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144. Lost episode · Your Enriched Self

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  I often do check ins to remind you to be thankful and to find spaces
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  in your life for gratitude. Today, I want to twist it up a
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  little bit and encourage you to celebrate yourself. I was talking to a friend
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  the other day, and it was very clear to me that as many accomplishments
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  as she's had, and she's had quite a few, even in these last
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  few years, these last few weeks, she still hadn't taken time to acknowledge
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  or celebrate her great things, the great things that were happening in her life.
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  But I really think that's a misopportunity for us. But it's also a
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  learned behavior. We were trained to do more because what we've done is not
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  enough. And we have walked around with this baggage of not enoughness for a
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  long time. And I'm asking you today to shed that baggage. It does
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  not serve you, it does not help you, and it does not celebrate
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  you. Take some time today, take some time this upcoming weekend and find
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  a moment, find a few moments, make some time to celebrate yourself.
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  Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome to the Urine
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  rescilk Podcast. I am your host, Mylee Noir. I am a mindset
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  coach and your mindset advocate. And all that means is you live in a
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  world today. There is a lot going on in your space, and then
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  when you look out into the world, you look out into your community,
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  your city, your nation, there's so much more happening there too. And
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  because your world is filled with so much expectation and you are required to respond
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  to the everyday challenges and the things that come knocking at your door, coming
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  to your phone lines, this space was curated for you because in order for
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  you to be the best version of yourself, you need to make time to
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  be intentional about your thoughts. How many of you are spending time thinking about
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  what you are thinking about? And I know that doesn't sound like what culture
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  wants you to think about and what you should be doing, but I promise
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  you you're making mindless decisions. We are out here making mindless decisions. And
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  that's why I created this podcast because I want you to become more of your
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  enrich self. And in order to do that, it all starts with your
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  mind. Every decision, every thought, everything that you do in the world
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  starts with your thoughts and your thoughts inspire your words, and those words become
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  the action and the activity you take when you go out in the world.
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  And I know if you're listening to this podcast, you want to be the
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  best version of yourself, and so you are at the right place. So
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  if you are new to this podcast, I want to welcome you. I
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  want to thank you for being here. I know that you are brought here
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  on purpose, for a purpose. And if you are a repeat listener,
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  listen this journey of podcasting, this journey of becoming your enrich self, is
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  not possible without you, each and every one of you. So I want
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  to thank you from the bottom of my heart. And let me be the
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  first to say I've been so excited about this journey that I've been on in
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  twenty twenty four, so excited about the upcoming one hundred and fiftieth episode that
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  there's a lost episode. And today we are going to unveil that lost episode.
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  But before we get into this week's topic, if you know you know,
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  I make a deposit into the bank of you each and every week,
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  and I do so by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to
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  start your day and to command your morning, and this week's affirmation is I
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  embrace each experience with an open heart. I embrace each experience with an open
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  heart. I embrace each experience with an open heart. Now, let's get
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  ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. I was in
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  conversation with a client who was feeling weary and feeling out of place. And
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  what she described is not feeling confident or as confident as she was and how
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  she felt several years ago. And for a minute, I thought about that
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  question, because I think a lot of us struggle with a lot of you
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  struggle with not feeling as confident as you want were, and that's kind of
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  the story you tell yourself. But today I want to challenge you, if
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  you were to go back to the time when you felt your most confident,
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  what were you going through at that time? And when I started analyzing this
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  person's story, what I learned was a few years ago, these years,
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  these wonder years of great confidence. She was in a familiar place those few
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  years back. She was comfortable with her surroundings. She was wearing an old
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  hat, she knew the people, the places, the things. It was
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  like she was on autopilot. In that time of her life, she had
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  achieved a level of mastery with her craft. So you see when you start
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  peeling back the layers. In that period of her life, she was looking
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  at life from a lens that she knew. She knew the picture before it
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  would even manifest, and a lot of let's call out autopilot. You already
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  know what your day's gonna look like. You already know what kind of projects
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  you're gonna work on. You already know the outcome of the projects. You
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  already know how to apply your talent to it. That's a place of familiarity.
