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Episode 594: 7 Ways Your Ex Will Test You After A Breakup And How To Respond · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi. This is ruchika with the art of
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  love. I'm a dating and relationship.
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  Experts specializing in helping you get your ex back or to get
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  over your ex this week. I want to talk about seven ways,
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  your ex will test you and how to respond.
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  We want to make sure that you pass the tests.
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  So by listening to this video, you will get a passing grade.
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  Ha ha. But first, I want to welcome
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  back my beautiful. No contact Army.
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  I'm very happy to say the Android version of silencio.
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  My app is ready. Eddie but we need some testers
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  before we officially launched it in the Google Play store so I
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  will be sending out an email to see who is interested in testing
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  the app and if you're not on my email list, go to my website.
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  The link is underneath everybody on podcast, the art of love
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  dotnet and you can subscribe to my newsletter and then you'll be
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  on the list and you can become a tester and be one of the first
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  ones to try it out on Android. And if you two would like to
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  join our no contact Army, all you have to do is hit the
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  Subscribe button and the bell notification and your end and to
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  read our Emmanuel, go to no contact secrets.com where you
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  can read to free chapters before purchasing the book.
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  Okay, so before I begin, I have a no-contact Horror Story.
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  You've dated I do success stories, but I want this to
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  serve as a cautionary tale. For those of you who don't want
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  to do no contact or who insist on breaking it, okay.
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  And he says, listen to her dunno contact immediately, two months
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  after my ex dumped me, she told me that if I had behaved better
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  after the breakup, no begging, no apologizing, all the time.
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  We We would have already been back together.
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  Now she has lost all respect for me and just wants us to be
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  friends. Biggest mistake of my life was
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  not going. No contact right away.
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  I should have concentrated on myself and not in chasing her.
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  They always come back. Just stay in no contact, that's
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  a great rhyme. Of course, unfortunately, it's
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  not true that they always come back.
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  But you don't have a better chance that they will if you do
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  no contact, okay? So let's get into the seven
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  ways. Your ex will test you and how to
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  respond. One way is that they'll ask for
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  favors to see if you still have feelings for them because
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  obviously if you're still willing to do favors for them
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  even though they broke up with you you still have feelings for
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  them. So you're either going to ignore
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  that message if they text or call or if you feel too guilty,
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  ignorant your request for a favor and you feel you need to
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  respond. You can just say I'm sorry, I'm
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  not gonna be able to do that. Hope you're doing well and even
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  if you can easily do the favor you shouldn't And you think you
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  know doing the favor is going to bring them back but you are
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  going to feel played especially if you go out of your way to do
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  them a favor. Now, the only time you can do
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  them a favor is, of course, if you either took them for granted
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  or if you cheated, that would be the exceptions.
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  So, in that case, you need to be doing whatever you can to get
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  them back after, of course, a period of no contact.
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  Another test is that they will try to put you in the friend
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  zone, even if you said that you weren't interested in being
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  friends. So after the breakup they'll
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  suggest being friends and you say no or even if you did say
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  yes at that time and you realize, oops, that was a
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  mistake and you let them know you changed your mind.
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  They will test your resolve to not being friends, by asking you
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  to do, friends, stuff. And, of course, you like to
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  think that if we just hang out as friends, I'll be attract them
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  again. They want me back.
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  No. No, that's not what's going to
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  happen. I can tell you the chances of
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  that happening are slim to none. And again, you're going to feel
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  played. So say no to friend stuff either
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  by literally telling them, or just ignore the message.
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  Number three is that they will text you late in the evening to
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  see if you're going to respond and also to see if you're with
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  someone. So if you're no contact, they're
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  going to figure that you're probably seeing someone and
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  they'll text you late at night. And if you respond then, They're
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  going to assume that you're not with someone.
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  But since you're no longer a priority, you're not going to be
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  getting back to them so quickly, even if they say something
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  significant, so don't respond that night.
