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Stop Feeling Trapped at the Dentist – Empowering Hypnotherapy for Dental Phobia · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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  recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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  famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. I've probably worked with over
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  1000 phobics. A lot of them were animal
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  phobics like. Spiders and insects.
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  And dogs, but also a lot of people with fear of flying, fear
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  of public speaking, lots of different fears.
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  This hypnosis session was actually for a client that I've
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  been working with over a number of years.
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  Originally they had a fear of being alone.
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  It's called monophobia, where they were very dependent on
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  close family members, and if those family members weren't
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  around, they would get very, very anxious.
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  We'd already resolved that, but they still had certain triggers.
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  Anything that felt confining or trapped or that they couldn't
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  get out would trigger them. And they had some dental
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  treatment that they needed. And they had avoided the dentist
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  not because they didn't like dentist, but because they didn't
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  like how they felt in the dentist chair or even in the
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  waiting room, knowing that they would be stuck in the chair and
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  wouldn't have a lot of options to to get out this hypnosis
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  session. Deals with the root.
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  Chords and it isn't the classic visual stimulus that triggers
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  the anxiety for them. It was the.
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  Association with being trapped and confined.
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  That really had. Their anxiety high which is why
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  most of this session links. To ideas of.
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  Freedom and choice and that something that is temporary and
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  manageable is very, very different from something that is
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  long term and unmanageable. This client had a childhood
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  where they felt trapped a lot of the time.
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  They grew up on an island, quite a toxic family environment.
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  They didn't have a lot of choices.
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  Lots of choices were made for them and that was creeping into
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  their adulthood. So if you have a fear of
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  dentists or doctors or being in confined spaces, you might
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  connect to the idea of this session.
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  It was created for an individual.
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  There is many different techniques.
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  I use with. Different clients.
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  So if you have a fear of dentists and the root cause of
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  it. Is because you feel.
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  Trapped. You might get some value from
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  this session, but it was incredibly calibrated to the
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  individual I was working with and therefore might not fit.
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  You like a glove? So if you like the idea of
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  having a bespoke session, either for a fear of dentists or any
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  other fear that is like that, there will be a link in the show
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  notes in the description where you can book a free consultation
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  call. Or you can check out my website,
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  which is Adam Cox dot co.uk and there you can book a free
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  consultation call. You might get some value from
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  this session though, even though it was created for someone else.
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  So find a quiet, comfortable place, the kind of place where
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  you're not going to be distracted or disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that resourceful feeling of calm and
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  relaxation. And as you exhale, feel a
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  wonderful feeling of release, as if any tension is melting away
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  and leaving your body in that outward breath, breathing in,
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  relaxation, exhaling tension. That's it.
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  I want you to get a feeling then your body is being given
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  permission to really let go, let go of any alertness, vigilance,
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  and you know deep down all of these things there to protect.
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  But what if what they're protecting you from existed in
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  your past and not your present or your future?
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  I want you to get a feeling that what served you well once could
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  now be hindering freedom rather than facilitating it.
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  So as you breathe in that resourceful feeling of
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  relaxation, trust your unconscious mind to let go of
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  any of those coping strategies that are like out of date apps
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  on a phone, useful at one point, but may not be useful now.
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  And as you breathe in and breathe out, allow your
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  imagination to take you to a place that represents freedom.
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  For many people, freedom is the opposite of confinement.
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  So maybe you could imagine a big wide open space, nice weather,
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  somewhere that you would feel calm, comfortable and relaxed.
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  And when your imagination has taken you to a place like that,
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  let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. And become aware of that place,
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  the environment, the temperature, perhaps sunshine,
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  gentle breeze. Just connect without feeling of
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  feeling safe and free. It's in and there.
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  In that place. Become more aware of your
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  breathing, the frequency, the rhythm, and just get a sense
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  that the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel, and the
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  more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  They're in that wide open landscape, no walls, no ceiling,
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  just open space stretching in every direction.
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  And there in that place, you could walk forward, you could
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  turn around, and you could leave at any time.
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  And I want you to connect with that sense of space, that sense
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  of option. And that feeling of space and
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  option and choice is not something you have to imagine
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  creating. It's something that has always
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  been there. I want you to feel that as a
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  child, not every choice is yours to make, but now as an adult you
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  always have choices and even when something is uncomfortable.
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  You are still. Choosing.
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  Choosing to stay. Choosing to leave.
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  Sometimes discomfort is evidence of a change of growth.
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  But there was a time in your life when your choices felt
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  limited because they were limited, when environments felt
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  restrictive, when emotions were intense.
