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Success and Secretly Falling Apart Becomes a Work of Art | EP 320 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  Have
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  you
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  ever
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  had
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  someone
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  tell
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  you,
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  "You're
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  the
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  strongest
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  person
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  I
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  know,"
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  and
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  you
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  smiled,
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  said
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  thank
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  you,
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  and
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  let
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  them
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  walk
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  away
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  without
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  ever
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  telling
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  them
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  the
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  truth?
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  That
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  underneath
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  all
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  that
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  strength,
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  you
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  were
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  quietly
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  falling
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  apart.
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  Friend,
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  I
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  lived
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  a
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  whole
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  season
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  like
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  that,
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  looking
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  completely
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  fine
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  on
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  the
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  outside
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  while
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  I
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  was
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  unraveling
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  on
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  the
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  inside.
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  And
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  today,
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  I'm
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  telling
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  you
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  exactly
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  what
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  pulled
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  me
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  out
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  of
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  it,
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  and
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  the
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  one
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  question
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  I
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  need
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  you
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  to
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  sit
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  with
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  if
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  you're
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  in
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  this
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  season
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  right
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  now.
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  So
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it
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  Hey
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  friend,
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  welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Confident
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  and
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  Empowered
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  Women.
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  Grab
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  whatever
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  you're
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  holding
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  right
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  now,
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  your
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  coffee,
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  your
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  steering
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  wheel,
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  your
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  kid's
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  backpack
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  you
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  are
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  about
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  to
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  pack
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  for
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  tomorrow,
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  and
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  let's
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  sit
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  in
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  this
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  one
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  together.
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  And
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  if
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  you're
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  not
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  subscribed
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  yet,
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  hit
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  that
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  button,
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  friend,
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  so
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  you
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  don't
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  miss
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  me
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  or
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  anything
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  that
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  we
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  got
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  going
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  on
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  around
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  here
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  Okay,
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  we
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  are
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  jumping
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  right
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  on
• 1:10
  into
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  it.
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  My
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  mom
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  was
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  a
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  teen
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  single
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  mom,
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  and
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  growing
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  up,
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  a
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  lot
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  of
• 1:16
  people
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  expected
• 1:17
  me
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  to
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  follow
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  those
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  exact
• 1:19
  same
• 1:20
  footsteps,
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  and
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  I
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  proved
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  them
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  wrong.
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  I
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  was
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  not
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  a
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  teen
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  single
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  mom,
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  but
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  you
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  know
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  what?
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  Life
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  had
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  its
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  own
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  sense
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  of
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  humor
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  about
• 1:29
  it,
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  okay?
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  It
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  had
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  jokes
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  because
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  I
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  still
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  kinda
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  ended
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  up
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  proving
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  them
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  right,
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  low-key.
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  Because
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  after
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  my
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  divorce,
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  I
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  became
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  a
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  single
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  mom
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  anyway,
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  walked
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  away
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  with
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  a
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  baby
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  on
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  each
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  hip
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  and
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  hell-bent
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  all
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  over
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  again
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  on
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  proving
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  I
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  was
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  still
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  successful.
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  So
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  I
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  built
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  it,
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  corporate
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  leadership
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  career,
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  great
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  single
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  mom,
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  great
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  career,
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  the
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  whole
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  picture
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  And
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  every
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  piece
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  of
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  that
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  success
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  felt
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  like
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  proof,
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  proof
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  that
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  I
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  was
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  better
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  than
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  my
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  circumstances,
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  proof
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  that
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  I'd
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  outbuilt
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  whatever
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  anybody
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  assumed
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  about
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  me,
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  because
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  sometimes
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  it
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  be
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  your
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  own
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  people,
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  don't
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  it?
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  And
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  friend,
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  maybe
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  your
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  proof
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  looks
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  different
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  than
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  mine.
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  Maybe
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  it's
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  the
• 2:20
  body
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  you
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  got
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  back,
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  the
• 2:22
  degree
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  you
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  finished
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  on
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  your
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  own,
• 2:24
  the
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  business
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  you
• 2:25
  built
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  with
• 2:25
  nobody's
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  help,
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  but
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  the
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  move
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  is
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  the
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  same.
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  Build
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  enough
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  and
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  nobody
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  gets
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  to
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  doubt
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  you
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  ever
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  again.
