this
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  before,
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  and
• 1:33
  before
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  we
• 1:34
  even
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  jump
• 1:34
  in,
• 1:34
  we're
• 1:35
  going
• 1:35
  to
• 1:35
  jump
• 1:35
  right
• 1:36
  in
• 1:36
  because
• 1:36
  your
• 1:37
  story
• 1:37
  is
• 1:37
  going
• 1:37
  to
• 1:37
  be
• 1:38
  sprinkled
• 1:38
  right
• 1:38
  all
• 1:39
  throughout
• 1:39
  this
• 1:39
  whole
• 1:39
  thing,
• 1:40
  how
• 1:40
  you
• 1:40
  got
• 1:40
  where
• 1:40
  you
• 1:41
  are
• 1:41
  and
• 1:41
  all
• 1:41
  that
• 1:41
  good
• 1:41
  stuff.
• 1:42
  But
• 1:42
  I
• 1:42
  wanted
• 1:43
  to
• 1:43
  ask
• 1:43
  you,
• 1:43
  it
• 1:44
  says
• 1:44
  you're
• 1:44
  the
• 1:44
  founder
• 1:44
  of
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  Quantum
• 1:45
  Human
• 1:45
  Design.
• 1:46
  Is
• 1:46
  that
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  your
• 1:46
  company?
• 1:47
  That
• 1:47
  is
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  my
• 1:48
  company,
• 1:48
  yes.
• 1:49
  Okay,
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  okay.
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  Because
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  I
• 1:50
  was
• 1:50
  like,
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  I
• 1:51
  haven't
• 1:52
  heard
• 1:52
  that
• 1:52
  exact
• 1:52
  term
• 1:53
  as
• 1:53
  far,
• 1:53
  you
• 1:53
  know,
• 1:54
  as
• 1:54
  far
• 1:54
  as,
• 1:54
  like
• 1:54
  I've
• 1:55
  heard
• 1:55
  of
• 1:55
  human
• 1:55
  design,
• 1:55
  I've
• 1:56
  heard
• 1:56
  of
• 1:56
  quantum
• 1:56
  physics.
• 1:57
  So
• 1:57
  I
• 1:57
  guess
• 1:57
  you
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  just
• 1:57
  kind
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  of
• 1:58
  encapsulated
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  it
• 1:59
  all
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  in
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  one.
• 2:00
  Yeah.
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  So
• 2:02
  talk
• 2:03
  about,
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  let's,
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  let's
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  jump
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  right
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  in
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  and
• 2:04
  talk
• 2:04
  about
• 2:05
  how
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  you
• 2:05
  got
• 2:05
  interested
• 2:06
  in
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  this
• 2:06
  field.
• 2:08
  Well,
• 2:08
  it's
• 2:09
  a,
• 2:09
  it's
• 2:10
  a
• 2:10
  long
• 2:10
  story
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  because
• 2:10
  I've
• 2:10
  been
• 2:11
  here
• 2:11
  for
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  a
• 2:11
  while,
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  so
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  I'm
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  old.
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  But
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  you
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  know,
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  I'll
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  say
• 2:14
  it
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  really,
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  it
• 2:16
  started
• 2:16
  my
• 2:16
  journey,
• 2:17
  started
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  in
• 2:18
  the
• 2:18
  very
• 2:18
  beginning
• 2:18
  of
• 2:19
  my
• 2:19
  career.
• 2:19
  I
• 2:20
  was
• 2:20
  a
• 2:20
  nurse
• 2:20
  by
• 2:21
  training.
• 2:21
  I
• 2:21
  was
• 2:21
  a
• 2:21
  midwife.
• 2:22
  And
• 2:22
  at
• 2:23
  that
• 2:23
  time,
• 2:23
  this
• 2:23
  was
• 2:23
  in
• 2:24
  the
• 2:24
  early
• 2:24
  90s,
• 2:26
  late
• 2:26
  age,
• 2:26
  early
• 2:27
  90s,
• 2:27
  I
• 2:27
  was
• 2:28
  doing
• 2:28
  home
• 2:28
  birth.
• 2:29
  I
• 2:29
  had
• 2:29
  a
• 2:29
  home
• 2:29
  birth
• 2:29
  practice
• 2:30
  which
• 2:30
  was
• 2:30
  not
• 2:31
  on
• 2:31
  trend
• 2:31
  at
• 2:31
  that
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  time.
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  And
• 2:34
  when
• 2:34
  I
• 2:34
  was
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  working
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  with
• 2:35
  my
• 2:35
  clients,
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  I
• 2:36
  started
• 2:36
  to
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  realize
• 2:37
  that
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  I
• 2:38
  could
• 2:38
  almost
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  predict
• 2:39
  who
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  was
• 2:40
  going
• 2:40
  to
• 2:40
  have
• 2:40
  complications
• 2:41
  during
• 2:41
  the
• 2:41
  birth
• 2:42
  process
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  and
• 2:42
  who
• 2:43
  was
• 2:43
  going
• 2:44
  to
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  have
• 2:44
  a
• 2:44
  good
• 2:44
  birth.
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  And
• 2:45
  it
• 2:46
  kind
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  of
• 2:46
  boiled
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  down
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  to
• 2:47
  I
• 2:48
  could
• 2:48
  hear
• 2:48
  in
• 2:48
  people's
• 2:49
  narrative,
• 2:49
  in
• 2:50
  their
• 2:50
  story
• 2:50
  that
• 2:50
  they
• 2:50
  were
• 2:51
  telling
• 2:51
  that
• 2:52
  certain
• 2:53
  aspects
• 2:53
  of
• 2:53
  their
• 2:53
  belief
• 2:54
  systems
• 2:54
  and
• 2:54
  their
• 2:55
  personal
• 2:55
  narrative
• 2:55
  was
• 2:56
  kind
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  of
• 2:56
  predisposing
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  them
• 2:57
  to
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  having
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  challenges
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  during
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  labor.
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  I,
• 3:01
  that,
• 3:02
  that
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  just
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  sort
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  of
• 3:02
  sparked
• 3:03
  my
• 3:03
  attention.
• 3:03
  And
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  then
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  I,
• 3:04
  I
• 3:04
  sort
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  of
• 3:05
  stopped
• 3:05
  having
• 3:05
  a
• 3:05
  midwifery
• 3:06
  practice
• 3:06
  because
• 3:06
  I
• 3:07
  ended
• 3:07
  up
• 3:07
  having
• 3:08
  four,
• 3:08
  eventually
• 3:09
  five
• 3:09
  kids
• 3:09
  of
• 3:09
  my
• 3:10
  own.
• 3:10
  And
• 3:10
  that
• 3:10
  was
• 3:10
  hard
• 3:10
  to
• 3:10
  balance.
• 3:11
  That
• 3:11
  But.
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  But
• 3:12
  that
• 3:12
  information
• 3:13
  kind
• 3:13
  of
• 3:13
  stayed
• 3:13
  within
• 3:13
  me
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  because
• 3:14
  I
• 3:14
  studied
• 3:14
  life
• 3:15
  coaching
• 3:15
  after
• 3:15
  that
• 3:15
  and
• 3:16
  became
• 3:16
  a
• 3:16
  Life
• 3:16
  coach
• 3:16
  in
• 3:17
  1998,
• 3:18
  and
• 3:19
  everything
• 3:19
  that
• 3:19
  I
• 3:19
  sort
• 3:20
  of
• 3:20
  had
• 3:20
  attuned
• 3:21
  to
• 3:21
  when
• 3:21
  I
• 3:21
  was
• 3:21
  listening
• 3:22
  to
• 3:22
  people's
• 3:22
  stories
• 3:22
  as
• 3:23
  a
• 3:23
  midwife
• 3:24
  also
• 3:24
  applied.
• 3:25
  Excuse
• 3:25
  me,
• 3:25
  Also
• 3:26
  applied
• 3:26
  to
• 3:26
  coaching.
• 3:27
  I
• 3:27
  could
• 3:27
  hear
• 3:28
  in
• 3:28
  people's
• 3:29
  stories.
• 3:29
  Excuse
• 3:30
  me,
• 3:33
  I
• 3:34
  could
• 3:34
  hear
• 3:34
  in
• 3:34
  people's
• 3:35
  stories
• 3:35
  what
• 3:35
  was
• 3:36
  going
• 3:36
  on
• 3:36
  with
• 3:37
  their
• 3:37
  relationship
• 3:38
  with
• 3:38
  money,
• 3:38
  their
• 3:39
  relationship
• 3:39
  with
• 3:40
  their
• 3:40
  work,
• 3:41
  or
• 3:41
  with
• 3:41
  their
• 3:42
  people
• 3:42
  in
• 3:42
  their
• 3:42
  lives
• 3:43
  that
• 3:43
  they
• 3:43
  loved,
• 3:43
  what
• 3:44
  was
• 3:44
  going
• 3:44
  on
• 3:44
  with
• 3:44
  their
• 3:44
  body.
• 3:45
  You
• 3:45
  could
• 3:46
  tell
• 3:46
  in
• 3:46
  the
• 3:47
  story
• 3:47
  that
• 3:47
  they
• 3:47
  were
• 3:47
  telling
• 3:48
  about
• 3:48
  who
• 3:48
  they
• 3:48
  are
• 3:49
  and
• 3:49
  how
• 3:49
  they
• 3:49
  are,
• 3:50
  where
• 3:50
  there
• 3:50
  was
• 3:50
  a
• 3:51
  glitch
• 3:51
  in
• 3:51
  the
• 3:51
  program,
• 3:52
  if
• 3:52
  you
• 3:52
  will,
• 3:53
  a
• 3:53
  place
• 3:53
  where
• 3:54
  some
• 3:54
  aspect
• 3:55
  of
• 3:55
  their
• 3:55
  narrative
• 3:55
  was
• 3:56
  keeping
• 3:56
  them
• 3:57
  in
• 3:57
  a
• 3:57
  victim
• 3:58
  story
• 3:58
  of
• 3:59
  some
• 3:59
  kind.
• 4:00
  So,
• 4:00
  again,
• 4:00
  that
• 4:00
  kind
• 4:01
  of
• 4:01
  stuck
• 4:01
  in
• 4:01
  my
• 4:01
  mind.
• 4:02
  And
• 4:02
  somewhere
• 4:03
  around
• 4:03
  2000,
• 4:04
  I
• 4:05
  encountered
• 4:05
  human
• 4:06
  design,
• 4:06
  traditional
• 4:07
  human
• 4:07
  design,
• 4:08
  and
• 4:08
  actually
• 4:09
  began
• 4:09
  working
• 4:10
  for
• 4:11
  Human
• 4:11
  Design
• 4:11
  America,
• 4:12
  which
• 4:12
  at
• 4:12
  that
• 4:12
  time
• 4:13
  was
• 4:13
  the
• 4:13
  headquarters
• 4:13
  for
• 4:13
  human
• 4:14
  design
• 4:14
  in
• 4:14
  the
• 4:15
  United
• 4:15
  States.
• 4:16
  And,
• 4:17
  you
• 4:17
  know,
• 4:17
  human
• 4:18
  design
• 4:18
  is
• 4:18
  a
• 4:18
  synthesis
• 4:19
  of
• 4:19
  Eastern
• 4:19
  and
• 4:19
  Western
• 4:20
  astrology,
• 4:20
  the
• 4:20
  Chinese
• 4:21
  I
• 4:21
  Ching,
• 4:21
  the
• 4:21
  Hindu
• 4:22
  chakra
• 4:22
  system
• 4:22
  system,
• 4:22
  Judea
• 4:23
  Kabbalah,
• 4:23
  and
• 4:24
  quantum
• 4:24
  physics.
• 4:25
  Really
• 4:25
  what
• 4:25
  it
• 4:25
  is,
• 4:26
  it's
• 4:26
  a.
• 4:26
  It's
• 4:27
  a
• 4:27
  synthesis
• 4:27
  of
• 4:28
  ancient
• 4:28
  and
• 4:29
  modern
• 4:29
  archetypes
• 4:30
  or
• 4:30
  ancient
• 4:30
  and
• 4:31
  modern
• 4:31
  parts
• 4:31
  of
• 4:32
  the
• 4:32
  human
• 4:32
  story.
• 4:33
  And
• 4:33
  what
• 4:33
  I
• 4:34
  really
• 4:34
  loved
• 4:34
  about
• 4:34
  it
• 4:35
  was
• 4:35
  that
• 4:35
  it
• 4:35
  gave
• 4:36
  me
• 4:36
  a
• 4:37
  very
• 4:37
  systematic
• 4:38
  way
• 4:38
  to
• 4:39
  start
• 4:39
  hearing
• 4:39
  people's
• 4:40
  stories
• 4:40
  and
• 4:41
  to
• 4:41
  begin
• 4:41
  to
• 4:41
  see
• 4:42
  where
• 4:42
  was
• 4:42
  the
• 4:42
  glitch
• 4:42
  in
• 4:43
  the
• 4:43
  story.
• 4:44
  And
• 4:44
  so
• 4:44
  I
• 4:44
  started
• 4:44
  really
• 4:45
  experimenting
• 4:46
  with
• 4:47
  using
• 4:47
  it
• 4:47
  as
• 4:47
  a
• 4:48
  storytelling
• 4:48
  tool
• 4:48
  and
• 4:49
  using
• 4:49
  it
• 4:50
  as
• 4:50
  a
• 4:50
  tool
• 4:50
  to
• 4:50
  really
• 4:51
  help
• 4:51
  people
• 4:51
  dive
• 4:51
  into.
• 4:52
  Where
• 4:52
  are
• 4:53
  you
• 4:53
  holding
• 4:53
  yourself
• 4:53
  back?
• 4:54
  Where
• 4:54
  are.
• 4:55
  Is
• 4:55
  your
• 4:55
  story
• 4:56
  of
• 4:56
  what's
• 4:57
  happened
• 4:57
  to
• 4:57
  you
• 4:58
  from
• 4:58
  the
• 4:58
  past
• 4:59
  caused
• 4:59
  you
• 4:59
  to
• 4:59
  interpret
• 5:00
  that
• 5:00
  story
• 5:00
  in
• 5:01
  a
• 5:01
  specific
• 5:01
  way?
• 5:01
  Where
• 5:01
  has
• 5:02
  the
• 5:02
  way
• 5:02
  you've
• 5:02
  experienced
• 5:04
  energy
• 5:04
  and
• 5:05
  where
• 5:05
  have
• 5:06
  your
• 5:06
  own
• 5:06
  lived
• 5:06
  experience
• 5:07
  causes
• 5:08
  have
• 5:08
  caused
• 5:08
  you
• 5:08
  to
• 5:08
  internalize
• 5:09
  the
• 5:09
  message
• 5:10
  that
• 5:10
  somehow
• 5:10
  or
• 5:10
  in
• 5:10
  some
• 5:11
  way
• 5:11
  it's
• 5:11
  not
• 5:11
  okay
• 5:12
  or
• 5:12
  safe
• 5:12
  for
• 5:12
  you
• 5:12
  to
• 5:12
  be
• 5:12
  who
• 5:13
  you
• 5:13
  are
• 5:13
  or
• 5:13
  how
• 5:13
  you
• 5:14
  are
• 5:14
  in
• 5:14
  the
• 5:14
  world.
• 5:15
  Eventually,
• 5:16
  over
• 5:16
  time,
• 5:18
  I
• 5:18
  started
• 5:18
  thinking
• 5:19
  that
• 5:20
  I
• 5:20
  started
• 5:20
  really
• 5:20
  exploring
• 5:21
  that
• 5:21
  it
• 5:21
  was
• 5:21
  great
• 5:22
  to
• 5:22
  look
• 5:22
  at
• 5:23
  the
• 5:23
  parts
• 5:23
  of
• 5:23
  the
• 5:23
  story
• 5:24
  that
• 5:24
  weren't
• 5:24
  working.
• 5:25
  And
• 5:25
  that
• 5:26
  was,
• 5:26
  of
• 5:26
  course,
• 5:26
  always
• 5:26
  an
• 5:27
  important
• 5:27
  entry
• 5:28
  point
• 5:28
  into
• 5:29
  decoding
• 5:30
  the
• 5:30
  story
• 5:30
  that
• 5:30
  you're
• 5:31
  telling.
• 5:32
  But
• 5:32
  I
• 5:32
  also
• 5:33
  started
• 5:33
  to
• 5:33
  see
• 5:33
  that
• 5:34
  my
• 5:34
  clients
• 5:35
  started
• 5:35
  shifting
• 5:36
  some.
• 5:36
  Around
• 5:36
  2010,
• 5:37
  I
• 5:37
  would
• 5:37
  say
• 5:37
  my
• 5:38
  clients
• 5:38
  shifted,
• 5:39
  and
• 5:40
  I
• 5:40
  started
• 5:40
  to
• 5:40
  get
• 5:40
  more
• 5:41
  and
• 5:41
  more
• 5:41
  clients
• 5:41
  who
• 5:42
  had
• 5:43
  already
• 5:43
  done
• 5:43
  a
• 5:43
  lot
• 5:43
  of
• 5:44
  inner
• 5:44
  work.
• 5:44
  They'd
• 5:44
  done
• 5:45
  a
• 5:45
  lot
• 5:45
  of
• 5:45
  healing,
• 5:45
  or
• 5:45
  they'd
• 5:46
  gone
• 5:46
  to
• 5:46
  therapy,
• 5:46
  or
• 5:47
  they'd
• 5:47
  Done
• 5:48
  a
• 5:48
  lot
• 5:48
  of
• 5:48
  personal
• 5:48
  growth
• 5:49
  and
• 5:49
  development,
• 5:50
  and
• 5:50
  they
• 5:50
  were
• 5:50
  telling
• 5:51
  me
• 5:51
  that.
• 5:51
  I
• 5:52
  love
• 5:52
  this
• 5:52
  idea
• 5:52
  of
• 5:53
  decoding
• 5:53
  the
• 5:53
  story.
• 5:53
  I
• 5:54
  feel
• 5:54
  like
• 5:54
  I've
• 5:54
  already
• 5:54
  kind
• 5:55
  of
• 5:55
  done
• 5:55
  that.
• 5:55
  I
• 5:56
  know
• 5:56
  there's
• 5:57
  something
• 5:57
  more
• 5:57
  here
• 5:58
  with
• 5:58
  human
• 5:58
  design,
• 5:58
  but
• 5:59
  I
• 5:59
  don't
• 5:59
  quite
• 5:59
  know
• 5:59
  what
• 5:59
  it
• 6:00
  was,
• 6:00
  what
• 6:00
  it
• 6:00
  is.
• 6:00
  And
• 6:01
  so
• 6:01
  I
• 6:02
  began
• 6:02
  to
• 6:02
  take
• 6:02
  the
• 6:03
  human
• 6:03
  design
• 6:03
  system
• 6:04
  apart
• 6:05
  and
• 6:05
  look
• 6:06
  at
• 6:06
  all
• 6:06
  of
• 6:06
  those
• 6:06
  ancient
• 6:07
  and
• 6:07
  modern
• 6:08
  archetypes
• 6:08
  or
• 6:08
  story
• 6:09
  parts,
• 6:10
  and
• 6:10
  started
• 6:10
  to
• 6:11
  really
• 6:11
  explore
• 6:12
  the
• 6:12
  question,
• 6:13
  if.
• 6:13
  If
• 6:13
  this.
• 6:13
  If
• 6:14
  these
• 6:14
  story
• 6:14
  parts
• 6:15
  are
• 6:15
  the
• 6:15
  baseline,
• 6:16
  how
• 6:16
  do
• 6:17
  we
• 6:17
  go
• 6:17
  from
• 6:17
  decoding
• 6:18
  the
• 6:18
  story
• 6:19
  to
• 6:19
  actually
• 6:19
  recoding
• 6:20
  it
• 6:20
  towards
• 6:20
  optimization
• 6:21
  and
• 6:22
  thriving
• 6:22
  rather
• 6:22
  than
• 6:23
  just
• 6:23
  surviving
• 6:23
  in
• 6:24
  life?
• 6:24
  That's
• 6:25
  the
• 6:25
  short
• 6:25
  version.
• 6:28
  And
• 6:28
  I
• 6:28
  mean,
• 6:29
  it
• 6:29
  takes
• 6:29
  a
• 6:29
  long.
• 6:29
  I
• 6:30
  can
• 6:30
  only
• 6:30
  imagine
• 6:30
  it
• 6:30
  takes
• 6:31
  a
• 6:31
  long
• 6:31
  time
• 6:31
  because
• 6:31
  I
• 6:31
  know
• 6:32
  I
• 6:32
  saw
• 6:32
  my
• 6:32
  human
• 6:32
  design
• 6:33
  chart,
• 6:33
  and
• 6:33
  I
• 6:33
  have
• 6:34
  a
• 6:34
  lady
• 6:34
  that
• 6:35
  I
• 6:35
  deal
• 6:35
  with,
• 6:35
  and
• 6:35
  she's
• 6:35
  a
• 6:36
  dear
• 6:36
  friend,
• 6:36
  but
• 6:36
  she
• 6:36
  will
• 6:37
  literally
• 6:37
  say
• 6:37
  to
• 6:38
  me,
• 6:38
  oh,
• 6:38
  well,
• 6:38
  you're
• 6:39
  a
• 6:39
  five,
• 6:39
  two.
• 6:39
  This,
• 6:40
  that.
• 6:40
  That's
• 6:40
  why
• 6:40
  you
• 6:41
  do
• 6:41
  this,
• 6:41
  and
• 6:41
  that's
• 6:41
  why
• 6:42
  you
• 6:42
  do
• 6:42
  that.
• 6:42
  And.
