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Friday feature - life changing quotes · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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  Speaker 1: Appogia production today were to be talking about our favorite quotes.
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  Speaker 1: We are both so massive on quotes. I feel like
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  Speaker 1: they really change our life in a good way and
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  Speaker 1: they really help us through some hard times because it
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  Speaker 1: kind of just gives you something to focus on and
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  Speaker 1: see things from a different perspective.
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  Speaker 2: Or something to relate to.
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  Speaker 3: Like if you're going through something and you read or
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  Speaker 3: find this amazing quote online, you're like, oh wow, someone
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  Speaker 3: else has been through something similar.
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  Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, I feel like it always pops up
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  Speaker 1: at the right time, Like I'll read something like we'll
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  Speaker 1: have a scroll and that this quote will pop up
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  Speaker 1: and be like that's exactly how I'm feeling, Like can
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  Speaker 1: validate me and you see me Instagram, thank you so good.
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  Speaker 1: I love it.
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  Speaker 2: I could scroll for hours looking at quote.
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  Speaker 1: I know, all right, haul, I'm interest that you literally
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  Speaker 1: type in like whatever you're wanting to feel or see
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  Speaker 1: or read about, like quotes on anxiety, quotes on self love,
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  Speaker 1: quotes on relationships, whatever, And it's just like Pinterest, babe.
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  Speaker 1: You won't even go on Instagram for quotes again, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they go endless and you can be so specific for
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  Speaker 1: what you want.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I need to check that one.
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  Speaker 1: You think you're a quote whole. Now, wait till after Pinterest.
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  Speaker 2: I've already got so many screenshots on my phone.
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  Speaker 1: We obviously always share ones that we love, so we've
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  Speaker 1: jotted down our favorites, but I feel like we want
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  Speaker 1: to talk a little bit more in depth about why
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  Speaker 1: we love them so much. So do you want to
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  Speaker 1: go first with your favorite and why you love it?
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  Speaker 3: I should go with the one that's tattooed on me. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: that's probably a good starting point, so on my ribs
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  Speaker 3: when I was seventeen. So it is everything happens for
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  Speaker 3: a reason, and I.
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  Speaker 1: Think everyone loves this quote.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like people either love it or they fucking
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  Speaker 2: hate it. So many people like there is not a
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  Speaker 2: reason for it.
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  Speaker 1: Everything right, So they have that mindset around it here.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, but even though shit things happen and it's not
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  Speaker 3: always fair, I thought, there's always lessons to be learned
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  Speaker 3: and reasons why things do happen. And I was going
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  Speaker 3: through a bit of a difficult time in my life
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  Speaker 3: when I got the tattoo, and before I got the tattoo,
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  Speaker 3: for like six.
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  Speaker 2: Months I actually had I wrote it.
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  Speaker 3: Each letter was a piece of a four paper and
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  Speaker 3: then colored it in and I had it stuck up
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  Speaker 3: above my bed.
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  Speaker 2: It's not a year. Yeah, So I was like, I
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  Speaker 2: think I love it. I think we're always gonna love it.
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  Speaker 2: And I do love the quote.
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  Speaker 1: It's such a beautiful quote. It is. I do understand
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  Speaker 1: where people are coming from, though, because sometimes when I
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  Speaker 1: say this on social media, I get a little bit
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  Speaker 1: of a pushback. And I understand, and I always try
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  Speaker 1: to have these conversations and open up and try and
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  Speaker 1: expand their mind. But sometimes when I go deep into
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  Speaker 1: like the rabbit hole of you know, Project Rescue Children,
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  Speaker 1: where kids are getting sold to sex slavery, and sometimes
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't find the gift in this. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I really I cannot find why this is happening for like,
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  Speaker 1: what's the reason here? Stuff like that.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like for most things in your life, you
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  Speaker 2: can kind of relate it back to, you know.
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  Speaker 3: Definitely, that's like it can be triggering because sometimes you
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  Speaker 3: can read it and be like, I'm not ready to
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  Speaker 3: find the gift yet.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not ready to I'm not there.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so that might be also, but yeah, I completely agree,
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  Speaker 3: and situations it's very hard to find it.