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  And
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  then
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  lo
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  and
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  behold,
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  my
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  mom
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  made
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  her
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  transition
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  to
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  heaven.
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  How
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  dare
• 2:40
  she?
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  Okay.
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  And
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  friend,
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  I
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  completely
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  unraveled.
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  I
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  don't
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  know
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  if
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  it
• 2:47
  was
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  really
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  a
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  secret,
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  so
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  to
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  speak.
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  I
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  mean,
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  the
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  people
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  closest
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  to
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  me,
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  they
• 2:54
  knew
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  exactly
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  what
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  that
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  loss
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  did
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  to
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  me.
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  But
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  when
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  I
• 2:58
  went
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  back
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  to
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  work,
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  I
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  looked
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  the
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  same
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  on
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  the
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  outside
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  and
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  everybody
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  else
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  thought
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  I
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  was
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  fine
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  when
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  whole
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  time
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  I
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  was
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  far
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  from
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  fine
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  Here's
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  what
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  I
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  learned,
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  friend.
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  When
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  you've
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  gotten
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  so
• 3:10
  good
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  at
• 3:11
  carrying
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  so
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  much
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  while
• 3:13
  looking
• 3:13
  like
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  a
• 3:14
  snack
• 3:14
  and
• 3:14
  such,
• 3:15
  sometimes
• 3:16
  even
• 3:16
  you
• 3:17
  fall
• 3:17
  for
• 3:18
  the
• 3:18
  mirage.
• 3:20
  Everybody
• 3:21
  says
• 3:21
  check
• 3:22
  on
• 3:22
  your
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  strong
• 3:22
  friend,
• 3:23
  and
• 3:23
  when
• 3:23
  they
• 3:24
  do,
• 3:24
  they
• 3:24
  find
• 3:25
  out
• 3:25
  your
• 3:25
  whole
• 3:26
  world
• 3:26
  has
• 3:26
  been
• 3:27
  quietly
• 3:27
  coming
• 3:28
  to
• 3:28
  an
• 3:28
  end
• 3:28
  for
• 3:28
  weeks,
• 3:29
  okay?
• 3:30
  Now
• 3:30
  you
• 3:31
  may
• 3:31
  not
• 3:31
  look
• 3:31
  like
• 3:32
  what
• 3:32
  you
• 3:32
  going
• 3:32
  through,
• 3:33
  but
• 3:33
  recognize
• 3:34
  when
• 3:34
  you
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  need
• 3:35
  somebody
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  because
• 3:36
  if
• 3:36
  you
• 3:37
  are
• 3:37
  the
• 3:37
  strong
• 3:37
  one,
• 3:38
  nine
• 3:39
  times
• 3:39
  out
• 3:39
  of
• 3:39
  10,
• 3:40
  you
• 3:40
  are
• 3:40
  also
• 3:41
  the
• 3:41
  one
• 3:41
  choosing
• 3:42
  isolation
• 3:43
  over
• 3:44
  everything.
• 3:45
  And
• 3:45
  friend,
• 3:46
  listen,
• 3:47
  instead
• 3:47
  of
• 3:48
  isolating,
• 3:49
  take
• 3:49
  somebody
• 3:50
  up
• 3:51
  on
• 3:51
  their
• 3:51
  invitation.
• 3:53
  There
• 3:53
  is
• 3:53
  somebody
• 3:54
  in
• 3:54
  your
• 3:54
  life
• 3:54
  right
• 3:55
  now
• 3:55
  who
• 3:55
  wants
• 3:56
  to
• 3:56
  return
• 3:57
  the
• 3:57
  favor.
• 3:58
  Someone
• 3:58
  who
• 3:58
  has
• 3:59
  already
• 3:59
  offered
• 4:00
  to
• 4:00
  help
• 4:00
  you,
• 4:01
  big
• 4:02
  or
• 4:02
  small,
• 4:03
  and
• 4:03
  you
• 4:03
  push
• 4:04
  through
• 4:04
  without
• 4:05
  them
• 4:05
  the
• 4:06
  way
• 4:06
  you
• 4:06
  always
• 4:07
  do.
