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194. Quick Fix Culture · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: I can tell you my life is imperfect, but most
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  Speaker 1: days you'll find me close to cloud nine, and not
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  Speaker 1: because I got good news the night before or I'm
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  Speaker 1: sitting on a pile of money from an inheritance or
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  Speaker 1: anything of that nature. I simply look for reasons to
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  Speaker 1: be grateful in my life. I know that everything isn't
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  Speaker 1: gonna be perfect, but I recognize that every walk of life,
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  Speaker 1: every person, every place, everything that we do has a purpose.
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  Speaker 1: It's serving a purpose, it's serving a space in our
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  Speaker 1: lives that we may not have entered. It may be
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  Speaker 1: serving a place in your life that you're gonna help
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  Speaker 1: somebody heal from. And for me, that gives me great
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  Speaker 1: peace to know that even though this situation doesn't fit
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  Speaker 1: where I want to go on what I want to do,
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  Speaker 1: it will help someone one day. And that line of thinking,
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  Speaker 1: that approach to life, to walking in to situations and
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  Speaker 1: walking out of it, has helped me to remain in
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  Speaker 1: a peaceful state even when literally things around me may
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  Speaker 1: be falling apart or people might be falling apart, because
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  Speaker 1: oftentimes we're mimicking the things that we see and we're
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  Speaker 1: matching the energies that are coming our way. And I
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  Speaker 1: encourage you right now to get centered. I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what that means for you. For me, it might mean
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  Speaker 1: walking outside in nature. It might mean reading a book,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like turning pages. It may mean having a conversation,
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  Speaker 1: a delightful conversation, a grown conversation, a conversation that uplips
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  Speaker 1: my spirits and helps me to uplift the person in
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  Speaker 1: front of me, the person I'm talking to. It may
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  Speaker 1: be reaching out to tell somebody thank you. Oftentimes we
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  Speaker 1: miss the opportunity to do that. There are many ways
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  Speaker 1: to bring you back to center, to make you recognize
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  Speaker 1: and realize that you're living a full life. You are
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  Speaker 1: on this side of the earth. There's so many people,
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  Speaker 1: so many dreams. I know I heard this years ago
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  Speaker 1: and you may have heard this too, But many dreams
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  Speaker 1: of this life are buried with the people that left us.
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  Speaker 1: They didn't get a chance to fulfill it. They didn't
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  Speaker 1: get a chance to walk in that moment. They didn't
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  Speaker 1: get a chance to say I love you or thank
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  Speaker 1: you or whatever it was. All those ideas, those opportunities,
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  Speaker 1: significant moments, buried forever. Today, you have the opportunity to
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  Speaker 1: say I love you, to try something new. Make your
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  Speaker 1: moments count. Count the moments that you've made. You've done
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  Speaker 1: so much, and I know it doesn't look like what
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  Speaker 1: the world says it should. I know it doesn't look
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  Speaker 1: like what your neighbor has or your friend has. But
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  Speaker 1: it's your story. That's what makes you so unique. Don't
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  Speaker 1: trade your uniqueness, what you bring to this life, what
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  Speaker 1: you bring to your family, what you bring to your community.
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  Speaker 1: Don't trade that in to be something you're not. Embrace
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  Speaker 1: your identity, be in the present, and be grateful. Gratitude
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  Speaker 1: has been the best life hack in every walk and
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  Speaker 1: every season of my life. It opens your perspective, It
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  Speaker 1: changes the way you think and feel and how you
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  Speaker 1: show up. Hello, my friends from all across the globe
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  Speaker 1: and welcome to the Your and Rettel Podcast. I am
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  Speaker 1: and empowerment and all that means is I want you
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  Speaker 1: to show up as the best version of yourself. So
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  Speaker 1: you will do in this life starts with your thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: It starts in the mind and as you water that
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  Speaker 1: and as you maintain that and manage that, you are
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  Speaker 1: building the framework of the life you're going to live.
