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Hit Pause? Let’s Reset—Come Back Stronger After Setbacks · My Sexy Menopause Body

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  SPEAKER_00: My sexy menopause body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Menopause isn't something.
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  SPEAKER_00: Something to own with strength.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sexiness.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because menopause doesn't mean anything into the background.
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  SPEAKER_00: It means stepping fully into who we are.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now here's your host, Kim Nicholson.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's get started.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hey, have you ever looked in the mirror after weeks or even months and thought, who am I right now?
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, I've been there.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, just even a few months ago.
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  SPEAKER_01: I had hit the pause button in my life for all the right reasons.
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  SPEAKER_01: Life called me away.
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  SPEAKER_01: Experienced grief and feeling overwhelmed, caregiving, and suddenly I didn't even recognize myself anymore.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hey there, I'm Kim Dickelson, and welcome back to this episode of My Sexy Metopause Body.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm so glad you're here.
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  SPEAKER_01: So life does not follow our to-do list, does it?
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes it interrupts us, it pulls us off our path, and before you know it, we're standing on unfamiliar ground.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe your daily rhythms feel a little or maybe a lot off.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you used to feel confident, like you know, you had a sense of purpose, but now you're wondering how to feel that spark again.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if that's where you are right now, this episode is designed with you in mind.
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  SPEAKER_01: So let's reset it together.
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  SPEAKER_01: First of all, let's get honest.
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  SPEAKER_01: Setbacks suck.
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  SPEAKER_01: They push us off course, they mess up our routines, and they can shake our confidence.
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  SPEAKER_01: But and hear me, from this point on, they are also invitations.
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  SPEAKER_01: Invitations to renew, rebuild, redefine.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, Mel Robbins, I absolutely adore her.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, she has her uh one of her latest books out, it's called Let Them.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if you haven't read it, it's a must-read.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's a game changer for me.
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  SPEAKER_01: And anyway, one of the lines that she has, and I try to I memorize this because I say it to myself often, you're one decision away from a totally different life.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's powerful.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sit with that again.
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  SPEAKER_01: As a matter of fact, I'm gonna repeat it again to you.
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  SPEAKER_01: You are one decision away from a totally different life, and that's what today's episode is all about.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not about having to overhaul everything in your life, it's about picking one thing to begin again.
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  SPEAKER_01: That moment, it's strength.
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  SPEAKER_01: That moment, that's rising strong.
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  SPEAKER_01: So here's the question: what's the one decision you can make today that whispers, I'm not done.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm just beginning again.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you've been with me in some of my podcasts, you know that I love a good interactive podcast.
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  SPEAKER_01: I love it when somebody can take a nugget away and go, oh my God, I remember that.
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  SPEAKER_01: I love that podcast.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I always like to add some reflective uh prompts for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if you've got a journal that you've been keeping, grab the journal now.
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  SPEAKER_01: If not, grab a piece of paper or just simply sit with what I'm going to ask you.
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  SPEAKER_01: But here's what I would want you to know.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want you to think about these.
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  SPEAKER_01: So feel free to pause here and just jot down a few words, or just like I said, quietly sit there and think.
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  SPEAKER_01: My first question to you is where do you feel disconnected right now?
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  SPEAKER_01: Is it in your body?
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  SPEAKER_01: Is it your energy?
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  SPEAKER_01: Is it your lack of purpose or your sense of fun?
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  SPEAKER_01: Where do you feel disconnected?
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  SPEAKER_01: Keep that in the back of your mind right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then what I want you to do is to ask yourself, what story am I telling myself about that?
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  SPEAKER_01: What is it?
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  SPEAKER_01: Are you saying to yourself that I'm too old or it's too late, or I don't have enough money, or I lost my spark, or I don't even deserve to feel strong again?
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  SPEAKER_01: So what story are you telling yourself?
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  SPEAKER_01: Very important to make sure that you catch that story.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes they're very little stories, but they kind of linger around and bounce back and forth in your brain.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you want to make sure you grab that story.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then the last question I have for you today is what small win can I create, even if it's just in the next 30 seconds or the next minute or the next hour?
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  SPEAKER_01: What's one small thing I can do that I can create?
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  SPEAKER_01: Even it's just sipping water before any other habit starts.
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  SPEAKER_01: This does matter.
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  SPEAKER_01: Your small wins matter.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because these are these three questions here I have for you are basically entrance questions.
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  SPEAKER_01: They're not test questions, they're just invitations for you to think about.
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  SPEAKER_01: So let's move on.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's start where you are.
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  SPEAKER_01: So here's the truth.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to catch up.
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  SPEAKER_01: Catching up replies that you've fallen behind and you haven't fallen behind.
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  SPEAKER_01: Instead, what we need to do is just wake up.
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  SPEAKER_01: Wake up to your strength, your values, your life right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: Allow yourself four practical and soul-nourishing resets.
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  SPEAKER_01: Again, make one small decision right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: Drink a glass of water.