• 6:43
  And
• 6:43
  I
• 6:43
  always
• 6:43
  kind
• 6:43
  of
• 6:43
  wondered
• 6:44
  that,
• 6:44
  like,
• 6:44
  okay,
• 6:45
  so
• 6:45
  if
• 6:45
  I'm
• 6:45
  born
• 6:46
  and
• 6:46
  it's
• 6:47
  astrological,
• 6:48
  it's,
• 6:48
  you
• 6:48
  know,
• 6:48
  where
• 6:49
  the
• 6:49
  stars
• 6:49
  were
• 6:49
  on
• 6:50
  that
• 6:50
  moment,
• 6:50
  that
• 6:50
  time,
• 6:50
  that
• 6:51
  day,
• 6:51
  where,
• 6:51
  you
• 6:52
  know,
• 6:52
  where
• 6:52
  I
• 6:52
  was
• 6:53
  born.
• 6:53
  Because
• 6:53
  I
• 6:53
  remember
• 6:54
  setting
• 6:54
  up
• 6:54
  my
• 6:54
  chart.
• 6:55
  I
• 6:55
  think
• 6:55
  she
• 6:55
  only
• 6:55
  needed
• 6:55
  my
• 6:56
  birth
• 6:56
  location,
• 6:57
  my
• 6:57
  date,
• 6:57
  my
• 6:58
  time.
• 6:58
  Like,
• 6:59
  there
• 6:59
  was
• 6:59
  only
• 6:59
  a
• 6:59
  few
• 6:59
  things
• 7:00
  she
• 7:00
  needed.
• 7:01
  And
• 7:01
  I
• 7:01
  thought,
• 7:02
  well,
• 7:03
  how
• 7:03
  does
• 7:03
  that
• 7:03
  play
• 7:04
  into
• 7:04
  the
• 7:05
  fact
• 7:05
  that.
• 7:06
  How
• 7:06
  does
• 7:06
  that
• 7:06
  play
• 7:07
  into
• 7:07
  what
• 7:07
  my
• 7:08
  experience
• 7:08
  experiences?
• 7:09
  How
• 7:09
  did
• 7:09
  that
• 7:09
  change
• 7:10
  that?
• 7:10
  Because,
• 7:11
  like,
• 7:11
  I
• 7:11
  look
• 7:12
  at
• 7:12
  me
• 7:12
  and
• 7:12
  I'm
• 7:12
  like,
• 7:12
  oh,
• 7:12
  I
• 7:13
  like
• 7:13
  this
• 7:13
  and
• 7:13
  I
• 7:13
  like
• 7:14
  that.
• 7:14
  But
• 7:14
  I'm
• 7:14
  like,
• 7:14
  but
• 7:15
  I'm
• 7:15
  afraid
• 7:15
  of
• 7:15
  this
• 7:16
  because
• 7:16
  of
• 7:17
  my
• 7:17
  human
• 7:17
  experiences.
• 7:18
  So
• 7:18
  how
• 7:18
  do
• 7:19
  they.
• 7:19
  How
• 7:19
  does
• 7:19
  that
• 7:19
  work
• 7:20
  together?
• 7:21
  I.
• 7:21
  That's.
• 7:21
  That
• 7:22
  is
• 7:22
  the
• 7:22
  question,
• 7:22
  right?
• 7:24
  Because.
• 7:24
  Because
• 7:25
  this
• 7:26
  is
• 7:26
  probably
• 7:26
  the
• 7:26
  part
• 7:26
  where
• 7:27
  I'm
• 7:27
  a
• 7:27
  little
• 7:27
  bit
• 7:27
  of
• 7:27
  a
• 7:27
  renegade
• 7:28
  in
• 7:28
  the
• 7:28
  human
• 7:28
  design
• 7:29
  community.
• 7:30
  And
• 7:30
  I
• 7:30
  don't
• 7:30
  teach
• 7:31
  that
• 7:31
  the
• 7:31
  chart
• 7:31
  explains
• 7:32
  everything,
• 7:32
  because
• 7:33
  when
• 7:33
  we
• 7:34
  look
• 7:34
  at
• 7:35
  the
• 7:35
  synthesis
• 7:35
  of
• 7:36
  the
• 7:36
  story
• 7:36
  that
• 7:36
  makes
• 7:37
  us
• 7:37
  who
• 7:37
  we
• 7:37
  are,
• 7:38
  there's
• 7:38
  so
• 7:38
  much
• 7:39
  more
• 7:39
  than
• 7:39
  just
• 7:40
  your
• 7:40
  astrology
• 7:40
  or
• 7:41
  whatever
• 7:41
  else
• 7:41
  you
• 7:41
  want
• 7:42
  to
• 7:42
  put
• 7:42
  into
• 7:42
  that.
• 7:42
  Right?
• 7:43
  That's
• 7:43
  an
• 7:43
  aspect
• 7:44
  of
• 7:44
  it.
• 7:44
  But
• 7:44
  we
• 7:45
  can't
• 7:45
  not
• 7:45
  look
• 7:45
  at
• 7:46
  lived
• 7:46
  experiences.
• 7:47
  We
• 7:47
  can't
• 7:48
  look
• 7:48
  at
• 7:49
  our
• 7:50
  conditioning
• 7:50
  that
• 7:50
  comes
• 7:51
  from
• 7:51
  our.
• 7:51
  Our.
• 7:52
  Our
• 7:52
  familiar,
• 7:52
  you
• 7:52
  know,
• 7:53
  our
• 7:53
  family
• 7:53
  lineage
• 7:53
  or
• 7:54
  our
• 7:54
  ancestral
• 7:54
  lineage.
• 7:55
  Because
• 7:56
  we
• 7:56
  always
• 7:56
  have
• 7:56
  to
• 7:57
  go
• 7:57
  back
• 7:57
  and
• 7:57
  think
• 7:57
  about,
• 7:58
  you
• 7:58
  know,
• 7:58
  our
• 7:58
  nervous
• 7:59
  systems
• 7:59
  are
• 7:59
  inherited
• 8:00
  from
• 8:00
  our
• 8:00
  parents,
• 8:01
  and
• 8:01
  so
• 8:02
  we
• 8:02
  already
• 8:02
  are
• 8:02
  born
• 8:03
  predisposed
• 8:04
  to
• 8:05
  react
• 8:06
  to
• 8:06
  life
• 8:06
  in
• 8:06
  certain
• 8:07
  ways.
• 8:08
  You
• 8:08
  know,
• 8:08
  so
• 8:08
  you
• 8:08
  integrate
• 8:09
  that
• 8:09
  with
• 8:09
  lived
• 8:10
  experiences
• 8:10
  and
• 8:10
  how
• 8:11
  your
• 8:11
  energy
• 8:11
  works.
• 8:11
  And
• 8:12
  then
• 8:12
  of
• 8:12
  course,
• 8:13
  the
• 8:13
  places
• 8:14
  where
• 8:14
  as
• 8:15
  a
• 8:15
  result
• 8:15
  of
• 8:15
  our
• 8:16
  lived
• 8:16
  experiences,
• 8:17
  maybe
• 8:17
  we
• 8:17
  did
• 8:17
  not
• 8:18
  get
• 8:18
  our
• 8:19
  developmental
• 8:20
  needs
• 8:20
  met
• 8:20
  in
• 8:20
  an
• 8:21
  appropriate
• 8:21
  way.
• 8:22
  So,
• 8:22
  for
• 8:22
  example,
• 8:23
  if
• 8:23
  we
• 8:23
  look
• 8:23
  at
• 8:23
  child
• 8:24
  development
• 8:24
  and
• 8:24
  we
• 8:25
  see
• 8:25
  that
• 8:26
  children
• 8:26
  go
• 8:27
  through
• 8:27
  two
• 8:27
  distinctly
• 8:28
  different
• 8:29
  cycles
• 8:30
  in
• 8:30
  their
• 8:30
  maturation
• 8:31
  from
• 8:31
  birth
• 8:32
  to
• 8:32
  adulthood,
• 8:33
  where
• 8:33
  they're
• 8:33
  here
• 8:34
  to
• 8:34
  learn
• 8:34
  about
• 8:34
  power,
• 8:35
  right?
• 8:35
  Two
• 8:35
  year
• 8:36
  olds
• 8:36
  will
• 8:36
  say,
• 8:36
  no,
• 8:37
  I
• 8:37
  won't.
• 8:37
  You
• 8:37
  can't
• 8:38
  make
• 8:38
  me.
• 8:38
  Right?
• 8:38
  And.
• 8:39
  And
• 8:39
  then
• 8:40
  as
• 8:40
  young
• 8:40
  teens,
• 8:40
  we
• 8:41
  go
• 8:41
  through
• 8:41
  a
• 8:41
  second
• 8:41
  cycle
• 8:42
  and
• 8:42
  if
• 8:42
  we
• 8:43
  don't
• 8:43
  learn
• 8:43
  in
• 8:44
  those
• 8:44
  seasons
• 8:45
  of
• 8:45
  development
• 8:46
  how
• 8:46
  to
• 8:47
  appropriately
• 8:47
  get
• 8:48
  power,
• 8:49
  then
• 8:49
  we
• 8:49
  carry
• 8:49
  disempowerment,
• 8:50
  or
• 8:51
  the
• 8:51
  theme
• 8:51
  of
• 8:51
  disempowerment
• 8:52
  with
• 8:52
  us
• 8:52
  into
• 8:53
  our
• 8:53
  adulthood.
• 8:54
  So
• 8:54
  I
• 8:54
  think
• 8:55
  there's
• 8:55
  a
• 8:55
  danger
• 8:56
  of
• 8:56
  looking
• 8:57
  at
• 8:57
  a
• 8:57
  tool
• 8:57
  like
• 8:58
  human
• 8:58
  design
• 8:58
  or
• 8:59
  any
• 8:59
  other
• 8:59
  kind
• 8:59
  of
• 8:59
  personality
• 9:00
  assessment
• 9:00
  system
• 9:00
  system
• 9:01
  as
• 9:01
  a
• 9:01
  standalone
• 9:02
  explanation.
• 9:03
  But
• 9:04
  here's
• 9:04
  where
• 9:04
  it
• 9:04
  gets
• 9:05
  interesting.
• 9:05
  And
• 9:05
  I
• 9:05
  think
• 9:05
  this
• 9:06
  is
• 9:06
  where
• 9:06
  it
• 9:06
  can
• 9:06
  be
• 9:07
  a
• 9:07
  really
• 9:07
  powerful
• 9:07
  tool.
• 9:08
  You
• 9:09
  know,
• 9:09
  do
• 9:09
  you
• 9:09
  have
• 9:09
  any
• 9:09
  siblings?
• 9:10
  Yes.
• 9:12
  So
• 9:13
  you
• 9:13
  may
• 9:13
  or
• 9:13
  may
• 9:13
  not
• 9:13
  have
• 9:14
  this
• 9:14
  experience.
• 9:14
  But
• 9:14
  I
• 9:15
  certainly
• 9:15
  would
• 9:15
  say
• 9:15
  in
• 9:15
  my
• 9:15
  family,
• 9:16
  when
• 9:16
  my
• 9:16
  siblings
• 9:17
  and
• 9:17
  I
• 9:17
  get
• 9:17
  around
• 9:17
  and
• 9:18
  talk
• 9:18
  to
• 9:18
  each
• 9:18
  other,
• 9:18
  it's
• 9:19
  almost
• 9:19
  sometimes
• 9:19
  as
• 9:20
  if
• 9:20
  we've
• 9:20
  been
• 9:20
  raised
• 9:20
  by
• 9:20
  different
• 9:21
  parents,
• 9:21
  even
• 9:21
  though
• 9:21
  technically
• 9:22
  we
• 9:22
  have
• 9:22
  the
• 9:22
  same
• 9:23
  parents,
• 9:23
  right?
• 9:23
  There's
• 9:23
  a
• 9:24
  different
• 9:24
  version
• 9:24
  of
• 9:24
  the
• 9:24
  story,
• 9:25
  there's
• 9:25
  a
• 9:25
  different
• 9:26
  internalization
• 9:26
  of
• 9:27
  the
• 9:27
  experience.
• 9:28
  And
• 9:28
  part
• 9:29
  of
• 9:29
  what
• 9:29
  happens
• 9:29
  is
• 9:30
  we
• 9:30
  can
• 9:30
  have
• 9:30
  the
• 9:31
  same
• 9:31
  experience,
• 9:32
  but
• 9:32
  because
• 9:33
  of
• 9:34
  the
• 9:34
  way
• 9:34
  in
• 9:34
  which
• 9:35
  our
• 9:35
  energy
• 9:35
  works,
• 9:36
  it
• 9:36
  causes
• 9:36
  us
• 9:36
  to
• 9:37
  interpret
• 9:37
  the
• 9:37
  experience
• 9:37
  and
• 9:38
  react
• 9:38
  to
• 9:38
  the
• 9:38
  experience
• 9:39
  differently.
• 9:39
  So
• 9:40
  for
• 9:40
  example,
• 9:41
  in
• 9:42
  human
• 9:42
  design,
• 9:43
  because
• 9:43
  human
• 9:43
  design
• 9:44
  really
• 9:44
  isn't
• 9:45
  a
• 9:45
  what,
• 9:45
  it's
• 9:45
  a
• 9:45
  how,
• 9:46
  it
• 9:46
  gives
• 9:46
  you
• 9:46
  a
• 9:47
  map
• 9:47
  for
• 9:48
  how
• 9:48
  your
• 9:48
  energy
• 9:48
  works.
• 9:50
  If
• 9:50
  in
• 9:50
  human
• 9:51
  design
• 9:51
  we
• 9:51
  can
• 9:52
  see
• 9:52
  through
• 9:52
  your
• 9:52
  chart
• 9:53
  that
• 9:53
  you
• 9:53
  are
• 9:53
  an
• 9:53
  emotional
• 9:54
  empath,
• 9:54
  and
• 9:54
  that's
• 9:55
  maybe
• 9:55
  about
• 9:55
  half
• 9:55
  of
• 9:55
  us,
• 9:56
  half
• 9:56
  of
• 9:56
  us
• 9:57
  walk
• 9:57
  into
• 9:57
  a
• 9:57
  room
• 9:58
  and
• 9:58
  we
• 9:58
  feel
• 9:59
  the
• 9:59
  emotional
• 10:00
  energy
• 10:00
  of
• 10:00
  the
• 10:00
  room.
• 10:01
  Now
• 10:01
  if
• 10:02
  you
• 10:02
  have
• 10:03
  that
• 10:03
  emotional
• 10:03
  empathy
• 10:04
  as
• 10:04
  part
• 10:04
  of
• 10:05
  your
• 10:05
  structural,
• 10:06
  energetic,
• 10:07
  structural
• 10:07
  framework,
• 10:08
  and
• 10:09
  you
• 10:09
  walk
• 10:09
  into
• 10:09
  a
• 10:10
  room,
• 10:10
  and
• 10:10
  let's
• 10:10
  say
• 10:11
  in
• 10:11
  addition
• 10:11
  to
• 10:12
  that,
• 10:13
  you
• 10:13
  have
• 10:13
  experiences,
• 10:14
  lived
• 10:15
  experiences
• 10:16
  that
• 10:16
  maybe
• 10:17
  were
• 10:17
  traumatic,
• 10:18
  and
• 10:19
  you
• 10:19
  walk
• 10:19
  into
• 10:20
  the
• 10:20
  room
• 10:20
  with
• 10:21
  not
• 10:21
  only
• 10:21
  just
• 10:22
  being
• 10:22
  an
• 10:22
  empath,
• 10:23
  but
• 10:23
  also
• 10:23
  now
• 10:23
  having
• 10:24
  a
• 10:24
  heightened
• 10:24
  sense,
• 10:25
  a
• 10:25
  hyper
• 10:26
  vigilance,
• 10:26
  right,
• 10:26
  because
• 10:27
  of
• 10:27
  trauma,
• 10:27
  you
• 10:28
  walk
• 10:28
  into
• 10:28
  that
• 10:28
  room,
• 10:29
  now
• 10:29
  you're
• 10:29
  an
• 10:29
  amplified
• 10:30
  empath,
• 10:31
  you
• 10:31
  may
• 10:32
  have
• 10:32
  learned
• 10:33
  to
• 10:33
  interpret
• 10:34
  that
• 10:35
  information
• 10:35
  in
• 10:36
  that
• 10:36
  room
• 10:36
  as
• 10:37
  a
• 10:37
  cue
• 10:37
  for
• 10:37
  you
• 10:38
  to
• 10:38
  adjust
• 10:39
  to
• 10:39
  the
• 10:39
  idea
• 10:39
  of,
• 10:40
  okay,
• 10:40
  what
• 10:40
  do
• 10:40
  I
• 10:41
  need
• 10:41
  to
• 10:41
  do?
• 10:41
  How
• 10:42
  do
• 10:42
  I
• 10:42
  need
• 10:42
  to
• 10:42
  manage
• 10:43
  myself,
• 10:43
  my
• 10:43
  behavior,
• 10:44
  my
• 10:44
  energy,
• 10:44
  so
• 10:45
  that
• 10:45
  I'm
• 10:45
  operating
• 10:46
  below
• 10:46
  the
• 10:46
  radar
• 10:47
  I'm
• 10:47
  not
• 10:47
  going
• 10:48
  to
• 10:48
  trigger
• 10:48
  anybody
• 10:48
  else
• 10:49
  in
• 10:49
  the
• 10:49
  room.
• 10:49
  I'm
• 10:49
  going
• 10:50
  to
• 10:50
  make
• 10:50
  nice.
• 10:50
  I'm
• 10:50
  going
• 10:51
  to
• 10:51
  be
• 10:51
  the
• 10:51
  people
• 10:51
  pleaser.
• 10:52
  I'm
• 10:52
  going
• 10:52
  to
• 10:52
  be
• 10:52
  the
• 10:52
  one
• 10:52
  that
• 10:52
  takes
• 10:52
  care
• 10:53
  of,
• 10:53
  of
• 10:53
  everybody
• 10:53
  in
• 10:53
  the
• 10:53
  room.
• 10:54
  And
• 10:54
  that
• 10:54
  becomes,
• 10:55
  not
• 10:55
  just,
• 10:56
  you
• 10:56
  know,
• 10:57
  not.
• 10:57
  That
• 10:57
  becomes
• 10:57
  a
• 10:58
  trauma
• 10:58
  response
• 10:59
  that
• 10:59
  is
• 11:00
  influenced
• 11:01
  by
• 11:01
  the
• 11:01
  way
• 11:02
  your
• 11:02
  energy
• 11:02
  works
• 11:02
  as
• 11:03
  well
• 11:03
  as
• 11:03
  your
• 11:03
  lived
• 11:04
  experiences.
• 11:04
  And
• 11:05
  I
• 11:05
  think
• 11:05
  when
• 11:05
  we
• 11:05
  interpret
• 11:06
  any
• 11:06
  kind
• 11:06
  of
• 11:06
  personality
• 11:07
  assessment
• 11:07
  system,
• 11:08
  we
• 11:08
  can't
• 11:08
  just
• 11:09
  look
• 11:09
  at
• 11:09
  the
• 11:09
  system.
• 11:09
  We
• 11:10
  have
• 11:10
  to
• 11:10
  look
• 11:10
  at
• 11:10
  the
• 11:10
  system
• 11:10
  within
• 11:11
  the
• 11:11
  context
• 11:11
  of
• 11:12
  somebody's
• 11:12
  lived
• 11:13
  experiences,
• 11:13
  for
• 11:13
  sure.
• 11:14
  Oh,
• 11:14
  absolutely.
• 11:15
  And
• 11:15
  it's
• 11:15
  funny
• 11:15
  that
• 11:15
  you
• 11:16
  mentioned
• 11:16
  that,
• 11:16
  because
• 11:16
  my
• 11:17
  brother
• 11:17
  and
• 11:17
  sister
• 11:18
  and
• 11:18
  I,
• 11:18
  we
• 11:18
  don't
• 11:18
  talk.
• 11:19
  I
• 11:19
  mean,
• 11:19
  I
• 11:19
  do
• 11:19
  podcasts,
• 11:20
  I'm
• 11:20
  void,
• 11:20
  I'm
• 11:21
  vocal,
• 11:21
  I
• 11:21
  speak
• 11:21
  everywhere.
• 11:22
  We
• 11:23
  don't
• 11:23
  talk
• 11:23
  about
• 11:23
  our
• 11:23
  past
• 11:24
  because
• 11:24
  I
• 11:24
  always
• 11:24
  say
• 11:25
  that,
• 11:25
  like,
• 11:25
  I'll
• 11:25
  talk
• 11:25
  about
• 11:26
  my
• 11:26
  younger
• 11:26
  sister,
• 11:26
  and
• 11:27
  I'm
• 11:27
  like,
• 11:27
  where
• 11:28
  was
• 11:28
  she
• 11:28
  when
• 11:28
  all
• 11:28
  this
• 11:29
  was
• 11:29
  happening?
• 11:30
  Like,
• 11:31
  I
• 11:31
  mean,
• 11:31
  like,
• 11:32
  and
• 11:32
  I'll
• 11:32
  talk
• 11:32
  to
• 11:32
  my
• 11:32
  brother.
• 11:33
  And
• 11:33
  I'm
• 11:33
  like,
• 11:33
  if
• 11:33
  you
• 11:33
  put
• 11:33
  us
• 11:33
  in
• 11:34
  three
• 11:34
  different
• 11:34
  rooms
• 11:34
  and
• 11:35
  ask
• 11:35
  the
• 11:35
  same
• 11:35
  question,
• 11:36
  there
• 11:36
  is
• 11:37
  no
• 11:37
  way
• 11:37
  you
• 11:37
  could
• 11:37
  convince
• 11:38
  anybody
• 11:39
  that
• 11:39
  we
• 11:39
  grew
• 11:39
  up
• 11:39
  in
• 11:39
  the
• 11:40
  same
• 11:40
  house.