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  But what's happening today, and what I learned was today today, everything
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  about her world is new. She started a new chapter. She spent the
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  last year of her life in a new space, learning new things, being
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  in uncomfortable places, exploring unfamiliar places, meeting new people, being faced with
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  new challenges. Some of those challenges ropped her to her core. Some of
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  those challenges made her feel way out of alignment. She in that year was
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  convicted to bravely stand up to authority. Now that's a tough thing to do,
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  so, as you can imagine, this last year, she found herself
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  in overwhelm. She in fact, is now wearing a new hat. And
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  I believe that you might also be wearing a new hat. I believe that
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  you sometimes feel like your confidence is not enough in the season that you're in.
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  And what I want to tell you is you are now in a season
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  of growth because when you think about all the things you had overcome, When
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  you think about it, this person had overcome all those things I mentioned,
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  standing up to authority, going through hard times, being uncomfortable, being uncomfortable
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  in a new space, tell me about it. So you definitely don't feel
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  your best, You don't feel your strongest, You don't feel like you are
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  yourself because you are comfortable in that skin of comfort, and you start to
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  crave that feeling again. You want to go back there so bad, or
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  at least you want to go back and get that feeling again. And the
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  truth is in today's experience, in her experience with her world, today,
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  she's looking at the world from a new perspective. The lens is different,
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  the size is different, the distance is different. The experiences and the exposure
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  she had left her feeling a bit more overwhelmed and vulnerable, which is a
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  place she had not been in the last two years. So that's a hard
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  thing, hard pill to swallow. And as I mentioned, you are in
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  a growth season. You are in fact in the growth season. And what
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  happens in a growth season, and I want you to hear this, in
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  a growth season, it challenges the condition of the mind. Think about it
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  like reconditioning. Now, when I worked in retail selling mobile devices, there
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  was one point where we were selling and servicing the devices under one roof,
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  right, So in the front of the store just imagine a retail brick and
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  mortar where we're selling phones, we have all the displays, and in the
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  back we have the warranties and where customers would come and say, hey,
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  my phone isn't working, I can't dial out, whatever the case might be.
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  In many cases, the devices were under warranty and the customer was able
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  to be replaced once they met the warranty requirements. Now, in that case,
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  we would provide a customer with a reconditioned phone. And a reconditioned phone
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  meant this. It meant that the phone had been refurbished. And what that
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  means to a customer because we wouldn't go around to and you have a refurbished
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  phone. That doesn't sound good. We would let them know that the phone
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  that you have has been tested and now restored to a full working capacity.
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  It is working as designed. And when you are in a growth season,
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  you have in fact been tested and you are in a place now where you
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  can go go back. You can bounce back. But it's all about how
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  you recondition the mind so you can have a bounce back. And what a
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  bounce back means is you can take what you learned in that season and begin
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  planting it and watering it. It's an opportunity for you to recognize that your
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  life experiences have put you to the test and through the test. The good
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  news is you're on the other side. The uncomfortable news about that is it
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  doesn't feel the same. And the good news again is you're in a growth
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  pattern. Congratulations. What growth pattern means now, though it is time for
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  you to be pruned, when you're in a growth pattern, you're also maintaining.
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  See, everybody thinks growth looks good and you just buy new clothes or
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  buy new things to fit your life, but in fact, growth season is
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  really nurturing and watering and getting your hands dirty. It's not a very clean
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  process. It doesn't look as sexy as the final product. There are growing
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  pains. And in that season when my mother was growing her garden, for
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  her garden to get the blossom and to get the bloom and to get the
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  flowers and to get the fruit, she had to weed that garden. She
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  had to spend time in that garden. So this is the time for you
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  when you're in this season right now, if you are in fact, in
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  this season where you feel like, man, I'm just not feeling that way
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  that way I felt before. I was so confident back then. I want
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  you to give yourself grace. You mastered some things back then. That's why
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  you felt comfortable. Right now, you're in a new mastery season. You're
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  learning new things, you're coming up on new experiences, you're meeting new milestones,
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  new people, you're going to new places. It's not gonna feel the
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  same. It shouldn't feel the same. If you're growing, it's not going
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  to feel the same. Here's the thing about growth that a lot of people
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  don't think about. Growth looks and is upward movement. When you think about
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  again, the flowers in the garden, the plants in the garden. You
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  see the growth, you see the plants going upward. Right now, What
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  really happens in growth, and this is the part we don't see. What
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  we don't see is that growth requires you to grow down before you grow up.