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  SPEAKER_01: It could be standing up and stretching, which I'm gonna do right now, or open your journal.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't need to do 10 actions, just one, because motivation often comes after the action, not before.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you see the power of that one small decision right now?
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  SPEAKER_01: It's what's going to create an action.
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  SPEAKER_01: And motivation comes after the action.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: Second thing I want you to do is to anchor into here and now.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want you to write one thing you're grateful for.
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  SPEAKER_01: Put it on a sticky note or think it, you know, whatever it may be.
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  SPEAKER_01: Just one thing that you're thankful, you're thankful for, you're grateful for.
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  SPEAKER_01: And now I want you to be strong.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want you to say it out loud.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, even if it feels silly, what is it?
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  SPEAKER_01: And then I want you to pick one thing that you're gonna fully show up for today.
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  SPEAKER_01: It could just be making lunch.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm going to sit there as I make my salad and be totally fully present.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm not gonna worry about the past, not gonna worry about the future.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm going to focus on now, the present time.
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  SPEAKER_01: Could be something like finishing a text or even just breathing through a moment.
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  SPEAKER_01: Be fully present.
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  SPEAKER_01: There's no shame, just presence.
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  SPEAKER_01: Then what I want you to try to do to get into your reset is to try to grow this into a five-minute ritual.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I want you to cue yourself and then I want an action and then choose a reward.
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  SPEAKER_01: For example, right now you can whisper to yourself, I am going to reset myself right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: How can I do that?
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, the action is well, let's see, right now I'm a little stressed, so I am going to do my box breathing, or I'm gonna read, I'm gonna write in my journal today.
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  SPEAKER_01: So today I choose to do blank.
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  SPEAKER_01: You fill in the blank.
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  SPEAKER_01: What action are you going to choose today?
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  SPEAKER_01: Remember, you're gonna cue yourself, you're gonna create an action, and then you're gonna give yourself a reward.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, a reward could be something doesn't have to be big.
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  SPEAKER_01: It could be savor a warm drink of tea, or step outside to breathe some fresh air, or just send a caring text to somebody because your brain loves patterns.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this pattern, what is it telling our brains?
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  SPEAKER_01: It's saying, well, guess what?
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  SPEAKER_01: We're starting now.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then I want you to remember that you are not alone.
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  SPEAKER_01: Reconnect gently to people.
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  SPEAKER_01: We don't heal in isolation.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's something that I had to do recently is just I had to realize that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, there are times where you can sit with your thoughts and you're grieving or your negative thoughts or whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_01: But in time, you need to connect with others.
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  SPEAKER_01: Connection does matter.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's why even like something like a 30-second text can be powerful.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can say something like, guess what?
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm feeling better today, I'm having a good day, or I'm starting over again.
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  SPEAKER_01: Do you want to join me in a walk?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or, you know, even put a two-minute voice note on, um, or a quick check-in call with someone who loves you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And guess what?
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  SPEAKER_01: If no one answers, you're still choosing the connection with yourself, with possibility.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's what matters.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then we want to keep that momentum going.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's keep it practical.
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  SPEAKER_01: So even tomorrow, start with one little tiny goal.
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  SPEAKER_01: It could be a little micro goal, whatever it may be.
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  SPEAKER_01: Start with one little goal that's going to move you forward tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_01: You if you need to create a reminder, create a reminder.
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  SPEAKER_01: Stick a sticky note on your mirror, or set an alarm that says reset today.
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  SPEAKER_01: Today you're rebuilding your life again.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or track, you know, track your changes.
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  SPEAKER_01: By the end of the day, I don't want you to judge what did or didn't happen.
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  SPEAKER_01: At the end of the day, y'all want you to say what went well, what got in the way.
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  SPEAKER_01: There is no criticism in this.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is just kind of intel for your next step.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because remember, growth comes from feedback, not from failure.
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  SPEAKER_01: So keep this in mind.
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  SPEAKER_01: Your momentum isn't coming.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's already here.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to start over.
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  SPEAKER_01: You just need to start now.
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  SPEAKER_01: Tiny decisions, grounded rituals, quiet reconnection.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is your reset.
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  SPEAKER_01: And every reset builds strength, it builds clarity, and it builds presence.
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  SPEAKER_01: All worthy of you.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if this resonates, I'd love you to share it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Send us, send someone a voice memo saying this week, you know, I'm resetting today.
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  SPEAKER_01: You want to go for a walk with me?
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  SPEAKER_01: That's real.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's a brave step.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's what reset's all about.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, we're more than older.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're actually emerging.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're more courageous.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're more connected and more us than ever.
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  SPEAKER_01: So thanks for walking this reset journey with me today.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know I needed it, and I hope you did as well.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if you found even a spark of possibility, leave a review or share it with someone who might need a reset too.
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  SPEAKER_01: And stay tuned because next week we're going we're diving deeper into a different subject.
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  SPEAKER_01: So until then, you've got this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Reset on.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a whole new beginning.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is your time to own your hour.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rewrite the rules.
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  SPEAKER_00: And show up unapologetically.