• 11:40
  There's
• 11:41
  just
• 11:41
  no
• 11:41
  way.
• 11:42
  Yeah.
• 11:42
  And
• 11:43
  there's
• 11:43
  so
• 11:43
  many
• 11:44
  factors
• 11:44
  that
• 11:44
  go
• 11:44
  into
• 11:44
  that.
• 11:45
  Right.
• 11:45
  And
• 11:45
  some
• 11:45
  of
• 11:45
  it
• 11:45
  is
• 11:46
  the
• 11:46
  way
• 11:46
  in
• 11:46
  which
• 11:46
  you
• 11:47
  experienced
• 11:47
  it
• 11:47
  energetically.
• 11:48
  Some
• 11:48
  of
• 11:48
  it
• 11:48
  has
• 11:48
  to
• 11:49
  do
• 11:49
  with.
• 11:49
  With
• 11:49
  birth
• 11:49
  order,
• 11:49
  some
• 11:50
  it
• 11:50
  has
• 11:50
  to
• 11:50
  do
• 11:50
  with
• 11:50
  gender.
• 11:51
  There's
• 11:51
  so
• 11:51
  many
• 11:52
  factors
• 11:52
  that
• 11:52
  influence
• 11:53
  how
• 11:53
  we
• 11:53
  interpret
• 11:54
  things.
• 11:54
  But
• 11:55
  again,
• 11:55
  going
• 11:56
  back
• 11:56
  to
• 11:57
  the
• 11:57
  idea
• 11:58
  that
• 11:58
  when
• 11:59
  we
• 11:59
  step
• 11:59
  away
• 12:00
  into
• 12:00
  our
• 12:00
  adult
• 12:01
  lives
• 12:01
  and
• 12:02
  we
• 12:02
  begin
• 12:03
  to
• 12:03
  discover
• 12:04
  who
• 12:04
  we
• 12:04
  are
• 12:05
  independent
• 12:05
  of
• 12:05
  our
• 12:06
  families
• 12:06
  and
• 12:06
  grow
• 12:06
  into
• 12:07
  our
• 12:07
  own,
• 12:08
  our
• 12:08
  own
• 12:08
  story,
• 12:10
  sometimes
• 12:11
  when
• 12:11
  we
• 12:11
  hit
• 12:11
  those
• 12:11
  hiccups,
• 12:12
  those
• 12:12
  places
• 12:13
  where
• 12:13
  the
• 12:13
  story
• 12:15
  is
• 12:15
  kicking
• 12:15
  us
• 12:15
  into
• 12:16
  a
• 12:16
  reactive
• 12:16
  pattern
• 12:17
  instead
• 12:17
  of
• 12:17
  equipping
• 12:18
  us
• 12:18
  with
• 12:19
  what
• 12:19
  do
• 12:19
  we
• 12:19
  need
• 12:20
  to
• 12:20
  do
• 12:20
  to
• 12:20
  be
• 12:20
  able
• 12:20
  to
• 12:21
  navigate
• 12:21
  and
• 12:21
  adapt
• 12:22
  to
• 12:22
  this
• 12:22
  situation?
• 12:23
  How
• 12:23
  can
• 12:23
  we
• 12:23
  be
• 12:24
  intentional
• 12:24
  rather
• 12:25
  than
• 12:25
  reactive
• 12:25
  in
• 12:26
  this
• 12:26
  situation?
• 12:27
  Having
• 12:27
  a
• 12:28
  tool
• 12:28
  like
• 12:28
  human
• 12:28
  design
• 12:29
  is
• 12:29
  really
• 12:29
  powerful
• 12:30
  because
• 12:30
  it
• 12:30
  starts
• 12:31
  to
• 12:31
  give
• 12:31
  us
• 12:31
  again
• 12:32
  that
• 12:32
  systematic
• 12:33
  way
• 12:33
  to
• 12:33
  say,
• 12:33
  okay,
• 12:34
  I
• 12:34
  have
• 12:35
  this
• 12:35
  story.
• 12:36
  And
• 12:36
  maybe
• 12:36
  in
• 12:36
  this
• 12:37
  story
• 12:37
  it's,
• 12:38
  I'm
• 12:38
  the
• 12:38
  oldest
• 12:39
  daughter
• 12:39
  and
• 12:39
  I'm
• 12:40
  the
• 12:40
  one
• 12:40
  that
• 12:40
  made
• 12:40
  sure
• 12:41
  everybody
• 12:41
  was
• 12:41
  okay.
• 12:42
  And,
• 12:42
  and
• 12:42
  now
• 12:43
  I'm
• 12:43
  in
• 12:43
  my
• 12:43
  adult
• 12:43
  life
• 12:43
  and
• 12:44
  I'm
• 12:44
  living
• 12:44
  the
• 12:44
  story
• 12:45
  out
• 12:45
  again.
• 12:45
  And
• 12:45
  now
• 12:45
  I'm
• 12:46
  burned
• 12:46
  out
• 12:46
  and
• 12:46
  I'm
• 12:46
  depleted.
• 12:47
  I'm
• 12:47
  feeling
• 12:47
  resentful
• 12:48
  and
• 12:48
  exhausted.
• 12:49
  Right.
• 12:50
  That,
• 12:50
  that
• 12:50
  understanding
• 12:51
  your
• 12:51
  chart
• 12:52
  starts
• 12:52
  to
• 12:52
  give
• 12:52
  you
• 12:53
  a
• 12:53
  very
• 12:53
  tactical,
• 12:54
  strategic,
• 12:54
  systematic
• 12:55
  way
• 12:55
  to
• 12:55
  look
• 12:56
  at,
• 12:56
  okay,
• 12:56
  how
• 12:56
  can
• 12:56
  I
• 12:57
  decode
• 12:57
  the
• 12:57
  story?
• 12:58
  And
• 12:58
  then
• 12:59
  ultimately,
• 12:59
  how
• 12:59
  can
• 12:59
  I
• 13:00
  recode
• 13:00
  my
• 13:01
  story
• 13:01
  so
• 13:01
  that
• 13:01
  I'm
• 13:02
  not
• 13:02
  playing
• 13:02
  this
• 13:02
  role
• 13:03
  anymore
• 13:03
  and
• 13:03
  I'm
• 13:03
  not
• 13:03
  living
• 13:04
  out
• 13:04
  this
• 13:04
  reactive
• 13:04
  pattern
• 13:05
  anymore.
• 13:06
  So
• 13:06
  how
• 13:06
  do
• 13:06
  you
• 13:07
  start
• 13:07
  to
• 13:07
  identify
• 13:07
  that
• 13:08
  unhealed
• 13:08
  story?
• 13:08
  Like,
• 13:09
  how
• 13:09
  do
• 13:09
  you.
• 13:09
  I
• 13:09
  mean,
• 13:09
  is
• 13:10
  it
• 13:10
  just
• 13:10
  the
• 13:10
  people
• 13:10
  that
• 13:11
  are
• 13:11
  on
• 13:11
  this
• 13:11
  podcast
• 13:12
  going,
• 13:12
  I
• 13:12
  just
• 13:12
  don't
• 13:12
  get
• 13:13
  it.
• 13:13
  Like,
• 13:13
  I
• 13:13
  am
• 13:13
  the
• 13:13
  people.
• 13:13
  Please.
• 13:14
  Like,
• 13:14
  when
• 13:15
  you
• 13:15
  listen
• 13:15
  to
• 13:15
  these
• 13:16
  things
• 13:16
  and
• 13:16
  you
• 13:16
  have
• 13:16
  those
• 13:16
  150
• 13:17
  aha
• 13:18
  moments,
• 13:18
  like,
• 13:18
  oh,
• 13:19
  that
• 13:19
  sounds
• 13:19
  like
• 13:19
  me.
• 13:19
  That
• 13:19
  sounds
• 13:20
  like
• 13:20
  me.
• 13:20
  I
• 13:20
  mean,
• 13:21
  you
• 13:21
  just
• 13:21
  literally
• 13:22
  listed
• 13:22
  off
• 13:22
  when
• 13:22
  you
• 13:23
  said,
• 13:23
  you
• 13:23
  know,
• 13:23
  walking
• 13:23
  into
• 13:24
  a
• 13:24
  room
• 13:24
  and
• 13:24
  what
• 13:25
  your
• 13:25
  mind
• 13:25
  immediately
• 13:26
  circles
• 13:26
  to
• 13:26
  and
• 13:27
  how
• 13:27
  you
• 13:27
  become
• 13:27
  small
• 13:28
  and
• 13:28
  all
• 13:28
  that.
• 13:28
  That
• 13:29
  is
• 13:29
  my
• 13:29
  audience,
• 13:30
  you
• 13:30
  know,
• 13:30
  that
• 13:30
  is.
• 13:31
  So
• 13:31
  how
• 13:32
  do
• 13:32
  you
• 13:32
  start
• 13:33
  to
• 13:33
  heal
• 13:33
  that?
• 13:35
  That's
• 13:35
  a
• 13:35
  great
• 13:36
  question.
• 13:36
  And
• 13:36
  of
• 13:36
  course,
• 13:37
  I
• 13:37
  always
• 13:38
  have
• 13:38
  to
• 13:38
  tread
• 13:38
  on
• 13:38
  this
• 13:38
  question
• 13:39
  very
• 13:39
  carefully,
• 13:40
  because
• 13:40
  first
• 13:41
  of
• 13:41
  all,
• 13:41
  there
• 13:41
  is
• 13:41
  no
• 13:41
  one
• 13:41
  way
• 13:42
  to
• 13:42
  heal
• 13:42
  it.
• 13:42
  And
• 13:42
  I
• 13:43
  think
• 13:43
  that's
• 13:43
  an
• 13:43
  important
• 13:44
  piece
• 13:44
  to
• 13:45
  recognize
• 13:45
  that
• 13:46
  we
• 13:46
  all
• 13:46
  have
• 13:47
  a
• 13:47
  different
• 13:47
  healing
• 13:47
  path.
• 13:48
  And
• 13:48
  I
• 13:49
  really
• 13:49
  encourage
• 13:50
  whoever
• 13:50
  you
• 13:51
  know,
• 13:51
  if
• 13:51
  you're
• 13:51
  listening
• 13:52
  and
• 13:52
  you
• 13:52
  really
• 13:52
  are
• 13:53
  wanting
• 13:53
  to
• 13:53
  take
• 13:54
  a
• 13:54
  healing
• 13:54
  path
• 13:54
  to
• 13:55
  make
• 13:55
  sure
• 13:55
  that
• 13:55
  it's
• 13:55
  a
• 13:55
  healing
• 13:56
  path
• 13:56
  that
• 13:56
  feels
• 13:56
  honoring
• 13:57
  and
• 13:57
  safe
• 13:57
  and
• 13:58
  effective
• 13:58
  for
• 13:58
  you,
• 13:59
  because
• 13:59
  there
• 13:59
  are
• 13:59
  lots
• 13:59
  of
• 13:59
  different
• 14:00
  approaches.
• 14:01
  One
• 14:01
  of
• 14:01
  the
• 14:02
  things
• 14:02
  that
• 14:02
  I.
• 14:03
  I
• 14:03
  really
• 14:04
  like
• 14:04
  to
• 14:04
  focus
• 14:04
  on,
• 14:05
  and
• 14:05
  let's
• 14:06
  be
• 14:06
  clear,
• 14:06
  my
• 14:06
  background
• 14:07
  is
• 14:07
  in
• 14:07
  coaching,
• 14:08
  and
• 14:08
  it's
• 14:09
  not
• 14:09
  in
• 14:09
  therapy.
• 14:10
  And
• 14:10
  I
• 14:10
  think
• 14:10
  that
• 14:11
  that's
• 14:11
  an
• 14:11
  important
• 14:11
  line
• 14:12
  to
• 14:12
  pay
• 14:12
  attention
• 14:13
  to,
• 14:13
  because
• 14:13
  when
• 14:14
  we
• 14:14
  talk
• 14:15
  about
• 14:15
  these
• 14:15
  factor
• 14:16
  these
• 14:16
  issues
• 14:18
  that
• 14:19
  we
• 14:19
  are
• 14:19
  talking
• 14:20
  about,
• 14:20
  the
• 14:20
  difference
• 14:20
  between
• 14:21
  processing
• 14:22
  and
• 14:22
  understanding
• 14:23
  and
• 14:23
  decoding
• 14:24
  at
• 14:25
  a
• 14:25
  therapeutic
• 14:26
  level,
• 14:26
  which
• 14:26
  for
• 14:26
  many
• 14:27
  people,
• 14:27
  many
• 14:27
  of
• 14:27
  your
• 14:28
  listeners,
• 14:28
  is
• 14:28
  an
• 14:28
  essential
• 14:29
  first
• 14:29
  step.
• 14:29
  And
• 14:30
  I
• 14:30
  think
• 14:30
  we
• 14:30
  can't
• 14:30
  bypass
• 14:31
  sometimes
• 14:31
  that
• 14:32
  piece
• 14:32
  of
• 14:33
  really
• 14:34
  looking
• 14:34
  at
• 14:34
  how
• 14:34
  do
• 14:35
  I
• 14:35
  engineer
• 14:36
  for
• 14:36
  myself
• 14:36
  a
• 14:36
  way
• 14:37
  to
• 14:37
  respond
• 14:37
  to
• 14:37
  life
• 14:38
  that
• 14:38
  keeps
• 14:38
  me
• 14:38
  feeling
• 14:39
  safe
• 14:39
  and
• 14:39
  allows
• 14:40
  me
• 14:40
  to,
• 14:40
  in
• 14:40
  a
• 14:40
  safe
• 14:41
  way,
• 14:41
  reinterpret
• 14:42
  what's
• 14:42
  happening.
• 14:44
  And
• 14:45
  when
• 14:45
  we.
• 14:46
  Even
• 14:46
  after
• 14:47
  therapy,
• 14:47
  once
• 14:47
  we've
• 14:48
  processed
• 14:48
  it,
• 14:48
  sometimes
• 14:49
  what
• 14:49
  happens
• 14:50
  is
• 14:50
  we
• 14:50
  get
• 14:50
  stuck
• 14:51
  in
• 14:51
  what
• 14:51
  I'll
• 14:51
  call
• 14:52
  a
• 14:52
  tape
• 14:52
  loop
• 14:52
  narrative.
• 14:53
  And
• 14:54
  one
• 14:54
  of
• 14:54
  the
• 14:55
  ways
• 14:55
  that
• 14:55
  you
• 14:55
  can
• 14:55
  sometimes
• 14:56
  identify
• 14:56
  what
• 14:57
  that
• 14:57
  tape
• 14:57
  loop
• 14:58
  narrative
• 14:59
  is
• 14:59
  to
• 14:59
  start
• 14:59
  exploring
• 15:00
  in
• 15:01
  your
• 15:01
  story,
• 15:02
  what
• 15:03
  have
• 15:03
  you
• 15:03
  defined
• 15:04
  yourself
• 15:04
  as
• 15:04
  having
• 15:05
  survived?
• 15:07
  And.
• 15:07
  And
• 15:07
  we.
• 15:07
  And
• 15:07
  it's
• 15:08
  a
• 15:08
  very
• 15:08
  interesting
• 15:09
  and
• 15:09
  kind
• 15:09
  of
• 15:09
  insidious
• 15:10
  word,
• 15:11
  survivor,
• 15:11
  because
• 15:12
  it's
• 15:12
  a
• 15:12
  word
• 15:12
  that
• 15:13
  we
• 15:13
  use
• 15:14
  in
• 15:14
  our
• 15:14
  culture
• 15:14
  and
• 15:15
  even
• 15:15
  in
• 15:15
  our
• 15:15
  therapeutic
• 15:16
  and
• 15:16
  coaching
• 15:16
  culture
• 15:17
  with.
• 15:17
  With
• 15:17
  kind
• 15:17
  of
• 15:17
  pride,
• 15:18
  right?
• 15:18
  I'm
• 15:18
  in
• 15:19
  a.
• 15:19
  I'm
• 15:19
  a
• 15:19
  survivor
• 15:20
  of
• 15:21
  whatever,
• 15:21
  right?
• 15:22
  I'm
• 15:22
  a
• 15:22
  breast
• 15:22
  cancer
• 15:23
  survivor.
• 15:23
  I'm
• 15:24
  a.
• 15:24
  And.
• 15:25
  And
• 15:25
  I
• 15:25
  want
• 15:25
  to
• 15:26
  just
• 15:26
  break
• 15:27
  that
• 15:27
  down
• 15:27
  for
• 15:28
  A
• 15:28
  minute.
• 15:28
  Because
• 15:30
  when
• 15:30
  we
• 15:31
  go
• 15:31
  into
• 15:31
  the
• 15:31
  process
• 15:32
  of
• 15:32
  decoding,
• 15:32
  which
• 15:33
  is
• 15:33
  the
• 15:33
  first
• 15:33
  step
• 15:33
  of
• 15:34
  your
• 15:34
  story,
• 15:34
  right,
• 15:35
  we're
• 15:35
  literally
• 15:35
  exploring
• 15:36
  how
• 15:36
  did
• 15:37
  I
• 15:37
  cultivate
• 15:38
  the
• 15:38
  story
• 15:38
  that
• 15:39
  I
• 15:39
  have
• 15:39
  about
• 15:39
  who
• 15:40
  I
• 15:40
  am.
• 15:41
  When
• 15:41
  we're
• 15:41
  decoding
• 15:42
  that
• 15:42
  story,
• 15:42
  we
• 15:43
  have
• 15:43
  to
• 15:43
  sometimes
• 15:43
  really
• 15:44
  look
• 15:44
  at
• 15:44
  what
• 15:45
  labels
• 15:45
  or
• 15:46
  how
• 15:46
  are
• 15:46
  we
• 15:47
  defining
• 15:47
  ourselves
• 15:48
  in
• 15:48
  our
• 15:48
  story?
• 15:48
  And
• 15:48
  survival
• 15:49
  is
• 15:49
  a
• 15:49
  very
• 15:50
  common
• 15:50
  label.
• 15:51
  Let's
• 15:52
  break
• 15:52
  that
• 15:52
  down,
• 15:53
  and
• 15:53
  I'll
• 15:54
  break
• 15:54
  it
• 15:54
  down
• 15:54
  through
• 15:54
  Harry
• 15:54
  Potter,
• 15:55
  because
• 15:55
  I
• 15:55
  think
• 15:55
  Harry
• 15:56
  Potter
• 15:56
  is
• 15:56
  a
• 15:56
  really
• 15:56
  great
• 15:57
  way
• 15:57
  to
• 15:57
  talk
• 15:57
  about
• 15:57
  survival,
• 15:58
  right?
• 15:58
  When
• 15:58
  you
• 15:59
  read
• 15:59
  the
• 15:59
  Harry
• 15:59
  Potter
• 15:59
  books,
• 16:00
  if
• 16:00
  you've
• 16:00
  read
• 16:00
  those
• 16:00
  Harry
• 16:00
  Potter
• 16:01
  books,
• 16:02
  oftentimes
• 16:02
  in
• 16:03
  the
• 16:03
  magical
• 16:03
  community,
• 16:04
  Harry
• 16:05
  Potter
• 16:05
  is
• 16:05
  referred
• 16:06
  to
• 16:06
  as
• 16:06
  the
• 16:07
  boy
• 16:07
  who
• 16:07
  lived,
• 16:08
  right?
• 16:09
  And
• 16:09
  we
• 16:09
  call
• 16:10
  him
• 16:10
  the
• 16:10
  Boy
• 16:10
  who
• 16:10
  Lived
• 16:11
  well.
• 16:11
  If
• 16:11
  we
• 16:11
  go
• 16:12
  back
• 16:12
  to,
• 16:12
  okay,
• 16:13
  who
• 16:13
  was
• 16:13
  the
• 16:13
  boy
• 16:13
  who
• 16:13
  lived
• 16:14
  well,
• 16:14
  that
• 16:14
  takes
• 16:14
  us
• 16:15
  all
• 16:15
  the
• 16:15
  way
• 16:15
  back
• 16:15
  to
• 16:15
  the
• 16:15
  beginning
• 16:16
  of
• 16:16
  Harry
• 16:16
  Potter
• 16:17
  story,
• 16:18
  where
• 16:18
  he
• 16:18
  is
• 16:18
  assaulted
• 16:19
  by
• 16:19
  Voldemort,
• 16:20
  right?
• 16:20
  And
• 16:20
  has
• 16:21
  the
• 16:21
  lightning
• 16:21
  bolt
• 16:22
  scar
• 16:22
  on
• 16:23
  his
• 16:23
  forehead.
• 16:23
  And
• 16:23
  his
• 16:24
  mother
• 16:24
  dies
• 16:24
  and
• 16:25
  he
• 16:25
  survives.
• 16:26
  Well,
• 16:27
  that's
• 16:27
  not
• 16:28
  where
• 16:28
  Harry
• 16:28
  Potter's
• 16:29
  story
• 16:29
  ends.
• 16:30
  That's
• 16:30
  actually
• 16:30
  where
• 16:31
  his
• 16:31
  story
• 16:31
  begins.
• 16:33
  And
• 16:33
  if
• 16:33
  we
• 16:33
  look
• 16:33
  at
• 16:34
  Harry
• 16:34
  Potter's
• 16:35
  life,
• 16:35
  there's
• 16:35
  a
• 16:36
  massive
• 16:36
  redemption
• 16:37
  arc
• 16:37
  that
• 16:37
  comes
• 16:37
  after
• 16:38
  being
• 16:38
  the
• 16:39
  boy
• 16:39
  who
• 16:39
  Lived,
• 16:39
  right?
