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Note 55: You’re Not Behind, You’re Just Hesitating · Notes to Her

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  Hey,
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  girl.
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  Hey.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Notes
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  to
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  her
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  the
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  daily
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  pep
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  talk.
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  I'm
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  Yaya,
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  your
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  confidence
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  and
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  mindset
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  coach,
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  here
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  build
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  real
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  confidence,
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  strengthen
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  your
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  self
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  trust
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  and
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  move
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  through
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  fear
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  instead
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  of
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  letting
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  it
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  run
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  your
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  life.
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  Now,
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  let
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  me
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  ask
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  you
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  something.
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  Have
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  you
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  ever
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  looked
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  around
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  at
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  your
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  life
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  and
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  thought,
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  I'm
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  behind?
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  Behind
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  in
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  life,
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  behind
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  in
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  love,
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  behind
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  in
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  your
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  career,
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  behind
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  in
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  your
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  healing,
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  behind
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  in
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  your
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  confidence
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  like
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  everyone
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  else
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  got
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  the
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  memo
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  and
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  you're
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  still
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  trying
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  to
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  catch
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  up.
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  If
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  that's
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  ever
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  crossed
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  your
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  mind,
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  even
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  quietly,
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  then
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  this
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  note
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  is
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  for
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  you.
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  Let's
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  be
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  honest.
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  You're
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  not
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  behind
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  because
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  you're
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  incapable.
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  You're
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  not
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  behind
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  because
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  you're
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  not
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  smart.
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  You're
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  not
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  behind
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  because
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  you
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  don't
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  have
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  what
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  it
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  takes.
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  You're
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  behind
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  because
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  you
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  keep
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  pressing
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  pause
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  on
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  your
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  own
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  life.
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  You
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  keep
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  waiting
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  for
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  the
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  moment
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  when
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  you'll
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  feel
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  ready,
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  confident
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  enough,
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  healed
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  enough,
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  certain
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  enough
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  to
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  finally
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  move.
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  And
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  that
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  moment,
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  it
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  doesn't
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  magically
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  arrive.
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  Because
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  the
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  version
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  of
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  you
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  who
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  feels
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  ready
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  is
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  usually
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  the
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  version
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  of
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  you
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  who
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  already
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  started.
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  So
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  if
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  you've
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  been
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  telling
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  yourself
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  you're
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  behind,
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  ask
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  you
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  a
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  different
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  question.
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  Where
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  are
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  you
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  hesitating?
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  gently
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  mess
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  with
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  your
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  mind
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  for
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  a
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  second.
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  Feeling
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  behind
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  is
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  perception,
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  not
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  reality.
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  It's
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  a
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  story
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  your
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  brain
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  tells
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  you
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  when
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  you
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  look
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  at
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  your
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  life
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  through
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  pressure
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  instead
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  of
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  perspective.
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  Because
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  behind
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  compared
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  to
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  who,
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  compared
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  to
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  what
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  timeline
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  compared
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  to
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  what
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  highlight
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  reel
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  compared
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  to
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  what
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  invisible
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  checklist.
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  Some
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  of
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  you
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  are
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  calling
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  yourself
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  behind
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  because
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  you
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  are
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  measuring
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  your
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  real
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  life
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  against
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  somebody
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  else's
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  curated
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  life.
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  And
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  I'm
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  not
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  saying
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  that
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  to
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  shame
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  you.
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  I
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  am
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  saying
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  that
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  because
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  I
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  genuinely
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  care
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  and
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  I
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  want
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  you
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  to
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  stay.
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  Stop
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  letting
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  comparison
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  speak
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  louder
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  than
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  your
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  actual
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  progress.
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  No,
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  hesitation
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  is
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  sneaky.
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  It
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  doesn't
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  always
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  look
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  like
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  fear.
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  Sometimes
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  it
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  looks
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  like
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  being
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  responsible.
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  It
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  looks
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  like
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  I
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  just
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  need
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  to
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  think
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  about
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  it
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  more.