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  Speaker 1: But I still use it as opt to be like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: how can I help? What can I do to make
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  Speaker 1: the situation better? Like whether it's donate money or spread
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  Speaker 1: a when or whatever, like, yeah, I don't know the
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  Speaker 1: reason why people do this, Well, you do know why
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  Speaker 1: they're doing it money or whatever, but I just think,
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  Speaker 1: how can I help? Like what can I do to
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  Speaker 1: make this a bit better? Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: And I think, like I said, more of like something
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  Speaker 3: that has to relate back to every single thing in
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  Speaker 3: your life. It's just a good rule to live by, yes,
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  Speaker 3: with most things, you know. It's just kind of like
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  Speaker 3: a positive mindset.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, definitely. And that leads me on to one of
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  Speaker 1: my favorite ones which I heard Tony Robbins. Is one
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  Speaker 1: of the quotes that just stuck with me, and it
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  Speaker 1: says life happens for you, not to you. I love that.
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  Speaker 1: I just love it so much because we can get
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  Speaker 1: in such a victim mentality of like oh why does
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  Speaker 1: this keep happening to me? But when you switch it
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  Speaker 1: to Okay, life's happening for me, and it's happening for
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  Speaker 1: this reason, to teach me, to level me up, to
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  Speaker 1: help me grow. I haven't learned my lesson last time.
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  Speaker 1: Every time something happens for me, I'm like, Okay, I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to try and see why this is happening. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: And when you come out the other side and you
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  Speaker 1: have that mindset, you can see why it's happened and
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  Speaker 1: you can be grateful for it, even the really hard,
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  Speaker 1: shitty times. And that's the why I love to live,
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  Speaker 1: because the other option is going into victim mentality. Oh it,
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  Speaker 1: it keeps happening to me. This sucks. My life sucks.
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  Speaker 1: They've got it easier, and I've been there, so I
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  Speaker 1: have compassions to people who in that I've been there,
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  Speaker 1: and it's a horrible place to live emotionally. It's not
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  Speaker 1: the emotional home that you want to live in. So
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  Speaker 1: it's like which one are you going to choose?
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  Speaker 3: And I think it's kind of a cycle, Like I
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  Speaker 3: feel like something happens to us, we go into that
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  Speaker 3: victim mentality, live there for a little while.
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  Speaker 2: But then that's the beautiful thing about.
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  Speaker 3: Trying to find the lesson is that you do turn
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  Speaker 3: your life back around and you try to find the
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  Speaker 3: positives and the silver lining out of being in a
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  Speaker 3: shitty situation or going through something that's been difficult or challenging.
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  Speaker 1: When we talk about emotional home, it's like, yeah, we
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  Speaker 1: visit there, like we sit there for a little bit,
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  Speaker 1: have a little pitty party like this sucks, have a
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  Speaker 1: karate a party, whatever, and it's like, I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to live here.
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  Speaker 2: I struggle, Babe, nearly in a way that it's like bad.
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  Speaker 1: I know.
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  Speaker 3: Over the last couple of years, I've been voice messaging
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  Speaker 3: you and I'm like, I just feel like I keep
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  Speaker 3: going back there, and it is sometimes it's hard. Like
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  Speaker 3: we always say, it's easier to kind of sit in
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  Speaker 3: that place rather than going, Okay, now, I need to
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  Speaker 3: do the work to get out of there.
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  Speaker 1: Do the work, do the inner at work. And there's
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  Speaker 1: the reason why it's called the work is because it
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  Speaker 1: is work. Yeah, it's uncomfortable, comfortable. You have to be
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  Speaker 1: so conscious and aware of your language, how you're showing up.
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  Speaker 1: The story figgers, the triggers the stories that you're telling yourself,
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  Speaker 1: because that becomes your narrative and like you're holding the
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  Speaker 1: pen when you're writing a story, no one else is.
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  Speaker 2: This one was one that really stood out to me
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  Speaker 2: after I had Miller.
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  Speaker 3: So for those of you who don't know, my daughter
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  Speaker 3: was born with a cleft, and it was a really
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  Speaker 3: difficult journey when she was a newborn, we had to
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  Speaker 3: put it in for surgery, and just learning to navigate
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  Speaker 3: the first time being a mum and motherhood and then
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  Speaker 3: having so many challenges thrown in the mix. I feel
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  Speaker 3: like I really struggled and it was one that always
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  Speaker 3: stood out to me after that journey that I went through.
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  Speaker 3: And it goes you grow through what you go through,
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  Speaker 3: but you really do if you lean into it and
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  Speaker 3: you try to find the lesson. That's the only way
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  Speaker 3: you do grow when you come out the other end.