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  Speaker 1: Thoughts create worlds, they create things, and I want to
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  Speaker 1: make sure your thoughts align with where you want to
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  Speaker 1: go and what you want to do. And so that's
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  Speaker 1: what we do here each and every week so that
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  Speaker 1: you can become more of your enriched self. Now, if
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  Speaker 1: podcasting for now one hundred and ninety four episodes. We've
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  Speaker 1: So I encourage you to share this podcast as you
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  Speaker 1: started each and every week. One of the things that
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  Speaker 1: and I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are
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  Speaker 1: a great way to start your day and to command
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  Speaker 1: your mourning. And this week's affirmation is I am so
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  Speaker 1: grateful to be alive. I am so grateful to be alive.
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  Speaker 1: I am so grateful to be alive. Now, let's get
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  Speaker 1: ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast.
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  Speaker 1: So I recently heard some news that WeightWatchers, an American
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  Speaker 1: company that we've all known to be in the weight
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  Speaker 1: loss community space, has filed for bankruptcy. I'm not sure
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  Speaker 1: if you're aware of that or not, but it surprised
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  Speaker 1: me to hear it. But when I started to think
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  Speaker 1: about what I've seen in culture, what I've heard over
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  Speaker 1: the last couple of years, is that there's been so
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  Speaker 1: much attention towards these weight loss drugs. A lot of
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  Speaker 1: people have opted to go down that path for a
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  Speaker 1: weight loss fix. And so that makes me think about
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  Speaker 1: our obsession with shortcuts, and our resistance to do the
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  Speaker 1: hard work, and our averseness to do and watch the
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  Speaker 1: slow work of change. Because change doesn't come overnight, but
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  Speaker 1: for a lot of those weight loss drugs, it almost
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  Speaker 1: did for some people. And so I want to take
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  Speaker 1: a look at that from a perspective of how we
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  Speaker 1: live our lives. We live in a quick, fixed culture.
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  Speaker 1: It wants us to avoid the discomfort and the patience
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  Speaker 1: that it takes to be in that the process, as
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  Speaker 1: I mentioned, we want to go from one hundred to zero,
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  Speaker 1: and the long term planning that it takes. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: when you think about weight Watchers and I've done it,
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  Speaker 1: I will say I've done it because I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: maintain and use the tools that they had to understand
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  Speaker 1: how I was spending my caloric budget, if you will,
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  Speaker 1: and they have some really neat ways of helping you
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  Speaker 1: understand what you needed. And I did lose weight on
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  Speaker 1: when I did the weight loss through weight Watchers. So
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  Speaker 1: I think there is a process to that that requires
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  Speaker 1: some long term planning that a lot of people don't
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  Speaker 1: want to participate in true transformation. When you think about
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  Speaker 1: your journey on places in your life where you've transformed,
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  Speaker 1: it does require you to watch, watch for your trends,
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  Speaker 1: watch for your opportunities. It does require you to wait,
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  Speaker 1: wait for the outcome, right, That outcome doesn't come immediately,
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  Speaker 1: It does take some time, and it does require you
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  Speaker 1: to work. You have to you have to work. Working
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  Speaker 1: is going to help you prepare for getting there and
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  Speaker 1: then after you get there. And I think that's the
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  Speaker 1: thing that we're not getting with these quick fixes, and
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  Speaker 1: so I want to talk about the fact that we
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  Speaker 1: shouldn't just want to chase the outcomes. I think we've
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  Speaker 1: lost respect for the process. I think that's what it is.
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  Speaker 1: We've lost respect for the prosum. We've lost respect for
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  Speaker 1: the discipline and the habits and the emotional resilience that
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  Speaker 1: you build when you're going through the trenches of whatever
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  Speaker 1: you're going through. It may not be weight loss. It
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  Speaker 1: might be a financial budget that you have to put
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  Speaker 1: yourself on so that you can get to a bigger picture.