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  Let
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  me
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  pray
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  on
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  it.
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  I
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  need
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  to
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  do
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  more
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  research.
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  I'm
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  just
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  waiting
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  for
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  the
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  right
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  time.
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  I
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  just
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  am
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  trying
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  to
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  be
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  realistic
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  and
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  listen.
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  Sometimes
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  those
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  things
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  are
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  valid.
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  But
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  sometimes
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  that's
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  not
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  wisdom.
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  That
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  is
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  avoidance
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  with
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  a
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  cute
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  outfit
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  on.
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  Because
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  you're
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  not
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  actually
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  thinking.
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  You
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  are
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  looping.
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  You
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  are
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  replaying
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  the
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  same
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  decision
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  in
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  your
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  head
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  like
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  it's
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  going
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  to
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  suddenly
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  feel
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  painless.
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  But
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  life
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  changing
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  moves
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  rarely
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  feel
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  painless.
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  They
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  feel
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  scary,
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  they
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  feel
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  uncertain.
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  They
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  feel
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  like,
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  oh
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  my
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  gosh,
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  what
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  if
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  this
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  changes
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  everything?
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  And
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  yes,
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  it
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  might.
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  But
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  that's
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  the
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  point.
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  Now
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  here's
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  something
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  that
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  I
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  noticed
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  about
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  ambitious
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  women.
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  You're
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  not
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  afraid
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  of
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  hard
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  work.
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  You
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  are
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  not
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  afraid
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  of
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  effort.
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  You
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  are
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  not
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  afraid
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  of
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  showing
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  up.
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  You
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  are
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  afraid
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  of
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  being
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  seen
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  before
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  it's
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  perfect.
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  You
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  are
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  afraid
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  of
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  getting
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  it
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  wrong.
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  Publicly
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  disappointing
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  somebody,
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  making
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  the
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  wrong
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  decision,
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  being
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  judged,
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  outgrowing
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  people,
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  realizing
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  that
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  you
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  want
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  more
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  than
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  your
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  current
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  life
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  can
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  hold.
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  So
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  you
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  hesitate.
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  And
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  then
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  you
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  label
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  that
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  hesitation
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  as
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  behinds.
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  But
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  baby
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  girl,
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  that
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  label
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  is
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  heavy.
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  And
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  it
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  becomes
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  a
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  self
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  fulfilling
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  prophecy
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  because
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  you
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  keep
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  bonding
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  yourself
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  behind.
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  You
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  keep
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  moving
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  like
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  a
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  woman
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  who
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  believes
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  she's
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  late.
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  Rushing,
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  panicking,
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  overworking,
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  comparing,
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  second
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  guessing.
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  And
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  none
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  of
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  that
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  builds
• 3:58
  confidence.
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  So
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  let's
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  talk
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  about
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  what
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  hesitation
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  costs
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  you.
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  Because
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  hesitation
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  is
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  not
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  free.
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  It
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  costs
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  you
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  momentum,
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  self
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  trust,
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  opportunities,
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  peace,
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  clarity,
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  and
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  most
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  importantly,
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  time.
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  Not
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  just
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  time
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  on
• 4:16
  the
• 4:16
  clock,
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  but
• 4:17
  time
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  in
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  your
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  life.
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  Because
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  while
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  you're
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  hesitating,
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  life
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  is
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  still
• 4:20
  happening.
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  And
• 4:21
  the
• 4:21
  scariest
• 4:22
  thing
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  is
• 4:22
  not
• 4:22
  failure.
• 4:23
  The
• 4:23
  scariest
• 4:24
  thing
• 4:24
  is
• 4:24
  waking
• 4:24
  up
• 4:24
  and
• 4:25
  realizing
• 4:25
  you
• 4:25
  have
• 4:25
  spent
• 4:26
  an
• 4:26
  entire
• 4:26
  season
• 4:27
  waiting
• 4:28
  for
• 4:28
  permission
• 4:29
  that
• 4:29
  never
• 4:30
  came.