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  Speaker 3: You need to go through hard times to become the
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  Speaker 3: person that you want to be.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, Yeah, I.
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  Speaker 1: Love that one. Anyone who hasn't heard that, I feel
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  Speaker 1: like they'll be like, I'm gonna write that down, put
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  Speaker 1: in your notes. I'll go on too. Another one of
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  Speaker 1: my favorites, choose your Heart. Basically, it's like so many
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  Speaker 1: things in life are hard, and I use exercise as
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  Speaker 1: a good example. You know, people say it's really hard
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  Speaker 1: to exercise, it's really hard to eat healthy, it's hard
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  Speaker 1: to get out of bed early, it's hard to get
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  Speaker 1: in a routine, it's hard to join a new gym.
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  Speaker 1: It's hard to be around different people. It's hard not
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  Speaker 1: to compare yourself all that stuff with health and fitness.
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  Speaker 1: But on the flip side, it's also really hard to
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  Speaker 1: be unhealthy. It's also really hard not to have energy.
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  Speaker 1: It's also really hard when your kids are wanting you
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  Speaker 1: to run around and you're too tired. It's really hard
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  Speaker 1: to not feel confident in your body and look in
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  Speaker 1: the mirror and feel shit about yourself. Choose your hard
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  Speaker 1: It's one of those hard truths too. It's like, what
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  Speaker 1: hard are you going to choose? I choose to get
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  Speaker 1: up and go to the gym. I choose to work
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  Speaker 1: hard in my body. I choose to make healthy decisions.
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  Speaker 1: I choose all of that. And now it's not hard anymore.
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  Speaker 1: When you're first starting, Yeah, growing and changing, it is
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  Speaker 1: so hard sometimes, but you get to choose which hard
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  Speaker 1: you to have. And I refuse to be on this
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  Speaker 1: hard that like I don't have that energy to run
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  Speaker 1: around after my kids and I don't feel confident within
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  Speaker 1: my body. No, you can apply this to any part
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  Speaker 1: of your life, like growing a business or your relationship.
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  Speaker 1: Like relationship, they're hard. Sometimes it is uncomfortable and hard
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  Speaker 1: to have hard and uncomfortable conversations. Yeah, but it's also
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  Speaker 1: hard to suppress disconnect and like pretend every with each
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  Speaker 1: other and pretend everything's okay. To put on a front
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  Speaker 1: that's really fucking hard and I'm so not available for that. No,
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  Speaker 1: I'd rather have the hard conversations and go through that
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  Speaker 1: together and come out the other side one hundred percent.
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  Speaker 3: And I think too sometimes what people can be guilty of.
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  Speaker 3: I even do this is all like want to start something,
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  Speaker 3: and I put in like so much effort and energy,
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  Speaker 3: but all it is is like a tiny change in
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  Speaker 3: each day. It's like, Okay, let's go let's got up
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  Speaker 3: twenty minutes early and go for a twenty minute walk.
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  Speaker 2: Let's spend five minutes.
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  Speaker 3: Clearing out the inbox so I don't get a million
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  Speaker 3: emails at the end of the week that I have to.
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  Speaker 3: It's like again another quote thinking of your future self, yes,
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  Speaker 3: you know, and going back to being like, okay, realistically,
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  Speaker 3: to do all those things that you want to do
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  Speaker 3: in a day, you don't need as much time as
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  Speaker 3: you think to do it. And I think I even
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  Speaker 3: get in my own head sometimes of doing that, I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I need an hour to go do this, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: I can smash it out and get it done in
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  Speaker 3: If you're focusing.
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  Speaker 2: Just on that, you know, one task, one percent.
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  Speaker 1: But you could fall into being a busy mom of
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  Speaker 1: three children, three young children, running multiple businesses. You could
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  Speaker 1: fall into it's too hard to get up early. It's
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  Speaker 1: too hard for me to spend my time with my
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  Speaker 1: kids or do this or do that. But you don't
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  Speaker 1: have that mindset getting up early far out make such
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  Speaker 1: a difference. Yeah. Yeah, if you believe you can or
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  Speaker 1: you believe you can't, you are right, so fucking true.
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  Speaker 1: You are right, sister. Yeah, because your language is so
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  Speaker 1: so powerful. And if you were convinced that you can't
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  Speaker 1: do something, you won't even bother trying. So yeah, you won't,
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  Speaker 1: you won't do not do it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, But if you think that you're worthy of it,
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  Speaker 2: and you think that you can actually achieve these things.