• 16:40
  He
• 16:40
  goes,
• 16:40
  he
• 16:41
  has
• 16:41
  to
• 16:41
  survive
• 16:41
  the
• 16:42
  Dursleys.
• 16:42
  He
• 16:43
  has
• 16:43
  to
• 16:43
  go
• 16:43
  to
• 16:43
  Magical
• 16:43
  School.
• 16:44
  He
• 16:44
  has
• 16:44
  to
• 16:44
  fight
• 16:44
  Voldemort
• 16:45
  God
• 16:45
  knows
• 16:45
  how
• 16:45
  many
• 16:46
  times,
• 16:46
  right?
• 16:46
  And
• 16:46
  eventually
• 16:47
  he
• 16:47
  grows
• 16:47
  up
• 16:47
  and
• 16:47
  he
• 16:47
  marries
• 16:48
  and
• 16:48
  becomes,
• 16:48
  like
• 16:49
  a
• 16:49
  leader
• 16:49
  in
• 16:50
  his
• 16:50
  community.
• 16:51
  But
• 16:51
  if
• 16:52
  we
• 16:52
  keep
• 16:52
  defining
• 16:53
  him
• 16:53
  as
• 16:53
  the
• 16:54
  boy
• 16:54
  who
• 16:54
  Lived,
• 16:55
  right,
• 16:55
  we
• 16:55
  stick
• 16:55
  him
• 16:56
  in
• 16:56
  a
• 16:56
  place
• 16:56
  in
• 16:56
  the
• 16:57
  story
• 16:57
  where
• 16:57
  there's
• 16:57
  no
• 16:57
  redemption
• 16:58
  arc.
• 16:59
  The
• 16:59
  same
• 16:59
  thing
• 16:59
  happens
• 17:00
  to
• 17:00
  us
• 17:00
  when
• 17:01
  we
• 17:01
  define
• 17:02
  ourselves
• 17:03
  as
• 17:03
  a
• 17:03
  survivor.
• 17:04
  When
• 17:04
  you
• 17:05
  define
• 17:05
  yourself
• 17:05
  as
• 17:05
  a
• 17:06
  survivor,
• 17:06
  you're
• 17:06
  basically
• 17:07
  stopping
• 17:07
  your
• 17:07
  story
• 17:07
  at
• 17:08
  the
• 17:08
  climax
• 17:08
  or
• 17:09
  the
• 17:09
  cliffhanger,
• 17:10
  and
• 17:11
  you
• 17:11
  are
• 17:11
  not
• 17:11
  looking
• 17:12
  at
• 17:12
  the
• 17:12
  redemption
• 17:13
  arc
• 17:13
  of,
• 17:13
  well,
• 17:13
  what
• 17:14
  happened
• 17:14
  next.
• 17:15
  And
• 17:15
  what
• 17:16
  happens
• 17:16
  is
• 17:16
  when
• 17:16
  we
• 17:17
  program
• 17:17
  our
• 17:17
  story
• 17:18
  or
• 17:18
  we
• 17:18
  program
• 17:18
  ourselves,
• 17:19
  or
• 17:20
  eventually
• 17:20
  when
• 17:20
  we
• 17:20
  tell
• 17:20
  a
• 17:21
  story,
• 17:21
  we're
• 17:21
  programming
• 17:21
  our
• 17:22
  biology
• 17:23
  to
• 17:23
  think
• 17:23
  and
• 17:24
  explore
• 17:25
  our
• 17:25
  narrative
• 17:25
  through
• 17:25
  the
• 17:26
  lens
• 17:26
  of
• 17:26
  I
• 17:26
  am
• 17:26
  a
• 17:27
  survivor,
• 17:28
  then
• 17:28
  what
• 17:29
  we
• 17:29
  do
• 17:29
  is
• 17:29
  we
• 17:30
  program
• 17:30
  ourselves
• 17:31
  to
• 17:31
  pay
• 17:31
  attention
• 17:32
  to
• 17:32
  opportunities
• 17:33
  and
• 17:33
  experiences
• 17:34
  that
• 17:35
  cause
• 17:35
  us
• 17:35
  to
• 17:36
  draw
• 17:36
  on
• 17:36
  that
• 17:37
  survival
• 17:38
  identity.
• 17:38
  And
• 17:39
  if
• 17:39
  our
• 17:39
  identity
• 17:40
  revolves
• 17:40
  around
• 17:41
  surviving,
• 17:42
  then
• 17:42
  we're
• 17:42
  going
• 17:42
  to
• 17:42
  continue
• 17:43
  to
• 17:43
  recreate
• 17:44
  unconsciously.
• 17:45
  And
• 17:45
  let
• 17:45
  me
• 17:45
  be
• 17:45
  clear,
• 17:46
  that's
• 17:46
  unconscious.
• 17:46
  Not
• 17:47
  like
• 17:47
  you're
• 17:47
  doing
• 17:47
  it
• 17:47
  on
• 17:47
  purpose,
• 17:48
  but
• 17:48
  you're
• 17:48
  going
• 17:48
  to
• 17:49
  unconsciously
• 17:49
  keep
• 17:49
  recreating
• 17:50
  opportunities
• 17:51
  to
• 17:51
  survive
• 17:52
  again
• 17:52
  and
• 17:52
  again
• 17:52
  and
• 17:53
  again.
• 17:53
  And
• 17:53
  that's
• 17:53
  like
• 17:53
  the
• 17:54
  bare
• 17:54
  minimum,
• 17:55
  right?
• 17:55
  Survive
• 17:55
  I
• 17:56
  lived
• 17:56
  is
• 17:56
  a
• 17:56
  pretty
• 17:57
  low
• 17:57
  standard,
• 17:58
  right?
• 17:59
  We
• 17:59
  deserve
• 17:59
  a
• 17:59
  better
• 18:00
  standard
• 18:00
  than
• 18:00
  that,
• 18:01
  right?
• 18:01
  When
• 18:01
  you
• 18:01
  have
• 18:02
  lived,
• 18:03
  then
• 18:04
  what's
• 18:04
  next?
• 18:05
  Because
• 18:06
  that
• 18:06
  sovereignty
• 18:07
  over
• 18:08
  what's
• 18:09
  next,
• 18:09
  that
• 18:09
  sovereignty
• 18:10
  over
• 18:11
  taking
• 18:11
  back
• 18:12
  your
• 18:12
  story
• 18:12
  so
• 18:13
  that
• 18:13
  you're
• 18:13
  no
• 18:13
  longer
• 18:13
  a
• 18:14
  victim
• 18:14
  of
• 18:14
  the
• 18:14
  story,
• 18:14
  that
• 18:15
  you
• 18:15
  instead
• 18:15
  walk
• 18:16
  away
• 18:16
  from
• 18:16
  that
• 18:17
  story
• 18:17
  with
• 18:17
  a
• 18:18
  sense
• 18:18
  of
• 18:18
  empowerment,
• 18:19
  with
• 18:19
  the
• 18:20
  capacity
• 18:20
  to
• 18:20
  divine
• 18:21
  for
• 18:21
  yourself,
• 18:21
  well,
• 18:22
  hey,
• 18:22
  these
• 18:22
  things
• 18:22
  happened
• 18:23
  that
• 18:23
  they
• 18:23
  don't
• 18:23
  define
• 18:24
  who
• 18:24
  I
• 18:24
  am.
• 18:25
  And
• 18:25
  maybe
• 18:26
  because
• 18:26
  these
• 18:26
  things
• 18:27
  happened,
• 18:27
  I
• 18:27
  internalized
• 18:28
  some
• 18:29
  key
• 18:29
  lessons
• 18:30
  about
• 18:30
  what
• 18:30
  I'm
• 18:31
  capable
• 18:31
  of
• 18:31
  and
• 18:32
  what
• 18:32
  my
• 18:33
  gifts
• 18:33
  are
• 18:33
  and
• 18:34
  that
• 18:34
  I
• 18:34
  can
• 18:34
  walk
• 18:34
  away
• 18:35
  from
• 18:35
  this
• 18:36
  story
• 18:36
  and
• 18:36
  say,
• 18:36
  I
• 18:37
  had
• 18:37
  this
• 18:37
  experience,
• 18:38
  but
• 18:38
  that's
• 18:38
  not
• 18:38
  who
• 18:38
  I
• 18:39
  am.
• 18:39
  I
• 18:39
  am
• 18:40
  now
• 18:40
  thriving
• 18:42
  because
• 18:42
  I
• 18:42
  have
• 18:42
  transcended
• 18:43
  this
• 18:43
  experience
• 18:44
  and
• 18:44
  I'm
• 18:44
  now
• 18:44
  way
• 18:44
  in
• 18:45
  my
• 18:45
  redemption
• 18:45
  arc.
• 18:46
  So
• 18:47
  step
• 18:47
  one
• 18:48
  is
• 18:48
  looking
• 18:48
  at
• 18:49
  the
• 18:49
  story
• 18:49
  and
• 18:50
  really
• 18:50
  looking
• 18:51
  at
• 18:51
  how
• 18:51
  are
• 18:51
  you
• 18:51
  defining
• 18:52
  yourself?
• 18:53
  If
• 18:53
  you
• 18:53
  drew
• 18:53
  a
• 18:53
  line
• 18:54
  in
• 18:54
  a
• 18:54
  piece
• 18:54
  of
• 18:54
  paper
• 18:55
  and
• 18:56
  you
• 18:56
  know
• 18:56
  the
• 18:56
  left
• 18:57
  hand
• 18:57
  side
• 18:57
  of
• 18:57
  that
• 18:57
  line
• 18:57
  was
• 18:58
  your
• 18:58
  birth
• 18:58
  and
• 18:58
  the
• 18:59
  right
• 18:59
  hand
• 18:59
  side
• 18:59
  of
• 18:59
  that
• 19:00
  line
• 19:00
  was
• 19:00
  where
• 19:00
  you
• 19:00
  are
• 19:00
  right
• 19:01
  now,
• 19:01
  and
• 19:01
  you
• 19:02
  make
• 19:02
  hashtags
• 19:03
  on
• 19:03
  that
• 19:03
  line,
• 19:03
  your
• 19:03
  lifeline
• 19:04
  of
• 19:05
  major
• 19:05
  events
• 19:06
  that
• 19:06
  happened
• 19:07
  in
• 19:07
  your
• 19:07
  life.
• 19:08
  Get
• 19:08
  really
• 19:09
  honest
• 19:09
  with
• 19:09
  yourself
• 19:09
  and
• 19:10
  ask
• 19:10
  yourselves,
• 19:10
  have
• 19:11
  you
• 19:11
  stopped
• 19:11
  your
• 19:11
  story
• 19:11
  at
• 19:12
  one
• 19:12
  of
• 19:12
  those
• 19:12
  hash
• 19:12
  marks
• 19:13
  on
• 19:13
  the
• 19:13
  line?
• 19:14
  Most
• 19:14
  of
• 19:14
  us
• 19:14
  to
• 19:14
  a
• 19:14
  certain
• 19:15
  degree
• 19:15
  have
• 19:15
  because
• 19:16
  our
• 19:16
  culture
• 19:17
  celebrates
• 19:17
  the
• 19:17
  survivor.
• 19:19
  But
• 19:19
  I
• 19:19
  would
• 19:19
  challenge
• 19:20
  any
• 19:20
  of
• 19:20
  us
• 19:20
  to
• 19:20
  say,
• 19:20
  okay,
• 19:21
  what
• 19:21
  happens
• 19:21
  beyond
• 19:22
  surviving?
• 19:22
  How
• 19:22
  do
• 19:22
  we
• 19:23
  transform
• 19:23
  the
• 19:23
  story?
• 19:24
  How
• 19:24
  do
• 19:24
  we
• 19:25
  take
• 19:25
  back
• 19:25
  control
• 19:25
  over
• 19:25
  the
• 19:26
  stories
• 19:26
  that
• 19:26
  we're
• 19:26
  not
• 19:26
  just
• 19:27
  surviving
• 19:27
  now,
• 19:27
  we're
• 19:27
  moving
• 19:28
  into
• 19:28
  the
• 19:28
  thriving
• 19:28
  piece.
• 19:29
  Yeah,
• 19:30
  it's
• 19:30
  funny
• 19:30
  because
• 19:30
  I
• 19:30
  always
• 19:30
  say,
• 19:31
  you
• 19:31
  know,
• 19:31
  if
• 19:31
  you're
• 19:31
  standing
• 19:31
  here
• 19:32
  right
• 19:32
  now,
• 19:32
  you're
• 19:32
  a
• 19:32
  warrior.
• 19:33
  I
• 19:33
  mean,
• 19:33
  you've
• 19:33
  done
• 19:33
  it,
• 19:34
  you,
• 19:34
  you've
• 19:34
  done
• 19:35
  the
• 19:35
  hard,
• 19:35
  like
• 19:35
  you
• 19:35
  got
• 19:36
  there.
• 19:36
  Now
• 19:36
  let's
• 19:37
  see
• 19:37
  what's
• 19:37
  ahead
• 19:37
  of
• 19:38
  us.
• 19:38
  Let's
• 19:38
  see
• 19:38
  what's
• 19:38
  going
• 19:39
  down
• 19:39
  the
• 19:39
  road.
• 19:39
  And
• 19:39
  it
• 19:39
  makes
• 19:40
  it
• 19:40
  so.
• 19:41
  You
• 19:41
  make
• 19:41
  such
• 19:42
  a
• 19:42
  good
• 19:42
  point
• 19:42
  with
• 19:42
  the
• 19:42
  just
• 19:43
  staying
• 19:43
  in
• 19:43
  that
• 19:43
  victim
• 19:44
  mode.
• 19:44
  I
• 19:44
  mean,
• 19:45
  there's
• 19:45
  nothing
• 19:45
  worse.
• 19:46
  You,
• 19:46
  you
• 19:47
  are,
• 19:47
  you're
• 19:47
  wired.
• 19:48
  And
• 19:48
  when
• 19:48
  you
• 19:48
  grow
• 19:48
  up
• 19:49
  like
• 19:49
  that,
• 19:49
  it's
• 19:49
  understandable.
• 19:50
  And
• 19:50
  like
• 19:50
  you
• 19:50
  said,
• 19:51
  no
• 19:51
  fault
• 19:51
  of
• 19:51
  your
• 19:51
  own
• 19:51
  or
• 19:52
  no
• 19:52
  fault
• 19:52
  of
• 19:52
  anybody's.
• 19:53
  When
• 19:53
  you
• 19:53
  grow
• 19:54
  up
• 19:54
  in
• 19:54
  that,
• 19:54
  your
• 19:54
  brain
• 19:55
  is
• 19:55
  wired
• 19:56
  to
• 19:56
  look
• 19:56
  for
• 19:57
  opportunities
• 19:57
  that
• 19:57
  you
• 19:58
  have
• 19:58
  to
• 19:58
  survive.
• 19:58
  Or
• 19:59
  so
• 19:59
  you're
• 19:59
  always
• 20:00
  looking
• 20:00
  for
• 20:01
  the
• 20:01
  bad
• 20:01
  or
• 20:01
  you're
• 20:01
  always
• 20:02
  expecting
• 20:02
  the
• 20:03
  bad
• 20:03
  to
• 20:03
  come.
• 20:03
  Even
• 20:04
  when
• 20:04
  it's
• 20:04
  a
• 20:04
  joyous
• 20:04
  moment,
• 20:05
  you're
• 20:05
  like,
• 20:05
  okay,
• 20:05
  what's
• 20:06
  going
• 20:06
  to
• 20:06
  happen
• 20:06
  next?
• 20:07
  And
• 20:07
  that
• 20:07
  keeps.
• 20:08
  That's
• 20:08
  100%
• 20:09
  victim.
• 20:10
  Like,
• 20:10
  oh
• 20:10
  God,
• 20:10
  it's
• 20:11
  always
• 20:11
  me.
• 20:11
  Or
• 20:12
  what
• 20:12
  is,
• 20:12
  oh,
• 20:12
  you
• 20:12
  know,
• 20:12
  and
• 20:13
  it's
• 20:13
  such
• 20:13
  a
• 20:14
  hard
• 20:14
  place
• 20:14
  to
• 20:14
  be
• 20:15
  in,
• 20:15
  but
• 20:15
  it's.
• 20:15
  The
• 20:16
  good
• 20:16
  news
• 20:16
  is
• 20:16
  for
• 20:17
  the
• 20:17
  people
• 20:17
  out
• 20:17
  there
• 20:17
  listening
• 20:17
  is
• 20:18
  you
• 20:18
  can
• 20:18
  get
• 20:18
  out
• 20:18
  of
• 20:18
  that.
• 20:19
  I
• 20:19
  mean,
• 20:20
  what.
• 20:20
  What
• 20:20
  are
• 20:20
  some
• 20:21
  small
• 20:21
  steps
• 20:21
  you
• 20:21
  suggest
• 20:22
  to
• 20:22
  start
• 20:22
  getting
• 20:22
  yourself
• 20:23
  out
• 20:23
  of
• 20:23
  that
• 20:23
  victim
• 20:23
  mode?
• 20:25
  So
• 20:25
  I.
• 20:26
  I
• 20:26
  am
• 20:26
  a
• 20:27
  big
• 20:27
  fan
• 20:27
  of
• 20:28
  using
• 20:28
  creativity
• 20:29
  as
• 20:30
  a
• 20:30
  tool
• 20:30
  to
• 20:30
  escape
• 20:31
  from
• 20:31
  limiting
• 20:31
  narratives.
• 20:32
  So
• 20:33
  when
• 20:33
  we
• 20:33
  look
• 20:33
  at
• 20:34
  intentional
• 20:35
  storytelling,
• 20:36
  meaning
• 20:36
  actually
• 20:37
  literally
• 20:38
  sitting
• 20:38
  down
• 20:39
  and
• 20:39
  writing
• 20:40
  out
• 20:40
  the
• 20:40
  story
• 20:41
  from
• 20:41
  a
• 20:41
  different.
• 20:41
  Through
• 20:42
  a
• 20:42
  different
• 20:42
  lens
• 20:42
  and
• 20:42
  from
• 20:42
  a
• 20:43
  different
• 20:43
  perspective,
• 20:44
  that
• 20:44
  process
• 20:44
  of
• 20:45
  rewriting
• 20:45
  the
• 20:46
  story
• 20:46
  actually
• 20:47
  can
• 20:47
  begin
• 20:47
  the
• 20:47
  process
• 20:48
  of
• 20:48
  rewiring
• 20:48
  the
• 20:49
  body
• 20:49
  and
• 20:49
  the
• 20:49
  brain.
• 20:50
  So
• 20:50
  let's
• 20:51
  say,
• 20:51
  for
• 20:51
  example,
• 20:51
  you
• 20:52
  have
• 20:52
  an
• 20:52
  experience
• 20:53
  that
• 20:53
  left
• 20:54
  you
• 20:54
  feeling
• 20:54
  in
• 20:54
  some
• 20:55
  way
• 20:55
  victimized
• 20:56
  or
• 20:56
  disempowered
• 20:57
  or
• 20:58
  like
• 20:58
  you're
• 20:59
  stuck
• 20:59
  at
• 21:00
  a
• 21:00
  cliffhanger.
• 21:01
  If
• 21:01
  you
• 21:01
  sit
• 21:02
  down
• 21:02
  and
• 21:02
  you
• 21:02
  actually
• 21:03
  rewrite
• 21:03
  that
• 21:04
  story
• 21:04
  and
• 21:04
  rewrite
• 21:05
  it
• 21:05
  from
• 21:05
  the
• 21:05
  lens
• 21:05
  of
• 21:07
  this
• 21:07
  thing
• 21:07
  happened
• 21:07
  to
• 21:08
  me,
• 21:08
  but
• 21:08
  it
• 21:08
  doesn't
• 21:09
  define
• 21:09
  who
• 21:09
  I
• 21:09
  am.
• 21:10
  I'm
• 21:10
  going
• 21:11
  to
• 21:11
  rewrite
• 21:12
  this
• 21:12
  story
• 21:12
  in
• 21:12
  such
• 21:13
  a
• 21:13
  way
• 21:13
  so
• 21:13
  that
• 21:13
  at
• 21:13
  the
• 21:14
  end
• 21:14
  of
• 21:14
  this
• 21:14
  story,
• 21:15
  I
• 21:15
  emerge
• 21:16
  either
• 21:16
  the
• 21:16
  victor,
• 21:17
  not
• 21:17
  the
• 21:17
  victim,
• 21:18
  or
• 21:18
  I
• 21:19
  walk
• 21:19
  away
• 21:19
  from
• 21:20
  this
• 21:20
  event
• 21:21
  internalizing
• 21:22
  an
• 21:22
  important
• 21:22
  lesson
• 21:23
  that
• 21:23
  I
• 21:23
  learned
• 21:23
  from
• 21:24
  this
• 21:24
  experience.
• 21:25
  And
• 21:25
  I'm
• 21:25
  going
• 21:26
  to
• 21:26
  use
• 21:26
  that
• 21:26
  lesson
• 21:26
  then
• 21:27
  as
• 21:27
  a
• 21:27
  catalyst
• 21:28
  for
• 21:28
  me
• 21:28
  to
• 21:29
  define
• 21:29
  myself
• 21:30
  in
• 21:30
  a
• 21:30
  whole
• 21:31
  new
• 21:31
  way
• 21:31
  as
• 21:31
  an
• 21:31
  empowered
• 21:32
  person.
• 21:32
  Person.
• 21:33
  Now,
• 21:33
  I.
• 21:33
  I
• 21:34
  want
• 21:34
  to
• 21:34
  be
• 21:34
  clear.