• 4:32
  And
• 4:32
  some
• 4:32
  of
• 4:32
  you
• 4:32
  feel
• 4:33
  that.
• 4:33
  You
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  feel
• 4:34
  it
• 4:34
  when
• 4:34
  you
• 4:34
  look
• 4:35
  back
• 4:35
  and
• 4:35
  think
• 4:36
  I
• 4:36
  should
• 4:36
  have
• 4:36
  started
• 4:36
  last
• 4:37
  year.
• 4:38
  You
• 4:38
  feel
• 4:38
  it
• 4:39
  when
• 4:39
  you
• 4:39
  watch
• 4:39
  someone
• 4:39
  else
• 4:40
  do
• 4:40
  the
• 4:40
  thing
• 4:40
  you
• 4:41
  have
• 4:41
  been
• 4:41
  talking
• 4:41
  about
• 4:42
  for
• 4:42
  two
• 4:42
  years.
• 4:44
  You
• 4:44
  feel
• 4:45
  it
• 4:45
  when
• 4:45
  you
• 4:45
  think
• 4:45
  about
• 4:45
  how
• 4:46
  long
• 4:46
  you've
• 4:46
  been
• 4:46
  tolerating
• 4:47
  something
• 4:48
  you
• 4:48
  already
• 4:49
  outgrew.
• 4:51
  That's
• 4:51
  not
• 4:52
  behind,
• 4:53
  that's
• 4:53
  delayed
• 4:54
  alignment.
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  And
• 4:57
  comparison
• 4:57
  makes
• 4:58
  this
• 4:58
  so
• 4:59
  much
• 4:59
  worse
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  because
• 5:01
  comparison
• 5:01
  convince
• 5:02
  you
• 5:02
  that
• 5:02
  everyone
• 5:02
  else
• 5:03
  is
• 5:03
  moving
• 5:03
  faster,
• 5:04
  doing
• 5:04
  more
• 5:04
  and
• 5:05
  winning
• 5:05
  bigger.
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  So
• 5:06
  you
• 5:06
  panic.
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  And
• 5:07
  in
• 5:08
  that
• 5:08
  panic
• 5:08
  you
• 5:08
  either
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  freeze
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  or
• 5:10
  force.
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  Freeze
• 5:12
  looks
• 5:12
  like
• 5:12
  procrastination.
• 5:13
  Force
• 5:14
  looks
• 5:14
  like
• 5:14
  rushing
• 5:15
  into
• 5:15
  things
• 5:15
  you're
• 5:15
  not
• 5:15
  aligned
• 5:16
  with
• 5:16
  just
• 5:17
  so
• 5:17
  that
• 5:17
  you
• 5:17
  can
• 5:17
  feel
• 5:17
  like
• 5:17
  you're
• 5:18
  caught
• 5:18
  up.
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  And
• 5:19
  either
• 5:19
  way
• 5:19
  you're
• 5:20
  not
• 5:20
  listening
• 5:20
  to
• 5:21
  yourself.
• 5:22
  That's
• 5:22
  the
• 5:22
  problem.
• 5:23
  Not
• 5:24
  your
• 5:24
  pace,
• 5:25
  your
• 5:25
  relationship
• 5:26
  with
• 5:26
  your
• 5:26
  pace.
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  Okay,
• 5:29
  so
• 5:29
  pause
• 5:30
  with
• 5:30
  me.
• 5:31
  If
• 5:31
  you're
• 5:32
  multitasking,
• 5:32
  I
• 5:33
  want
• 5:33
  you
• 5:33
  to
• 5:33
  stop
• 5:33
  for
• 5:33
  a
• 5:33
  second.
• 5:34
  Because
• 5:34
  this
• 5:35
  is
• 5:35
  the
• 5:35
  part
• 5:35
  that
• 5:36
  I
• 5:36
  really
• 5:36
  want
• 5:37
  you
• 5:37
  to
• 5:37
  take
• 5:37
  in.