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  Speaker 1: You're willing to put the work in, like rewind, Like say,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, five ten years ago, there were so
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  Speaker 1: many things I just believed I couldn't do, so I
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't even try even when it came to like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: my career. I suppose in helping fitness started becoming a
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  Speaker 1: personal trainer, And the reason they even jumped into that
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  Speaker 1: was because I got fired from my job at balley
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  Speaker 1: Girl and Steve was like, you should become a personal trainer.
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  Speaker 1: You're helping me with all these boot camps. The girls
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  Speaker 1: love you like you add this beautiful support, feminine energy
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  Speaker 1: to the group that I don't have. When you make
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  Speaker 1: a great team, like go and do your PT course.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, I remember looking at him just
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  Speaker 1: being like, are you actually keeping I said to him,
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  Speaker 1: I'm so fucking dumb. There's no way I can pass that.
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  Speaker 1: Oh babe, ask him this so much push And then
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  Speaker 1: I got fired and he's like, what are you gonna
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  Speaker 1: do now? And he'd actually been applying for a government
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  Speaker 1: fund because we couldn't afford for me to do the course.
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  Speaker 1: And I got a government fund to go and do
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  Speaker 1: a PT course. He's like, well, you've got no job,
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  Speaker 1: You've got no money. Fuck, look, cafe, I've got this
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  Speaker 1: government fund. You're going to do the PT course. And
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  Speaker 1: to even get me out the door to like step inside,
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  Speaker 1: I was so nervous. I truly believed that I couldn't
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  Speaker 1: do it. And guess what, I failed three times my
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  Speaker 1: final exams. I failed because I truly believed I couldn't
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  Speaker 1: do it. I just wasn't even trying hard enough because
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  Speaker 1: I was so caught out for my head.
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  Speaker 2: And that's what happened to you.
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  Speaker 3: Kin't of your almost enemy if you like think, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I'm not good enough for this, you don't even give
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  Speaker 3: it the energy that it deserves.
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  Speaker 1: And then I tell you another story that, yeah, you
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  Speaker 1: really like that for me, which was so cool. I
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  Speaker 1: hated Steve at the time for it. But yeah, we
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  Speaker 1: ran this book at Burley and there was a lot
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  Speaker 1: of girls there. Anyways, I was doing something, he was
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  Speaker 1: doing something. We had to meet back there at four
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  Speaker 1: o'clock and he's like called me. He's like, I'm so sorry, babe,
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  Speaker 1: Like I can't make it. You're gonna have to run
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  Speaker 1: the session by yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Oh he knew. I know you do not leave me.
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  Speaker 1: I cannot do this by myself. I'm way too shy,
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  Speaker 1: Like I've never run a group before in my life.
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  Speaker 1: Like even in a P two course they do like
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  Speaker 1: one session on how to run a group training session.
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  Speaker 1: It's not enough. Yeah, and I just like freaked out,
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  Speaker 1: like full panic attack. But I've got all these girls
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  Speaker 1: in front of me, like super eager, like ready to train.
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  Speaker 1: I had to do it. Once I did it, and
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  Speaker 1: he pulls up in his car at the end, I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: outside your comfort zone. You said your car was broken.
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  Speaker 1: Why are you're not here? He's like, no, I just
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  Speaker 1: wanted you to see that you could do this without me.
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  Speaker 1: You don't need me, babe. You are more than capable
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  Speaker 1: on your own. And I'm gonna be here for the
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  Speaker 1: sessions because this is my job and I love doing
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  Speaker 1: this with you, but I needed you to see you
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  Speaker 1: could do it on your own. How beautiful is that?
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  Speaker 2: Wow?
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  Speaker 1: I can't actually do this with myself. And that really
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  Speaker 1: helped me start to change my beliefs of like maybe
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  Speaker 1: I can do stuff. Like I know my stepdad had
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  Speaker 1: a big role in like telling me in my upbringing
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  Speaker 1: that I couldn't do things. But now it's like, I
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  Speaker 1: really believe that if you think you can do something, girl,
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  Speaker 1: you are can one hundred percent do it. You can
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  Speaker 1: do anything you put your mind to. You gotta be
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  Speaker 1: brave though you believe you can't. You're right