• 21:34
  If
• 21:34
  you
• 21:35
  do
• 21:35
  this
• 21:35
  process,
• 21:35
  this
• 21:35
  is
• 21:36
  not
• 21:36
  a
• 21:36
  process
• 21:36
  to
• 21:36
  do
• 21:36
  in
• 21:37
  the
• 21:37
  moment
• 21:37
  of
• 21:37
  trauma,
• 21:38
  right?
• 21:38
  This
• 21:38
  is
• 21:38
  a
• 21:38
  process
• 21:39
  to
• 21:39
  do
• 21:40
  when
• 21:40
  you
• 21:40
  find
• 21:40
  yourself
• 21:41
  stuck
• 21:41
  in
• 21:41
  that
• 21:41
  tape
• 21:42
  loop.
• 21:42
  And
• 21:42
  when
• 21:42
  I'm
• 21:43
  saying
• 21:43
  tape
• 21:43
  loop,
• 21:43
  let
• 21:44
  me
• 21:44
  explain
• 21:44
  what
• 21:44
  that
• 21:44
  is,
• 21:44
  because
• 21:45
  I
• 21:45
  think
• 21:45
  that's
• 21:45
  really
• 21:45
  important
• 21:46
  because
• 21:46
  I
• 21:46
  don't
• 21:47
  want.
• 21:47
  I
• 21:47
  don't
• 21:48
  want
• 21:48
  to
• 21:48
  sound
• 21:48
  like
• 21:48
  I'm
• 21:48
  an
• 21:48
  advocating
• 21:49
  bypassing,
• 21:50
  because
• 21:50
  I'm
• 21:50
  not.
• 21:50
  Sometimes,
• 21:51
  again,
• 21:51
  we
• 21:51
  have
• 21:52
  to
• 21:52
  process
• 21:52
  the
• 21:52
  narrative
• 21:53
  for
• 21:53
  a
• 21:53
  while
• 21:53
  before
• 21:54
  we
• 21:54
  can
• 21:54
  get
• 21:54
  to
• 21:54
  that
• 21:54
  place.
• 21:55
  But
• 21:56
  if
• 21:56
  you're
• 21:56
  identifying
• 21:57
  with
• 21:57
  that
• 21:57
  aspects
• 21:58
  of
• 21:58
  your
• 21:58
  victimhood
• 22:00
  that
• 22:00
  happened,
• 22:00
  and
• 22:01
  you
• 22:01
  are
• 22:01
  no
• 22:01
  longer
• 22:02
  threatened
• 22:03
  and
• 22:03
  you
• 22:04
  have
• 22:04
  been
• 22:04
  safe
• 22:05
  physically,
• 22:05
  emotionally
• 22:06
  for
• 22:06
  a
• 22:07
  while,
• 22:07
  and
• 22:08
  you
• 22:08
  have
• 22:08
  gotten
• 22:09
  to
• 22:09
  a
• 22:09
  point
• 22:09
  in
• 22:10
  the
• 22:10
  retelling
• 22:11
  of
• 22:11
  the
• 22:11
  story
• 22:11
  where.
• 22:12
  And
• 22:12
  this
• 22:12
  is
• 22:12
  hard
• 22:12
  because
• 22:13
  it
• 22:13
  requires
• 22:13
  us
• 22:13
  to
• 22:13
  be
• 22:14
  a
• 22:14
  little
• 22:14
  honest
• 22:14
  with
• 22:14
  ourselves,
• 22:15
  right
• 22:15
  where
• 22:15
  we're
• 22:16
  almost
• 22:17
  kind
• 22:17
  of
• 22:18
  practiced
• 22:18
  and
• 22:19
  scripted
• 22:19
  in
• 22:19
  the
• 22:20
  retelling,
• 22:20
  right?
• 22:20
  Where
• 22:21
  you
• 22:21
  kind
• 22:21
  of
• 22:21
  know,
• 22:21
  oh,
• 22:22
  this
• 22:22
  is
• 22:22
  the
• 22:22
  point
• 22:23
  of
• 22:23
  the
• 22:23
  story
• 22:23
  where
• 22:23
  I'm
• 22:23
  gonna
• 22:24
  cry.
• 22:24
  And
• 22:24
  this
• 22:24
  is
• 22:24
  the
• 22:24
  point
• 22:24
  of
• 22:25
  the
• 22:25
  story
• 22:25
  where
• 22:25
  I
• 22:25
  use
• 22:25
  these
• 22:26
  words
• 22:26
  in
• 22:26
  sequence
• 22:27
  every
• 22:27
  time.
• 22:27
  This
• 22:27
  is
• 22:28
  the
• 22:28
  part
• 22:28
  of
• 22:28
  the
• 22:28
  story
• 22:28
  that
• 22:28
  I
• 22:28
  know
• 22:28
  is
• 22:28
  kind
• 22:29
  of
• 22:29
  shocking
• 22:29
  to
• 22:29
  people.
• 22:29
  So
• 22:30
  I'm
• 22:30
  gonna,
• 22:30
  like,
• 22:30
  you
• 22:31
  know,
• 22:31
  we,
• 22:31
  if
• 22:31
  we're
• 22:32
  really
• 22:32
  honest
• 22:32
  with
• 22:32
  ourselves,
• 22:33
  we
• 22:33
  have
• 22:33
  patterns
• 22:34
  in
• 22:34
  the
• 22:34
  retelling
• 22:36
  and
• 22:36
  when.
• 22:36
  And
• 22:37
  just
• 22:37
  informing
• 22:37
  that
• 22:37
  whenever
• 22:38
  we
• 22:38
  are
• 22:38
  retelling,
• 22:39
  we're
• 22:39
  re
• 22:39
  anchoring
• 22:40
  this
• 22:40
  programming
• 22:41
  into
• 22:41
  the
• 22:41
  brain
• 22:42
  every
• 22:43
  time.
• 22:43
  Yeah,
• 22:43
  if
• 22:44
  you're
• 22:44
  in
• 22:44
  that
• 22:44
  place,
• 22:44
  I,
• 22:45
  I
• 22:45
  went,
• 22:45
  oh
• 22:45
  my
• 22:45
  God,
• 22:46
  the
• 22:46
  worst.
• 22:46
  I
• 22:46
  went
• 22:46
  just
• 22:47
  to
• 22:47
  illuminate.
• 22:47
  When
• 22:48
  I
• 22:48
  got
• 22:48
  divorced
• 22:50
  from
• 22:50
  my,
• 22:50
  my
• 22:51
  first
• 22:51
  husband,
• 22:53
  I
• 22:53
  had,
• 22:54
  oh
• 22:54
  my
• 22:54
  God,
• 22:54
  I
• 22:54
  had
• 22:54
  like
• 22:55
  a
• 22:55
  three
• 22:55
  year
• 22:55
  long
• 22:55
  tape
• 22:55
  loop
• 22:56
  where
• 22:56
  I
• 22:56
  would
• 22:56
  tell
• 22:56
  the
• 22:56
  story
• 22:57
  of
• 22:57
  my
• 22:57
  divorce
• 22:57
  again
• 22:58
  and
• 22:58
  again.
• 22:58
  It
• 22:58
  was
• 22:59
  so
• 22:59
  internally
• 23:00
  scripted.
• 23:00
  Like
• 23:01
  this
• 23:01
  is
• 23:01
  the
• 23:01
  part
• 23:01
  where
• 23:01
  I
• 23:02
  cry
• 23:02
  and
• 23:02
  this
• 23:02
  is
• 23:02
  the
• 23:02
  part
• 23:02
  where
• 23:02
  I
• 23:03
  take
• 23:03
  my
• 23:03
  glass
• 23:03
  of
• 23:03
  wine
• 23:03
  and
• 23:04
  drink
• 23:04
  a
• 23:04
  little
• 23:04
  sip
• 23:04
  away.
• 23:05
  And
• 23:06
  recognizing
• 23:06
  at
• 23:06
  a
• 23:06
  certain
• 23:07
  point,
• 23:07
  like,
• 23:07
  oh
• 23:07
  man,
• 23:08
  I
• 23:08
  have
• 23:08
  just
• 23:09
  told
• 23:09
  the
• 23:09
  story
• 23:09
  to
• 23:09
  the
• 23:09
  point
• 23:09
  where
• 23:10
  I'm
• 23:10
  sick
• 23:10
  of
• 23:10
  hearing
• 23:11
  it
• 23:11
  coming
• 23:11
  out
• 23:11
  of
• 23:11
  my
• 23:11
  own
• 23:12
  mouth
• 23:12
  and
• 23:12
  I'm
• 23:12
  living
• 23:13
  it
• 23:13
  right.
• 23:14
  That
• 23:14
  when
• 23:14
  we
• 23:14
  hit
• 23:15
  that
• 23:15
  space,
• 23:15
  first
• 23:15
  of
• 23:15
  all,
• 23:16
  acknowledge
• 23:17
  that
• 23:17
  that's
• 23:17
  actually
• 23:17
  a
• 23:17
  really
• 23:18
  good,
• 23:18
  good
• 23:19
  space
• 23:19
  to
• 23:19
  be
• 23:20
  in.
• 23:20
  Because
• 23:20
  that
• 23:21
  does
• 23:21
  mean
• 23:21
  that
• 23:21
  you've
• 23:21
  actually
• 23:22
  done
• 23:22
  quite
• 23:22
  a
• 23:22
  bit
• 23:22
  of
• 23:22
  healing.
• 23:23
  Because
• 23:24
  to
• 23:24
  be
• 23:24
  able
• 23:24
  to
• 23:25
  share
• 23:25
  that,
• 23:25
  to
• 23:25
  not
• 23:26
  repress
• 23:26
  that,
• 23:26
  to,
• 23:27
  to
• 23:27
  talk
• 23:28
  it
• 23:28
  through
• 23:28
  and
• 23:28
  to
• 23:29
  have
• 23:29
  it
• 23:29
  be
• 23:30
  part
• 23:30
  of
• 23:30
  your
• 23:30
  dialogue
• 23:31
  with
• 23:31
  your
• 23:31
  friends
• 23:31
  or
• 23:32
  people,
• 23:32
  you
• 23:32
  know,
• 23:33
  that's
• 23:33
  a
• 23:33
  really
• 23:34
  good
• 23:34
  sign
• 23:34
  that
• 23:34
  you've
• 23:35
  processed
• 23:35
  a
• 23:35
  lot
• 23:35
  of
• 23:36
  it.
• 23:36
  But
• 23:36
  it's
• 23:36
  not
• 23:37
  the
• 23:37
  stopping
• 23:37
  point.
• 23:38
  That's
• 23:38
  the
• 23:38
  point
• 23:38
  where
• 23:39
  you
• 23:39
  have
• 23:39
  to
• 23:39
  take
• 23:39
  back
• 23:39
  control
• 23:40
  of
• 23:40
  the
• 23:40
  story
• 23:40
  and
• 23:40
  say,
• 23:40
  okay,
• 23:41
  timeout,
• 23:42
  I
• 23:42
  can't
• 23:42
  retell
• 23:42
  this
• 23:43
  anymore
• 23:43
  because
• 23:43
  every
• 23:43
  time
• 23:43
  I
• 23:44
  retell
• 23:44
  this,
• 23:44
  I'm
• 23:44
  actually
• 23:44
  re
• 23:45
  anchoring
• 23:45
  it
• 23:45
  into
• 23:45
  my
• 23:45
  nervous
• 23:46
  system
• 23:46
  system.
• 23:46
  And
• 23:46
  that's
• 23:46
  not
• 23:46
  helping.
• 23:47
  And
• 23:48
  to
• 23:48
  really
• 23:48
  start
• 23:48
  looking
• 23:48
  at,
• 23:49
  okay,
• 23:49
  if
• 23:49
  I
• 23:49
  actually
• 23:50
  sat
• 23:50
  down
• 23:50
  and
• 23:50
  rewrote
• 23:51
  this
• 23:51
  story
• 23:52
  and
• 23:52
  I
• 23:53
  rewrote
• 23:53
  it,
• 23:53
  and
• 23:53
  you
• 23:53
  can
• 23:54
  be
• 23:54
  super
• 23:54
  creative
• 23:55
  with
• 23:55
  this,
• 23:55
  you
• 23:55
  can
• 23:55
  rewrite
• 23:56
  it
• 23:56
  with
• 23:56
  fantasy,
• 23:56
  you
• 23:57
  can
• 23:57
  call
• 23:57
  in
• 23:57
  angels,
• 23:58
  you
• 23:58
  can
• 23:58
  call
• 23:58
  in
• 23:58
  fairies
• 23:59
  and
• 23:59
  unicorns.
• 24:00
  It
• 24:00
  doesn't
• 24:00
  matter.
• 24:00
  When
• 24:01
  we
• 24:01
  rewrite
• 24:01
  it
• 24:01
  creatively,
• 24:03
  what
• 24:04
  happens
• 24:04
  is
• 24:04
  we
• 24:05
  take
• 24:05
  it
• 24:05
  out
• 24:06
  of
• 24:06
  the
• 24:06
  logical
• 24:07
  reasoning
• 24:08
  part
• 24:08
  of
• 24:08
  the
• 24:08
  body.
• 24:10
  And
• 24:10
  when
• 24:10
  we
• 24:10
  take
• 24:10
  it
• 24:11
  out
• 24:11
  of
• 24:11
  the
• 24:11
  logical
• 24:11
  reasoning
• 24:12
  part
• 24:12
  of
• 24:12
  the
• 24:12
  body,
• 24:13
  one
• 24:13
  of
• 24:13
  the
• 24:13
  things
• 24:13
  that
• 24:13
  we
• 24:14
  remove
• 24:15
  is
• 24:15
  self
• 24:15
  doubt
• 24:16
  and
• 24:17
  protective
• 24:17
  reactions.
• 24:18
  Because
• 24:19
  the
• 24:19
  logical,
• 24:20
  reasonable
• 24:20
  part
• 24:20
  of
• 24:20
  the
• 24:20
  body
• 24:21
  is
• 24:21
  all
• 24:21
  about
• 24:21
  patterns.
• 24:22
  And
• 24:23
  when
• 24:23
  we're
• 24:24
  reacting,
• 24:25
  which
• 24:25
  is
• 24:26
  a
• 24:26
  logical,
• 24:26
  reasonable
• 24:27
  word,
• 24:27
  right,
• 24:27
  we're
• 24:28
  reacting
• 24:28
  out
• 24:29
  a
• 24:29
  pattern.
• 24:29
  When
• 24:30
  we're
• 24:30
  reacting,
• 24:31
  we're
• 24:31
  basically
• 24:32
  telling
• 24:33
  the
• 24:33
  story
• 24:33
  again
• 24:33
  and
• 24:34
  again
• 24:34
  because
• 24:34
  it's
• 24:34
  anchored
• 24:35
  in
• 24:35
  the
• 24:35
  pattern
• 24:35
  part
• 24:35
  of
• 24:36
  our
• 24:36
  body.
• 24:36
  When
• 24:37
  we
• 24:37
  move
• 24:37
  our,
• 24:38
  our
• 24:38
  narrative
• 24:39
  out
• 24:39
  of
• 24:39
  that
• 24:40
  part
• 24:40
  of
• 24:40
  the
• 24:40
  body
• 24:40
  and
• 24:41
  take
• 24:41
  an
• 24:41
  hour
• 24:42
  and
• 24:42
  sit
• 24:42
  down
• 24:42
  and
• 24:42
  engage
• 24:43
  in
• 24:43
  this
• 24:43
  creative
• 24:44
  writing,
• 24:44
  process.
• 24:45
  We
• 24:45
  move
• 24:45
  us
• 24:46
  out
• 24:46
  of
• 24:46
  doubt
• 24:46
  and
• 24:46
  suspicion,
• 24:47
  we
• 24:47
  move
• 24:48
  us
• 24:48
  out
• 24:48
  of
• 24:48
  self
• 24:49
  doubt
• 24:49
  and
• 24:49
  suspicion
• 24:50
  and
• 24:51
  we
• 24:51
  move
• 24:51
  ourselves
• 24:51
  over
• 24:52
  into
• 24:52
  this
• 24:53
  wild
• 24:53
  potential
• 24:54
  filled
• 24:55
  creative
• 24:55
  space
• 24:56
  of
• 24:56
  our
• 24:56
  brain
• 24:57
  and
• 24:57
  our
• 24:57
  nervous
• 24:58
  system.
• 24:58
  And
• 24:59
  the
• 24:59
  beautiful
• 24:59
  part
• 24:59
  about
• 25:00
  that
• 25:00
  is,
• 25:00
  first
• 25:01
  of
• 25:01
  all,
• 25:02
  the
• 25:02
  brain
• 25:02
  doesn't
• 25:03
  know
• 25:03
  the
• 25:03
  difference
• 25:03
  between
• 25:03
  reality
• 25:04
  and
• 25:04
  fantasy.
• 25:05
  To
• 25:05
  a
• 25:05
  certain
• 25:05
  degree
• 25:06
  even.
• 25:07
  And
• 25:07
  again,
• 25:07
  even
• 25:08
  if
• 25:08
  you've
• 25:08
  had
• 25:08
  trauma,
• 25:09
  if
• 25:09
  you
• 25:09
  can
• 25:09
  rework
• 25:10
  that
• 25:10
  trauma
• 25:11
  over
• 25:11
  here
• 25:11
  in
• 25:11
  this
• 25:12
  part
• 25:12
  of
• 25:12
  your
• 25:12
  brain,
• 25:12
  in
• 25:13
  this
• 25:13
  your
• 25:13
  of
• 25:13
  part
• 25:13
  part
• 25:13
  of
• 25:13
  your
• 25:13
  nervous
• 25:14
  system,
• 25:14
  your
• 25:15
  brain
• 25:15
  is
• 25:15
  going,
• 25:15
  oh,
• 25:15
  well,
• 25:16
  this
• 25:16
  is
• 25:16
  fantasy
• 25:16
  and
• 25:16
  it's
• 25:17
  fun
• 25:17
  and
• 25:17
  creative.
• 25:17
  So
• 25:18
  it's
• 25:18
  not
• 25:18
  doubting
• 25:19
  it,
• 25:19
  right?
• 25:19
  It's
• 25:19
  not
• 25:20
  going
• 25:20
  well.
• 25:20
  That
• 25:20
  would
• 25:20
  never
• 25:20
  happen
• 25:20
  or
• 25:21
  he
• 25:21
  would
• 25:21
  never
• 25:21
  say
• 25:21
  that.
• 25:21
  Right?
• 25:22
  It's
• 25:22
  over
• 25:22
  here
• 25:23
  playing
• 25:24
  basically
• 25:24
  in
• 25:24
  this
• 25:25
  very
• 25:25
  creative
• 25:25
  part
• 25:26
  of
• 25:26
  the
• 25:26
  nervous
• 25:26
  system.
• 25:28
  The
• 25:28
  brain
• 25:28
  is
• 25:28
  a
• 25:29
  meaning
• 25:29
  making
• 25:30
  machine.
• 25:30
  And
• 25:31
  really
• 25:31
  what
• 25:31
  it
• 25:31
  does
• 25:32
  is
• 25:32
  it
• 25:32
  actually
• 25:32
  thinks
• 25:33
  in
• 25:33
  metaphors
• 25:33
  and
• 25:34
  stories.
• 25:34
  Which
• 25:34
  is
• 25:35
  why
• 25:35
  again,
• 25:35
  paying
• 25:36
  attention
• 25:36
  to
• 25:36
  the
• 25:36
  stories
• 25:36
  we
• 25:37
  tell
• 25:37
  are
• 25:37
  so
• 25:37
  important
• 25:37
  because
• 25:38
  we're
• 25:38
  translating
• 25:38
  those
• 25:39
  stories
• 25:39
  into
• 25:40
  every
• 25:40
  aspect
• 25:40
  of
• 25:40
  your
• 25:40
  life.
• 25:41
  If
• 25:41
  you've
• 25:41
  ever
• 25:41
  heard
• 25:41
  the
• 25:41
  phrase
• 25:42
  how
• 25:42
  you
• 25:42
  do
• 25:43
  anything
• 25:43
  is
• 25:43
  how
• 25:43
  you
• 25:43
  do
• 25:43
  everything.
• 25:44
  Well,
• 25:44
  part
• 25:44
  of
• 25:45
  what
• 25:45
  we're
• 25:45
  really
• 25:45
  saying
• 25:45
  is
• 25:46
  that
• 25:46
  if
• 25:46
  you
• 25:46
  have
• 25:46
  a
• 25:46
  story
• 25:46
  that
• 25:47
  says,
• 25:47
  I
• 25:47
  am
• 25:47
  a
• 25:47
  victim
• 25:48
  of
• 25:48
  some
• 25:48
  kind,
• 25:49
  that
• 25:49
  story
• 25:50
  is
• 25:50
  like
• 25:50
  a
• 25:50
  meme.
• 25:51
  It's
• 25:51
  duplicating
• 25:52
  itself
• 25:52
  in
• 25:53
  every
• 25:53
  aspect
• 25:53
  of
• 25:54
  your
• 25:54
  life.
• 25:54
  It's
• 25:54
  probably
• 25:54
  duplicating
• 25:55
  in
• 25:55
  your
• 25:55
  money,
• 25:55
  it's
• 25:56
  probably
• 25:56
  duplicating
• 25:56
  in
• 25:56
  your
• 25:57
  health
• 25:57
  and
• 25:57
  your
• 25:57
  body.
• 25:57
  It's
• 25:58
  probably
• 25:58
  duplicating
• 25:58
  in
• 25:58
  your
• 25:58
  relationships.
• 25:59
  It's
• 25:59
  probably
• 25:59
  duplicating
• 26:00
  at
• 26:00
  work
• 26:01
  because
• 26:01
  the
• 26:01
  brain
• 26:02
  is
• 26:02
  interpreting
• 26:02
  everything
• 26:03
  through
• 26:03
  that
• 26:03
  story.