• 4:08
  But
• 4:08
  plot
• 4:09
  twist,
• 4:09
  this
• 4:10
  time
• 4:11
  you
• 4:11
  don't
• 4:11
  even
• 4:11
  have
• 4:12
  the
• 4:12
  push
• 4:12
  through
• 4:13
  in
• 4:13
  you,
• 4:14
  okay?
• 4:15
  And
• 4:15
  that
• 4:16
  is
• 4:16
  not
• 4:17
  a
• 4:17
  failure.
• 4:18
  It's
• 4:18
  information.
• 4:19
  Who
• 4:20
  do
• 4:20
  you
• 4:20
  need
• 4:20
  to
• 4:21
  take
• 4:21
  up
• 4:21
  on
• 4:21
  their
• 4:22
  offer?
• 4:22
  Who
• 4:23
  already
• 4:24
  asked
• 4:24
  and
• 4:25
  you
• 4:25
  told
• 4:25
  them
• 4:26
  you
• 4:26
  were
• 4:27
  fine?
• 4:29
  Now
• 4:30
  listen,
• 4:30
  if
• 4:30
  you've
• 4:31
  been
• 4:31
  performing
• 4:32
  fine
• 4:32
  for
• 4:32
  people
• 4:33
  who
• 4:33
  only
• 4:33
  know
• 4:34
  the
• 4:34
  version
• 4:35
  of
• 4:35
  you
• 4:35
  that
• 4:35
  doesn't
• 4:36
  need
• 4:36
  anything,
• 4:37
  I
• 4:37
  don't
• 4:37
  want
• 4:37
  you
• 4:37
  to
• 4:37
  just
• 4:38
  live
• 4:38
  in
• 4:38
  this
• 4:38
  episode
• 4:39
  and
• 4:39
  let
• 4:40
  it
• 4:40
  disappear.
• 4:41
  Grab
• 4:41
  the
• 4:41
  main
• 4:42
  character
• 4:42
  energy
• 4:43
  journal
• 4:43
  prompts
• 4:44
  and
• 4:44
  get
• 4:44
  honest
• 4:45
  on
• 4:45
  paper
• 4:46
  about
• 4:46
  what
• 4:46
  you've
• 4:47
  actually
• 4:47
  been
• 4:47
  carrying
• 4:49
  and
• 4:49
  who
• 4:50
  you've
• 4:50
  been
• 4:50
  hiding
• 4:50
  it
• 4:51
  from.
• 4:51
  You
• 4:52
  don't
• 4:52
  have
• 4:52
  to
• 4:52
  perform
• 4:53
  for
• 4:54
  the
• 4:54
  page.
• 4:55
  The
• 4:55
  link
• 4:55
  is
• 4:56
  in
• 4:56
  the
• 4:56
  show
• 4:56
  notes,
• 4:56
  friend.
• 4:57
  Trust
• 4:57
  me,
• 4:58
  you'll
• 4:58
  thank
• 4:58
  me
• 4:58
  later
• 5:01
  Now,
• 5:02
  here's
• 5:02
  what
• 5:02
  I
• 5:02
  need
• 5:03
  you
• 5:03
  to
• 5:03
  hear
• 5:04
  because
• 5:04
  this
• 5:04
  is
• 5:04
  the
• 5:05
  part
• 5:05
  that
• 5:05
  changed
• 5:06
  everything
• 5:07
  for
• 5:07
  me.
• 5:08
  Falling
• 5:09
  apart
• 5:10
  can
• 5:10
  create
• 5:11
  a
• 5:11
  work
• 5:12
  of
• 5:12
  art.
• 5:13
  Sometimes
• 5:14
  things
• 5:14
  have
• 5:15
  to
• 5:15
  be
• 5:15
  completely
• 5:16
  dismantled
• 5:17
  in
• 5:17
  order
• 5:18
  to
• 5:18
  be
• 5:19
  divinely
• 5:20
  redesigned
• 5:21
  During
• 5:22
  my
• 5:22
  grief
• 5:22
  journey,
• 5:23
  it
• 5:23
  was
• 5:24
  the
• 5:24
  first
• 5:24
  time
• 5:25
  in
• 5:25
  my
• 5:25
  life
• 5:26
  I
• 5:26
  ever
• 5:27
  took
• 5:27
  the
• 5:27
  lid
• 5:28
  off
• 5:28
  of
• 5:28
  how
• 5:29
  much
• 5:29
  I
• 5:29
  loved
• 5:30
  myself.
