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Divorce Recovery Coaching: Manifestation, Inner Alignment, and Rediscovering Your Purpose · Bent Not Broken: Starting Over After Divorce | Post Divorce Life

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to another episode of Bent Not Broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: Heartbreak and trauma may feel like the end of your story, but here it's the beginning of a bold new chapter.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Coach Deborah Griffiths, and this is the space where women rise, rebuild, and rediscover their purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember this truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are bent, not broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to this bent not broken bonus coaching session.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today I want to take you deeper into the powerful insights from my conversation with David Allen Brown, a writer, an empowerment teacher, and the creator of the Convergent Conversation.
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  SPEAKER_00: David's story is one that so many people quietly relate to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Moving through life, checking every box, caring for everyone else, doing what's expected until one day you realize you've lost connection with your own voice.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're navigating divorce, burnout, emotional numbness, or a major life transition, his experience holds lessons that can guide your healing today.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's walk through the biggest coaching takeaways and the steps you can start using right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Insight number one, emotional numbness is not fine.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a warning light.
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  SPEAKER_00: David described his depression not as sadness, but numbness, a lack of feeling, joy, purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is common for people who spent years sacrificing themselves, prioritizing everyone else, or suppressing emotions to keep the peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself, when was the last time I felt joy?
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  SPEAKER_00: When was the last time I felt anything?
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  SPEAKER_00: Have I been surviving instead of living?
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  SPEAKER_00: Coaching tip.
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  SPEAKER_00: Name it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't judge it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Numbness is a sign your emotional self has been silenced for too long and is asking to be acknowledged.
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  SPEAKER_00: Insight number two, your breaking point can become your turning point.
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  SPEAKER_00: David's shift happened during a late night drive when suicidal thoughts suddenly became real.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for the first time he recognized, I'm not okay and I need help.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to reach a crisis to honor your truth, but you do have to get honest with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Coaching tip.
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  SPEAKER_00: Choose honesty over perfection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whether it's therapy, coaching, journaling, or trusted community, stop minimizing what hurts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your healing begins the moment you stop pretending.
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  SPEAKER_00: Insight number three, rediscovery can lead to letting go.
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  SPEAKER_00: As David reconnected with his authentic self, he realized his 24-year marriage was no longer aligned with who he was becoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the truth many people face during divorce.
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  SPEAKER_00: Healing doesn't always fix a relationship, but sometimes healing reveals the truth of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Coaching tip As you grow, ask, is this relationship supporting my evolution or stunting it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I staying because it's right or because it's familiar?
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-discovery is not selfish.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's necessary.
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  SPEAKER_00: Insight number four, your inner voices need balance, not silence.
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  SPEAKER_00: David teaches that every person has three internal voices.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number one, an emotional voice, feelings, intuition, and inner truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number two, an action voice, doing, responsibility, and survival.
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  SPEAKER_00: And number three, a spiritual, higher voice.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's faith, purpose, and connection.
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  SPEAKER_00: When one voice takes over, we become stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: When all three converge, we become powerful.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's some examples.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you stuck in emotion?
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  SPEAKER_00: That could be from overwhelm, grief, fear.
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  SPEAKER_00: How about stuck in action?
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  SPEAKER_00: You might be feeling burnout or constant busyness.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stuck in spirituality, bypassing waiting instead of action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Coaching tip.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pause and ask, which voice is running the show today?
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  SPEAKER_00: And which voice have I been ignoring?
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  SPEAKER_00: Balance creates clarity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Insight number five.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anger isn't the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: Avoiding it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: David shared how he avoided anger for most of his life, seeing it as something that was unsafe.
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  SPEAKER_00: But anger when understood, becomes a signal, not a threat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Couching tip.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of I shouldn't be angry, try asking, what is my anger trying to protect?
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  SPEAKER_00: What boundary has been crossed?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what truth have I been avoiding?
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  SPEAKER_00: Healthy anger creates movement.
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  SPEAKER_00: Suppressed anger creates resentment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Insight number six.
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  SPEAKER_00: Manifestation isn't magic, it's alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: David reframes manifestation as a cycle, not a wish list.
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  SPEAKER_00: It requires emotion, action, and spiritual attunement working together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Coaching tip to manifest anything after divorce or trauma, get inspired.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself what is calling you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then take aligned action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even baby steps count.
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  SPEAKER_00: Check the emotional response.
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  SPEAKER_00: Does it feel right or draining?
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  SPEAKER_00: And listen for spiritual guidance.
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  SPEAKER_00: What doors are opening?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do the real life work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Create structure, habits, and consistency.
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  SPEAKER_00: And be sure to celebrate the small wins because they matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: This isn't magic.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's mindful rebuilding.
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  SPEAKER_00: Insight number seven.
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  SPEAKER_00: Healing happens in community, not isolation.
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  SPEAKER_00: David reminded us that transformation deepens when you have support.
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  SPEAKER_00: People who can reflect your truth back to you and hold space for your growth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Coaching tip If you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or alone in your transition, reach out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Isolation feeds pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: Connection feeds healing.
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  SPEAKER_00: If David's story taught us anything, it's this.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can rebuild from numbness.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can rediscover your voice.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can leave relationships that no longer align.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can begin again at any age.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are not broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are becoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your inner voices aren't your enemies.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're your guides.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when they converge, you step back into your power.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope today's coaching gives you some clarity, hope, and permission to live the life you're meant to live.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to today's episode of Bent Not Broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope that this episode reminded you that even through life's toughest moments, you are bent, not broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this message inspired you, please share, rate, review, and subscribe, as it helps us reach more women who are ready to rise and rebuild.
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  SPEAKER_00: And until next time, keep living bold and walking in your purpose.