• 26:04
  If
• 26:04
  you
• 26:05
  start
• 26:05
  feeding
• 26:05
  the
• 26:05
  brain
• 26:05
  a
• 26:06
  different
• 26:06
  story,
• 26:06
  and
• 26:06
  in
• 26:06
  this
• 26:07
  story
• 26:08
  you
• 26:08
  are
• 26:08
  suddenly
• 26:08
  cultivating
• 26:09
  superpowers
• 26:10
  and,
• 26:10
  or
• 26:11
  you
• 26:11
  are
• 26:11
  walking
• 26:12
  away
• 26:12
  going,
• 26:12
  okay,
• 26:13
  this
• 26:13
  was
• 26:13
  a
• 26:13
  hero's
• 26:14
  journey.
• 26:14
  I
• 26:14
  got
• 26:14
  to,
• 26:15
  you
• 26:15
  know,
• 26:15
  confront
• 26:16
  the
• 26:16
  dragon.
• 26:17
  I
• 26:17
  won,
• 26:17
  the
• 26:18
  dragon
• 26:18
  lost.
• 26:18
  And
• 26:19
  now
• 26:19
  I'm
• 26:19
  over
• 26:19
  here
• 26:20
  and
• 26:20
  this
• 26:20
  is,
• 26:20
  I'm
• 26:21
  now
• 26:21
  the
• 26:21
  hero
• 26:21
  in
• 26:21
  the
• 26:22
  story
• 26:22
  and
• 26:22
  not
• 26:23
  the
• 26:23
  victim
• 26:23
  in
• 26:23
  the
• 26:24
  story,
• 26:24
  your
• 26:24
  brain
• 26:25
  is
• 26:25
  going
• 26:25
  to
• 26:25
  start
• 26:25
  reworking
• 26:26
  that
• 26:26
  narrative.
• 26:28
  Not
• 26:28
  only
• 26:28
  that,
• 26:29
  in
• 26:29
  the
• 26:29
  research
• 26:30
  that
• 26:30
  I
• 26:30
  did,
• 26:30
  when
• 26:30
  you
• 26:31
  do
• 26:31
  go
• 26:31
  through
• 26:31
  this
• 26:32
  process
• 26:32
  of
• 26:32
  intentionally
• 26:33
  taking
• 26:33
  back
• 26:34
  control
• 26:34
  over
• 26:34
  the
• 26:34
  story
• 26:35
  story
• 26:35
  through
• 26:35
  creative
• 26:36
  writing
• 26:36
  processes,
• 26:37
  when
• 26:38
  you
• 26:38
  actually
• 26:38
  retell
• 26:39
  that
• 26:39
  story,
• 26:39
  that
• 26:39
  new
• 26:40
  creative
• 26:41
  story,
• 26:42
  you
• 26:42
  actually
• 26:42
  improve
• 26:43
  your
• 26:43
  immune
• 26:43
  function.
• 26:44
  You
• 26:44
  have
• 26:44
  a.
• 26:45
  You
• 26:45
  increases
• 26:46
  your
• 26:46
  capacity
• 26:47
  to
• 26:47
  be
• 26:47
  more
• 26:47
  resilient
• 26:48
  and
• 26:48
  you
• 26:48
  start
• 26:49
  to
• 26:49
  reinterpret
• 26:49
  your
• 26:49
  life
• 26:50
  through
• 26:50
  a
• 26:50
  whole
• 26:50
  different
• 26:50
  lens
• 26:51
  of
• 26:51
  meaning.
• 26:51
  So
• 26:52
  it
• 26:52
  sounds
• 26:53
  silly
• 26:54
  in
• 26:54
  a
• 26:54
  way
• 26:54
  because
• 26:55
  I
• 26:55
  think
• 26:55
  we
• 26:55
  are
• 26:56
  as
• 26:56
  a
• 26:56
  culture,
• 26:57
  very
• 26:57
  logical.
• 26:58
  You
• 26:58
  know,
• 26:58
  we're
• 26:59
  trained
• 26:59
  logically.
• 26:59
  We
• 27:00
  go
• 27:00
  to
• 27:00
  schools
• 27:00
  and
• 27:01
  school
• 27:01
  systems
• 27:01
  that
• 27:01
  are
• 27:02
  logical
• 27:02
  and
• 27:02
  linear.
• 27:03
  We.
• 27:03
  We
• 27:03
  kind
• 27:03
  of
• 27:03
  discount
• 27:04
  to
• 27:04
  a
• 27:04
  certain
• 27:04
  degree
• 27:05
  the
• 27:05
  power
• 27:05
  of
• 27:05
  creativity.
• 27:06
  But
• 27:06
  really,
• 27:07
  creativity
• 27:07
  has
• 27:07
  an
• 27:08
  enormous
• 27:08
  capacity
• 27:09
  to
• 27:09
  shift
• 27:09
  our
• 27:09
  immune
• 27:10
  response,
• 27:10
  to
• 27:10
  shift
• 27:10
  our
• 27:11
  biology,
• 27:11
  to
• 27:11
  shift
• 27:12
  our
• 27:12
  nervous
• 27:12
  system,
• 27:13
  and
• 27:13
  start
• 27:13
  to
• 27:13
  give
• 27:14
  us
• 27:14
  a
• 27:14
  reframe
• 27:15
  and
• 27:15
  maybe
• 27:15
  even
• 27:15
  a
• 27:15
  little
• 27:15
  refresh
• 27:16
  on
• 27:16
  the
• 27:16
  old
• 27:16
  narrative
• 27:17
  where
• 27:17
  we
• 27:17
  stop
• 27:18
  the
• 27:18
  story
• 27:18
  at
• 27:18
  the
• 27:18
  cliffhanger.
• 27:19
  Yep.
• 27:20
  I
• 27:20
  love
• 27:20
  it.
• 27:21
  And
• 27:21
  just
• 27:21
  like
• 27:21
  you
• 27:21
  said,
• 27:21
  the
• 27:21
  fact
• 27:22
  of
• 27:22
  rewriting
• 27:22
  it,
• 27:22
  and
• 27:23
  then
• 27:23
  all
• 27:23
  of
• 27:23
  a
• 27:23
  sudden,
• 27:23
  you're
• 27:23
  this
• 27:23
  powerful
• 27:24
  person.
• 27:24
  Eventually
• 27:25
  your
• 27:25
  brain
• 27:25
  is.
• 27:26
  You
• 27:26
  keep
• 27:26
  doing
• 27:26
  that,
• 27:27
  your
• 27:27
  brain
• 27:27
  is
• 27:27
  going
• 27:27
  to
• 27:27
  kick
• 27:28
  in.
• 27:28
  And
• 27:28
  that's,
• 27:29
  like
• 27:29
  you
• 27:29
  said,
• 27:29
  your
• 27:29
  new
• 27:29
  identity.
• 27:30
  Now
• 27:30
  you.
• 27:30
  You're
• 27:31
  a
• 27:31
  little
• 27:31
  more
• 27:31
  empowered,
• 27:32
  you're
• 27:32
  a
• 27:32
  little
• 27:32
  more
• 27:32
  confident,
• 27:33
  you're
• 27:33
  a
• 27:33
  little
• 27:33
  more.
• 27:33
  And
• 27:33
  you
• 27:34
  will
• 27:34
  start
• 27:34
  to
• 27:34
  act
• 27:35
  out
• 27:35
  in
• 27:35
  every
• 27:36
  single
• 27:36
  way
• 27:36
  that
• 27:36
  way.
• 27:37
  It's
• 27:37
  like
• 27:37
  I
• 27:37
  talk
• 27:38
  about
• 27:38
  when
• 27:38
  people,
• 27:38
  when
• 27:39
  they
• 27:39
  first
• 27:39
  start
• 27:39
  setting
• 27:40
  boundaries.
• 27:40
  It's
• 27:41
  scary.
• 27:41
  It's.
• 27:42
  It's
• 27:42
  not
• 27:42
  going
• 27:42
  to
• 27:42
  work.
• 27:43
  It's.
• 27:43
  I
• 27:43
  don't.
• 27:43
  I
• 27:43
  don't
• 27:43
  deserve
• 27:44
  this.
• 27:44
  And
• 27:44
  then
• 27:44
  you
• 27:45
  set
• 27:45
  one
• 27:45
  and
• 27:45
  you
• 27:45
  get
• 27:46
  a
• 27:46
  good
• 27:46
  reaction,
• 27:46
  and
• 27:46
  then
• 27:47
  you're
• 27:47
  like,
• 27:47
  that's
• 27:48
  kind
• 27:48
  of.
• 27:48
  I
• 27:48
  can
• 27:48
  walk
• 27:48
  a
• 27:48
  little
• 27:49
  taller,
• 27:49
  spread
• 27:49
  my
• 27:49
  chest
• 27:50
  a
• 27:50
  little
• 27:50
  wider.
• 27:51
  Like,
• 27:51
  imagine
• 27:52
  that
• 27:52
  my
• 27:52
  boundaries
• 27:52
  are
• 27:53
  listened
• 27:53
  to.
• 27:53
  And.
• 27:54
  But
• 27:54
  then
• 27:54
  your
• 27:54
  brain
• 27:54
  is
• 27:55
  saying,
• 27:56
  yeah,
• 27:56
  boundaries
• 27:56
  are
• 27:56
  safe
• 27:56
  for
• 27:57
  you.
• 27:57
  They're
• 27:57
  good.
• 27:57
  They're
• 27:57
  good.
• 27:58
  You
• 27:58
  know,
• 27:58
  you
• 27:58
  just.
• 27:59
  People
• 28:00
  really,
• 28:00
  I
• 28:01
  think,
• 28:01
  don't
• 28:01
  give
• 28:01
  the
• 28:01
  brain
• 28:02
  enough
• 28:02
  credit.
• 28:02
  And
• 28:02
  I
• 28:02
  tell
• 28:03
  people
• 28:05
  like
• 28:05
  me,
• 28:06
  I
• 28:06
  can.
• 28:06
  All
• 28:06
  the
• 28:07
  affirmations
• 28:07
  in
• 28:07
  the
• 28:07
  world,
• 28:08
  it's
• 28:08
  great.
• 28:09
  You
• 28:09
  can
• 28:09
  do
• 28:09
  them
• 28:09
  all
• 28:09
  day
• 28:10
  long.
• 28:10
  But
• 28:10
  until
• 28:10
  your
• 28:11
  subconscious
• 28:12
  is
• 28:12
  up
• 28:12
  to
• 28:12
  that
• 28:13
  level
• 28:13
  and
• 28:13
  actually
• 28:13
  believes
• 28:14
  that
• 28:14
  story
• 28:14
  that
• 28:15
  you're
• 28:15
  telling,
• 28:15
  it,
• 28:15
  it's.
• 28:16
  It's.
• 28:17
  It's
• 28:17
  like
• 28:17
  a.
• 28:18
  I
• 28:18
  don't
• 28:18
  want
• 28:18
  to
• 28:19
  say
• 28:19
  it's
• 28:19
  a
• 28:20
  wasted
• 28:20
  time,
• 28:20
  because
• 28:21
  it's
• 28:21
  not.
• 28:21
  It's
• 28:21
  never
• 28:21
  a
• 28:22
  waste
• 28:22
  of
• 28:22
  time
• 28:22
  to
• 28:22
  do
• 28:22
  any
• 28:22
  kind
• 28:23
  of
• 28:23
  positive
• 28:24
  affirmation.
• 28:24
  But
• 28:25
  you
• 28:25
  have
• 28:25
  to
• 28:25
  go
• 28:26
  through,
• 28:26
  like
• 28:26
  you
• 28:26
  said,
• 28:26
  of
• 28:27
  making
• 28:27
  your
• 28:27
  body
• 28:28
  believe
• 28:28
  that
• 28:28
  story.
• 28:29
  You
• 28:29
  know,
• 28:29
  feel
• 28:30
  yourself
• 28:30
  as
• 28:30
  that
• 28:31
  superhero.
• 28:31
  Like,
• 28:32
  really
• 28:32
  feel
• 28:32
  it
• 28:32
  in
• 28:33
  your
• 28:33
  body.
• 28:34
  Well,
• 28:34
  and
• 28:34
  that's
• 28:35
  the
• 28:35
  piece
• 28:35
  with
• 28:35
  affirmations.
• 28:36
  Your
• 28:36
  affirmations
• 28:37
  are
• 28:37
  logical
• 28:37
  and
• 28:37
  reasonable.
• 28:38
  Right?
• 28:38
  We,
• 28:39
  I'm
• 28:39
  now,
• 28:39
  blah,
• 28:40
  blah,
• 28:40
  blah,
• 28:40
  I
• 28:40
  am.
• 28:40
  And
• 28:41
  we
• 28:41
  put
• 28:41
  it
• 28:41
  in
• 28:41
  sort
• 28:42
  of
• 28:42
  present
• 28:42
  tense
• 28:43
  with
• 28:43
  our
• 28:43
  current
• 28:44
  narrative.
• 28:44
  And
• 28:44
  there
• 28:44
  is
• 28:45
  a
• 28:45
  believability
• 28:45
  gap
• 28:46
  oftentimes
• 28:46
  with
• 28:46
  affirmations.
• 28:47
  And
• 28:47
  this
• 28:47
  is
• 28:47
  where,
• 28:48
  again,
• 28:48
  if
• 28:48
  you
• 28:48
  want
• 28:49
  to
• 28:49
  shift
• 28:50
  the
• 28:50
  narrative,
• 28:51
  take
• 28:51
  that
• 28:51
  affirmation
• 28:52
  and
• 28:52
  write
• 28:52
  a
• 28:53
  story
• 28:53
  about
• 28:53
  it
• 28:54
  and
• 28:54
  put
• 28:54
  it
• 28:54
  over
• 28:55
  here
• 28:55
  in
• 28:55
  this
• 28:55
  creative
• 28:56
  part
• 28:56
  of
• 28:56
  your
• 28:56
  being,
• 28:57
  because
• 28:57
  that
• 28:58
  allows
• 28:58
  you
• 28:59
  to
• 28:59
  jump
• 28:59
  over
• 28:59
  the
• 29:00
  believability
• 29:00
  gap.
• 29:00
  Especially
• 29:01
  if,
• 29:01
  especially
• 29:02
  if,
• 29:02
  as
• 29:03
  ironic
• 29:03
  as
• 29:04
  it
• 29:04
  is,
• 29:04
  if
• 29:04
  you
• 29:04
  add
• 29:04
  fantasy
• 29:05
  and
• 29:06
  other,
• 29:06
  you
• 29:07
  know,
• 29:07
  other
• 29:07
  creative
• 29:07
  aspects
• 29:08
  to
• 29:08
  it
• 29:08
  and
• 29:08
  transcend,
• 29:10
  you
• 29:10
  know,
• 29:10
  the
• 29:10
  brain's
• 29:11
  natural,
• 29:12
  that
• 29:12
  can't
• 29:12
  be
• 29:12
  true.
• 29:13
  Part
• 29:13
  of
• 29:13
  the
• 29:13
  brain,
• 29:14
  you
• 29:14
  actually
• 29:15
  can
• 29:15
  help
• 29:16
  the
• 29:16
  brain
• 29:16
  integrate
• 29:17
  a
• 29:17
  new
• 29:17
  perspective
• 29:17
  and
• 29:18
  a
• 29:18
  new
• 29:18
  narrative.
• 29:18
  And
• 29:18
  the
• 29:18
  other
• 29:19
  thing
• 29:19
  that's
• 29:19
  really
• 29:19
  kind
• 29:19
  of
• 29:19
  cool
• 29:19
  is
• 29:20
  we
• 29:20
  look
• 29:21
  at
• 29:21
  how
• 29:21
  the
• 29:21
  brain
• 29:21
  works
• 29:21
  developmentally.
• 29:24
  We
• 29:24
  learn
• 29:25
  about
• 29:25
  values
• 29:26
  and
• 29:26
  we
• 29:26
  learn
• 29:27
  about
• 29:27
  life
• 29:27
  and
• 29:28
  ourselves
• 29:28
  through
• 29:29
  storytelling.
• 29:30
  In
• 29:30
  a
• 29:30
  healthy
• 29:31
  family
• 29:31
  system,
• 29:32
  children
• 29:32
  are
• 29:32
  supposed
• 29:33
  to
• 29:33
  be
• 29:33
  swept
• 29:33
  up
• 29:34
  and
• 29:34
  scooped
• 29:34
  onto
• 29:34
  some,
• 29:35
  you
• 29:35
  know,
• 29:35
  a
• 29:35
  lap
• 29:36
  and
• 29:36
  have
• 29:36
  a
• 29:36
  book
• 29:37
  read
• 29:37
  to
• 29:37
  them
• 29:37
  as
• 29:38
  part
• 29:38
  of
• 29:38
  their
• 29:38
  everyday
• 29:38
  process,
• 29:39
  Right.
• 29:39
  They
• 29:39
  need
• 29:39
  that,
• 29:40
  that
• 29:40
  cuddly
• 29:41
  connection
• 29:42
  that's
• 29:42
  rooted
• 29:43
  in
• 29:43
  storytelling.
• 29:44
  Storytelling
• 29:44
  is
• 29:45
  such
• 29:45
  an
• 29:45
  essential
• 29:46
  part
• 29:46
  of
• 29:46
  our
• 29:46
  brain.
• 29:46
  And
• 29:46
  in
• 29:46
  fact,
• 29:47
  in
• 29:47
  more
• 29:47
  traditional
• 29:48
  cultures,
• 29:49
  even
• 29:49
  as
• 29:49
  adults,
• 29:50
  right,
• 29:50
  we
• 29:50
  sit
• 29:50
  around
• 29:50
  the
• 29:51
  fire
• 29:51
  and
• 29:51
  we
• 29:51
  tell
• 29:52
  stories
• 29:52
  because
• 29:52
  it's
• 29:52
  a
• 29:53
  way
• 29:53
  to
• 29:53
  connect
• 29:53
  us
• 29:54
  and
• 29:54
  to
• 29:54
  bond
• 29:54
  us.
• 29:54
  It's
• 29:55
  also
• 29:55
  a
• 29:55
  way
• 29:55
  to
• 29:55
  soothe
• 29:55
  the
• 29:55
  nervous
• 29:56
  system.
• 29:57
  And
• 29:57
  our
• 29:57
  brains
• 29:58
  integrate
• 29:59
  new
• 29:59
  information
• 30:00
  through
• 30:00
  storytelling
• 30:01
  better
• 30:01
  than
• 30:01
  anything
• 30:02
  else.
• 30:03
  So
• 30:03
  tell
• 30:04
  a
• 30:04
  better
• 30:04
  story.
• 30:05
  Yeah,
• 30:06
  absolutely.
• 30:06
  Yeah.
• 30:07
  And
• 30:07
  it's
• 30:07
  hard.
• 30:08
  Again,
• 30:08
  I'm
• 30:08
  going
• 30:08
  back
• 30:09
  to
• 30:09
  some
• 30:09
  of
• 30:09
  the
• 30:09
  people
• 30:09
  that
• 30:09
  I
• 30:10
  deal
• 30:10
  with
• 30:10
  and
• 30:10
  even
• 30:10
  myself,
• 30:11
  I
• 30:11
  was
• 30:11
  never
• 30:11
  read
• 30:11
  to.
• 30:12
  I
• 30:12
  was
• 30:12
  never
• 30:12
  coddled.
• 30:13
  I
• 30:13
  was
• 30:13
  never
• 30:14
  got
• 30:14
  to.
• 30:15
  I
• 30:15
  never
• 30:15
  got
• 30:15
  to
• 30:15
  play
• 30:16
  out
• 30:16
  these
• 30:16
  fantasy
• 30:16
  stories.
• 30:17
  And
• 30:17
  I
• 30:17
  did
• 30:18
  it
• 30:18
  with
• 30:18
  my
• 30:18
  children.
• 30:18
  And
• 30:19
  what
• 30:19
  a.
• 30:19
  You
• 30:19
  know,
• 30:19
  I
• 30:19
  just
• 30:20
  look
• 30:20
  at
• 30:20
  the.
• 30:20
  My
• 30:21
  daughter
• 30:21
  is
• 30:21
  living
• 30:22
  out
• 30:22
  in
• 30:22
  a
• 30:22
  camper
• 30:22
  in
• 30:22
  negative
• 30:23
  10
• 30:23
  degree
• 30:23
  weather
• 30:23
  right
• 30:23
  now.
• 30:24
  But
• 30:24
  it's
• 30:24
  so
• 30:24
  funny,
• 30:24
  she
• 30:25
  sent
• 30:25
  me
• 30:25
  a
• 30:25
  picture
• 30:25
  of
• 30:26
  that
• 30:26
  where
• 30:26
  the
• 30:26
  wild
• 30:27
  things
• 30:27
  are
• 30:27
  booked
• 30:28
  and
• 30:29
  she's,
• 30:29
  you
• 30:29
  know,
• 30:29
  and
• 30:30
  she
• 30:30
  said,
• 30:30
  when
• 30:30
  I,
• 30:30
  when
• 30:31
  I'm
• 30:31
  feeling
• 30:31
  not
• 30:31
  strong,
• 30:32
  I
• 30:32
  pull
• 30:32
  that
• 30:32
  book
• 30:33
  out
• 30:33
  because
• 30:33
  you
• 30:33
  read
• 30:33
  that
• 30:34
  book
• 30:34
  to
• 30:34
  me
• 30:34
  almost
• 30:34
  every
• 30:35
  other
• 30:35
  day
• 30:35
  and
• 30:35
  we
• 30:35
  roared
• 30:36
  and
• 30:36
  we,
• 30:36
  you
• 30:37
  know,
• 30:37
  and
• 30:37
  it
• 30:37
  makes
• 30:38
  her
• 30:38
  feel
• 30:38
  powerful.