• 5:31
  I
• 5:31
  fell
• 5:32
  so
• 5:32
  deeply
• 5:33
  in
• 5:33
  love
• 5:34
  with
• 5:34
  me.
• 5:35
  Maybe
• 5:36
  it
• 5:36
  was
• 5:37
  because
• 5:38
  for
• 5:38
  the
• 5:38
  first
• 5:38
  time
• 5:39
  ever,
• 5:40
  there
• 5:40
  was
• 5:40
  no
• 5:40
  one
• 5:41
  else
• 5:41
  left
• 5:42
  to
• 5:42
  do
• 5:42
  it
• 5:42
  for
• 5:43
  me.
• 5:44
  My
• 5:44
  mom
• 5:44
  and
• 5:44
  my
• 5:45
  granny
• 5:45
  had
• 5:45
  both
• 5:46
  made
• 5:47
  their
• 5:47
  transition
• 5:47
  to
• 5:48
  heaven,
• 5:48
  and
• 5:49
  I
• 5:49
  was
• 5:49
  the
• 5:49
  one
• 5:49
  left
• 5:50
  here.
• 5:50
  Nobody
• 5:51
  else
• 5:51
  was
• 5:52
  going
• 5:52
  to
• 5:52
  love
• 5:53
  me
• 5:53
  in
• 5:54
  the
• 5:54
  capacity
• 5:55
  they
• 5:55
  did.
• 5:56
  I
• 5:56
  was
• 5:56
  the
• 5:57
  only
• 5:57
  one
• 5:58
  who
• 5:59
  had
• 5:59
  to
• 5:59
  do
• 5:59
  that
• 6:00
  now.
• 6:01
  And
• 6:01
  I
• 6:01
  didn't
• 6:01
  realize
• 6:02
  it
• 6:02
  when
• 6:02
  I
• 6:02
  was
• 6:02
  in
• 6:03
  the
• 6:03
  valley,
• 6:04
  but
• 6:05
  that
• 6:05
  season
• 6:06
  was
• 6:06
  a
• 6:06
  pruning
• 6:07
  season.
• 6:08
  There
• 6:09
  were
• 6:09
  things
• 6:09
  about
• 6:10
  me
• 6:11
  I
• 6:11
  had
• 6:11
  to
• 6:11
  let
• 6:12
  go
• 6:12
  of,
• 6:12
  had
• 6:13
  to
• 6:13
  release.
• 6:14
  And
• 6:15
  the
• 6:15
  truth
• 6:15
  is,
• 6:16
  I
• 6:16
  had
• 6:16
  no
• 6:17
  fight
• 6:17
  left
• 6:18
  in
• 6:18
  me
• 6:19
  to
• 6:19
  argue
• 6:19
  with
• 6:20
  Jesus
• 6:20
  or
• 6:21
  anybody
• 6:21
  else,
• 6:22
  okay?
• 6:22
  So
• 6:23
  I
• 6:23
  had
• 6:23
  no
• 6:23
  choice
• 6:24
  but
• 6:25
  to
• 6:25
  accept
• 6:26
  with
• 6:26
  ease
• 6:27
  what
• 6:28
  was
• 6:28
  actually
• 6:29
  being
• 6:29
  built
• 6:30
  within
• 6:31
  me.
• 6:32
  Grief
• 6:32
  is
• 6:32
  a
• 6:33
  shedding
• 6:33
  process.
• 6:34
  It
• 6:35
  no
• 6:35
  longer
• 6:35
  allows
• 6:36
  you
• 6:36
  to
• 6:36
  hide
• 6:37
  behind
• 6:38
  the
• 6:38
  things
• 6:38
  that
• 6:39
  you
• 6:39
  once
• 6:39
  used
• 6:40
  to
• 6:40
  keep
• 6:40
  you
• 6:40
  safe,
• 6:41
  the
• 6:42
  career,
• 6:42
  the
• 6:43
  success,
• 6:44
  the
• 6:44
  mask
• 6:45
  of
• 6:45
  being
• 6:46
  the
• 6:46
  strong
• 6:46
  one.