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  A time when shame and surveillance and conflict or
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  powerlessness taught your nervous system how to respond.
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  And that nervous system did something magnificent and
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  intelligent. It learned to scan for danger.
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  It learned to react quickly. It did what it could to protect
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  you. And that response was not
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  weakness. That response was survival.
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  But what if those survival responses have an expiry date?
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  What if they're time stamped? And what if they belong to the
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  age around when they were formed?
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  You don't wear the same clothes now as you did when you were
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  nine years old. Certain tastes and preferences
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  have changed naturally, so why would it make sense to keep
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  those survival responses when you're a different age, in a
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  different place, with more wisdom and skills than you've
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  ever had before? Remind yourself you are not that
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  age anymore, and you're not on that island and you're not in
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  that place. Home is different now.
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  You're not powerless. You are an adult, and you choose
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  where you live, and you choose who's around you, and you choose
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  when to sit down and when to stand up.
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  You are you, and you are not your past.
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  Even if an old emotion occasionally echoes through your
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  body, an echo is not the present.
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  It's just something travelling from something long finished and
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  forgotten. And I want you to use the power
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  of your imagination to retrain your nervous system.
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  I want you to imagine that wide open space.
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  There's a dentist chair, not in dentist, not in a building, just
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  out there in a wide open space, no dentist around, just the
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  chair. And I want you to imagine
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  sitting in that chair surrounded by wide open spaces and fresh
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  air, and then imagine. Imagine, imagine there is that
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  light, you know, the one that can move, pointing in the
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  direction of your mouth but still connect without feeling of
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  choice, freedom and relaxation. And maybe you could even imagine
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  a smell. Every dentist has a smell, it's
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  the cleaning products they use to ensure good hygiene.
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  So imagine that chair, the light, the smells and any sounds
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  but out in nature. Become aware of your breathing
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  and the position of your body, and as you imagine that you
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  connect with all of the choices you have, you choose the rhythm
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  of your breathing, you choose any movement of your hands or
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  feet, you remind yourself that you chose to sat in that chair.
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  And you can choose to leave at any point that you want, because
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  feeling that you have a choice means knowing that you are free.
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  And I want you to imagine an ethical, responsible, credible
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  dentist is now there nearby. Imagine you've told them that if
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  you ever move your finger in a particular way, like raising it,
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  it means stop. That even if you can't say the
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  words, you can communicate the words.
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  And I want you to imagine it's just something very routine
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  where a dentist is inspecting the teeth with one of those
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  small tiny mirrors on the end of a long metal rod.
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  And I want you to remind yourself that you are choosing
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  to allow this. You are giving them permission
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  to look around your mouth and your teeth.
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  And at any point you could say stop.
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  At any point you could leave. There is no physical restraint,
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  no captivity. You are choosing to be in that
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  chair and you are consenting to allow the dentist to explore and
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  investigate your teeth. So imagine that professional
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  performing maintenance on a body that you are choosing to
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  protect. In nature, animals quite often
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  can't do everything themselves. I want you to imagine an
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  elegant, graceful Puma there in nature, resting.
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  But if they had a wound on the back of their neck or their
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  back, a place they couldn't reach, they would allow another
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  Puma from the the pack, the pride, to tend to that wound on
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  their behalf. And that's exactly what you're
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  doing when you allow a dentist or a doctor to assist.
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  You're giving permission for them to help you do something
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  it's not possible for you to do all by yourself.
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  Discomfort is not danger, and something temporary is not
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  torture, and maintenance is not invasion.
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  I want you to feel that you are choosing to take pride in your
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  body being as healthy as it could be.
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  Every part of your body, including your mouth, and notice
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  something that when the meaning changes, your body's reaction
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  also changes. Your nervous system reacts to
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  evaluation, not reality. When you used to evaluate that
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  you were trapped, your body acted like it.
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  But when you evaluate that, you have chosen.
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  Your body also. Responds.
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  Notice how different it feels to go from powerless to consented,
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  to go from suffering to a temporary voluntary procedure,
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  to go from being trapped to a willing participant.
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  Imagine the treatment has finished.
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  You leave the chair, but imagine you're out there in this huge
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  open space, and I want you to notice ropes attached to
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  different parts of your body, your ankles, your arms.
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  You can see all this wide open space, but you don't get to
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  experience all of it yet because these ropes are not real ropes.
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  These are ropes of past associations, like emotional
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  chains, not real ones. The ones that used to protect
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  perhaps are now confining you. And what if each rope represents
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  a limitation in your present caused by something in your
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  past? What if every time you avoided
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  something, you are consenting to keep those ropes confining you?