• 30:38
  And
• 30:39
  she's
• 30:39
  28
• 30:39
  years
• 30:39
  old
• 30:40
  now,
• 30:42
  but
• 30:42
  what
• 30:42
  about
• 30:42
  the
• 30:43
  kids
• 30:43
  that
• 30:43
  didn't
• 30:43
  get
• 30:43
  that,
• 30:45
  that
• 30:45
  didn't
• 30:46
  get
• 30:46
  the.
• 30:46
  That
• 30:47
  doesn't
• 30:47
  mean
• 30:47
  you
• 30:47
  can't
• 30:47
  do
• 30:48
  storytelling.
• 30:48
  It
• 30:49
  just
• 30:49
  may
• 30:49
  mean
• 30:49
  that
• 30:49
  you
• 30:50
  have
• 30:50
  to
• 30:50
  stretch
• 30:50
  yourself
• 30:51
  a
• 30:51
  little
• 30:51
  bit
• 30:51
  to
• 30:51
  learn
• 30:52
  it
• 30:52
  as
• 30:52
  a
• 30:52
  skill.
• 30:53
  And
• 30:54
  in
• 30:54
  fact,
• 30:54
  the,
• 30:55
  the
• 30:55
  art
• 30:56
  of
• 30:56
  sitting
• 30:56
  down
• 30:56
  and
• 30:58
  recapturing
• 30:59
  and
• 30:59
  reclaiming
• 30:59
  that
• 31:00
  part
• 31:00
  of
• 31:00
  yourself
• 31:01
  can
• 31:02
  be
• 31:02
  immensely
• 31:02
  healing
• 31:03
  it.
• 31:03
  You
• 31:03
  know,
• 31:03
  your
• 31:04
  inner
• 31:04
  child
• 31:05
  wants
• 31:05
  to
• 31:06
  have
• 31:06
  a
• 31:06
  better
• 31:06
  story
• 31:07
  and
• 31:07
  needs
• 31:08
  you
• 31:08
  to
• 31:08
  tell
• 31:08
  it
• 31:09
  a
• 31:09
  better
• 31:09
  story
• 31:09
  because
• 31:10
  nobody
• 31:10
  else
• 31:10
  is
• 31:10
  going
• 31:10
  to
• 31:11
  come
• 31:11
  tell
• 31:11
  it
• 31:11
  a
• 31:11
  better
• 31:11
  story,
• 31:12
  right?
• 31:12
  So
• 31:12
  you,
• 31:13
  when
• 31:13
  you
• 31:13
  take
• 31:13
  back
• 31:14
  control
• 31:14
  over
• 31:14
  the
• 31:14
  story
• 31:15
  and
• 31:15
  engage
• 31:15
  in
• 31:16
  that
• 31:16
  storytelling
• 31:16
  process
• 31:17
  with
• 31:17
  creativity
• 31:18
  and,
• 31:19
  you
• 31:19
  know,
• 31:19
  reframe
• 31:20
  it,
• 31:20
  then
• 31:21
  you're
• 31:21
  really
• 31:21
  signaling
• 31:22
  that
• 31:22
  aspect
• 31:23
  of
• 31:23
  yourself,
• 31:23
  that
• 31:23
  inner
• 31:24
  Child
• 31:24
  part
• 31:24
  of
• 31:24
  yourself
• 31:25
  that.
• 31:25
  Hey,
• 31:25
  I
• 31:25
  got,
• 31:26
  I
• 31:26
  got
• 31:26
  you.
• 31:26
  I'm
• 31:27
  going
• 31:27
  to
• 31:27
  hold
• 31:27
  this
• 31:28
  space
• 31:28
  for
• 31:28
  you
• 31:28
  where
• 31:29
  we
• 31:29
  are
• 31:29
  going
• 31:29
  to
• 31:30
  re
• 31:30
  engineer
• 31:30
  the
• 31:31
  story
• 31:31
  in
• 31:31
  a
• 31:31
  way
• 31:31
  that
• 31:32
  is
• 31:33
  loving
• 31:33
  and
• 31:33
  nurturing
• 31:34
  and
• 31:34
  creative.
• 31:34
  And
• 31:35
  you
• 31:35
  know,
• 31:35
  I
• 31:35
  will
• 31:36
  metaphorically
• 31:36
  sweep
• 31:37
  you
• 31:37
  into
• 31:37
  my
• 31:37
  lap
• 31:37
  into
• 31:38
  this
• 31:38
  safe
• 31:38
  space
• 31:38
  and
• 31:39
  we
• 31:39
  will
• 31:39
  recode
• 31:39
  the
• 31:39
  story.
• 31:41
  And
• 31:42
  yes,
• 31:42
  and
• 31:42
  I
• 31:42
  love
• 31:42
  that.
• 31:43
  And
• 31:43
  don't.
• 31:43
  For
• 31:43
  the
• 31:43
  people
• 31:43
  out
• 31:43
  there
• 31:44
  listening,
• 31:44
  it
• 31:44
  doesn't
• 31:44
  have
• 31:44
  to
• 31:45
  be
• 31:45
  good,
• 31:45
  it
• 31:45
  doesn't
• 31:45
  have
• 31:45
  to
• 31:45
  be
• 31:45
  perfect.
• 31:46
  It
• 31:46
  doesn't
• 31:46
  have
• 31:46
  to
• 31:46
  be
• 31:46
  a
• 31:47
  best
• 31:47
  seller.
• 31:47
  I
• 31:48
  tell
• 31:48
  people,
• 31:48
  just
• 31:49
  get
• 31:49
  out
• 31:49
  a
• 31:49
  piece
• 31:49
  of
• 31:50
  paper.
• 31:50
  I
• 31:50
  like
• 31:50
  to
• 31:51
  do
• 31:51
  it
• 31:51
  right
• 31:51
  before
• 31:51
  I
• 31:51
  go
• 31:51
  to
• 31:51
  bed
• 31:52
  or
• 31:52
  right
• 31:52
  when
• 31:52
  I
• 31:52
  wake
• 31:52
  up
• 31:53
  because
• 31:53
  that's
• 31:53
  when
• 31:53
  you're
• 31:53
  kind
• 31:53
  of
• 31:54
  at
• 31:54
  that
• 31:54
  most
• 31:54
  receptive.
• 31:55
  Whatever
• 31:55
  I
• 31:56
  write
• 31:56
  is
• 31:57
  going
• 31:57
  to
• 31:57
  stick
• 31:58
  a
• 31:58
  little
• 31:58
  bit
• 31:58
  better
• 31:58
  because
• 31:59
  you're
• 31:59
  in
• 31:59
  those
• 32:00
  brain
• 32:00
  waves.
• 32:02
  But
• 32:02
  just
• 32:03
  write.
• 32:03
  Just.
• 32:04
  It
• 32:05
  starts
• 32:05
  out
• 32:05
  when
• 32:05
  I
• 32:05
  started
• 32:06
  doing.
• 32:06
  It
• 32:06
  started
• 32:06
  out
• 32:06
  as
• 32:07
  word.
• 32:07
  I
• 32:07
  called
• 32:07
  it
• 32:07
  word
• 32:08
  vomiting.
• 32:08
  You
• 32:08
  know,
• 32:09
  it's
• 32:09
  just
• 32:09
  like
• 32:09
  I
• 32:09
  just
• 32:09
  wrote.
• 32:10
  And
• 32:12
  what
• 32:12
  a
• 32:12
  neat
• 32:12
  exercise
• 32:13
  though,
• 32:13
  to
• 32:13
  just
• 32:14
  pick
• 32:14
  something,
• 32:14
  like
• 32:14
  pick
• 32:15
  something
• 32:15
  during
• 32:15
  the
• 32:15
  day
• 32:16
  and
• 32:16
  rewrite
• 32:16
  it.
• 32:17
  Just
• 32:17
  rewrite
• 32:17
  the
• 32:18
  situation
• 32:18
  is.
• 32:19
  And
• 32:19
  then
• 32:19
  more
• 32:20
  like
• 32:20
  you
• 32:20
  said,
• 32:20
  creative,
• 32:21
  empowered,
• 32:22
  whatever
• 32:22
  you
• 32:22
  want
• 32:22
  it
• 32:22
  to
• 32:22
  be
• 32:23
  fantasy.
• 32:24
  I
• 32:24
  love
• 32:24
  that.
• 32:25
  That's
• 32:25
  great.
• 32:26
  As
• 32:26
  I
• 32:26
  said,
• 32:26
  the
• 32:26
  brain
• 32:27
  doesn't
• 32:27
  know
• 32:27
  the
• 32:27
  difference.
• 32:28
  The
• 32:28
  brain
• 32:28
  is
• 32:28
  actually
• 32:28
  not
• 32:29
  very
• 32:29
  smart.
• 32:30
  Um,
• 32:30
  so
• 32:30
  you
• 32:31
  can
• 32:31
  kind
• 32:31
  of
• 32:31
  feed
• 32:31
  it
• 32:32
  whatever
• 32:32
  you
• 32:32
  want.
• 32:33
  So,
• 32:34
  yeah,
• 32:34
  I
• 32:34
  always
• 32:34
  say,
• 32:34
  I
• 32:35
  said
• 32:35
  the
• 32:35
  brain
• 32:35
  can
• 32:35
  be
• 32:36
  tricked,
• 32:36
  body
• 32:36
  can't.
• 32:38
  So
• 32:39
  you,
• 32:39
  you
• 32:39
  can
• 32:39
  trick
• 32:40
  your
• 32:40
  brain,
• 32:40
  like
• 32:40
  I
• 32:40
  said,
• 32:40
  doesn't
• 32:41
  know
• 32:41
  the
• 32:41
  difference
• 32:41
  between
• 32:41
  reality
• 32:42
  and
• 32:42
  not
• 32:42
  reality
• 32:42
  and
• 32:43
  everything
• 32:43
  else.
• 32:43
  Your
• 32:43
  body,
• 32:43
  like
• 32:44
  your
• 32:44
  body,
• 32:45
  you,
• 32:46
  you.
• 32:46
  It's
• 32:46
  very
• 32:46
  hard
• 32:47
  to
• 32:47
  trick
• 32:47
  your
• 32:47
  body.
• 32:48
  You
• 32:48
  can
• 32:48
  say
• 32:48
  something
• 32:49
  and
• 32:49
  logically
• 32:50
  it
• 32:50
  sounds
• 32:51
  really
• 32:51
  good,
• 32:51
  but
• 32:51
  your
• 32:51
  body
• 32:52
  will
• 32:52
  still
• 32:52
  clench
• 32:53
  or
• 32:53
  squeeze
• 32:54
  or
• 32:54
  do
• 32:54
  something.
• 32:56
  And
• 32:56
  again,
• 32:57
  when
• 32:57
  we
• 32:57
  look
• 32:57
  at
• 32:58
  it
• 32:58
  through
• 32:58
  the
• 32:58
  lens
• 32:58
  of
• 32:58
  nervous
• 32:59
  system,
• 33:00
  how
• 33:00
  the
• 33:00
  nervous
• 33:00
  system
• 33:01
  works
• 33:01
  when
• 33:01
  we
• 33:02
  rewrite
• 33:02
  that
• 33:02
  story
• 33:03
  on
• 33:03
  that
• 33:03
  creative
• 33:03
  piece.
• 33:04
  Because
• 33:05
  it
• 33:06
  so
• 33:06
  again,
• 33:06
  reactivity
• 33:08
  is
• 33:08
  linear
• 33:08
  and
• 33:09
  logical.
• 33:09
  Even
• 33:09
  though
• 33:10
  it
• 33:10
  doesn't
• 33:10
  seem
• 33:10
  reasonable
• 33:11
  or
• 33:11
  logical,
• 33:12
  it
• 33:12
  is
• 33:12
  actually
• 33:12
  logical
• 33:13
  in
• 33:13
  the
• 33:13
  sense
• 33:13
  that
• 33:13
  it
• 33:13
  is
• 33:14
  a
• 33:14
  repeated
• 33:14
  pattern.
• 33:15
  Right
• 33:15
  when
• 33:15
  we
• 33:15
  experience
• 33:16
  trauma
• 33:17
  and
• 33:17
  we
• 33:17
  develop
• 33:18
  PTSD
• 33:19
  patterns
• 33:19
  or
• 33:20
  reactive
• 33:20
  patterns.
• 33:21
  Those
• 33:22
  are
• 33:22
  patterns.
• 33:22
  And
• 33:23
  pattern
• 33:23
  reasoning
• 33:24
  and
• 33:24
  logic
• 33:25
  are
• 33:25
  all
• 33:25
  about
• 33:25
  patterns.
• 33:26
  And
• 33:26
  when
• 33:27
  we
• 33:27
  move
• 33:27
  over
• 33:27
  to
• 33:28
  this
• 33:28
  other
• 33:28
  side
• 33:28
  of
• 33:28
  the
• 33:28
  brain,
• 33:29
  we
• 33:29
  actually
• 33:30
  can
• 33:30
  soothe
• 33:31
  the
• 33:31
  brain
• 33:31
  and
• 33:31
  then
• 33:32
  soothe
• 33:32
  the
• 33:32
  nervous
• 33:33
  system
• 33:33
  because
• 33:33
  we're
• 33:33
  not
• 33:33
  triggering
• 33:34
  that
• 33:34
  old
• 33:34
  pattern
• 33:35
  anymore.
• 33:35
  We're
• 33:35
  taking
• 33:35
  back
• 33:36
  control
• 33:36
  over
• 33:36
  that
• 33:36
  pattern
• 33:37
  and
• 33:37
  we're
• 33:37
  engaging
• 33:38
  in
• 33:38
  this
• 33:38
  place
• 33:38
  of
• 33:38
  possibility
• 33:39
  instead
• 33:39
  of
• 33:40
  reacting
• 33:40
  out
• 33:41
  of
• 33:41
  the
• 33:41
  old
• 33:41
  triggers
• 33:42
  and
• 33:42
  the
• 33:42
  old.
• 33:42
  The
• 33:43
  old
• 33:43
  patterns.
• 33:44
  Absolutely.
• 33:45
  So
• 33:45
  if
• 33:45
  you
• 33:46
  had
• 33:46
  to
• 33:46
  give
• 33:46
  a
• 33:46
  suggestion,
• 33:47
  like,
• 33:47
  just
• 33:47
  one
• 33:47
  thing.
• 33:48
  Like,
• 33:48
  will
• 33:48
  you
• 33:49
  just
• 33:49
  say,
• 33:49
  pick
• 33:49
  a
• 33:49
  story
• 33:50
  from
• 33:50
  that
• 33:50
  day?
• 33:50
  Pick
• 33:51
  a
• 33:51
  story
• 33:51
  from
• 33:51
  a
• 33:51
  long
• 33:51
  time
• 33:52
  ago.
• 33:52
  Like,
• 33:52
  what
• 33:52
  would
• 33:52
  be
• 33:52
  your
• 33:53
  suggestion
• 33:53
  for
• 33:53
  people
• 33:54
  that
• 33:54
  want
• 33:54
  to
• 33:54
  get
• 33:54
  started
• 33:54
  and
• 33:55
  go,
• 33:55
  okay,
• 33:55
  I
• 33:55
  want
• 33:55
  to
• 33:55
  start
• 33:56
  trying
• 33:56
  to
• 33:56
  do
• 33:56
  this.
• 33:57
  So
• 33:57
  I
• 33:58
  would
• 33:58
  probably
• 33:58
  start
• 33:59
  with
• 34:00
  either.
• 34:00
  I
• 34:01
  mean,
• 34:01
  you
• 34:01
  can.
• 34:01
  It's
• 34:01
  kind
• 34:01
  of
• 34:02
  up
• 34:02
  to
• 34:02
  you
• 34:02
  in
• 34:02
  terms
• 34:02
  of
• 34:02
  where
• 34:02
  you
• 34:02
  want
• 34:03
  to
• 34:03
  start.
• 34:03
  There
• 34:03
  are
• 34:03
  two
• 34:03
  places
• 34:04
  where
• 34:04
  I
• 34:04
  would
• 34:04
  recommend
• 34:05
  either
• 34:05
  pick
• 34:06
  a
• 34:06
  story
• 34:06
  that
• 34:06
  you've
• 34:07
  got
• 34:07
  on.
• 34:07
  On
• 34:07
  remote,
• 34:08
  like
• 34:08
  a
• 34:08
  tape
• 34:09
  loop
• 34:09
  story,
• 34:09
  and
• 34:09
  start
• 34:10
  with
• 34:10
  a
• 34:10
  tape
• 34:10
  loop
• 34:10
  story
• 34:11
  and
• 34:12
  look
• 34:12
  at.
• 34:12
  Okay.
• 34:12
  If
• 34:13
  I
• 34:13
  retold
• 34:13
  the
• 34:14
  story
• 34:14
  from
• 34:14
  an
• 34:15
  empowered
• 34:15
  perspective,
• 34:16
  or
• 34:16
  if
• 34:16
  I
• 34:16
  retold
• 34:17
  the
• 34:17
  story
• 34:17
  from
• 34:17
  the
• 34:17
  lens
• 34:17
  of
• 34:18
  here's
• 34:19
  this
• 34:19
  thing
• 34:19
  that
• 34:19
  happened
• 34:20
  and
• 34:21
  I'm
• 34:21
  now
• 34:21
  going
• 34:22
  to
• 34:22
  reinterpret
• 34:22
  it
• 34:23
  so
• 34:23
  that
• 34:23
  I'm
• 34:23
  walking
• 34:23
  away
• 34:24
  with
• 34:24
  a
• 34:24
  treasure
• 34:25
  or
• 34:25
  some
• 34:25
  kind
• 34:25
  of
• 34:26
  gift
• 34:26
  that
• 34:26
  I'm
• 34:26
  going
• 34:27
  to
• 34:27
  use
• 34:27
  to
• 34:27
  make
• 34:28
  my
• 34:28
  life
• 34:28
  better.
• 34:29
  Pick.
• 34:29
  Pick
• 34:30
  that
• 34:30
  tape
• 34:30
  loop
• 34:30
  story
• 34:31
  and
• 34:31
  start
• 34:31
  with
• 34:31
  that.
• 34:31
  Or
• 34:33
  you
• 34:33
  might
• 34:33
  want
• 34:33
  to
• 34:34
  start
• 34:34
  with
• 34:34
  just
• 34:34
  a
• 34:34
  very
• 34:34
  broad
• 34:35
  story
• 34:35
  that
• 34:35
  end
• 34:36
  and
• 34:36
  it's
• 34:36
  not
• 34:36
  deep
• 34:37
  in
• 34:37
  the
• 34:37
  specifics
• 34:38
  of
• 34:38
  any
• 34:38
  particular
• 34:38
  event,
• 34:39
  but
• 34:39
  start
• 34:40
  first
• 34:40
  really
• 34:40
  far
• 34:41
  out
• 34:41
  away
• 34:41
  from
• 34:41
  the
• 34:42
  story.
• 34:42
  Like,
• 34:42
  once
• 34:42
  upon
• 34:42
  a
• 34:43
  time,
• 34:43
  there
• 34:43
  was
• 34:43
  a
• 34:43
  little,
• 34:43
  little
• 34:43
  girl
• 34:44
  who
• 34:44
  grew
• 34:44
  up
• 34:44
  in
• 34:44
  a
• 34:45
  family
• 34:45
  where,
• 34:46
  you
• 34:46
  know,
• 34:46
  everybody
• 34:47
  told
• 34:47
  her,
• 34:47
  be
• 34:48
  quiet,
• 34:48
  sit
• 34:48
  down,
• 34:49
  you
• 34:49
  don't
• 34:50
  matter.
• 34:51
  And
• 34:51
  one
• 34:51
  day
• 34:53
  she
• 34:53
  learned,
• 34:53
  right.
• 34:54
  Take
• 34:54
  it
• 34:54
  from
• 34:54
  a
• 34:55
  very,
• 34:55
  very
• 34:55
  abstract
• 34:56
  perspective
• 34:56
  and
• 34:56
  begin
• 34:57
  there.
• 34:58
  Don't
• 34:59
  pick
• 34:59
  a
• 34:59
  story
• 35:00
  that
• 35:00
  is
• 35:01
  still
• 35:01
  deeply
• 35:02
  activating
• 35:02
  or
• 35:02
  triggering
• 35:03
  to
• 35:03
  you.
• 35:03
  I
• 35:04
  was
• 35:04
  going
• 35:04
  to
• 35:04
  say
• 35:04
  that
• 35:04
  would
• 35:05
  be
• 35:05
  not.
• 35:05
  That's
• 35:05
  what
• 35:06
  I
• 35:06
  was
• 35:06
  kind
• 35:06
  of
• 35:06
  getting
• 35:06
  at.
• 35:07
  That
• 35:07
  would
• 35:07
  make
• 35:07
  sense
• 35:08
  to
• 35:08
  me
• 35:08
  not
• 35:08
  to
• 35:08
  pick
• 35:08
  something
• 35:09
  that's
• 35:09
  going
• 35:09
  to
• 35:09
  come.
• 35:09
  Don't
• 35:10
  go
• 35:10
  too.
• 35:11
  Your
• 35:11
  worst,
• 35:11
  deepest,
• 35:12
  darkest
• 35:12
  secret
• 35:13
  or
• 35:13
  whatever
• 35:13
  it
• 35:13
  is
• 35:13
  that's.
• 35:14
  You're
• 35:14
  holding
• 35:14
  all
• 35:14
  kinds
• 35:15
  of
• 35:15
  guilt,
• 35:15
  shame,
• 35:16
  trauma.