• 6:47
  It
• 6:48
  sheds
• 6:48
  the
• 6:49
  things
• 6:49
  that
• 6:49
  must
• 6:50
  fall
• 6:50
  away
• 6:51
  for
• 6:51
  the
• 6:51
  best
• 6:52
  of
• 6:52
  yourself
• 6:53
  to
• 6:53
  emerge.
• 6:54
  My
• 6:55
  mom
• 6:55
  and
• 6:55
  my
• 6:56
  granny's
• 6:56
  love
• 6:57
  did
• 6:57
  not
• 6:57
  disappear
• 6:59
  when
• 6:59
  they
• 6:59
  made
• 7:00
  their
• 7:00
  transition.
• 7:01
  It
• 7:01
  moved
• 7:02
  into
• 7:02
  me,
• 7:03
  and
• 7:04
  now
• 7:04
  I
• 7:04
  get
• 7:04
  to
• 7:05
  be
• 7:05
  the
• 7:05
  one
• 7:05
  who
• 7:05
  gives
• 7:06
  it
• 7:06
  to
• 7:06
  myself
• 7:07
  If
• 7:07
  I
• 7:08
  didn't
• 7:08
  know
• 7:08
  any
• 7:08
  better,
• 7:09
  I'd
• 7:09
  think
• 7:10
  they
• 7:10
  were
• 7:10
  in
• 7:10
  cahoots
• 7:11
  to
• 7:11
  teach
• 7:12
  me
• 7:12
  this
• 7:12
  very
• 7:13
  valuable
• 7:13
  lesson
• 7:13
  in
• 7:13
  self-love.
• 7:17
  If
• 7:18
  I
• 7:18
  can
• 7:18
  find
• 7:19
  the
• 7:19
  gift
• 7:20
  and
• 7:20
  beauty
• 7:21
  in
• 7:21
  the
• 7:21
  losses
• 7:22
  that
• 7:23
  had
• 7:23
  me
• 7:23
  completely
• 7:24
  undone,
• 7:26
  you
• 7:26
  can
• 7:26
  find
• 7:27
  the
• 7:27
  gift
• 7:27
  and
• 7:28
  beauty
• 7:28
  in
• 7:29
  yours
• 7:29
  too,
• 7:29
  friend.
• 7:30
  Now
• 7:31
  success
• 7:32
  doesn't
• 7:32
  look
• 7:32
  like
• 7:33
  what
• 7:34
  I
• 7:34
  can
• 7:34
  build
• 7:35
  out
• 7:35
  of
• 7:35
  survival,
• 7:36
  but
• 7:37
  what
• 7:37
  I
• 7:37
  can
• 7:37
  build
• 7:38
  Out
• 7:39
  of
• 7:39
  self-love
• 7:41
  So
• 7:41
  friend,
• 7:42
  if
• 7:42
  you
• 7:42
  are
• 7:42
  in
• 7:43
  a
• 7:43
  season
• 7:44
  right
• 7:44
  now
• 7:45
  Where
• 7:45
  things
• 7:45
  feel
• 7:45
  like
• 7:46
  they're
• 7:46
  falling
• 7:46
  apart,
• 7:47
  I
• 7:48
  need
• 7:48
  you
• 7:48
  to
• 7:48
  receive
• 7:49
  this.
• 7:50
  This
• 7:50
  is
• 7:50
  not
• 7:51
  the
• 7:51
  end
• 7:51
  of
• 7:52
  your
• 7:52
  story.
• 7:53
  That
• 7:53
  is
• 7:54
  part
• 7:54
  of
• 7:54
  the
• 7:54
  process
• 7:55
  of
• 7:55
  creating
• 7:56
  a
• 7:56
  new
• 7:56
  work
• 7:57
  of
• 7:57
  art.
• 7:58
  The
• 7:58
  dismantling
• 7:59
  is
• 7:59
  not
• 8:00
  punishment,
• 8:01
  it's
• 8:01
  by
• 8:02
  redesign.
• 8:03
  So
• 8:04
  let's
• 8:04
  do
• 8:04
  our
• 8:04
  self-love
• 8:05
  two-step
• 8:06
  remix,
• 8:06
  okay?