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  But what if you choose a different present and a
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  different future based on current circumstances, not the
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  past? And I want you to see that one
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  rope is looking weak now. And this is a rope that
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  represented fears of confinement or being trapped linked to
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  dentist. It's already weakened.
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  And now imagine you can either Cut the Rope, you can loosen the
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  rope. I want you to imagine detaching
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  yourself from that rope, just as you did with other ropes of your
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  past. Notice how much freer you are
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  now than you were just a few years ago, because ropes that
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  existed back then no longer. I'm confining you now.
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  The changes that you're already making mean that your future
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  will have less ropes, not more. The future of more freedom.
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  And what is freedom if it is not choices?
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  And every time you choose to do what you want to do because it's
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  something beneficial, useful, or helpful for you starts to wear
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  away at those old ropes. Each time you choose something
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  uncomfortable, but you choose it voluntarily, and each time you
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  walk into a dentist by decision, not obligation, and each time
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  you sit down knowing that you can leave, the ropes get
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  thinner. Not through force, but through
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  choice. The choice wears down the ropes,
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  and these ropes only exist when there is no option and you have
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  options. Think of how many choices there
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  are related to a dentist. Which dentist, when you go, what
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  you say beforehand, how you breathe, what you focus on, all
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  the choices and whether you think of these as ropes or
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  chains. You're not breaking chains by
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  fighting, you're dissolving them by updating reality.
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  The dentist's chair is not the island.
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  The clinic is not your childhood and the present is not the past.
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  And every empowered dental visit becomes evidence.
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  Evidence that you are free. Evidence that you are no longer
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  governed by outdated survival coding.
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  What worked for your past maybe tying you down in the present.
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  And you can choose to change that too.
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  Because you have evidence that your nervous system can update.
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  You are living proof of that. So from now on, whenever you sit
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  in a chair like that, you will remember that your hand is free.
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  You can signal to stop at any time, but most of all, you are
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  choosing to be there. And if your body ever begins to
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  activate at any point in time, you can just take 2 slow outward
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  breaths, and those two long exhalations tells your nervous
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  system that this is just uncomfortable and not dangerous.
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  And your body listens because your body trusts your adult mind
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  now, not your childhood coping strategies.
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  Because you are no longer someone who is triggered into
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  old environments. You are someone who walks into
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  necessary experiences with awareness.
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  You don't avoid maintenance. You don't flee from temporary
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  discomfort. You choose long term health and
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  in doing so you reinforce a new identity, an autonomous adult,
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  not a trap child and certainly not a powerless teenager.
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  You are an adult who chooses, and choice is the opposite of
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  captivity. So let's imagine booking your
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  next dentist appointment. Maybe it's a phone call, an
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  e-mail, or scheduling something on an app.
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  But notice how you breathe. Steady.
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  No panic, just pragmatism. And then imagine arriving for
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  that appointment. You walk in, Perhaps there's a
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  reception desk. You sit down.
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  You remember I chose this. Imagine walking into the dental
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  room. You raise your hand briefly just
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  to feel that it moves freely. Position yourself in the chair.
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  Communicate with the dentist, your boundaries, expectations, a
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  signal if you ever need them to stop.
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  And imagine breathing out twice there in the chair before
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  anything happens. Communicating with your nervous
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  system. You are safe and you are here
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  from choice. And some people, they focus on
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  what the dentist is doing. Other people imagine themselves
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  far away in an imaginary land, just waiting for the procedure
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  to be finished. Time passes and at the end you
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  stand up, leave the chair and you leave and you feel something
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  wonderful. Pride, empowerment, freedom.
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  The dentist was not about your teeth, it was about freedom and
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  you choosing to do something and noticing how your body changes
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  frees you of one more chain, one more rope attaching you to your
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  past. And I wonder over the next few
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  weeks and months, how many of those chains will break?
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  How many of those ropes will be loosened or ripped upon?
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  You are not your past and don't need to be attached by it.
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  You are not your past. You are the one updating it.
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  And every voluntary empowered action rewire something way
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  deeper than fear. It actually rewires your
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  identity. So take a slow breath in and as
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  you breathe out, feel that open space around you again without
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  feeling of being free, unconfined and choosing.
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  And as you connect to that feeling of freedom of choice,
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  it's time to return, taking all these wonderful feelings and
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  changes with you. So take a deep breath.
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  In through your nose and out. That's it.
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  Wiggle your fingers, Wiggle your toes as I count from 1:00 to
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  10:00 to awaken you. Starting to count 123 Waking up
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  456. More alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes. 910.
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  Wide awake, wide awake. Wide awake.
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  today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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