• 5:39
  Take
• 5:39
  a
• 5:39
  breath
• 5:40
  in.
• 5:42
  And
• 5:42
  now
• 5:42
  breathe
• 5:43
  out.
• 5:45
  Now
• 5:45
  answer
• 5:46
  this
• 5:46
  honestly.
• 5:48
  What's
• 5:48
  one
• 5:48
  area
• 5:49
  of
• 5:49
  your
• 5:49
  life
• 5:49
  where
• 5:49
  you
• 5:50
  keep
• 5:50
  saying
• 5:51
  you're
• 5:51
  behind?
• 5:53
  Is
• 5:53
  it
• 5:53
  money?
• 5:55
  Career?
• 5:57
  Love?
• 5:58
  Confidence?
• 6:00
  Health?
• 6:02
  Friendships?
• 6:03
  Your
• 6:03
  business?
• 6:05
  No.
• 6:06
  Ask
• 6:07
  what
• 6:07
  would
• 6:08
  moving
• 6:08
  forward
• 6:09
  look
• 6:09
  like
• 6:09
  if
• 6:10
  I
• 6:10
  wasn't
• 6:11
  trying
• 6:11
  to
• 6:11
  do
• 6:11
  it
• 6:12
  perfectly?
• 6:14
  Because
• 6:15
  you
• 6:15
  probably
• 6:15
  don't
• 6:16
  need
• 6:16
  a
• 6:16
  brand
• 6:16
  new
• 6:17
  plan.
• 6:18
  You
• 6:18
  need
• 6:18
  a
• 6:18
  first
• 6:19
  step,
• 6:19
  a
• 6:20
  stretch.
• 6:21
  A
• 6:21
  small
• 6:22
  honest
• 6:23
  action
• 6:23
  that
• 6:24
  says
• 6:24
  I
• 6:24
  trust
• 6:25
  myself
• 6:25
  enough
• 6:26
  to
• 6:26
  move.
• 6:28
  Overthinking
• 6:29
  is
• 6:30
  not
• 6:30
  a
• 6:30
  personality
• 6:31
  flaw.
• 6:31
  Don't
• 6:31
  let
• 6:31
  anybody
• 6:32
  tell
• 6:32
  you
• 6:32
  that.
• 6:32
  It
• 6:33
  is
• 6:33
  a
• 6:33
  safety
• 6:34
  strategy.
• 6:35
  Your
• 6:35
  brain
• 6:36
  is
• 6:36
  trying
• 6:37
  to
• 6:37
  keep
• 6:37
  you
• 6:37
  from
• 6:38
  Regret,
• 6:38
  embarrassment,
• 6:39
  and
• 6:39
  rejection.
• 6:41
  It
• 6:41
  wants
• 6:41
  certainty
• 6:42
  before
• 6:42
  you
• 6:42
  move
• 6:43
  forward.
• 6:43
  But
• 6:43
  life,
• 6:44
  unfortunately,
• 6:44
  doesn't
• 6:45
  work
• 6:45
  like
• 6:45
  that.
• 6:45
  Clarity
• 6:46
  comes
• 6:46
  after
• 6:46
  movement.
• 6:47
  Confidence
• 6:48
  comes
• 6:48
  after
• 6:49
  movement.
• 6:49
  Self
• 6:50
  trust
• 6:50
  comes
• 6:51
  after
• 6:51
  you
• 6:51
  prove
• 6:51
  to
• 6:52
  yourself
• 6:52
  that
• 6:52
  you
• 6:52
  follow
• 6:53
  through.
• 6:53
  So
• 6:54
  when
• 6:54
  you
• 6:54
  say
• 6:54
  I'm
• 6:54
  behind,
• 6:55
  what
• 6:55
  you're
• 6:55
  really
• 6:56
  saying
• 6:56
  is,
• 6:56
  I
• 6:57
  don't
• 6:57
  trust
• 6:57
  myself
• 6:58
  to
• 6:58
  handle
• 6:58
  what
• 6:59
  happens
• 6:59
  if
• 6:59
  I
• 7:00
  move.