• 8:07
  Three
• 8:08
  steps
• 8:08
  every
• 8:09
  episode,
• 8:09
  you
• 8:10
  already
• 8:10
  know
• 8:10
  how
• 8:10
  we
• 8:11
  do.
• 8:12
  Step
• 8:12
  one,
• 8:13
  stop
• 8:14
  performing
• 8:15
  fine
• 8:16
  for
• 8:16
  people
• 8:17
  who
• 8:17
  only
• 8:18
  want
• 8:18
  the
• 8:18
  version
• 8:19
  of
• 8:19
  you
• 8:20
  that
• 8:20
  doesn't
• 8:20
  need
• 8:21
  anything,
• 8:21
  okay?
• 8:22
  No
• 8:23
  shade,
• 8:23
  no
• 8:23
  shame,
• 8:24
  and
• 8:24
  no
• 8:24
  judgment.
• 8:25
  For
• 8:25
  however
• 8:26
  many
• 8:26
  years
• 8:27
  you've
• 8:27
  mastered
• 8:28
  that
• 8:28
  performance,
• 8:30
  you
• 8:30
  learned
• 8:30
  it
• 8:31
  for
• 8:31
  a
• 8:31
  reason,
• 8:32
  and
• 8:33
  those
• 8:33
  are
• 8:33
  not
• 8:33
  the
• 8:34
  people
• 8:34
  who
• 8:34
  are
• 8:34
  equipped
• 8:35
  to
• 8:36
  support
• 8:36
  you
• 8:36
  in
• 8:36
  this
• 8:37
  season.
• 8:38
  What's
• 8:38
  important
• 8:39
  is
• 8:39
  you
• 8:39
  become
• 8:40
  aware
• 8:41
  of
• 8:41
  who
• 8:41
  you
• 8:42
  are
• 8:42
  safe
• 8:42
  with
• 8:43
  to
• 8:43
  be
• 8:43
  the
• 8:44
  raw,
• 8:44
  uncut
• 8:45
  version
• 8:45
  of
• 8:46
  yourself
• 8:47
  with.
• 8:47
  Step
• 8:48
  two,
• 8:49
  accept
• 8:49
  the
• 8:49
  invitation
• 8:50
  you
• 8:50
  keep
• 8:50
  turning
• 8:51
  down,
• 8:51
  okay?
• 8:52
  Let
• 8:52
  somebody
• 8:53
  carry
• 8:53
  something
• 8:54
  for
• 8:54
  you
• 8:54
  for
• 8:55
  once.
• 8:57
  Friend,
• 8:57
  it
• 8:58
  is
• 8:58
  not
• 8:58
  a
• 8:58
  weakness.
• 9:00
  That
• 9:00
  is
• 9:00
  how
• 9:01
  the
• 9:01
  world
• 9:01
  finally
• 9:02
  gets
• 9:02
  to
• 9:02
  love
• 9:03
  you
• 9:03
  back.
• 9:04
  So
• 9:04
  let
• 9:05
  them
• 9:06
  Step
• 9:06
  three
• 9:07
  is
• 9:07
  the
• 9:07
  you
• 9:07
  step.
• 9:08
  You
• 9:08
  get
• 9:08
  still,
• 9:09
  you
• 9:09
  get
• 9:09
  quiet,
• 9:10
  and
• 9:10
  you
• 9:10
  ask
• 9:11
  yourself,
• 9:12
  What
• 9:12
  is
• 9:12
  my
• 9:12
  heart
• 9:13
  telling
• 9:14
  me
• 9:14
  to
• 9:14
  do
• 9:14
  next?"
• 9:15
  Whatever
• 9:16
  comes
• 9:16
  up,
• 9:17
  that
• 9:17
  is
• 9:18
  your
• 9:18
  next
• 9:18
  right
• 9:19
  aligned
• 9:19
  step.
• 9:20
  Not
• 9:20
  the
• 9:20
  whole
• 9:20
  plan,
• 9:21
  just
• 9:22
  the
• 9:22
  next
• 9:22
  move,
• 9:23
  okay?
• 9:23
  Trust
• 9:24
  her,
• 9:24
  friend.