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  Speaker 1: And it's not necessarily getting to that bigger picture. It's
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  Speaker 1: understanding there's a process involved in this. There's some work
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  Speaker 1: that has to be done. When we skip the process
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  Speaker 1: and we jump into getting injected, going for the quick fad,
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  Speaker 1: getting the shortcuts, what happens when we stop taking those
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  Speaker 1: pills or those shots or whatever the current big way
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  Speaker 1: or new way to do something. What happens after we're
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  Speaker 1: not prepared for what comes next. There's a quote that
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  Speaker 1: I think fits really well here, arrival without the journey
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  Speaker 1: leads to confusion. I'm going to repeat that, a rival
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  Speaker 1: without the journey leads to confusion, not confidence. And this
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  Speaker 1: is all about building ourselves from the inside out. When
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  Speaker 1: you think about what the weight loss or whatever it
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  Speaker 1: is that you're doing, it helps you build yourself from
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  Speaker 1: the inside out, as opposed to doing all the outside
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  Speaker 1: work and you're still emotionally weak and unprepared on the inside.
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  Speaker 1: And so I want you to think about an area
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  Speaker 1: in your life where you want the result more than
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  Speaker 1: you want the work. And I know that's hard because
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  Speaker 1: we all have areas where we want the result now
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  Speaker 1: and we might think about the work, and let's be honest,
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  Speaker 1: we won't think about the work. And so batteries not included. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: there's work included in this effort. The other thing I'll
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  Speaker 1: say is that when you think about all of the
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  Speaker 1: weight loss drugs and the injectibles and all the things
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  Speaker 1: that are happening right now in that space. It's popular now,
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  Speaker 1: but has it been proven. I was having a conversation
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  Speaker 1: with a coworker and she told me that her husband
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  Speaker 1: has recently started taking one of these injectibles. I know
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  Speaker 1: that's probably not the right name for it, but he
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  Speaker 1: started taking it. And one of the things that she
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  Speaker 1: had questions about when they were talking about it is
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  Speaker 1: what happens, what is it targeting, and what happens at
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  Speaker 1: the end of the journey of injections. What's the end state,
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  Speaker 1: what's the end goal? What does it look like look
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  Speaker 1: like to walk away from it? And he didn't have
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  Speaker 1: the answer because he didn't probe well with his doctor.
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  Speaker 1: But the doctor wasn't really providing a directive on that
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  Speaker 1: specific topic. And there's still a lot of research being
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  Speaker 1: done on what this is doing to people. My understanding
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  Speaker 1: is that most people who are on this need to
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  Speaker 1: continue being on it for kind of an indefinite period. Now,
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  Speaker 1: this was originally a lot of these weight loss drugs
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  Speaker 1: that we know to be quick fixes, so to speak,
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  Speaker 1: were designed or you know, they were created for a
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  Speaker 1: different type of health situation, but of course has been
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  Speaker 1: utilized for this purpose. And it feels like it was
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  Speaker 1: so trendy and everybody started doing it, not because they
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  Speaker 1: felt safe about it or they had confidence in it.
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  Speaker 1: They just started doing it because everybody else was doing it.
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  Speaker 1: And we're getting to a point now that we don't
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  Speaker 1: know what's proven with this stuff. We don't know the
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  Speaker 1: outcome of this stuff. What will it look like in
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  Speaker 1: five ten years. We don't know. And that becomes d
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  Speaker 1: when we do these types of things in our lives
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  Speaker 1: and we don't know that it's been proven because we
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  Speaker 1: skipped the process. We don't have a reference point to
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  Speaker 1: go back to. We're going from zero to one hundred
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  Speaker 1: very very quickly, in record time, and so the journey
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  Speaker 1: can be shortened by weeks for some people when they
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  Speaker 1: start seeing this. And so when you go from years
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  Speaker 1: of a certain process or a certain look and feel
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  Speaker 1: and you shrink that down to changing that over a
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  Speaker 1: period of weeks, your mindset hasn't shifted yet. You haven't
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  Speaker 1: come into alignment with who you are now in this
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  Speaker 1: new body, in this new space, and that is something
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  Speaker 1: that you need to think about. I want you to
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  Speaker 1: think about your goals and ask yourself this question, is this,
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  Speaker 1: whatever your goal is, is a bill to last or
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  Speaker 1: is it built for likes? And we live in a
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  Speaker 1: very social world, that's a very real question. To ask