• 7:01
  And
• 7:01
  that's
• 7:02
  not
• 7:02
  something
• 7:02
  that
• 7:02
  you
• 7:02
  should
• 7:02
  be
• 7:02
  ashamed
• 7:03
  of.
• 7:03
  Honestly,
• 7:04
  more
• 7:04
  of
• 7:04
  us
• 7:05
  have
• 7:05
  been
• 7:05
  there
• 7:05
  than
• 7:05
  we
• 7:06
  want
• 7:06
  to
• 7:06
  admit.
• 7:07
  But
• 7:07
  it's
• 7:08
  something
• 7:08
  to
• 7:08
  work
• 7:08
  on.
• 7:09
  And
• 7:09
  you
• 7:09
  work
• 7:09
  on
• 7:10
  it
• 7:10
  by
• 7:10
  feeling
• 7:10
  proof.
• 7:13
  I
• 7:13
  want
• 7:13
  you
• 7:14
  to
• 7:14
  imagine
• 7:14
  the
• 7:14
  feeling
• 7:15
  of
• 7:15
  finally
• 7:15
  moving.
• 7:16
  Not
• 7:16
  because
• 7:17
  you
• 7:17
  feel
• 7:17
  fearless,
• 7:18
  but
• 7:18
  because
• 7:18
  you're
• 7:18
  tired
• 7:19
  of
• 7:19
  your
• 7:19
  own
• 7:20
  excuses.
• 7:21
  You
• 7:21
  send
• 7:21
  the
• 7:21
  email.
• 7:22
  You
• 7:22
  apply
• 7:23
  for
• 7:23
  the
• 7:23
  role.
• 7:24
  You
• 7:24
  post
• 7:24
  the
• 7:25
  video.
• 7:25
  You
• 7:26
  set
• 7:26
  the
• 7:26
  boundary.
• 7:27
  You
• 7:27
  make
• 7:28
  the
• 7:28
  decision.
• 7:29
  You
• 7:29
  have
• 7:29
  the
• 7:30
  conversation.
• 7:31
  And
• 7:31
  yes,
• 7:31
  it
• 7:32
  might
• 7:32
  feel
• 7:32
  messy,
• 7:33
  but
• 7:33
  here's
• 7:34
  what
• 7:34
  also
• 7:34
  happens.
• 7:34
  You
• 7:35
  feel
• 7:35
  lighter
• 7:36
  because
• 7:36
  hesitation
• 7:37
  is
• 7:37
  heavy.
• 7:39
  You
• 7:39
  feel
• 7:39
  proud
• 7:40
  because
• 7:40
  you
• 7:40
  proved
• 7:41
  something
• 7:41
  to
• 7:41
  yourself.
• 7:42
  And
• 7:42
  that
• 7:43
  proof
• 7:43
  matters
• 7:43
  more
• 7:44
  than
• 7:44
  the
• 7:44
  outcome.
• 7:45
  Because
• 7:45
  the
• 7:45
  outcome
• 7:46
  builds
• 7:46
  experience,
• 7:47
  but
• 7:47
  action
• 7:48
  builds
• 7:48
  identity.
• 7:49
  You
• 7:50
  start
• 7:50
  becoming
• 7:50
  the
• 7:50
  woman
• 7:51
  who
• 7:51
  moves,
• 7:52
  not
• 7:53
  the
• 7:53
  woman
• 7:53
  who
• 7:53
  waits.
• 7:55
  So
• 7:55
  next
• 7:56
  time
• 7:56
  you
• 7:56
  catch
• 7:56
  yourself
• 7:56
  saying,
• 7:57
  I'm
• 7:57
  behind,
• 7:58
  I
• 7:58
  want
• 7:58
  you
• 7:58
  to
• 7:58
  step,
• 7:59
  stop,
• 7:59
  and
• 7:59
  ask.