• 9:24
  She
• 9:25
  already
• 9:25
  knows
• 9:26
  Now
• 9:27
  let
• 9:27
  me
• 9:27
  pour
• 9:27
  into
• 9:28
  you
• 9:28
  right
• 9:28
  quick,
• 9:29
  okay?
• 9:29
  before
• 9:30
  I
• 9:30
  let
• 9:30
  you
• 9:30
  go,
• 9:31
  if
• 9:32
  you
• 9:32
  are
• 9:32
  the
• 9:33
  one
• 9:33
  everybody
• 9:34
  calls
• 9:34
  strong,
• 9:35
  hear
• 9:36
  me
• 9:37
  fully
• 9:38
  with
• 9:38
  your
• 9:38
  heart
• 9:39
  wide
• 9:39
  open.
• 9:40
  You
• 9:41
  are
• 9:42
  allowed
• 9:43
  to
• 9:43
  fall
• 9:44
  apart.
• 9:45
  You
• 9:45
  are
• 9:45
  allowed
• 9:46
  to
• 9:46
  need
• 9:46
  somebody,
• 9:47
  and
• 9:48
  you
• 9:48
  are
• 9:48
  allowed
• 9:48
  to
• 9:49
  have
• 9:49
  people
• 9:49
  love
• 9:50
  on
• 9:50
  you,
• 9:51
  support
• 9:51
  you,
• 9:52
  and
• 9:52
  be
• 9:52
  there
• 9:53
  for
• 9:53
  you.
• 9:54
  There
• 9:54
  is
• 9:54
  strength
• 9:55
  in
• 9:56
  knowing
• 9:56
  what
• 9:56
  you
• 9:57
  need
• 9:58
  and
• 9:58
  giving
• 9:58
  it
• 9:58
  to
• 9:58
  yourself,
• 9:59
  even
• 10:00
  when
• 10:00
  that
• 10:00
  comes
• 10:01
  in
• 10:01
  the
• 10:01
  form
• 10:02
  of
• 10:02
  allowing
• 10:03
  a
• 10:03
  friend
• 10:04
  to
• 10:04
  clean
• 10:04
  out
• 10:04
  your
• 10:05
  refrigerator,
• 10:06
  sitting
• 10:06
  with
• 10:07
  you
• 10:07
  and
• 10:07
  holding
• 10:08
  your
• 10:08
  hand,
• 10:09
  accompanying
• 10:10
  you
• 10:11
  on
• 10:11
  a
• 10:12
  walk.
• 10:12
  However
• 10:13
  quiet
• 10:14
  or
• 10:14
  loud
• 10:15
  the
• 10:15
  gesture
• 10:15
  may
• 10:16
  be,
• 10:17
  allow
• 10:17
  the
• 10:17
  love
• 10:18
  in,
• 10:18
  friend.
• 10:19
  It's
• 10:20
  okay
• 10:20
  to
• 10:20
  be
• 10:20
  proud
• 10:21
  of
• 10:21
  everything
• 10:22
  that
• 10:22
  you've
• 10:22
  built,
• 10:23
  even
• 10:24
  if
• 10:25
  there
• 10:25
  was
• 10:25
  some
• 10:26
  element
• 10:26
  of
• 10:26
  proving
• 10:27
  something
• 10:27
  to
• 10:28
  somebody,
• 10:28
  okay?
• 10:30
  You
• 10:30
  just
• 10:31
  might
• 10:31
  find
• 10:32
  yourself
• 10:32
  in
• 10:33
  a
• 10:33
  season
• 10:33
  where
• 10:34
  that
• 10:35
  isn't
• 10:35
  necessary
• 10:36
  because
• 10:37
  you'd
• 10:38
  much
• 10:38
  rather
• 10:39
  be
• 10:39
  proud
• 10:40
  of
• 10:40
  yourself
• 10:41
  and
• 10:42
  live
• 10:42
  free
• 10:43
  according
• 10:43
  to
• 10:44
  your
• 10:44
  own
• 10:44
  approval
• 10:45
  because
• 10:46
  you
• 10:46
  learned
• 10:47
  the
• 10:47
  value
• 10:48
  of
• 10:48
  that
• 10:49
  is
• 10:49
  priceless
• 10:50
  Sometimes
• 10:51
  things
• 10:51
  have
• 10:52
  to
• 10:52
  fall
• 10:52
  apart
• 10:53
  in
• 10:53
  order
• 10:53
  to
• 10:54
  be
• 10:54
  rebuilt
• 10:55
  through
• 10:55
  divine
• 10:56
  redesign.