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  Speaker 1: yourself about what you're doing something for, because if you're
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  Speaker 1: doing it to last, you're gonna be doing it consistently.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna be doing it often, and you're not gonna
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  Speaker 1: be doing it looking over your shoulder for what others
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  Speaker 1: think about it, or the likes, the hearts, the whatever
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna be doing it to ensure that it lasts
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  Speaker 1: is going to stand the test of time. It's not
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  Speaker 1: going to be a fad. It's not gonna be what
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  Speaker 1: people want to see now. It's gonna be what makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: It's gonna be what works. The last thing I'll say
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  Speaker 1: is when we are on our journey of life and
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  Speaker 1: we're doing our thing and we are planning our life,
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  Speaker 1: there are moments where we are on a trajectory and
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  Speaker 1: things are going up, and sometimes we have down moments
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  Speaker 1: where we're down in the vau. But there's sometimes we
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  Speaker 1: simply are plateaued. And I want you to plan for
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  Speaker 1: the plateau because I know I mentioned these injections, like
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  Speaker 1: what happens after the injection when everything dies down, when
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  Speaker 1: we stop talking about this next the next best thing
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  Speaker 1: is gonna come up. You know how this goes? These
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  Speaker 1: things don't last forever, so what does it look like
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  Speaker 1: to come down? Right? They're gonna be quick wins in life,
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  Speaker 1: but we need things that are gonna be sustainable. We
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  Speaker 1: need things like relationships that's sustainable. We need to work
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  Speaker 1: on the relationships and not just with other people, your
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  Speaker 1: relationship with yourself. Here's what I want you to think about.
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  Speaker 1: When you are building a house. There is a plan
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  Speaker 1: for how the structure will go up. You're not gonna
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  Speaker 1: put door up until you have a frame, and you're
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  Speaker 1: not going to put a frame up until you have
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  Speaker 1: a foundation. And when you get that foundation, you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: understand a blueprint of where things are laid out, so
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  Speaker 1: you can understand what rooms. You're not going to build
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  Speaker 1: a kitchen without plumbing. You're not going to build a
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  Speaker 1: home without an electric system. There are things that need
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  Speaker 1: to happen. Your strategy has to be sound before you
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  Speaker 1: start going after the big trendy now thing. And I
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  Speaker 1: think a lot of times we forget the elements of
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  Speaker 1: building that house. And that house may represent many things
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  Speaker 1: for many people, but there are elements to it. There's
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  Speaker 1: a process to it, and when you shop around for contractors,
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  Speaker 1: you might learn that there's a contractor that's sounds you
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  Speaker 1: got to do in the record time. Well, what does
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  Speaker 1: that mean? What part of the process is in compromise?
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  Speaker 1: And I think a lot of times, a lot of
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  Speaker 1: our process is incompromise because we're not willing to take
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  Speaker 1: the step. We're not willing to watch. There's something so
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  Speaker 1: pure about watching a house that you curated get built.
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  Speaker 1: And I had that joy in this life to build
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  Speaker 1: a house from the ground up. There was that watching
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  Speaker 1: period where we would go look at the property and
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  Speaker 1: we would see where things were at the time. On
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  Speaker 1: that journey of the build, of course, there's a waiting
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  Speaker 1: period where you're in that uncomfortable space. We had to
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  Speaker 1: be in a cram department while we waited for our
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  Speaker 1: house to be built. And then finally we saw the
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  Speaker 1: people working on it. We started getting the phone calls
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  Speaker 1: from the realtor and the contractors and all the people
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  Speaker 1: to understand where things were and what they were working
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  Speaker 1: on and what was coming next. The frame went up
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  Speaker 1: and this is going up. That's what it's all about.
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  Speaker 1: But we've lost that. We've lost that because we want
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  Speaker 1: to no longer be in the weight of watching. I
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  Speaker 1: think we need weight wisdom. We focused on the weight
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  Speaker 1: loss and so many didn't even achieve it. We need
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  Speaker 1: wisdom from this, and I'm gonna encourage you to start
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  Speaker 1: watching again. See weight Watchers was all about watching the process,
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  Speaker 1: the progress. When we quit watching the weight, we quit
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  Speaker 1: watching period. So what I need you to do is
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  Speaker 1: watch your choices, watch your patterns, watch your intentions. Don't
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  Speaker 1: just watch for the weight, watch for the scale, watch
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  Speaker 1: for the number to refocus and get back in your game.