• 35:16
  Like,
• 35:16
  you
• 35:17
  don't
• 35:17
  want
• 35:17
  to
• 35:17
  do
• 35:17
  that.
• 35:17
  You
• 35:17
  want.
• 35:18
  I
• 35:18
  like
• 35:18
  the
• 35:18
  idea
• 35:18
  of
• 35:19
  the
• 35:19
  big
• 35:19
  abstract
• 35:20
  picture
• 35:21
  to
• 35:22
  get
• 35:22
  started.
• 35:23
  I
• 35:23
  like
• 35:23
  that.
• 35:25
  Perfect.
• 35:25
  I
• 35:25
  love
• 35:26
  this.
• 35:26
  This
• 35:26
  is
• 35:26
  fun.
• 35:27
  Okay,
• 35:28
  so
• 35:28
  people,
• 35:29
  I
• 35:29
  know
• 35:29
  you
• 35:29
  do
• 35:29
  a
• 35:29
  lot
• 35:30
  of
• 35:30
  work.
• 35:30
  You've
• 35:30
  been
• 35:30
  doing
• 35:30
  this
• 35:31
  for
• 35:31
  over
• 35:31
  30
• 35:31
  years.
• 35:32
  Talk
• 35:32
  about
• 35:32
  your
• 35:32
  business,
• 35:33
  how
• 35:33
  you
• 35:33
  work
• 35:33
  with
• 35:34
  people
• 35:34
  and
• 35:34
  where
• 35:34
  they
• 35:34
  can
• 35:34
  find
• 35:35
  you.
• 35:36
  So
• 35:37
  we.
• 35:38
  I
• 35:38
  don't
• 35:38
  actually
• 35:38
  work
• 35:39
  personally
• 35:39
  with
• 35:39
  people
• 35:39
  anymore.
• 35:40
  I
• 35:40
  do
• 35:40
  a
• 35:40
  lot
• 35:40
  of
• 35:40
  research
• 35:41
  and
• 35:41
  writing.
• 35:42
  Okay.
• 35:42
  I
• 35:43
  do
• 35:43
  have
• 35:43
  a
• 35:43
  book
• 35:44
  that
• 35:44
  I've
• 35:44
  written
• 35:45
  recently,
• 35:46
  came
• 35:46
  out
• 35:46
  last
• 35:46
  August
• 35:47
  about
• 35:48
  this
• 35:48
  process.
• 35:48
  It's
• 35:49
  called
• 35:49
  Quantum
• 35:50
  Wellness.
• 35:51
  So
• 35:51
  it's
• 35:51
  a
• 35:51
  process
• 35:51
  that
• 35:52
  actually
• 35:52
  allows
• 35:53
  you
• 35:53
  to
• 35:53
  again,
• 35:53
  systematically
• 35:54
  start
• 35:54
  exploring
• 35:55
  the
• 35:55
  layers
• 35:55
  in
• 35:56
  your
• 35:56
  story
• 35:56
  and
• 35:56
  consciously
• 35:57
  begin
• 35:57
  to
• 35:57
  rewrite
• 35:58
  your
• 35:58
  story
• 35:58
  using
• 35:58
  human
• 35:59
  design
• 35:59
  as
• 35:59
  sort
• 35:59
  of
• 36:00
  the
• 36:00
  entrance
• 36:00
  Point
• 36:00
  into
• 36:01
  the
• 36:01
  story.
• 36:02
  I
• 36:02
  do
• 36:02
  train
• 36:02
  people
• 36:03
  professionally
• 36:03
  on
• 36:04
  how
• 36:04
  to
• 36:04
  use
• 36:04
  this
• 36:05
  process
• 36:05
  process
• 36:05
  in
• 36:06
  our
• 36:06
  school.
• 36:07
  And
• 36:07
  you
• 36:07
  can
• 36:07
  find
• 36:07
  information
• 36:08
  about
• 36:08
  our
• 36:08
  school
• 36:08
  or
• 36:09
  you
• 36:09
  can
• 36:09
  find
• 36:09
  practitioners
• 36:10
  on
• 36:10
  our
• 36:10
  website
• 36:11
  quantum
• 36:11
  human
• 36:11
  design.com
• 36:13
  and
• 36:14
  you
• 36:14
  can
• 36:14
  of
• 36:15
  course
• 36:15
  find
• 36:15
  us
• 36:15
  on
• 36:16
  Instagram
• 36:17
  Dr.
• 36:17
  Karen
• 36:17
  Parker,
• 36:18
  22.
• 36:20
  And
• 36:20
  of
• 36:20
  course
• 36:20
  you
• 36:20
  can
• 36:20
  find
• 36:21
  any
• 36:21
  of
• 36:21
  my
• 36:21
  books
• 36:22
  on
• 36:22
  any
• 36:22
  major
• 36:23
  book
• 36:23
  retail
• 36:24
  outlet
• 36:24
  online
• 36:25
  or
• 36:25
  in
• 36:26
  some
• 36:26
  stores.
• 36:26
  So
• 36:28
  perfect.
• 36:28
  I
• 36:29
  love
• 36:29
  this.
• 36:29
  I
• 36:29
  like
• 36:30
  the.
• 36:30
  I
• 36:30
  mean
• 36:30
  I'm
• 36:31
  fascinated
• 36:31
  with
• 36:31
  human
• 36:32
  design.
• 36:32
  It
• 36:32
  just
• 36:32
  seems
• 36:33
  like
• 36:33
  it's
• 36:33
  a
• 36:33
  lot
• 36:33
  to
• 36:33
  learn.
• 36:35
  You
• 36:36
  can
• 36:36
  go
• 36:36
  down
• 36:36
  rabbit
• 36:37
  holes
• 36:37
  and
• 36:37
  I'll
• 36:37
  start
• 36:37
  going,
• 36:38
  oh,
• 36:38
  I
• 36:38
  really
• 36:38
  want
• 36:38
  to
• 36:38
  learn
• 36:38
  this.
• 36:39
  And
• 36:39
  I'll
• 36:39
  take
• 36:39
  like
• 36:39
  a
• 36:39
  basic
• 36:40
  course
• 36:40
  and
• 36:40
  then
• 36:40
  I
• 36:40
  will
• 36:41
  just.
• 36:41
  It's
• 36:41
  so
• 36:42
  much
• 36:42
  information
• 36:43
  for
• 36:43
  me.
• 36:43
  I'm
• 36:44
  like,
• 36:44
  oh,
• 36:44
  I
• 36:44
  just
• 36:44
  need
• 36:44
  to
• 36:45
  have
• 36:45
  a
• 36:45
  friend
• 36:45
  that's
• 36:45
  like,
• 36:45
  well
• 36:46
  you
• 36:46
  like
• 36:46
  hot
• 36:46
  food
• 36:46
  because
• 36:47
  of
• 36:47
  this.
• 36:47
  And
• 36:48
  you
• 36:48
  moved
• 36:48
  to
• 36:48
  Florida
• 36:49
  up
• 36:49
  and
• 36:49
  just
• 36:49
  left
• 36:50
  your
• 36:50
  life
• 36:50
  and
• 36:50
  moved
• 36:51
  to
• 36:51
  Florida
• 36:51
  because
• 36:52
  you
• 36:52
  have
• 36:52
  natural
• 36:53
  shores
• 36:53
  tendencies
• 36:54
  so
• 36:54
  you
• 36:54
  got
• 36:54
  to
• 36:54
  be
• 36:54
  by
• 36:54
  the
• 36:54
  ocean
• 36:55
  or
• 36:55
  the
• 36:55
  mountains.
• 36:55
  I'm
• 36:56
  like,
• 36:56
  yeah,
• 36:56
  all
• 36:56
  that
• 36:56
  makes
• 36:57
  sense.
• 36:59
  But.
• 36:59
  And
• 36:59
  then
• 36:59
  I
• 37:00
  get
• 37:00
  stuck
• 37:00
  when
• 37:00
  they
• 37:00
  say
• 37:01
  why
• 37:01
  don't
• 37:01
  you
• 37:01
  pull
• 37:01
  your
• 37:02
  husband's
• 37:02
  chart
• 37:02
  and
• 37:03
  see
• 37:03
  why?
• 37:03
  Like
• 37:04
  I'm
• 37:04
  like,
• 37:04
  oh
• 37:04
  yeah,
• 37:05
  I'm
• 37:05
  sure
• 37:05
  I
• 37:05
  could
• 37:05
  probably
• 37:06
  with
• 37:06
  some
• 37:06
  stuff
• 37:07
  there.
• 37:07
  But
• 37:09
  yeah.
• 37:10
  Well
• 37:10
  as
• 37:11
  I
• 37:11
  said,
• 37:11
  it's
• 37:12
  a
• 37:12
  great
• 37:12
  entrance
• 37:13
  point
• 37:13
  into
• 37:13
  your
• 37:14
  story.
• 37:14
  It
• 37:14
  explains
• 37:15
  a
• 37:15
  lot.
• 37:15
  It
• 37:16
  doesn't
• 37:16
  always
• 37:16
  explain
• 37:17
  everything.
• 37:17
  So
• 37:18
  you
• 37:18
  have
• 37:18
  to
• 37:19
  look
• 37:19
  at,
• 37:19
  look
• 37:20
  at
• 37:20
  it
• 37:20
  in
• 37:20
  the
• 37:20
  context
• 37:21
  of
• 37:21
  the
• 37:21
  whole
• 37:22
  person
• 37:22
  of
• 37:22
  who
• 37:22
  you
• 37:22
  are.
• 37:23
  Exactly,
• 37:24
  exactly.
• 37:25
  So
• 37:25
  thank
• 37:25
  you
• 37:25
  so
• 37:26
  much
• 37:26
  Dr.
• 37:26
  Karen
• 37:26
  for
• 37:27
  coming
• 37:27
  on.
• 37:27
  But
• 37:27
  before
• 37:27
  you
• 37:28
  go,
• 37:29
  can
• 37:29
  you
• 37:29
  give
• 37:29
  the
• 37:30
  listeners
• 37:30
  your
• 37:31
  best
• 37:31
  piece
• 37:31
  of
• 37:32
  advice
• 37:32
  or
• 37:32
  words
• 37:32
  of
• 37:33
  wisdom,
• 37:33
  Something
• 37:34
  to
• 37:34
  take
• 37:34
  with
• 37:34
  them
• 37:34
  to
• 37:34
  make
• 37:35
  their
• 37:35
  day
• 37:35
  a
• 37:35
  little
• 37:35
  brighter
• 37:35
  today?
• 37:36
  Yes,
• 37:37
  I
• 37:37
  can.
• 37:37
  And
• 37:38
  it's
• 37:38
  actually,
• 37:39
  it's
• 37:39
  a
• 37:39
  strange
• 37:39
  story,
• 37:40
  but
• 37:40
  I'll
• 37:40
  share
• 37:40
  it
• 37:40
  with
• 37:41
  you.
• 37:41
  So
• 37:41
  I
• 37:41
  have
• 37:41
  five
• 37:42
  kids,
• 37:43
  mostly
• 37:43
  adults
• 37:44
  now.
• 37:44
  And
• 37:45
  when
• 37:45
  I
• 37:45
  was,
• 37:45
  I
• 37:45
  was
• 37:46
  raising
• 37:46
  them
• 37:46
  as
• 37:46
  a
• 37:46
  full
• 37:46
  time
• 37:47
  single
• 37:47
  parent
• 37:47
  for
• 37:47
  a
• 37:48
  lot
• 37:48
  of
• 37:48
  years.
• 37:48
  So
• 37:49
  we
• 37:49
  had
• 37:49
  five
• 37:49
  kids.
• 37:49
  We
• 37:50
  had
• 37:50
  several
• 37:50
  dogs
• 37:50
  and
• 37:51
  cats
• 37:51
  and
• 37:52
  puzzles
• 37:53
  were
• 37:53
  really
• 37:53
  hard
• 37:53
  in
• 37:54
  our
• 37:54
  family
• 37:54
  and
• 37:54
  they
• 37:54
  were
• 37:55
  hard
• 37:55
  in
• 37:55
  our
• 37:55
  family
• 37:55
  because
• 37:56
  either
• 37:57
  dogs
• 37:57
  or
• 37:57
  cats
• 37:58
  ate
• 37:58
  the
• 37:58
  pieces
• 37:59
  and
• 37:59
  they
• 38:00
  disappeared.
• 38:00
  Or
• 38:01
  I
• 38:01
  had
• 38:01
  one
• 38:01
  kid
• 38:02
  who,
• 38:02
  who
• 38:02
  was
• 38:02
  always
• 38:03
  ripping
• 38:03
  off
• 38:03
  the
• 38:04
  little
• 38:04
  pieces
• 38:04
  of
• 38:04
  the
• 38:04
  puzzles
• 38:05
  and
• 38:05
  trying
• 38:05
  to
• 38:05
  jam
• 38:05
  them
• 38:06
  into
• 38:06
  another
• 38:06
  a
• 38:07
  place
• 38:07
  where
• 38:07
  they
• 38:07
  didn't
• 38:07
  go
• 38:07
  because
• 38:08
  he
• 38:08
  got
• 38:08
  very
• 38:08
  frustrated
• 38:09
  with
• 38:09
  puzzles.
• 38:10
  You
• 38:10
  know,
• 38:11
  sometimes
• 38:11
  we
• 38:12
  are
• 38:13
  told
• 38:13
  or
• 38:13
  we
• 38:14
  learn
• 38:14
  to
• 38:14
  hide
• 38:14
  ourselves
• 38:15
  or
• 38:15
  we
• 38:16
  learn
• 38:16
  to
• 38:17
  try
• 38:18
  to
• 38:18
  fit
• 38:18
  into
• 38:19
  some
• 38:19
  expectation
• 38:20
  or
• 38:20
  norm
• 38:21
  that
• 38:21
  we're
• 38:21
  taught
• 38:21
  that
• 38:22
  we
• 38:22
  should
• 38:22
  follow
• 38:22
  to
• 38:22
  stay
• 38:23
  safe.
• 38:23
  If
• 38:24
  you
• 38:24
  look
• 38:24
  at
• 38:24
  a
• 38:24
  puzzle
• 38:25
  a
• 38:25
  puzzle
• 38:26
  is
• 38:26
  only
• 38:26
  as
• 38:27
  beautiful
• 38:27
  as
• 38:27
  the
• 38:27
  sum
• 38:28
  total
• 38:28
  of
• 38:28
  his
• 38:28
  pieces.
• 38:29
  So
• 38:29
  if
• 38:29
  you've
• 38:29
  got
• 38:29
  a
• 38:30
  piece
• 38:30
  of
• 38:30
  the
• 38:30
  puzzle
• 38:30
  that's
• 38:31
  missing
• 38:31
  and
• 38:31
  off
• 38:31
  the
• 38:31
  table
• 38:32
  and
• 38:32
  gone
• 38:32
  under
• 38:33
  a
• 38:33
  couch
• 38:33
  or
• 38:33
  in
• 38:33
  a
• 38:33
  dog's
• 38:34
  tummy
• 38:34
  somewhere,
• 38:35
  or
• 38:35
  if
• 38:35
  you've
• 38:36
  taken
• 38:36
  pieces
• 38:36
  of
• 38:36
  that
• 38:36
  puzzle
• 38:37
  and
• 38:37
  tried
• 38:37
  to
• 38:37
  jam
• 38:38
  them
• 38:38
  into
• 38:38
  the
• 38:39
  wrong
• 38:39
  place,
• 38:39
  it
• 38:40
  affects
• 38:40
  the
• 38:40
  entire
• 38:41
  face
• 38:41
  of
• 38:41
  the
• 38:41
  puzzle.
• 38:43
  Every
• 38:43
  one
• 38:43
  of
• 38:43
  us
• 38:43
  is
• 38:44
  like
• 38:44
  a
• 38:44
  piece
• 38:44
  of
• 38:45
  the
• 38:45
  human
• 38:45
  puzzle.
• 38:46
  And
• 38:46
  sometimes
• 38:47
  we
• 38:47
  grow
• 38:47
  up
• 38:47
  and
• 38:47
  we
• 38:48
  think,
• 38:48
  well,
• 38:48
  who
• 38:48
  am
• 38:48
  I
• 38:49
  to?
• 38:49
  And
• 38:49
  I
• 38:49
  say,
• 38:49
  who
• 38:50
  are
• 38:50
  you
• 38:50
  not
• 38:50
  to?
• 38:51
  You
• 38:51
  have
• 38:51
  a
• 38:52
  unique
• 38:52
  and
• 38:52
  vital
• 38:52
  and
• 38:53
  irreplaceable
• 38:53
  part
• 38:54
  in
• 38:54
  the
• 38:54
  tapestry
• 38:55
  of
• 38:55
  the
• 38:55
  human
• 38:55
  story.
• 38:56
  And
• 38:56
  when
• 38:57
  you
• 38:57
  try
• 38:57
  to
• 38:57
  place
• 38:57
  yourself
• 38:58
  somewhere
• 38:58
  where
• 38:58
  you
• 38:58
  shouldn't
• 38:59
  be,
• 38:59
  or
• 38:59
  you
• 39:00
  try
• 39:00
  to
• 39:00
  jam
• 39:00
  yourself
• 39:01
  somewhere
• 39:01
  where
• 39:01
  you
• 39:01
  don't
• 39:01
  fit,
• 39:02
  or
• 39:02
  you
• 39:02
  completely
• 39:03
  disappear
• 39:03
  off
• 39:03
  the
• 39:03
  face
• 39:04
  of
• 39:04
  the
• 39:04
  puzzle,
• 39:05
  it's
• 39:05
  not
• 39:05
  just
• 39:05
  you.
• 39:06
  You're
• 39:06
  actually
• 39:06
  affecting
• 39:07
  the
• 39:07
  entire
• 39:08
  human
• 39:08
  story.
• 39:08
  You
• 39:09
  deserve
• 39:09
  to
• 39:09
  be
• 39:10
  in
• 39:10
  your
• 39:10
  right
• 39:10
  place,
• 39:11
  filling
• 39:11
  it
• 39:12
  up
• 39:12
  to
• 39:12
  the
• 39:12
  fullest
• 39:12
  amount
• 39:13
  of
• 39:13
  potential
• 39:14
  that
• 39:14
  you
• 39:14
  can,
• 39:15
  and
• 39:15
  to
• 39:16
  know
• 39:16
  that
• 39:16
  you
• 39:16
  have
• 39:16
  a
• 39:16
  place
• 39:17
  that
• 39:17
  is
• 39:17
  vital
• 39:17
  and
• 39:18
  important,
• 39:18
  and
• 39:18
  you
• 39:18
  literally
• 39:19
  make
• 39:19
  all
• 39:20
  of
• 39:20
  us
• 39:20
  be
• 39:20
  who
• 39:20
  we
• 39:20
  are.
• 39:22
  Wow.
• 39:24
  I
• 39:24
  love
• 39:25
  that.
• 39:25
  Thank
• 39:26
  you
• 39:26
  so
• 39:26
  much,
• 39:26
  Dr.
• 39:27
  Karen.
• 39:27
  Thank
• 39:28
  you.
• 39:28
  Thank
• 39:28
  you
• 39:28
  for
• 39:28
  having
• 39:29
  me.
• 39:29
  Tammy,
• 39:30
  you
• 39:30
  are
• 39:30
  very
• 39:30
  welcome.
• 39:31
  For
• 39:31
  everybody
• 39:31
  else
• 39:31
  out
• 39:31
  there
• 39:31
  listening,
• 39:32
  go
• 39:32
  back
• 39:32
  and
• 39:33
  listen
• 39:33
  to
• 39:33
  that
• 39:34
  again.
• 39:34
  That
• 39:35
  literally
• 39:35
  sums
• 39:36
  up
• 39:36
  everything
• 39:36
  that
• 39:37
  we're
• 39:37
  all
• 39:37
  about.
• 39:37
  You
• 39:38
  are
• 39:38
  uniquely
• 39:38
  you.
• 39:39
  And
• 39:39
  you're
• 39:39
  right,
• 39:39
  that
• 39:40
  one
• 39:40
  piece
• 39:40
  missing
• 39:41
  or
• 39:41
  one
• 39:41
  piece
• 39:41
  out
• 39:42
  of
• 39:42
  alignment
• 39:42
  or
• 39:42
  ripped
• 39:43
  and
• 39:43
  torn
• 39:43
  or
• 39:43
  whatever
• 39:44
  it
• 39:44
  is
• 39:45
  changes
• 39:45
  the
• 39:45
  whole
• 39:46
  trajectory
• 39:46
  of
• 39:47
  you
• 39:47
  and
• 39:47
  the
• 39:47
  people
• 39:48
  around
• 39:48
  you.
• 39:48
  And
• 39:48
  remember,
• 39:49
  your
• 39:49
  energy,
• 39:50
  your
• 39:50
  love,
• 39:51
  everything
• 39:51
  that
• 39:51
  you
• 39:51
  put
• 39:51
  out
• 39:52
  into
• 39:52
  the
• 39:52
  world
• 39:53
  is
• 39:53
  vitally
• 39:53
  important.
• 39:53
  Important
• 39:54
  and
• 39:54
  necessary
• 39:55
  for
• 39:55
  the
• 39:55
  rest
• 39:55
  of
• 39:55
  the
• 39:55
  world
• 39:56
  to
• 39:57
  be
• 39:57
  as
• 39:57
  joyous
• 39:58
  as
• 39:58
  we
• 39:58
  all
• 39:58
  deserve.
• 39:59
  So
• 39:59
  thank
• 39:59
  you
• 39:59
  and
• 39:59
  you
• 40:00
  all
• 40:00
  have
• 40:00
  a
• 40:00
  blessed
• 40:00
  day.