• 10:58
  Trust
• 10:58
  the
• 10:58
  process
• 10:59
  to
• 10:59
  build
• 10:59
  the
• 11:00
  right
• 11:00
  infrastructure
• 11:01
  to
• 11:02
  support
• 11:02
  the
• 11:02
  woman
• 11:03
  you're
• 11:03
  becoming,
• 11:04
  because
• 11:04
  she
• 11:05
  is
• 11:05
  on
• 11:05
  the
• 11:06
  road
• 11:06
  to
• 11:06
  live
• 11:07
  out
• 11:08
  her
• 11:08
  destiny.
• 11:09
  That
• 11:09
  woman
• 11:10
  is
• 11:10
  you,
• 11:11
  and
• 11:11
  I'm
• 11:12
  so
• 11:12
  proud
• 11:12
  of
• 11:12
  you.
• 11:13
  I
• 11:13
  hope
• 11:14
  you
• 11:14
  are
• 11:14
  super
• 11:15
  proud
• 11:16
  of
• 11:16
  you,
• 11:16
  too.
• 11:17
  Redefine
• 11:18
  what
• 11:18
  success
• 11:19
  and
• 11:20
  this
• 11:20
  season
• 11:21
  of
• 11:21
  falling
• 11:21
  apart
• 11:22
  means
• 11:23
  to
• 11:23
  you
• 11:24
  because
• 11:24
  it's
• 11:24
  definitely
• 11:26
  building
• 11:26
  something
• 11:27
  beautiful
• 11:28
  within
• 11:29
  you
• 11:32
  Friend,
• 11:33
  you
• 11:33
  deserve
• 11:34
  to
• 11:34
  fall
• 11:35
  in
• 11:35
  love
• 11:35
  with
• 11:35
  yourself,
• 11:36
  your
• 11:36
  days,
• 11:37
  and
• 11:37
  your
• 11:37
  life.
• 11:38
  Not
• 11:39
  someday,
• 11:39
  but
• 11:40
  right
• 11:40
  now.
• 11:41
  This
• 11:41
  conversation
• 11:42
  right
• 11:42
  here,
• 11:43
  this
• 11:44
  work
• 11:44
  that
• 11:44
  you
• 11:44
  showed
• 11:44
  up
• 11:45
  for,
• 11:46
  this
• 11:46
  is
• 11:46
  how
• 11:47
  it
• 11:47
  happens
• 11:48
  one
• 11:48
  layer
• 11:48
  at
• 11:49
  a
• 11:49
  time.
• 11:49
  And
• 11:50
  I'm
• 11:50
  gonna
• 11:50
  keep
• 11:50
  showing
• 11:51
  up
• 11:51
  for
• 11:51
  you
• 11:51
  in
• 11:51
  your
• 11:51
  earbuds
• 11:52
  every
• 11:52
  single
• 11:53
  week
• 11:54
  until
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  you
• 11:54
  believe
• 11:55
  that,
• 11:55
  And
• 11:55
  I
• 11:55
  do
• 11:56
  mean
• 11:57
  every
• 11:58
  week,
• 11:58
  okay?
• 11:59
  So
• 11:59
  leave
• 12:00
  a
• 12:00
  review
• 12:01
  and
• 12:01
  tell
• 12:01
  me
• 12:02
  how
• 12:02
  this
• 12:02
  is
• 12:02
  helping
• 12:03
  you
• 12:04
  step
• 12:04
  into
• 12:04
  your
• 12:05
  main
• 12:05
  character
• 12:06
  energy.
• 12:07
  And
• 12:07
  no
• 12:07
  matter
• 12:08
  what
• 12:08
  comes
• 12:08
  your
• 12:08
  way,
• 12:09
  together
• 12:10
  we
• 12:10
  can
• 12:11
  encourage
• 12:12
  over
• 12:12
  everything.
• 12:14
  And
• 12:14
  I'll
• 12:14
  see
• 12:14
  you
• 12:15
  in
• 12:15
  the
• 12:15
  next
• 12:16
  episode