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  I'm gonna repeat that growth requires you to grow down before you grow up.
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  Think about it when you are getting into a new space, right That's
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  why a lot of times people say that, Yo, you're an overnighte success.
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  No, I've been growing down. That's what I've been doing. I've
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  been behind the scenes, I've been doing the work. I've been showing up.
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  I've been doing my thing. And it looks to you like I'm an
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  overnight success. The reality is I've been growing down for years, for months,
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  for weeks, and that's okay. And the thing about the growth season
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  is that you're not getting the automatic satisfaction. See, we like the culture,
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  we like the people, we like the communities to recognize our growth.
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  We want people to see us looking good and coming out on the other side.
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  But this is the season for you to grow down. It's okay to
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  be heads down right now. It's okay to feel uncomfortable right now. If
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  you feel uncomfortable I promise you you're doing it right. If you right now
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  are so comfortable and you feel like your life is on autopilot, you need
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  to do a quick, fast therapeutic self evaluation and determine what you need to
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  do to begin to grow down. I know everybody wants to grow up,
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  because when you grow up, everybody sees the fruits of your labor. But
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  in order to get to the fruit, you need to grow down. That
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  means you need to establish roots. And some of those roots that you had
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  in the past, they're not gonna help you grow up. I mean,
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  when you think about a tree, think about some of the trees. I
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  live in a neighborhood where there are mature trees. And when you live in
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  neighborhoods like this, I tell you one of the scariest times is when there
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  are storms. And back in the back in early February, we had a
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  storm and when that storm hit, it was I think it was hit by
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  lightning. I believe this tree was. When that tree was hit and it
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  fell in our backyard. Thank god it didn't hit the house. But what
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  we found was the roots of that tree were so deep. When we call
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  the the service out to manage, you know, cutting down the tree and
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  you know, managing the tree. At this point, they told us that
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  this tree had been growing for a number of years and that's why the roots
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  were so solid. I mean, that tree was so tall. It was
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  no wonder the roots were as deep as they were. And so if you
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  are in a season right now of growth, if you're going up, I
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  promise you you're growing down. First, embrace that season. Embrace season of
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  growing down, because I promise you you are going to go through all the
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  things you need to do. You're gonna establish the roots you need in order
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  to grow up. When you establish those roots, you are establishing a foundation,
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  a solid foundation. The good news about these trees is that although it's
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  kind of a scary time because I'm surrounded by so many of these types of
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  trees, a lot of these trees have great, solid roots. So it
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  takes a lot. And that's why we believe lightning instructed tree because it wasn't
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  a significant storm. We've had worse storms. But it takes a lot.
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  When you have a solid foundation, when you are deeply rooted, it takes
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  a lot for you to fall. It takes a lot for you to be
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  twisted and turned with the storms of life that will come. So if you
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  are in fact, in the season right now where you are uncomfortable and you
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  feel like, man, I'm just dirty, I'm getting all the dirt on
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  me because you are growing down, You're staying in your lane, you're mining
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  your business, you're drinking your water. Stay there, Stay there and know
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  that this is part of the journey. Trust this process, Actually embrace this
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  process. Most people want to skip this, and what happens is they didn't
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  grow down enough. So when they start growing up, the first storm that
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  hits, the first negative comment on social media, the first thing in media
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  that says this is not gonna work. You fall, you falter, you
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  lose hope, your confidence, forget about confidence. You live and in fear.
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  Now you see how quickly that happens. But if you have solid foundation,
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  if you spend the time growing down and you trust your process, it's
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  just like me and now would working out. I trust my process and I
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  know when I do new and difficult things. I've been practicing for six weeks
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  and now I'm putting on another six weeks into practice so I can do the
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  new and difficult thing. My language now and your language. Now, I
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  shouldn't be oh my god, how it should be Wow, I get to
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  do this. Wow, I'm in this new season. Wow, I've never
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  been here before. When you start asking all these how you're gonna overwhelm yourself.
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  And this person was overwhelmed because they were trying to think, how do
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  I get back to that season? How you get back to that season is
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  you embrace the new season because once you grow down and you get that confidence,
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  that's going to help you build and grow up and be established to walk
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  your journey with the greatest self assurance. I hope you enjoyed this week's episode
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  of your in roots self until we meet again.