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  And actually also did a video on why your ex will contact you
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  late at night. While you're most likely to hear
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  from your ex late at night and I will put the link to that video
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  up in the corner. It's titled.
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  When will you hear from your ex? So don't let them fool you with
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  your late night. Text the next test is that they
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  want to see. If you've actually changed
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  especially if you made it a point to tell them that you've
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  changed, even though you're not supposed to say it, you're
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  supposed to show it. And one of my clients whose back
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  in touch with his ex One of the reasons that she broke up with
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  him was because it was jealousy. So in their conversations now,
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  he's noticed that she's bringing up other guys, and of course,
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  he's learned his lesson. Plus he's been coaching with me
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  so he actually doesn't react, he's like oh nice cool.
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  So if you really have changed, that it won't be hard to show
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  them that you've changed. And if you haven't changed, then
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  what are you waiting for? Get to work.
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  Another test is that they will try to make you jealous.
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  So if for some reason you have to be in contact with them, they
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  may let you know they're seeing someone either suddenly or not
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  so subtly and if you're not in contact they'll post on social
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  media again, remember our no contact Army slogan, we don't
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  react, we do no contact and remember the video of the guy
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  who totally messed up everything in the beginning.
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  And then finally got his ex back after 10 months.
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  I'll put the link in the upper right-hand corner.
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  I think It's called I did everything wrong.
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  I still got my ex back. Anyway, the way she baited him
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  was to get him chasing since he did no contact for the first two
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  weeks. And first she posted a photo of
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  a rose and then being out to dinner with someone and
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  unfortunately he totally fell for it and freaked out and stood
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  outside her house and was begging her to come out.
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  So not only did he stroked her ego but he let her know that he
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  was not going anywhere and that she could take as long as she On
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  it to get back with him. So luckily, he eventually
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  started listening to me and finally smartened up and now
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  they're back together after 10 months.
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  But it didn't have to be 10 months, it could have been a lot
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  sooner. If you had just stayed in no
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  contact and not falling for that test for that trick.
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  Number 6 is that they want to see if they can get you to chase
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  either because they changed their mind and they want you
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  back and they don't want to say it for Eagle reasons or because
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  they want validation. Ins.
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  And actually talked about this in my video from last week and I
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  will put the link in the right hand corner on you too and the
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  title of that video is seven reasons why your ex contacted
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  you then disappeared. So what happens is that they'll
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  reach out and if you didn't know about not responding to
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  breadcrumbs, you'll respond and they'll either disappear right
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  away and not respond, or they'll chat for a few days and you'll
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  think of a chance of getting them back and then they'll
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  disappear again. So this is one of the many
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  Reasons why we don't respond to breadcrumbs, but if you did fall
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  for it, in chat with them for a while.
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  When they disappear again, go back into no contact, do not
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  start chasing. And then finally test number
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  seven is liking your posts on social media.
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  So they haven't heard from you, they're wondering if you still
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  care or if you ever cared since people are used to being chased
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  after a breakup and they want to see if they throw you a
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  breadcrumb, are you going to respond?
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  Are you going? To like their photo.
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  Are you going to contact them? Of course, we don't respond to
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  breadcrumbs and someone liking a post or leaving a comment is
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  definitely a breadcrumb. So again stay in.
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  No contact. So to recap, we have they will
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  ask for favors to see if you're going to do it to see if you
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  have feelings for them. They will try to put you in the
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  friend zone. By asking to do friends stuff.
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  They'll text you late in the evening to see if she'll
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  respond? They're going to see if you
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  change by testing you and the things that they felt you needed
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  to change. They will try to make you
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  jealous by bringing up other people.
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  They'll see if they can get you to Chase.
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  And finally, they will like your posts or make comments on social
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  media to see what you're going to do.
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  So I want to hear from you has your ex tried any of these tests
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  which ones and what did you do in the meantime, if you'd like
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  my help personally to get your ex back you can contact me at
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  the art of love dotnet. The direct link is below every
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