• 8:00
  Or
• 8:00
  am
• 8:01
  I
• 8:01
  just
• 8:01
  hesitating
• 8:02
  because
• 8:02
  it's
• 8:02
  uncomfortable?
• 8:03
  Because
• 8:04
  you
• 8:04
  are
• 8:04
  not
• 8:04
  behind.
• 8:05
  You're
• 8:05
  just
• 8:05
  human.
• 8:06
  And
• 8:06
  you
• 8:06
  are
• 8:06
  allowed
• 8:06
  to
• 8:07
  be
• 8:07
  nervous.
• 8:08
  But
• 8:08
  you
• 8:08
  are
• 8:08
  not
• 8:08
  allowed
• 8:09
  to
• 8:09
  sit
• 8:10
  on
• 8:10
  your
• 8:10
  life
• 8:10
  forever.
• 8:11
  Not
• 8:12
  this
• 8:12
  year.
• 8:12
  I
• 8:12
  will
• 8:12
  not
• 8:13
  let
• 8:13
  you
• 8:13
  do
• 8:13
  it.
• 8:14
  Not
• 8:14
  with
• 8:14
  everything
• 8:15
  you're
• 8:15
  saying
• 8:15
  that
• 8:16
  you
• 8:16
  want.
• 8:16
  Not
• 8:17
  with
• 8:17
  the
• 8:17
  way
• 8:17
  that
• 8:17
  you
• 8:17
  light
• 8:18
  up
• 8:18
  when
• 8:18
  you
• 8:18
  talk
• 8:18
  about
• 8:19
  who
• 8:19
  you
• 8:20
  could
• 8:20
  be.
• 8:22
  So
• 8:23
  remember,
• 8:23
  you
• 8:23
  are
• 8:24
  not
• 8:24
  fine.
• 8:25
  You're
• 8:25
  hesitating.
• 8:26
  And.
• 8:26
  And
• 8:26
  hesitation
• 8:27
  isn't
• 8:27
  solved
• 8:27
  by
• 8:28
  waiting
• 8:28
  longer.
• 8:29
  It's
• 8:29
  solved
• 8:29
  by
• 8:30
  taking
• 8:30
  a
• 8:30
  step.
• 8:31
  A
• 8:31
  small
• 8:32
  step.
• 8:32
  A
• 8:33
  real
• 8:33
  step.
• 8:34
  Know
• 8:35
  of
• 8:35
  this.
• 8:35
  No.
• 8:35
  Hit
• 8:35
  the
• 8:36
  Next
• 8:36
  Episode
• 8:36
  this
• 8:37
  episode
• 8:37
  and
• 8:37
  subscribe.
• 8:38
  Because
• 8:38
  we
• 8:38
  are
• 8:38
  going
• 8:39
  to
• 8:39
  keep
• 8:39
  calling
• 8:39
  out
• 8:40
  the
• 8:40
  ways
• 8:40
  that
• 8:41
  fear
• 8:41
  disguises
• 8:42
  itself
• 8:42
  as
• 8:43
  timing.
• 8:44
  And
• 8:44
  I
• 8:44
  want
• 8:44
  you
• 8:44
  to
• 8:45
  have
• 8:45
  this
• 8:45
  note.
• 8:45
  On
• 8:45
  the
• 8:45
  days
• 8:46
  when
• 8:46
  your
• 8:46
  brain
• 8:46
  tries
• 8:47
  to
• 8:47
  convince
• 8:47
  you
• 8:47
  that
• 8:47
  you're
• 8:47
  late,
• 8:48
  you're
• 8:48
  not
• 8:49
  late.
• 8:49
  You
• 8:49
  are
• 8:50
  learning
• 8:50
  to
• 8:50
  move.
• 8:51
  And
• 8:51
  I'm
• 8:51
  proud
• 8:51
  of
• 8:52
  you
• 8:52
  for
• 8:52
  being
• 8:52
  here.
• 8:53
  With
• 8:53
  love,
• 8:53
  Yaya.